i am so fucking depressed. i'm only 18 and i'm slowy turning into an alcoholic :( i smile, i'm not ugly or fat and i know a lot of people, but i have no real friends :( the only real friend i had was my ex of 3 years and we have been broken up for ages... i feel so hopeless....
@emaoneluv I know how horrible life seems when you feel alone and I think everyone feels alone sometimes. Alcohol is something a lot of people turn to when they want to numb pain but I feel there are better ways to deal. When I find myself feeling alone or hopeless, I pick up a book or turn on some music or go for a walk... something to shift my mind from negative thoughts. That's my best advice.
what if there is this person who is incredibly dopey/dumb, like i cant even tell you how much. and they are bullied about it, from friends and family all the time. the bullying is never going to stop is it, because the dopiness is a part of their personality and they arent going to change. does that make the bullying ok?
If you need help, If you feel alone, or just want someone to talk to, I have an email where you can write to me, I will write back. I'm not a stalker, I just truly want to help and let you know that you're not alone. Everything is completely anonymous, your information and emails stay private. I won't spam you. If you need someone to talk to anonymously about peer pressure, drugs, bullying, depression, or just advice, email a letter to AnonymousPenPanForHelp@gmail.com
"Life's a Bitch & then you die". As they say. I stay depressed. I used to worry a lot but, now I'm starting to gain control over that. Worrying is a total waste of time. I'm not saying you shouldn't be concerned , I would worry about things I had absolutely no control over and I would think of the most horrible things. But you know what? Rarely did anything ever happen. And if it did, I would deal with it. So, all my worry was a total waste.of time. Easier said than done though. You ha
ya suffer with it...its bad. i cant listen to music as you say. i cant talk to anyone to turn around my life... its like you have to be on your own, your in a dark place and people avoid you.. they dont understand what hell your going through... you cant sleep properly you have panic attacks you think of your own death (but dont want to die) you want the life you had back again, but its gone... you pray a lot. you cant stand the bright of day and long for the dark of night... thank you..
this is 1st try but how shit is it go fuck your self you muck me up constant rejection is making me look at my reflection and hate my self your nothing but shallow im chiming in the gallows i fell shit i like i should just quit but your so amazing and im just gazing as i die inside if i dyed ud fell nothing but pride
what if, your actions are the cause of your depressiona nd knowing you fucked up the one thing in life you really only had is now gone. what if youve tried to fix this "how do i be haooy again?" stage for over many years? what if you have scars now? what if your snile has permanitly gone away? what if ( depression is classifed if it stays for a few weeks to months to years) you CANT get rid of it? what if everything you tired doesnt work? what f the thoughts arnt good and what iftheyareverybad?
@ripkehl Whatever doesn't kill us, leaves a scar. It is not always easy to use scars as motivation to push us to newer and better things. My best advice would be to keep trying every day to shift your focus to positive thoughts, through listening to music or reading a book or painting or going for a walk. The harder something seems to achieve, the more satisfying it will be to have accomplished.
I think there is a difference between feeling sorry for yourself and feeling depressed. When someone is depressed, telling them not to feel sorry for themselves is probably not going to help them. I agree that it's important to help others but that doesn't mean you have to hide your own problems. In other words, I'd say that being someone to talk with is as important as having someone to talk with.
Depression is rarely seen as a choice by those who are depressed. It's not always as easy as telling someone they shouldn't have the "luxury" of "feeling sorry for yourself." I think saying something like that to someone who is depressed would do more harm than good.
Thank you ! You are such a cool guy and honestly you look so much like my brother "Mick" . I found that to be a extra bit of support from the video. Have a great day!!
I'm not sure if you mean that you're taking some sort of antidepressant but it's okay if you are, if they help you then that's a great thing! I apologize if this video gives the impression that taking pharmaceuticals isn't alright.
Remember that you will always be there for yourself.
Great video! I've been going through a similar phase, since December, it got really bad in January when I started to self-harm, but I made myself stop that after I ended up in hospital, I'm using rubber bands instead now, I have a few close friends to vent to, but I think I need to find an alternative because they can't be there to be vented on all the time.
I'm really glad you decided not to self-harm anymore. There is no substitution for the connection you can find in a friend but there are certainly other things you can do to help shift your paradigm — to take your outlook to a more positive and optimistic place. Companionship can come from a pet too. Try to remember who you are and/or who you want to be.
Funny thing is, I've been to a bit of therapy, and talked to counselors, and none of them suggested using the arts to help the depression. I had to find it out on my own ;P This video's great though - good points. :)
A lot of artists and musicians probably had problems with some sort of depression or anxiety.
i suffer bad anxiety and depression, its horrible and everyday is a stuggle, dep is so bad :( i just want to die. i dont have any people to talk to about it :(
I've gone through times where I haven't had anyone to talk to. Something that helps is remembering that you are always there for yourself, even if it seems like nobody else is.
With anxiety, I've found it helpful to create a mantra on what I want and repeat it to myself several times throughout a day. Eventual this seems to override the negative thoughts that cause anxiety.
For example, if you had anxiety over the fear that you'll throw up then you might say to yourself "I am healthy, I digest everything I eat and think positive thoughts throughout the day." This may feel silly or absurd at first but this sort of thing has helped many people deal with anxiety attacks.
been so far DEEP down in depression, Not even Music will help cheer me up anymore, even with German Music (Love the German culture, as i'm mostly German), it can loosen the feelings up, but seems like that is starting not help, As Im starting to get spells Everyday that last a few hours, in which the music that could cheer me up can only intensife the feelings, for me I wouldn't be such a reck if I know I had someone I could trust without having to think twice about it, long story...
