@CaptainNensho haha faggot? was that supposed to offend me? lol first off i'm straight, second of all your commenting on a video "you are a massive faggot!!!" wow real offensive, and thirdly i said you were a homophobe, you said "and" and i said "that's it", what could you possibly misunderstand? unless you're like retarded, or something :)
So basically I can understand how he felt, but please treat the girl well too. She is a human being with feelings as well, not just someone you can use. I spent 2 and a half years loving a guy who never had any intention of staying with me, even if he did care about me. He lied to me and used me. And that does suck.
Please, if you are going to do this, be kind. Do not lead a girl on for years because it's convenient. Do not break her heart. And it would be nice if you would apologize someday.
Of course I have forgiven him and I understand how horrible it must have been for him to deny who he is. I am glad he can now be honest and open and not have to hide it.
This guy was not just my boyfriend, he was my best friend. I think he loved me too, even if it wasn't in that way, but as a dear friend. I don't regret the relationship because we learned a lot from each other and brought out the best in one another. We were good for one another in that way.
This is pretty personal, but I think I need to speak out about the other side of it. I dated a guy for over 2 and a half years in high school and loved him very much. We broke up after graduation, and he eventually revealed to me he is gay. I do think he knew, and used me as a cover because I never tried too hard to take things to the "next level". I do think it was unfair to me and sometimes I feel very hurt by what he did and how he couldn't jus be honest with me.
Isn't that kind of mean to the girls? I guess if you never get serious its not a big deal, but I wouldn't want to fall in love with a gay man! This is coming from a mostly straight girl, BTW.
I think it's really unkind to purposely lead someone on as a cover. I mean, to invest your time and emotions into something you think is real, only to find out the other person is completely faking. I would be devastated.
Hi its me again, I am a older Bi women and when you say its OK to fake you liking girls, I have a hard time unless you let them know what you want them for it is wrong and hurtful/
I had a girlfriend, but I actually thought I was bi at the time. As the relationship went on, things didn't feel right, and then I realized I was just gay. I felt terrible, because even though I wasn't in love with her, I did love her, she was a really good friend, and I love my friends more than anything. The idea that I'd have to hurt her to come out was terrifying. It took me a month to get up the courage. This was recently, and she and I are working our way back to being good friends again.
my dad married a woman and later divorced and married a man... Im glad waited to come out and had me so I could be as gay as a rainbow... If I had a pill to change my sexuality I wouldnt do it at all. If there was a pill to become straight would you take it?
Do you know that many straight men don't enjoy the va-jay-jay as well when the va-jay-jay make them feel small? It's all about feeling big and powerful with the male ego. 99% of males are like that. Being gay doesn't make any difference.
You know, I get that it works out really well for you, but to ADVOCATE lying to girls like that, manipulating them to protect you, that is not ok. That is treating other human beings like DIRT.
I admit, I had a boyfriend before I came out a lesbian. At the time, I was really confused by my feelings--I was reallllly slow in figuring out I was gay. Nothing can ever fix what it did to him when he found out I was gay. To advocate doing that to other people for CONVENIENCE is just low.
I dont know what its like to be gay, but i always wondered, what makes you not want to like be intimate with a girl? because all the guys i've ever been with have been like complete and utter sex freaks and have wanted nothing more than to just fuck me....I never did, but i just couldnt picture a guy not wanting to get freaky with a girl lol
or' not, if you watch it from a biological point of view
now, in that case, we talk about feromones
ever heard of those ?
well that is shit from other people(and youreself) and youre nose can pick them up, and if it picks them up, then it can be that the brain react on it on such a way that it will say: i want love from the one that spreads them
female feromones are liked by men, and male feromones are liked by girls
@RAR6063 by people who are gay or lesbian, they dont react on feromones spread by people on the same sex, becuase the brain is not build for it
how ever the brain can change over time, also in that way,(gay people who become straight and vice versa
there are not realy 2 extreme things
there are bisexuals and they can be more atrackted to the one sex instead of the other, gay people who can be pureley sexual atrackted to the oposite gender and vise versa
@RAR6063 for the rest i think there are also just psychological factors that dont have much to do with pheromones
like pansexual people, they dont even care if the ones they love are transgender
i honestly woud probably care though, but thats my personality(not a choise of course)
now, iam gay though, but i must admit i sometimes have a couple of seconds, or in the extreme a couple of minutes i can think about a girl"my god she is hot, i want here pussy"
@RAR6063 its nice wxhen people finaly understand eachother isnt it ?
if that happened everywhere no single powerful psychopath woud find anny reason annymore for war and the normal powerful idiots in this world woudnt have anny reason annymore
Seriously? Its ok? Its not okay! Life is too short, and why must u be ashamed of who u are! Embrace it! if you are not proud of who u r, then how can u demand people to respect you for who u are?!
we do live in a discriminatory society, but we as gay individuals must stand proud. Its the only way to create awareness. I think we need another equality movement, but that is only possible if all the closeted gay ppl decide to conjunctively make a stand to stay truthful for who they r
I also have to disagree with having a "cover girlfriend". I wouldn't want anyone to date me for any reason than wanting to date me. It can lead to hurt feelings and nobody wants to be left disenchanted. I know that it's hard being in the closet, but there are other ways to face the trials and tribulations of coming into one's sexuality without having to unnecessarily involve someone for whom you have no true feelings. No matter the circumstances.
Ugh! I hated that "cover girlfriend" phase but it wasn't to trick others... it was to trick myself. She became pushy, trying to push us up another level and another level. she broke up with me for another guy, and that's when I decided I couldn't run anymore and came out to her and my best friend, who both supported me more than I can thank them for... but I disagree, don't have a cover girlfriend, it leaves emotional pain not only for her, but for yourself... My bf is helping me recover now....
my butt mays be sore but im ready for more..BIG THROBBING VIENEY POLE RIGHT NOW.......OOOHHHH......EEEEE!!!!!......hahahahahah!!!!! I LUV TO GETS IT!!!
you think it's a great idea to have a cover girlfriend?! as if the girl doesn't have emotions, just like you do? i dont agree with you on that. i think you should, like foxyladi23 said, at least fake a girlfriend on myspace but not a real person with real feelings and a real heart.
