Dating Advice for Women: Your Looks v Personality

[andrewinbrisbane]

What a crock of shit. I don't believe this at all... I have all these personality traits, and an average build. They ALWAYS ONLY choose someone for sex. Time and time again. And again, and again. It all sounds lovely, but it's bullshit, sorry. Seems it's all about hotness. Just telling the truth.

[tilorb]

@andrewinbrisbane Are you a dude or a chick? Anyways I think guys definitely want a sexually attractive girl(to them) like manuelschinler said: once a chick passes the looks test he will then think about her personality more and probably start thinking about all those things arkady said in the video. It's true for me at least. Keep in mind young guys don't know what they want, so they probably are just into sex until they get older.

[ironbull2003]

@andrewinbrisbane I'm a guy and he is absolutely right....

[TheWhopperTinger]

This guy is accurate man ;L Personality outweighs look by absolute miles in a normal persons mind.

[anastasov93]

He knows what he is talking about, girls.

[JohnMortonIV]

Personality really needs to match your looks, girls!

[123americarules]

Wow this guy is awesome

[QuoGirl]

yeah I know, i mean why only work on your appearance when over the years it's going to get all wrinkley and partially damaged when your personality could perhaps spare you from losing your loved ones and gain the respect from complete strangers??? :D besides, in some places, people can't afford beauty products to appear all glam-noramus, so they focus on improving what's left in their brains. It's more important anyway.

[SkinnyGirl125]

Mr. Arkady you are so brilliant!!! Often times I see men with women and I wonder why her, because there is others that look equally as attractive, and it is because they "CLICK". There is a lid for every pot out there and you just told me what takes a woman from ordinary to extraordinary. Kudos to you. Keep on keeping on! And I wish the best in your life, romanic, career, family etc.

[SuperKingsincere]

With my experience, it has mainly been American woman who seem to be arrogantly stuck on their looks. In the American date scene the woman feel lke it's the man who needs to be complete. Nice looking, great listener, got money, smooth, funny, etc, but woman.............. just cute. This is why they are hot with the worst personalities because of simple celled bacteria men seem to only focus on "she's hot" " she's hot!" without expecting more. Guys like that ruined the game.

[FoshizzoRizzo]

@SuperKingsincere Thumbs up for your comment, way up. I can't agree more.

[lajeannewa]

Hi! I have a question... what's with the come here/go away stuff??? I find it so very tiring! What's going on when the guy won't talk about the future after 4 years (((lots of conditions))) and plays come here/go away?! xx j.

[shady965]

thnks for inlighting the women , alot of girls think that all men care about is their Ds !

[therealsoulproduct]

Werd, son. A pretty face don't match a nasty attitude.

[alicethetroll]

women care more about money - duh!!!

[eyelinerfreak131]

@ 2:30 I have to disagree my friend men are always the hard headed ones some of us don't have the looks in general my clothes has nothing to do with my personality it's called I wanna be comfortable quit making me look like Brittany spears wanna be and accept me the way I am but MEN ! only love slutty looking chicks they're gonna be with them forever i been insulted all my life it's always you gotta have barbie face and body like a model it's wtf in my eyes

[FoshizzoRizzo]

@eyelinerfreak131 It's the fact that the media uses celebrities and models as a display for attraction and love. Therefore, you've got all these simple minded motherfuckers out here in society thinking everybody is SUPPOSE to have a celebrity looking face. But there is the exception, where there are some men out there that DOES look past the beauty, and have had experience in the dating scene. It's hard to find a man that is not a simple minded, dumb fuck these days.

[eyelinerfreak131]

@FoshizzoRizzo that's true i agree can't argue with that prob is is that where are these creatures where do we have to go? that's not full of horny ass people

[linnywinnie5]

welcome back!! i love you... your advice is awesome ~~

[dlvlne666]

How can you dislike this video ? This guy is awesome and is really informative :) thanks for the videos !

[Hellraizer481]

a man of wisdom indeed

[YourFriendlyMe]

talk about asian guys in highschool and the myth of the small penis

[lookwhoneedsahobbie]

Please answer. I'm desperate. How do you initiate a kiss for the first time with your new girlfriend. We're both each other's first bf/gf so the nervousness/inexperience factor is high. I've tried waiting for 'the right moment' but that hasn't seemed to have come. So along with suggestions for how to create that, could you recommend ways to create a casual, perhaps humorous moment in which a kiss would be acceptable? Thanks. I love your videos. They helped me get her in the first place. :)

[artnwityr]

@lookwhoneedsahobbie You are over-thinking it. As the man, she EXPECTS YOU to make the first move. Here is my suggestion: get into a regular conversation, then when the first awkward moment comes up, enhance the awkward moment with prolonged eye contact. THEN go in for it.

