The Gregory Mantell Show -- Parental Alienation, Part 2

[notevolissimo]

I especially would like more information about Dr. Jane Major. She touched me. She knows how cruel these people are. No one understand or understood what i was dealing with. I am alone in this country. I don't have other relatives, but my daughters. I know there is no help for me. I pray that God will give me strength and show me how to deal with grief. I know they are not coming back to me ever. i know this in the pit of my stomach. Please help me to get in touch with Dr. Major

[notevolissimo]

Thank you Gregory, for your show. I am a 50 years old single mother who have suffered severe PAS for the last 8 years. My adult daughters have abandoned me during breast cancer, chemo therapy and other severe situations. Even though I was a stay home mom and always did things for them and with them, didn't guaranteed their love. My life is devastated by their behavior. I can't afford counseling these days. I just pray God will keep me strong and guide me to the help I need. Thank you

[addvoc8]

Most attorneys & women's supporters advise moms to make False Abuse Allegations as normal, primary means to win custody & divorce, winner takes all. 3/4 of divorced DADS in my area experience false allegations PLUS parental alienation.

Most parental alienation accompanies HER false allegations resulting in mothers having sole custody with most dads alienated from their kids.

Most GAL's & other court hangers-on support the rot lest they lose their seat at this banquet on children's flesh.

[usmcoth]

Grief counselling? You say living in their past when the fact of the matter is that his goes on for years. I have been dealing with Parental Alienation for more than 8 years. Try dealing with that. Each day it doesn't go away and until the courts hold the alienator accountable then the cycle of abuse will not be resolved. Counselling is just a band aid on a wound that needs serious surgery. WheresDADDY org

[usmcoth]

You are still commingling Parental Alienation with Parental Denigration. They are like completely separate issues. Parental Alienation is an act of KIDNAPPING where Parental Denigration is Brain Washing. For anyone who has not experienced Parental Alienation has no right to say anything on this subject. Parental Alienation is a 75% women vs. 25% men but the bigger picture is 100% against the children. Courts need to be held accountable for promoting and failure to enforce the orders.

[lian8us]

I am currently going through this with my teenage daughter. I only found out about this syndrome few months ago. She talks like him and accused me of so many hurtful things that he can't say to me because I didn't let me talk me down. I don't know what to do right now because I can't get legal help since it is an international issue. Have anyone experience this internationally? Please advise. Thank you...

[jlholloway1972]

@lian8us

Hi. I live in the UK, my ex and 3 children in the US, and yes, there's severe PAS, so much so that my children call me by my first name. I understand your hurt - I'm so sorry. I've gone through legal aid in the state/county that retains jurisdiction over the custody agreement. I used them in the divorce and in hearings thereafter (despite living overseas). If this doesn't work for your situation, contact the embassy to see what help might be available. Good luck and best wishes.

[BottleCapLureGuy]

I am currently going through this. I have been charged with 6 charges against my kids. Its amazing the lies coming out and how 3 kids are all stating different things. These shows make so much sense. My ex has even taken my daughter who I had custody of from my first marriage. She said recently in court when we first separated she was never going to let her move with me that she is her mom. She has these kids saying heartbreaking things. This is exhausting my funds for a lawyer.

[BottleCapLureGuy]

Crown prosecutor is saying I am slamming his witnesses with false info about brain washing.

[BottleCapLureGuy]

criminal court will not even let me take it back into family court to get the kids and ex assessed. They have a non contact rule in place.

[TSM8088]

I think I'm going to throw up.. Almost everything they discussed has happened to me, including the wild accusations of child abuse, draining of finances, theft of property, parental alienation, slander to friends and community---Everything.

The legal system heavily favours women in these matters and these women and their lawyers follow the playbook closely. They will stop at nothing to "win." Not a word of apology nor one dime of recompense will ever ensue for the devastation and misery caused.

[parentalalienations]

 ireport (dot) cnn (dot) com/docs/DOC-498924 (this is an iReport on CNN). Father falsely accused of and charged with kidnapping - fights back by staging fathers' rights protests in front of court and ex-wife's attorneys' offices.

[DiaryofaDivorcedDad]

After a year of going through this kind of hell, I was able to recognize that I was in fact grieving. I recognized the denial, the anger, the extreme depression. I would like to believe I've arrived at acceptance, but I know I still back slide in to varying stages of anger and depression. The problem is, unlike a loss of life, there is no 'finality" to this kind of grieving. This makes it hard to move forward when there is still a chance in your mind for reconciliation.

