Help! My Husband is Addicted to Porn!

[RaoulDuke3221968]

who are Dan and Jennifer, and why is anyone asking them anything about shit? oh wait, I forgot...........it's the internet, where everyone is an expert about everything.

[LoveableDozer]

Porn... Is CHEATING! If you are in a relationship with someone, you SHOULD not look at someone else naked... You should only see your partner naked!!! PLUS PORN IS NOTHING BUT SLUTS!!!!

[YourPhantom97]

@LoveableDozer

This is seriously one the the stupidest thing ive ever heard. You sound extremely insecure about urself. Porn stars are not sluts, theyre open with themselves and its a job. (if theyre anything theyre whores. lol) the person isnt flirting, they arent swapping fluids, and they arent going around behind ur back. its erotic, its all about fantasy. i like watching porn while with my partner and sometimes by myself. i find it makes sex better usually. stop being a prig.

[craneywatch]

Dear girls and women, don't devastate yourself and break relationships because of men's lust. Your bitterness, anger and uncompromisable attitude could be even more sin than that. Please understand that for many many man sometimes it is very hard to break free from sin of lust. But having husband as a bully or alcoholic is much more serious than lust.

[YourPhantom97]

@craneywatch

Thats assuming that its a sin. And to tell someone who doesnt believe its wrong that its a sin doesnt mean much. lol.

[craneywatch]

@YourPhantom97 Watching porns needs to be avoided. However, for many young guys it is incredibly hard. And if girls don't want to understand that, then... sorry to say... they are just selfish which is even more sin than that. In fact many movies are even worse than porn. I am talking about movies which encourage and motivate senseless violence, hatred, blood thirst.

[Tickledpinkism]

You guys obviously have no idea what you're talking about. Porn addiction is a reality, it ruins relationships, firstly because the addicted can't come out and say 'I have a problem' and secondly because the other party (spouse / partner) is betrayed by it. C'mon, get your facts straight!

[YourPhantom97]

@Tickledpinkism

umm sorry. but im a porn addict. im a functioning pornaholic. lol. and i admit it openly to my partner. i watch it with them and by myself. so there goes ur first reason out the window. the second one is only true if ur insecure about urself or ignorant of porn (as women sometimes tend to be). just cuz u dnt like it dont mean they dnt. it isnt cheating bcuz theyre isnt and cannot be any fluid, emotional, or mental transactions between a person and vid/pic.

[craneywatch]

@YourPhantom97 I am touched by your honesty. God bless you!!!

[YourPhantom97]

@Tickledpinkism

umm...if driving makes ur spouse feel betrayed bcuz she believes in "green" then does that mean ull stop driving? no. just becuz ppl feel a certain way about issues does not mean the whole world, or even their spouse, has to stop and change their thoughts, ways, and life to soothe that one persons feelings.

[YourPhantom97]

Respond to this video...

Yes, it is real. but just becuz someone wnt give it up does not make them an addict. cuz if my partner said i couldnt eat pizza for whatever reason u can be damned sure im still gonna eat it. lol. to ask someone to give up porn doesnt mean they have a problem. more than likely she's just insecure and thats HER issue. would it be nice that he did give it up for her, yes. is it reasonable? no.

[sarfiyhogfdfgs435]

@Tickledpinkism

I AGREE!!

[feedtherightwolf]

Yea... You couldn't even assume for one second that may be there was something unhealthy about his porn use.

You guys remind me of my old psychologist, when I was asking for help because I was watching porn 40 hours per week and couldn't stop on my own.

She told me to keep on watching because it was healthy behavior. Healthy my ass.

[YourPhantom97]

@feedtherightwolf

it is a healthy behavior. so is eating, so is drinking water, so is working out. but there are limits to things. even and sometimes most esp things that are normally good for u.

[feedtherightwolf]

@YourPhantom97 Sex is healthy. Masturbation is healthy in limitation. Watching porn? I don't think so. Would it be healthy to sit and look at pictures of food or water instead of going getting something to eat or to drink? I don't think so.

