How do you know if someone is flirting or just being friendly?

[Rich8951]

Body Language... is complete BULLSHIT.

[lovesongsfornaruto]

Thanks for the info. Im not sure if this guy likes me or not because one of his friends told me he likes me last year and lately he has been really nice to me and talkes to me a lot out of nowhere. So thanks.

[Irene211084]

Your hair style looks lovely like this :) x

I'm not gay, just saying, very sophisticated -x-

[420herbgrower]

not just this you know like everything lulz

[46copy]

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[Josepheneee]

Well, there's this guy I liked for two years, we used to be quite close and chatted a bit. Then suddenly when he went out with someone else, we quit the talking. Completely ignored eachother,It only lasted two weeks but now, after two years, we've started chatting( a bit of flirting) again,,,what do i do?...:(

[XxBE4STxJKFxX]

i've been getting signs hinting this girl likes me sometimes when were in music class shes seems to stare at me alot and i feel shy when playing drums and she complements me on my hair styles and walks in a sexy way when i'm around her

it gives me that nervous feeling ^_^

[HorseRider4life1000]

I really need to know this. Theres this guy I really like and I think he likes me but he hasnt asked me out yet. But he is always looking at me, smileing big smiles at me and always in contact with me. Does this mean he likes me or being friendly? Note: He doesnt do this to other girls and is always more confident with them as he is VERY shy and nervous with me. If you reply it will be a great help!!

[BrutalEST96]

@HorseRider4life1000 Very good chance he likes you. Try to start a conversation with him and see how he reacts. I'm pretty nervous, but very friendly to girls I like too, so its possible

[HorseRider4life1000]

@BrutalEST96 Thank you so much!!

[BrutalEST96]

@HorseRider4life1000 Hope it helped

[MissKookyPen]

I really need help. This guy, has a girlfriend, but he playfully teases me and playfully hits me. Today, I was sitting down and he was standing up. I was about to get up when he put his hand out and offered to help me up. But, he has a girlfriend(like I said) He is never THIS kind of nice. He never did this other than this time. He also once said, "I'm gonna sit by you to bug you." He sometimes just, comes up and sits by me.(:

[ItsurGurlAshalay2008]

GOD she knows what shes talking about...

Lol its funny cuz i do all those things well most :P

[RazzleDazzale]

He does that! He leans forward and trys to talk to me and will listen intently! And treats me different to all the other girls. BUT HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND. I'M SO CONFUSED. AND I LIKE HIM!

[Yourmommaisacow]

.....so i was going to him just so he could here 'i hate you, i hate you' and he goes back to me 'i love you too' but he didn't say it jokely so i'm quite confused. and wen we hang out in a group in school we sit on benches alot and he lies on me and tries to sort of cuddle wiht me and he jokely bites my shoulder and arm. cuase he knows i wont back down i'll like bite him back. so i'm not sure if he likes me or not i'm quite confused. and i do like him aswell. (sorry for this being so long) :)

[Yourmommaisacow]

.....he never used to do that though it's only recently. and one time it was just us walking and this other boy came up and well we dont like him but the other boy thinks he's his best friend. but he's turned sweeter than he used to be, like hell do thiungs he never used to and he wont say mean things. but he had to visit his nan after school, and the other boy wanted him to go round his house for a bit. so he went molly (that's my name) will stay wiht you, and he knows i dont like him......

[Yourmommaisacow]

there's this boy, who i've only just started talking to after one day i was walking home with my friend and he was walking with us and i jokely asked her to carry my bag she said no but he grabbed it and put it on his shoulder and carried all through town to our houses since he is my neighbour and it's a bright pink bag with a dog on the front. and since that day he's walked with me, waited for me buy the school gates, and when i leave a bit earlier than him he runs up to me to walk with me.....