There's a small and excellent online depression support group called Depression Hangout that is always open to anyone who is struggling with mental health problems (not just depression). It's run in its own chaotic way by its members who meet regularly in the chat room and it's a great place to seek and provide help and support, make new friends and even just have a laugh. (We all need that too!) To join just go to depressionhangout-dot-blogspot-dot-com.
good vid man. what helps me with depression is that some day the problem i had wont be there. and that usually helps me, you just have to wait it out.
@Aaroncast Thx man. The Pursuit of Hapiness? American History X? Those are two of my faves that always uplift me through the pain. Thx much for the advice Aaron, some people do care :)
You are most welcome, I am glad you found this video useful.
I've been in that "cocoon" sort of stage before. The idea of fixing all of the things we perceive as broken or incomplete about ourselves... isn't something I think is worth focusing on. None of us are perfect and that's okay. I think it is good to work on problems... but focusing on a belief that there's something wrong with us isn't productive or healthy.
thanks for this video. i like what you were saying about balance. i often forget that letting my depression smother me by sitting around doing nothing is the worst thing i can do. music,writing, and drawing are a huge help for me.
You are very welcome! I'm glad that you found something in this video that resonates with you. I agree that being stuck is awful and that sensation can make it seem like there's nothing to be done to change or improve things. Shifting our mind's focus to something we enjoy like a good book or some exercise makes all the difference.
@MrSman91 I guess people that have been there usually are. I am back for my first bout in ten years and find others who have been there the best. Not taking anything away from therapy, perhaps its just that we get to talk more often with others than with therapists.
I think that the value in talking to a therapist is that they have received training and often have an deep understanding of psychology. I believe that going to a therapist takes great strength and unfortunately people are often ridiculed for doing so. That said, even talking to a friend can help because vocalizing our inner thoughts might allow us to find a new perspective within our lives.
music and nature. and my prescriptions. thats what does it for me. but shit happens to get you down. always, you can count on it. hell its been my entire life, and even right now i feel like blowing my brains out of my skull,but i still keep on living my life because i know that i can get through it. you just gotta want help in order to get it.
i dont know if this should help people but one thing that makes me happy is to remember that everything happens for a reason and that it is for those reasons that we can learn how to become better and if that doesnt work i guess somtimes it's works to talk to your self or like he said just have a walk in the park and think of the good things in life
good video man i used to have somebody that cared about me and my depression and i think now it scared her away i dont want to lose her she is the only one who let me in any advice will help thanks if you get time if not take care and be safe
hey thanks for this video.. you have a good taste in music! try streetlight manifesto maybe you will like them. i listen to them when im feeling down. tell me what you think.
reality and the truth is depressing, dull, and horrible. we often times shadow reality with fairytales, buying things, spending time with loved ones or a signifant other, buy our happiness/materialism, think about other things, etc. to not let it stress us too much. the more you research and understand life and where society and human civilization is going and headed to, the more depressed and sad we will become. either way enjoy the good times now, the future will be trying for our species.
Thanks for that.. Im going threw depression. But the thing about the whole "getting help from a friend or syciotrish(sp??)" thing wont work for me.. I'm too embaressed to tell anybody. /:
I do hope that something in this video helped (or helps) you. I know that the idea of seeing a therapist or opening up to a friend makes a lot of people uncomfortable. I do think that the help they might offer is worth facing that discomfort. That said, there are also books that might be helpful to get you through times of self doubt.
When you've reached a point where negative thoughts are common place it is hard to replace them with positive ones but I believe it is possible.
Something that has helped me in the past is to remember that no matter what, you always have yourself for support. It may not seem like much, especially if you do not have much of a support system beyond yourself... but it is something to hold onto.
I know that pharmaceuticals do help some people, I just don't think that's the only option or even the best one. I've also known people who find that pharmaceuticals make their situation far worse. I am happy they have helped you.
Any advice for dating someone with depression? How to not feel like it's your fault or that you can't make them happy and they don't want to do anything with you, so you feel bad?
I have never dated someone with depression. I will think about this and get back to you but inevitably anything I can say is only my opinion. What I will write for now is that it is probably not your fault and the most important thing you can do for them is be there when they need you. I think the most important thing you can do for someone who is depressed is let them know that you care about them.
I'd just like to say thank you so much for this video. I've been feeling very sad recently, but I wasn't sure if I was just going through a bad time or if I was depressed. I know that whatever I'm feeling is valid now, and you've helped me find some new coping techniques.
I've really gotten into writing because of this, and it's been a big help. Depression sucks, and I don't want anybody to have to go it alone, and you were a somebody to talk to me (in this video).
I am happy that you found something that fit for you through watching this video. And you are most welcome.
Try to remember that no matter what you always have yourself. Others may form opinions about you that make you feel a lack of validation but don't let that affect you too deeply. Life will knock you down but do not let it rob you of your "-ness" - that thing that makes you who you are. Remember who you are, especially when nobody else seems to.
I'm happy to know that you found something useful from watching. Remember that you always have yourself, if you can find happiness from within then there will always be a way to move forward in life. Please share this video if you know anyone else who might find it helpful.
Hi I just watched this video. Found it very helpful. I suffer with severe depression also. Everyday can be a living nightmare and i feel like i wanna die. Life can be unfair and so this video uplifted my spirits a bit. Thanks
Bake ups are difficult to deal with for many people. Moving on in a matter of days is something very few people can do. The important thing is to remember you are still the same awesome person you were with them, before them, and you will continue to be long after them.
