That connection can be strengthened in numerous ways though. Especially via skype or blogtv. Skype is the best, it's as close as you can get to sitting down and chatting like you would with friends. That's where I use to build stronger bonds with those I'm interested in getting to know.
PS. Thanks for sending that PM last week, I'm really enjoying your videos.
I agree with everything you've said. Not so much YouTube but on LiveJournal I have those I would consider my friends and who I've talked to on the phone or have sent me birthday presents and I've sent them birthday presents etc. but I'm closer with those who I see IRL and they're the ones I'd go to with a problem. I like having friends online though because you can find people with your interests a lot easier who think like you, I think IRL that can be harder to come by. :)
I posted my video as a response to this, even though it doesn't DIRECTLY deal with the subject at hand like my other responses have done, it is very much related.
I really hate the term "IRL" because it makes it seem like this video that I'm watching of you speaking dosn't exist, like you're not real, just a figment of my of somebody's immagination. You don't actually exist!
The advantage with being on the internet is that I can find people who's interests I directly share. It's realy hard to find people who are into arty stuff like I am when you live in a town of only 800 people... but also at the same time, you can't see the people online like you can "IRL", you don't have that connection of being with them.
I think the way you and I met was just awesome. The fact that you designed the map that I put on my T-shirt and then you were the person directly behind me in line at the NF gathering. That was pure destiny.
What I've found about online friendships is that while the relationship is more infrequent, it's also more constant. With IRL friends, particularly in high school or college, there comes a time eventually when you don't get to see them all the time. Also, if you live in an area like I do, you have a better chance of finding friends who share your interests online than you do IRL.
Yeah, it seems like with IRL friends the proximity can be all that holds a friendship together but online distance doesn't matter so it's all about common interests and choosing to stay friends.
I actually haven't really made any really good friends on Youtube or teh interwebz so I will exempt myself from dicussing this topic on this video on the account of being incredibly underqualified.
I think Youtube friends (or any online friends, for that matter) are more likely to have some interest/passion in common. Online friendships develop because both people spend a lot of time in some community, like a game or a forum. In real life, people often find themselves interacting with people with whom they have nothing in common. These interactions continue IRL just because people are in close proxmity. Online, however, we have more of a choice of our friendships. Ugh, character limit.
Yeah I hadn't seen your videos, but I recognized your work. If scones were online all time like they used to I'd probably talk to everybody everyday from that glorious 5 days (I met everyone in irl first really). The thing with me is I'm just too busy to actually pick up a phone and call everyone, and I think that's what's great about videos, you can each have the conversation in your own time.
Hopefully, whenever my new phone comes in the mail, I'll be able to better communicate (aka texting)
I've met most of my online friends through the Nerdfighter Ning. Now, we communicate daily through Twitter and watch each other's videos here. Sometimes it's a better way of communicating other than 140 characters at a time. :) So, I haven't actually made more-than-casual-friends on YouTube, other than watching other's videos and commenting, but not a constant communication. Yeah, I definitely agree that it takes more of an effort to stay friends than IRL, especially on YouTube.
And, while IRL friends and I have certain things in common, they don't have the connection I have w/ online friends (NF, HP, YT, etc.). So, it's a good mix, I think.
[Hope you don't mind my long comments on your videos (and probably going off topic a few times). I try to keep it short and to the point, but it never turns out that way. ^.^]
That connection can be strengthened in numerous ways though. Especially via skype or blogtv. Skype is the best, it's as close as you can get to sitting down and chatting like you would with friends. That's where I use to build stronger bonds with those I'm interested in getting to know.
PS. Thanks for sending that PM last week, I'm really enjoying your videos.
fallofautumndistro 2 years ago
Thanks so much :) I'm glad I sent it too, I really like getting to know you better through your comments.
xperpetualmotion 2 years ago
I agree with everything you've said. Not so much YouTube but on LiveJournal I have those I would consider my friends and who I've talked to on the phone or have sent me birthday presents and I've sent them birthday presents etc. but I'm closer with those who I see IRL and they're the ones I'd go to with a problem. I like having friends online though because you can find people with your interests a lot easier who think like you, I think IRL that can be harder to come by. :)
kaibaonfire 2 years ago
Yup, I agree. And even if you do find a few people in real life who have the same interests, there are SO many more online.
xperpetualmotion 2 years ago
I posted my video as a response to this, even though it doesn't DIRECTLY deal with the subject at hand like my other responses have done, it is very much related.
themefund 2 years ago
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BlowwFish 2 years ago
I really hate the term "IRL" because it makes it seem like this video that I'm watching of you speaking dosn't exist, like you're not real, just a figment of my of somebody's immagination. You don't actually exist!