But whatever you do...DO NOT ASK HER if it is ok to kiss her. Just let your non-verbal actions let her know that you want the kiss.

[lookwhoneedsahobbie]

@artnwityr Can you explain how the awkward moment aspect of that helps? That's not sarcasm by the way, it's a legitamite question.

[genre60]

@lookwhoneedsahobbie the awkward moment is when there is a long pause and nothing happens usually, so use the moment to your advantage, that is what i think artnwityr meant

[artnwityr]

@lookwhoneedsahobbie The awkward moment:

1) it provides her with a focus. During awkward moments, both people are ALWAYS thinking "What's next?" or "How can I get out of this awkward moment?" Then, simply look her in the eye and go for it.

[LilMsKissyMissy]

im depressed now

[lemscardinals]

It's been a while, finally.

[killerghost31]

Can you post a video on your thoughts on the different pros and cons to friends with benefits compared to having a relationship?

[xnihpseht]

So true!!

[videosissy]

i am a guy , why am i watching this ? btw , thnx arkady for coming back.

[feenix566]

@arkady39: I think you should post a video about jealousy and self-confidence. I've seen more relationships ruined by jealousy than anything else. People seem to think that they can control their partner and make them faithful by constantly monitoring their activity. This couldn't be farther from the truth. When someone acts like that, it only creates resentment and destroys the relationship. I think if more people would just realize that, a lot of relationship problems could be avoided.

[SCIENTIST619]

you should try to get partnered if you havent already :D

[rogantu]

when I first meet a new class, person, working place the first thing I do is file women in yes/no bins by looks. around 70-90% make it in the yes bin and then later 85% of those get moved to the no bin because there is absolutely no way I'm ever going to want a person like that, mostly it is the more attractive women who end up in the no bin. most of the time I see the girls 6/10 or 7/10 stay in the yes bin, 5/10 or lower seems to be no for me, but sometimes their personality make them into yes!

[Cammie010]

@rogantu seriously..that's the FIRST thing you do? lol

[rogantu]

@Cammie010 yeah it is a weird thing I started doing, bad habits are hard to get rid off.

[HOUSEtwisted]

i see a lot of buys around me and they end up to be dumped out and losers because they give an unessecary attention to girl!! please ARKADY!! men need more advices to learn from than women!!

[bonnie04]

Arkady I also have a question. You see, I'm one of those people who fits the bill of what you described in the end with all the good personality traits. I'm also quite confident, a good communicator, dresses well and also fairly attractive. But as someone mentioned, people have to NOTICE your looks first before they give you a chance. My issue is I am an Indian girl, and I feel like it's harder to get noticed first, when competing against white and ethnic fair skinned girls. Any advice?

[sweetnspice1221]

@bonnie04 Wow I'm also an Indian girl and I can relate to your comment so much! Boys my age (I'm 20) just don't seem to want to be in a relationship...they just want to hook up, which is definitely NOT how I was raised to be. I deserve better than that.

[xnihpseht]

@sweetnspice1221 You do deserve better, but you won´t find it in a 20 yr old guy. Guys that age need to meet different girls to learn wich one is worth keeping, but they won´t know untill it´s too late. A lot of girs isn´t, you might know..

[shoes2shoes]

@sweetnspice1221

What's actually happening is the guys you're putting your attention on that you want to be in a long relationship with aren't the type of guys who want to be in a long relationship. You aren't noticing the other guys who would love to be in a long term relationship, or maybe they are too shy to approach you.

[sweetnspice1221]

@shoes2shoes All I know is, I'm not about to make the first move lol...I'm too shy for that. I've never been in a relatioship before, but there is this one guy who's been after me for the past couple months and I know his intentions aren't right (i.e. I'm pretty sure he just wants to sleep with an "innocent" girl like me....which is how he described me by the way). I don't know what to do...

[shoes2shoes]

@sweetnspice1221

If that's all he wants then don't be with him then lol. Someone else will come along, or maybe you will have to stop being as shy and go after guys who you think have good intentions. Trust me every guy you talk to will be flattered because it's not every day a girl approaches a guy

[sweetnspice1221]

@shoes2shoes Thanks for your advice :)

[ky4ence]

Your English has improved !

[bonnie04]

I really really enjoy your vids, they're so helpful! If you could do some more videos for the ladies, that would be so helpful! Thanks :D x

[df393]

In my view, personality is part of what makes a woman physically attractive. Judging a person's attractiveness by talking with them or doing something with them is FAR different from looking at them across the room or looking at a still photo of them.