[DiaryofaDivorcedDad]

PAS not recognized as a legitimate disorder, yet Dr. Major speaks of the more extreme alienating parents having co-morbid conditions such as borderline personality disorder. So why does the medical/mental health field as well as the family court system not recognize and punish/treat the perpetrator? Also, our court system is adversarial. It's a win or lose system, who has the better legal representation. There is no collaborative mechanism for identifying and dealing effectively with this issue.

[offthehook2]

Yes, my ex did same but it has backfired. I've always talked good about his mum and don't know what has happened; but he said to me..

"Dad, can I stay with you if I want?"

Later, it moved to, "Dad, when I'm 18, I'm leaving mum."

It's weird. She's doing all sorts, shouting, manipulative and me, I'm like, "listen, your pushing our son away from you. Respect his mind, love him."

But she keeps doing things and well, it's backfired on her.

I don't know if any had this.

[siggesatan]

@offthehook2 my ex does it to. and frankly im terrified couse im gona go up in court couse of it.

i resently learned from my dad that he's father did it to him with he's mother, my mother did it to me against my father and now ex does it to me with ouer daughter.

i dont want here to have the same relation ship i got with my parents it ending up by me hating my mother for alinating my father and me. and my father well i cant feel anything toughts him i dont hate him but i dont love him either :(

[offthehook2]

@siggesatan Update, My son is now living with me and ex won't do a thing because they fked him up. They know if it goes to court, he'll speak and say what, why and how.

Anyhow, my son needs a lot of help. The mother messed his mind up. Manipulative. He hates her big time and like I said in other comment - it has backfired against her big time.

I wish people put their children first than beliefs, who is right and wrong. That no one wins here. No one. The children will get hurt big time.

[siggesatan]

@offthehook2 oh either way maby there is a way of helping him? to have it back fire is something that is ecual devistating to parents child. cous in the end what ever the outcome they always end up with out the other parent no mather if its the father or mother.

in my case i lost a mother from my hatred toughts her and a father that i never had the choise of get to know

[alvarezrod]

This is scary & a fact of life for many. I have 30 yr old who is completely brainwashed as a result of PAS. The saddest thing is that she's been robbed of a relationship with me and her entire family, aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, stepmom and sister. The most ironic fact is that she refuses to explore the truth and open up to the possibilities of loving her father and getting to know me. She does not act normal in terms of exploring healthy relationships, thanks to her demonic Mother.

[asynkronos]

Excellent video. I divorced an extreme NPD (9/9 traits) but he was undiagnosed, like most. He was a successful professional in public and in private a stealth abuser. No one believed me - he fooled everyone, even his attorney, who was also a clinical psychologist! When he violently injured me and I called 911, he told the police I'd fallen and they believed him. He convinced our kids I was a drug addict but I was only taking an antidepressant. It was a nightmare.

[aatorres5]

@asynkronos YES i too have a extremist manipulator.. and I too was when police involved was always the wronged one because he was of a military background. I to this day am fighting for me and my kids lives.. my family has been torn apart by a false allegation and that my daughter is the one suffering... what makes the whole thing so much worse is there are REAL people who are experiencing molestation and child abuse and this is going to make it that much easier for REAL

[aatorres5]

@asynkronos pedophiles and molestars a chance to get away... This is a vicious lewd allegation to gain control and power.. just so evil to do to children.... I pray for everyone and anyone going through such a horrific scenario that they can once again be a family and overcome what has already been done. I really wish everyone the best as I am one who knows.

[SacredSocietyAP]

I am going through this in the worst way..SOMEONE PLEASE HELP!!

[Burqua12]

I somehow like this part, although it's of course sad:

15:54

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(...) but here's the problem: the people that are making decisions in my life, are not seeing us together. They're looking at the notes, that these people are taking, but they're not seeing us. So they can't see the love and the affection and, and what a great relationship we have and, and it's unbelievable...

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That's so true!

I can relate to that, indeed.

Why would this specific parent need supervised visits?

That's insane!

[Burqua12]

Until now, I wasn't aware of that the US was an equally radically feministic country as Sweden.

[Burqua12]

It's just like it works in Sweden...it's incredible!

[alnot01]

~1 year ago, a father flew to my city to pick up his 2 kids by his first marriage, and take them to his home for the summer. The kids became so hysterical in the airport, that the police were called, and the kids would not go on the plane until they were sedated. This story landed on p. 1 of the local paper. I now smell PAS, which the news wrongly failed to mention.

[alnot01]

Women have great power in the realm of human relationships and family ties. As Lord Acton told us 150 years ago, the greater the power, the greater the potential for abuse of that power.

