I have been cutting myself for 5 and a half years, I started at ten because I couldn't cope. I have been told I am too smart to self harm & to pretty to do what I do, I think 'hey thanks for the complement but that's not why I do it' I do it for the release, I am slowly getting better, I haven't cut in three months, and its not something that goes away.
I am cutting myself right now...people tell me "you're way to energetic and beautiful what possible problems could you have??" it's really fuckin annoying
When I decided to stop self injuring, after a long long time, I went to see a doctor. He told me that he didn't bealive my story, because I was to pretty. I looked to well dressed, had nice makeup on and my hair looked pretty. I mean c'mon, that's the oldest trick in the book...
That is so bullshit, all of it. Looking you know... dressed up and nice was my way of holding up a facade. You'd think a doctor specialized in young people with problems might have come across that before >.<
I wish ppl would stop questioning me. Y do u cut ur so pretty so smart so artistic so talented. They think tht ur public display manikin is tha same u behind doors. Well reality check; there is sooo much wrong with me tht I dnt even no were to start. Nd idc if scars r unnatractive. U ever felt like ur lifes juss not worth living? U ever cried urself to sleep every night for a 3weeks strait, wondering what u did to deserve this suffering? I wish I could say no to all these Q's, but I cant.
i believe many people would self harm due to things leading to a low self esteem,
resulting in the person feeling like they are not pretty or skinny.
if it was a self harmer who told you this, then possibly the reason for their self harm is feeling as though they are not pretty or skinny enough, and assume it's similar or the same for everyone. if it was not a self harmer then of course they're not going to understand, and may just assume these reasons.
People r always like y do u cut or y would u have an eating disorder or how could u be depressed u have such a good life going and u r so pretty and thin but u know what people my life isn't so good I was de Yalu abuse and don't have good family relationships and I don't think I'm pretty or thin life is always what it seams
People are always like y do u cut or y would u have an eating disorder or how could u be depressed u have such a good looking life u r so pretty and thin well u know what people I was abused and I don't think I'm pretty so thing aren't always what they seam
I know I hate that. i got a "no you dont need to do that youre beautiful". even though it was supposed to be (kinda) a compliment it pissed me off. What is this foundation people have for assuming only unattractive people cut themseleves? Like, most of the time people dont know whether someone is cutting or not so it's just this weird stereotype and i dont know where it stems from : /
I was told the other day that i was beautiful so why am i sad? it really pissed me off that some one would say that just because people are pretty doesnt mean that there life is perfect ya know? love your videos btw
i cut and my best friend found out and she said" ur beutiful! u dont need to cut!" and i munbled " nobody ever understands" and then she was like what? and i said nothing and left and whent to the bathroom in school. and cut =L
this is total regular for me!!! everyone always asks, you come from such a nice family or your so pretty why would you do it when really you feel like you need to
I cut myself not because I want to kill myself or because I want people to feel bad, I do it because It makes me feel better through whatever I'm going through.
and make me stop cutting myself but then yesterday he tld me i was being childish and ridiculous about it so im still cutting myself and crying over him every nite since then and i wanna die but then i wanna stop at the same time so idk wut to do anymore bcuz i feel like everyone hates me and is out to get me
i used to cut myself but then i stopped.......welllll just 2 days ago my bf wants to take a break from dating me and then get back together later on and i was all sad and everything but the way he was acting he made me wanna cut myself again so i did and then i cut his name into my hip and i tld him tht he made me do tht and he was like "i didnt think it would kill me this much to be without u" so he asked me bak out....or so i thought he did it turns out he only said tht to make me feel better-
but u can still feel empty inside i cant wite much in this box so imma make a video for u ok?? ima call it CuttingWithAnUnderstanding so chech it out ok
hi o care you probly havent seen my channel but check it out im bulimc an i cut an i get emo gurl alot but im me really but like i completley understand were ur coming frm i got mesg like that alot oh ur pretty ur to beautiful you have a life a family a home blah blah blah but like honestly its nt the same its not wat ppl think i do have a family i do have a home i do have frends who care about me but that doesnt mean im happy that doesnt mean im ........im not happy you could be rich
i dnt agree i think everyone has different problems and they deal with it in different ways and im not say self harming is a good way to deal with it. but sometimes that the only way some people can deal with it. and i think its ok to talk about it only to the people you trust and you know who wont say anything because thats how you get support. Ad also i dont think it right that your have to look a suntan way to do it that just stupid its how your feeling at that time of when you done it
It bothered me to get comments kind of similar, because I thought they were lying. Making up stuff to try to make me feel better so I wouldn't hurt myself. And just being told that you shouldn't do something, for any reason really just sucks. I often get 'your too young, you've got your whole life ahead of you. ' That one bothers me. It shouldn't, because they are right, regardless of how shitty it was, is or will be.
I'm an upper middle class white girl. Half the time when I say I'm a cutter, they say I must be doing it for attention because I have the money to do anything. But I've been a cutter for 4 years. Why do people assume my money will make me happy?
When I was in the Psych Hospital, I got ppl asking me, "You don't know your pretty do you?" or "You're so cute." "You're cute you don't need to be doing things to yourself." The nurses were being nice and looking back now, I think they were trying to give a bit of confidence, but I completely understand your point. No matter what you look like, how old you are, where you live, ect, we all have our problems. I think I would tell someone they are pretty. It may be what they need to hear that day.
If they are afraid of their uncle obviously they aren't going to call it in. They could be to young and naive, or know their uncle could litterally kill them. Besides, cutting isn't a complete bad thing, it lets out emotional stress, that otherwise, would be pent up so much you could go and kill someone, or yourself. Which would you rather, cutting or suicide ( and/or homicide)?
Hey WillsUrDad, your the one who doesn't know what yur talkin about, some people can't do that. Plus you could be deathly afraid of your uncle, it happens ALL the time, Look it up.
I have cut before and when you start it is very hard to stop,i don't see why people make such a big deal over it! Ik ik i heard all the same things before but if they're not doing it and they don't feel what you feel they need to stay out of it and not say anything they have no idea what it's like!
I completely agree with you. I tried to tell my friends that I was thinking about it, and all anybody said was "But your so pretty! You can't be unhappy! Your seriously the skinniest person I know!" And on and on and on. I've only done it like... 5 times, but everytime I think about it I feel guilty, like I wonder what everyone would think about me, and if they would bring up that "but your so pretty" crap again.
just because people r pretty doesn't mean they don't cut. im 12 and ima cutter. i admitt to who ever reads this. im a cute little asian girl. that doesn't mean i don't cut. everyone one has problems. were not all perfect. *ChloeLove*
Mein Gott when people found out that I cut they said "You're too smart for that" or "You're not poor so, why do you do that?". These statements drove me insane with anger and sadness. I may be smart, I may be well off finacialy but it doesn't mean I don't have problems. I'm like any person with a problem I just deal with it differently. Some days I regret ever telling my friend about my sh.
my mother use to say the same thing it made me soo mad. it was like she was changing the subject because me being pretty had nothing to do with my cutting. ive been trying 2 quite but im afraid im going to slip im trying to tallk to my friend who also does it but its almost like she doesnt care any more. i want to help others like me but the voice in my head says how can i if i cant help myself. can u plez give me some advice i feel like ill never get over this?
its all relative. but a rich persons problems will always seem petty to someone who has to work two jobs to put food on the table for their kids. likewise the problems of a pretty white girl will seem small to someone that is ugly by societies standards and therfore alienated and left out. so yeah, some people like to make life harder than it has to be, and some people have to fight and struggle every day just to scrape by.
yea people can be loaded, drop dead gourges or just an average person, cutting, depression, teourettes, ect... all of them are chemical imbalances in your brain, you cant control what happens, its not any ones fault its just an inconvenions (im really sorry i dont spell very well) that people have and they cant change it... n yea
i was told that i was to pretty to cut myself to but that doesnt mean anything and i try not to let people tell me how i feel but they always think they no every thing about me but they dont no my real secrets
I try to ignore those comments about "you're beautiful," and "why do you?". Beauty or money or fame doesn't make everything all okay. And people saying that to me, kinda makes me feel worse or guilty that I'm not "happy" and it's at if the reasons I have for doing it isn't good enough for people. But that's just how I feel. :)
@idranktheseawater Ofc that's different and everything. I just hate it when people cut themselves up their arms and hands and then roll up their sleeves and pull it down when people comment. As a cutter myself I know that my sleeves are always, always down and there are thumb holes in my shirt sleeves.
