This women is a narcissist, I wouldn't be surprised if she was having an affair. This is the feeling she is missing that out of control all consuming infatuation that modern women think last forever. when this matures to deeper commitment and building a future and family together they miss that feeling instead of accepting it as a faze that we go through on the way to something more meaningful.
How about this - GET. A. DIVORCE! If she's not happy and cannot make him happy, they both stand a better change of salvaging some kind of decent life going their own way. For fuck's sake. If a man called with the same gripe, Dr. Racist would be like "leave her NOW! - fuck that bitch!"
She made her bed, I think she ought to make the best of the situation. The time to wonder if you love someone is BEFORE you make babies! I honestly don't know how the human race thinks anymore. And yes she was selfish for saying that to her husband.
I have mixed feelings about Dr. Laura and maybe it's not best for a therapist to act the way she does but in a way I can't blame her for being hostile to this woman and other goofy people like her.
Either this woman either realized she didn't love and didn't want to admit it, or for whatever reason she now wishers to deny it whic makes her an idiot, and while I don't wish to jump on the husband, there's alway the possibility he knew he was marrying and unstable person, (continued)
This IS good advice. Forget the delivery that might be a bit harsh & listen to the message. A relationship isn't just what YOU get out of it, but what you give back to the other person. She fraudulantly married this guy making him think he was the world to her knowing she was living a lie at HIS expense. NOW, she shatters his world and HE is at risk of loosing his kids through divorce. Look what she's done to her family. She owns her husband AND kids the world; and then some!
I don't get why people are saying this was good advice....Dr Laura always comes across as an over-talking, disrespectful, rude, and unhelpful piece of trash to me...IMO anyways. I agree, that was downright cruel and unnecessary for that woman to tell her husband that she never loved him, but Dr. Laura is just a rude and unhelpful person and she could've down this better.
@Jazsy No, you're just one of those people that needs a cushion for other people's words. She told it like it was and that was great advice. She's not here to be your friend and kiss ass. She's hear to give you advice. Im sorry but sometimes people tell you what you dont want to hear and sometimes advice is harsh.
@Metheny72 Ugh. Clearly you know me so well...Whatever. That's why it's called an OPINION. Mine is mine, yours is yours. I'm all for true to life advice, but TO ME she is rude and unhelpful, say what you want, but you're not gonna tell me what kind of person I am off a youtube comment...Psssh, Pluhleeze.
@MIKECNW I could wholly agree with your statement, but for the fact that every time I hear Dr. Laura giving advice she is always the same way...I mean, what she is saying isn't really helpful as far as "It's too late" "you're so cruel, he may never get over it" Knowing NOTHING about the background of the situation, NOTHING about who or what this man is she just tells the woman "YOU are broken" all that, and cutting the woman off whenever she is trying to talk. (con.)
@MIKECNW She seems to do this very often when "giving advice" and I know that I would NEVER want her giving me advice because I'd have to go off...Lol. I don't even know if you were intending to respond to me...but hey, TMI.
Thanks for posting this--even though you f-ed up the sound with echo. Hopefully other spoiled little girls will hear it and think twice before getting a man to waste his time on a spoiled brat who doesn't know what she wants
@SellTheBenefits That's a weird thing to say... Not all marriages end like that. If it does, it's because you didn't know the person very well in the first place. I am divorced and I don't get alimony. I get child support, yes, but that's because the D.A. forced my ex husband to do it. He hasn't seen the kid in 16 yrs because of HIS OWN decisions, not mine. I've always told him where I was and where the kid was.
the problem is that people call up these radio stations and ask complete strangers who don't even know their situation to try to help them make decisions they must make by themselves. Dr Laura is good at preaching...but this caller just needs to realize she can decide for herself what is best...if she leaves her husband or stays...it really isn't right or wrong either way...how does Dr. Laura know her husband is so great anyway. There is good and bad in everyone!!!
@sooper2dooper3 You can't be serious? Where do I start? You make right/wrong so relative. Well, it IS wrong to crush the world of a person who has treated you like gold. It IS wrong to destroy the home of your children. It IS wrong by cause of your own deeds to creat a situation where Dad and kids get to see each other half of the time by no fault of their own. She "realized" she wanted to marry this guy; now who's paying the price? & BTW, she said herself he was a great guy. WOW!!!!!!!!!!!
I remember this call, Dr.Laura was right. To whoever said it is wrong to stay in a loveless marriage: Its called honoring a sacred vow made in front of God. Living in a loveless marriage is often a made up problem.(barring a misbehaving mate) "Im not in love with you anymore" only happens when WRONG THINKING is allowed to take root.That bad wife has a gross lack of appreciation that is the root of the problem. And she is disloyal. Dr. Laura is100% right on.
could very well be that the woman is much better off with her husband and family. But there is something very wrong happening if they have been in counselling for 17 months. The woman (as do many women or men) forget that early love or excitement of early relationshops wear off and then the real work of marriage comes.
This man? is a good provider, Maybe not enough to leave someone, but the woman is feeling neglected in the nurturing department from what I hear.
The problem with this caller is people don't understand the concept of self control and free will. Many people want to be under the control of their circumstances,passion & situations so they don't have to be accountable for their actions.
Much as I hate to admit it, that was actually some of the best and honest advice I've ever heard. When Dr. Laura is good, she's exceedingly good; but when she's bad. . .Wow! The devil hangs his head in shame.
People:Stop critiquing everything thing and listen to this Advice & She cuts her off because the caller has nothing repentant or insightful to add but was just wants to continue to build her pointless case.This is The best call ever! Today that women are not aloud to be reprimanded no matter how irrational or illogical their behavior so it took a woman to challenge a woman. Bravo Dr.Laura! Women hold the key to morality so go the women so goes society!
@Cosmictalk "Women are not 'aloud?' " (as if I'm reading "aloud")?????? This comment is indicative of the intelligence of the poster! Laura's advice is unsound, hypocritical, mean-spirited and unprofessional to say the least. I'd love to call her the c-word on here, but then my post would be deleted.
@Jibjub80 You are too caught up in feelings you don't understand Dr.Laura is Only concerned with Moral Principle, End Of Story! People today are too hung up on making life changing decisions based on feelings. Moral codes have be established. It's fine to be honest and defy moral codes (we learn lessons this way) but this era of Society has tried to redefine moral codes according to what feels right..
@frickadele Its odd that you defend more self gratification but you fail to comment how selfish it was of her to just marry for security (money). Dr. Laura is saying if you cant be attracted to his goodness then there is nothing good in her. He doesn't deserve an ingrate. This is the mentality of people today. They have no perception of love,devotion,gratitude,loyalty or faithfulness. It's all about self.
As a Liberal, unmarried but living together, non-religious, non-homophobic and semi-feminist woman, I don't agree with everything Dr. Laura says but I can agree with the bulk of it when it comes to the selfishness of women in their relationships. Especially because I have acted selfishly in the past and saw the damage it does. Love is a CHOICE. If this woman gets out of this ME and woe is me mentality and focuses her attention on loving her husband - she might just start to love her husband.
I think she should just leave him. If you didn't have any feeling towards him, it is pointless and more cruel to be lying to him. I will give Dr. Laura the fact that she was cruel, but reject the idea that she should continually lie to him.
how in the hell do get that she was being rude? she was being honest. this women putting about as much effort into her marriage as taking a crap.psycho babble from a women who puts herself before family. dr laura is usually right. the problem with you loosers out there ,is your to selve absorbed and stupid to listen . GROW UP !
She jumped to conclusions. From what the woman said I jump to completely different conclusions. I for instant jump to the conclusion that the woman is putting A LOT of effort in her marriage and that she did put her family before herself. By cutting the woman off, there is not enough info to determine what the real situation was.
@InsaneIs4EverMe that woman was a piss poor excuse of a wife and mother. typical , a woman who thinks more of herself than her family.some of you people , being stupid is one thing, the problem is that you are soulless.
You have no idea if she is a mother, and how she acts towards her children. You have no idea why she stayed married after she realised she did it for the bad reasons, were there already children? Did she stay for the children?
