Thank you so much, you saved me with you great advices, its been 6 months, i loved him but he just left me cuz he just lost interest and went with my friend, they're now together. He doesnt want to remain friends,i know i messed up our relation cuz we were great friends before. I have been through break-ups but that one hurts cuz he dont care and he told me how he loves her. I just want to message him how im sorry... :/ Thx you ill try my best!
@bitchkick I'm sorry to hear about what you went through. But if he left you in that way he wasn't worth holding onto, my friend. There are bigger and better fish in the sea. So go get yourself a shiny new fishing rod and GO FISHING! ;) I suggest u don't send him that apology message, though. It sounds like it was all his fault anyway. Apologizing will just give him power over you that he doesn't deserve.
Watching this because I just found out my ex found someone two months after me, and they got together on valentine's day. I, of course, was single on v-day. We also have a bunch of mutual friends, so it's really hard not to hear about him. It sucks, to say the least.
@PandaHopeful I feel ya. I always had a lot of mutual friends with my boyfriends so it was very hard not to hear their news. You may not feel like it now, but that is actually a good thing, if you can find the strength to make sure you take back control of your own life. What have you been doing about it so far?
@moonislol It's still very early. The feelings you're going through are perfectly normal. In fact, it would be weird if you didn't think about her. If you want to talk about it, you can send me a PM with your age and some details about your relationship. That way I can give you more accurate advice. :)
My gf left me last wednesday... It have been so hard for me after breaking up... I have cried a lot while being alone and i actually eat almost nothing... I dont know what to do... I've had some problems before but this... Is just too much...
@moonislol It may sound weird but neglecting your diet is actually making you less capable of dealing with this. Please try to eat at least breakfast & lunch. Force yourself if you have to.
@bukroot Thank you so much in making this video & I love how you are still replying to these comments a year after posting. I split up with my ex around a month ago & it has been absolute hell. I wish I watched this video earlier, but now I have you there to watch whenever I feel down or anxious. I cannot thank you enough! I may PM you soon I that's ok? "Bukroot: Helping to mend hearts even in the U.K!"
I love the video, but hey to be real these advises are more what NOT to do during your hard time... This won't help you exactly how to get over your ex... As long as you don't find a new boyfriend this mood will still drag u down.
@ivatattoo actually you should watch part 2. there is more concrete stuff you SHOULD do. ;) this one is more the beginning stages and what to avoid to make sure you don't fall into the pitfalls.
my gf and i have been together for a little over a year every month she broke up with me but we would get back together i love her so much and we broke up two months ago she's already with her second bf after me im so hurt someone please help me... i need some advice:'(
1..i thought so, and 2..no no no..im drunk and was clicking random videos and posting comments on whatever i felt like at the time...well im sobering up now and i have had enough of this back and forth banter...may the gods show favor to you lol..good bye :)
@bukroot what about the dislike?..you want to thank me for that to lol.just so you know..psychology 101 is not the answers to all the conundrums, to all your life experiences, and you do not know shit but what you where told to think...also, for everyone out there listening to this shit, i am telling you shes reading out of a community college psychology 101 book.
@EasyWay723 Actually yeah, the dislike is welcome, too. What a lot of people don't know is that all ratings are considered good by YouTube, so even if all I ever got were dislikes, I'd still be considered a youtuber who engages her audience and good Partner material. :) As for the community college thing... I'm Greek and I go to university studying Early Childhood education, so sorry, you were wrong. Care to guess again? But yeah, so what if I was? It's still helping people. ;)
@bukroot All i got out of that comment was Blaa Blaa you tube likes dislikes on its videos..well that's bullshit..who would consider dislikes as a positive. Second, i'm not in a community college, im in a Greek university...well i'm sorry to burst your bubble but the education standard there in way below average. There and plenty of other countries towering over Greece in the education apartment.. and in SOME countries the community receives the same or better education then you do.
@EasyWay723 I see you let your anger get the better of you and you didn't understand my point: I don't study psychology at all, so I don't own a psychology book. This advice has been put together through my own experiences. My point was that even if I had used a book, it wouldn't matter. So either way, your point is moot.
@bukroot first of all im not angry..second there is NO way you where not made to take psychology as a mandatory course to the education field you have chosen, especially when working with children...you know "Early Childhood education"...so ether you are lying about that or...even worse..your just watching other you tube videos and plagiarizing them...well i hope its the second option, because if its the first one ...well your head is screwed up to the point your own advice is helpless
@EasyWay723 I'm glad you're not angry, coz that's no way to live. And yes, we do take basic psychology courses, but none of them talk about relationships and especially not what to do when breaking up with your partner. :P That would be ridiculous in a kindergarten course. Also, you watched my video so I take it either that means you're having trouble getting over an ex and you're taking it out on me, or you've been stalking me from a past video. Either way, your beef isn't with me.
@bukroot And as for the "But yeah, so what if I was? It's still helping people. ;)" response, i believe you should use your own life experiences as a reflective when you give advice and not pull it out of some book you where made to believe
@gostate009 That sounds like there are deeper issues to tackle here other than the break up. If you want to talk about it further, feel free to PM me.
@wwefanhardyboys Sounds to me like you're so much better off without her. Being with someone who doesn't know what they want is only going to bring you heart ache. And the fact that she could be with another guy and also "want" you just goes to show that she's in her experimenting phase. You're better than that. Don't stand for it.
@bukroot thx :) I understand what you mean. she had me and another guy like on a leach she would hang out with the both of us nd i didnt even know, she was crying yesterday it it made me really sad she said she missed her ex the one she cheated me on....she told me she didnt know what she want and to give her time.. so i left im done with her i put up so much for her i was done
It felt so long we spend da whole day together nd it felt like we were going to be together forever again but then out of knower she tells me to move on dat whole day I tried to get her back but then she said she was sick of me so I left her alone ....on Christmas she sent me a txt saying she loves me wanna be together forever and missis me I ignored she was with another guy at da time
I was really depressed for the next 2 months we nvr spoke nd the last thing she said was she loved me was going to be true forever : ( so I stayed true to her for the next 2 months but then out of knower she knocks on my door nd we hugged I was so happy she visited for chrismis break
This video is great thx:) I'm in a bad situation right now. So me and my ex were together 6 months and then I found out she was moving in november. I would hv ended the relationship but what she said messes my mind she said she loved me forever and that she would nvr cheat and wanted me forever and marriage.we wer madly in love. So she moved I was really depressed she would call me everyday nd we would talk for hours long distance relationship nd then out of know wer she stops calling nd I had
I still think I can use a lot of these tips though!!
P.S. I threw all of the things he gave me away, except a few stuffed animals. And the best part: I gave all the clothes he left at my house to Good Will. ;]
Probably the third time I've watched this video and there's so much good information in here I keep finding new stuff to focus on. I keep being like "woah yeah I totally am at that stage" or "oh man yeah I forgot to do that and it's totally been bringing me down." Thanks again, bukroot.
@TheZombehunter I'm not pissed. I just don't appreciate it when people comment random comments that have no baring on the content of my video. There are a lot of trolls and haters out there, who try to start a fight, so I always make sure to deal with it promptly.
