How To Be the Woman Of Your Husband's Dreams

[goldenpool]

@Debsterism My thoughts exactly, I have never met this person but from what I can tell from her video she places alot of importance on pleasing her husband and not herself. It's not selfish to put yourself first sometimes

[Debsterism]

So what happens when a woman does admire her husband and he cheats anyway? Why not put responsibility for being a spineless weak cheater on the man instead of his wife? Is he complimenting her in return? All this Christian wife stuff sounds like codependent enabling to me.

[iThankYouLord]

Amazing, Courtney! Thank God! Mark 1:14-15

[alicialynn00]

I feel so, so sorry for you. I know you will say you are happy, and that is great. I don't want anyone to be unhappy. But this seems so forced, false. My husband and I have a loving relationship.I do not have to force myself to praise him, or put it in my planner. I didn't have to ask jesus how to treat my husband with love and respect. I feel sorry for those that run to the same book for answers to life's questions/problems.Why bother bestowing free will if there is a "blueprint"? sad and scary

[kiki1326]

I like your videos. And I am a Christian woman. Been married almost 14 years and have stayed in my marriage despite his adultery, lies, pornography, going to strip clubs, even getting another woman pregnant. He stays here at home with us (we have 4 young children together) probably because he can't afford to pay her child support and then us to if he leaves us. I know what the Bible says about respecting our husbands (praising), but I have to tell you that is not easy. Most days I hate him.

[Courtneylivingwell]

@kiki1326 I am SO sorry. This is not God’s will for your marriage & he has set up a way to handle difficult matters such as these. Matt 18:5 says if a brother sins against you go & show him his fault. Verse 16 says if he will not listen take 1 or 2 others a long Verse 17 says if he still refuses to listen tell it to the church. These are not easy verses when it’s your husband. But God loves you. Rhese verses along with Ephesians 5 verses are there as a protection for wives.

[Courtneylivingwell]

@kiki1326 Please pray over these verses & communicate with your husband. You do not have to put up with this behavior & tough love may be what it takes to turn your marriage around. My heart hurts for you and the situation you are in. If you need further help consider purchasing “I Don’t Want a Divorce – a 90 Day Guide to saving your marriage” by Dr. David Clarke. Praying 4 U now.

[kiki1326]

@Courtneylivingwell Thank you for your kind words and encouragement. I appreciate you taking the time to respond. Actually, my husband filed for divorce and I never signed the papers, and he returned home after realizing he wanted to reconcile with me, but nothing ever changed on his part. I am at a point in my life/marriage where I don't care anymore about what I say to him... if it offends him, oh well. I do my best for my children. Thank you for sending a prayer up 4 me

[jamieseiple]

@kiki1326 The bible is VERY clear. Staying married does not ever mean bowing to or enabling sin. We only bow to God. God hates divorce and there are alternatives to divorce and also ways to deal with an abusive husband. Your godly ways may win over your husband. You must continue to obey God's ways despite your husbands sin. Again this does not mean being a doormat and enabling sin. Only God can fix such a hard man. Bow to no one but God. Do not fear anyone but God. Trust Him.

[Thedesertgirl777]

@kiki1326 Hi, I saw your blog and it broke my heart. I am so sorry. The bible also gives two reasons to divorce your spouse and that is adultery and death. Sure, you have the right to forgive a person but if they have crossed too many lines (which sounds like the case) and the fact is you DONT forgive the person then having them around is harmful to you and your children. You sound like you are very abused because you are allowing him to make the decision to stay or not. YOU make the choice!

[homeschooll4us]

Yes men do want that admiration which they so much need. I wonder why they seem to need it so much? Considering myself I also need that daily affirmation that you are loved and needed. I enjoyed your video and thanks so much for doing it.

[DanielGardner]

I have to agree with @MatthewGraham027 ... I also stumbled onto this video and agree it's right on. We guys have fragile egos, and just a word of admiration goes a LONG way.

[MatthewGraham027]

I'm a guy and not even married. I stumbled onto this, so I just figured to listen. Everything you said was exactly true! If my wife admires me like you said, I'll just want to give her everything! I hope your husband has another version for how men can be the husband of our wives dreams.