I might also suggest taking some time to rediscover yourself, think about what you want to achieve in life. Don't try to replace what you lost. Better yet, don't think of it as a loss but a new beginning.
Well, I would first point out that if people you think are your friends stop talking to you without telling you why then they are not actually what I would call 'friends' anyway.
Now, let's say you've become somewhat of a shut in because you have been ditched by your former so-called friends and have not yet made new ones. Is this the worst thing that could happen to you? I'd say not, and that's speaking from experience.
Maybe you (or someone) are in a point in life where you don't talk to a lot of people or hang out with friends very often. As I said, this is not the worst thing that could happen to you. Sure sometimes having a colossal amount of time to yourself can be lonely and that can lead to depressing thoughts. I think a lot of people have been there. The key is to stay positive as much as possiable. Look at this time as a period of your life where you can learn about yourself, and have fun doing so!
Hey aaroncast86, I am currently in a class and we are doing a project on depression. For the class we have to make a video. I was wondering if you could help me out and allow me to use some clips from your video, sort of like an interview format cutting. You would get full credit for the sections of video that are yours. The class is a public health class and the topic is College Depression. Think you could help me out?
Nah, the world doesn't need more of me. What the world needs is more understanding, more willingness to let people who see and believe things different from you believe live and try to find happiness instead of a lack of even the most basic of tolerance.
This is really great. It's very helpful. There is something in your voice that just really makes me listen to you. And its not like your giving us a lecture, but just talking to us. And I am in a school for special arts and I am a creative wrighter. Isn't that cool?
It really can, perhaps even if that someone is a pet cat or dog or turtle or hedgehog. By which I mean that even if the person isn't going to be able to give back advice that instantly solves all your problems, just talking and sharing them can help make problems seem less stressful.
I agree with everything you just spoke of myself have gone through horrible panic attacks anxiety depression cuttingect its not a fun thing to go through WRITING and PAINTING they work magic i swear when it seems like u have no one to talk to write paint. music dont go a living day without music if u listen closly most of these people r singing about what ur going thoug because they themselves have gone though it read like he said look up the author Ned Vizzini all three of his books r wondrful
Brilliant. Very well done. I'm very against anti-depressants as well. I feel they are overprescribed BECAUSE the depression gets thrown around so much.
Talking it out helps so much more, in my opinion.
Great, informative video. :] I definitely agree with the meditation method-what I usually do is just sit down, listen to ambient music, hold my breath until I can't contain it anymore & then let it out. Or I sometimes sit down in a hot shower & close my eyes & think about life as a whole. Walking around in beautiful weather helps loads too.
Something I sometimes do to relax is think about how complex and large the universe is. Moving further and further out in my mind. Might be something you'd like to try.
You're most welcome. Good suggestion, I actually do that pretty often cause I'm really into philosophy. It's a good way to deter from bothersome thoughts & gets me to question things a lot more.
Though, if you're going to make the point of saying you didn't agree with everything it only seems natural that you should say what you didn't agree with...
wow... im subscribing... i have to do a civics project on depression and im so using some of this advice. and ive been pretty emo for a long time, like trying to hurt myself and stuff, and i tried this and it really works!!! thanks!
I love the fact that you spent your time trying to help other people with depression. Your obviously a nice person. Thanks for doing it for those who need it, i'm sure it would help out a lot of people, but i'm not depressed so it didnt really help me. I like a lot of the bands in your sidebar aswell especially My Chemical Romance. So thanks a lot..you really made someones day out there! :)
Thank you for this comment and it's nice to hear that you're not depressed. Perhaps this video could still help you? Maybe you could learn something that you didn't know before and then use your new knowledge to help a friend?
I have to say, though, although I like many of the bands that you put into the sidebar, many of them actually prolonged my 'depression' (or whatever it was) back when I had that problem. But maybe that's just me.
Just out of curiosity, what criteria did you use to choose those films? They are all fairly different genres...
I really didn't use any criteria. I just thought about films that I've seen and picked a few that I felt would help someone who was/is feeling extremely stressed out or overwhelmed with anxiety or depressed. They are all different genres but they all have messages about life, good messages that make you realize life is worth living and that trying to be your best self isn't a waste of time.
I suppose I've spent enough time thinking (and researching) about what depression is to know a thing or two about it. So, thanks.
Some people find that medication is the only thing that helps them. I have no issue with that, at all. What I don't like is the way, it seems, sometimes people are just given drugs to "solve" their "problem" instead of getting to the route of it... maybe with the help of a clinical psychologist if necessary?
People that look down on those trying to help themselves I think are in denial that theyve been in tough situations or will be eventually or can possibly. Those are really great suggestions!! There really are a lot of options out there besides staying depressed, drugs, or suicide. Those shouldnt even be considered options. Great video though!!
I agree!!! There's so much beauty in the world to let ourselves be pinned down by negative thoughts about ourselves. I was actually feeling kind of down last night and then I watched the video Nalts made (this week?) about letting things outside of yourself effect you too much.
You are a voice of reason, your music and film suggestions are spot on and your reccomendations on how to resolve depression are very useful for those who underestimate those activites.
A lot of thought went into this video. Probably one of the best in my "Ultimate Selection" :)
Do you know the YouTuber "tlg847" his videos might be interesting for you, i'm sure he wouldn't mind discussing some of the points in this video either
I don't know about a voice of reason but I'll take the compliment and I'm glad you liked the video. I hadn't seen any of tlg847's videos before reading your comment, took a look at his channel and something about his is familiar but I'm not sure what. Perhaps he did a video response to one of Peri Urban's videos a while back.