@irawryouman Really keep it to ourselves thats what put us here in the first place. We don't tell people its those who do it for attentiion that tell people. They're like "Oh I cut myself feel sorry for me!" we who don't do it for attention never mention it. I never did until it was too late and I nearly died because of it ya arrogant prick.
You're taking this up as a negative comment to you, you know its meant as a compliment, but it implies that if you were less attractive on some level it would be more acceptable or understandable for them to cut. This issue also comes up when a pretty white girl goes missing or murders someone that it gets far more media attention than a less attractive person or someone of an ethnic minority. please don't take that comment being said to you as negative it comes from ignorance.
There is no question that you have been traumatized in one way or another, but that just makes u human. What u have to realize is that what u are & what u do are important. Your survival in this life depends on u thinking " Fuck everyone else, I am the most important person". You have to love yourself, love yourself, love yourself.
I think you have to recognise what these people are doing and that is holding others to arbitary standards over things that are ill-defined: What is intelligence?
and subjective:
A millionaire might consider a billionaire "rich" but a person in poverty might consider a doctor "rich - It depends who you ask.
They need to realise that people from all walks of life can self-injury and be afflicted with mental problems and that they should be met with compassion and not senseless criticism.
Ok I've been told I'm very pretty but I tend to cut myself not so much for suicide purposes like I use to but more to feel the pain. Sometimes feeling physical pain can help the emotional pain go away. It's become addicting. Hardly anyone knows but when they find out they look at me like I'm messed up. And I'm not we all have issues and that happens to be mine! So fuck it! Being pretty has nothing to do with harming yourself!
This is exactly what i get. When people started to find out because my ex boyfriend knew and he told everyone he could. People just didnt understand why i do this, they tell me i have no problems they tell me i seem too perfect...when these people dont know me, they know nothing about me or how my mind works or how im stuck like this.
ahhh i soo agree ...ok im going to tell u all rite now and you...i am a model my mom loves me ..and i will addmit i am attractive...but i am sucidle and cut my self hardcore...and i think that is a load of bullshit ..everyone has there problems ......also ......i hate when ppl say...oh its not that bad..... ..or it could be worse........it fucking pisses me off because ...wat u r going thro is bad if ur cutting god
I really dont think it has to come from any specific problems I have a tic bit i can control it if i concentrate but honestly i like to hurt my self and its not from depression it just makes me feel better and i dont have to feel bad i just like to so its an improvement i dont cut but same principal only less dagerous unless u count me lighting my self on fire but that is more for a rush than for pain i think for me its more about feeling alive than hurting my self
I totttttttttally get where ya coming from. You are beautiful, we all are in our different ways, but some people don't understand the "pretty" girls do have or have had bad experiences, in a way (sexualy) that plays a part, by being pretty, your a target.
ANDDDDDD! YOUR AMAZING! Iv'e watched like all your videos now and fuck i adore you and relate so so much, you speak the absolutle truth and god bless you for it gal!
@willsurdad this really pisses me off that you would say this. I'm a preachers kid and because of that I am constantly under pressure to be perfect and not get "out of line" which makes life really tough for me because I can't be like a normal kid I can't go party with my friends because people will say I'm to wild or I can't go to a guys house cuz people will assume I'm sleeping with him and I can't date certain people because the church might not approve and then slam me with harsh comments b
alot of attractive looking people arnt happy because people ONLY like them because of their looks, escpecially girls, they get all this unwanted attention...
and anyone could have issues, if someone expierences truama, even if it seems like something small say like verbal abuse that a child expierenced throughout their life, it might not seem like a big deal, but to the person it could effect them deeply. and can cause them to develop all sorts of mental disorders.
i have low self eestem and i have been told "Hannah your too pretty to cut" i have moree important problems then being pretty or not why dont people see that?
so you can tell a stranger that u getting yo incest on but you won't tell the police, yeah u dont have a problem. You prebably enjoying yo uncle too... that man showing you stuff you have never seen before. omg i got raped, let me cut myself... no, try this, 911, tell concerned family (not the uncle raping you)... etc....
@WillsUrDad Why don't you learn to type properly, you ignorant little cunt. Let me do a little bit of psychoanalysis. You enjoy taking out your aggression on Melissa because you find her physically attractive and you hate women because you're such a tactless, ignorant little fuck that you've faced rejection from every single woman you've ever been attracted to. Just because you get rejected a lot doesn't mean you can take it out on every woman you come across.
I feel that if you have a big house, you look good (not saying you do, just talking about the topic). Get everything you want, have a computer to talk to people about random shit like this, then yeah you don't have a problem big enough to cut yourself, there are plenty of people having a harder life and they don't resort to cutting themselves to get through the day. Cutting is retarded, why would someone inflict pain because of pain, go make some friends or something
@idranktheseawater not enough of a problem to kill themself. ive had 4 friends die in the past 5 years but do i sit here whining about it cutting myself? no. i get on with life. stop fucking moaning and grow the fuck up
wye do you havve to be so afensive if you dont want to wach it, dont. your not cool, peeple woo go throogh nasty stuff, have no choise in the mater, and i bet if anithing bad hapened to you youd be the first to complane. so just mind youre owne biseness next time, and be more sensitive to howe other peeple feel!
@WillsUrDad your an asshole. you don't know what people go through, and you have no right to call cutting retarded. Dont write a fucking reply on a topic that you dont know shit about.
everyone says i hve tons of friends and im pretty cool but i pick the skin off my legs and cut my arms. people dont understand. yeh i have amazing friends and i guess i have a nice personality. but i am weak in spots just like any human. i express it different. oh and i usually feel like a god afterward. but i only do it when im in pain.
i think that is so unfair to say ur pretty so y do u self injure or ur rich so y do u or what ever no1nos what uv bin through like u culd have been through abuse or anyfing like i have family issues so i cut well i think thats y its sorta a lot of things but yeh i dont really get people saying im pretty or clever or any thing though i think im quite clever a mean im not stupid or any thing like i get pretty good grades yeh so like ur pretty and ur awesome but it dosnt mean u cant self injure
Yes I get that a lot.There is this one girl who always tells me I have no reason to cut because im thin and 'rich'. When really I'm not thin or rich. The only reason people think that is because my mom and i live with my grandma who has a nice house and alot of nice things. But people always assume that because you have certain things then you automatically have a great life. So what i say is you obviously know nothing about me and therefore would not understand why i cut, or feel the need to.
I'm old school. Commenting on certain things is simply inappropriate. I happen to own a really nice sports car. If my video was on chronic depression, commenting on my car would be insulting. Yes, I'm too sensitive regarding what people think of me. So shoot me.
