I knew girls who carried Joshua's book around like it was the bible! One couldn't go out for dinner because she was "guarding her heart"... another was "married to Jesus" and wouldn't date. That all sounds very spiritual but isn't it God Himself who said, "It's not good for the man to be alone"? One church I went to labeled guys who showed interest in a girl at church "hunters"- the girls were his prey. Talk about ridiculous! I'm so glad I'm married now! Soooo glad!!!
To answer you, firstly, why do you add things by saying "also"? Secondly, with the desire for a mate comes the possibility of going "crazy" with it, if you will. Its not something added by God, but it does come with the capability to desire a mate. There is such a thing as righteousness and sin.
@jfeucht82 I dont understand your comment. Those verses seem to just say that its not a sin to marry a woman that you cant control your lust over but not marrying her is even better if you can control yourself? Whats your take?
" I kissed dating goodbye was written and published by Joshua Harris when he was 21 and single. Though he does make some good points his thoughts on his way being Christ's way for everyone are not biblical. In my opinion, two people can go out to dinner and actually get to know each other. It can actually happen. Being 26 and securely grounded in my faith, I will look to christ to guide me in my relationships, not 21 year old Joshua Harris who was probably 19 when he began writing the book. Why
Ok seriously 1) people chill out about the yelling it's how they want to preach 2) what is I kissed dating goodbye 3) that guy at the bottom saying we take in this bullcrap ya we do because we are Christians an Christianity is god lookin for men
@Jeffroxhard2 I kissed dating goodbye is a book written by Joshua Harris. It is a good book and it doesn't really talk about stop dating but things a Christian person can do different with the opposite sex. you should check it out it will challenge you in your dealings with the opposite sex and how much time people spend time on themselves instead of spreading the gospel and stuff
@RocknForJesus So unless the entire Christian church is "burning with lust" after what I assume is a person a believer is dating, they shouldn't be so eager to get married just for the heck of it. You must admit it's rare for a Christian today to admit they don't need a spouse, nor are they called to be with one; often they just WANT one. Paul was warning against this selfish extreme.
@natemup Context determines meaning. Paul says in that passage that he thinks its better to stay unmarry, just like he has done [which for him I am sure has helped him further the gospel in that he has all of his attention on Christ; not tempted to have his attention divided between God AND a wife], BUT if you can't control yourself (sexually), then you should go ahead and marry. Point, he is not condemning marriage by any means :)
It's wrong to desire a spouse, when you want a spouse more than you want a fellowship with God; it's called lust: desiring something (not necessarily sexual) more than God. If you continue to walk with God and desire a spouse not out of selfishness ("what can that woman/man do for ME?" and not "how can I serve this person, like how Christ has served His bride, the Church) but as a way to share the love that God has shown you, then you are bringing glory to God.
@TheK1N1 Not always you shouldn't. God wants you to be content with the path your on. Sometimes you might pause on the path to do something, but he wants you to continue. And you should never be content in your relationship with God because there's always room to grow and meet Him.
Was he making fun of "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" at the beginning of this? It sorta seemed like he made a wise crack at the book. Either way, I really love Matt Chandler, but I also like Joshua Harris
For those of you judging Matt, please do realize this is only a 3 min clip. I think we have to listen to it in the context of the entire message, because this could just be the part where he climaxes and thus shouts louder than usual. It does not mean he neglects the other side of the "argument"
I think the "not dating" message is teen focussed. It is not a time to enflame a passion that cannot be quenched for a long time. Once you can support a wife (both financially and spiritually) then you are free to pursue a relationship. But for a teenager, they need to be focussed on training him/herself in God's word and waiting for God's timing.
@RadChristians unfortunately teens are as highly wired to want a mate and for thousands of year teenagers got married, Mary for example, age isn't the problem but society the doesn't allow young men to earn a living enough to support a wife before there 20 plus :)
@theodosiusng Matt Chandler speaks with a passion that few people will ever experience. He can shout all he wants, as long as he is preaching the Word of God.
Yes marriage is not evil, but Paul says "So then, he who marries the virgin does right, but he who does not marry her does better." (1 Cor 7:38). Paul also says "it is better to marry than to burn with passion." (1 Cor 7:9b).
So neither is wrong but virginity if one can sustain it without burning with passion: is better.
He's making it seem like being single and unattached is an awful thing, and it isn't. Just because someone chooses to be single or is going through a dry spell doesn't mean something is wrong with them. People in the clergy do it all the time, so does that make them bad people? Hardly! Prioritizing God over a soulmate can be a very noble and honorable thing if done with a sincere and open heart.
@6672rock no where in this video did he say that it was a bad thing, he's saying that people make the fact that we want to get married a bad thing, he said its okay to be content, but that you still need to grow. Marriage is apart of fellowship. But yea he never said being single is awful.