[alnot01]

2/3 of divorce are started by women who are angry and exasperated at their spouses (often for good reasons). What leads them to divorce also leads them to think that their ex is a very bad parent. They convince their children of this, so that the children become sullen or even hysterical when required to spend time with their fathers. Courts do not want to unravel this ball of wax. Dad is checkmated until the kids turn 18. Mom wins a victory more complete than what the legal system can deliver.

[misteeq64]

@alnot01 Has a woman i am a shame to say that you are right .I went to court last week with my husband the judge send him to mediation can you believe this? Mediation with a crazy histerical woman

[julesdownunder]

Oh my, this is so true what she says about counsellors & courts not understanding or trying to avoid labelling people who are acting out personality disorders, especially narcissism. They don't know how to deal with the level of lying involved - OUTRAGEOUS lies. Its so bad for the children's minds. There simply cannot be two such vastly different versions of truth. What do you think this does to the children's minds if even the courts & counsellors can't get their head around it?

[asynkronos]

@julesdownunder I so agree! Most alleged professionals are NOT trained to deal with the level of lying. Also they're fooled by fact that many of these people are well-educated, professional types. They're master manipulators and extremely convincing liars. 

[skiph56]

My children are partially alienated by my ex. It has been a slow gentle brainwash. Both my kids have not said they love me in years. They do not even understand it. The list of what my ex has done to try to keep me out of their lives is to long for this one post. All I can tell you, being the target is no fun.

[Italiangent1]

I agree, same for my experiences.

I hope this helps you as it has me. It is Gods Word written in scripture on how to deal with this...

Romans 12-17-21

I fight the fight and never give up, only with his words in mind.

[captain2075]

What about charges filed against the accusing parties and those who realize there truly is no problem of molestation or abuse?

[Delftsblauw100]

I am a Dutch woman and I do not understand everything in this video. Who wants to write the text for me in document or make the english titles in this video? I would be very grateful to you. Maybe I can use this to get my son back who is a victim of PAS. I haven't seen him for almost two years know.

[joebeth02]

PAS is real! I don't hear much about PAS caused by grandparents, friends, etc...the supporting caste in many cases are worse than the parent. In many cases they may even be the fuel that drives this sort of behavior...

[CRServices]

Excellent Video and knowledge to share with others whose role is to help children, many maybe suffering from PAS. Please send your concerns and comments to others in your community about the reality of PAS in our courts. Educate others. Help save children from this horrific abuse!

[saturateu]

WELCOME TO AMERIKKA

[johnsampson03]

My PAS problem from my ex wife who is worse case Obsessive Alienator is still going strong after 20 years...You just have to let go and move on.

[caltrop69]

I find it hard to believe that there's any question as to whether manipulative parents exist, or not.

Brainwashing a child in order to exorcise their other parent from it's life, can't be argued to be in it's best interest.

[Delanddale]

What is widely overlooked is when there is forced visitation by the courts when a child is abused by one of the parents. Then someone id fool enough to force the children to have visitation with that parent. That is crazy !!! This is what happen to my friend and me and it is the mother who is the abuser.

[shesexquisite]

We deal with this with my husband's ex. It is a sickness. She wants the kids to love her more. She is a drama queen and plays the victim card.

[jdsonicx]

False Allegations is child abuse at it's highest form

[jdsonicx]

This is what i am going through It is a shameful and it is HELL and It hurts my child that is what drives me crazy

[ykmsp]

Somebody ought to implement a full-proof system effective enough to tackle alienators head-on and wipe out any of their PA attempts.

I am from Singapore, and yes, Parental Alienation DOES exists in my country, and it is definitely still well and alive living "in a can".

Lets see how long more we have before the can opens up...

[ykmsp]

Somebody ought to implement a full-proof system effective enough to tackle alienators head-on and wipe out any of their PA attempts.

I am from Singapore, and yes, Parental Alienation DOES exists in my country, and it is definitely still well and alive living "in a can".

Lets see how long more we have before the can opens up...

[evesrib]

My husband and I deal with the aggressive/hostile aspect frequently. We have yet ANOTHER court date scheduled in which his ex-wife has filed more abuse accusations and is trying to gain full custody.

Recently she told their 11-year-old daughter to tell school officials anytime we "argue" and is now using that in an effort to prove we are "abusive" to get custody. In reality, most normal kids do not go crying to their school principal every time their parents have an "argument".

[sdamron67]

PAS is real. And MUST be dealt with, and They MUST punish whoever is commiting PAS. This should be against the law, and severe punishment MUST be inposed. Period!