So yea, I can deffinetly see what would bother you about that. I hear the same thing from people. I understand there intentions are good but its never that simple.
I agree. I've been told that before and no matter how pretty you are, no matter how many things you have, or friends for that matter, it doesn't take away the pain that would bring someone to such a desperate point. So I guess I'm agreeing with the face that it's offensive, but it's the only thing people can think to say sometimes, so don't hold it against them too much. You are beautiful though, be safe and take care and good luck with everything!
yeah it's like ''what, only ugly people must cut themselves?''..... how can people think that way, or maybe they don't mean it like that... maybe they say what they say cause everyone has something about themselves that makes them amazing and it's a shame that they cut themselves... if they put it that way them it's more understandable.
Well, some people just don't understand. Beauty, money or being smart doesn't mean anything. Sometimes maybe being dumb, not knowing what's happen might make you happier. Money cannot buy health, money can't buy happiness, money can't buy true friends (maybe friends who love money but they're not friends that you can relay on) and so on. Beauty, yea maybe for guys. Every single time I think about what happened last year I cut myself.
my mother knows about my si. she always commented on my choice of clothes very negatively, so one time as she told me i was not allowed to wear a dress because it was out of season, i told her that it made me feel pretty; for once, i stood up for myself. she retaliated with "if you thought you were pretty, you wouldn't cut yourself" and now she uses my si against me all the time.
*sigh* that's the only experience i have with that.
I'll tell you what. First of all, you are pretty. But doesn't matter what happens or whatever, suicide is never an option. I came across with your video randomly and I say live your life and find another way to express yourself. I have a friend and he spent time in a hospital and mental hospital. He is one of the coolest sons of bitches I have ever known. He changed his way of thinking and now, he's a bad ass. Good luck.
@idranktheseawater I was thinking of saying the words "self inflicted wounds" but for some reason I didn't chose wisely. lol You're very welcome. Take care.
I think the problem people usually have with a pretty girl cutting herself\having eating disorder
is that they feel like u bring it onurself
,as an overweight person for exemple i suffered alot of mental and physical abuse as a child,And i met couple of beautiful skinny girls in my life that has eating disorders and kept hospitalizing for cutting and such and for some reason i had no sympathy for them.
Cuz i feel like they are making up problems. tho I know its uncontrolable,and i dont judge.
Well, I'm chubby with an average face. Not pretty. So I can't say anyone has ever told me that. But if someone finds out I cut, they're not surprised and no one has really tried to stop me beyond halfheartedly saying 'don't do that'. It feels like I'm expected to hate myself because I'm not pretty by society's standards. So that's kind of messed up. It seems that if you're not pretty or rich, you end being treated like you're not as important. Or is it just all in my imagination?
Someone told me that a psychiatric nurse was overheard saying to a colleague that (a patient of hers) was too pretty to have depression, and only fat losers got it. Can you believe that? Its only hearsay but i wouldnt put it past some of them, knowing the ones i have encountered
IMO, depression has absolutely NOTHING to do with your lifestyle. Even the President's daughter can get depression. And it kind of pisses me off how people make me feel that my life "is not bad enough" for me to be cutting. So what, just because there are people out there who have worse lives, does that mean that WE are not allowed to have problems?!?!
ok first i like to mention that you are beutiful. now as far as not being able to have a mental problem is BS. people who say that dont have a problem. these things are not in materials or looks. its a real condition. ugliness/poor doesnt bring depression. when i was in the hospital i met people who were there only because they were homeless. i felt bad for myself because i have a job, house, cars, family, insurance 100% paid. i still got paychecks while i was admitted. military is good work
yah im to happy to cut, but thats just a fake act i put on i just smile automaticly it means nothing =/ wish all of you guys & girl best of luck i know for myself that talking does help allot just find some one on youtube or a very good friend it helps if they actually understand so youtube ftw thats all i can say i still cut, but i know everyone here can overcome i truelly belief in that. if anyone wants they can talk with me im always their if you need me
If you are interested, I have a report from a psychiatric journal, it researches the medical view on self injury amongst nurses in the emergency department in the country I live in. I will PM it to you if you wish, quite an interesting piece of research!
I had somebody interview me in hospital, she was an idiot. It was one of my first times self injuring, when she asked to see my cuts, she pulled a face, it was a face of disgust, shock and slight amazement. Afterwards, she told me all this rubbish about going into a psych ward and the whole world finding out, that I wont have any chance of employment. It was all rubbish as the health care where I live in is all confidential
@boozeberryjam sorry for you that happend, when i overdosed a woman came in but i was like to for out of the word to know whats going on and she was from the mental ward thingy and i was just honest with her mostly cause of the pills, but i was honest and my punishment for beeing honest is being send into a crisis center wooptido
people tell me im pretty and have a beautiful soul but i still have scars all over my leg i dont have issues im just really emotional and i just found out my bf fisicly cheated and just everything is falling apart and i just feel like no one really cares and im just not good enough
a lot of people tell me im beautiful and nice but they dont know who i reallly am i dont know how or why i cant show who i really am people dont know that i have breaks down like everyday and cuts myself i know its stupid but i cant help myself...
From what I understand, many people believe that my life is perfect. Or perhaps if they know something, then they think I am overdramatizing and don't really have to go through this or that. The excuses being, "You're a nice person, you have nice things, you are pretty..."
Honestly, I don't even know how anyone can make the assumption that anyone's life is perfect. There may be nice things going for someone, but it doesn't mean that the bad things don't exist.
It seems that everything depends on material possesions, looks, or reputation nowadays. Fame is another factor, when some famous person says they self injure they get all the sympathy in the world but when an average Joe or Jane self injures thay are immediatly labeled an outcast and a freak.
it's not bcauze yr pretty that you can't have problems.I know that some people cut themselve cauz they think they don't look nice of bcauze they think they're fat or blabla,but most of the girls/boys selfinjure cauz they can't handle the pain INSIDE their head.A lot of cutters are having a low self-esteem but that's most of the time not the exectly thé reason to cut but more an result or a side-effect..idk but Most of the time the reason is something at home or in the past or ... and not 'ugly'
When people say that, the first thing I think is: "Oh, I'm pretty? How nice. But what does that have to do with my cuts? Does that mean that I look to perfect to be scarred?" It pisses me off that people think that nobody else has problems. But maybe they actually don't mean it that way?
I have experienced something similar before. Not a lot of people know about my problems, but those who do have questioned my problems and wondered why I do what I do to myself because I'm apparently so 'smart.'
I don't think it's fair to say that sort of thing to anyone because anyone can have problems, and really, everyone does...we all just have different problems.
i feel the same way. my cuts are noticable, as well as my scars, so i have people ask me everyday "why do you do that, you're too pretty" "you're beautiful, you shouldnt do that"..it makes me feel like..all they care about are my looks..they dont understand what i feel inside. so it makes me kind of angry at times. i feel like saying to some people "is that all you care about? just the way i look? you're not taking time to figure out why i do this. so why should i care about your opinion"
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i totally agree with you, but i also hate it when people look down on you for it, im a self harmer too im 15 and have had the problem since i was 12, i find it very hard to cope and yiur videos are comforting to me because it reminds me that im not alone, and there are people like me, i watch your videos almost every day.... i hope your well xoxox
I think they say it because they want you to feel better, like say you cut because you think your ugly. Well they think that if they can reassure you that your pretty than maybe you won't need to cut. Just a thought.
some people do it because tey think theyr ugly. but most people have the real problems. like me. my friend says we think the wrong way. like it doeesnt make no sence how could you think wrong. preverted or sad. i dont get it. when something happens its like your doing it to realease the stress and emotional pain inside you. then when people see it they get all wierd and tell you your too pretty to do it. i dont care if im pretty. it doesnt make a fukin diff
my god, i hate people who do that. the other day someone was say to me that i could be healed by them and that i'm beautifle so i could be healed and that i to beautifle to be damaged...it made me furt even more...