LOL!!! WOW This is awesome!
kmiller46 1 week ago
He has a great message. But why is he yelling?
agentAA08 1 week ago
Thank you God for giving me a wounderful girlfriend that loves you like a love you God.
Thanks!
theguitarist2007 2 weeks ago
I knew girls who carried Joshua's book around like it was the bible! One couldn't go out for dinner because she was "guarding her heart"... another was "married to Jesus" and wouldn't date. That all sounds very spiritual but isn't it God Himself who said, "It's not good for the man to be alone"? One church I went to labeled guys who showed interest in a girl at church "hunters"- the girls were his prey. Talk about ridiculous! I'm so glad I'm married now! Soooo glad!!!
songsofjesus 2 weeks ago
Amen
Zami9000 3 weeks ago
"men; there is nothing wrong, wicked or evil about wanting a wife"
"he wired you for it, he built you for it"
Did god also wire men to want to spread their seed far and wide? or was this the work of some other less kindly deity?
MrCraniumExplosion 3 weeks ago
@MrCraniumExplosion
To answer you, firstly, why do you add things by saying "also"? Secondly, with the desire for a mate comes the possibility of going "crazy" with it, if you will. Its not something added by God, but it does come with the capability to desire a mate. There is such a thing as righteousness and sin.
RapRoCKeR93 3 weeks ago
Want good teaching on dating, check my video "Why dating is stupid" God'll get you that wife without the need for it.
cliffe98 3 weeks ago
Reminds me of 1 Cor 7:36-38. Seems to me like Chandler thinks he knows better than Paul.
jfeucht82 1 month ago 5
@jfeucht82 I dont understand your comment. Those verses seem to just say that its not a sin to marry a woman that you cant control your lust over but not marrying her is even better if you can control yourself? Whats your take?
NexusCapital 2 weeks ago
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jfeucht82 1 month ago
Well said!
TomHopeful 1 month ago
I'm glad i watched this video.
14brad 1 month ago
Hell Yeah!! Someone finally took down that anoying prick Joshua Harris.
Jacob011 1 month ago 2
hahahahahahahaha yes I LOVE THIS SO MUCH! :) Matt Chandler, you are amazing. I love this video so much!
madelineharpell 1 month ago
I love it when he shouts :D
MissKrystalBonvie 1 month ago
" I kissed dating goodbye was written and published by Joshua Harris when he was 21 and single. Though he does make some good points his thoughts on his way being Christ's way for everyone are not biblical. In my opinion, two people can go out to dinner and actually get to know each other. It can actually happen. Being 26 and securely grounded in my faith, I will look to christ to guide me in my relationships, not 21 year old Joshua Harris who was probably 19 when he began writing the book. Why
worshipingwhisper 1 month ago 5
3 people are convicted, but not condemned! Lol. Love on them pray for them. XD
sideswipejinyoxP 1 month ago 2
"I'm not telling you to hunt...... Camo'd up in Bed Bath and Beyond" haha :)
angsalas 1 month ago 7
great perspective on Christian dating ...even though he starts to sound like SnagglePuss at the end of the video "evennnn". LoL
TheMotleySage 1 month ago
where's the rest of this..I wan't more of it.
Erks3000 1 month ago
Ok seriously 1) people chill out about the yelling it's how they want to preach 2) what is I kissed dating goodbye 3) that guy at the bottom saying we take in this bullcrap ya we do because we are Christians an Christianity is god lookin for men
Jeffroxhard2 1 month ago
@Jeffroxhard2 I kissed dating goodbye is a book written by Joshua Harris. It is a good book and it doesn't really talk about stop dating but things a Christian person can do different with the opposite sex. you should check it out it will challenge you in your dealings with the opposite sex and how much time people spend time on themselves instead of spreading the gospel and stuff
MICHAELLOPEZ17 1 month ago
I wanna hear more!!!
babii929 1 month ago
1 Corinthians 7. For many (most?) Christians, it's better not to get married, for their own sake.
natemup 1 month ago
@natemup But Paul also said to avoid fornication, you should get married.
RocknForJesus 1 month ago
@RocknForJesus So unless the entire Christian church is "burning with lust" after what I assume is a person a believer is dating, they shouldn't be so eager to get married just for the heck of it. You must admit it's rare for a Christian today to admit they don't need a spouse, nor are they called to be with one; often they just WANT one. Paul was warning against this selfish extreme.
natemup 1 month ago
@RocknForJesus realistically, marrying does not take care of that issue. there are wives that withhold sex from their husbands.
0326hkim 1 month ago
@0326hkim NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
RocknForJesus 1 month ago
@natemup Context determines meaning. Paul says in that passage that he thinks its better to stay unmarry, just like he has done [which for him I am sure has helped him further the gospel in that he has all of his attention on Christ; not tempted to have his attention divided between God AND a wife], BUT if you can't control yourself (sexually), then you should go ahead and marry. Point, he is not condemning marriage by any means :)
Singerchik37 1 month ago
@Singerchik37 Agreed. But he's not recommending it to everyone just based on their being a sexually-functioning human, either.
natemup 1 month ago
@natemup I concur.