You have no idea about any of this. She would be a poor wife if she just said it and left him, if she just said him and didn't try to work it out. She did do it the wrong way but obviously she is trying to make her marriage work. She is stupid, not soulless.
@InsaneIs4EverMe it amazes me. when you let a man mount like a horse and breed you, do you actually bother to look up and pay attention to who's actually doing it ? typical of a lot of women these days. they find out having a husband family isn't the princess fairy tale they bargained for. dr laura , is right, this woman wouldn't know love , if you sat it in her lap.just another modern princess living in a dream world.SOULESS
I agree that after 14 years, you normally would be in love with at least someone. Yes, she is probably not able to love. But you aren't helping anyone by saying that to her. What solution is it except hurting the woman? On the other hand, something has changed. Before she had no problem sleeping with him and now she does because she asked about it. So some feelings are able to get through, what changed and how does she get those feelings back would be helping.
Because of what should she come out of her daze? Only things I see is that dr.Laura says the woman should feel bad. She says, don't try to love him, YOU ALREADY SHOULD, if you aren't already then don't bother because you are an emotionless being. If a situation is wrong, when ever has don't do anything been a help?
Btw, do you know this case is used as an example why there should be restrictions on commercialised psychiatry (or whatever the english word is).
This woman is desperate. She wants things changed. Preferably her feelings towards her husband. Possible outcome; she thinks nothing can change with her husband and leaves him. Possible outcome2: She finds another thing to fill the void, if this was adviced, it was unlikely bad things like alcohol. Possible outcome3: She listens to dr.Laura and pretends to love him again for the rest of her life, being miserable. Possible outcome4: nr3, but this time she ends up loving him.
Honesty is not always a solution. A message wasn't needed. Dr.Laura is in the business of helping people. Saying what she said about that woman towards the husband could have been helpfull. Saying what she said towards the woman wasn't helpfull.
The truth isn't always the right answer. Most people think so, this woman probably to when she told her husband she never loved him, an excellent example that you shouldn't always tell the truth.
I'm gonna assume you said shouldn't because else the scentence doesn't make sense. And I agree completely, it was mean and unrespectfull towards the husband.
@InsaneIs4EverMe - the problem is not with Dr. Laura, the problem is with professional Psychology today. It focuses on the ME. It tries to define human beings as slaves to their emotions instead of accountable for their actions. It no longer tells people about the truth, of the selfishness of their actions, and instead medicates them so they don't "feel bad". They don't work to fix people, they charge people to come in and whine when their consciences tell them what they are doing is wrong.
@shepdog069 Agreed! This is the mentality of people today. They have no perception of love,sacrifice,devotion,gratitude,loyalty or faithfulness. It's all about self.
Why should you stay with someone you don't love! Jesus! She didn't ask any questions about that man. What a cow. She just jumped to a bunch of conclusions.
She's not completely correct. She's making assumptions about this woman's husband and about the caller and she hasn't even listened to half of what she said. She would rather the woman pretend to love her husband than be honest and give the man a chance to move on. It will be hard but everyone can do it. She's heartless in her advice and puts that one woman in a category that didn't even apply to her. What does women that hook-up with men have to do with this woman and her marriage?
WHAT THE HELLL IF THE LADY DOSENT LOVE HIM THEN SHE DOSENT LOVE HIM SHE CAN GET A DIVORSE I WOULD RATHERR DIVOSE THAN BE WITH SOMEONE I DONT WONT AND SHE NEEDS TO STOP CUTTING HER OFF
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@MegaJoey43 No, it is not good advice. What should she do? Go on being miserable? PRETEND she is happy? Lauras the idiot. She was divorced once too and remarried, but she's quick to condemn others. She says one thing and does another. I cannot say enough bad things about her.
@MegaJoey43 Sorry man. I meant to direct my response at youtuber Emillio94. I clicked on the wrong comment. I hope that you're not upset with me. Sometimes it is difficult to tell on here if somebody is being sarcastic or serious. When reading typed text, the non-verbal signals are missing. I do feel badly for the husband, wife, and children. But instead of giving Linda any decent advice on maybe how to salvage the marriage, Schlessinger verbally tore this woman to shreds.
Dr S is a materialistic, shallow, hag who insults anyone who is despairing enough to seek her ineffective, cruel advice. How degrading to suggest this woman should give up who she is to serve a man. SHE IS THE EPITOMY OF HYPOCRISY...judging others as cruel and disrespectful....and yet she acts like a parasite to humanity. And really she projects her brokenness onto everyone else. If only people could see how fake she is...she is unqualified and clearly unbalanced. What a joke for a woman.
@Clairedelune66 You are right on target about Dr. S except for one thing. She isn't merely a joke for a woman. Her sorry ass is a miserable excuse for a human being. I wish Linda would have interrupted Dr. S (like Dr. S does to people) when she said, "It's a matter of being generous, sweet, and loving" and said, "you mean unlike yourself????" I mean seriously, Dr. S is unloving, a sourpuss, and probably not generous either.
That bitch is crazy, damn she doesn't even let the caller speak! WTF? If I would of been that lady I soo would of been like LADY SHUT THE FUCK UP AND LET ME SPEAK! damn! :D
@klovezu That's cuz she isn't a real psychologist nor psychiatrist. Her degree is in physiology. She is being deceitful to people who don't know any better. She has no counseling skills.
@seedsofgrace Great comment and i agree with you ! What and idiot stupid caller selfish human living.I don't understand people now days" oh i married him/her and after two years i realized he/she is not the right person". That's what happens when you start reading stupid Romantic Books, internet sites all that garbage infiltrates crap in your mind and you start comparing that to your wonderful/great marriage and say huh my husband/wife doesn't do this and doesn't do that !!!
@joxer36 Dr Laura after her contract is over is gone! But this is not a victory she will simply find other sponsors on cable and probably be more popular and make even more money than she has made presently! Only in America!
@1hotandsmartman Of course since she told the truth and saind absolutely NOTHING wrong. It's the truth and many ignorant souls despise truth at all costs. Very sad.
Yeah, Dr. L is crazy here. The caller made a huge and cruel mistake by marrying a man she didn't love, but now that that cat's out of the bag, I think it's a terrible idea to tell a woman to go on being unhappy with a man she doesn't love.
Dr. Laura scolds this woman and accuses her of self-pity, and compares the situation to those who have it worse, but that doesn't solve the issue.
@gamingtoad004 Good advice! you have some intelligence! For Dr. Laura to tell this lady to stay in a marriage the rest of her life! Because of a past mistake is simply Stupid! I'm glad you got some sense!
@AutomHatter Yeah, I guessed that too. Since she was on the radio for twenty-something years, I am sure she heard similar stories over and over.. but instead of making us guess that, she should say, "A lot of people that I spoke with went through the same thing you did..." and at least she should pretend that she likes helping this lady... If I were that caller, I would feel as if she's constantly pushing me down. Even though that lady did whatever she could to get things right with
@birmingham1010 I could be wrong, but it seems to me that giving someone advise and being nice about it hardly ever gets into their clogged brains. Like as if it goes through one ear and out the other. Usually people need a swift kick in the butt to get them to realize what they need to realize. I think that is part of Dr. Laura's way. Also, she has to make the calls short so she can get through more calls. And all people want to do is talk.
Respond to this video... I could be wrong, but it seems to me that giving someone advise and being nice about it hardly ever gets into their clogged brains. Like as if it goes through one ear and out the other. Usually people need a swift kick in the butt to get them to realize what they need to realize. I think that is part of Dr. Laura's way. Also, she has to make the calls short so she can get through more calls. And all people want to do is talk.
@AutomHatter her husband, Laura bluntly said, "Okay Linda, that was mostly useless activity..." I mean c'mon, some women divorce their men or cheat on them or do something harsh emotionally or physically. This woman Linda was making an attempt and going out of her way to search for some help. Dr. Laura should give Linda *some* credit because obviously, Linda still cares about her husband.