[ChristopherAngelies]

Um? What if you naturaully

Act like this all the time

but your not hitting on anyone your

just like this to everyone ?

are you just a naturual flirt ?

cuase ,most poeple think im a flirt even when

im not trying to be

[sailorK4]

@ChristopherAngelies I always have the same problem.

[ihavevideos45]

someone help me please! I really like this girl and i can tell that she is intresed in things that i like. She even tells me about stuff with her family. one time she even told me how she wanted to be maried and how many kids and everything. The funny thing is that i'm 14 and i get really nurvise around her! But even with all this i cant tell if she likes me! She gives me atention but has so many guy freinds i cant tell if shes just talking or if she actualy likes me! please help!

[jeffrielly]

oh man i wish i new this back with this past weekend i have aspergers syndrome and have been working on my own self improvement and was at a scifi convention last weekend and i actualy pushed my self to talk to a girl just to make a conversation and since we don't pick up on the non verbal clues as easily i totaly missed this from her but she was doin these exact things

[mariedubuque]

MrPhon1984--It is hard to tell. I would ask someone else in the office if she has a boyfriend. Make sure it is someone you can trust. And you might even be able to get more information then that.

[MrPhon1984]

there's this girl at my chiro who works at the front desk. we talk everytime i go in, but i am really shy i cant keep eye contact with her. i notice she friendly to me and others but it seem different with me. it makes me wonder because just 3 days ago i went back after 6 months i been away from my chiro. she said hi and ask is anything knew and i didnt have a place to sit she offer the chair next to her for me to sit. and even remember what time day i like to come in. flirting or being nice?

[mariedubuque]

nkpersian--Yes, he likes you! Otherwise, why would he sit right next to you every single time. It doesn't make sense, unless he is trying to talk to you.

[nkpersian]

Well there's this boy I have a crush on and I also think that he likes me back, but I'm still not sure. Today we were playing kickball in gym and every single time he got out and had to sit out, from the 10 foot long wall he chose to sit RIGHT NEXT TO ME. Do u think he definatly likes me back?

[mariedubuque]

messidonasef--Try to approach her a few times first, and see how she responds. If she is really glad to see you and talks to you, then go ahead.

[messidonasef]

ok so there is this girl who came up to me and looked at me then kissed me for like 10-15 seconds and ive been into this girl for a long time and she doesnt like me but i thought why would she do that ??... then she said that she kissed me cuz her friend dared her and then i asked her friend and she said she never dared her... so do you think i should ask her out or what ?

[mariedubuque]

colarmadillo--Before you ask her out, talk to her friends and see if she is interested in you. You'll be able to find out in a round about way, without asking her directly. That way, if she is not, it won't ruin your friendship or feel awkward in any way. By the way, it seems like she does like you!

[coltarmadillo]

@mariedubuque that is good advice! i am just nervous to ask them that though, it would be a little odd, and i hope she does :D

[coltarmadillo]

I am wondering, i think she likes me, today i was walking down the hall, and she was talking to a friend of ours, then she looked up and saw me, and she just stared at me with a big grin the whole time i walked by, and we talk in a study hall, and we compose music together(as we have similar music tastes) and we talk and always look each other in the eyes, and smile, but she is a good friend, but i would love to date her, what do you think she is thinking? and wat do you think i should do?

[mariedubuque]

marijo--He seems very young. That is probably why he acts the way he does. He has no idea how to talk to girls and how to treat girls. So, you will have to give him time, and try to approach him when you can. Because the better he gets to know you, and the more comfortable he feels around you, the easier it will be for him.

[marijo87]

My situation is different, I met a guy and he always starts talking to me, and ask about me and ask if ive found someone in a places that i go..ALWAYS, everytime i cross with him in the hallway, he moves a lot and he smiles a lot but is kinda an akward moment, he feels unconfortable and his the one who talks to me, BUT he told me he dont wanna ha ve a gf at this time, then why does he keep treating me like he likes me? or he's just being friendly? totally confused!! :S

[mariedubuque]

CoDisveryawesome--Yes, she probably likes you, but it sounds like she likes a lot of guys! She could be a player. Sure, you could ask her out, but she also could be dating a lot of guys. Ask yourself: Do you want to be one of them? This is a flirty girl I'm not sure she is relationship material. You'll have to figure that one out.