[lucy9359]

hmmm I say just keep it real...if the guys not focused on Jesus then he may cheat and that is not anyone elses fault but his...the bible does say not to cause your spouse to commit adultury but the only responsibilty lies in being availabe to them sexually and not depriving them and that is mutual it goes both ways....sex is the outlet God designed to bring that relationship to a place you can't have with another person so have fun with it, simple as that....

[ThatCrazyStranger]

Aren't our future husbands to also supposed to be the men of our dreams? Why are you saying it's all on us? Marriage is a partnership, no one should be subservient to anyone.

[giraffe1774]

To add to that, I also notice that Hollywood and the secular culture push women to be so... so... I don't know, mean? I can't really explain it, but I've noticed if a woman praises her husband, or treats him well or works at all to make him comfortable, she's a "Stepford Wife" and has no mind of her own, and is a slave and that women need to be hard, cold, and power-hungry. I have found that men do in fact love soft, gentle, kind, and feminine women who want to please them. It actually works!

[giraffe1774]

I have been married 6 years and I have 2 little girls. My husband and I have had a lot of rocky areas in our relationship, but I've found with God's powerful help, and an attitude like you encourage in these videos, marraige can work! My husband is deployed to Afghanistan right now, and as many of the military wives (or just women in general) know, army men (and women) can be so tempted to stray. I love videos like this, that encourage women to work at being a "Biblically" good woman.

[cpeacenlove]

@nick42701- EXACTLY! Do what you should be doing as a wife...yes, he has a responsibility, but SO DO YOU!

[cogicmj]

Wow! Your messages are inspiring and uplifting. I had to get my wife to subscribe to your YouTube. It is my continue prayer for her to grow more and more like the submissive godly women of the Bible.

[YksiSuomalainen]

Perfect advice!!! I'm a man, but I'm subbing as a sign of support for your channel. Practically all female relationship couches give terrible advice, but your advice was actually spot on and it really does work. (Also it is so true that the temptresses always shower us with admiration and yes it does feel incredibly good compared to the near constant b*tching we are getting at home for every small thing what shouldn't even matter to a mentally mature woman, but I digress.)

[ladymnatural]

That is awsome advice thanks a lot because sometimes we overlook those things:)

[jtscreenit]

I just want to say that I stumbled on your video's through homeschooling and you have a great ministry going on!` We have a lot of the same philosophies as you and I am in such agreement with everything I have heard so far. Keep up the good work and be encouraged to know that God has granted you a great inluence and the ability to help many people :)

[ItsDestinyCampbell]

Wow I love how she uses the Word of God...very inspiring..we have all heard advice like this but have ignored it..

[bridegabriella]

i love this its so true

[thunderinthevalley]

I don't have a husband but I think this is great information. thanks

[YourDailyNow]

Biblical or not you have to feed a man's ego. If you don't someone else will. I man's weakness is his ego. You make interesting points. I am not a religious person but I have read the Bible. There is a lot of wisdom to be learned from it if you know how to look for it, and how to apply it. This is good advice for women in general.

[unveiledwife]

Thanks for the great reminder that wives need to praise their husband! I need to work on this in my relationship!

[7575047]

Very true. 

[chikabayless]

thank you!!!!



[patriciacarrasco]

i think ur so adorable and such an inspiration to many of us women who didnt have a good role model. please dont stop doing what ure doing, God is using u.

[BeautyBee11]

So true!

[johnsonnm17]

I like this more than your other videos. And I think this can go both ways, too. Give your man the respect he needs and deserves, and he will return the favor to you. It shows love between the two of you and creates a loving marriage.

[Mineav]

@johnsonnm17 You're exactly right. Us men need a healthy ego to be healthy both spiritually and mentally, which also can affect physical health. Devotion and outward admiration to your man can go a LONG way. When we (men) hear and see devotion and even submission (not a doormat), it boosts us up in so many ways that are healthy for us. This also makes for a healthier relationship, since by doing this it's going to come back to the woman more than she would imagine. It's win-win for both sides.

[WorshipInTruth]

Somebody is a lucky man.