@TheZombehunter Some people just respond better to advice given from people they know and trust rather than people they've never known. I'm glad your friend got the help he needed, coz in the end it doesn't matter who helped him. What matters is that he's feeling better. :)
My ex dumped me a week before thanksgiving. She blocked me on fb and stuff and wont tell me why she dumped me (yes, her blocking me is a good thing). She said it wasnt me, but idk what to believe. She was abused in more than one way during her childhood, and isnt sure of her sexuality. I think that has to do with why she dumped me and has had many past boyfriends. How can I deal with losing her with no explanation, and out of nowhere, If I love her? This sucks.
I went out with this rlly nice boy and he was my first true love but my best friend hates him and the other day they got into this big fight like, scratching, pulling hair, swearing but my best friend started it and I hate her for that and like 5 mins later he texted me saying: were over .....cause I just stood there and watched but that's because I'm scared of my best friend cause she always hurts me and stuff but I rlly can't get over him, I'm crying my eyes out, I'm rlly depressed :( plz help
I broke up with my ex of two years. She cheated on me and then lied about it. I don't want her back, but i find myself wanting to talk to her all the time. How do i stop the feeling?
@DASITDASITDASIT If you loved her it's natural to still think about her even though she hurt you. My advice would be to just go through all the normal steps listed in these videos. It will pass with time. But specifically for you I think it will pass easier after you have found someone who respects you more than she did.
@DASITDASITDASIT I feel the same, I broke up with her, and we havent talked on 3 month....but still want to....its annoying feeling.....I guess we want to have our revange...
Hey i have a question at school in my math calls i our teacher MAKES us sit in special seats and my ex sit next to me and keeps like taunting me and just plain annoying me any sugesstions?
@maxbigtoe if your teacher is forcing this on you, i'm pretty sure you could tell the principle about it. but if you want to avoid all that drama, you should just talk to your ex outside of class and tell her that her behavior is typical of a 5 year old and that you are glad you broke up because she is obviously not mature enough for a real relationship. if she still likes you she should show it like an adult. if not, she should have some decency and leave you alone.
@Mattywright191 That's alright. We live and we learn. You can still get over your ex even if you fail a few steps. Just stay strong and keep trying until you get it right. If you need help, feel free to message me.
@ESKILODGE You're very welcome, my friend. I realized youtube was in need of something like this when i was in that very position and couldn't find somewhere to turn to.
This video is amazing, i need this reminder EVERY day. Im 21 and ive just been dumped by my ex who works abroad, we had plans to live together when she came home but i only saw her once every 2 months so she told me she grew apart from me and decided to end it. Now i feel like ive been let down and cant come to terms with the loss. Although we argued when together alot she was very pretty and this is my main regret for loosing her. she said i should have came to see her more, help!
@kingoli2003 hi there! if you are still in touch with her and haven't completely broken up yet, you might be interested in my How to Deal with a Long Distance Relationship series. there's one video already out and another 2 are on the way this week. It sounds like those might help you more. But if she doesn't want to make up and you just want to get over her, then I'd be glad to talk, if you need it.
@bukroot Ive pretty much forced her into wanting to end it because even though she was pretty certain that she did, she kept saying she didnt want to hurt me, so i kept clinging on to false hope! would love to chat about it.... :)
@Otygett Thanx for pointing that out. I guess that was a part I didn't quite explain too well. When I say not to talk about it, I mean don't bitch, whine and cry to people because that doesn't help anyone and it will make those close to you tired of being around you. When I say to talk about it, I mean discuss what happened and how it affected you in a constructive way, so as to realize that it isn't all that bad. :) Interesting question. Congrats for noticing the mix-up.
I'm 19 and I recently broke up with my first boyfriend, I was madly inlove with him,he became in my world,I gave him everything that mothers and friends tell you to not give. I used belive in him and in everything he said, but he wasn't a good guy. He broke me like 4 times in 5 months and I went throu a lot cuz of him. In end the told me horrible words and he left.I'm doing everything I can,but I still miss him,and I don't know why I miss someone who trated me like shit! Help!!
@SynDaniel Hi there. You didn't mention how old your ex is, so I'm going to assume he is either your age, or one or two years older (or younger). Either way, he sounds immature. People who don't appreciate it when others treat them with respect (and indeed it sounded like you worshiped the ground he walked on) do not deserve your tears. You said it yourself, he treated you badly. Breaking up was a good thing, because it means you now have a chance to find someone who will respect you. :)
@bukroot He is 22 years old, but he act like a 16 year old kid, and yes, I know I'll find someone better, but stills, there are moments like this that I start to miss him so much! I remember everything, good or bad and suddenly I have a mixture of emotions that scare me the hell! D'x
@SynDaniel 22 year olds aren't that much more mature than 16 year olds. :P What you're feeling is normal. Don't be scared. It's just the normal response for people who have been blindly in love. Since you are capable of rationalizing and seeing that he isn't what you deserve, things are going to get much easier. You'll be laughing at these feelings once you find someone better. Trust me. ;) I've been there, too.
@21stcenturyissues It's all in the mind. It's up to you to make sure you deal with the feelings immediately when they return so they know who's boss. :)
@jeethuutube You don't HAVE to do anything. this is merely a suggested course of action. advice that i think will help if you're feeling this pain. If you feel like it doesn't work for you, no one is forcing you to do it.
yeah youre right /: it is harder for me ,but when i talk to him im okay . but i get you . but does that mean i never talk to him again ? cause i do want to be his friend .
@missesashleey it doesnt mean you should never talk to him again. but i insist that you dont talk for a month or so. if by then you're 100% over each other you can be friends. it'll feel normal. like you're really just friends. that's how you'll know you're over him. if not, then keep taking a break.
It's been 3 months since the break up and I've been doing good not talking to him but last week i answered the phone n he told me he loves me and he wants to make things work for me and our son. Idk I've been stressed the past few days but I changed my number n blocked all calls from him but it's still hard. :( I'm just lonely it really sucks. I'm going to stay strong for me and my son. It's just hard because my son misses him but I know the best thing is just to stay away for a while. For m
@roughryda691 staying strong for your son takes character. congratulations on not giving in, despite how tough it is to stay away from your ex. i know you feel lonely, but i can ensure you that with patience everything gets better. as long as you don't return to the situation you left, you are going to find someone very special who will make sure your little boy doesn't feel fatherless ever again.
I have been in a relationship with my ex for almost 8 yrs we have a 6 yr child together it's sooo hard we broke up slot but this time it's been the longest its been almost 2 months I always take him back I need strength. I don't want to him back I want to get on with my life it's hard knowing that I have to do this alone. I don't talk to anybody I'm been trying to just take care of myself and son and just get on with my life. I've been doing good but when he calls(I don't pick up) It brings
@roughryda691 I congratulate you for being so strong. When you love someone it's very hard not to take them back against your better judgement. Especially when there's a child involved. But I believe that you did the right thing. If things weren't going well then it's definitely best you get on with your life, are strong for your son and find someone who will make things easier instead of harder for you.
My boyfriend broke up with me four months ago without giving me a reason.... Which sucks because I feel like I really need that closure. He broke up with me over a text, so I called him and all he did was yell at me like I was a little kid or something. He said."it has to happen".... Well, he was still yelling at me.
He already has another girlfriend. We dated for two years and seven months. I can't wait until I get to the last step!
@Mari8408 I definitely understand what you're going through. Closure is very important. My ex broke up with me through an email and then moved out of the country and blocked me from every networking site online. Talk about being a coward, right? In a way i think you're lucky to know he has moved on. I mean, of course it hurts, but it should get you mad enough to see that if he didn't respect what you had enough to give it more time and to give you closure, then he isn't worth being upset over.