[Lillyn95]

@df393 I agree with you



[Jvilleman31]

In my experience, girls around here only care about looks, if u r hot, even if u have a dickhead personality she'll still give u a chance but If ur not physically attractive she won't even look your way, girls are becoming more an more like your typical guy when it comes to attraction

[alreadydead16]

why is it that this guy shows interest in me but doesn't initiate anything? Is it because we don't see each other very often and he doesn't have my number? :/ Am i supposed to wait or what...

[AquaBlue070]

Personality is HUGE with me and it's what makes a guy attractive imo. Take a guy who has a great personality (self-confident, intelligent, funny, etc) but who happens to be downright average in the looks department. Now the more aloof and unattainable he is, the more intriguing and therefore appealing he suddenly becomes to us girls. Attractive girls get hustled all the time, so it's all about the guy being a CHALLENGE. And I suppose it's human instinct to want what you can't have. ;-)

[shoes2shoes]

@AquaBlue070

No it's human instinct to want what other people can't have. You want him before someone else does to say look aha I'm so great give me attention for being such an amazing girl who has this awesome guy. (who by the way will probably turn out to be just as big an asshole as the rest of them)

[AquaBlue070]

@shoes2shoes I'm not really sure what you mean, but I think most people don't value what they don't have to work for. I can tell you that if a guy is too complimentary, it's a major turn off. And a guy won't get an attractive girl interested in him simply by telling her that he likes her or he thinks she's beautiful. No healthy person likes it when a total stranger practically drops into their lap and says "Take me, I'm yours".

[mrKreuzfeld]

I wholehartedly disagree. I believe you cannot really rank personality like that, I believe people, especially girls, thinking about personality like this is one of the biggest problems in modern relationships. people often seem to compare with the personalities of the perfect people in the movies. I think people is looking for a personality that fits them self. I agree that looks will not keep a guy around, but I don't agree that there are people with exeptonal personalities.

[hentaitensai]

Personality is certainly a defining characteristic that sets someone apart from their physical equals. However, personality is a lot like physical appearance in that you can only make the best of what you have. If anything, personality is more difficult to improve. You can artificially enhance your appearance through plastic surgery, but you cannot suddenly develop a sense of humor or increase your intelligence . Though you can become more knowledgeable, patient, kind, honest, and sincere.

[hentaitensai]

Personality is certainly a defining characteristic that sets someone apart from their physical equals. However, personality is a lot like physical appearance in that you can only make the best of what you have. If anything, personality is more difficult to improve. You can artificially enhance your appearance through plastic surgery, but you cannot suddenly develop a sense of humor or increase your intelligence . Though you can become more knowledgeable, patient, kind, honest, and sincere.

[dreamlandlover]

what does it mean when a guy calls/texts you just to talk or say hi but haven't asked you to be their girlfriend - when they show all the signs of liking you?

[macherielle]

@dreamlandlover What are the signs that he's shown you? You can't be 100% certain those "signs" represent love for you. A guy can like a girl for different reasons. He won't necessarily want to ask you out for a date. He can like you as a friend, just as a friend, nothing more. If he's a super shy guy then that's a different story. But then, he wouldn't have the courage to call/text you in the first place.

[xGODLYxSKiLLeDx666x]

hmmm

[TOXICINNAMON]

Make a video of a tour of your home plz....!!

[Andybaby]

1:45

A: The guy would stick around because he can't get anyone better.

[manuelschindler]

truth is: looks are an absolute exclusion criterion. only if it they are met, a person will even move on to check out the personality.

[SkinnyGirl125]

@manuelschindler

I have also seen guys stick around a little too long with good looking but bad personality women. Looks can make up for a HUGE LACK of personality.

[Matelmrambo]

@SkinnyGirl125 No they don't. You probably think they have a lack of personality.

[loyalqueen]

@SkinnyGirl125 well, that guy must suck. he probably has a shit personality too.....so it amounts to the same thing. idiot stays with idiot.

[loyalqueen]

@manuelschindler sadly it is true.

[mrnerville]

good to have you back

[arkady39]

Hi, sorry guys for disappearing. I will try being more consistent about posting. Feel free to make suggestions for new videos. The more specific your requests are, the easier it will be making new and useful videos for me. Thanks a lot.

[narcissusdark]

@arkady39 i just love how your vids are presented, you have a really nice house/flat,

[SugarFreeTargets]

I've met a girl with the looks and personality; we've went so far... And I lost her. :(

[Linky360]

Your back!!! fantastic!!

[schassis]

hey where you been at bro? bout time you came back you have some pretty good advice man I watch a lot of your videos.