Ugh it's totally inappropriate. I had it where I was "too young" to self harm, or too young to be in a ward... making comments instead of actually helping me.. It's patronising.
I had a nurse say to me "one day you are going to want to get married and wear a beautifull wedding dress,but you won't be able to with arms like that".Just what I wanted to hear!
When people tell me I'm too pretty to cut myself, I feel extremely misunderstood. It's like people are so ostentatious that they think my problems are only skin deep. And Melissa I was just released from a 3 week stay in hospital, I saw alot of messed up things in there, it would be a great help if I could talk to you about it. Xxoo I hope your well.
When I told my best friend that I cut myself, she told me, "YOU'RE WAY TOO SMART TO DO THAT!" It really upset me because, I don't think anybody is too smart to be depressed. Plus, the self harm ALREADY made me think of myself as stupid, so when she said that to me, I thought she was referring to me as stupid. That day was supposed to be a release, but it was just a really triggering day... Atleast I stayed strong. Five and a half months and counting! :D Good luck to you all. Stay strong.`
I recently read about Tila Tequila's twitter about her SI.
Tila wouldn't do that... she's not like that...
She's hot... she shouldn't have any problems... She could steal any guy away from his girlfriend without even trying and have sex with him anytime she wanted to.
What could she possibly be cutting for? Aside from being young, rich, popular, and hot what could she possibly be missing?
Yeah the school psyciatrist told me i was so pretty. It was weird. they think that you don't have problems with your life but there is. I HATE THAT!!!!!!!!!!!
My boyfriend had a very bad past and when he found out about me cutting he was very upset as he didnt understand as i have a "nice" house and "home". so now i refuse to talk to him about it. people dont understand, although he is there for me if i need him i cant as he doesnt understand. So i get where you are coming from,.
This is great. Those comments piss me off on a number of levels. One being the belief that the beauty standard is at all relevent. Two being that it's understandable that ugly people would cut themselves (or that being ugly actually matters for shit outside of the patriarchy). Three it's fucking patronizing. And four, it's none of anyone else's business what you look like. My body is not public property, those commenters don't know what it's like to be inside of my body, so cut it the hell out.
Too pretty to cut yourself.. Well, when I told my friend, she said something similar.
She said "but why would you need it to make yourself feel better?! your life is perfect, you have a huge house, family that loves you, blah blah blah..", well, that made me feel horrible. Because it's not true. :-/
Just cus your pretty or might not look like you have problems dosnt really mean anything.... some people will use them being pretty or whatever to keep people from seeing that they hurt and have crap in there life.
ive been told im to pretty to cut myself and i told them that beauty isnt my reason for SI i do it bc im in mental pain and they were like well ur just making urself ugly
I agree...it's ridiculous: you're pretty, you're a straight A student, your parents are together, you're thin--why do you cut? Sure, they can be compliments...but people shouldn't use compliments to minimize your pain. Thanks for posting :) It's true that you're a beautiful person, but I don't in any way see how that should affect your cutting...not to say that you *should* be cutting, just that appearances have nothing to do with it. Take care.
I know someone would help a pretty person out a lot faster then a ugly one. That's the case I normally see. So yeah naturally you'd think that the pretty person has it a little easier then the ugly person. I guess it's one of those things where you don't want to see a pretty thing get hurt and care less about the ugly thing. Just the way humans are. =( That fact makes me sad...
Yeah. It bothers me when people do that! It's like "you don't deserve any help because you're just attention seeking because you have no reason to have any problems because you have enough money to live" (okay, that's a LITTLE different from what you said, but still). For depression and other things like that, you don't need to have problems like not having enough money or whatever. I often burst out crying for no reason. For me, it's genetic. There's nothing I can do to change that.
I completely agree. I am an honors student and (according to most people) a very talented singer and writer. And people have decided that because of these traits I have, I shouldn't cut myself. And (I know I sound like I'm seeking attention here, but I'm honestly not) when people tell me I'm too pretty to cut myself I....I can't take it to heart, or believe it or whatever because i don't think I am, honestly. And I feel statements like these actually cause MORE issues that can lead to SI.
people tell me i were smart (pretty does not seem to be an option with me ;) ) i get the notion of being a good friend, a good listener a kind soul even but still i do it. i do it for and against none of the above reasons, but with girls i might assume a simble male logic would be "pretty girl cutting = becoming ugly girl through scars = no good" so by mentioning you were pretty they try to discourage you without giving it any thought,...
i find statements like that ignorant and invalidating, but not necessarily insulting. i can only imagine how that can make you guys feel. some people just don't understand and maybe a comment like this can open up dialogue and get them to think a little harder about abuse and mental illness. perhaps statements like this say more about our culture than anything else.
I've always been told I'm too intelligent to cut myself, starve myself, binge, purge, whatever. But intelligence (or beauty or money or fame or anything else) doesnt mean you don't still develop severe psychological problems. My intelligence has just meant that I seem to have a better understanding of why I do what I do.
I had this in hospital from the only nurse that treated me like a person...And you're right; whilst it feels good to be told you're beautiful, you're left feeling sort of isolated by how they have no understanding of what kind of complex emotions and situations lead up to self-harm. Im not worrying at the time about what my arm is going to look like after I've done this, I would so much rather people appreciate that my scars are a result of an experience, not some decoration I use to gain pity.
I've gone through this repeatedly. But it always gets thrown back at me cos I say, "No, I'm not." when they say I'm pretty. Just because you have something, look a certain way, or aren't exactly like, a "loner" doesn't mean you can't SI.
i hate it, people always say that im too pretty to make myself ill or hurt myself and i hate it coz i know its not true, they never know what going on inside me or what im feeling inside
People tell me that im gorgeous nd ect all the time..why do i cut? that i have ti easy. but they never see the inside..only the surface part..People with self injury probs do it for many different reasons. nd others around need to hear there side. dont matter if ur pretty. got money..ect..everyone does it for a reason
I get complimented on my appearance all the time and it drives me insane tbh. I am not 'beautiful' and, even if I was, I would still have the same issues. Silly people haha
@ idranktheseawater I know.. well atleest in a way I do.. just kinda obnoxious and will not agree with any compliments that I'll ever get.. :$
faelybaby 2 days ago
Thing is.. some people now watching this may think.. ' well thats okay, I'm ugly anyways so its okay for me to cut myself''
faelybaby 3 days ago
@faelybaby
The point of the vid is that it doesnt matter what we look like. Cutting is not okay no matter what we look like.
idranktheseawater 3 days ago
i just started cutting
BEXWUVSJACOB 3 days ago
I have been cutting myself for 5 and a half years, I started at ten because I couldn't cope. I have been told I am too smart to self harm & to pretty to do what I do, I think 'hey thanks for the complement but that's not why I do it' I do it for the release, I am slowly getting better, I haven't cut in three months, and its not something that goes away.
Hidenbehindblackhair 1 week ago
You're not pretty, but you still shouldn't cut yourself.
CalvinMcCaskill 1 week ago
I am cutting myself right now...people tell me "you're way to energetic and beautiful what possible problems could you have??" it's really fuckin annoying
EmoCRN 1 week ago
i just recently started cutting myself.....