Yeah...I remember when drinking was something I did to celebrate and dance to...and smoking MJ (rarely) was relaxing...I will never smoke again cause i ended up having a bad trip. I hallucinated my ex and felt like a schizo just like him and that sucked. Alcohol...still working on that.
@LaceFX i don't agree with the use of any substance to change your mood, especially not to get over an ex. i think addiction is the worst state a human being can put themself into and i advise against it. so i'm glad to hear you are not going to use mj again, but please try to quit alcohol, too.
omg! for the past 4 months i have been trying to get over a breakup,it was freakin tough to let go,it still is,its just that the reason wasnt good enough,but ur vedio helped me soo much! im gona stick to what u say,and in time i hope i move on (:
@mimi11231 4 months, eh? does sound pretty tough. When your partner gives an apparently silly reason it does tend to make accepting the break up and getting over them much harder, but the way i see it, it should make them easier, because if they hated being with you so much that they couldn't even be bothered giving a straight answer and came up with a lame excuse, then they weren't worth being with, sweetie.
i love her sooo much. it was a mutual break up. but i regret it tremedously. We were perfect, we got along soo well, (she's 14 i'm 15) we talked about where we would live, how we could work together as adults. she was perfect for me, then over a course of a few days; it became really akward, and we wouldnt know what to say to one another. we tried to fix it numerous times, but it didnt work. there is a part of me that tries to get over her, while the other part just wants to break down and cry.
@asthewallsclosein Sweetie, I think you're right in wanting to cry over this. I'm guessing this young lady was your first love. It's definitely painful when a relationship we make plans for and dream about growing old together doesn't work out. You didn't specify if you were together long, but in my experience, no matter what reason there is for a break up to occur, it should always be taken seriously. If you tried to fix it and it still couldn't be fixed, then don't have regrets. You tried. :)
@TrueMNgirl Since u have the same friends, i'd say treat him like just another friend. even if u don't feel like it, or if it hurts. if any1 insults u they aren't ur friends so u shouldn't care what their immature opinion is. be strong. no better way to prove u're the mature one than to just act unperturbed. u know there will be better guys out there who will treat u better. plus, he'll wonder why u don't care and perhaps that will make him feel guilty enough to give u the explanation u deserve
@TrueMNgirl Sorry to tell you this, but someone who breaks up with you in such a cruel way is NOT perfect for you. No matter how nice a relationship is, if it ends like that, then it wasn't worth your time, girl. What i suggest is going to sound like it wont help: be grateful for all the good memories he gave you but accept the fact that he didn't respect you, otherwise he wouldn't treat you like this. not after being together for a year. breaking up over a text?? you don't need that coward.
Im going through my first heart break, and go damn it hurts..im someone who has gone thorugh so many bad situations and experiences, such as low self esteem, people touching me inappropriately, and not trusting others. This guy was the only one that truely made me happy...he says he loves me, but still donesnt want to be with me, that doesnt make sense. i need an explanation..please? im so confused...
@TheMsSkellington101 Sorry to hear what you're going through. it's never easy. especially if you've already gone through a whole bunch of other unpleasant situations. trust me, i know where you're coming from. before my first heart-break i had been through so much i tried to commit suicide...twice! but you know what helped me realize that it's gonna get better? that there's always someone else out there who will love me just as much, if not more as the previous guy. message me if you wanna talk.
I was dating this guy and me and him didn't even talk really. We went to the same school, and he really liked me so I decided to be his 'girlfriend.' Now, after we broke up, he still tries to talk to me even though he has a new girlfriend today, who might I say, looks a lot like me.
@musicgirl2966 I don't see why this should bother you. Personally, i think it's very healthy to maintain civilize contact with your ex. i mean they DID mean something to you while you we together.
@Harleymurdock27 Please don't tell me your ex bought your bed? Coz the fact that you guys made love in it (i'm hoping that's what you meant) is the hardest thing you're going to have to get over. There's really no easy way to do it, but if you don't try you will never get past it.
ughh.... i treated that woman like gold, spent the last ten months going to bed with her and waking up to her. i had some control and trust issues, but only because she said she cheated on an ex... which made me worried the entire relationship that it would happen, which, evidently, made it happen... she cheated on me. she cheated on me, came home and said "i dont love you, that's why i fucked somebody else". what a blow to my ego that was.... been down and out the past few weeks.
@Netlocd The way i see it, you should be glad you got rid of a girl who didn't respect you. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Those things are very hard to change. If she could just fall out of love that easily, then it wasn't going to last anyway. You should be thankful it ended before you guys got even more serious. You deserve someone who loves and respects you. Someone who can see how special you are and who won't take you for granted.
Hello Rose, I can't believe I've been so stupid. A few days ago my ex and I got back in contact by phone, we just talked normally and avoided talking about the break-up. However, over the weekend I became suspicious, just intuition, so i checked the dating sight where we first met, and behold, there he was with a new profile, just 2 weeks after ending our engagement. I begin to wonder how long he's been there. I've been hit by a train. I know I don't want him back now. Emma xx
@trombonegirl64 i'm so sorry to hear that, Emma. :( but on the other hand, i'm also glad that you found out early so you can move on with your life and find someone more deserving. this man obviously doesn't respect you OR himself.
Hello Rose, firstly thank you for taking the time to reply to my comments, it really is appreciated by myself, and I am sure by all of the other people you respond to. Now at the age of 46, I have enough experience of life to know everything you are saying to myself and others is right, but as you know during times of emotional stress our logic and sane thinking is not always at the forefront. Probably more so for us women as we do tend to be more emotional than men. Many thanks, Emma xx
@trombonegirl64 awww! Thank you for your kind words, Emma! :) I'm so very flattered that you appreciate my advice and the time i put into my comments. trust me, my logic and sane thinking totally disappears when it comes to my own relationships. :P i guess we're only capable of logical thought when it's for a situation we're not emotionally attached to. strange how that little detail can throw our entire thinking system out of whack. :P
Hi Rose, in answer to your question, he was the one who broke up with me. He spent the night at my place and just packed his stuff up at 07.30 in the morning, then demanded the ring back after pushing me around and getting rather nasty. I know I am better off now, but the loneliness is killing me, there's nobody to talk to except my cat, so the conversation is rather one-sided. xx
@trombonegirl64 if he treated you badly and pushed you around and was nasty to you, then i don't see how you could miss such a person. there are so many other decent people you could talk to. i don't think you're missing out that he's not there. you're so much better off for sure. he broke up with you in a very disrespectful way.
Thank you Rose for such sensible words from someone so young. I needed reminding of these things since my engagement broke up last weekend, and life has been so lonely since then. I have managed to resist contacting him, though I really want to, as I miss just talking, even though I would not have him back after all that he has done, and I was not happy in a relationship where he could only be bothered to see me once a month, as the 82 mile drive to my place for the weekend was too much :-( x
@trombonegirl64 thank you for your comment. i'm sorry to hear about your engagement not working out. sorry if this is nosy of me, but did you break up with him or he you? because it sounds like you did. which is probably why you are so strong about it so soon after. you're better off though, coz if he couldn't be bothered to make a 3 hour drive, then he wasn't marriage material. you deserve someone better. i mean, i know people whose marriages have lasted when they live on different continents.
@getoutmyfaceho3 That's ok. You can still fix it. those who were really your friends will forgive you, if you ask to hang out again. :) and there's always the possibility of making new ones.