[CoDisveryawesome]

Okay, just yesterday i was talking to one of my friends who is a girl and she is really cool, she allready knows i like her also. Just today i was sitting next to her and she wouldnt stop putting her legs on mine. I didnt know what too do so i turned in my seat to see if she would do it again... and she did!!! She is always going out with guys alot, like one every two weeks, Does she like me, and is just stalling till i ask her out. Or does she just not like me???????????

[Dirtysanz69]

@CoDisveryawesome she is probably a whore no offense. just tell her if she wants to fuck lol seriously

[satchi123]

ive wasted a loooooooooooooooottttttt of opportunities with a looooooooooottttt of hot women then..lol

[polakdawido]

@satchi123 so did i. FUCK

[satchi123]

@polakdawido none of ur bizness man,.. :P

[satchi123]

@polakdawido but i noticed these things happen when ur in a certain state..calm, relax, or when ur hormones pump up..will make u look confident... :D has a magnetic hypnotic effects on chicks....they get into mankey conciousness state..lol..its more attitude thing..imo

[trevman999]

Lock up please help me

[trevman999]

Lock up

[trevman999]

Oh and I really can't make a good conversation with her mostly because I have nothing to say. once I say hi I look up

[trevman999]

One day this girl that I barely knew when i was walking into the lockers after gym said good game and well now I sorta like her now and when I'm taking a glimpse of her I I'll see her kinda looking away from me like she was looking at me and when we played volley ball we were making teams and her and her friend walked straight to me and my friend. Sorry for it being so long I need help

[mariedubuque]

@stormperfecttemper--That is an awkward situation. And he probably still regards you as a client, so I would take his reaction as an indication that he doesn't want any more than a professional relationship.

[stormperfecttemper]

I have a very difficult situation,I like my physiotherapist,and i know in his work place signs might look confused,right he used to play a bit with my hair,talk,sometimes make compliments...3 months after finish my sessions,i came back and give a little gift for all treatment,and i wrote a little card saying "i think you gorgeous",he thank me with an e mail,I reply 5 days later but after that,i have no news from him...so what was that?maybe after all his body language he wasn't interest?help tkx

[MikeG82]

lack of eye contact could mean they are nervous around you

[casablanka123321]

you tell me now.... -.-

[e1kie]

i think its obvious hes unstable and even if you get together it wont lead to anywhere special. sounds like a typical jerk/jock dickhead to me. why do those fuckers get all the girls? i will never ever understand that. find someone who actually has a personality to go with his looks instead of some cute jerkoff. if you were gonna do it but he fucked someone else he clearly weighed his options and chose the other girl over you. he dosent deserve you so dont do it

[mariedubuque]

ElleMMay--This guy is a player. You've got to demand to be treated like gold, and he is clearly not doing that. So act a little distant when you see him, until he treats you the way you should be.

[ELLEMMAYYOHH]

Im in a tricky situatio Me&This boy have liked each other before and evry single time we nearly got togetha something would completly mess it up or suddenly he wud start 'loving' anotha girl it would really get to me but now wev started talking agen but he'll go up to my frends and barge me out the way so he kan hug them? im liek wtf! but then he kumz and sits next to me in lessons and kumz to my table and listens to my convos and starts to talk tome and says i make him laugh. wot duz this mean?

[Mistywoo2003]

When u mean talk to him more I like freeze up I say hi how r u he answers back good thx and then he asks about my cousin because he startles and scares the guy I like so he's like where's your cousin and I'll be like idk then he goes and talks to his friend but then he comes back to me and I see him looking in my locker while I put books away and then he saw a pair of ear muffs and he's like nice earmuffs really randomly but in a nice way and I'm like thx and then I say I'll talk to u later got

[Taywazhurr]

Thank you so much. Everything you just described tells me that this person i know, does like me. Thank you!!!