@birmingham1010 I As a Psychologist I would have to faithfully have to disagree with Dr. Laura's advice for the following reasons, this women made a bad choice to marry this man when she never loved him, now she wants to undo her mistake years later, and she is seeking confirmation that divorcing him is the right thing to do. Even though she was wrong for marrying a man she never loved in a strong intimate way to tell her to continue to be unhappy is simply bad amateur unprofessional advice!
@1hotandsmartman Then you are an educated fool, and I hope you get no further patients. You just think about her, not the lives of the other four people in the family, or the fact that she entered a legally binding contract. I suppose you default on house and auto loans when you no longer like the car or house--bank be damned. She just wants a thrill, and you want to sanction the destruction of the husband and kids so that she gets it.
@grips13 Hold on, this proves my point, you and your groupie can't agree to disagree its all about control! My point if you was listening carefully which you wasn't, this caller in the past married this man for the wrong reason, for security! Now she is starting to realize that despite the fact that he is a good man she really doesn't feel attracted to him like a wife should be. So what advice does Dr. Laura tells her? Stay in a marriage you don't like because he is a good man! Wrong Advice!
Now you are just assuming like dr.Laura. I agree that the divorce would possibly be a bad idea, and the woman probably doesn't want it either. You don't keep trying for 14 months if you just want out, but that is an assumption as well. The problem is that nobody can give proper advice because dr.Laura cut the woman off. I don't care that you heard the same situation over and over again. Every situation is an unique one.
@grips13 Grips hello. I know love is a commitment, but this lady, never loved her husband, she explained this to Dr. Laura, in the past she married this man for the wrong reason, out of security. Now she is thinking about this and recognizes she not only messed up kids in this choice, but her husband's feelings are on the line as well. So what advice do you give her? I supposed to tell her you made a mistake now lay in it? And be unhappy until you die! Are you kidding me??
@1hotandsmartman Response two! Grips13. As a psychologist I have to give good advice, and Dr. Laura advice was not good advice! She is not a real Doctor or a psychologist! She is simply a talk show advice personality! This lady should be told that you made a mistake in the past learn from it, i would make sure she understood why she made this choice, then i would tell her to tell her husband despite the fact it might hurt him, take care of your children and move on until you find a man you love!
@1hotandsmartman Is English your second language? I'm just wondering because your grammar is terrible. (No offense.) But that aside, I can see where you are coming from, however your view is to only give this woman self, and instant gratification instead of focusing on the family (and especially the children) before herself. Which is the basis of what Dr. Laura teaches. I think it is just two different ways of life. Put yourself as #1 or put others as #1. I personally agree with the latter.
I don't know if I totally agree with Laura's advice. I do agree that this woman needs to get away from everything and think about what her husband brought into her life. After much reflection, talk with her husband face to face and be totally honest with him. She should apologize to her husband for saying that she doesn't love him and that she wants to start over and learn to love him for who he is & be his companion. She should tell him that she wants their marriage to work and if that's true,
@birmingham1010 both she and her husband need to learn to be TOTALLY honest with each other. They need to stop worrying about what each other is thinking, stop having secrets, and they need talk about what made their marriage to work the last 14-15 years. Even after all that affection and passion die away over the years, it's faithfulness to each other (aka agape love) that is more important than any other loves.
I think the recent N-word fiasco brings up something that I've seen for years from her. Ultimately she doesn't have much compassion for other people. I think it's her personality trait.
She wants to help people, but she doesn't modify how she communicates in order to take their feelings into consideration. So she tends to be blunt and comes across as preaching on her high horse to many.
Ultimately she is correct but right or wrong doesn't matter to most people. They care how it was said.
? Get some skin. She is spot on with the n word fiasco.
I hear blacks in the gym with their headphones listining to rap sayin nigger this nigger that. And we hear it all day from them on tv movies pop culture ect ect.
The fact they call eachother niggers show the ignorance of the situation they have gotton themselves into.
I agree with you. I also find it very strange that people first look outwardly to blame others when in reality they weren't paying attention to what was said.
It seems too high a percentage of people are just looking for opportunities to be offended. In reality she did say the N-word but she used it in a neutral sense.
This Dr. Laura scandal got so huge that it's almost funny because she didn't really do anything wrong.
It's a sad reflection of the ignorance of our society.
@kosai19 Well quite frankly nigga is a neutral word. Just not out of a white persons mouth. Hey I'm sorry we owned slaves. Blame the Republicans, but if you wish for YOUR word to leave the mouths of society BLACKS need to be the first ones not saying it. So the only ones left are racists, or historians! YAY! Seriously though blacks use nigga as if it were the word like. A deeper issue there. It really has nothing to do with salvery.
Slightly off topic but there was a really good black rapper documentary that talked about this. The guys at the top, Jay Z, Ludacrus,etc.. They all know that they make music for white people. They all know that after the first 2 million sales of any record the rest who buy their products are white.
So the use of that word seems like an intentional way to influence culture. Well worth researching the documentary to see what I mean.
@Omegatide Actually it was the Democrats who were the Slave Traders, The Republicans where the party that Fought to free the slaves The Democrats invented the KKK that is just historical fact.
Lady give him the boot so he can be single for me and all the women that would love to have him. YOU WERE CRUEL. Laura STOP INTERUPTING EVERY TIME SOMEBODY TALKS. YOU KNOW SOME PEOPLE SHOW THIER BEAVERS TO GUYS THEY DON'T EVEN KNOW. LOTS OF THEM.
This is for Dr. Laura (who is not really a doctor) since she has disabled comments for every vid she's uploaded on her pathetic channel. Dr. Laura, in defense of the African-American woman that you so viciously insulted with your racist rant this morning. This is for you."JEW, JEW, JEW, KIKE, KIKE, KIKE, CUNT, CUNT, CUNT.Now don't be hyper-sensitive about this, Kike Cunt, have a sense of humor about this, Bitch Jewess, this is the way people talk. It's not racist, sexist, or anti-Semitic. No??
Wowww, Dr. Laura, does she EVER let people talk? That other girl got about 10 words in! This lady is obviously really upset and no one should go through life not being in love just because they have something "comfortable, and good enough" Yes she should have come out with her feelings earlier, but my god Dr. Laura is terrible! This lady needs to end the marriage and stop stringing it along cause after 17 months of counseling and she still doesnt love him obviously they wont be in love.
I can't condemn Dr. Laura for her hard stance, because what she says is what you have to do in a marriage. I also think she's right, that this woman who called doesn't understand love. But what I think Dr. Laura misses is that the woman can find a new wellspring of love within herself if she will search within. In fact, I'm pretty sure that anyone this woman was with, she would feel the same way about. She's kind of autistic about love, that's all. She can grow.
@bellacinderellakk Laura is NOT a psychologist, a psychiatrist, nor a mental health professional. She's just a bitch with an agenda who happens to possess a Phd (and not in the psychology field). The way that Laura is acting is also unethical. She seems to be broadcasting people's problems on the airwaves for entertainment purposes rather than attempting to rehabilitate them.
what a fucking BITCH this is probably the lowest of the low this woman calls up to look for a justification, so she can keep acting the way she does and ruin 4 lives
Yes she is rude, but she is 100% correct about this lady being selfish and self centered. She should have left him from day one she knew she didnt love him, but no, she stayed with him because he takes care of her. In this argument I agree with Dr. Laura
@itsasecret48 Hello Itsasecret, I'm a psychologist and I would have to disagree with Dr. Laura on this one! If anybody stay with a partner that they are not attracted too they are headed for disaster! There are different types of connections some just platonic and some very sexual with friendship at the core. If a person only feels a platonic connection with somebody but they ignored it in the past, to tell somebody to continue to make the same mistake is stupid! This women needs to divorce him!
@itsasecret48 No, she isn't right. Schlessinger doesn't know the dynamic of the marriage, and she's rushing to conclusions like she always does. Maybe the guy was boring. Maybe he farts when they're having sex. What is she supposed to do? Stay in an unhappy marriage?
Anyhow, it looks like Schlessinger's career is through. She finally went too far by spewing racial slurs. The bitch had it coming all along. I'm sorry, but although it is probably wrong, I can't help but gloat.