So I already commented on this video, but I need advice. I got dumped by my first love in november, and haven't seen him since (he lives an hour away) and now this girl in my friend group is taking him to my senior prom. so the first time i will see him is at my senior prom with another girl. i dont want to skip prom though, i can't let him ruin it for me. any ideas?!? i dont want to spend the whole night crying in the bathroom..haha
@sarahjaneh37 i agree that you shouldn't skip prom just to avoid him. part of growing up is being mature about exes. there will be many situations when you will see them with the new women in their lives and some of the time you will know those women. but there is no sure-er sign that you're over him than being a adult about seeing them together. if he did it on purpose to get at you, it'll baffle him how strong you are. if he's just that ignorant, then it will wake him up. either way, you win.
what a shitload of fuck...i might have believed this bitch if she said the best way to get over a breakup is to go shopping and partying with the girls, while having weeks of casual sex with anonymous partners
@suchafool990 You've made it blatantly clear that SOMEONE still isn't over their ex. And actually i DID imply that going out with friends, spoiling yourself and having fun is part of the road to getting back on the right track. It's on How to Get Over Your Ex - Part 2.
@suchafool990 i said nothing of the sort. i merely brought to your attention that my advice is 4 people who believe they need it & wish to accept it. i'm reaching out to help people who have been where i used to be because i know how much it hurts & how lost it can feel. i'm trying to be a good person. why does that bother you so much? this video is not targeted towards girls. the tips R 4 men & women who have been having a hard break up. of course some men are treated badly. they need love, too
I just broke up with a guy I'd been dating for 4 years, and this video helped me realize the world really isn't crashing down on top of me. It may feel crappy now, but I feel better knowing that it's ok to feel bad now, and there are steps I can take to healthily remove him from my life. Thanks for posting this!
@merrybritt19 You're welcome. :) People often underestimate just how much the person who does the breaking up is hurting, because they all tend to focus on the one who was dumped as the "victim". They don't realize that it's actually sometimes harder to be the one to make the decision to separate. It is definitely OK to feel bad, but trust me: it does get better. SO MUCH BETTER! ;)
Thank you so much, you saved me with you great advices, its been 6 months, i loved him but he just left me cuz he just lost interest and went with my friend, they're now together. He doesnt want to remain friends,i know i messed up our relation cuz we were great friends before. I have been through break-ups but that one hurts cuz he dont care and he told me how he loves her. I just want to message him how im sorry... :/ Thx you ill try my best!
bitchkick 1 day ago
@bitchkick I'm sorry to hear about what you went through. But if he left you in that way he wasn't worth holding onto, my friend. There are bigger and better fish in the sea. So go get yourself a shiny new fishing rod and GO FISHING! ;) I suggest u don't send him that apology message, though. It sounds like it was all his fault anyway. Apologizing will just give him power over you that he doesn't deserve.
bukroot 17 hours ago
My situation is slightly different but I am broken hearted nontheless. She was my first love. Is it ok to PM you?
FridayMooN 6 days ago
@FridayMooN Of course! Go right ahead :)
bukroot 6 days ago
Watching this because I just found out my ex found someone two months after me, and they got together on valentine's day. I, of course, was single on v-day. We also have a bunch of mutual friends, so it's really hard not to hear about him. It sucks, to say the least.
PandaHopeful 1 week ago
@PandaHopeful I feel ya. I always had a lot of mutual friends with my boyfriends so it was very hard not to hear their news. You may not feel like it now, but that is actually a good thing, if you can find the strength to make sure you take back control of your own life. What have you been doing about it so far?
bukroot 1 week ago
I try always eat something, but I just cant... Ok? She was my everything, I just can't stop thinking of her! I really try, but I just can't...
moonislol 1 week ago
@moonislol It's still very early. The feelings you're going through are perfectly normal. In fact, it would be weird if you didn't think about her. If you want to talk about it, you can send me a PM with your age and some details about your relationship. That way I can give you more accurate advice. :)
bukroot 1 week ago
My gf left me last wednesday... It have been so hard for me after breaking up... I have cried a lot while being alone and i actually eat almost nothing... I dont know what to do... I've had some problems before but this... Is just too much...
moonislol 1 week ago
@moonislol It may sound weird but neglecting your diet is actually making you less capable of dealing with this. Please try to eat at least breakfast & lunch. Force yourself if you have to.
bukroot 1 week ago
@bukroot Thank you so much in making this video & I love how you are still replying to these comments a year after posting. I split up with my ex around a month ago & it has been absolute hell. I wish I watched this video earlier, but now I have you there to watch whenever I feel down or anxious. I cannot thank you enough! I may PM you soon I that's ok? "Bukroot: Helping to mend hearts even in the U.K!"
iDarrenJ 1 week ago
@iDarrenJ Sorry to hear about your break up. Of course it's ok for you to PM me! :) What's an online guru for? :)
bukroot 1 week ago
I love the video, but hey to be real these advises are more what NOT to do during your hard time... This won't help you exactly how to get over your ex... As long as you don't find a new boyfriend this mood will still drag u down.
ivatattoo 1 week ago
@ivatattoo actually you should watch part 2. there is more concrete stuff you SHOULD do. ;) this one is more the beginning stages and what to avoid to make sure you don't fall into the pitfalls.
bukroot 1 week ago
@bukroot i dont know how to send a message to your inbox messagee me instead please?
hereltch 2 weeks ago
my gf and i have been together for a little over a year every month she broke up with me but we would get back together i love her so much and we broke up two months ago she's already with her second bf after me im so hurt someone please help me... i need some advice:'(
hereltch 2 weeks ago
@hereltch Calm down, sweetie. Send me the details to my inbox and we can talk about it. It's gonna be ok.
bukroot 2 weeks ago
This video is so helpful. I've subscribed & I love your videos :) Can't wait to see more of them.
peacelovekris93 3 weeks ago
@peacelovekris93 Thank you for your wonderful comment! :) Welcome to the gang :P
bukroot 3 weeks ago
1..i thought so, and 2..no no no..im drunk and was clicking random videos and posting comments on whatever i felt like at the time...well im sobering up now and i have had enough of this back and forth banter...may the gods show favor to you lol..good bye :)
EasyWay723 1 month ago
@EasyWay723 Hahaha! Fair enough. This was fun! :P Take care.
bukroot 1 month ago
your a slut
EasyWay723 1 month ago 2
@EasyWay723 Thanx for the view and for the comment. :)
bukroot 1 month ago
@bukroot what about the dislike?..you want to thank me for that to lol.just so you know..psychology 101 is not the answers to all the conundrums, to all your life experiences, and you do not know shit but what you where told to think...also, for everyone out there listening to this shit, i am telling you shes reading out of a community college psychology 101 book.
EasyWay723 1 month ago
@EasyWay723 Actually yeah, the dislike is welcome, too. What a lot of people don't know is that all ratings are considered good by YouTube, so even if all I ever got were dislikes, I'd still be considered a youtuber who engages her audience and good Partner material. :) As for the community college thing... I'm Greek and I go to university studying Early Childhood education, so sorry, you were wrong. Care to guess again? But yeah, so what if I was? It's still helping people. ;)
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@bukroot All i got out of that comment was Blaa Blaa you tube likes dislikes on its videos..well that's bullshit..who would consider dislikes as a positive. Second, i'm not in a community college, im in a Greek university...well i'm sorry to burst your bubble but the education standard there in way below average. There and plenty of other countries towering over Greece in the education apartment.. and in SOME countries the community receives the same or better education then you do.