I think the problem with kids coming out younger. 13-15 - adults don't take them seriously. YOU knew you were gay at 14-15, but you wouldn't be taken nearly as serious. Then you'd just be 'confused'
I'd suggest if you want a fake girlfriend go and find a lesbian who is also in the closet. You can pretend to be straight together! Plus there's no sexual expectations!
@ChloroPride at least this way youre not leading the girl on, although why not just be single? People pretty much figure it out either way and if you have the balls to stand up and be yourself (like i did inn 1992 at 15) not everyone will like it, but at least u can respect urself,andothers will respect U for it 2.And just learn how to box or do karate,lol.Really though is this still an issue in 2010?
you are such a honey, its a loss for women all around the world that you are hunting on the same side of the fence as we are, smile :) I am honestly glad you are happy and content with your life. my aunty stayed in the closet all of her 65 plus years. One needs to be at peace with themselves, love themselves for who they are:)
@alwayslaughing60 Most people by now believe there's no "becoming" gay. It's simply an attraction that is intrinsic at birth. Automatic. Already ready already.
I know, in the Philippines, which I am from, gay people are more accepted than in the U.S. in terms of "coming out." It's a part of our culture I guess. Gays in the philippines usually get discriminated in the face or bullied, which I got used to after I came out, whereas gays in the U.S. get discriminated behind their backs:(
I remember the days when I was pretending to be straight. I gotta tell ya the feeling was gross! I mean the part where you try to act masculine and all made me feel so h
I've had cover girlfriend's before, but not for intentional smoke screens and of all the girls I've dated, I regret having to toy with their hearts during my moment of sexual confusion.
You said it was a great idea. If a gay guy is genuinely curious about what it would be like going out with a girl and wants to experiment, ok. But would it really be such a great idea if you have to wake up every morning, knowing you're lying to this girl?
Where in America do you live that its "not okay to come out"? I live in America and am out and proud! In today's society I think that its easier to come out and be openly gay then it ever was before!
I came out when I was 13. I don't understand how most people wait so long before they do. I never had a girlfriend, because they didn't liked me. It wasn't until after I came out that girls started to find me attractive, which I find very ironic. Though I am pretty sure it was because I had gained confidence in myself after discovering my sexuality. If I hadn't of came out back then I really doubt I would of had a cover girl, because I can't stand lying to people I care about.
"Cover girlfriends" are more difficult to deal with as a bisexual boy or man. That's because there is a real attraction, but there is also the other gender attraction always lurking along-side that ... at exactly the same time. Have sex with one, and then want sex with the other ... like bouncing back and forth. Satisfy one and need the other and so on. Bisexuality is a rocky road at best!
In this video, i like your hair its adorable. :) from my opinion and experiences, people shouldn't care what kind of person your into and im just glad you came out of the closet. and i think that using a cove occasionally was smart and it kind of helped you realize more what you liked and wanted. I love your vids btw there awesome :)
im already out and im 13, the only problem for coming out this early is: its sorta pointless. you cant really get a bf yet T_T!... unless your lucky. However, not lying to yourself is the best option in my eyes.
today is the first time i have ever seen any of your videos and i am 17 and i have a "cover GF" that i have been going out with for 3 month how do i still make it so gay guys know im gay and not other people because really i want to be with a guy... thanks and your videos are pretty cool :)
Your hair is really cute like that. I feel really bad about the girls who's hearts I broke on my way to coming out. Glad to some one else feels the same.
3rd my 17 year old brother is super homophoic and i want to tell him but idk if i should and what to do help me please (my parents know that im gay and i love them xD)
Its not awkward... I never had sex with a girl so cant tell weather or not that counts as awkward or not but I did get into college with the last GF I had like 3-4 years after we broke up and we clicked immediately... wasn't that awkward =P
"we" broke up after around 9 months while nearing the "taking the virginity stage" =P
I couldn't... not to me and not to her... thank god... cos I think it could have been awkward if we did have sex back then and being classmates l8er
I get the feeling of needing a cover, so no one would suspect anything about you being gay. And maybe if you were still struggling to figure out or denying your sexuality (not that that's a beneficial thing), a cover girlfriend would be understandable. But I just think that if you have no question in your own mind about your sexuality, it's very unfair and dishonest and hurtful to use a girl like that.
So then what to do if you need a cover? I don't know, but I'd still rather not hurt someone
I think you are cutey. But I am sorry I don't think that it is okay to have a cover girl friend. It is mean and cruel. Hell lie and say you have a myspace girlfriend but don't lead someone on and hurt them.
@foxyladi23 I dont see it as a big deal, i mean its high school id guess 90% of highschool relationships never last and only less than 50% even go a full year. now if a relationship with a girl got serious then it would be bad.
@13RuffRyder Thats is your opinion. But you aren't that girl that may liked a guy that just USED her. U don't know how it will affect her. I'm sorry but it is selfish. The girl also has to carry the stigma that she "turned" a guy gay. And yes I have heard that term being used. So does the boy have to come out at 14? No, he doesn't. But that doesn't mean that it is okay to use another human being for your own personal gains.
@foxyladi23 its not my opinion my friend was 14 when he came out and was beat up more than a few times and he was constantly picked on, he finally moved and transferred schools. as far as the girl thing goes i never sed i thought it was ok to do that in the first place i just sed that they would move on eventually..
@13RuffRyder I'm sorry about what happened to your friend. But at the same time that isn't everyone's story. He chose to come out at 14. That was his decision. No one has the right to put there hands on another person but people do it all the time. So if you can say the girl will get over it so will your friend...it sounds fucked up doesn't it? There is no empthay. Wrong is wrong. Doesn't matter who does it or why. You can't put down someone else's pain because its convenient.
@foxyladi23 It's ok for us to have a 'cover' girl if she know it. Hell, don't most girls love gay dudes, anyway? Honesty is the best policy. Some one's gotta show us gay boys wht the va-jay-jay is all about.
@medaphsyco oh, for sure, like John I also had few girlfriends (the even more confusing thing is that I even got hard once) ha. But yes, once I tried with a guy - the difference was astonishing.....it felt all stronger and nicer. And this is how the confusion died.
@TU154 well sexuality isnt always black and white that one time you got hard probably meant you were slightly straight but you are probably still mostly gay. you see what I mean?