[YourPhantom97]

@feedtherightwolf

umm, so masturbation is healthy but porn isnt...? wth do u think gets them off? if u say think about ur partner then only ppl WITH partners at that current time are allowed to masturbate without being wrong, sinning, ect. otherwise its mental porn.

[YourPhantom97]

Respond to this video...

And YES if sitting and looking at pictures of food and water could cure ur hunger and thirst then yes it would healthy. lol

[feedtherightwolf]

@YourPhantom97 Depends on the person I guess. In my experience looking at porn did not cure my "hunger" but rather caused my hunger to continue to grow, until it got completely out of proportion, past any point of what could be considered healthy.

[craneywatch]

@YourPhantom97 Exactly! I initially didn't want to have sexual desire. I didn't order it, just like I didn't order to have hair throughout my skin. But as fact guys were born to have strong yearning for sex. Oh maybe it is all very bad.

[esclavadeAllah]

Certainly these peopledo not really know what are they talking about. They certainly do not provide any useful advice and worst they seems to encourage watching pornography. They are probably addicted themselves without knowing it or do not know the extent of the damage caused by pornography - simply put people addicted can not have sex with a real person so they become isolated and depressed in a vicious circle, not even talking about the damage to their relationship if they have any.

[actaea1421]

Obviously they're not Christians.

[YourPhantom97]

@actaea1421

omg. so they must be OF THE DEVIL!!!! hahaha. get real.

[YourPhantom97]

@actaea1421

So they must be terrorists right? lol

[curtisb3000]

To be honest PORN ruins romance in a intimate relationship. A lot of people become so bent on their fantasies they may have a hard time acknowledging the needs of the other person. And if that other person cannot do their fantasies to their liking, they go straight to porn. Lesbians, anal fetishes, couple group sex and orgies do not normally represent our normal sex lives so watching makes all the more alluring.

[HusbandAddicted2Porn]

Watching porn with your husband will not make their relationship any better. Porn does not do a good job teaching about how to enjoy sex. In fact if you think about it, you are getting less sex.

[Danikaisburning]

the thing that makes it wrong for me is he is looking at another its basically cheating

[KraftwithaK]

While no fan of porn, I think the key here is this: using porn in secret when your partner is uncomfortable with it will destroy intimacy just as sneaking around on your partner in any other way would. I have no problem equating it with cheating as its still stepping outside the marriage to get one's needs met. Porn addiction is often a symptom of a schizoid personality disorder or a narcissistic personality disorder.

[thenatureinme]

Females use sex initially to lure males and when they are finally snared, they then start to wean them off sex. Like any neutered dog, these males then just becomes fat! Porn goes hand in hand with masturbation and masturbation is having sex with yourself - not to be shared with a fumbling female! The real issue here is not porno but masturbation. Masturbation is homosexual in its intent and homosexuality is merely an advanced form of masturbation - it is ultimately the desire of all males!

[thenatureinme]

There must be more to this story... I think she found gay porn!

[alexbobp]

"He knows that I'm completely against pornography"<-- Well it looks like I found your problem. Though I guess it *is* his fault for dating a girl so damn jealous she gets jealous of a COMPUTER.

[GiggleFitt29]

@alexbobp

it's not a jealousy thing, it's more of a "why the hell would he choose a whore instead of someone right in front of him that can actually, um, idk, HAVE SEX WITH HIM!

[IAmElisabeth1]

wow. blame the woman for the guy's problem.

[KraftwithaK]

Just another thing to mull over, my porn addict ex husband was terrible in bed. The sex was awful, soulless and unsatisfying for BOTH of us. Now that I am with a "regular" guy things are way better. Its ironic that a lot of guys think the woman is to blame for her guy turning to porn. The truth is, porn makes you a lousy lover and its quite possible that your wife/gf isn't interested in having sex because its bad with you.

[Ieatbabyseals]

Me and my wife watch porn together and we're extremely happy

[GiggleFitt29]

@Ieatbabyseals

that's because you're not happy on your own... WITH OUT IT!