[framboise595]

God bless you Courtney. It's true ,men need to be admired ,and especially by the opposite sex , in order to feel strong .

[Mineav]

@framboise595 Yes, and by doing so the man loves and adores his woman even more and the relationship becomes much healthier than it otherwise would be. Everyone wins--especially the kids (if there are any), since they're living and growing up in a very healthy and loving household with very few--if any--fights of any significance.

[onlyjoetee]

marriage was NOT invented by humans,God invented it,therefore find out and do what HE says,for that WILL work!!simple...

[misslilly1989]

Thanks!!! You probably just saved my marriage!

[Mineav]

@misslilly1989 The more you devote and submit (but don't be a doormat; men don't respect that) yourself to your man, the more it'll come back to you, if he's a good man. I hope things are going good with your marriage. Just remember to openly show your love and devotion--it'll come back to you in ways that may amaze you.

[Courtneylivingwell]

@nettieheartful Great analogy - that's exactly what the adulterous woman is. I think we as wives easily over look tons of things our husband's do that are worthy of our admiration or appreciation. When we were dating it came so easily - years of marriage mixed with kids and stress kinda choke it out. We need to take the time to intentionally verbalize our appreciation. What man or woman does not like to hear it?

[nettieheartful]

@Courtneylivingwell thanks for your reply to me yes its something to be wary of the seduction of Jezebel types!

[FitnessGuru1988]

@Courtneylivingwell This is a very positive comment. Good to here one for a change.

[ishabelmck]

great point! thanks for making this video - looking forward to seeing more! x

[lavanadams]

YOU ARE A WISE WOMAN!!!!!!!

[Jisamaniac]

Now I have to hunt down a woman that is like this chick.^

[qwertyfshag]

Your advice is awesome! Men want respect and woman want love. I am trying to figure out how to love someone. It is a project that I am working on. Maybe woman could work on how to respect (admire) there husbands.

by the way, 4 man-hating, hairy armpit feminists watched this video (there are 4 thumbs down). But don't worry, they would never be happy unless you said that men should be turned into slaves.

I can't even begin to understand why someone would thumbs down this video.

[Oo786oO]

@qwertyfshag lol

[rickster348]

a good woman is finer than gold or silver.

[bakergirltt]

Courtney, just like you all I ever wanted was the traditional role in my family.. been doing it for 20+ years now and I have to say I wish I 'd had your insight when I first started off. I made a lot of mistakes and it cost us a lot of wasted time and almost destroyed us. You are an inspiration to other women... don't stop doing what you do. Forget the skeptics, they're probably just intimidated by someone challenging the modern roles and being so happy doing it. God bless you.

[funhistory]

I want to marry a smart lady like this!

[hoover281]

great video!

I have to admit I'm not at all religious, but this video makes perfect sense.

Be the woman your man wants!

[radicallyforjesus]

Very good video

[perdicious]

First off I want to know why a married man is allowing himself to be tempted?? And if those adulterous women are out there hitting on a married guy he'd better take it upon himself to stay clean, not put it off on his wife that she isn't good enouh for him. No m'am, he is responsible for his own actions.

[tearthgrrl]

@perdicious Big fat Amen

[dubified89]

@perdicious But when a woman cheats people often say that the guy wasn't fulfilling her needs or whatever. Cheating is never right but it goes both ways. And it's not just cheating, you don't want your partner to leave you either.

[nick42701]

@perdicious

True, the decision comes down to the individual faced with an adulteror, but women who don't praise their husbands for the hard work they do, are only enabling things like that to happen. She's not saying it's the woman's fault for her husband cheating, but she is saying that it can be eliminated if the woman gives her husband the respect he deserves. Men need to feel wanted, they need to feel like what their doing makes an impact, and in return will give a woman what she needs.

[MsBreeah]

I really love your videos. Im 23 and have been married for 3 years, I like your videos because I dont have really good examples in my family on how a wife should behave. I come from an abusive home and I am really trying to be a good wife and not imitate the behaviour I viewed in My home.

Please dont stop making these videos. They have been a great blessing.

Brianna

[Courtneylivingwell]

@MsBreeah Thanks for your words of encouragement! I am working on some more! So stay tuned! Much love, Courtney