I'm 17 and have been forever single so that always made people think I guess... no cover and I never really tried, always said I was focusing on school xD
I came out at 16, and it's been pretty rough. Mostly because my family is very Christian-fundamentalist. So, you can only imagine how that went over. :-/
I hope I didn't understand this very well. Have you said that it is a GOOD idea to have cover girlfriends? I'm sorry but that's such a selfish and self centered thing to say! You are encouraging people to use other people! If the girl/boy knows what's going on then I think it's perfectly right to do it, but using people otherwise is always, ALWAYS, wrong.
I think your videos are great, but why in the world did you title this particular one this way? You're basically saying to everyone on youtube that you secretly DO like vaginas, when the content of your videos says the opposite. The other titles of your videos make sense, but this one is a serious head scratcher.
I like Erika Badu too! I tried to date girls constantly...but could never bring myself to actually ask them out because I felt bad for them and stupid because I knew it was pointless. I just settlted for being able to talk about girls with my guy friends...that was/is pretty much the extent of my cover up.
i have to disagree. i dont think it's right to use a girl like that. I'm a straight girl & if a secretly gay dude ever did that to me, I'd kick his ass.
I agree, it's just messed up, and it's not fair to the girl. But I have a (gay) friend who has this "arrangement" with another friend of ours, where he and she pretend to be dating. That works much better.
i came out at 14 and it was so worth it. i would have missed so much of my high school life if i hadent. was able to enjoy my first boyfriend in school. but i think that life isnt ment to be spent in a closet ull miss so much.
One of the worst days I've ever had was a the night I came out to a girl I had used as a cover. Sarah and I were really close for about a year, and got super close over the summer (even though she was sleeping with other guys who I wanted to sleep with too) and we pretty much dated and everyone of our friends thought we were banging. But I got drunk on Crown during spring break and begged one of my best guy friends to stay the night with me and like 2 min after he left my house she called me and
and asked if I ever liked her and I said "Sarah I'm gay!" and I started crying and say I'm sorry. And she called the straight guy friend that I had just tried to seduce and told him to go back to my house cause she was worried about me and then I got mad that he to found out I was gay so I decided to run away and die. I ended up throwing my phone into a wall and shattered it and climbed a couple fences and it was bad... I was soooo ashamed to be gay and having people know. Worst drunk night ever
it would be so cute if at the time, you found a closet lesbian to form a fake couple with. you could cover for each other and not have to lie to as many peope.
Before I realized I was gay I had tons of girlfriends and little flings with girls, they always took to me so easily and I never had to try hard. Now I realize it was that whole Will & Grace vibe, way more of a friends thing that I assumed was sexual chemistry when it never was (at least on my part). It was always easy and sweet and cute and totally not real passion. It wasn't until I hooked up with a guy for the first time that I was like WOW, I'M AWAKE AND I WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH MEN!
This is the only video of yours so far that I don't agree with. I'm a college student and still in the closet (except for my parents and my best friend); however, I don't think it's a "good idea" to come on to a girl or pretend like I was interested in her or anything because, in my opinion, it's cruel to give someone false hope for a relationship that you know from the get go will never last.I
hi, I live in the UK and I'm still at school in lower 6th form. I cant see that I'll ever be able to tell my parents that I'm gay - even though in England people don't mind like they do in America. I just don't know, I confuse myself with whether I like women or men. And want to be in a real relationship. Q: at what age was your first gay relationship and how did u meet him.
Hi John, This video really spoke to me. I had a cover girl during high school. We dated for a couple months or so, but it didnt last. I think i really did love her & it killed me when she dumped me. its odd I watch this vid today, as i found her via facebook recently. She reminded me that I came out to her a couple years after high school. She was really supportive of me then. Almost 17 years later she is still supportive of me.I guess i'll love her in a way allways for that. cheers Christian
I came out at 17, and was lucky enough to only have one girlfriend that i used as a "cover." While the relationship did end fairly quickly, due to the intimacy issue, I was still amused and surprised to find out a few months later when I DID come out that not only had she been my cover, but I had been hers. She was a lesbian! ;D We still laugh about it 5 years later. The "I'm gay" "That's ok, I am too" "Are you fucking serious??" is still one of the funniest moments of my life.
And by the way, just found your videos today, but I'm totally subscribing. And I love the hair. both ways. ;D Now I'm all inspired to make videos of my own for once.
I never had a girlfriend, thank god! I thought about it at the start of high school - like if I would have to and how I would go about it.But I think another good alternative is taking on a persona. And not necessarily taking on a "persona" just to hide your sexuality, but finding something your passionate or good at and putting your focus and whole self into that. I became the student council guy at my school, other people become athletes like "the swimmer" or whatever.
...It's just channeling your focus into something else if being completely yourself isn't a good option yet. People then identify you as that.
But again, I wouldn't say create a fake persona just because (ie. be someone your not), just be yourself to the max, hiding that one aspect (your sexuality) - I hate saying that! But it's a good alternative I guess. Come out if you can, obviously I'm not advocating being closeted.
first off, LOVE the hair, no joke. second, i couldn't do the whole fake relation thing. i just happened to ask out girls i was attracted to... i don't know if i was fully gay if i would have had a gf.. never thought about it that way.... hmm, regardless, love the vid!! oh, and i came out at 14 since you brought up the young age thing.
I'm glad people are coming out the closet earlier..I mean, my uncle is gay and he was closeted his whole life. Now he's married and he has children. He's basically fucked. I don't see how people can do that to themselves and others =_=
i went out with a few girls and dated one from reshman year till sophmore but nothing really happend wewere just good friends and liked hanging with each other then we decided mutually to end the gf bf title part of or relationship because she was intrested in someone else so i told everyone all the rest of highschool i was to devastated from that break up to try anymore and it covered me through the rest of highschool till later once i was 19 when i came out.
I also dated quite a few girls during High School. I did lots of kissing. It was just like "blah". Also, I HAVE met up with ex girlfriends and have had to tell them that I'm gay. I didn't tell them that they were like a cover. (It just seemed like that would be rude or something lol) A lot of them are still really good friends. The ones who I have told all took it really well and have been supportive, so that's good.
I love how homophobes acclimate themselves to watching homosexual-themed videos all the time. It's kind of sad actually.
chatonrouges 4 months ago 5
you are a massive faggot!!!