[Ieatbabyseals]

Or we're just comfortable with out sexuality and our relationship together.

[GiggleFitt29]

or you just don't know how to turn each other on with out it anymore so you pull that shit up...

[Ieatbabyseals]

Are you threatened sexually by pornagraphic material? Do you find it perplexing that people like to watch other people have intercourse?

[GiggleFitt29]

no... i find it perplexing that people even bother watching other people have sex when they can just do it them selves with their partner...

[Ieatbabyseals]

Because one person is boring

[GiggleFitt29]

so you really lack the creativity to come up with something yourself? wow... look how far the world has come! that's stupid, just because someone's boring that means your not going to love them anymore? that means you dont' want to be with them anymore? NO! SO WHY THE HELL WOULD SEX REALLY MATTER THAT MUCH! AT LEAST YOU'RE GETTING SOMETHING OUT OF THEM RIGHT?!?! WHAT? THEY AREN'T GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU? IF NOT, THEY DESERVE SOMEONE BETTER!

[Ieatbabyseals]

You're not a guy and you wouldn't understand. And you're not a sexually comfortable girl so you wouldn't understand. But for men there is a biological imparative to pro-create, and porn fills that void. And when a guy or girl is very sexual they tend to need a little extra stimulation.

[GiggleFitt29]

actually i am a sexually comfortable person and that's why i don't need porn!

porn doesn't fill any void, it makes people feel like they aren't good enough no matter what they do... and if they really love each other than they are all they need.... each other... which means you're not in love... it's all false just like the porn that you watch...

[thenatureinme]

@GiggleFitt29 I watch porn because I masturbate. I masturbate because I have intensely pleasurable orgasms, something you obviously know nothing about...

[GiggleFitt29]

ummm... i do know something about it, but unlike YOU gross people, i have enough of an imagination to creat it in my head WITHOUT HELP! something YOU obviously know nothing about!

[thenatureinme]

@GiggleFitt29 Funny you should say that... Research done by Prof. Gert Holestege in 2007, on the 'female orgasm', using a MRI scan, revealed and I quote"...an extreme deactivation of the female brain." The reward region of the brain shows NO ACTIVITY and the region dealing with emotions are completely deactivated. You want me now to believe that you also have masturbation fantasies, like males do... which is ultimately nothing more than a porn collection?!

[GiggleFitt29]

and i don't care how much people 'research' that's bull shit! cause i can get off just fine without an image to help... I CAN SEE IT IN MY HEAD! AND I CAN THINK IT TO MYSELF! i don't need fantasies either btw... i get all i need from my husband...

[thenatureinme]

@GiggleFitt29 In a nut shell; Females rather prositutes themselves for protection, foraging rights and status within the troop...

[GiggleFitt29]

in a nut shell; it's all bullshit... the people who watch it and the people who are in them... BOTH A BUNCH OF BULLSHIT!

[Ieatbabyseals]

I think you're wrong

Everyones opinions are different, and just because you can't understand me and my wifes relationship doesn't mean you have the right to look down on it. Humans are sexual beings and expiramenting with different sexual themes is a great way to keep a relationship fresh. Are you married GiggleFitt29? Do you have a partner?

[GiggleFitt29]

yes... yes i am married and i and my husband have an amazing sex life and we don't need that stuff to make it so... we're very happy without it...

[Ieatbabyseals]

Then what's wrong with me and my wife watching porn together? Don't force your marital lifestyle on me. I can engage in whatever depraived sex acts I like with my wife.

[GiggleFitt29]

ok... whatever... you go ahead and do that you perverted people... i'm not forcing anything on anyone... i'm saying it's gross and there's no real way of justifying it morally...

[insaniac82]

@GiggleFitt29 I feel sorry for the poor sap that married you. "No real way of justifying it morally".. oh boy do you sound like a ball of joy having such a dogmatic moral judgements.

"i'm saying it's gross" ... what are you, 12? Grow up. Watching two people having sex is not gross.