EasyWay723 1 month ago
@EasyWay723 I see you let your anger get the better of you and you didn't understand my point: I don't study psychology at all, so I don't own a psychology book. This advice has been put together through my own experiences. My point was that even if I had used a book, it wouldn't matter. So either way, your point is moot.
bukroot 1 month ago
@bukroot first of all im not angry..second there is NO way you where not made to take psychology as a mandatory course to the education field you have chosen, especially when working with children...you know "Early Childhood education"...so ether you are lying about that or...even worse..your just watching other you tube videos and plagiarizing them...well i hope its the second option, because if its the first one ...well your head is screwed up to the point your own advice is helpless
EasyWay723 1 month ago
@EasyWay723 I'm glad you're not angry, coz that's no way to live. And yes, we do take basic psychology courses, but none of them talk about relationships and especially not what to do when breaking up with your partner. :P That would be ridiculous in a kindergarten course. Also, you watched my video so I take it either that means you're having trouble getting over an ex and you're taking it out on me, or you've been stalking me from a past video. Either way, your beef isn't with me.
bukroot 1 month ago
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@bukroot And as for the "But yeah, so what if I was? It's still helping people. ;)" response, i believe you should use your own life experiences as a reflective when you give advice and not pull it out of some book you where made to believe
EasyWay723 1 month ago
youtube is lucky to have you!! and as viewers, we are too!
what a great video =)
geopinoy36 1 month ago
@geopinoy36 What a beautiful comment! Thanx for watching and for taking the time to comment. :)
bukroot 1 month ago
Yea I will be strong. Thank you!
mcloven83 1 month ago
Thanks. I'll watch your videos when I need a reminder as to why I feel the emotions that I do. Your awesome and this video has helped me greatly.
P.s. I love you... Juuust kidiiinnnggg.
mcloven83 1 month ago
@mcloven83 I'm glad to hear that my videos are helpful to you. :) Stay strong, ok?
bukroot 1 month ago
what if you feel inferior to them?
gostate009 1 month ago
@gostate009 That sounds like there are deeper issues to tackle here other than the break up. If you want to talk about it further, feel free to PM me.
bukroot 1 month ago
She really changed treated me like shit nd dumped me again she turned into a slut
wwefanhardyboys 1 month ago
@wwefanhardyboys Sounds to me like you're so much better off without her. Being with someone who doesn't know what they want is only going to bring you heart ache. And the fact that she could be with another guy and also "want" you just goes to show that she's in her experimenting phase. You're better than that. Don't stand for it.
bukroot 1 month ago
@bukroot thx :) I understand what you mean. she had me and another guy like on a leach she would hang out with the both of us nd i didnt even know, she was crying yesterday it it made me really sad she said she missed her ex the one she cheated me on....she told me she didnt know what she want and to give her time.. so i left im done with her i put up so much for her i was done
wwefanhardyboys 1 month ago
It felt so long we spend da whole day together nd it felt like we were going to be together forever again but then out of knower she tells me to move on dat whole day I tried to get her back but then she said she was sick of me so I left her alone ....on Christmas she sent me a txt saying she loves me wanna be together forever and missis me I ignored she was with another guy at da time
wwefanhardyboys 1 month ago
I was really depressed for the next 2 months we nvr spoke nd the last thing she said was she loved me was going to be true forever : ( so I stayed true to her for the next 2 months but then out of knower she knocks on my door nd we hugged I was so happy she visited for chrismis break
wwefanhardyboys 1 month ago
This video is great thx:) I'm in a bad situation right now. So me and my ex were together 6 months and then I found out she was moving in november. I would hv ended the relationship but what she said messes my mind she said she loved me forever and that she would nvr cheat and wanted me forever and marriage.we wer madly in love. So she moved I was really depressed she would call me everyday nd we would talk for hours long distance relationship nd then out of know wer she stops calling nd I had
wwefanhardyboys 1 month ago
If only I had watched this about a year ago...
I still think I can use a lot of these tips though!!
P.S. I threw all of the things he gave me away, except a few stuffed animals. And the best part: I gave all the clothes he left at my house to Good Will. ;]
PhantomOfTheHummus 1 month ago
@ronen418 haha Thanx for that comment. It made my day. :)
bukroot 2 months ago 2
Probably the third time I've watched this video and there's so much good information in here I keep finding new stuff to focus on. I keep being like "woah yeah I totally am at that stage" or "oh man yeah I forgot to do that and it's totally been bringing me down." Thanks again, bukroot.
WheezyE 2 months ago
@WheezyE You're very welcome, WheezyE. I'm glad it's helping you out. If you need any personalized help, don't hesitate to PM me. :)
bukroot 2 months ago
@bukroot woah thanks man! alright I'll keep that in mind. wow thanks :)
WheezyE 2 months ago
@WheezyE No problem. :) It would be my pleasure.
bukroot 2 months ago
im 99 bitch
TheZombehunter 2 months ago
@TheZombehunter 99 year olds don't use that kind of language. But wait! Immature little dudes do. :P
bukroot 2 months ago
@bukroot em i was yust kiding wy are you so pist
TheZombehunter 2 months ago
@TheZombehunter I'm not pissed. I just don't appreciate it when people comment random comments that have no baring on the content of my video. There are a lot of trolls and haters out there, who try to start a fight, so I always make sure to deal with it promptly.
bukroot 2 months ago
@bukroot u suck soo bad and this video dosent due anything it dint helpted my frend cus you suck my advise helpted him better
TheZombehunter 2 months ago
@TheZombehunter Some people just respond better to advice given from people they know and trust rather than people they've never known. I'm glad your friend got the help he needed, coz in the end it doesn't matter who helped him. What matters is that he's feeling better. :)
bukroot 2 months ago
My ex dumped me a week before thanksgiving. She blocked me on fb and stuff and wont tell me why she dumped me (yes, her blocking me is a good thing). She said it wasnt me, but idk what to believe. She was abused in more than one way during her childhood, and isnt sure of her sexuality. I think that has to do with why she dumped me and has had many past boyfriends. How can I deal with losing her with no explanation, and out of nowhere, If I love her? This sucks.
pilot92193 3 months ago
I went out with this rlly nice boy and he was my first true love but my best friend hates him and the other day they got into this big fight like, scratching, pulling hair, swearing but my best friend started it and I hate her for that and like 5 mins later he texted me saying: were over .....cause I just stood there and watched but that's because I'm scared of my best friend cause she always hurts me and stuff but I rlly can't get over him, I'm crying my eyes out, I'm rlly depressed :( plz help
littlemissnelly 3 months ago
Will you accept my friend request please? I have some mroe stuff to talk about :(
DASITDASITDASIT 3 months ago
I broke up with my ex of two years. She cheated on me and then lied about it. I don't want her back, but i find myself wanting to talk to her all the time. How do i stop the feeling?
DASITDASITDASIT 3 months ago
@DASITDASITDASIT If you loved her it's natural to still think about her even though she hurt you. My advice would be to just go through all the normal steps listed in these videos. It will pass with time. But specifically for you I think it will pass easier after you have found someone who respects you more than she did.
bukroot 3 months ago
@bukroot
Thank you. I will do that. I aooreciate the advice.