CaptainNensho 5 months ago
@CaptainNensho you are a massive homophobe!!!
stix471 4 months ago 4
@stix471 and?
CaptainNensho 4 months ago
@CaptainNensho that's it...
stix471 4 months ago
@stix471 whats it? faggot!!!
CaptainNensho 4 months ago
@CaptainNensho haha faggot? was that supposed to offend me? lol first off i'm straight, second of all your commenting on a video "you are a massive faggot!!!" wow real offensive, and thirdly i said you were a homophobe, you said "and" and i said "that's it", what could you possibly misunderstand? unless you're like retarded, or something :)
stix471 4 months ago
So basically I can understand how he felt, but please treat the girl well too. She is a human being with feelings as well, not just someone you can use. I spent 2 and a half years loving a guy who never had any intention of staying with me, even if he did care about me. He lied to me and used me. And that does suck.
Please, if you are going to do this, be kind. Do not lead a girl on for years because it's convenient. Do not break her heart. And it would be nice if you would apologize someday.
YooShinae 5 months ago
Of course I have forgiven him and I understand how horrible it must have been for him to deny who he is. I am glad he can now be honest and open and not have to hide it.
This guy was not just my boyfriend, he was my best friend. I think he loved me too, even if it wasn't in that way, but as a dear friend. I don't regret the relationship because we learned a lot from each other and brought out the best in one another. We were good for one another in that way.
YooShinae 5 months ago
This is pretty personal, but I think I need to speak out about the other side of it. I dated a guy for over 2 and a half years in high school and loved him very much. We broke up after graduation, and he eventually revealed to me he is gay. I do think he knew, and used me as a cover because I never tried too hard to take things to the "next level". I do think it was unfair to me and sometimes I feel very hurt by what he did and how he couldn't jus be honest with me.
YooShinae 5 months ago
Isn't that kind of mean to the girls? I guess if you never get serious its not a big deal, but I wouldn't want to fall in love with a gay man! This is coming from a mostly straight girl, BTW.
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I think it's really unkind to purposely lead someone on as a cover. I mean, to invest your time and emotions into something you think is real, only to find out the other person is completely faking. I would be devastated.
rhelm100 6 months ago 5
"Cover Girl"
CounterAttackMage 6 months ago
He wears cver girl X-D
CounterAttackMage 6 months ago
: 3 cute hair
dtrez09 7 months ago
Lol I came out at 15, & im 15.
IamElijahDee 7 months ago
Hi its me again, I am a older Bi women and when you say its OK to fake you liking girls, I have a hard time unless you let them know what you want them for it is wrong and hurtful/
halliebell6 8 months ago 4
I'm not gay, but fucking hell... you're definitely inspiring. Haha, how i stumbled upon this I do not know... but glad i did(:
christianherrera1321 8 months ago 10
I had a girlfriend, but I actually thought I was bi at the time. As the relationship went on, things didn't feel right, and then I realized I was just gay. I felt terrible, because even though I wasn't in love with her, I did love her, she was a really good friend, and I love my friends more than anything. The idea that I'd have to hurt her to come out was terrifying. It took me a month to get up the courage. This was recently, and she and I are working our way back to being good friends again.
Tamugetsu 8 months ago
I came out at 13!
Mrcomputergeek81 9 months ago
0:45 You were able to get a girlfriend at 13?? Score!
starwarsguy9 9 months ago
Do you wear make? You have perfect skin. I'd love to know what your kin treatment is.
doughboy6390 9 months ago
you should talk with gdprophetxvii u two are a perfect match!!!
jsag15 10 months ago
my dad married a woman and later divorced and married a man... Im glad waited to come out and had me so I could be as gay as a rainbow... If I had a pill to change my sexuality I wouldnt do it at all. If there was a pill to become straight would you take it?
iamsuperfritz 10 months ago
Do you know that many straight men don't enjoy the va-jay-jay as well when the va-jay-jay make them feel small? It's all about feeling big and powerful with the male ego. 99% of males are like that. Being gay doesn't make any difference.
Eintr3eipied8 10 months ago
You know, I get that it works out really well for you, but to ADVOCATE lying to girls like that, manipulating them to protect you, that is not ok. That is treating other human beings like DIRT.
I admit, I had a boyfriend before I came out a lesbian. At the time, I was really confused by my feelings--I was reallllly slow in figuring out I was gay. Nothing can ever fix what it did to him when he found out I was gay. To advocate doing that to other people for CONVENIENCE is just low.
MajikkaniHand 10 months ago 3
just be male enough and you never will need a cover
i succeed in that one
o yea baby
13thmistral 11 months ago
I dont know what its like to be gay, but i always wondered, what makes you not want to like be intimate with a girl? because all the guys i've ever been with have been like complete and utter sex freaks and have wanted nothing more than to just fuck me....I never did, but i just couldnt picture a guy not wanting to get freaky with a girl lol
RAR6063 11 months ago
@RAR6063 why dont you like girls ?
13thmistral 11 months ago
@13thmistral because a dont?
RAR6063 10 months ago
@RAR6063 see, its realy that simple
or' not, if you watch it from a biological point of view
now, in that case, we talk about feromones
ever heard of those ?
well that is shit from other people(and youreself) and youre nose can pick them up, and if it picks them up, then it can be that the brain react on it on such a way that it will say: i want love from the one that spreads them
female feromones are liked by men, and male feromones are liked by girls
most of the time that is
13thmistral 10 months ago
@RAR6063 by people who are gay or lesbian, they dont react on feromones spread by people on the same sex, becuase the brain is not build for it
how ever the brain can change over time, also in that way,(gay people who become straight and vice versa
there are not realy 2 extreme things
there are bisexuals and they can be more atrackted to the one sex instead of the other, gay people who can be pureley sexual atrackted to the oposite gender and vise versa
13thmistral 10 months ago
@RAR6063 for the rest i think there are also just psychological factors that dont have much to do with pheromones
like pansexual people, they dont even care if the ones they love are transgender
i honestly woud probably care though, but thats my personality(not a choise of course)
now, iam gay though, but i must admit i sometimes have a couple of seconds, or in the extreme a couple of minutes i can think about a girl"my god she is hot, i want here pussy"
13thmistral 10 months ago
@13thmistral so overall what does that mean? lol
RAR6063 10 months ago
@RAR6063 ehm what ?