[thenatureinme]

@Ieatbabyseals All females find pornography gross and apart from the fact that they do not masturbate and have orgasms, there is also another reason. Heterosexual pornography is centred around only one theme - RAPE! It always depicts an act were females are being humiliated, degraded and dehumanized! It is clearly what all males get off on. Ironically, it is the aversion towards females and femininity that we understand as heterosexual masculinity amongst males!

[Ieatbabyseals]

Not true. My wife likes porn. She likes to watch gay porn because she thinks it's hillarious. 28% of women watch porn, and porn does not revolve around rape only the ones you watch do.

[thenatureinme]

@Ieatbabyseals (continue) This aversion towards females defines the process of 'defeminization' and 'masculinization' of the undifferentiated zygote (fertilized egg) to become male, where the default is always female. Have you ever wondered why males also have nipples and breasts? The clitoris and labia lips are merely homologous to the male penis. Just like breasts in males, it serves no purpose - it is merely there incase it needed to develop into a male. Clitoris=penis, labia majores=scrotum.

[GiggleFitt29]

ok, you haven't bugged me in days now... i got sick of you the first time you commented to me, shut up... i don't care about what you have to say...

DUH! get it I'M NOT LISTENING YOU!!!

[thenatureinme]

@GiggleFitt29 Why did you subscibed to my videos?

[GiggleFitt29]

if i did, i didn't mean to...

[Calminmind]

Give him a break Christ!

[abcarey1234]

Most evils starts in the mind and thoughts. Porn is immoral!! Do you want your mother having sex with others? Can you really think of your wife having sex with others? If you are a normal person, you would not want like that way. We have not only physical world, we have spiritual world too. Evil will slay wicked and immorals.

[CaptainZeep]

Evil will slay your harlot mother with 12 inches of wicked crimson boner.

[GiggleFitt29]

evil will slay your loopy ass for even saying something so stupid...

[MrDouglasfairbanks]

please also note:

that by watching porn and having sex you are making the world a more peaceful place. violent people don't have sex and this is what causes them to be violent.

[bonzelite]

that's one of the dumbest things I've ever read; you clearly have no idea about how dangerous porn can escalate into addiction; not all viewing of porn results in addiction, clearly, but in many cases, more than you are ever aware of, it destroys lives

[143Sponge]

I agree with you, bonzelite!!!

[GiggleFitt29]

that's the stupidest thing i've ever read! really?!?! porn is making the world a more peaceful place? than tell me about how easy it is when they get in and can't get out because nobody else will hire a whore! or how great it is that because of porn the spread of STD's are higher than ever and yes STDs ARE SPREAD THROUGH PORN SETS! just ask Sasha Greay, 18 year old pornstar... she's gotten STD's and infections and she's stupid for staying in that bullshit way of life...

[insaniac82]

@GiggleFitt29: STDs are common if you have sex, but we're not talking about serious STDs such as HIV in porn sets. First of all, Sasha is 21 now. Second of all, that same porn star will tell you that they are tested well in advance before doing any scene and it is sure of a hell lot safer than a random hookup with someone at the bar.

[GiggleFitt29]

so what if they are less serious STD's, they're still STD's and they are still uncomfortable to have!

and a lot of porn stars will tell you that they would throw their own child in the closet and lock it if they ever even considered going into the pornography business...

[insaniac82]

There are a lot more dangerous jobs than adult film work. The damage coal mining does to one's health is a lot more uncomfortable than the occasional STD a pornstar may get. Working for the military has much greater risks and in many cases lower pay. Do you want to abolish those professions?

What business is it of yours if adults choose to work in the adult film industry?? Get off your moral high horse and quit judging others. Quit forcing your morals onto others, you may just be wrong.

[GiggleFitt29]

and they are just as terrible... all those jobs? yeah, just as bad as ponrography... i'm not on a moral high horse, and i'm not judging others... and you know what, i'm willing to take the risk of being wrong because i know i'm fighting for what i think is right!

[MrDouglasfairbanks]

please note this poor fellow is human!

there really is no sexual addiction! please let people be human and let them look at pornography! it is normal and natural and truly clean thinking! you cannot fantasize about one person only in the world it is impossible!

