Agreed with your big gripe. As a Dom, there's nothing that is a bigger freaking bummer than a sub trying to subtly take power. It makes you feel unappreciated/disrespected/distrusted in a big way. And everyone hates the assholes that are Dom-ing to abuse other people (especially other Doms) Dom's actually do CARE about their subs (don't know why that's so hard to understand for some people).
Cheers!
Master in a monogamous committed relationship to his slave-
i always thought topping from the bottom was to mean that the sub would let the dom know how sub would like to be treated. that sounds more lile manipulating someone to do what the sub wants to me this is not serving the dynamic
Also a set of keys work nicely when it comes to going non verbal or a DM who knows whats going on can be warned ahead of time if an intense scene. Great video's and I agree completely there is a lack of protocol or ettiquette online and even sometimes in large groups
Question for you. Do you believe "bratting" is topping from the bottom? To me its fun but I hate getting away with it for to long because it does feel very much like topping from the bottom. I am a "little" at times and am a slave other times. My little is the brat. Is there any hope for my little to be more submissive, because I only brat for attention or to tease. Thank you.
I am in the same boat as you. My Dom lives what could be considered the next state over from me, but it is a different country. The only way to visit is by plane or ship. I do find myself posturing when around others in the lifestyle, and in normal situations as well. To both show well on him as my Dom, and to better my sub training. I also take on any task that a family member gives me. It hurts so bad being in a LDR in this lifestyle. It hurts mentally and emotionally. Bad pain.
@RobynNymphetamine Yeah if a Dom ask that sort of thing before really knowing you it's usually just for sex. I'm sorry it didnt work out for you though.
I had a date with a D and he knows I'm a sub, he asked me to bring my handcuffs ... and so I did ... but how do I know that he really will be good for me? I would like to see that he really has respect for me .. but how do I know?
@RobynNymphetamine I think if it a first date or you dont know that dom well enough that might be risky until you know forsure that dom is WORTH your submissiveness
I love the point you made on "Doms" using BDSM as an excuse to abuse someone. That has always been my issue. Uuuugh. I am sub, and I ABHOR "Doms" like that.
I am very glad that you have make this video, and I look forward to watching many more, as well as suggestion this to others who are new to the lifestyle.
Hello, thanks for taking the time to make these videos. About your comments on how to be a submissive. It helped put it into better perspective for me, because i had told myself I was willing to serve and do domestic chores. You said you should be wanting to do them. You should be wanting to be useful that way. Thanks it sort of clearifies it for me. I am going to a be a live in slave soon and I'm a little nervous. Thanks again. :)
All I can really say is AMEN to everything you said! What a sub says and does makes others think about the Master. This kinda holds doubly true for me since Master is in the military, if I get pulled over and get a ticket, his CO will know about it and it reflects bad on him.
lady mal I loved this video and I so agree with your stance on topping from the bottom. Im a switch and as a domme I hated it ti took away my fun and what I was trying to create. as a sub I love4 for my dome to create it with me as he sees fit. its so enjoyable that way. good for you for mentioning it
Lady Mal another super job - i would suggest that you get into more detail - buut that will come with time. Can You define pet, sub, slave. M/s, and D/s ? Thank-You
why would someone go nonverbal? sorry im new to this info. thanks in advance and awesome vid!
WillowChatterbug 2 weeks ago
Agreed with your big gripe. As a Dom, there's nothing that is a bigger freaking bummer than a sub trying to subtly take power. It makes you feel unappreciated/disrespected/distrusted in a big way. And everyone hates the assholes that are Dom-ing to abuse other people (especially other Doms) Dom's actually do CARE about their subs (don't know why that's so hard to understand for some people).
Cheers!
Master in a monogamous committed relationship to his slave-
Chadgod 3 months ago
Thanks for the wonderful advice. I am naturally submissive. And so far am pretty much self trained. I love your videos.
LeannLadycop 4 months ago in playlist More videos from ladymal651
i always thought topping from the bottom was to mean that the sub would let the dom know how sub would like to be treated. that sounds more lile manipulating someone to do what the sub wants to me this is not serving the dynamic
bringthefunin 4 months ago
Also a set of keys work nicely when it comes to going non verbal or a DM who knows whats going on can be warned ahead of time if an intense scene. Great video's and I agree completely there is a lack of protocol or ettiquette online and even sometimes in large groups
peachescrashmacgyver 5 months ago
Question for you. Do you believe "bratting" is topping from the bottom? To me its fun but I hate getting away with it for to long because it does feel very much like topping from the bottom. I am a "little" at times and am a slave other times. My little is the brat. Is there any hope for my little to be more submissive, because I only brat for attention or to tease. Thank you.
peachescrashmacgyver 5 months ago
What about someone who goes non-verbal almost every scene, very easily.