13thmistral 10 months ago
@13thmistral exactly :)
RAR6063 10 months ago
@RAR6063 are you trolling
nice, an other one
13thmistral 10 months ago
@RAR6063 o you mean end conclusion or not ?
if so, sorry, but sometimes iam a liiiiiitle bit slow
well, the endconclusion is: its because of the brain
13thmistral 10 months ago
@13thmistral ah riiighht ok i see whata you mean now :)
RAR6063 10 months ago
@RAR6063 its nice wxhen people finaly understand eachother isnt it ?
if that happened everywhere no single powerful psychopath woud find anny reason annymore for war and the normal powerful idiots in this world woudnt have anny reason annymore
13thmistral 10 months ago
@13thmistral yes definetly :)
RAR6063 10 months ago
@RAR6063 you got me lol
in anny case, see ya
13thmistral 10 months ago
@RAR6063 but its not long enough to say other people iam bisexual
because thats the only reason to exualy use those therms
people always have the need to put other people in nice devided categories
if they dont, they probably woud get confused and angry and go crazzy and shit
13thmistral 10 months ago
i like ur singing/face/hair lol
nymlovesmusik 11 months ago
Seriously? Its ok? Its not okay! Life is too short, and why must u be ashamed of who u are! Embrace it! if you are not proud of who u r, then how can u demand people to respect you for who u are?!
we do live in a discriminatory society, but we as gay individuals must stand proud. Its the only way to create awareness. I think we need another equality movement, but that is only possible if all the closeted gay ppl decide to conjunctively make a stand to stay truthful for who they r
fantasy89boi 11 months ago
my excuse: girlfriends are to expensive
bushfly 11 months ago
I also have to disagree with having a "cover girlfriend". I wouldn't want anyone to date me for any reason than wanting to date me. It can lead to hurt feelings and nobody wants to be left disenchanted. I know that it's hard being in the closet, but there are other ways to face the trials and tribulations of coming into one's sexuality without having to unnecessarily involve someone for whom you have no true feelings. No matter the circumstances.
indecision1121 1 year ago 3
how can I tell if my parents know im gay?
thefunkymunkys1 1 year ago
@thefunkymunkys1 sadley, its verry simple theoritical speaking
open youre mouth, and say: iam gay
13thmistral 11 months ago
i want to talk to u email me at melecia27@yahoo.co.uk
kerryannwong 1 year ago
Do you still make videos? All i see on here are like from '09?
TheKaveman31 1 year ago
Ugh! I hated that "cover girlfriend" phase but it wasn't to trick others... it was to trick myself. She became pushy, trying to push us up another level and another level. she broke up with me for another guy, and that's when I decided I couldn't run anymore and came out to her and my best friend, who both supported me more than I can thank them for... but I disagree, don't have a cover girlfriend, it leaves emotional pain not only for her, but for yourself... My bf is helping me recover now....
spartandisturbed117 1 year ago
my butt mays be sore but im ready for more..BIG THROBBING VIENEY POLE RIGHT NOW.......OOOHHHH......EEEEE!!!!!......hahahahahah!!!!! I LUV TO GETS IT!!!
mohawks548 1 year ago
can i see u naked
mattunderwood4 1 year ago
you think it's a great idea to have a cover girlfriend?! as if the girl doesn't have emotions, just like you do? i dont agree with you on that. i think you should, like foxyladi23 said, at least fake a girlfriend on myspace but not a real person with real feelings and a real heart.
exsaraoh3 1 year ago
Heartbreaker you go the best of me!
witch26071 1 year ago
I think the problem with kids coming out younger. 13-15 - adults don't take them seriously. YOU knew you were gay at 14-15, but you wouldn't be taken nearly as serious. Then you'd just be 'confused'
ZiggyOtaku 1 year ago
I'd suggest if you want a fake girlfriend go and find a lesbian who is also in the closet. You can pretend to be straight together! Plus there's no sexual expectations!
ChloroPride 1 year ago 30
@ChloroPride at least this way youre not leading the girl on, although why not just be single? People pretty much figure it out either way and if you have the balls to stand up and be yourself (like i did inn 1992 at 15) not everyone will like it, but at least u can respect urself,andothers will respect U for it 2.And just learn how to box or do karate,lol.Really though is this still an issue in 2010?
afboyfw 1 year ago
@ChloroPride OMG if had a lesbian friend I so would've done this. It'd be like living a sitcom.
ThatStereotype18 1 year ago
@ChloroPride its a great idea except if the girls in the closet how will u know if she is lesbo 4 sure?
say what "u like chicks? i dont, wanna date?"
CRAzY101FaIZa 8 months ago
i never dated and i just said i had a girlfriend that was going to another school or things like that. :) most people bought it.
sasukeichigo12 1 year ago 2
Good video.
You know your videos were in the related section of ``Oprah`s Vajayjay`` lol.
justrixx 1 year ago 2
you are such a honey, its a loss for women all around the world that you are hunting on the same side of the fence as we are, smile :) I am honestly glad you are happy and content with your life. my aunty stayed in the closet all of her 65 plus years. One needs to be at peace with themselves, love themselves for who they are:)
traceyacey 1 year ago
I agree with the cover story.
And your a major cutie.
I like you better with your hair down.
PrincePornography 1 year ago
queeeeerrrr
candygirl050792 1 year ago
Wow you are hot, Love the hair ;)
LittleTabba 1 year ago
I'm gonna try to come out in the next year. I'm 16.
Joshjman2 1 year ago
@Joshjman2 good luck buddy, just do it whenever you feel ready. Don't put a date to it.
honduranflame 1 year ago
when did you become gay and did you want to be gay or did it just happen??
alwayslaughing60 1 year ago
@alwayslaughing60 Most people by now believe there's no "becoming" gay. It's simply an attraction that is intrinsic at birth. Automatic. Already ready already.
noprotein 1 year ago
...orrible and gross! But all that ended after I came out at school during my freshmen year and to my parents during my senior year of highschool.