[GiggleFitt29]

that's a lie...

[aaronfurtek]

outforblood you might be the stupidest person ever in the history of time

[outforbl00d]

It's disgusting that a guy should still be doing it when he's in a "committed" relationship. It takes away the whole point that relationships are about couples, not the couple and whoever else the guy wants his kicks from.

[Calminmind]

Your husband looks at porn because you don't suck his dick enough.  Plain and simple- Sorry for being brutally honest

: )

[TargetGuy2245]

I am married so the BJ is only in the movies. But that is true that she probably does not let him in the hole enough. Men need an outlet.

[heartyhoopz1184]

this couple is awesome!

[bonzelite]

well, hot news flash --porn is addicting like any drug. It's actually more powerful than some drugs because it is from within your own mind and body.

The woman who's husband/boyfriend is into porn has a legitimate gripe as often the porn begins to replace real intimacy. It also begins to replace attraction to the wife or girlfriend.

If you're allegedly monogamous and married and use porn secretly, when it's not mutually shared, then you are an addict.

Plain and simple.

[Chitsurine]

you must be a woman.

cause all men watch porn.

im sure you know that some men are more sexually active than women.

so, if their girlfriend isn't giving the good stuff then they obviously find it somewhere else without cheating.

[bonzelite]

no I'm a man who goes to 12-step for porn addiction. It is real and can destroy a relationship if gotten out of hand.

secretly going to use porn is the first step in destroying intimacy between couples.

If she doesn't care, and knows I use it, and views it with me, then that is different. But to hide it is entirely different.

[KraftwithaK]

Thanks bonzelite. Its nice to hear from a man on this subject. As the former spouse of a porn addict (porn ended our marriage) the first thing a lot of guys will say is that I must not have been giving him what he wanted. There are so many misconceptions about porn addiction. Even in this video they state another common reaction "Why not watch it with him?" If we are talking about someone with a porn addiction, its like suggesting that I could cure an alcoholic spouse my drinking with him.

[bonzelite]

Correct

And no amount of dressing up, doing what he likes, indulging his fetishes, watching it with him... will stop him from using porn.

He will use it with or without you and if he keeps this a secret (in between being caught and then reprimanded), your relationship will suffer. As his wife you are but one outlet of the many he will seek through fantasy and porn addiction.

Believe me, I am that man. And it has destroyed trust between me and my wife.

[KraftwithaK]

Kudos to you for owning it. That is a good sign that you can put that behind you and fix your marriage. Its that first important step that my ex was unwilling to take.

[GiggleFitt29]

@KraftwithaK

yeah... or like saying "oh, well if you're cheating on me with another girl, why not do it together with her?" i understand exactly what you're saying...

[rottwieler20]

Porn is great..

[icefenixxx]

LOL... try fucking your boyfriend once in a blue moon... He might cut it out

[cartmanfan0316]

I think porn is ruining my sex life.

[Savedleech]

He was only jacking off..

[TommyD758]

well he's married oO but to leave him is way to far..

[robertsangel1975]

What I meant by judged is by God...

[windizzle]

youre totally misguided friend there is no God

[GiggleFitt29]

and there is not ligitament reasong to watch porn... AND YES, THERE IS A GOD...

[HunSavage]

Porn does fuck up people's turn-ons when it comes to real life sex. Humans have a lot of inhibitions, but it sure would be much cooler if we'd exchange fantasy worlds for exciting realities instead.

[PunkinPoo2]

It is not a matter if watch porn together with your half, but the Idea, THAT if they are "ADDICTED" then it is a Very Real problem for the one that isn`t. It can& does Destroy many, Relationships and Marriages. These two are a Real Joke....Good Advice is not gonna happen with these two Idiots.

[robertsangel1975]

and it is NOT a control thing. it is common sense. people who incourage this shows the kind of person you are. & with you being a woman i thought you would be on the wife's side.

[robertsangel1975]

and, it is an addiction, & if he wants to get aroused, he should only get aroused by his wife. & it is a form of cheating...& he will be judged..