TASHAakaAWESOME 1 week ago
When I decided to stop self injuring, after a long long time, I went to see a doctor. He told me that he didn't bealive my story, because I was to pretty. I looked to well dressed, had nice makeup on and my hair looked pretty. I mean c'mon, that's the oldest trick in the book...
That is so bullshit, all of it. Looking you know... dressed up and nice was my way of holding up a facade. You'd think a doctor specialized in young people with problems might have come across that before >.<
SootImp 1 month ago
I wish ppl would stop questioning me. Y do u cut ur so pretty so smart so artistic so talented. They think tht ur public display manikin is tha same u behind doors. Well reality check; there is sooo much wrong with me tht I dnt even no were to start. Nd idc if scars r unnatractive. U ever felt like ur lifes juss not worth living? U ever cried urself to sleep every night for a 3weeks strait, wondering what u did to deserve this suffering? I wish I could say no to all these Q's, but I cant.
Sexxgoddess94 2 months ago
try to put yourself in their shoes.
i believe many people would self harm due to things leading to a low self esteem,
resulting in the person feeling like they are not pretty or skinny.
if it was a self harmer who told you this, then possibly the reason for their self harm is feeling as though they are not pretty or skinny enough, and assume it's similar or the same for everyone. if it was not a self harmer then of course they're not going to understand, and may just assume these reasons.
icanonlydream321 2 months ago
People r always like y do u cut or y would u have an eating disorder or how could u be depressed u have such a good life going and u r so pretty and thin but u know what people my life isn't so good I was de Yalu abuse and don't have good family relationships and I don't think I'm pretty or thin life is always what it seams
aaashrae 2 months ago
People are always like y do u cut or y would u have an eating disorder or how could u be depressed u have such a good looking life u r so pretty and thin well u know what people I was abused and I don't think I'm pretty so thing aren't always what they seam
aaashrae 2 months ago
I totally agree!
DeadyTeady 3 months ago
I know I hate that. i got a "no you dont need to do that youre beautiful". even though it was supposed to be (kinda) a compliment it pissed me off. What is this foundation people have for assuming only unattractive people cut themseleves? Like, most of the time people dont know whether someone is cutting or not so it's just this weird stereotype and i dont know where it stems from : /
106141214 5 months ago
I was told the other day that i was beautiful so why am i sad? it really pissed me off that some one would say that just because people are pretty doesnt mean that there life is perfect ya know? love your videos btw
emmiey1 6 months ago
i cut and my best friend found out and she said" ur beutiful! u dont need to cut!" and i munbled " nobody ever understands" and then she was like what? and i said nothing and left and whent to the bathroom in school. and cut =L
LifeDiary111 6 months ago
this is total regular for me!!! everyone always asks, you come from such a nice family or your so pretty why would you do it when really you feel like you need to
raginyourboggin 7 months ago
I cut myself not because I want to kill myself or because I want people to feel bad, I do it because It makes me feel better through whatever I'm going through.
TatiiBabeh 7 months ago 2
and make me stop cutting myself but then yesterday he tld me i was being childish and ridiculous about it so im still cutting myself and crying over him every nite since then and i wanna die but then i wanna stop at the same time so idk wut to do anymore bcuz i feel like everyone hates me and is out to get me
supercookiemonster81 7 months ago
@supercookiemonster81 no one hates or is out to get you that guy is just a douche bag and not worth your blood and tears :)
SinginNickieRose 5 months ago
i used to cut myself but then i stopped.......welllll just 2 days ago my bf wants to take a break from dating me and then get back together later on and i was all sad and everything but the way he was acting he made me wanna cut myself again so i did and then i cut his name into my hip and i tld him tht he made me do tht and he was like "i didnt think it would kill me this much to be without u" so he asked me bak out....or so i thought he did it turns out he only said tht to make me feel better-
supercookiemonster81 7 months ago
but u can still feel empty inside i cant wite much in this box so imma make a video for u ok?? ima call it CuttingWithAnUnderstanding so chech it out ok
robertalay456jamie 8 months ago
hi o care you probly havent seen my channel but check it out im bulimc an i cut an i get emo gurl alot but im me really but like i completley understand were ur coming frm i got mesg like that alot oh ur pretty ur to beautiful you have a life a family a home blah blah blah but like honestly its nt the same its not wat ppl think i do have a family i do have a home i do have frends who care about me but that doesnt mean im happy that doesnt mean im ........im not happy you could be rich
robertalay456jamie 8 months ago
i dnt agree i think everyone has different problems and they deal with it in different ways and im not say self harming is a good way to deal with it. but sometimes that the only way some people can deal with it. and i think its ok to talk about it only to the people you trust and you know who wont say anything because thats how you get support. Ad also i dont think it right that your have to look a suntan way to do it that just stupid its how your feeling at that time of when you done it
95hunnybunny95 8 months ago
It bothered me to get comments kind of similar, because I thought they were lying. Making up stuff to try to make me feel better so I wouldn't hurt myself. And just being told that you shouldn't do something, for any reason really just sucks. I often get 'your too young, you've got your whole life ahead of you. ' That one bothers me. It shouldn't, because they are right, regardless of how shitty it was, is or will be.
MandyByken 8 months ago
so when your ugly and fat you can cut but when your pretty you can't...?
xXkrislynloveXx 9 months ago
I'm an upper middle class white girl. Half the time when I say I'm a cutter, they say I must be doing it for attention because I have the money to do anything. But I've been a cutter for 4 years. Why do people assume my money will make me happy?
CantRunAndHide 9 months ago
When I was in the Psych Hospital, I got ppl asking me, "You don't know your pretty do you?" or "You're so cute." "You're cute you don't need to be doing things to yourself." The nurses were being nice and looking back now, I think they were trying to give a bit of confidence, but I completely understand your point. No matter what you look like, how old you are, where you live, ect, we all have our problems. I think I would tell someone they are pretty. It may be what they need to hear that day.
TheKookieKiller 9 months ago
If they are afraid of their uncle obviously they aren't going to call it in. They could be to young and naive, or know their uncle could litterally kill them. Besides, cutting isn't a complete bad thing, it lets out emotional stress, that otherwise, would be pent up so much you could go and kill someone, or yourself. Which would you rather, cutting or suicide ( and/or homicide)?
61ll5n1ng5l 9 months ago
Hey WillsUrDad, your the one who doesn't know what yur talkin about, some people can't do that. Plus you could be deathly afraid of your uncle, it happens ALL the time, Look it up.
61ll5n1ng5l 9 months ago
Oh my god thank you. I get that alot. Just because people think im attractive doesnt mean my life is perfect!!!
TheFurrealDeal 10 months ago
I have cut before and when you start it is very hard to stop,i don't see why people make such a big deal over it! Ik ik i heard all the same things before but if they're not doing it and they don't feel what you feel they need to stay out of it and not say anything they have no idea what it's like!
MegaGirlygirl161 10 months ago
I completely agree with you. I tried to tell my friends that I was thinking about it, and all anybody said was "But your so pretty! You can't be unhappy! Your seriously the skinniest person I know!" And on and on and on. I've only done it like... 5 times, but everytime I think about it I feel guilty, like I wonder what everyone would think about me, and if they would bring up that "but your so pretty" crap again.
gnomriot 10 months ago
It makes no since Someone could be rich famous butiful
imadinosaurisorawr 11 months ago
just because people r pretty doesn't mean they don't cut. im 12 and ima cutter. i admitt to who ever reads this. im a cute little asian girl. that doesn't mean i don't cut. everyone one has problems. were not all perfect. *ChloeLove*
ChloeLove411 11 months ago
i do that....