@Jibjub80 I agree... I think that the "feeling" goes away over time but the sexual and emotional connection still needs to be there..she got married to him for the wrong reasons and it would be better for the kids but for her it would be terrible.
Is being correct the only thing that matters? She is guilt tripping the wife into staying with her husband. That wasn't the problem. She goes for 17 months to counseling, etc..., so she wants to stay. She wanted to know how she could start having feelings for him. The advice dr. Laura gave her was FAKE the feelings and you should already have the feelings. Not one word about dating again or other solutions. She just made the woman feel worse about herself.
Yes, the woman was wrong by staying with the husband. By pretending to love him.
Yes, dr.Laura should not hide this and tell her straight out that the woman was wrong, but almost the complete conversation is about how dr.Laura calls the wife stupid and cruel. I didn't even hear her explain properly why what she did was wrong. One firm, logical, well explained sentence would have been enough.
Bring back grace to our society . Boycott this horrible women. There is never any need to speak down to someone. Intelligence leads to treating people with respect when handing out advice.
That was horrible she assumed she knew what she wanted needed for the rest of her life. Sometimes people value love over the family and create new families.
When there's kids in the picture people don't have the luxury of being selfish anymore. They can't just divorce; that would put their kids through hell for no reason. And if the husband had been calling in asking for advice, Dr. Laura would have said the same type of thing. "Be nice to her. Let her know you care." She forces people to take some personal responsibility for the situation they find themselves in and try to make the best of it. Good for her!
This women is a narcissist, I wouldn't be surprised if she was having an affair. This is the feeling she is missing that out of control all consuming infatuation that modern women think last forever. when this matures to deeper commitment and building a future and family together they miss that feeling instead of accepting it as a faze that we go through on the way to something more meaningful.
gstavrou 1 day ago
She will end up divorcing him and taking all his money, hope the cunt dies a painful death
BorgKing001 2 months ago 2
How about this - GET. A. DIVORCE! If she's not happy and cannot make him happy, they both stand a better change of salvaging some kind of decent life going their own way. For fuck's sake. If a man called with the same gripe, Dr. Racist would be like "leave her NOW! - fuck that bitch!"
gombis666 3 months ago in playlist DrLaura
Dr Laura is a self-centered Bitch.
gombis666 3 months ago in playlist DrLaura
She made her bed, I think she ought to make the best of the situation. The time to wonder if you love someone is BEFORE you make babies! I honestly don't know how the human race thinks anymore. And yes she was selfish for saying that to her husband.
pjgumby 3 months ago
What did that doc graduate in anyway? Applied retardedness?
jonasgrant 3 months ago
What is with the stupid reverb?
TheMadMusicMan 3 months ago
Men marry for sex ... women for money ... what else is new ?
mba2ceo 4 months ago
Gave thumbs down!!! as I give all her videos thumbs down....Dr,Laura needs to go and pound salt.
ashatbulaparanormal 4 months ago
I have mixed feelings about Dr. Laura and maybe it's not best for a therapist to act the way she does but in a way I can't blame her for being hostile to this woman and other goofy people like her.
Either this woman either realized she didn't love and didn't want to admit it, or for whatever reason she now wishers to deny it whic makes her an idiot, and while I don't wish to jump on the husband, there's alway the possibility he knew he was marrying and unstable person, (continued)
MIKECNW 4 months ago
This IS good advice. Forget the delivery that might be a bit harsh & listen to the message. A relationship isn't just what YOU get out of it, but what you give back to the other person. She fraudulantly married this guy making him think he was the world to her knowing she was living a lie at HIS expense. NOW, she shatters his world and HE is at risk of loosing his kids through divorce. Look what she's done to her family. She owns her husband AND kids the world; and then some!
yesorlando05 6 months ago
Good advice indeed! Dr. Laura really helps people live happier lives in the long run.
curlycar5 6 months ago
I don't get why people are saying this was good advice....Dr Laura always comes across as an over-talking, disrespectful, rude, and unhelpful piece of trash to me...IMO anyways. I agree, that was downright cruel and unnecessary for that woman to tell her husband that she never loved him, but Dr. Laura is just a rude and unhelpful person and she could've down this better.
Jazsy 6 months ago
@Jazsy No, you're just one of those people that needs a cushion for other people's words. She told it like it was and that was great advice. She's not here to be your friend and kiss ass. She's hear to give you advice. Im sorry but sometimes people tell you what you dont want to hear and sometimes advice is harsh.
Metheny72 5 months ago
@Metheny72 Ugh. Clearly you know me so well...Whatever. That's why it's called an OPINION. Mine is mine, yours is yours. I'm all for true to life advice, but TO ME she is rude and unhelpful, say what you want, but you're not gonna tell me what kind of person I am off a youtube comment...Psssh, Pluhleeze.
Jazsy 5 months ago
@Jazsy I totally forgot what my comment was. So, uh, you win. Yay for you.
Metheny72 5 months ago
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Jazsy 5 months ago
@Jazsy and either was in denial or hoped he could fix her.
BTW I made goof in my last sentence ofr the first posing.
I meant "was" and not always.
MIKECNW 4 months ago
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Jazsy 4 months ago
@MIKECNW I could wholly agree with your statement, but for the fact that every time I hear Dr. Laura giving advice she is always the same way...I mean, what she is saying isn't really helpful as far as "It's too late" "you're so cruel, he may never get over it" Knowing NOTHING about the background of the situation, NOTHING about who or what this man is she just tells the woman "YOU are broken" all that, and cutting the woman off whenever she is trying to talk. (con.)
Jazsy 4 months ago
@MIKECNW She seems to do this very often when "giving advice" and I know that I would NEVER want her giving me advice because I'd have to go off...Lol. I don't even know if you were intending to respond to me...but hey, TMI.
Jazsy 4 months ago
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Jazsy 6 months ago
Sounds like a complete fucking cunt...poor guy.
closer71 6 months ago
what's up with the echo
UnlimitedProdiction1 7 months ago
Poor guy.
lauxsd123 7 months ago
Wonder if this man knew he was marrying a nut?
MIKECNW 8 months ago
@MIKECNW
Most societies punish independent thought, initiative and assertiveness.
Growing up that way - it's very hard to get used to and expect gratitude for anything that a man does.
So, naturally - one marries a nut, 'cause suffering nuts is something we get used to, with time.
rettie 6 months ago
@MIKECNW I'll also add, she probably knew she married him for the wrong reasons.
She either didn't see anything wrong with it or didn't wish to aknoweledge it.
MIKECNW 6 months ago
Thanks for posting this--even though you f-ed up the sound with echo. Hopefully other spoiled little girls will hear it and think twice before getting a man to waste his time on a spoiled brat who doesn't know what she wants
califbozo 9 months ago 3
Why in the world would anybody marry know a days?
Seriously.
1) Pay child support.
2) Have to work extra to pay and grow more distant from your children.
3) Pay alimony
Thank the 1960's for this.
SellTheBenefits 1 year ago
@SellTheBenefits That's a weird thing to say... Not all marriages end like that. If it does, it's because you didn't know the person very well in the first place. I am divorced and I don't get alimony. I get child support, yes, but that's because the D.A. forced my ex husband to do it. He hasn't seen the kid in 16 yrs because of HIS OWN decisions, not mine. I've always told him where I was and where the kid was.
cnith2 1 year ago
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bloopy31 1 year ago
the problem is that people call up these radio stations and ask complete strangers who don't even know their situation to try to help them make decisions they must make by themselves. Dr Laura is good at preaching...but this caller just needs to realize she can decide for herself what is best...if she leaves her husband or stays...it really isn't right or wrong either way...how does Dr. Laura know her husband is so great anyway. There is good and bad in everyone!!!
sooper2dooper3 1 year ago
@sooper2dooper3 You can't be serious? Where do I start? You make right/wrong so relative. Well, it IS wrong to crush the world of a person who has treated you like gold. It IS wrong to destroy the home of your children. It IS wrong by cause of your own deeds to creat a situation where Dad and kids get to see each other half of the time by no fault of their own. She "realized" she wanted to marry this guy; now who's paying the price? & BTW, she said herself he was a great guy. WOW!!!!!!!!!!!
yesorlando05 6 months ago
I remember this call, Dr.Laura was right. To whoever said it is wrong to stay in a loveless marriage: Its called honoring a sacred vow made in front of God. Living in a loveless marriage is often a made up problem.(barring a misbehaving mate) "Im not in love with you anymore" only happens when WRONG THINKING is allowed to take root.That bad wife has a gross lack of appreciation that is the root of the problem. And she is disloyal. Dr. Laura is100% right on.
boogiemaam 1 year ago
@boogiemaam
Actually, so called. Dr. Laura is wrong. NO one can tell someone directly what to do with their lives.