It's funny how I was hiding it from my parents during those years: gay guy at school and straight guy @ home:)
bvlgary09 1 year ago
I know, in the Philippines, which I am from, gay people are more accepted than in the U.S. in terms of "coming out." It's a part of our culture I guess. Gays in the philippines usually get discriminated in the face or bullied, which I got used to after I came out, whereas gays in the U.S. get discriminated behind their backs:(
I remember the days when I was pretending to be straight. I gotta tell ya the feeling was gross! I mean the part where you try to act masculine and all made me feel so h
bvlgary09 1 year ago
I've had cover girlfriend's before, but not for intentional smoke screens and of all the girls I've dated, I regret having to toy with their hearts during my moment of sexual confusion.
LZ11271978 1 year ago
Very "helpful" as in the ex-girlfriends were successfully exploited and at their own expense and your advantage?
LZ11271978 1 year ago
You said it was a great idea. If a gay guy is genuinely curious about what it would be like going out with a girl and wants to experiment, ok. But would it really be such a great idea if you have to wake up every morning, knowing you're lying to this girl?
ivasenko48 1 year ago
Aweee he repented; Your a good boy. Now be fruitful.
stoodOnAnArk 1 year ago
This has been flagged as spam show
u r really hot i just wanna ram my cock in your ass
Mrgyrodude 1 year ago
i came out when i was 13
Mrgyrodude 1 year ago
was your first kiss with a guy or a girl??
reneelove88 1 year ago
Where in America do you live that its "not okay to come out"? I live in America and am out and proud! In today's society I think that its easier to come out and be openly gay then it ever was before!
TheRealSylar92 1 year ago
i have a question: Have You Ever Been Beat Down Or Harassed For Being Gay, And If Not, What Would You Do IF You Were?
SonyFoLife 1 year ago
I came out when I was 13. I don't understand how most people wait so long before they do. I never had a girlfriend, because they didn't liked me. It wasn't until after I came out that girls started to find me attractive, which I find very ironic. Though I am pretty sure it was because I had gained confidence in myself after discovering my sexuality. If I hadn't of came out back then I really doubt I would of had a cover girl, because I can't stand lying to people I care about.
CottnCandyRainbow 1 year ago
"Cover girlfriends" are more difficult to deal with as a bisexual boy or man. That's because there is a real attraction, but there is also the other gender attraction always lurking along-side that ... at exactly the same time. Have sex with one, and then want sex with the other ... like bouncing back and forth. Satisfy one and need the other and so on. Bisexuality is a rocky road at best!
justanote7 1 year ago
You are so cute. If I were a gay man, I would mack on you SO HARD :P
anesthesiac 1 year ago
In this video, i like your hair its adorable. :) from my opinion and experiences, people shouldn't care what kind of person your into and im just glad you came out of the closet. and i think that using a cove occasionally was smart and it kind of helped you realize more what you liked and wanted. I love your vids btw there awesome :)
beautifulbabygirl23 1 year ago
im already out and im 13, the only problem for coming out this early is: its sorta pointless. you cant really get a bf yet T_T!... unless your lucky. However, not lying to yourself is the best option in my eyes.
fagbowsa 1 year ago
today is the first time i have ever seen any of your videos and i am 17 and i have a "cover GF" that i have been going out with for 3 month how do i still make it so gay guys know im gay and not other people because really i want to be with a guy... thanks and your videos are pretty cool :)
amanshawn1 1 year ago
Your hair is really cute like that. I feel really bad about the girls who's hearts I broke on my way to coming out. Glad to some one else feels the same.
benlb9 1 year ago
You have beautiful blue eyes,John!
kalynnepointer 1 year ago
sorry you said ESPESIALLY IN america they kill people for same sex relation in some middle east country
whynotbig 1 year ago
Is that a wig? You look just like my brother and I know that he is gay.
Thisheresmyname 1 year ago
Pried out of the closet over a course of several years, 12-15. Note that I wasn't even sure of my sexuality until I was 14. So yeah. Ugh.
Drowzee64 1 year ago
Lol
1st ily so much xD
2nd im 13 and im out
3rd my 17 year old brother is super homophoic and i want to tell him but idk if i should and what to do help me please (my parents know that im gay and i love them xD)
4th i hate my ex -.-
jeremypemy7 1 year ago
Its not awkward... I never had sex with a girl so cant tell weather or not that counts as awkward or not but I did get into college with the last GF I had like 3-4 years after we broke up and we clicked immediately... wasn't that awkward =P
"we" broke up after around 9 months while nearing the "taking the virginity stage" =P
I couldn't... not to me and not to her... thank god... cos I think it could have been awkward if we did have sex back then and being classmates l8er
TainDK 1 year ago
easy, breezy, beautiful covergirl-friends! ;)
MDkid1 1 year ago 17
only someone as cute as you could pull off this level of self-indulgence
tallnlean9 1 year ago
I get the feeling of needing a cover, so no one would suspect anything about you being gay. And maybe if you were still struggling to figure out or denying your sexuality (not that that's a beneficial thing), a cover girlfriend would be understandable. But I just think that if you have no question in your own mind about your sexuality, it's very unfair and dishonest and hurtful to use a girl like that.
So then what to do if you need a cover? I don't know, but I'd still rather not hurt someone
PotterCullenPhangirl 1 year ago
I came out of the closet when I was 14, I think that was a good age, at least for me.
h666JK 1 year ago
No, I never had a cover up girlfriend. I would never want to break some girl's heart like that... Not to mention that it would just feel gross. :P
There was this one girl who suddenly decided she was dating me once, though. lol I had no say in this, and it lasted about a week. XP
Drowzee64 1 year ago
You are hiliarous! My friends and I love you. Keep doing what you're doing.
P.S. you're smokin hot!
stefkatie 1 year ago 3
i came out when i was 13 and i told the boy i liked he was ok wit me bein gay hes an awsome friend
allthingsanthony387 1 year ago 2
i think that the population of gay people are more bigger than actualy people think
themrkurosawa 1 year ago
@themrkurosawa I agree if people werent so hateful on them than there would be a lot more I think
medaphsyco 1 year ago
I came out at fourteen, oh joy..... It was hardest to tell dad, everyone else it was like a flowing river but with him I really did care
Frues 1 year ago
I came out when I was 15, everyone tool it really well.
joey334455 2 years ago
I came out to friends when I was 16 and to my family a little over a year later. It went fairly well compared to many I've heard about.