MsInvaderzim123 11 months ago
Mein Gott when people found out that I cut they said "You're too smart for that" or "You're not poor so, why do you do that?". These statements drove me insane with anger and sadness. I may be smart, I may be well off finacialy but it doesn't mean I don't have problems. I'm like any person with a problem I just deal with it differently. Some days I regret ever telling my friend about my sh.
HappyIsFleeting 11 months ago
my mother use to say the same thing it made me soo mad. it was like she was changing the subject because me being pretty had nothing to do with my cutting. ive been trying 2 quite but im afraid im going to slip im trying to tallk to my friend who also does it but its almost like she doesnt care any more. i want to help others like me but the voice in my head says how can i if i cant help myself. can u plez give me some advice i feel like ill never get over this?
izzabell94 11 months ago
its all relative. but a rich persons problems will always seem petty to someone who has to work two jobs to put food on the table for their kids. likewise the problems of a pretty white girl will seem small to someone that is ugly by societies standards and therfore alienated and left out. so yeah, some people like to make life harder than it has to be, and some people have to fight and struggle every day just to scrape by.
JSS0986 1 year ago
When I was in the hospital the second time, all the nurses told me I was "too pretty to cut myself". It was hellla annoying.
butonebeautifuldisas 1 year ago
OMG, I KNOW
Everywhere I go, Your soo pretty why do you do that to yourself?
....-.- fkin retards.
TezziaTear 1 year ago 3
I get people saying stuff like that to me ALL THE TIME:/
8695dancer 1 year ago
yea people can be loaded, drop dead gourges or just an average person, cutting, depression, teourettes, ect... all of them are chemical imbalances in your brain, you cant control what happens, its not any ones fault its just an inconvenions (im really sorry i dont spell very well) that people have and they cant change it... n yea
princessbitch221 1 year ago
i was told that i was to pretty to cut myself to but that doesnt mean anything and i try not to let people tell me how i feel but they always think they no every thing about me but they dont no my real secrets
imadinosaurisorawr 1 year ago
I try to ignore those comments about "you're beautiful," and "why do you?". Beauty or money or fame doesn't make everything all okay. And people saying that to me, kinda makes me feel worse or guilty that I'm not "happy" and it's at if the reasons I have for doing it isn't good enough for people. But that's just how I feel. :)
mimmmy202 1 year ago
I think that if you cut yourself you should keep it to yourself..
irawryouman 1 year ago
@irawryouman
I got these comments at the hospital where I was being treated for it. At that point, I couldnt actually hide it.
idranktheseawater 1 year ago 9
@idranktheseawater Ofc that's different and everything. I just hate it when people cut themselves up their arms and hands and then roll up their sleeves and pull it down when people comment. As a cutter myself I know that my sleeves are always, always down and there are thumb holes in my shirt sleeves.
irawryouman 1 year ago
@irawryouman Really keep it to ourselves thats what put us here in the first place. We don't tell people its those who do it for attentiion that tell people. They're like "Oh I cut myself feel sorry for me!" we who don't do it for attention never mention it. I never did until it was too late and I nearly died because of it ya arrogant prick.
HappyIsFleeting 1 year ago
@irawryouman people try to hide it sometimes but sometimes people see it its not always an attention thing sometimes it is though but not always
SinginNickieRose 5 months ago
You're taking this up as a negative comment to you, you know its meant as a compliment, but it implies that if you were less attractive on some level it would be more acceptable or understandable for them to cut. This issue also comes up when a pretty white girl goes missing or murders someone that it gets far more media attention than a less attractive person or someone of an ethnic minority. please don't take that comment being said to you as negative it comes from ignorance.
IncidentalShine 1 year ago
I know how you feel girl
Mickeymouselover777 1 year ago
There is no question that you have been traumatized in one way or another, but that just makes u human. What u have to realize is that what u are & what u do are important. Your survival in this life depends on u thinking " Fuck everyone else, I am the most important person". You have to love yourself, love yourself, love yourself.
HaRdPL8 1 year ago
I think you have to recognise what these people are doing and that is holding others to arbitary standards over things that are ill-defined: What is intelligence?
and subjective:
A millionaire might consider a billionaire "rich" but a person in poverty might consider a doctor "rich - It depends who you ask.
They need to realise that people from all walks of life can self-injury and be afflicted with mental problems and that they should be met with compassion and not senseless criticism.
E1see 1 year ago
See, that has no effect. Everyone has their own problems and mostly, they hide them.
MollyMassacree 1 year ago
its offensive to both sides of the characteristic described.
i.e "you're too pretty to cut"
To the pretty person- statements like this are devaluing true emotions based off unrelated factors
To the not-so-pretty person- what? is it acceptable for THEM to cut? because they aren't /too pretty/ too cut?
whateverittakes018 1 year ago
Ok I've been told I'm very pretty but I tend to cut myself not so much for suicide purposes like I use to but more to feel the pain. Sometimes feeling physical pain can help the emotional pain go away. It's become addicting. Hardly anyone knows but when they find out they look at me like I'm messed up. And I'm not we all have issues and that happens to be mine! So fuck it! Being pretty has nothing to do with harming yourself!
TheKayliii 1 year ago
This is exactly what i get. When people started to find out because my ex boyfriend knew and he told everyone he could. People just didnt understand why i do this, they tell me i have no problems they tell me i seem too perfect...when these people dont know me, they know nothing about me or how my mind works or how im stuck like this.
CatchMeInYourNet15 1 year ago
ahhh i soo agree ...ok im going to tell u all rite now and you...i am a model my mom loves me ..and i will addmit i am attractive...but i am sucidle and cut my self hardcore...and i think that is a load of bullshit ..everyone has there problems ......also ......i hate when ppl say...oh its not that bad..... ..or it could be worse........it fucking pisses me off because ...wat u r going thro is bad if ur cutting god
taylorff1 1 year ago
i cutrt my self bt im emo my life suxs
MrHawk121 1 year ago
your never to pretty to cut if your pretty you can cut
wtffireworks1 1 year ago
i appreciate you.
YELLOWBUTTBUMPER 1 year ago
I really dont think it has to come from any specific problems I have a tic bit i can control it if i concentrate but honestly i like to hurt my self and its not from depression it just makes me feel better and i dont have to feel bad i just like to so its an improvement i dont cut but same principal only less dagerous unless u count me lighting my self on fire but that is more for a rush than for pain i think for me its more about feeling alive than hurting my self
samhowel 1 year ago
I totttttttttally get where ya coming from. You are beautiful, we all are in our different ways, but some people don't understand the "pretty" girls do have or have had bad experiences, in a way (sexualy) that plays a part, by being pretty, your a target.
ANDDDDDD! YOUR AMAZING! Iv'e watched like all your videos now and fuck i adore you and relate so so much, you speak the absolutle truth and god bless you for it gal!
millieeek 1 year ago
@willsurdad this really pisses me off that you would say this. I'm a preachers kid and because of that I am constantly under pressure to be perfect and not get "out of line" which makes life really tough for me because I can't be like a normal kid I can't go party with my friends because people will say I'm to wild or I can't go to a guys house cuz people will assume I'm sleeping with him and I can't date certain people because the church might not approve and then slam me with harsh comments b
SydniLee8 1 year ago
alot of attractive looking people arnt happy because people ONLY like them because of their looks, escpecially girls, they get all this unwanted attention...
and anyone could have issues, if someone expierences truama, even if it seems like something small say like verbal abuse that a child expierenced throughout their life, it might not seem like a big deal, but to the person it could effect them deeply. and can cause them to develop all sorts of mental disorders.
neonskittles101 1 year ago
@wilsurdad until youve been in a situation where u want to cut yourself u cant judge. Simplicity itself. Dont judge what u dont understand
NightSpiral 1 year ago
i have low self eestem and i have been told "Hannah your too pretty to cut" i have moree important problems then being pretty or not why dont people see that?