The caller was not being selfish. Dr. Laura implied that the caller would or even did have sex with other men, it was disgusting.
The womans concerns were being quashed and negated in every single way and she was being called selfish.
Obviously we do not hear the whole story.
But any GOOD counsellor will listen and NOT tell a person what to do.
anotheronem 1 year ago
@boogiemaam
could very well be that the woman is much better off with her husband and family. But there is something very wrong happening if they have been in counselling for 17 months. The woman (as do many women or men) forget that early love or excitement of early relationshops wear off and then the real work of marriage comes.
This man? is a good provider, Maybe not enough to leave someone, but the woman is feeling neglected in the nurturing department from what I hear.
anotheronem 1 year ago
well dam can she talk jesus
maclovesmonkeys 1 year ago
This woman needs get out of the marriage, sorry but it is wrong to stay in a loveless marriage,....Dr Laura has no moral authority.
emmyjo720 1 year ago
The problem with this caller is people don't understand the concept of self control and free will. Many people want to be under the control of their circumstances,passion & situations so they don't have to be accountable for their actions.
Cosmictalk 1 year ago
Much as I hate to admit it, that was actually some of the best and honest advice I've ever heard. When Dr. Laura is good, she's exceedingly good; but when she's bad. . .Wow! The devil hangs his head in shame.
mewhor 1 year ago
dr laura is my new hero..
Smperk33 1 year ago 3
That caller is a self-centered bitch.
RampGuy1 1 year ago 20
@RampGuy1 yea i pity the poor bastard that has to lie down with that heartless bitch..
Smperk33 1 year ago
@Smperk33 lol
Cosmictalk 1 year ago
@RampGuy1 100% agree.
RachelnAlexis 7 months ago
Sometimes Dr. Laura really goes psycho. She sounds crabby and ready to finish her show just within the first ten seconds.
Thanks for posting this and other crazy highlights
unknownkingdom 1 year ago
Honestly when a spouse says: I never loved you. It rather kills the marriage. I know that from experience T_T
ChinchillaAngel 1 year ago
When I said I'd love to call someone the c-word, I was referring to Laura.
Jibjub80 1 year ago
People:Stop critiquing everything thing and listen to this Advice & She cuts her off because the caller has nothing repentant or insightful to add but was just wants to continue to build her pointless case.This is The best call ever! Today that women are not aloud to be reprimanded no matter how irrational or illogical their behavior so it took a woman to challenge a woman. Bravo Dr.Laura! Women hold the key to morality so go the women so goes society!
Cosmictalk 1 year ago 2
@Cosmictalk good point ty.
Kenshiroit 1 year ago
@Cosmictalk "Women are not 'aloud?' " (as if I'm reading "aloud")?????? This comment is indicative of the intelligence of the poster! Laura's advice is unsound, hypocritical, mean-spirited and unprofessional to say the least. I'd love to call her the c-word on here, but then my post would be deleted.
Jibjub80 1 year ago
@Jibjub80 You are too caught up in feelings you don't understand Dr.Laura is Only concerned with Moral Principle, End Of Story! People today are too hung up on making life changing decisions based on feelings. Moral codes have be established. It's fine to be honest and defy moral codes (we learn lessons this way) but this era of Society has tried to redefine moral codes according to what feels right..
Cosmictalk 1 year ago
If you're not sexually and mentally attracted
to your mate...then you may as well marry
the first person who can take care of you.
It beats being a hooker on the streets.
frickadele 1 year ago
@frickadele Its odd that you defend more self gratification but you fail to comment how selfish it was of her to just marry for security (money). Dr. Laura is saying if you cant be attracted to his goodness then there is nothing good in her. He doesn't deserve an ingrate. This is the mentality of people today. They have no perception of love,devotion,gratitude,loyalty or faithfulness. It's all about self.
Cosmictalk 1 year ago
@frickadele Many women are pathological today, no matter what man they have he won't be good enough b/c the problem is w/themselves
dubified89 1 year ago
@dubified89
Have you ever watched 48 Hours Mystery?
(Let alone the news?)
The majority of the murdered/tortured are female...
at the hands of males.
And you call woman pathological?
Stats don't lie.
Woman... are usually the victims of men.
Unless woman are on meds...then it's a free for all.
frickadele 1 year ago
@frickadele That is actually not true. It is standard logic that women report their abuse, whereas men do not report and hold it in.
kiminokami 1 year ago
@kiminokami
What do you do for a living?
frickadele 1 year ago
@frickadele I correct people when they lie and have agendas.
kiminokami 1 year ago
@kiminokami
Didn't you miss your 5th grade graduation ...
because of jury duty?
frickadele 1 year ago
@frickadele Not everybody has the same experiences you do.
kiminokami 1 year ago
Why are they making Dr. Lora sound like God talking to Moses.
Michaeltanase 1 year ago 33
@Michaeltanase
Yes the sound is annoying!
MsReebz13 1 year ago
Did Dr. Laura fall in a well?
SilenceSyndicate 1 year ago 4
I admit, I don't like everything Dr. Laura has to say all the time. However, the advice she gave this caller was SPOT ON. Way to go Dr. Laura!
greenmonkey8 1 year ago 3
As a Liberal, unmarried but living together, non-religious, non-homophobic and semi-feminist woman, I don't agree with everything Dr. Laura says but I can agree with the bulk of it when it comes to the selfishness of women in their relationships. Especially because I have acted selfishly in the past and saw the damage it does. Love is a CHOICE. If this woman gets out of this ME and woe is me mentality and focuses her attention on loving her husband - she might just start to love her husband.
19sweetandbrown86 1 year ago 2
if i were in that guy's shoe i'm be such an emotional wreck...
i'd be like a zombie...
xxzorritoxx 1 year ago
I think she should just leave him. If you didn't have any feeling towards him, it is pointless and more cruel to be lying to him. I will give Dr. Laura the fact that she was cruel, but reject the idea that she should continually lie to him.
divineoblivion1 1 year ago
how in the hell do get that she was being rude? she was being honest. this women putting about as much effort into her marriage as taking a crap.psycho babble from a women who puts herself before family. dr laura is usually right. the problem with you loosers out there ,is your to selve absorbed and stupid to listen . GROW UP !
weitzfc 1 year ago
@weitzfc
She jumped to conclusions. From what the woman said I jump to completely different conclusions. I for instant jump to the conclusion that the woman is putting A LOT of effort in her marriage and that she did put her family before herself. By cutting the woman off, there is not enough info to determine what the real situation was.
InsaneIs4EverMe 1 year ago
@InsaneIs4EverMe that woman was a piss poor excuse of a wife and mother. typical , a woman who thinks more of herself than her family.some of you people , being stupid is one thing, the problem is that you are soulless.
weitzfc 1 year ago
@weitzfc
You have no idea if she is a mother, and how she acts towards her children. You have no idea why she stayed married after she realised she did it for the bad reasons, were there already children? Did she stay for the children?
You have no idea about any of this. She would be a poor wife if she just said it and left him, if she just said him and didn't try to work it out. She did do it the wrong way but obviously she is trying to make her marriage work. She is stupid, not soulless.