There are a lot of videos on YT about depression but this is the first that makes some really geniuine and good suggestions about how to deal with it in a realistic manner. Your idea of using the bad feeling of depression to generate something creative like art is really good! And going for a walk too ;) Great video, Aaron!
Thank you Jennifer! I didn't even think to look around on YT for other videos on depression. Someone asked me to make one, I was actually a bit shocked by that. I spent a while tonight (Saturday 20 October) thinking about what to say in the video. It's really nice to know that this video might actually be seen by someone and that they'd benefit from seeing it. Again, thank you for your comment!
thx man really helped me! last week sucked balls. i had no posotive thinking in my head and i couldnt sleep
MrAwesomePossum2385 1 week ago
How do you deal with something u have absolutely no control over?
7tewsdae 1 week ago
i am so fucking depressed. i'm only 18 and i'm slowy turning into an alcoholic :( i smile, i'm not ugly or fat and i know a lot of people, but i have no real friends :( the only real friend i had was my ex of 3 years and we have been broken up for ages... i feel so hopeless....
emaoneluv 1 month ago
@emaoneluv I know how horrible life seems when you feel alone and I think everyone feels alone sometimes. Alcohol is something a lot of people turn to when they want to numb pain but I feel there are better ways to deal. When I find myself feeling alone or hopeless, I pick up a book or turn on some music or go for a walk... something to shift my mind from negative thoughts. That's my best advice.
aarongmoore 2 weeks ago
@aarongmoore thanks for responding :) that's really great advice :) love from australia xx
emaoneluv 2 weeks ago
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what if there is this person who is incredibly dopey/dumb, like i cant even tell you how much. and they are bullied about it, from friends and family all the time. the bullying is never going to stop is it, because the dopiness is a part of their personality and they arent going to change. does that make the bullying ok?
u11711 1 month ago
If you need help, If you feel alone, or just want someone to talk to, I have an email where you can write to me, I will write back. I'm not a stalker, I just truly want to help and let you know that you're not alone. Everything is completely anonymous, your information and emails stay private. I won't spam you. If you need someone to talk to anonymously about peer pressure, drugs, bullying, depression, or just advice, email a letter to AnonymousPenPanForHelp@gmail.com
AnonymousGirl444 1 month ago
Sorry, I didnt mean to switch from depression to worry all of a sudden. DON'T WORRY, BE HAPPY....... Remember that? It was a song.
herbseitzer 1 month ago
"Life's a Bitch & then you die". As they say. I stay depressed. I used to worry a lot but, now I'm starting to gain control over that. Worrying is a total waste of time. I'm not saying you shouldn't be concerned , I would worry about things I had absolutely no control over and I would think of the most horrible things. But you know what? Rarely did anything ever happen. And if it did, I would deal with it. So, all my worry was a total waste.of time. Easier said than done though. You ha
herbseitzer 1 month ago
Thank you so much. I think this was a really intelligent way to explain ways to deal with depression. I really appreciate you uploading this video.
Stealing5ociety 1 month ago
Great advice! Thanks for this video.
Yrhp8268 2 months ago
ya suffer with it...its bad. i cant listen to music as you say. i cant talk to anyone to turn around my life... its like you have to be on your own, your in a dark place and people avoid you.. they dont understand what hell your going through... you cant sleep properly you have panic attacks you think of your own death (but dont want to die) you want the life you had back again, but its gone... you pray a lot. you cant stand the bright of day and long for the dark of night... thank you..
fairhillnorrie 2 months ago
sirbestnameever 3 months ago
what if, your actions are the cause of your depressiona nd knowing you fucked up the one thing in life you really only had is now gone. what if youve tried to fix this "how do i be haooy again?" stage for over many years? what if you have scars now? what if your snile has permanitly gone away? what if ( depression is classifed if it stays for a few weeks to months to years) you CANT get rid of it? what if everything you tired doesnt work? what f the thoughts arnt good and what iftheyareverybad?
ripkehl 4 months ago
@ripkehl Whatever doesn't kill us, leaves a scar. It is not always easy to use scars as motivation to push us to newer and better things. My best advice would be to keep trying every day to shift your focus to positive thoughts, through listening to music or reading a book or painting or going for a walk. The harder something seems to achieve, the more satisfying it will be to have accomplished.
aarongmoore 2 weeks ago
My theraphy is also music.. I listen often to Porcupine tree..it calms me down
Amipowerpuffnana 6 months ago
feeling sorry for yourself is a luxury
i know it must be HARD but do it for those around you
i have been extremely depressed but you will never know it
i have to be the one that can help others
whether it be by cheering them up or helping them financially
talking to them
RayWilliamJohansen 6 months ago
I think there is a difference between feeling sorry for yourself and feeling depressed. When someone is depressed, telling them not to feel sorry for themselves is probably not going to help them. I agree that it's important to help others but that doesn't mean you have to hide your own problems. In other words, I'd say that being someone to talk with is as important as having someone to talk with.
aarongmoore 6 months ago
@aarongmoore
the way i see it
EVERYONE is human
EVERYONE can go bankrupt , lose their home, even a psychiatric can get depressed he is not a god
so instead of asking for help from someone who is "human"
i am going to trust myself
because i hate seeing family members depressed
and i have to step up and cheer them up or motivate them
RayWilliamJohansen 6 months ago
I think it is great, admirable even, that you want to help people you care about. My point is that nobody should feel bad about asking for help.
aarongmoore 5 months ago
@aarongmoore
its not a sense about feeling bad
how can i have the luxury to feel bad for myself when others are suffering
to many people are getting depressed for me and do the same thing
i feel a sense of urge to NOT do what everyone does when they get depressed if anything
get motivated
RayWilliamJohansen 5 months ago
Depression is rarely seen as a choice by those who are depressed. It's not always as easy as telling someone they shouldn't have the "luxury" of "feeling sorry for yourself." I think saying something like that to someone who is depressed would do more harm than good.
aarongmoore 5 months ago
@aarongmoore
i agree but being depressed does not mean you cant do nothing about it
you can take medication or do what i do
RayWilliamJohansen 5 months ago
Thank you ! You are such a cool guy and honestly you look so much like my brother "Mick" . I found that to be a extra bit of support from the video. Have a great day!!