AngelTearsAreSweet 1 year ago
so you can tell a stranger that u getting yo incest on but you won't tell the police, yeah u dont have a problem. You prebably enjoying yo uncle too... that man showing you stuff you have never seen before. omg i got raped, let me cut myself... no, try this, 911, tell concerned family (not the uncle raping you)... etc....
WillsUrDad 1 year ago
@WillsUrDad
I made up a scenario. I was not raped by my uncle.
idranktheseawater 1 year ago 14
@WillsUrDad Why don't you learn to type properly, you ignorant little cunt. Let me do a little bit of psychoanalysis. You enjoy taking out your aggression on Melissa because you find her physically attractive and you hate women because you're such a tactless, ignorant little fuck that you've faced rejection from every single woman you've ever been attracted to. Just because you get rejected a lot doesn't mean you can take it out on every woman you come across.
Bjarku 1 year ago 2
@WillsUrDad are you a five year old kid?
inrSTRENGTH 1 year ago
I feel that if you have a big house, you look good (not saying you do, just talking about the topic). Get everything you want, have a computer to talk to people about random shit like this, then yeah you don't have a problem big enough to cut yourself, there are plenty of people having a harder life and they don't resort to cutting themselves to get through the day. Cutting is retarded, why would someone inflict pain because of pain, go make some friends or something
WillsUrDad 1 year ago
@WillsUrDad
So, lets say someone is pretty and has a nice house, but they are being raped regularly by their uncle....Do they really not have a problem?
Or they are pretty and smart and rich, but they were in a car accident where their brother died beside them. Do they not have a problem?
idranktheseawater 1 year ago 24
@idranktheseawater not enough of a problem to kill themself. ive had 4 friends die in the past 5 years but do i sit here whining about it cutting myself? no. i get on with life. stop fucking moaning and grow the fuck up
godlovesallah 3 weeks ago
wye do you havve to be so afensive if you dont want to wach it, dont. your not cool, peeple woo go throogh nasty stuff, have no choise in the mater, and i bet if anithing bad hapened to you youd be the first to complane. so just mind youre owne biseness next time, and be more sensitive to howe other peeple feel!
immi356 9 months ago
@WillsUrDad i agree with you. Cutting is STUPID. People need to make intellgent choices.
kialovee1 9 months ago
@WillsUrDad your an asshole. you don't know what people go through, and you have no right to call cutting retarded. Dont write a fucking reply on a topic that you dont know shit about.
Ashflower97 1 month ago
your hair looks mad pretty in this vid
my friend once told me "your too pretty to cut yourself"
and i wanted to say
it's not about looking pretty or not..
ClythiaMystica 1 year ago
everyone says i hve tons of friends and im pretty cool but i pick the skin off my legs and cut my arms. people dont understand. yeh i have amazing friends and i guess i have a nice personality. but i am weak in spots just like any human. i express it different. oh and i usually feel like a god afterward. but i only do it when im in pain.
zoezoepet10 1 year ago
when someone tells me "your to pretty to cut"
i say or think
" 'pretty' peopel feel pain to.it dosnt matter what you look like its what you feel that makes you cut"
KuchisakeOnna1 1 year ago
i think that is so unfair to say ur pretty so y do u self injure or ur rich so y do u or what ever no1nos what uv bin through like u culd have been through abuse or anyfing like i have family issues so i cut well i think thats y its sorta a lot of things but yeh i dont really get people saying im pretty or clever or any thing though i think im quite clever a mean im not stupid or any thing like i get pretty good grades yeh so like ur pretty and ur awesome but it dosnt mean u cant self injure
mustang99190 1 year ago
Yes I get that a lot.There is this one girl who always tells me I have no reason to cut because im thin and 'rich'. When really I'm not thin or rich. The only reason people think that is because my mom and i live with my grandma who has a nice house and alot of nice things. But people always assume that because you have certain things then you automatically have a great life. So what i say is you obviously know nothing about me and therefore would not understand why i cut, or feel the need to.
MsRainbowblack 1 year ago
I'm old school. Commenting on certain things is simply inappropriate. I happen to own a really nice sports car. If my video was on chronic depression, commenting on my car would be insulting. Yes, I'm too sensitive regarding what people think of me. So shoot me.
MonacoBlast 1 year ago
So yea, I can deffinetly see what would bother you about that. I hear the same thing from people. I understand there intentions are good but its never that simple.
Violinheaddd 1 year ago
I agree. I've been told that before and no matter how pretty you are, no matter how many things you have, or friends for that matter, it doesn't take away the pain that would bring someone to such a desperate point. So I guess I'm agreeing with the face that it's offensive, but it's the only thing people can think to say sometimes, so don't hold it against them too much. You are beautiful though, be safe and take care and good luck with everything!
chaoslace628 1 year ago
yeah it's like ''what, only ugly people must cut themselves?''..... how can people think that way, or maybe they don't mean it like that... maybe they say what they say cause everyone has something about themselves that makes them amazing and it's a shame that they cut themselves... if they put it that way them it's more understandable.
Mimibie 1 year ago
Well, some people just don't understand. Beauty, money or being smart doesn't mean anything. Sometimes maybe being dumb, not knowing what's happen might make you happier. Money cannot buy health, money can't buy happiness, money can't buy true friends (maybe friends who love money but they're not friends that you can relay on) and so on. Beauty, yea maybe for guys. Every single time I think about what happened last year I cut myself.
szeernwong 1 year ago
my mother knows about my si. she always commented on my choice of clothes very negatively, so one time as she told me i was not allowed to wear a dress because it was out of season, i told her that it made me feel pretty; for once, i stood up for myself. she retaliated with "if you thought you were pretty, you wouldn't cut yourself" and now she uses my si against me all the time.
*sigh* that's the only experience i have with that.
kayleeShoe 1 year ago
I dont know a thing about you but i think you got issues and need them to be sorted out before you teach people :s
canond450 1 year ago
@canond450
I do have issues and I'm working on them, but that doesnt mean I cant talk about what I'm going through and what I learn on the way.
idranktheseawater 1 year ago 36
I'll tell you what. First of all, you are pretty. But doesn't matter what happens or whatever, suicide is never an option. I came across with your video randomly and I say live your life and find another way to express yourself. I have a friend and he spent time in a hospital and mental hospital. He is one of the coolest sons of bitches I have ever known. He changed his way of thinking and now, he's a bad ass. Good luck.
Manny1222 1 year ago
@Manny1222
I'm not suicidal
never was
Cutting is not the same as suicide.
Thank you for your kind thoughts.
idranktheseawater 1 year ago
@idranktheseawater I was thinking of saying the words "self inflicted wounds" but for some reason I didn't chose wisely. lol You're very welcome. Take care.
Manny1222 1 year ago
I think the problem people usually have with a pretty girl cutting herself\having eating disorder
is that they feel like u bring it onurself
,as an overweight person for exemple i suffered alot of mental and physical abuse as a child,And i met couple of beautiful skinny girls in my life that has eating disorders and kept hospitalizing for cutting and such and for some reason i had no sympathy for them.