InsaneIs4EverMe 1 year ago
@InsaneIs4EverMe it amazes me. when you let a man mount like a horse and breed you, do you actually bother to look up and pay attention to who's actually doing it ? typical of a lot of women these days. they find out having a husband family isn't the princess fairy tale they bargained for. dr laura , is right, this woman wouldn't know love , if you sat it in her lap.just another modern princess living in a dream world.SOULESS
weitzfc 1 year ago
@weitzfc
I agree that after 14 years, you normally would be in love with at least someone. Yes, she is probably not able to love. But you aren't helping anyone by saying that to her. What solution is it except hurting the woman? On the other hand, something has changed. Before she had no problem sleeping with him and now she does because she asked about it. So some feelings are able to get through, what changed and how does she get those feelings back would be helping.
InsaneIs4EverMe 1 year ago
@InsaneIs4EverMe
it could also be that my judgement is a bit off because i'm very irritated about one thing she said.
InsaneIs4EverMe 1 year ago
@InsaneIs4EverMe she just might come out of her daze and wake up. or better yet, get the wax out of her ears, and listen to what dr laura has to say.
weitzfc 1 year ago
@weitzfc
Because of what should she come out of her daze? Only things I see is that dr.Laura says the woman should feel bad. She says, don't try to love him, YOU ALREADY SHOULD, if you aren't already then don't bother because you are an emotionless being. If a situation is wrong, when ever has don't do anything been a help?
Btw, do you know this case is used as an example why there should be restrictions on commercialised psychiatry (or whatever the english word is).
InsaneIs4EverMe 1 year ago
@InsaneIs4EverMe
This woman is desperate. She wants things changed. Preferably her feelings towards her husband. Possible outcome; she thinks nothing can change with her husband and leaves him. Possible outcome2: She finds another thing to fill the void, if this was adviced, it was unlikely bad things like alcohol. Possible outcome3: She listens to dr.Laura and pretends to love him again for the rest of her life, being miserable. Possible outcome4: nr3, but this time she ends up loving him.
InsaneIs4EverMe 1 year ago
@InsaneIs4EverMe dr laura gave her the answer , and it was honest message . the problem, is i think the poor women was too stupid to get it.
weitzfc 1 year ago 2
@weitzfc
Honesty is not always a solution. A message wasn't needed. Dr.Laura is in the business of helping people. Saying what she said about that woman towards the husband could have been helpfull. Saying what she said towards the woman wasn't helpfull.
The truth isn't always the right answer. Most people think so, this woman probably to when she told her husband she never loved him, an excellent example that you shouldn't always tell the truth.
InsaneIs4EverMe 1 year ago
@InsaneIs4EverMe the women should have married in the first place.
weitzfc 1 year ago
@weitzfc
I'm gonna assume you said shouldn't because else the scentence doesn't make sense. And I agree completely, it was mean and unrespectfull towards the husband.
InsaneIs4EverMe 1 year ago
@InsaneIs4EverMe - the problem is not with Dr. Laura, the problem is with professional Psychology today. It focuses on the ME. It tries to define human beings as slaves to their emotions instead of accountable for their actions. It no longer tells people about the truth, of the selfishness of their actions, and instead medicates them so they don't "feel bad". They don't work to fix people, they charge people to come in and whine when their consciences tell them what they are doing is wrong.
shepdog069 1 year ago
@shepdog069 Agreed! This is the mentality of people today. They have no perception of love,sacrifice,devotion,gratitude,loyalty or faithfulness. It's all about self.
Cosmictalk 1 year ago
@Cosmictalk very well put.
Smperk33 1 year ago
I just started listening to her. I'm amazed at the amount of morons that are out there. Damn some people are so sadly moronic.
Ken9284 1 year ago
Awww, that poor man! :(
icatchlife 1 year ago
Why should you stay with someone you don't love! Jesus! She didn't ask any questions about that man. What a cow. She just jumped to a bunch of conclusions.
ohallorandeirdre 1 year ago
She's not completely correct. She's making assumptions about this woman's husband and about the caller and she hasn't even listened to half of what she said. She would rather the woman pretend to love her husband than be honest and give the man a chance to move on. It will be hard but everyone can do it. She's heartless in her advice and puts that one woman in a category that didn't even apply to her. What does women that hook-up with men have to do with this woman and her marriage?
MiiReaLitY 1 year ago 2
Dr. Laura is so rude and a BITCH. She interrupts to much and is a bigot.
samkurz 1 year ago
WHAT THE HELLL IF THE LADY DOSENT LOVE HIM THEN SHE DOSENT LOVE HIM SHE CAN GET A DIVORSE I WOULD RATHERR DIVOSE THAN BE WITH SOMEONE I DONT WONT AND SHE NEEDS TO STOP CUTTING HER OFF
IloveCupcakesandTea 1 year ago
No problem. I'm actually new at leaving comments. I just started using utube. There is a video for everything!
MegaJoey43 1 year ago
@MegaJoey43 Welcome! Anything you're curious about (sharks, a snake eating some sort of large animal, planets, weird videos, how to solve a rubik's cube, guinness world records, news clips, music, movies)-- almost everything is posted on youtube. Enjoy!
birmingham1010 1 year ago
jibjub80....I was totally being sarcastic!! I agree with you....Dr Laura is a complete moron!
MegaJoey43 1 year ago
If I had a choice between Linda or Laura, I'd rather be married to LINDA!!!!
Jibjub80 1 year ago
"Make believe you are happy!" good advise!
MegaJoey43 1 year ago
@MegaJoey43 No, it is not good advice. What should she do? Go on being miserable? PRETEND she is happy? Lauras the idiot. She was divorced once too and remarried, but she's quick to condemn others. She says one thing and does another. I cannot say enough bad things about her.
Jibjub80 1 year ago
@MegaJoey43 Sorry man. I meant to direct my response at youtuber Emillio94. I clicked on the wrong comment. I hope that you're not upset with me. Sometimes it is difficult to tell on here if somebody is being sarcastic or serious. When reading typed text, the non-verbal signals are missing. I do feel badly for the husband, wife, and children. But instead of giving Linda any decent advice on maybe how to salvage the marriage, Schlessinger verbally tore this woman to shreds.
Jibjub80 1 year ago
Dr S is a materialistic, shallow, hag who insults anyone who is despairing enough to seek her ineffective, cruel advice. How degrading to suggest this woman should give up who she is to serve a man. SHE IS THE EPITOMY OF HYPOCRISY...judging others as cruel and disrespectful....and yet she acts like a parasite to humanity. And really she projects her brokenness onto everyone else. If only people could see how fake she is...she is unqualified and clearly unbalanced. What a joke for a woman.
Clairedelune66 1 year ago
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Gollum0786 1 year ago
@Clairedelune66 You are right on target about Dr. S except for one thing. She isn't merely a joke for a woman. Her sorry ass is a miserable excuse for a human being. I wish Linda would have interrupted Dr. S (like Dr. S does to people) when she said, "It's a matter of being generous, sweet, and loving" and said, "you mean unlike yourself????" I mean seriously, Dr. S is unloving, a sourpuss, and probably not generous either.
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Clairedelune66 1 year ago
That bitch is crazy, damn she doesn't even let the caller speak! WTF? If I would of been that lady I soo would of been like LADY SHUT THE FUCK UP AND LET ME SPEAK! damn! :D
klovezu 1 year ago
@klovezu That's cuz she isn't a real psychologist nor psychiatrist. Her degree is in physiology. She is being deceitful to people who don't know any better. She has no counseling skills.
Jibjub80 1 year ago
This caller is one dumb bitch.
Ken9284 1 year ago
Burt toast! Wow that was awesome! Selfish chick wants to have additional sex with outside partners and Laura put her in her place!
Amazing, I hope Dr Laura continues, all the haters are probably Howard Stern listeners.
seedsofgrace 1 year ago
@seedsofgrace Go fuck yourself. How dare you judge this lady without knowing the individual set of circumstances. Jerkoff.
Jibjub80 1 year ago
@seedsofgrace Great comment and i agree with you ! What and idiot stupid caller selfish human living.I don't understand people now days" oh i married him/her and after two years i realized he/she is not the right person". That's what happens when you start reading stupid Romantic Books, internet sites all that garbage infiltrates crap in your mind and you start comparing that to your wonderful/great marriage and say huh my husband/wife doesn't do this and doesn't do that !!!
emillio94 1 year ago
This has been flagged as spam show
she says poop instead of shit, but calls black people ni66ers, interesting.