Shurupadi 7 months ago
Hello @PrincessAprilAnn,
I'm not sure if you mean that you're taking some sort of antidepressant but it's okay if you are, if they help you then that's a great thing! I apologize if this video gives the impression that taking pharmaceuticals isn't alright.
Remember that you will always be there for yourself.
aarongmoore 10 months ago
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aarongmoore 10 months ago
Great video! I've been going through a similar phase, since December, it got really bad in January when I started to self-harm, but I made myself stop that after I ended up in hospital, I'm using rubber bands instead now, I have a few close friends to vent to, but I think I need to find an alternative because they can't be there to be vented on all the time.
MrMoterKid 10 months ago
Hi @MrMoterKid,
I'm really glad you decided not to self-harm anymore. There is no substitution for the connection you can find in a friend but there are certainly other things you can do to help shift your paradigm — to take your outlook to a more positive and optimistic place. Companionship can come from a pet too. Try to remember who you are and/or who you want to be.
aarongmoore 10 months ago
thank you so much you really help
commanderkool868 11 months ago
Funny thing is, I've been to a bit of therapy, and talked to counselors, and none of them suggested using the arts to help the depression. I had to find it out on my own ;P This video's great though - good points. :)
A lot of artists and musicians probably had problems with some sort of depression or anxiety.
MishLDirnt 11 months ago
i suffer bad anxiety and depression, its horrible and everyday is a stuggle, dep is so bad :( i just want to die. i dont have any people to talk to about it :(
jordanlovesmusic84 1 year ago
Hi @jordanlovesmusic84,
I've gone through times where I haven't had anyone to talk to. Something that helps is remembering that you are always there for yourself, even if it seems like nobody else is.
aarongmoore 10 months ago
With anxiety, I've found it helpful to create a mantra on what I want and repeat it to myself several times throughout a day. Eventual this seems to override the negative thoughts that cause anxiety.
For example, if you had anxiety over the fear that you'll throw up then you might say to yourself "I am healthy, I digest everything I eat and think positive thoughts throughout the day." This may feel silly or absurd at first but this sort of thing has helped many people deal with anxiety attacks.
aarongmoore 10 months ago
@aarongmoore thank you for replying, sorry u have gone through bad times too :( life is such a struggle with this mean illness :(
jordanlovesmusic84 10 months ago
been so far DEEP down in depression, Not even Music will help cheer me up anymore, even with German Music (Love the German culture, as i'm mostly German), it can loosen the feelings up, but seems like that is starting not help, As Im starting to get spells Everyday that last a few hours, in which the music that could cheer me up can only intensife the feelings, for me I wouldn't be such a reck if I know I had someone I could trust without having to think twice about it, long story...
lutdabs 1 year ago
thank u so much
darealestever1 1 year ago
There's a small and excellent online depression support group called Depression Hangout that is always open to anyone who is struggling with mental health problems (not just depression). It's run in its own chaotic way by its members who meet regularly in the chat room and it's a great place to seek and provide help and support, make new friends and even just have a laugh. (We all need that too!) To join just go to depressionhangout-dot-blogspot-dot-com.
MrSolmon123 1 year ago
good vid man. what helps me with depression is that some day the problem i had wont be there. and that usually helps me, you just have to wait it out.
Ichliebegermany 1 year ago
@Aaroncast Thx man. The Pursuit of Hapiness? American History X? Those are two of my faves that always uplift me through the pain. Thx much for the advice Aaron, some people do care :)
dupree82 1 year ago
thanks for putting this on here! it opened up alot of options for me. im stuck in the "how do i fix this, and be happy again" stage.
mightymouse7930 1 year ago
You are most welcome, I am glad you found this video useful.
I've been in that "cocoon" sort of stage before. The idea of fixing all of the things we perceive as broken or incomplete about ourselves... isn't something I think is worth focusing on. None of us are perfect and that's okay. I think it is good to work on problems... but focusing on a belief that there's something wrong with us isn't productive or healthy.
I hope you're 2011 is off to a good start!
Aaroncast86 1 year ago
thanks for putting this on here! it opened up alot of options for me. im stuck in the "how do i fix this, and be happy again" stage.
mightymouse7930 1 year ago
thanks for this video. i like what you were saying about balance. i often forget that letting my depression smother me by sitting around doing nothing is the worst thing i can do. music,writing, and drawing are a huge help for me.
hunnixox13 1 year ago
You are very welcome! I'm glad that you found something in this video that resonates with you. I agree that being stuck is awful and that sensation can make it seem like there's nothing to be done to change or improve things. Shifting our mind's focus to something we enjoy like a good book or some exercise makes all the difference.
Aaroncast86 1 year ago
Thanks for this ... really good points, sounded much, much better than a professional!