[mariedubuque]

@Mistywoo2003--Talk to him a little more than you usually do and see what his reaction is. If he looks glad and happy to talk to you, then you are probably the one! But if he looks really uncomfortable and makes an excuse to leave, then you probably are not.

[Mistywoo2003]

But then I sometimes. Here him talking to his friends that he likes someone but is afraid to tell them so I don't know if it's me or someone else what do u think?

[e1kie]

@Mistywoo2003 and yes its obviously you! congratufuckinlations. srry i dont mean to be rude but when i see happiness or potential happiness in other people it reminds me im always gonna be alone and now i want to kill myself. have a very happy life together in all sincerity though

[Mistywoo2003]

There's someone I like and he's next to my locker and my friend introduced him to me at the beginning of the school year and when I walk down the school hallways he's standing there trying not to look at me and he's smiling and looking away at me and trys. To take my magnets in my locker and he talks to me and when I'm looking away I see him looking at me here and there and then one day I got to my locker and I had ear muffs so he randomly says nice ear muffs and he wants to touch him but then

[e1kie]

@Mistywoo2003 im thinking he just feels akward. make his day and start talking to him. most shy guys such as myself appear to be weird and akward when all we need is an opening. he prolly wont pick up on subtle hints. ive never been good at being sherlock fucking holmes. just give him an opening start talking and youll see a big change i promose. thats how i am and the looks or lack of looks like what you were describing totally reminds me of me and i was dying to talk to this one girl.

[mariedubuque]

@thinkingman90--That's hard, but you have to pay attention to subtle signs. Even if she has lots of guy friends, she will give slightly more attention to you then them. Although she will try not to! So you really have to pay attention. And if she initiates the conversation more than you do, that is a good sign also. But if you are always coming up to her, or texting her, and she doesn't approach you, or send you a text out of the blue, you might be one of those friends.

[thinkingman90]

How can you tell if a girl who has a lot of guy friends likes you.

[mariedubuque]

@bowzerbaby09--One of two things could be happening here. Either he sneaks over to your table to get information from you about your friend, who he likes. OR as you suspected, he is asking her out (knowing she has a boyfriend) to make you jealous. I would have to hear the conversations to know for sure. But whatever you do, don't act jealous! And don't let him think you are upset at all. If the two of you are meant to be together, you will be! And he will get the nerve to ask you out!

[bowzerbaby09]

I really like this guy who goes to school with me and I THINK he likes me too but i'm not 100% sure. At breakfast he sneaks from another table to come sit with me to talk. I heard his friend on the bus yesterday saying the boy I like's name then my name. And we r always on the phone and he flirts with me. But I'm confused. He asked my best friend out today- knowing she has a boyfriend. I think he might've been trying to get me jealous or something but idk! Any clue?

[mariedubuque]

SSJ2Harold--Don't ask her if she likes you. That makes the situation awkward, and obviously she does if she agrees to hang out with you. Just let the relationship flow naturally. I know this is hard, but you can do it! Just be yourself around her and see what happens. And yes, she may act the same around other guys. That's why getting together in a group setting is a great idea. You can see if she pays more attention to you.

[mariedubuque]

SSJ2Harold--I really think she likes you. I don't think she is using you, unless you can think of a reason why. But if she is, you don't want to have anything to do with her. Still, I'm pretty confident that she is interested in you as a person. Just based on what you are saying, I don't think she has ulterior motives. So definitely try to spend more time with her. A group setting is a really good idea.

[SSJ2Harold]

@mariedubuque Would your opinion change if I mentioned that she may do this to other guys? Don't get me wrong, the idea of establishing a relationship would be cool... but think about this. I've noticed that most guys/girls still hold a sense of immaturity after high school. Yes, I'm only 19 but I've always been considered mature for my age ( some accuse me of being ALOT older than I seem) She may still be in that stage, but you think it be alright if I strategically ask her if she likes me?