[Atheistjeremy]

"...& he will be judged.."

Be judged? What does that mean? He's not doing anything illegal.

[robertsangel1975]

By judged by God.

[Atheistjeremy]

Which god do you believe in and what evidence do you have that She is real?

[porkyminch01]

well idiot, God created Alphamales and Omega males in the human race( and the intermediate ones, the average), the only way for a omega male to get any female, its slavery or paid sex, in the past that was not problem, because woman were opressed, but now, Omegamales only hope to a sexual life its Porn and paid sex.

BUT if an alpha male prefers porn over sex, its mostly a psicologycal condition, like homosexuality and pedophilia

[heartyhoopz1184]

homosexuality isnt a psychological condition...there are physical differences in the brain between homosexuals and heterosexuals.

believe in god all you want, thats fine. but you need to accept science more...

[GiggleFitt29]

YES! MY THOUGHTS EXACTLY! porn is a form of cheating... it's like saying "man i would fuck that" and when you have someone it's like saying the same thing even if you were still with the... it's mentally cheating and yes he should only be aroused by his wife...

[robertsangel1975]

i mean he DISrespects her..so the wife is in the right.

[robertsangel1975]

when a husband looks at porn he respects her so when he looks at it he is doing something to her & porn cheapens the marriage..

[asakurakleme]

i will do everything you want on webcam. i like sex! l

[950514]

my bf just got done f**king me and I am so tired and sore :( he took pics and put them on my page lol!

[skinandbones42]

there is seriously something wrong with the person who asked the question for this video, all men watch porn and even if she does break up with him and finds someone else hes going to watch porn to, she needs to get over the fact hat he enjoys watching porn and stop treatening there relationship whenever he watches it. because shell never find a man who thinks porn is disgusting and i truly think she has to fix her problem. theres nothing wrong with the guy its common for men to watch porn

[jrichhart]

I don't think you are saying porn is not addictive, but that you didn't think this woman's husband was not addicted, yet.

I know many people who have had their lives ruined by their addiction to porn and I belive I would be included in those statistics if I didn't believe in the destructive power of one of evils strongest arsinals. You are not taking a very good stand here in my opinion if you are trying to help people with their problems.

[theloverman3344]

once a man watches porn, the girlfriend or wife will never be able to do what he sees on the video, I dont know why women cant get that threw there thick skulls

[ladybugdmf]

wow these people obviously have not done research. their responses are like they are a bunch of highschool kids. if chooses porn over her then this is not the man she should be with. it is prob not that she finds watching sex disgusting. often porn in explotive and addictive. she values respect and love in a relationship. do not listen to these two. you probally have a lot more of a developed sense of concious and self than they do.

[princesspooper17]

well said! Finally someone with common sense!!

[klanjohn12388]

Save Sex For  Marriage

[dragonfist25]

Co-sign*

[KorvisVitosis]

LoverOfTruth, sex is an animalistic urge. you arent thinking about anything any "higher concepts" while we are having sex. sex is a basic need of human beings, and nearly all organisms that need to reproduce sexually. freedom, justice, and morality, are a different matter completely. it cannot be satisfied completely. you cant have sex with your partner until they simply dont want sex anymore, because in 20-30 minutes, they may want to have sex again.

[GiggleFitt29]

sex in NOT a need...

[thenatureinme]

@GiggleFitt29 "Sex is not a need..." Spoken like a true female. I need to get off on a daily basis. Unlike you that are born with all your egg cells in tacked, my testis produce sperm continuously and I need to ejaculate sperm continuously. I needed this since I was 3 years old (a little bit weird I know, but true never the less...) Don't tell me 'sex' is not a need!

[thenatureinme]

@GiggleFitt29 You as a female, are apparently as ignorant about males as they are about you... You know the symbolism of the story about Adam and Eve, where they covered themselves because they were ashamed? Well, when I expose the male to the female and the female to the male, I already know that they would despise one another!

