This is soo true , thats what happened to me last year all my friends that were girls like left while we were fighting and it killed me inside cuz i had no one to talk too at all. But then things got resolved and i go to thereapy too.
Hi Susan . I am a boy and a girl told all my other friend to stop talking to me. They listened to her. except for my real friends. I don't know what to do please help :L
Ive went through therapists and they have been all male, I rather talk to you susan about it, get advice from you! I realized that hearing an older women who's matured would know what its like since you were once a girl before. Now, im insecure of being friends with girls even if they're innocent.
They were following me around, making fun of me in my face, just totally nasty to me for no reason. But then i figured out they were jealous of my face, my heart and my brain! I feel as though that girls say i don't get along with other girls but yet they're the ones starting to conflict. Ive had girls try to go after the guys i liked, trying to tell them not to like me. Ive been bullied at work for 5 to 6 months before at jobs, had it took me a year and 6 months to find another one.
I agree! I'm 26yrs old, I'm a loner with no real friends. I'm having problems being friends with girls, im actually an adult, the girls who were bullying me were older then me, the same age as me. They were ignoring me for no reason, Leaving me out, trying to imitate my looks, trying to mimick my personality and everything about me but yet they were gossiping about me, harassing me and trying to find out every little thing about me to spite me. I have became isloated in my own comfort zone.
It seems like you were implying that girls (as different from boys) dont actually use bullying as a way to establish any hierarchy and status within the group.
That just begs the question of why do they bother to bully? or is it really bullying or just random acts of abuse?
Good questions. Bullying in any form is not random. It is used by either gender and at all ages to establish power at the cost of others. RA is just one form of bullying.
SusanFee - youre correct in almost every respect, except when you suggest that men and boys aren't subjected to this treatment, and injured by it just as women and girls are injured by it. Also, communication between men and boys is definitely not all about dominance and aggression.
@johntheother Thanks for your feedback. You're correct - while RA is more prevalent between girls than boys, it does not rule out that it takes place in male culture.
@St37One Thanks for pointing out that RA is a form of bullying! I agree with your description of what RA encompasses, therefore learning more about conflict resolution is imperative.
Relational Aggression is very alive among adult women also.
coreyhabbas 2 months ago
girls can be very mean, especially in high school. they really need to stop being so mean to each other. it can be very hurtful.
crystalguada24 9 months ago
This is soo true , thats what happened to me last year all my friends that were girls like left while we were fighting and it killed me inside cuz i had no one to talk too at all. But then things got resolved and i go to thereapy too.
ArmorForAshley 9 months ago
Hi Susan . I am a boy and a girl told all my other friend to stop talking to me. They listened to her. except for my real friends. I don't know what to do please help :L
andreworeilly1996 1 year ago
Ive went through therapists and they have been all male, I rather talk to you susan about it, get advice from you! I realized that hearing an older women who's matured would know what its like since you were once a girl before. Now, im insecure of being friends with girls even if they're innocent.
AngelaChapman02 1 year ago
They were following me around, making fun of me in my face, just totally nasty to me for no reason. But then i figured out they were jealous of my face, my heart and my brain! I feel as though that girls say i don't get along with other girls but yet they're the ones starting to conflict. Ive had girls try to go after the guys i liked, trying to tell them not to like me. Ive been bullied at work for 5 to 6 months before at jobs, had it took me a year and 6 months to find another one.
AngelaChapman02 1 year ago
I agree! I'm 26yrs old, I'm a loner with no real friends. I'm having problems being friends with girls, im actually an adult, the girls who were bullying me were older then me, the same age as me. They were ignoring me for no reason, Leaving me out, trying to imitate my looks, trying to mimick my personality and everything about me but yet they were gossiping about me, harassing me and trying to find out every little thing about me to spite me. I have became isloated in my own comfort zone.
AngelaChapman02 1 year ago
It seems like you were implying that girls (as different from boys) dont actually use bullying as a way to establish any hierarchy and status within the group.
That just begs the question of why do they bother to bully? or is it really bullying or just random acts of abuse?
St37One 1 year ago
Good questions. Bullying in any form is not random. It is used by either gender and at all ages to establish power at the cost of others. RA is just one form of bullying.
SusanFee 1 year ago
SusanFee - youre correct in almost every respect, except when you suggest that men and boys aren't subjected to this treatment, and injured by it just as women and girls are injured by it. Also, communication between men and boys is definitely not all about dominance and aggression.
johntheother 1 year ago
@johntheother Thanks for your feedback. You're correct - while RA is more prevalent between girls than boys, it does not rule out that it takes place in male culture.
SusanFee 1 year ago
She is totally wrong about relational agression.
Althouth it is covert, it is still bullying just the same, and it is about competition, conflict, dominance, and heirarchy.
You dont mess with the queen bee.
It is also about lies, gossip, rumors, and exclusion.
St37One 1 year ago
@St37One Thanks for pointing out that RA is a form of bullying! I agree with your description of what RA encompasses, therefore learning more about conflict resolution is imperative.
SusanFee 1 year ago
I am doing a group now regarding this topic at work.
I am very excited to support these girls
tarynfuller 2 years ago
i agree i am a girl and have faced female bullying,guys usually fight or end up hitting each other.But girls start romo
rs and such
khoskins12 3 years ago