[mariedubuque]

SSJ2Harold--It sounds like she likes you! But you have to also be on guard if she is using you. But think, what could she be using you for? I think if she were, you would know it. So I would simply spend time with her. It could be the beginning of a relationship!

[SSJ2Harold]

@mariedubuque Would you recommend I spend time with her, most likely in a group setting, not only to see what type of person she is, but what motive does she have toward me? Also, she does (for the most part) make an effort to be noticed by me. But let me ask you, if I am being used, and I still hold an attraction toward her, how do I go about handling that?

[SSJ2Harold]

Hmm, I'm curious in what you would suggest I do in my situation...

There's this girl that was introduced to me, I didn't think much of it (she's gorgeous!!) because there are MUCH MORE better looking guys than I... She started coming up to me more, making jokes, but I never really gave her any hints. She's showed some obvious signs of flirting and I do enjoy her company, but questions like "we should hang out, go to the movies, need a ride?" Am I getting used or does she like me...?

[azacat69]

There doesn't seem to be anything definite about the info given.  It's all vaguaries and can be mis-interpreted easily. I can't believe I am the only one to vote this down.

[xXGreenfreeRXx]

ahahaaaaaa! this makes me laugh and how would you know if a guy likes a girl? you lezbo?

[mariedubuque]

GunsNRoses478--It sounds like he likes you! Why don't you try to talk to him more? Maybe, approach him in the hall and start a conversation whenever you can. He probably is shy and needs a little nudge!

[GunsNRoses478]

@mariedubuque : ok thanks ! :) i will try that x)

[GunsNRoses478]

I think his guy might be flirting with me? We are in gym class together, & lately he has been coming over and talking with me and a group of my friends, but he only pays the most attention to me. And today we were passing out books for some essay questions and he got me a book without me asking him too. I tried to be playful & passed him my book when i was done with it so he could pass it up and he gently hit me on the head with it LOL

So i was wondering if you could give me some advice ? :)

[mariedubuque]

defgmx--I think she might be interested in you! The reason being, why would she sweep around your table when you are there, unless she wants an excuse to be around you? If you really like her, become a regular customer for a while and try to talk to her as much as you can, and after about a month, then you can ask her out, maybe something casual during the day, like meet for coffee before her shift starts, something like that.

[defgmx]

Hello Marie,

So I am a frequent customer at this restaurant and im not sure if the waitress there is into me or just being friendly. First time I went there she complimented my graduation ring. and we had a small convo on where I got it etc etc. second time I went there, she asked me if what I was reading (This is because I like to read while I wait for my food). She asked me this as she sweep around my area. this is it so far. could you tell me what you think?

[mariedubuque]

JBlove3x--First of all, you have to demand to be treated with respect. Don't have anything to do with him if he doesn't treat you right. His rude behavior could come from the fact that he doesn't think you like him, and he likes you! So try being nicer to him, and letting him know subtly that you are interested. If you do that, I bet he will change.

[JBlove3x]

I like a guy, but I act weird around him. I think if I asked him, he would say I hated him more than like him. Everytime he looks my way (to look at the side whiteboard where the homework & agenda is), I automatically fight real hard to keep my face blank and eyes from looking at his face. The thing is, sometimes he does stuff that are not nice to me, other times he's nice, picking up my pens and pencils (I have a tendacy to accidentally fling them in the air when I'm nervous.) What do I do?!

[fluffyoreos]

i was so caught up in thinking about the guy i like i didn't even hear the video i gotta watch it again haha.

[mariedubuque]

Nicholassc7k--I wouldn't tell her you like her while she has a boyfriend. Just wait it out. They will eventually break up. In the mean time, just be her friend. But don't be TOO available. What I mean is, don't hang on her every word and it wouldn't hurt for her to see you talk to another girl. So, be her friend, but don't seem too anxious. Be slightly mysterious!