MrSman91 1 year ago 2
@MrSman91 I guess people that have been there usually are. I am back for my first bout in ten years and find others who have been there the best. Not taking anything away from therapy, perhaps its just that we get to talk more often with others than with therapists.
ozskipper 1 year ago
I think that the value in talking to a therapist is that they have received training and often have an deep understanding of psychology. I believe that going to a therapist takes great strength and unfortunately people are often ridiculed for doing so. That said, even talking to a friend can help because vocalizing our inner thoughts might allow us to find a new perspective within our lives.
Aaroncast86 1 year ago
music and nature. and my prescriptions. thats what does it for me. but shit happens to get you down. always, you can count on it. hell its been my entire life, and even right now i feel like blowing my brains out of my skull,but i still keep on living my life because i know that i can get through it. you just gotta want help in order to get it.
kittygobark1 1 year ago
Thank you so much for this.
yyhlover 1 year ago
i dont know if this should help people but one thing that makes me happy is to remember that everything happens for a reason and that it is for those reasons that we can learn how to become better and if that doesnt work i guess somtimes it's works to talk to your self or like he said just have a walk in the park and think of the good things in life
Etechful 1 year ago
this is great of you to do... really man
Tylerbtn 1 year ago 2
@Tylerbtn thanks.
Aaroncast86 1 year ago
good video man i used to have somebody that cared about me and my depression and i think now it scared her away i dont want to lose her she is the only one who let me in any advice will help thanks if you get time if not take care and be safe
itcustom1 1 year ago
hey thanks for this video.. you have a good taste in music! try streetlight manifesto maybe you will like them. i listen to them when im feeling down. tell me what you think.
EVILDAMION 1 year ago
reality and the truth is depressing, dull, and horrible. we often times shadow reality with fairytales, buying things, spending time with loved ones or a signifant other, buy our happiness/materialism, think about other things, etc. to not let it stress us too much. the more you research and understand life and where society and human civilization is going and headed to, the more depressed and sad we will become. either way enjoy the good times now, the future will be trying for our species.
prettylyricsmarie 1 year ago
Thanks for that.. Im going threw depression. But the thing about the whole "getting help from a friend or syciotrish(sp??)" thing wont work for me.. I'm too embaressed to tell anybody. /:
Anyway, thanks for the video. :]
nicatiblahblahx3 1 year ago
I do hope that something in this video helped (or helps) you. I know that the idea of seeing a therapist or opening up to a friend makes a lot of people uncomfortable. I do think that the help they might offer is worth facing that discomfort. That said, there are also books that might be helpful to get you through times of self doubt.
When you've reached a point where negative thoughts are common place it is hard to replace them with positive ones but I believe it is possible.
Aaroncast86 1 year ago
Something that has helped me in the past is to remember that no matter what, you always have yourself for support. It may not seem like much, especially if you do not have much of a support system beyond yourself... but it is something to hold onto.
Aaroncast86 1 year ago
@nicatiblahblahx3 you really shouldn't feel embaressed. especailly with a phsyciatrist. they have heard it all before many times.
hunnixox13 1 year ago
@hunnixox13 i know that, but more of embaressment when i tell my parents that i need to see a phyciatrist.
nicatiblahblahx3 1 year ago
thanx for the video
for me without anti depression i would be dead rite now
so it works for me
jigme911 1 year ago
I know that pharmaceuticals do help some people, I just don't think that's the only option or even the best one. I've also known people who find that pharmaceuticals make their situation far worse. I am happy they have helped you.
Aaroncast86 1 year ago
Any advice for dating someone with depression? How to not feel like it's your fault or that you can't make them happy and they don't want to do anything with you, so you feel bad?
Biggestflrt 1 year ago
I have never dated someone with depression. I will think about this and get back to you but inevitably anything I can say is only my opinion. What I will write for now is that it is probably not your fault and the most important thing you can do for them is be there when they need you. I think the most important thing you can do for someone who is depressed is let them know that you care about them.
Aaroncast86 1 year ago
@Aaroncast86 Thanks I really appreciate it. =)
Biggestflrt 1 year ago
thanks alot for this video m8
boysdontcry17 1 year ago
Good vid man.
dgd187 1 year ago
I love you for making this video. It's really motivated me(:
cAiTyShEeK 1 year ago
you are most welcome!
Aaroncast86 1 year ago
I'd just like to say thank you so much for this video. I've been feeling very sad recently, but I wasn't sure if I was just going through a bad time or if I was depressed. I know that whatever I'm feeling is valid now, and you've helped me find some new coping techniques.
I've really gotten into writing because of this, and it's been a big help. Depression sucks, and I don't want anybody to have to go it alone, and you were a somebody to talk to me (in this video).
Thank you, God bless.
observationalpupaduc 2 years ago
I am happy that you found something that fit for you through watching this video. And you are most welcome.
Try to remember that no matter what you always have yourself. Others may form opinions about you that make you feel a lack of validation but don't let that affect you too deeply. Life will knock you down but do not let it rob you of your "-ness" - that thing that makes you who you are. Remember who you are, especially when nobody else seems to.
Aaroncast86 2 years ago
Thank you for your comment. Please share this video with anyone you think might find it helpful.
Aaroncast86 2 years ago
Wow thanks so much for sharing this! =) All the things you mentioned motivates me to view try to view life in a positive way.
mscanta 2 years ago
I'm happy to know that you found something useful from watching. Remember that you always have yourself, if you can find happiness from within then there will always be a way to move forward in life. Please share this video if you know anyone else who might find it helpful.