DASITDASITDASIT 3 months ago
@DASITDASITDASIT No problem. If you need any further help, feel free to PM me.
bukroot 3 months ago
@DASITDASITDASIT I feel the same, I broke up with her, and we havent talked on 3 month....but still want to....its annoying feeling.....I guess we want to have our revange...
Lilycha100 3 months ago
What if absolutely everything reminds you of them and you have no idea at all why that is?
julielovesyou321 3 months ago
@julielovesyou321 That's absolutely normal. It's because you love(d) them. You're not completely over them. Don't worry.
bukroot 3 months ago
Hey i have a question at school in my math calls i our teacher MAKES us sit in special seats and my ex sit next to me and keeps like taunting me and just plain annoying me any sugesstions?
maxbigtoe 3 months ago
@maxbigtoe if your teacher is forcing this on you, i'm pretty sure you could tell the principle about it. but if you want to avoid all that drama, you should just talk to your ex outside of class and tell her that her behavior is typical of a 5 year old and that you are glad you broke up because she is obviously not mature enough for a real relationship. if she still likes you she should show it like an adult. if not, she should have some decency and leave you alone.
bukroot 3 months ago
this video helped me sp much!
kewis4102 3 months ago
@kewis4102 aww... glad to hear it! :)
bukroot 3 months ago
You posted this over a year ago and are still replying to people in pain. Modern day saint in my books.
ImAnOddity 3 months ago
@ImAnOddity awww... That's such a beautiful thing to say! :)
bukroot 3 months ago
iloveyou
meganmarierb 4 months ago
@meganmarierb awww... Glad you liked my video THAT much. :P
bukroot 4 months ago
i failed at number 10:(
Mattywright191 4 months ago
@Mattywright191 That's alright. We live and we learn. You can still get over your ex even if you fail a few steps. Just stay strong and keep trying until you get it right. If you need help, feel free to message me.
bukroot 4 months ago
This video is amazing. Thank you so much for posting it.
ESKILODGE 4 months ago
@ESKILODGE You're very welcome, my friend. I realized youtube was in need of something like this when i was in that very position and couldn't find somewhere to turn to.
bukroot 4 months ago
This video is amazing, i need this reminder EVERY day. Im 21 and ive just been dumped by my ex who works abroad, we had plans to live together when she came home but i only saw her once every 2 months so she told me she grew apart from me and decided to end it. Now i feel like ive been let down and cant come to terms with the loss. Although we argued when together alot she was very pretty and this is my main regret for loosing her. she said i should have came to see her more, help!
kingoli2003 5 months ago
@kingoli2003 hi there! if you are still in touch with her and haven't completely broken up yet, you might be interested in my How to Deal with a Long Distance Relationship series. there's one video already out and another 2 are on the way this week. It sounds like those might help you more. But if she doesn't want to make up and you just want to get over her, then I'd be glad to talk, if you need it.
bukroot 5 months ago
@bukroot Ive pretty much forced her into wanting to end it because even though she was pretty certain that she did, she kept saying she didnt want to hurt me, so i kept clinging on to false hope! would love to chat about it.... :)
kingoli2003 5 months ago
@kingoli2003 No problem. PM me with your story, so I understand what's going on.
bukroot 5 months ago
Girl your fuckin amazing I will be watching this often. I so need this -___-
rainbowk11d 5 months ago
@rainbowk11d (blush) Thanx! :) I'm so glad it helps...
bukroot 5 months ago
Yes, this was helpfull :) I've been reading articles about this, but it never convinved me just as much as this did^^
A little confusedabout 14 and15 tho'. First you say to not talk about it, and then you say that we should talk to our friends and family about it?
Otygett 5 months ago
@Otygett Thanx for pointing that out. I guess that was a part I didn't quite explain too well. When I say not to talk about it, I mean don't bitch, whine and cry to people because that doesn't help anyone and it will make those close to you tired of being around you. When I say to talk about it, I mean discuss what happened and how it affected you in a constructive way, so as to realize that it isn't all that bad. :) Interesting question. Congrats for noticing the mix-up.
bukroot 5 months ago
I'm 19 and I recently broke up with my first boyfriend, I was madly inlove with him,he became in my world,I gave him everything that mothers and friends tell you to not give. I used belive in him and in everything he said, but he wasn't a good guy. He broke me like 4 times in 5 months and I went throu a lot cuz of him. In end the told me horrible words and he left.I'm doing everything I can,but I still miss him,and I don't know why I miss someone who trated me like shit! Help!!
SynDaniel 5 months ago
@SynDaniel Hi there. You didn't mention how old your ex is, so I'm going to assume he is either your age, or one or two years older (or younger). Either way, he sounds immature. People who don't appreciate it when others treat them with respect (and indeed it sounded like you worshiped the ground he walked on) do not deserve your tears. You said it yourself, he treated you badly. Breaking up was a good thing, because it means you now have a chance to find someone who will respect you. :)
bukroot 5 months ago
@bukroot He is 22 years old, but he act like a 16 year old kid, and yes, I know I'll find someone better, but stills, there are moments like this that I start to miss him so much! I remember everything, good or bad and suddenly I have a mixture of emotions that scare me the hell! D'x
SynDaniel 5 months ago
@SynDaniel 22 year olds aren't that much more mature than 16 year olds. :P What you're feeling is normal. Don't be scared. It's just the normal response for people who have been blindly in love. Since you are capable of rationalizing and seeing that he isn't what you deserve, things are going to get much easier. You'll be laughing at these feelings once you find someone better. Trust me. ;) I've been there, too.
bukroot 5 months ago
@bukroot THNX! I appreciate your words and your advice. Thnx a lot!! :')
SynDaniel 5 months ago
@21stcenturyissues It's all in the mind. It's up to you to make sure you deal with the feelings immediately when they return so they know who's boss. :)
bukroot 5 months ago
We have to make a list and study all this when we are in mental truma ???
jeethuutube 6 months ago
@jeethuutube You don't HAVE to do anything. this is merely a suggested course of action. advice that i think will help if you're feeling this pain. If you feel like it doesn't work for you, no one is forcing you to do it.
bukroot 6 months ago
okay , thank you so much (:
missesashleey 6 months ago
@missesashleey You're welcome. :)
bukroot 6 months ago
yeah youre right /: it is harder for me ,but when i talk to him im okay . but i get you . but does that mean i never talk to him again ? cause i do want to be his friend .
&'d thank you (':
missesashleey 6 months ago
@missesashleey it doesnt mean you should never talk to him again. but i insist that you dont talk for a month or so. if by then you're 100% over each other you can be friends. it'll feel normal. like you're really just friends. that's how you'll know you're over him. if not, then keep taking a break.
bukroot 6 months ago
what if we're still friends ? but i miss him still ?
missesashleey 6 months ago
@missesashleey personally i believe that staying friends when you're not 100% over each other is wrong. it's just making the process harder for you.
bukroot 6 months ago
2 years later and I still feel like crap :(
cooleeohs 6 months ago
@cooleeohs Sorry to hear that. If you wanna talk about it, I don't mind. PM me.
bukroot 6 months ago
thank you so much. this is my first break up.
hoerle2127 6 months ago
@hoerle2127 Stay strong. It gets better. :)
bukroot 6 months ago
It's been 3 months since the break up and I've been doing good not talking to him but last week i answered the phone n he told me he loves me and he wants to make things work for me and our son. Idk I've been stressed the past few days but I changed my number n blocked all calls from him but it's still hard. :( I'm just lonely it really sucks. I'm going to stay strong for me and my son. It's just hard because my son misses him but I know the best thing is just to stay away for a while. For m
roughryda691 6 months ago
@roughryda691 staying strong for your son takes character. congratulations on not giving in, despite how tough it is to stay away from your ex. i know you feel lonely, but i can ensure you that with patience everything gets better. as long as you don't return to the situation you left, you are going to find someone very special who will make sure your little boy doesn't feel fatherless ever again.
bukroot 6 months ago
first heart-break here.
this helped tons thanks. :D
Whogivesaduckful 6 months ago
@Whogivesaduckful Hang in there! i know it sucks, but it makes you so much stronger afterward. you're very welcome. :)
bukroot 6 months ago
oh my god. I love you, thank you.