Singerchik37 1 month ago
wow. that's exactly what i needed to hear. thank you for sharing, confusion is now gone!
kaylashalaylaaaaa 2 months ago
It's wrong to desire a spouse, when you want a spouse more than you want a fellowship with God; it's called lust: desiring something (not necessarily sexual) more than God. If you continue to walk with God and desire a spouse not out of selfishness ("what can that woman/man do for ME?" and not "how can I serve this person, like how Christ has served His bride, the Church) but as a way to share the love that God has shown you, then you are bringing glory to God.
pautpy 2 months ago 3
He sounds like a typical mangina, with a Christian twist. Succorring to women while shaming men. Again.
Wytchfinde 2 months ago
@TheK1N1 Not always you shouldn't. God wants you to be content with the path your on. Sometimes you might pause on the path to do something, but he wants you to continue. And you should never be content in your relationship with God because there's always room to grow and meet Him.
martian712 2 months ago
WOW. this is good.
ChangedForeverxx 2 months ago
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zachpate 2 months ago
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zachpate 2 months ago
Joshua Harris is great but im glad Chandler identified "I kissed dating goodbye" as a practically bad influence on Christian dating...
WhatsYoutubification 3 months ago
YEEEEELLLLLLLIIIIIIIIINNNNNNNGGGGGG!!!!!!
joeltabang 3 months ago 3
Was he making fun of "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" at the beginning of this? It sorta seemed like he made a wise crack at the book. Either way, I really love Matt Chandler, but I also like Joshua Harris
JPizzle31 3 months ago 2
uhmmmm yes. i approve.
thestarsnatcher 3 months ago
For those of you judging Matt, please do realize this is only a 3 min clip. I think we have to listen to it in the context of the entire message, because this could just be the part where he climaxes and thus shouts louder than usual. It does not mean he neglects the other side of the "argument"
tromba25 3 months ago
aside from content, do people actually enjoy listening to preaching that is delivered in an angry tone? I know I don't...
heartgirl40 3 months ago
@heartgirl40 its not angry but passionate
Takemura76 3 months ago 3
I think the "not dating" message is teen focussed. It is not a time to enflame a passion that cannot be quenched for a long time. Once you can support a wife (both financially and spiritually) then you are free to pursue a relationship. But for a teenager, they need to be focussed on training him/herself in God's word and waiting for God's timing.
RadChristians 4 months ago 4
@RadChristians unfortunately teens are as highly wired to want a mate and for thousands of year teenagers got married, Mary for example, age isn't the problem but society the doesn't allow young men to earn a living enough to support a wife before there 20 plus :)
WhatsYoutubification 3 months ago
@WhatsYoutubification Freakin Amen!
Jakyle1 2 months ago 2
good point, i have experienced it myself.
Also, Matt Chandler made me laugh hard here.
MaranathaMaranatha 4 months ago 2
Stop freaking shouting. God.
theodosiusng 4 months ago
@theodosiusng Matt Chandler speaks with a passion that few people will ever experience. He can shout all he wants, as long as he is preaching the Word of God.
jasenXcore 4 months ago 36
@theodosiusng STOP TROLLING GAH
Ridikai 4 months ago
@theodosiusng its called being passionate about truth.
anonazero 3 months ago
Yes marriage is not evil, but Paul says "So then, he who marries the virgin does right, but he who does not marry her does better." (1 Cor 7:38). Paul also says "it is better to marry than to burn with passion." (1 Cor 7:9b).
So neither is wrong but virginity if one can sustain it without burning with passion: is better.
The end.
Antisyncretism 5 months ago 3
This is me...Am not content where is he? L.O.L
ddfrisky 5 months ago
@ddfrisky go look for him.
djking2d 5 months ago
@jrod0989 You can get it on the Village Church website...just go in and search for "The Role of Men".
ArdensSedVirens 5 months ago
where can i get the entire sermon?
jrod0989 6 months ago
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I carnt believe you guys take this bullshit in. Your alllllll fucking braindead and lost.
Pikesterful 6 months ago
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pautpy 6 months ago
He's making it seem like being single and unattached is an awful thing, and it isn't. Just because someone chooses to be single or is going through a dry spell doesn't mean something is wrong with them. People in the clergy do it all the time, so does that make them bad people? Hardly! Prioritizing God over a soulmate can be a very noble and honorable thing if done with a sincere and open heart.
6672rock 6 months ago 2
@6672rock no where in this video did he say that it was a bad thing, he's saying that people make the fact that we want to get married a bad thing, he said its okay to be content, but that you still need to grow. Marriage is apart of fellowship. But yea he never said being single is awful.
wondawomenluvsupaman 6 months ago 19
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zachpate 2 months ago