BlowwFish 2 years ago
The advantage with being on the internet is that I can find people who's interests I directly share. It's realy hard to find people who are into arty stuff like I am when you live in a town of only 800 people... but also at the same time, you can't see the people online like you can "IRL", you don't have that connection of being with them.
BlowwFish 2 years ago
I really think this video deserves a response. Hopefully I'll post it sometime Sunday. You make me think way too much :D
BlowwFish 2 years ago
But you're right. I am just a figment of your imagination :P
And I can't wait to see your response!
xperpetualmotion 2 years ago
In real life.
xperpetualmotion 2 years ago
I think the way you and I met was just awesome. The fact that you designed the map that I put on my T-shirt and then you were the person directly behind me in line at the NF gathering. That was pure destiny.
IAmTheBookie 2 years ago
Yes, that was pretty awesome :D
xperpetualmotion 2 years ago
What I've found about online friendships is that while the relationship is more infrequent, it's also more constant. With IRL friends, particularly in high school or college, there comes a time eventually when you don't get to see them all the time. Also, if you live in an area like I do, you have a better chance of finding friends who share your interests online than you do IRL.
bandgeek8408 2 years ago
Yeah, it seems like with IRL friends the proximity can be all that holds a friendship together but online distance doesn't matter so it's all about common interests and choosing to stay friends.
xperpetualmotion 2 years ago
I actually haven't really made any really good friends on Youtube or teh interwebz so I will exempt myself from dicussing this topic on this video on the account of being incredibly underqualified.
tehjummie 2 years ago
That's too bad :( If you want to make more friends, I'm sure you'll be able to find tons of people on Youtube and in the ning :D
xperpetualmotion 2 years ago
I think Youtube friends (or any online friends, for that matter) are more likely to have some interest/passion in common. Online friendships develop because both people spend a lot of time in some community, like a game or a forum. In real life, people often find themselves interacting with people with whom they have nothing in common. These interactions continue IRL just because people are in close proxmity. Online, however, we have more of a choice of our friendships. Ugh, character limit.
tsully87 2 years ago
That's a good point. It's awesome that online we can really become friends with people who have the same weird obsessive interests that we do :)
xperpetualmotion 2 years ago
Yeah I hadn't seen your videos, but I recognized your work. If scones were online all time like they used to I'd probably talk to everybody everyday from that glorious 5 days (I met everyone in irl first really). The thing with me is I'm just too busy to actually pick up a phone and call everyone, and I think that's what's great about videos, you can each have the conversation in your own time.
Hopefully, whenever my new phone comes in the mail, I'll be able to better communicate (aka texting)
onebre 2 years ago
Yeah, it's too bad scones are practically never online anymore. But I like that, about having conversations in our own time.
xperpetualmotion 2 years ago
I've met most of my online friends through the Nerdfighter Ning. Now, we communicate daily through Twitter and watch each other's videos here. Sometimes it's a better way of communicating other than 140 characters at a time. :) So, I haven't actually made more-than-casual-friends on YouTube, other than watching other's videos and commenting, but not a constant communication. Yeah, I definitely agree that it takes more of an effort to stay friends than IRL, especially on YouTube.
JayAreEmm 2 years ago
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And, while IRL friends and I have certain things in common, they don't have the connection I have w/ online friends (NF, HP, YT, etc.). So, it's a good mix, I think.
[Hope you don't mind my long comments on your videos (and probably going off topic a few times). I try to keep it short and to the point, but it never turns out that way. ^.^]
JayAreEmm 2 years ago
No, I love your comments. They're always so insightful :D
And what you described does sound like a good mix. I seem to have the same type of relationships too.
xperpetualmotion 2 years ago