Moxormog 6 months ago
@Moxormog (blush) Aww... you're very welcome. Have an awesome day! :)
bukroot 6 months ago
I have been in a relationship with my ex for almost 8 yrs we have a 6 yr child together it's sooo hard we broke up slot but this time it's been the longest its been almost 2 months I always take him back I need strength. I don't want to him back I want to get on with my life it's hard knowing that I have to do this alone. I don't talk to anybody I'm been trying to just take care of myself and son and just get on with my life. I've been doing good but when he calls(I don't pick up) It brings
roughryda691 7 months ago
@roughryda691 I congratulate you for being so strong. When you love someone it's very hard not to take them back against your better judgement. Especially when there's a child involved. But I believe that you did the right thing. If things weren't going well then it's definitely best you get on with your life, are strong for your son and find someone who will make things easier instead of harder for you.
bukroot 7 months ago
Thank u soo much this helped mo soo much I found a better and stronger love we've been dateing for 2 munths and it's goin great that's to your tips
Yuki3Chutochu 7 months ago
@Yuki3Chutochu That's AWESOME! :) I wish you two all the best in your relationship!
bukroot 7 months ago
My boyfriend broke up with me four months ago without giving me a reason.... Which sucks because I feel like I really need that closure. He broke up with me over a text, so I called him and all he did was yell at me like I was a little kid or something. He said."it has to happen".... Well, he was still yelling at me.
He already has another girlfriend. We dated for two years and seven months. I can't wait until I get to the last step!
Mari8408 7 months ago
@Mari8408 I definitely understand what you're going through. Closure is very important. My ex broke up with me through an email and then moved out of the country and blocked me from every networking site online. Talk about being a coward, right? In a way i think you're lucky to know he has moved on. I mean, of course it hurts, but it should get you mad enough to see that if he didn't respect what you had enough to give it more time and to give you closure, then he isn't worth being upset over.
bukroot 7 months ago
I like Number 10.
CaptainCasca 7 months ago
@CaptainCasca It's a really important step that most people overlook (or just refuse to accept).
bukroot 7 months ago
Yeah...I remember when drinking was something I did to celebrate and dance to...and smoking MJ (rarely) was relaxing...I will never smoke again cause i ended up having a bad trip. I hallucinated my ex and felt like a schizo just like him and that sucked. Alcohol...still working on that.
LaceFX 7 months ago
@LaceFX i don't agree with the use of any substance to change your mood, especially not to get over an ex. i think addiction is the worst state a human being can put themself into and i advise against it. so i'm glad to hear you are not going to use mj again, but please try to quit alcohol, too.
bukroot 7 months ago
omg! for the past 4 months i have been trying to get over a breakup,it was freakin tough to let go,it still is,its just that the reason wasnt good enough,but ur vedio helped me soo much! im gona stick to what u say,and in time i hope i move on (:
your awesome! x
mimi11231 7 months ago
@mimi11231 4 months, eh? does sound pretty tough. When your partner gives an apparently silly reason it does tend to make accepting the break up and getting over them much harder, but the way i see it, it should make them easier, because if they hated being with you so much that they couldn't even be bothered giving a straight answer and came up with a lame excuse, then they weren't worth being with, sweetie.
bukroot 7 months ago
this actually helped a lot..
lovelylindseyandyou 7 months ago
@lovelylindseyandyou You're so welcome. :) I'm very glad it did.
bukroot 7 months ago
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Anow171 7 months ago
i love her sooo much. it was a mutual break up. but i regret it tremedously. We were perfect, we got along soo well, (she's 14 i'm 15) we talked about where we would live, how we could work together as adults. she was perfect for me, then over a course of a few days; it became really akward, and we wouldnt know what to say to one another. we tried to fix it numerous times, but it didnt work. there is a part of me that tries to get over her, while the other part just wants to break down and cry.
asthewallsclosein 8 months ago
@asthewallsclosein Sweetie, I think you're right in wanting to cry over this. I'm guessing this young lady was your first love. It's definitely painful when a relationship we make plans for and dream about growing old together doesn't work out. You didn't specify if you were together long, but in my experience, no matter what reason there is for a break up to occur, it should always be taken seriously. If you tried to fix it and it still couldn't be fixed, then don't have regrets. You tried. :)
bukroot 8 months ago
@TrueMNgirl Since u have the same friends, i'd say treat him like just another friend. even if u don't feel like it, or if it hurts. if any1 insults u they aren't ur friends so u shouldn't care what their immature opinion is. be strong. no better way to prove u're the mature one than to just act unperturbed. u know there will be better guys out there who will treat u better. plus, he'll wonder why u don't care and perhaps that will make him feel guilty enough to give u the explanation u deserve
bukroot 8 months ago
@TrueMNgirl Sorry to tell you this, but someone who breaks up with you in such a cruel way is NOT perfect for you. No matter how nice a relationship is, if it ends like that, then it wasn't worth your time, girl. What i suggest is going to sound like it wont help: be grateful for all the good memories he gave you but accept the fact that he didn't respect you, otherwise he wouldn't treat you like this. not after being together for a year. breaking up over a text?? you don't need that coward.
bukroot 8 months ago
Thanks- this is helping. Really useful video- thank you
mosckw123 8 months ago
@mosckw123 You're welcome. :) Glad to help.
bukroot 8 months ago
Im going through my first heart break, and go damn it hurts..im someone who has gone thorugh so many bad situations and experiences, such as low self esteem, people touching me inappropriately, and not trusting others. This guy was the only one that truely made me happy...he says he loves me, but still donesnt want to be with me, that doesnt make sense. i need an explanation..please? im so confused...
TheMsSkellington101 8 months ago
@TheMsSkellington101 Sorry to hear what you're going through. it's never easy. especially if you've already gone through a whole bunch of other unpleasant situations. trust me, i know where you're coming from. before my first heart-break i had been through so much i tried to commit suicide...twice! but you know what helped me realize that it's gonna get better? that there's always someone else out there who will love me just as much, if not more as the previous guy. message me if you wanna talk.
bukroot 8 months ago
I was dating this guy and me and him didn't even talk really. We went to the same school, and he really liked me so I decided to be his 'girlfriend.' Now, after we broke up, he still tries to talk to me even though he has a new girlfriend today, who might I say, looks a lot like me.
musicgirl2966 8 months ago
@musicgirl2966 I don't see why this should bother you. Personally, i think it's very healthy to maintain civilize contact with your ex. i mean they DID mean something to you while you we together.
bukroot 8 months ago
i needed this thank you so much
Salvadorsson 9 months ago
@Salvadorsson :) You're welcome. Best of luck.
bukroot 9 months ago
i couldnt fit my bed in my box :'(
Harleymurdock27 10 months ago
@Harleymurdock27 Please don't tell me your ex bought your bed? Coz the fact that you guys made love in it (i'm hoping that's what you meant) is the hardest thing you're going to have to get over. There's really no easy way to do it, but if you don't try you will never get past it.
bukroot 10 months ago
ughh.... i treated that woman like gold, spent the last ten months going to bed with her and waking up to her. i had some control and trust issues, but only because she said she cheated on an ex... which made me worried the entire relationship that it would happen, which, evidently, made it happen... she cheated on me. she cheated on me, came home and said "i dont love you, that's why i fucked somebody else". what a blow to my ego that was.... been down and out the past few weeks.