I just remember how alone I felt at school being the only out gay guy.
LocksAndChains 2 years ago
I think you are cutey. But I am sorry I don't think that it is okay to have a cover girl friend. It is mean and cruel. Hell lie and say you have a myspace girlfriend but don't lead someone on and hurt them.
foxyladi23 2 years ago 58
@foxyladi23 I dont see it as a big deal, i mean its high school id guess 90% of highschool relationships never last and only less than 50% even go a full year. now if a relationship with a girl got serious then it would be bad.
medaphsyco 1 year ago
@foxyladi23 14, 15, 16 year old girls will get over it and if a kids 14 and comes out he gets bullied bad to the point of wanting to give up.
13RuffRyder 1 year ago
@13RuffRyder Thats is your opinion. But you aren't that girl that may liked a guy that just USED her. U don't know how it will affect her. I'm sorry but it is selfish. The girl also has to carry the stigma that she "turned" a guy gay. And yes I have heard that term being used. So does the boy have to come out at 14? No, he doesn't. But that doesn't mean that it is okay to use another human being for your own personal gains.
foxyladi23 1 year ago
@foxyladi23 its not my opinion my friend was 14 when he came out and was beat up more than a few times and he was constantly picked on, he finally moved and transferred schools. as far as the girl thing goes i never sed i thought it was ok to do that in the first place i just sed that they would move on eventually..
13RuffRyder 1 year ago
@13RuffRyder I'm sorry about what happened to your friend. But at the same time that isn't everyone's story. He chose to come out at 14. That was his decision. No one has the right to put there hands on another person but people do it all the time. So if you can say the girl will get over it so will your friend...it sounds fucked up doesn't it? There is no empthay. Wrong is wrong. Doesn't matter who does it or why. You can't put down someone else's pain because its convenient.
foxyladi23 1 year ago
@foxyladi23 It's ok for us to have a 'cover' girl if she know it. Hell, don't most girls love gay dudes, anyway? Honesty is the best policy. Some one's gotta show us gay boys wht the va-jay-jay is all about.
Celie3678 1 year ago
look like guy from mysterious skin
pyrex666jw 2 years ago
was there ever a time where you were confused about your sexuality? or did you just know?
medaphsyco 2 years ago 2
@medaphsyco oh, for sure, like John I also had few girlfriends (the even more confusing thing is that I even got hard once) ha. But yes, once I tried with a guy - the difference was astonishing.....it felt all stronger and nicer. And this is how the confusion died.
TU154 1 year ago
@TU154 well sexuality isnt always black and white that one time you got hard probably meant you were slightly straight but you are probably still mostly gay. you see what I mean?
medaphsyco 1 year ago
I'm 17 and have been forever single so that always made people think I guess... no cover and I never really tried, always said I was focusing on school xD
MrJason300 2 years ago 30
@MrJason300 amen to that. "school comes first" haha
honduranflame 1 year ago
@MrJason300 That's what I told my Family and friends.
h3c85 1 year ago
I came out at 16, and it's been pretty rough. Mostly because my family is very Christian-fundamentalist. So, you can only imagine how that went over. :-/
ZacharyAlanW64 2 years ago 2
"Cover Girlfriend"
"Cover Girl"
"CoverGirl"
Wow ... that answers that. marketing move...
g0ysorg 2 years ago
okay. are you aware of how insanely hottt you are?
MeanGirlAddict85 2 years ago 2
When i was in the closet, I used to pretend to have a distant girlfriend so that girls would back off.
AndyDrewandGarcia 2 years ago
heh i type in some bs and i find ur new account
NyCnAvYGuY6 2 years ago
I hope I didn't understand this very well. Have you said that it is a GOOD idea to have cover girlfriends? I'm sorry but that's such a selfish and self centered thing to say! You are encouraging people to use other people! If the girl/boy knows what's going on then I think it's perfectly right to do it, but using people otherwise is always, ALWAYS, wrong.
Tora0dead 2 years ago
it happens - get over it
NyCnAvYGuY6 2 years ago
Sorry???
Tora0dead 2 years ago
i dont care - but ur never gunna be put in that same situation so u really cant judge
NyCnAvYGuY6 2 years ago
so hottttttt
abbandoned 2 years ago 3
I think your videos are great, but why in the world did you title this particular one this way? You're basically saying to everyone on youtube that you secretly DO like vaginas, when the content of your videos says the opposite. The other titles of your videos make sense, but this one is a serious head scratcher.
chpoof 2 years ago
i have a lesbian friend. no names. but i think shed be the perfect cover. but shes not onboard. what-r-ya-gunna-do?
Curtisisatiger 2 years ago
ur right eye looks blue
& ur left looks green :)
freakytallgirl1 2 years ago
but think about the girl!!! do you think that she'd like being used as a cover? NO
got2dance4fun 2 years ago
I like Erika Badu too! I tried to date girls constantly...but could never bring myself to actually ask them out because I felt bad for them and stupid because I knew it was pointless. I just settlted for being able to talk about girls with my guy friends...that was/is pretty much the extent of my cover up.
gmedespair 2 years ago
u are sooo cuttee.. lve ur hair like this :-)
rachaeldeesh1 2 years ago
a video with u can never be boring! haha
the hair is not bad but personally I prefer it to be up
tristanos22 2 years ago 2
i have to disagree. i dont think it's right to use a girl like that. I'm a straight girl & if a secretly gay dude ever did that to me, I'd kick his ass.
iLoveCheerleading51 2 years ago 2
I agree, it's just messed up, and it's not fair to the girl. But I have a (gay) friend who has this "arrangement" with another friend of ours, where he and she pretend to be dating. That works much better.