ROBHEN23 1 year ago
She says poop instead of shit, but calls black people niggers...interesting.
ROBHEN23 1 year ago
You're so lucky you're in a marriage you don't want...FEEL LUCKY!
lovemydobe 1 year ago
"Dr" Laura...im sooooo glad your MOUTH FINALLY got the best of you! take some advice...shut the hell up!
joxer36 1 year ago
@joxer36 Dr Laura after her contract is over is gone! But this is not a victory she will simply find other sponsors on cable and probably be more popular and make even more money than she has made presently! Only in America!
1hotandsmartman 1 year ago
@1hotandsmartman I hope not. If someone else sponsors her, I'll cry. I hope this bitch learns to finally shut her fucking mouth.
Jibjub80 1 year ago
@1hotandsmartman Of course since she told the truth and saind absolutely NOTHING wrong. It's the truth and many ignorant souls despise truth at all costs. Very sad.
Go Dr Laura!
seedsofgrace 1 year ago
Cannot stand how this woman looks down her sanctimonious nose on everyone else. "I'm right, the rest of you are shit!".
v1x4g2 1 year ago
Yeah, Dr. L is crazy here. The caller made a huge and cruel mistake by marrying a man she didn't love, but now that that cat's out of the bag, I think it's a terrible idea to tell a woman to go on being unhappy with a man she doesn't love.
Dr. Laura scolds this woman and accuses her of self-pity, and compares the situation to those who have it worse, but that doesn't solve the issue.
elpymppe 1 year ago
@gamingtoad004 Good advice! you have some intelligence! For Dr. Laura to tell this lady to stay in a marriage the rest of her life! Because of a past mistake is simply Stupid! I'm glad you got some sense!
1hotandsmartman 1 year ago
are you serious? Dr. Laura, ur a fucktard
CorrerPorVida 1 year ago
this echo is cool to listen to on a cool breezy sunny day fyi 76 degrees. like right now.
igotapk 1 year ago
I think the guy should broom this bitch fast. She's a gold digger. She didn't marry the man, she married his belongings.
AntiLiberal73 1 year ago
Why does Dr. Laura keep cutting off this woman? Why doesn't Laura let this woman finish a sentence?
birmingham1010 1 year ago 8
@birmingham1010 My guess is because she has heard it before and already knows what she is going to say.
AutomHatter 1 year ago
@AutomHatter Yeah, I guessed that too. Since she was on the radio for twenty-something years, I am sure she heard similar stories over and over.. but instead of making us guess that, she should say, "A lot of people that I spoke with went through the same thing you did..." and at least she should pretend that she likes helping this lady... If I were that caller, I would feel as if she's constantly pushing me down. Even though that lady did whatever she could to get things right with
birmingham1010 1 year ago
@birmingham1010 I could be wrong, but it seems to me that giving someone advise and being nice about it hardly ever gets into their clogged brains. Like as if it goes through one ear and out the other. Usually people need a swift kick in the butt to get them to realize what they need to realize. I think that is part of Dr. Laura's way. Also, she has to make the calls short so she can get through more calls. And all people want to do is talk.
AutomHatter 1 year ago
@AutomHatter Good point AutomHatter...
birmingham1010 1 year ago
Respond to this video... I could be wrong, but it seems to me that giving someone advise and being nice about it hardly ever gets into their clogged brains. Like as if it goes through one ear and out the other. Usually people need a swift kick in the butt to get them to realize what they need to realize. I think that is part of Dr. Laura's way. Also, she has to make the calls short so she can get through more calls. And all people want to do is talk.
AutomHatter 1 year ago 2
@AutomHatter her husband, Laura bluntly said, "Okay Linda, that was mostly useless activity..." I mean c'mon, some women divorce their men or cheat on them or do something harsh emotionally or physically. This woman Linda was making an attempt and going out of her way to search for some help. Dr. Laura should give Linda *some* credit because obviously, Linda still cares about her husband.
birmingham1010 1 year ago
@birmingham1010 I As a Psychologist I would have to faithfully have to disagree with Dr. Laura's advice for the following reasons, this women made a bad choice to marry this man when she never loved him, now she wants to undo her mistake years later, and she is seeking confirmation that divorcing him is the right thing to do. Even though she was wrong for marrying a man she never loved in a strong intimate way to tell her to continue to be unhappy is simply bad amateur unprofessional advice!
1hotandsmartman 1 year ago
@1hotandsmartman Then you are an educated fool, and I hope you get no further patients. You just think about her, not the lives of the other four people in the family, or the fact that she entered a legally binding contract. I suppose you default on house and auto loans when you no longer like the car or house--bank be damned. She just wants a thrill, and you want to sanction the destruction of the husband and kids so that she gets it.
grips13 1 year ago 2
@grips13 Hold on, this proves my point, you and your groupie can't agree to disagree its all about control! My point if you was listening carefully which you wasn't, this caller in the past married this man for the wrong reason, for security! Now she is starting to realize that despite the fact that he is a good man she really doesn't feel attracted to him like a wife should be. So what advice does Dr. Laura tells her? Stay in a marriage you don't like because he is a good man! Wrong Advice!
1hotandsmartman 1 year ago
@grips13
Now you are just assuming like dr.Laura. I agree that the divorce would possibly be a bad idea, and the woman probably doesn't want it either. You don't keep trying for 14 months if you just want out, but that is an assumption as well. The problem is that nobody can give proper advice because dr.Laura cut the woman off. I don't care that you heard the same situation over and over again. Every situation is an unique one.
InsaneIs4EverMe 1 year ago
@grips13 Totally agree with you there Grips13. Well put.
AutomHatter 1 year ago
@1hotandsmartman You think love is just a feeling, Love is a commitment.
grips13 1 year ago
@grips13 Grips hello. I know love is a commitment, but this lady, never loved her husband, she explained this to Dr. Laura, in the past she married this man for the wrong reason, out of security. Now she is thinking about this and recognizes she not only messed up kids in this choice, but her husband's feelings are on the line as well. So what advice do you give her? I supposed to tell her you made a mistake now lay in it? And be unhappy until you die! Are you kidding me??
1hotandsmartman 1 year ago
@1hotandsmartman Response two! Grips13. As a psychologist I have to give good advice, and Dr. Laura advice was not good advice! She is not a real Doctor or a psychologist! She is simply a talk show advice personality! This lady should be told that you made a mistake in the past learn from it, i would make sure she understood why she made this choice, then i would tell her to tell her husband despite the fact it might hurt him, take care of your children and move on until you find a man you love!
1hotandsmartman 1 year ago
@1hotandsmartman Is English your second language? I'm just wondering because your grammar is terrible. (No offense.) But that aside, I can see where you are coming from, however your view is to only give this woman self, and instant gratification instead of focusing on the family (and especially the children) before herself. Which is the basis of what Dr. Laura teaches. I think it is just two different ways of life. Put yourself as #1 or put others as #1. I personally agree with the latter.
AutomHatter 1 year ago
@birmingham1010 haha thank u thats wat im sayn
maclovesmonkeys 1 year ago
I don't know if I totally agree with Laura's advice. I do agree that this woman needs to get away from everything and think about what her husband brought into her life. After much reflection, talk with her husband face to face and be totally honest with him. She should apologize to her husband for saying that she doesn't love him and that she wants to start over and learn to love him for who he is & be his companion. She should tell him that she wants their marriage to work and if that's true,
birmingham1010 1 year ago
@birmingham1010 both she and her husband need to learn to be TOTALLY honest with each other. They need to stop worrying about what each other is thinking, stop having secrets, and they need talk about what made their marriage to work the last 14-15 years. Even after all that affection and passion die away over the years, it's faithfulness to each other (aka agape love) that is more important than any other loves.
birmingham1010 1 year ago
I think the recent N-word fiasco brings up something that I've seen for years from her. Ultimately she doesn't have much compassion for other people. I think it's her personality trait.
She wants to help people, but she doesn't modify how she communicates in order to take their feelings into consideration. So she tends to be blunt and comes across as preaching on her high horse to many.