Netlocd 10 months ago
@Netlocd The way i see it, you should be glad you got rid of a girl who didn't respect you. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Those things are very hard to change. If she could just fall out of love that easily, then it wasn't going to last anyway. You should be thankful it ended before you guys got even more serious. You deserve someone who loves and respects you. Someone who can see how special you are and who won't take you for granted.
bukroot 10 months ago
Good job on this and I totally agree.
artistginger9 10 months ago
@artistginger9 Thank you. It took a while to make, but i believe it was worth it. :)
bukroot 10 months ago
Hello Rose, I can't believe I've been so stupid. A few days ago my ex and I got back in contact by phone, we just talked normally and avoided talking about the break-up. However, over the weekend I became suspicious, just intuition, so i checked the dating sight where we first met, and behold, there he was with a new profile, just 2 weeks after ending our engagement. I begin to wonder how long he's been there. I've been hit by a train. I know I don't want him back now. Emma xx
trombonegirl64 10 months ago
@trombonegirl64 i'm so sorry to hear that, Emma. :( but on the other hand, i'm also glad that you found out early so you can move on with your life and find someone more deserving. this man obviously doesn't respect you OR himself.
bukroot 10 months ago
Hello Rose, firstly thank you for taking the time to reply to my comments, it really is appreciated by myself, and I am sure by all of the other people you respond to. Now at the age of 46, I have enough experience of life to know everything you are saying to myself and others is right, but as you know during times of emotional stress our logic and sane thinking is not always at the forefront. Probably more so for us women as we do tend to be more emotional than men. Many thanks, Emma xx
trombonegirl64 10 months ago
@trombonegirl64 awww! Thank you for your kind words, Emma! :) I'm so very flattered that you appreciate my advice and the time i put into my comments. trust me, my logic and sane thinking totally disappears when it comes to my own relationships. :P i guess we're only capable of logical thought when it's for a situation we're not emotionally attached to. strange how that little detail can throw our entire thinking system out of whack. :P
bukroot 10 months ago
Hi Rose, in answer to your question, he was the one who broke up with me. He spent the night at my place and just packed his stuff up at 07.30 in the morning, then demanded the ring back after pushing me around and getting rather nasty. I know I am better off now, but the loneliness is killing me, there's nobody to talk to except my cat, so the conversation is rather one-sided. xx
trombonegirl64 10 months ago
@trombonegirl64 if he treated you badly and pushed you around and was nasty to you, then i don't see how you could miss such a person. there are so many other decent people you could talk to. i don't think you're missing out that he's not there. you're so much better off for sure. he broke up with you in a very disrespectful way.
bukroot 10 months ago
Thank you Rose for such sensible words from someone so young. I needed reminding of these things since my engagement broke up last weekend, and life has been so lonely since then. I have managed to resist contacting him, though I really want to, as I miss just talking, even though I would not have him back after all that he has done, and I was not happy in a relationship where he could only be bothered to see me once a month, as the 82 mile drive to my place for the weekend was too much :-( x
trombonegirl64 10 months ago
@trombonegirl64 thank you for your comment. i'm sorry to hear about your engagement not working out. sorry if this is nosy of me, but did you break up with him or he you? because it sounds like you did. which is probably why you are so strong about it so soon after. you're better off though, coz if he couldn't be bothered to make a 3 hour drive, then he wasn't marriage material. you deserve someone better. i mean, i know people whose marriages have lasted when they live on different continents.
bukroot 10 months ago
awwww thanks<3 this was a great video btw it really opened my eyes.
getoutmyfaceho3 10 months ago
@getoutmyfaceho3 really? that's wonderful! :)
bukroot 10 months ago
welllll i sorta messed up rule number 1 by cutting off contact w/ my friends =/
getoutmyfaceho3 10 months ago
@getoutmyfaceho3 That's ok. You can still fix it. those who were really your friends will forgive you, if you ask to hang out again. :) and there's always the possibility of making new ones.
bukroot 10 months ago
So I already commented on this video, but I need advice. I got dumped by my first love in november, and haven't seen him since (he lives an hour away) and now this girl in my friend group is taking him to my senior prom. so the first time i will see him is at my senior prom with another girl. i dont want to skip prom though, i can't let him ruin it for me. any ideas?!? i dont want to spend the whole night crying in the bathroom..haha
sarahjaneh37 11 months ago
@sarahjaneh37 i agree that you shouldn't skip prom just to avoid him. part of growing up is being mature about exes. there will be many situations when you will see them with the new women in their lives and some of the time you will know those women. but there is no sure-er sign that you're over him than being a adult about seeing them together. if he did it on purpose to get at you, it'll baffle him how strong you are. if he's just that ignorant, then it will wake him up. either way, you win.
bukroot 11 months ago
@itskaylahhhoesxo haha yup! I get a lot of my material online. Thanx for stopping by.
bukroot 11 months ago
you got this off WikiHow!!! Lol
ItsKayluhhHoesxo 11 months ago
what a shitload of fuck...i might have believed this bitch if she said the best way to get over a breakup is to go shopping and partying with the girls, while having weeks of casual sex with anonymous partners
suchafool990 11 months ago
@suchafool990 You've made it blatantly clear that SOMEONE still isn't over their ex. And actually i DID imply that going out with friends, spoiling yourself and having fun is part of the road to getting back on the right track. It's on How to Get Over Your Ex - Part 2.
bukroot 11 months ago 2
@bukroot actually I've been single for years, but I see this behavior and how guys are treated everywhere I look.
and so what if I was recently dumped myself, are you saying then that automatically invalidate the injustice and pain I'm dealing with? parasite
suchafool990 11 months ago
@suchafool990 i said nothing of the sort. i merely brought to your attention that my advice is 4 people who believe they need it & wish to accept it. i'm reaching out to help people who have been where i used to be because i know how much it hurts & how lost it can feel. i'm trying to be a good person. why does that bother you so much? this video is not targeted towards girls. the tips R 4 men & women who have been having a hard break up. of course some men are treated badly. they need love, too
bukroot 11 months ago
I just broke up with a guy I'd been dating for 4 years, and this video helped me realize the world really isn't crashing down on top of me. It may feel crappy now, but I feel better knowing that it's ok to feel bad now, and there are steps I can take to healthily remove him from my life. Thanks for posting this!
merrybritt19 11 months ago
@merrybritt19 You're welcome. :) People often underestimate just how much the person who does the breaking up is hurting, because they all tend to focus on the one who was dumped as the "victim". They don't realize that it's actually sometimes harder to be the one to make the decision to separate. It is definitely OK to feel bad, but trust me: it does get better. SO MUCH BETTER! ;)