I got into my head space extremely easily. Naturally.
faunoel 5 months ago
Have been 24/7 for 10 years now. Was a bit skeptical but after watching you really give good practical advice.
FashionedByKitty 9 months ago
I love your blogs
lilmissthoroughbred 10 months ago
I am in the same boat as you. My Dom lives what could be considered the next state over from me, but it is a different country. The only way to visit is by plane or ship. I do find myself posturing when around others in the lifestyle, and in normal situations as well. To both show well on him as my Dom, and to better my sub training. I also take on any task that a family member gives me. It hurts so bad being in a LDR in this lifestyle. It hurts mentally and emotionally. Bad pain.
Chasatani 10 months ago
I really enjoy your videos, im learning alot thanks
childre24 10 months ago
Hey,, thnx for advice!
we had a date... he liked me.. and i liked him...
but he only wanted sex... so he's out off my life again..
maybe you can add me on Fetlife
my profile is called, Drachen-Blut
hope to hear from you;)
huggs Robyn
RobynNymphetamine 11 months ago
@RobynNymphetamine Yeah if a Dom ask that sort of thing before really knowing you it's usually just for sex. I'm sorry it didnt work out for you though.
KisaAndHiro 11 months ago
I had a date with a D and he knows I'm a sub, he asked me to bring my handcuffs ... and so I did ... but how do I know that he really will be good for me? I would like to see that he really has respect for me .. but how do I know?
many greetings
Robyn
hugss Drachen-blut @ fetlife
RobynNymphetamine 1 year ago
@RobynNymphetamine I think if it a first date or you dont know that dom well enough that might be risky until you know forsure that dom is WORTH your submissiveness
KisaAndHiro 11 months ago
@KisaAndHiro Exactly :)
ladymal651 10 months ago
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RobynNymphetamine 1 year ago
Lady Gaga is in the background. Hahaha.
I love the point you made on "Doms" using BDSM as an excuse to abuse someone. That has always been my issue. Uuuugh. I am sub, and I ABHOR "Doms" like that.
sidewalkashes 1 year ago 2
@sidewalkashes yeah <3 lady gaga and freaking hate wannabe dom's!! xoxo
ladymal651 1 year ago
I am very glad that you have make this video, and I look forward to watching many more, as well as suggestion this to others who are new to the lifestyle.
LordDragoncat 1 year ago
@LordDragoncat anytime! i'm back on the horse so to speak so i'll be putting out more! xoxo
ladymal651 1 year ago
Hello, thanks for taking the time to make these videos. About your comments on how to be a submissive. It helped put it into better perspective for me, because i had told myself I was willing to serve and do domestic chores. You said you should be wanting to do them. You should be wanting to be useful that way. Thanks it sort of clearifies it for me. I am going to a be a live in slave soon and I'm a little nervous. Thanks again. :)
bondagefun1991 1 year ago
@bondagefun1991 glad i could help you out!!! xoxo
ladymal651 1 year ago
Wanted to say excellent on your videos and keep up the good work.
JayBlack - Fet
tata11369 2 years ago
@tata11369 thanks!! xoxo
ladymal651 1 year ago
All I can really say is AMEN to everything you said! What a sub says and does makes others think about the Master. This kinda holds doubly true for me since Master is in the military, if I get pulled over and get a ticket, his CO will know about it and it reflects bad on him.
SlaveKiru 2 years ago
@SlaveKiru exactly!!xoxo
ladymal651 1 year ago
lady mal I loved this video and I so agree with your stance on topping from the bottom. Im a switch and as a domme I hated it ti took away my fun and what I was trying to create. as a sub I love4 for my dome to create it with me as he sees fit. its so enjoyable that way. good for you for mentioning it
TheAmberD123 2 years ago
@TheAmberD123 anytime! topping from the bottom ticks me off to no end!!! xoxo
ladymal651 1 year ago
Well said. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and perspective.
usinmoore 2 years ago
@usinmoore anytme! xoxo
ladymal651 1 year ago
Likei said on your other comment, i'll be covering that in my next vlog :)
ladymal651 2 years ago
Lady Mal another super job - i would suggest that you get into more detail - buut that will come with time. Can You define pet, sub, slave. M/s, and D/s ? Thank-You
curiousandbad 2 years ago