Aaroncast86 2 years ago
Hi I just watched this video. Found it very helpful. I suffer with severe depression also. Everyday can be a living nightmare and i feel like i wanna die. Life can be unfair and so this video uplifted my spirits a bit. Thanks
gurlfromcali2007 1 year ago
Bake ups are difficult to deal with for many people. Moving on in a matter of days is something very few people can do. The important thing is to remember you are still the same awesome person you were with them, before them, and you will continue to be long after them.
I might also suggest taking some time to rediscover yourself, think about what you want to achieve in life. Don't try to replace what you lost. Better yet, don't think of it as a loss but a new beginning.
Aaroncast86 3 years ago
Well, I would first point out that if people you think are your friends stop talking to you without telling you why then they are not actually what I would call 'friends' anyway.
Now, let's say you've become somewhat of a shut in because you have been ditched by your former so-called friends and have not yet made new ones. Is this the worst thing that could happen to you? I'd say not, and that's speaking from experience.
Aaroncast86 3 years ago
Maybe you (or someone) are in a point in life where you don't talk to a lot of people or hang out with friends very often. As I said, this is not the worst thing that could happen to you. Sure sometimes having a colossal amount of time to yourself can be lonely and that can lead to depressing thoughts. I think a lot of people have been there. The key is to stay positive as much as possiable. Look at this time as a period of your life where you can learn about yourself, and have fun doing so!
Aaroncast86 3 years ago
You're fun to watch!
nice glasses.
megacharlotte 3 years ago
Thanks!
Aaroncast86 3 years ago
Hey aaroncast86, I am currently in a class and we are doing a project on depression. For the class we have to make a video. I was wondering if you could help me out and allow me to use some clips from your video, sort of like an interview format cutting. You would get full credit for the sections of video that are yours. The class is a public health class and the topic is College Depression. Think you could help me out?
Thanks
nlynns14 3 years ago
Please send me an email to frankwillsaveyou [at] gmial [dot] com
Thanks,
Aaron
Aaroncast86 3 years ago
:) so true...... ten points! :)
SilentRobChan 4 years ago
Thanks!
Aaroncast86 4 years ago
Thank you so much. You seem like a very kind and compassionate soul. The world needs more of you.
LiberalFury 4 years ago
Nah, the world doesn't need more of me. What the world needs is more understanding, more willingness to let people who see and believe things different from you believe live and try to find happiness instead of a lack of even the most basic of tolerance.
Aaroncast86 4 years ago
This is really great. It's very helpful. There is something in your voice that just really makes me listen to you. And its not like your giving us a lecture, but just talking to us. And I am in a school for special arts and I am a creative wrighter. Isn't that cool?
Shannonclan1954 4 years ago
Creative Writing school does sound pretty deadly.
Thanks for the kind words. I'm not much for giving lectures, I'd much rather talk to someone.
Aaroncast86 4 years ago
Aaron, you are so right about just having someone to talk to. That can work wonders.
Hereticxxii 4 years ago
It really can, perhaps even if that someone is a pet cat or dog or turtle or hedgehog. By which I mean that even if the person isn't going to be able to give back advice that instantly solves all your problems, just talking and sharing them can help make problems seem less stressful.
Aaroncast86 4 years ago
I agree with everything you just spoke of myself have gone through horrible panic attacks anxiety depression cuttingect its not a fun thing to go through WRITING and PAINTING they work magic i swear when it seems like u have no one to talk to write paint. music dont go a living day without music if u listen closly most of these people r singing about what ur going thoug because they themselves have gone though it read like he said look up the author Ned Vizzini all three of his books r wondrful
lobsterbisk 4 years ago
your absolutely right about a lot of rock bands singing lyrics about the depression they have had to live through.
Aaroncast86 4 years ago
Brilliant. Very well done. I'm very against anti-depressants as well. I feel they are overprescribed BECAUSE the depression gets thrown around so much.
Talking it out helps so much more, in my opinion.
5awesomegeeks 4 years ago
and this is Katrina, btw. i really need to sign comments when I post with this channel..
5awesomegeeks 4 years ago
thought it might be you! haha
I really agree with your opinion there.
Aaroncast86 4 years ago
Great, informative video. :] I definitely agree with the meditation method-what I usually do is just sit down, listen to ambient music, hold my breath until I can't contain it anymore & then let it out. Or I sometimes sit down in a hot shower & close my eyes & think about life as a whole. Walking around in beautiful weather helps loads too.
JessMoxyCrimefighter 4 years ago
Thanks for your comment Jess.
Something I sometimes do to relax is think about how complex and large the universe is. Moving further and further out in my mind. Might be something you'd like to try.
Aaroncast86 4 years ago
You're most welcome. Good suggestion, I actually do that pretty often cause I'm really into philosophy. It's a good way to deter from bothersome thoughts & gets me to question things a lot more.
JessMoxyCrimefighter 4 years ago
I don't agree with everything you said, but I appreciate how you said it. Well done.
bnessel1973 4 years ago
Thanks.
Though, if you're going to make the point of saying you didn't agree with everything it only seems natural that you should say what you didn't agree with...
Aaroncast86 4 years ago
great video ! the world needs more people like you.
xEMOCULTUREx 4 years ago
Thanks
Aaroncast86 4 years ago
Walks do work. I remember one time when I came across a field of sunflowers this past summer...It was breath taking.
ThreeofThree 4 years ago
The world around us is incredible, even in cities where there might not be a lot of nature. I've been trying to take more time to appreciate that.