[thenatureinme]

@GiggleFitt29 Let me drop another bomb shell; At our basis (sperm and egg cells) we are not even the same creature! Sperm reproduce in very much the same manner as a virus - it penetrates another cell, modifies its DNA and then burdens that cell with its own reproduction. Studies have shown that with every consecutive boy, the chances of him being 'homosexual' (less masculinized) doubles. The reason; Because the female immune system becomes more effective at attacking the male embryo!

[Anjali129]

I think its a biological aspect of a man to be be sexual, and women who are uncomfortable with are insecure and seem to go into this compare/contrast mode with porn stars. Its best to communicate openly about each others desire and really take part in the needs of each other instead of imposing one's insecurity as a guilt on the other.

[LoverOfTruth07]

I find it interesting that everyone who has posted has put the human person on a merely biological and animalisitic level? I am curious to know, does everyone believe that we are nothing but animals? And if that is the case, then why do concepts like freedom, justice, and morality only apply to humans?

[RockStarInLife]

its called variety. have fun, their is nothing wrong as long as its ok with both people in the relationship. change it up. try some different things, buy a book on sex positions. also understand that humans were not meant to be monogamist from a evolutionary standpoint. so that does not mean go out a get your freak on with others. it just means that is why your you feel this way. and awareness alone is sometimes all you need.

Live Your Life Like a RockStar!

Dr Dan

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[waseok]

Maybe he gets excited coz there are young and sexy girls, ever though about that? Maybe she is fat and ugly, or maybe im wrong. But anyway, theres nothing wrong about porn..u would like him to rather cheat on u? no? Then find out that he doesnt like about ur sex life or let him watch that stuff.

[theloverman3344]

think about it, if your with a girl for 5 years I dont care how hot she is, your gonna get sick of her, thats the nature of man. I get sick of a girl after i slept with her twice

[waseok]

Yeah, sadly. That's our nature. :( Sadly, because it's a little unfair. Well, on second thought, if a girl can't hold a man near her, what kind of a woman she is?

[opiates]

Then you don't belong in a relationship. Not all guys are like that, some actually care about women.

[theloverman3344]

has nothing to do with caring about women, and yes men can control themselves obviously we are not animals. All im saying is if it was a mans choice he would sleep with multiple women thats just how we are

[opiates]

It kinda does. You say you don't want anything to do with a woman after sleeping with her twice. So yes I'd say that's pretty cold and animalistic. And just fyi, women would sleep with multiple men too if only it weren't for that BS double standard. Cuz after all, ya know, a girl is a dirty slut for even thinking about sex. They fall into 2 categories in society, virgin or whore.

[theloverman3344]

who puts theses girls in those double standards, Women do. So stop blaming men for other girls calling you whores

[sumguyzercomin]

I hear you opiates, but women can get laid very easily. I suppose that's the argument. A man has to put in more work and prove he's got game to win affection, whereas women can walk into a bar scantly clad and more often than not, leave with a guy for a fun one night stand.

[sumguyzercomin]

Too true dude. Society says "It's immoral if a man wants a variety of vagina". Apparently, "true love" is conditional cuz if you really loved someone you will fuck and only want to fuck that one person for the rest of your life. Pfff... Women need to wake the fuck up. Stop watching those Jerry McGuire bullshit propagated "you complete me" fantasy love chick flicks and ask yourself: "Do you want to be loved and accepted for who U R unconditionally?" Then extend that same curtosy to your partner.

[mikeswimming]

Mr Loverman....u speak the truth...some people just can't handle the truth

[theloverman3344]

Thank you

[porkyminch01]

exactly, on alpha males its more notorious this, because the mainly function of an alphamale is to have a lot of decendance ( thanks to God for the condom and abortions, we could be over populated by 7 feet tall jocks)

and Omega males obiously need porn

in nature the omega males will tend to RAPE

we are animals, nature is not al wise, its a gambling game, so cruel and unfair

[TheMathGuy]

I thought that was some good advice! We have certain gut reactions to things like porn, but it's very important to dig deep and try to understand WHY we feel/believe the way that we do. Why do people feel they need to be the sole object of their partner's sexual attraction?