Ultimately she is correct but right or wrong doesn't matter to most people. They care how it was said.
kosai19 1 year ago 2
@kosai19 "They care how it was said"
? Get some skin. She is spot on with the n word fiasco.
I hear blacks in the gym with their headphones listining to rap sayin nigger this nigger that. And we hear it all day from them on tv movies pop culture ect ect.
The fact they call eachother niggers show the ignorance of the situation they have gotton themselves into.
Omegatide 1 year ago
@Omegatide
I agree with you. I also find it very strange that people first look outwardly to blame others when in reality they weren't paying attention to what was said.
It seems too high a percentage of people are just looking for opportunities to be offended. In reality she did say the N-word but she used it in a neutral sense.
This Dr. Laura scandal got so huge that it's almost funny because she didn't really do anything wrong.
It's a sad reflection of the ignorance of our society.
kosai19 1 year ago
@kosai19 Well quite frankly nigga is a neutral word. Just not out of a white persons mouth. Hey I'm sorry we owned slaves. Blame the Republicans, but if you wish for YOUR word to leave the mouths of society BLACKS need to be the first ones not saying it. So the only ones left are racists, or historians! YAY! Seriously though blacks use nigga as if it were the word like. A deeper issue there. It really has nothing to do with salvery.
Omegatide 1 year ago
@Omegatide
Slightly off topic but there was a really good black rapper documentary that talked about this. The guys at the top, Jay Z, Ludacrus,etc.. They all know that they make music for white people. They all know that after the first 2 million sales of any record the rest who buy their products are white.
So the use of that word seems like an intentional way to influence culture. Well worth researching the documentary to see what I mean.
kosai19 1 year ago
@Omegatide Actually it was the Democrats who were the Slave Traders, The Republicans where the party that Fought to free the slaves The Democrats invented the KKK that is just historical fact.
aaeoni 1 year ago
Lady give him the boot so he can be single for me and all the women that would love to have him. YOU WERE CRUEL. Laura STOP INTERUPTING EVERY TIME SOMEBODY TALKS. YOU KNOW SOME PEOPLE SHOW THIER BEAVERS TO GUYS THEY DON'T EVEN KNOW. LOTS OF THEM.
Vegheadsrock 1 year ago
two bitches diddily ho diddily ho two bitches on the motherfucking phone didily ho didily ho
OneChillIndividual 1 year ago
@OneChillIndividual- YES, you are OneChilllndividual
squidaudio 1 year ago
This is for Dr. Laura (who is not really a doctor) since she has disabled comments for every vid she's uploaded on her pathetic channel. Dr. Laura, in defense of the African-American woman that you so viciously insulted with your racist rant this morning. This is for you."JEW, JEW, JEW, KIKE, KIKE, KIKE, CUNT, CUNT, CUNT.Now don't be hyper-sensitive about this, Kike Cunt, have a sense of humor about this, Bitch Jewess, this is the way people talk. It's not racist, sexist, or anti-Semitic. No??
siankane 1 year ago
Wowww, Dr. Laura, does she EVER let people talk? That other girl got about 10 words in! This lady is obviously really upset and no one should go through life not being in love just because they have something "comfortable, and good enough" Yes she should have come out with her feelings earlier, but my god Dr. Laura is terrible! This lady needs to end the marriage and stop stringing it along cause after 17 months of counseling and she still doesnt love him obviously they wont be in love.
fearlessmt 1 year ago
I can't condemn Dr. Laura for her hard stance, because what she says is what you have to do in a marriage. I also think she's right, that this woman who called doesn't understand love. But what I think Dr. Laura misses is that the woman can find a new wellspring of love within herself if she will search within. In fact, I'm pretty sure that anyone this woman was with, she would feel the same way about. She's kind of autistic about love, that's all. She can grow.
Lisarata 1 year ago
ohh i miss this! psychology rocks
bellacinderellakk 1 year ago
@bellacinderellakk Laura is NOT a psychologist, a psychiatrist, nor a mental health professional. She's just a bitch with an agenda who happens to possess a Phd (and not in the psychology field). The way that Laura is acting is also unethical. She seems to be broadcasting people's problems on the airwaves for entertainment purposes rather than attempting to rehabilitate them.
Jibjub1980 1 year ago
what a fucking BITCH this is probably the lowest of the low this woman calls up to look for a justification, so she can keep acting the way she does and ruin 4 lives
LooneyLopez 1 year ago
Some times I don't care for Dr. Laura's advice, but overall I do and this (creepy) audio is one more example of why she's so great.
guyNbluejeans 1 year ago 5
@guyNbluejeans
why?
InsaneIs4EverMe 1 year ago
@InsaneIs4EverMe Why what?
guyNbluejeans 1 year ago
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@guyNbluejeans
Some times I don't care for Dr. Laura's advice, but overall I do and this (creepy) audio is one more example of why she's so great.
Why is she so great? To me this video shows someone who should not help people.
InsaneIs4EverMe 1 year ago
omfg...dr laura, what the hell is wrong with you!
Meggabear1988 1 year ago
Yes she is rude, but she is 100% correct about this lady being selfish and self centered. She should have left him from day one she knew she didnt love him, but no, she stayed with him because he takes care of her. In this argument I agree with Dr. Laura
itsasecret48 1 year ago 8
@itsasecret48 Hello Itsasecret, I'm a psychologist and I would have to disagree with Dr. Laura on this one! If anybody stay with a partner that they are not attracted too they are headed for disaster! There are different types of connections some just platonic and some very sexual with friendship at the core. If a person only feels a platonic connection with somebody but they ignored it in the past, to tell somebody to continue to make the same mistake is stupid! This women needs to divorce him!
1hotandsmartman 1 year ago
@itsasecret48 No, she isn't right. Schlessinger doesn't know the dynamic of the marriage, and she's rushing to conclusions like she always does. Maybe the guy was boring. Maybe he farts when they're having sex. What is she supposed to do? Stay in an unhappy marriage?
Anyhow, it looks like Schlessinger's career is through. She finally went too far by spewing racial slurs. The bitch had it coming all along. I'm sorry, but although it is probably wrong, I can't help but gloat.
Jibjub80 1 year ago
@Jibjub80 I agree... I think that the "feeling" goes away over time but the sexual and emotional connection still needs to be there..she got married to him for the wrong reasons and it would be better for the kids but for her it would be terrible.
XoJackieLuvsRonniexo 3 months ago
@itsasecret48
Is being correct the only thing that matters? She is guilt tripping the wife into staying with her husband. That wasn't the problem. She goes for 17 months to counseling, etc..., so she wants to stay. She wanted to know how she could start having feelings for him. The advice dr. Laura gave her was FAKE the feelings and you should already have the feelings. Not one word about dating again or other solutions. She just made the woman feel worse about herself.
InsaneIs4EverMe 1 year ago
@InsaneIs4EverMe
Yes, the woman was wrong by staying with the husband. By pretending to love him.
Yes, dr.Laura should not hide this and tell her straight out that the woman was wrong, but almost the complete conversation is about how dr.Laura calls the wife stupid and cruel. I didn't even hear her explain properly why what she did was wrong. One firm, logical, well explained sentence would have been enough.
InsaneIs4EverMe 1 year ago
Bring back grace to our society . Boycott this horrible women. There is never any need to speak down to someone. Intelligence leads to treating people with respect when handing out advice.
hrebecca456 1 year ago
oh damn...i hope that caller did not take this advice. do him a favor and leave him.
Erickaf 1 year ago
That was horrible she assumed she knew what she wanted needed for the rest of her life. Sometimes people value love over the family and create new families.
zxcvbnmjhgfdsa1 1 year ago
ECHO ECHO ECHO!!
saruman84 1 year ago
When there's kids in the picture people don't have the luxury of being selfish anymore. They can't just divorce; that would put their kids through hell for no reason. And if the husband had been calling in asking for advice, Dr. Laura would have said the same type of thing. "Be nice to her. Let her know you care." She forces people to take some personal responsibility for the situation they find themselves in and try to make the best of it. Good for her!
BlackJacx1 1 year ago 2