Aaroncast86 4 years ago
wow... im subscribing... i have to do a civics project on depression and im so using some of this advice. and ive been pretty emo for a long time, like trying to hurt myself and stuff, and i tried this and it really works!!! thanks!
ApplePieLover96 4 years ago
When you say civics is that as in honda?
Thank you for subscribing and more importantly I'm happy to hear some of this stuff actually works for you!
Aaroncast86 4 years ago
o.O nooo... i mean as in like... eh... i suck at explaining things XD and yeah it works :P THANKS!!!
ApplePieLover96 4 years ago
You mean civic as in city.
Aaroncast86 4 years ago
x.X idk...........
ApplePieLover96 4 years ago
great post man, I feel like you "understand" how its like, the cloud around the head expression was right on!
burgztown 4 years ago
Thanks.
Aaroncast86 4 years ago
Thanks for the great movie recommendations and other advice!
CleverDjembe 4 years ago
You are very welcome!
Aaroncast86 4 years ago
I love the fact that you spent your time trying to help other people with depression. Your obviously a nice person. Thanks for doing it for those who need it, i'm sure it would help out a lot of people, but i'm not depressed so it didnt really help me. I like a lot of the bands in your sidebar aswell especially My Chemical Romance. So thanks a lot..you really made someones day out there! :)
xashjacksonx 4 years ago
Thank you for this comment and it's nice to hear that you're not depressed. Perhaps this video could still help you? Maybe you could learn something that you didn't know before and then use your new knowledge to help a friend?
Aaroncast86 4 years ago
I have to say, though, although I like many of the bands that you put into the sidebar, many of them actually prolonged my 'depression' (or whatever it was) back when I had that problem. But maybe that's just me.
Just out of curiosity, what criteria did you use to choose those films? They are all fairly different genres...
moscowmasha 4 years ago
I really didn't use any criteria. I just thought about films that I've seen and picked a few that I felt would help someone who was/is feeling extremely stressed out or overwhelmed with anxiety or depressed. They are all different genres but they all have messages about life, good messages that make you realize life is worth living and that trying to be your best self isn't a waste of time.
Aaroncast86 4 years ago
PS
You are welcome for my subscribing to your videos. I'm looking forward to seeing more videos from you, you seem like an intersting person.
Aaroncast86 4 years ago
I really appreciate you subscribing to my videos! Thanks.
It's really wonderful that you made such a good video about this issue; professional or not, you really seem to know what you're talking about.
I agree that, often, medication isn't the only answer.
moscowmasha 4 years ago
I suppose I've spent enough time thinking (and researching) about what depression is to know a thing or two about it. So, thanks.
Some people find that medication is the only thing that helps them. I have no issue with that, at all. What I don't like is the way, it seems, sometimes people are just given drugs to "solve" their "problem" instead of getting to the route of it... maybe with the help of a clinical psychologist if necessary?
Aaroncast86 4 years ago
Nice thoughts. Glad you were clear that these things work for you, since everyone's unique in dealing with this.
nalts 4 years ago
Absolutely - everyone's way of dealing with this is unique, as is what they experience and how.
I tried to include a few things I have never tried - like painting - because I know they do help for some.
Aaroncast86 4 years ago
People that look down on those trying to help themselves I think are in denial that theyve been in tough situations or will be eventually or can possibly. Those are really great suggestions!! There really are a lot of options out there besides staying depressed, drugs, or suicide. Those shouldnt even be considered options. Great video though!!
ouREvilone 4 years ago
"Those shouldnt even be considered options."
I agree!!! There's so much beauty in the world to let ourselves be pinned down by negative thoughts about ourselves. I was actually feeling kind of down last night and then I watched the video Nalts made (this week?) about letting things outside of yourself effect you too much.
Aaroncast86 4 years ago
I watch a lot of feel good films to help me release stress.
ackquarius 4 years ago
excellent video.
You are a voice of reason, your music and film suggestions are spot on and your reccomendations on how to resolve depression are very useful for those who underestimate those activites.
A lot of thought went into this video. Probably one of the best in my "Ultimate Selection" :)
Do you know the YouTuber "tlg847" his videos might be interesting for you, i'm sure he wouldn't mind discussing some of the points in this video either
XSTwilight 4 years ago
I don't know about a voice of reason but I'll take the compliment and I'm glad you liked the video. I hadn't seen any of tlg847's videos before reading your comment, took a look at his channel and something about his is familiar but I'm not sure what. Perhaps he did a video response to one of Peri Urban's videos a while back.
Aaroncast86 4 years ago
yep, he replied to Peri quite a bit, even analysed the Peri-Renetto argument, it was pretty interesting.
Just your video reminded me of some of his odd videos on psychological phenomenon like "Overconfidence" and stuff
XSTwilight 4 years ago
you made some great points!
well done for discussing the issue in a video.
JohnnyDurham19 4 years ago 4
Thanks Johnny! It is a pretty sensitive issue but I think those touchy subjects are sometimes the ones most worth talking about.
Aaroncast86 4 years ago
There are a lot of videos on YT about depression but this is the first that makes some really geniuine and good suggestions about how to deal with it in a realistic manner. Your idea of using the bad feeling of depression to generate something creative like art is really good! And going for a walk too ;) Great video, Aaron!
TheRavenOfPoe 4 years ago 3
Thank you Jennifer! I didn't even think to look around on YT for other videos on depression. Someone asked me to make one, I was actually a bit shocked by that. I spent a while tonight (Saturday 20 October) thinking about what to say in the video. It's really nice to know that this video might actually be seen by someone and that they'd benefit from seeing it. Again, thank you for your comment!
Aaroncast86 4 years ago