[akkrauta]

Nothing like useless worldy advice. Nothing that I wouldn't expect to hear. Try watching porn with him... :shakes head:

Maybe she is upset because she feels that she should be enough for him, and he shouldn't have to go to porn for sexual release.

[waseok]

Why not? U cant beat a good old HandJob :) Its safe, pleasureful, and most of all its fast. It is not our fault that we are so sexual active.

[dragonfist25]

Well said^^

[clint317]

If you don't like it, don't watch, but don't make others a victim of your personal opinion. If it hurts your feelings, then find a monk to marry because we all do it in some manner at some time, with or without the pictures and video. Sometimes I do it in the bathroom just thinking about my wife, sometimes thinking about Jennifer Aniston.

BTW, Jenn's openess is so freakin hot! Women could learn something about satisfying a man from her. Dan is truely lucky.

[clint317]

Porn is bad if it shows children under 18. Porn is bad if it depicts real violence of any degree. Otherwise, porn is only bad on a personal or religious level. We have been programmed to see porn as evil by religion. But in fact, "good" porn is a victimless product showing a natural act we all do. How can you view these things as disgusting, bad, or evil then turn around and do it yourself?

[porkyminch01]

bad porn is made on shitty cameras buyed on STEREN

[clint317]

Men have been programmed with over active sexual desires for a reason, so our species will procreate and survive. We aren't cavemen anymore but we still have that gene. We are simply giving into our caveman gene as a way to control it. Otherwise, most of us would just jump on everything we want to hump.

[AmericanGeishaPy]

Dan and Jenn, you're a cute couple

[Mattmon2]

And if the guy does give into the demand to stop watching porn, that will cause deep resentment from the guy, and that would be just as harmful to the relationship as the claimed "harm" of porn.

[robmur2007]

nice cple come play with us some time

[Chicago10281]

All he has to do is just kick the habit!

[lunacouer]

Faithouse, I'm curious...started to act what out? What "tore the family apart"?

There's also a small matter that wasn't brought up in her letter, but may be worth considering. Just finding porn on your computer doesn't always mean someone's been downloading porn. It just takes one wrong click on the Internet, with a poorly secured system, and it's installed on your system. Just Google Julie Amero...it can happen to the best of us.

[fishsplash]

Yeah Ok, i've been with a woman for 5 years, we both watch porn while we are away from eachother. What's the big deal? If my woman was upset about me watching porn, I would recommend her watching WITH me. I dont see anything wrong with viewing porn away from your other part, as long as you keep it out in the open and dont try to hide it.

I duno, I dont see anything wrong with it. Even if your other party disagrees.

[Senator1]

She's probably just a cold bitch with no sexuality. Leave that wench for a young hot girl!

[DanAndJenn]

How exactly did he break her heart by watching porn by himself?

This is a clear control issue on her part, and she's upset because she has been unable to effectively control her spouse's behavior and force him to think the same way that she does.

[akkrauta]

I think if you ask women or men that are opposed to pornography it not because it depicts sex, it's because their partner is going to another outlet for sexual release. There's nothing wrong with feeling like you should have a monopoly on that.

[TheMathGuy]

It can cause problems if you don't both share that opinion, though! It also seems rather obsessive to want to have that kind of total control over another person. The sexual drive is an innate biological impulse, and not something we can just "switch off" when it's triggered, no matter how sexually satisfied we may be at other times. This is the fallacy. An interest in porn is in no way a sign that the existing sex is in any way unfulfilling, insufficient or unsatisfying.

[GiggleFitt29]

that's all wrong... the simple fact is, when two people's views are so different on the subject of porn it's damaging... it's NOT a control issue they are dealing with, it's more of an, "i'm not good enough for you anymore?" deal....

[FAITHOUSE]

He did do something to her. He broke her heart. How in the hell can you defend that? I am currently working with a kid who had his family torn apart, because his dad started to act it out. It's so painful. It's the heart not just the action. Keep wearing those blinders if you want, but keep it to yourself. If you think you are in control, try not masturbating for a week. You will find which head guides you.