Behind Closed Doors - the truth about domestic violence in Australia

[mraNewfoundland]

The problem with this plan is that it only addresses half the problem. Domestic violence should never be approached as a problem only affects one sex when it affects both studies in many countries have shown this ans yet there seems to be some sort of disconnect that we only see abuse when it comes to women, when it happens to men society don't really seem to care. This domestic violence issue does not take into account that when it comes to children women are the abusers more often then men.

[FilmStretchAustralia]

@mraNewfoundland thank you for your comments. We do appreciate that domestic violence also affects men and children. In this video we were focused on getting some sorties from women as we had a nil budget forcing a tight focus. It would be great to do a doco covering both sexes are perpetrators and as victims and also looking at abuse of children (though it's heavy material to shoot and work with for an extended time.... worth it though). Thank you again for your comments.

Claire Stretch

[mraNewfoundland]

@FilmStretchAustralia Ofcourse you realize that in presenting the topic as you have chosen to do so you play to the new societial norms that it is easier to see women as victims then it is to see men. Not to take away from women that have gone through such a terrible time with this problem. You are only presenting a half truth, in presenting this issue to be truthful to it you should of presented it truthfully that men experience much of the same experiences plus the added fact that man will not

[mraNewfoundland]

@mraNewfoundland no see him as a man, or weak. That women have control issues and are violent and if the statistics are true, (I have no reason to believe they are not true) are just as much the perpetrators of this terrible crime.

I am so very passionate about this topic because I was one of them that made excuses for the beatings that I had recieved even one day the doctor that I had to see because she had hit me and I required medical attention for it recognizeing it confronted her and I

[mraNewfoundland]

@mraNewfoundland defended her, even though I was the one that was being hurt and was showing the bruses on my face (btw I never ever reacted and hit her or grabed her arm to stop her from hitting me) I would just take it. For the longest while I hoped that things would change that it would get better.

I was always to blame for her anger and looseing her temper that she would resort to physical violence, which in most cases left me wondering what I had done. You see I was blameing myself

[mraNewfoundland]

@mraNewfoundland for her violence.

So when I see this issue being presented as you have done I get upset because it ignors the other half of the population that are affected by this, and I don't know about you but I am getting sick of getting this feeling that society really don't care about my being hurt and being a victim and being bombarded every day with images of violent men and the media on its heals saying that this is something that men do and never mention violent women at all.

[FilmStretchAustralia]

@mraNewfoundland yes I agree that full spectrum coverage would have been better. It was, however, a pro-bono project, done on a zero budget and tight time frame, so this wasn't possible. I love the idea of telling the whole truth - I have to raise the question, however, of whether subjective beings (eg humans) can ever really do this - especially now that main stream media is so very, vary far away from modelling non-biased, objective reporting. The truth is too inconvenient to too many.

[FilmStretchAustralia]

Thank you for your comments addvoc8 & Samantha. Yes, women can be abusers as well. This doco features the stories of some people who have experienced abuse. Yes they are women, that was the choice of the producer of this doco. I tend to look beyond gender and simply see the suffering human beings can cause each other and look for ways to reduce this. 'First learn to do no harm' that's got to happen before we can even start to love and add joy to our own lives and the lives of others.

[addvoc8]

Many studies show that women create more damage mostly due to women using weapons in domestic violence 3X more than men. Virtually all truely scientific studies show that women abuse their dating, live-in and married partners as much as or more than men abuse women. The majority of studies and stats likewise clearly show mothers abuse and murder their kids more - and that matches what feminists tell us: "A parent who abuses their kids is more likely to abuse their partner too" and vice versa.

[TelegramSamantha]

all of this talk about it only effecting women and children is a load of shit.

a lot of men are also victims of domestic/family violence, not as much as women but they are STILL victims in certain cases.

god damn.

[curlykathy52]

The more people talk about domestic violence in a real way the better. The more people who have experienced domestic violence who can speak up to dispel the myths the better. The more people can be aware that there is help out there the better. I am part of an online support community for people who experienced abuse in a relationship. We off peer support and advice along with links to real life services. We can be found at Our Place Online.