Bluespotte 2 years ago
yea as long as she knows what he's doing
iLoveCheerleading51 2 years ago
Corinne Bailey Ray!!
mermaidolena 2 years ago
I'm 13 I'm just starting to come out. There's no way I'm telling my parents though.
uncripted 2 years ago
I wouldn't tell them either at 13
Ronc303c 2 years ago
I came out at 11. :D 14 right now <3
screamolullaby2 2 years ago 4
i came out at 14 and it was so worth it. i would have missed so much of my high school life if i hadent. was able to enjoy my first boyfriend in school. but i think that life isnt ment to be spent in a closet ull miss so much.
mcole12345678 2 years ago
One of the worst days I've ever had was a the night I came out to a girl I had used as a cover. Sarah and I were really close for about a year, and got super close over the summer (even though she was sleeping with other guys who I wanted to sleep with too) and we pretty much dated and everyone of our friends thought we were banging. But I got drunk on Crown during spring break and begged one of my best guy friends to stay the night with me and like 2 min after he left my house she called me and
PosterChild4Equality 2 years ago
and asked if I ever liked her and I said "Sarah I'm gay!" and I started crying and say I'm sorry. And she called the straight guy friend that I had just tried to seduce and told him to go back to my house cause she was worried about me and then I got mad that he to found out I was gay so I decided to run away and die. I ended up throwing my phone into a wall and shattered it and climbed a couple fences and it was bad... I was soooo ashamed to be gay and having people know. Worst drunk night ever
PosterChild4Equality 2 years ago
Hmmmm another Q but how do you think that these girls feel who are being lied to? I'm a bi female btw ^_^
custardT89 2 years ago
it would be so cute if at the time, you found a closet lesbian to form a fake couple with. you could cover for each other and not have to lie to as many peope.
woahzombies 2 years ago
i think so too
Pr4dat0r 2 years ago
One of my friends did that. It's probably one of the most fun relationships you can have!
18rah 2 years ago
Before I realized I was gay I had tons of girlfriends and little flings with girls, they always took to me so easily and I never had to try hard. Now I realize it was that whole Will & Grace vibe, way more of a friends thing that I assumed was sexual chemistry when it never was (at least on my part). It was always easy and sweet and cute and totally not real passion. It wasn't until I hooked up with a guy for the first time that I was like WOW, I'M AWAKE AND I WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH MEN!
littleBIGGERchris 2 years ago
This is the only video of yours so far that I don't agree with. I'm a college student and still in the closet (except for my parents and my best friend); however, I don't think it's a "good idea" to come on to a girl or pretend like I was interested in her or anything because, in my opinion, it's cruel to give someone false hope for a relationship that you know from the get go will never last.I
tabbiehopla 2 years ago 3
Continuing on my last comment...
I tried it once in 4th grade with my first (and only) former girlfriend but I felt so guilty the whole time. =/ but that's my opinion
P.S. nice hott mess lol =)
tabbiehopla 2 years ago
hi, I live in the UK and I'm still at school in lower 6th form. I cant see that I'll ever be able to tell my parents that I'm gay - even though in England people don't mind like they do in America. I just don't know, I confuse myself with whether I like women or men. And want to be in a real relationship. Q: at what age was your first gay relationship and how did u meet him.
love ur videos.
Will
WILL4190 2 years ago
Hi John, This video really spoke to me. I had a cover girl during high school. We dated for a couple months or so, but it didnt last. I think i really did love her & it killed me when she dumped me. its odd I watch this vid today, as i found her via facebook recently. She reminded me that I came out to her a couple years after high school. She was really supportive of me then. Almost 17 years later she is still supportive of me.I guess i'll love her in a way allways for that. cheers Christian
cniddrie 2 years ago
I came out at 17, and was lucky enough to only have one girlfriend that i used as a "cover." While the relationship did end fairly quickly, due to the intimacy issue, I was still amused and surprised to find out a few months later when I DID come out that not only had she been my cover, but I had been hers. She was a lesbian! ;D We still laugh about it 5 years later. The "I'm gay" "That's ok, I am too" "Are you fucking serious??" is still one of the funniest moments of my life.
yoshdr 2 years ago 3
And by the way, just found your videos today, but I'm totally subscribing. And I love the hair. both ways. ;D Now I'm all inspired to make videos of my own for once.
yoshdr 2 years ago
I never had a girlfriend, thank god! I thought about it at the start of high school - like if I would have to and how I would go about it.But I think another good alternative is taking on a persona. And not necessarily taking on a "persona" just to hide your sexuality, but finding something your passionate or good at and putting your focus and whole self into that. I became the student council guy at my school, other people become athletes like "the swimmer" or whatever.
NICKaspires 2 years ago
...It's just channeling your focus into something else if being completely yourself isn't a good option yet. People then identify you as that.
But again, I wouldn't say create a fake persona just because (ie. be someone your not), just be yourself to the max, hiding that one aspect (your sexuality) - I hate saying that! But it's a good alternative I guess. Come out if you can, obviously I'm not advocating being closeted.
NICKaspires 2 years ago
first off, LOVE the hair, no joke. second, i couldn't do the whole fake relation thing. i just happened to ask out girls i was attracted to... i don't know if i was fully gay if i would have had a gf.. never thought about it that way.... hmm, regardless, love the vid!! oh, and i came out at 14 since you brought up the young age thing.
somesortofrock 2 years ago
Ur Hair Looks TOO Cute!! =)
ladylovespie 2 years ago
I'm glad people are coming out the closet earlier..I mean, my uncle is gay and he was closeted his whole life. Now he's married and he has children. He's basically fucked. I don't see how people can do that to themselves and others =_=
La1chi 2 years ago
i went out with a few girls and dated one from reshman year till sophmore but nothing really happend wewere just good friends and liked hanging with each other then we decided mutually to end the gf bf title part of or relationship because she was intrested in someone else so i told everyone all the rest of highschool i was to devastated from that break up to try anymore and it covered me through the rest of highschool till later once i was 19 when i came out.
sexsomnia20 2 years ago
noooo ur hair looks better up and spikey =] but u go for it its ur hair =] lol just sayin ...eh u could probs pull it off good luck lol *hugs*
Neko711anbu 2 years ago
Back in high school, I tried the girlfriend thing a few times. Kissing was always where it ended. I couldn't do it!
myfaceissquiggles 2 years ago
I also dated quite a few girls during High School. I did lots of kissing. It was just like "blah". Also, I HAVE met up with ex girlfriends and have had to tell them that I'm gay. I didn't tell them that they were like a cover. (It just seemed like that would be rude or something lol) A lot of them are still really good friends. The ones who I have told all took it really well and have been supportive, so that's good.
dms041788 2 years ago
What's ur opinion on wet dreams? hahaha
diguitotheman 2 years ago