[mariedubuque]

Xlzveille--Why don't you start a conversation? Just "Hi, how are you?" Nothing too flirtatious...just a friendly conversation. And see if they respond. They could be shy or not know what to say. But if you start talking, it might make them more comfortable.

[Nicholassc7k]

@mariedubuque I think this girl likes me but she has a boyfriend... She looks directly into my eyes and holds it for very long. When walking down the hall she looks at me and smiles. She jokes around with me and smiles a lot. She does a lot of the stuff in your videos. Then I see her do this with other people to though, maybe not as much as she does to me, but still. Is she just like this to everyone? Should i tell her i like her even though she has a boyfriend?

[mariedubuque]

jjhprobert---This might sound too simple, but it works...Smile, hold your head high and maintain eye contact. Because the surest way to appear ill-at-ease is to look down. Your body language says a lot about you. So sit or stand tall, look at her like you own the world, and believe me, she will listen! But also be polite and friendly. And to start a conversation, all you have to say is, "Hi, how're you doing? I'm_____" She will have to respond. Then ask her about herself.People love that!

[xizveille]

@mariedubuque i've been watching ur movies sometime and it's all great and it has show me some point on women prespective for a lot of things.

however i am 21 and there's something that drives me insane there is a certain sign the women usually do when they see me though i'm not a gorgeous man but still it' i have one or two macho looks that i've got like muscles anyway so mostly they fix there hair when they see me and they don't make eye contacs i mean it's rare when they do? plz respond

[jjhprobert]

speaking over the computer is easier than face to face. How do i make it easier to start a conversation and seem confident? Fsce to face

[SuperBiggestfan1]

Me too but he's kinda giving me mixed signs

[manda506]

i thinka guy likes me but he might like my friend

[VFCxoxogirlz17]

i have a question how can you tell when a player like you if that even possible please answer :)

[mariedubuque]

Scottcmilk--I don't think you can be too nice, but I think you can give away too much information too fast. People do that so that they seem closer to someone then they actually are. So, be nice, polite, but a little elusive until you know someone better.

[Scottcmilk]

Can you ever be too nice? please respond :D

[mariedubuque]

I think those are both signs that she likes you!

[WhiteGirlsAsianPLZ]

What if I told her I'll see you next month and she questions me on why then asks if I am going on vacation? or says she wants to see my house? Thanks if you can answer.

[schizobipolarjoe]

well shit the bed she is a cashier, and i can't tell if she is being friendly or wants me as a BF. her fb profile says in a relationship but she acts if she is single around me. plays with her hair, hides under the rest. then jumps out from under it like a kinds pop up toy, saying my name, and i tease her saying so i guess i should come mess with you in the mornings now that you have new hours, and she does a annoying dorky dumb type of "yyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyeeeeeeeeeeee­aaaaaaaahhhhhhhhh" WTF HELP!

[broadcastmyass4u]

@schizobipolarjoe well not trying to judge you personally but by looking at your name i'm guessing you may have the awkward socializing skills like i have. You probably think about what you're going to say, and what you are doing to much and end up saying the wrong things. Maybe i'm completely wrong but that was my guess for why she may of had the nervous yeah response thing, well good luck with her ;)

[schizobipolarjoe]

@broadcastmyass4u nope I actually don't have awkwardness. no one knows I have schizoaffective bipolar disorder or aspergers syndrome unless I tell them. I figured it out. it was because she was just a dumb young blonde (19 years old), and I'm 28 years old. she was just being a tease to feel like she had power. I've moved on, I found some one else, then broke up with her. now I got my eyes on another girl....

[broadcastmyass4u]

@schizobipolarjoe well that's nice dude, just keep keepin on i guess :)

[mariedubuque]

Thank you! So glad I could help.

[ravyade12]

you have great videos! this one helped me with my current situation, im in high school