Cuz i feel like they are making up problems. tho I know its uncontrolable,and i dont judge.
SamLovePieXx 1 year ago
from someone that dosnt have any of that i can honestly say it looks easier having money beauty ect but i do understand your point of view
iambonnieful 1 year ago
@iambonnieful
yeah, i think in some ways it is easier. I'd love to have lots of loot. ;)
idranktheseawater 1 year ago
Well, I'm chubby with an average face. Not pretty. So I can't say anyone has ever told me that. But if someone finds out I cut, they're not surprised and no one has really tried to stop me beyond halfheartedly saying 'don't do that'. It feels like I'm expected to hate myself because I'm not pretty by society's standards. So that's kind of messed up. It seems that if you're not pretty or rich, you end being treated like you're not as important. Or is it just all in my imagination?
TheOneThatYouLoathe 1 year ago
View number 3,333! anyway first u cut urself for attention, then u make a youtube vid about it for attention.
Princepurple1 1 year ago
I don't think you are that pretty. Cutting is pretty sweet though.
MaxLinc5555 1 year ago
@MaxLinc5555 F**k you Max
ChannelingusIV 1 year ago
Someone told me that a psychiatric nurse was overheard saying to a colleague that (a patient of hers) was too pretty to have depression, and only fat losers got it. Can you believe that? Its only hearsay but i wouldnt put it past some of them, knowing the ones i have encountered
JustxAnotherxCut 1 year ago
people say cut your self when you get anything u want
staystrong200 1 year ago
IMO, depression has absolutely NOTHING to do with your lifestyle. Even the President's daughter can get depression. And it kind of pisses me off how people make me feel that my life "is not bad enough" for me to be cutting. So what, just because there are people out there who have worse lives, does that mean that WE are not allowed to have problems?!?!
FiendishChick777 1 year ago
@FiendishChick777 no, just means you shouldn't be complaining. =P
ZarosOne 1 year ago
ok first i like to mention that you are beutiful. now as far as not being able to have a mental problem is BS. people who say that dont have a problem. these things are not in materials or looks. its a real condition. ugliness/poor doesnt bring depression. when i was in the hospital i met people who were there only because they were homeless. i felt bad for myself because i have a job, house, cars, family, insurance 100% paid. i still got paychecks while i was admitted. military is good work
tboy221 1 year ago
yah im to happy to cut, but thats just a fake act i put on i just smile automaticly it means nothing =/ wish all of you guys & girl best of luck i know for myself that talking does help allot just find some one on youtube or a very good friend it helps if they actually understand so youtube ftw thats all i can say i still cut, but i know everyone here can overcome i truelly belief in that. if anyone wants they can talk with me im always their if you need me
jamietje 1 year ago
If you are interested, I have a report from a psychiatric journal, it researches the medical view on self injury amongst nurses in the emergency department in the country I live in. I will PM it to you if you wish, quite an interesting piece of research!
boozeberryjam 1 year ago
@boozeberryjam
That does sound really interesting. Yes, I'd like it PM'd. ;)
idranktheseawater 1 year ago
I had somebody interview me in hospital, she was an idiot. It was one of my first times self injuring, when she asked to see my cuts, she pulled a face, it was a face of disgust, shock and slight amazement. Afterwards, she told me all this rubbish about going into a psych ward and the whole world finding out, that I wont have any chance of employment. It was all rubbish as the health care where I live in is all confidential
boozeberryjam 1 year ago
@boozeberryjam sorry for you that happend, when i overdosed a woman came in but i was like to for out of the word to know whats going on and she was from the mental ward thingy and i was just honest with her mostly cause of the pills, but i was honest and my punishment for beeing honest is being send into a crisis center wooptido
jamietje 1 year ago
people tell me im pretty and have a beautiful soul but i still have scars all over my leg i dont have issues im just really emotional and i just found out my bf fisicly cheated and just everything is falling apart and i just feel like no one really cares and im just not good enough
shiest4life 1 year ago
a lot of people tell me im beautiful and nice but they dont know who i reallly am i dont know how or why i cant show who i really am people dont know that i have breaks down like everyday and cuts myself i know its stupid but i cant help myself...
shiest4life 1 year ago
'You can't self harm because you have money/looks/fame/smart' - is bad imo because there can be hidden BIG problem.
'You can't self harm because you are too preety' - either bad like 1st or bad because it's like taking choice from you...
Arsheerek 1 year ago
That comment always really bothers me. It feels like they are trying to make you feel guilty!
coversmiles 1 year ago
I was just talking about this.
From what I understand, many people believe that my life is perfect. Or perhaps if they know something, then they think I am overdramatizing and don't really have to go through this or that. The excuses being, "You're a nice person, you have nice things, you are pretty..."
Honestly, I don't even know how anyone can make the assumption that anyone's life is perfect. There may be nice things going for someone, but it doesn't mean that the bad things don't exist.
xLoveTheSuit 1 year ago
It seems that everything depends on material possesions, looks, or reputation nowadays. Fame is another factor, when some famous person says they self injure they get all the sympathy in the world but when an average Joe or Jane self injures thay are immediatly labeled an outcast and a freak.
theamazingmyst 1 year ago
it's not bcauze yr pretty that you can't have problems.I know that some people cut themselve cauz they think they don't look nice of bcauze they think they're fat or blabla,but most of the girls/boys selfinjure cauz they can't handle the pain INSIDE their head.A lot of cutters are having a low self-esteem but that's most of the time not the exectly thé reason to cut but more an result or a side-effect..idk but Most of the time the reason is something at home or in the past or ... and not 'ugly'
tilleay 1 year ago
When people say that, the first thing I think is: "Oh, I'm pretty? How nice. But what does that have to do with my cuts? Does that mean that I look to perfect to be scarred?" It pisses me off that people think that nobody else has problems. But maybe they actually don't mean it that way?
xEmotionalxCupcakex 1 year ago
Great video!
I have experienced something similar before. Not a lot of people know about my problems, but those who do have questioned my problems and wondered why I do what I do to myself because I'm apparently so 'smart.'
I don't think it's fair to say that sort of thing to anyone because anyone can have problems, and really, everyone does...we all just have different problems.
Anyway, great video as always! :)
flawedinsomniac 1 year ago
i feel the same way. my cuts are noticable, as well as my scars, so i have people ask me everyday "why do you do that, you're too pretty" "you're beautiful, you shouldnt do that"..it makes me feel like..all they care about are my looks..they dont understand what i feel inside. so it makes me kind of angry at times. i feel like saying to some people "is that all you care about? just the way i look? you're not taking time to figure out why i do this. so why should i care about your opinion"
BrittanyWantinmore 1 year ago
Men in the United states are circumsized because of the jews. jews practice genital mutilation as part of their religion. The Germans tried to exterminate the jews and identified the jew by looking at the penis. The jews wanted everyone to have mutilated genitals in the U.S.A. so if they tried to exterminate them like the Germans did they would be harder to identify. Morris Fishbein was the jewish editor of the AMA Journal from 1925 to 1950 who tricked the U.S.A. in to genital mutilation.
EMPlREofPUPPETS 1 year ago
i WISH someone would've told me that... :/
omygs17 1 year ago
i totally agree with you, but i also hate it when people look down on you for it, im a self harmer too im 15 and have had the problem since i was 12, i find it very hard to cope and yiur videos are comforting to me because it reminds me that im not alone, and there are people like me, i watch your videos almost every day.... i hope your well xoxox
amyxxbubblyxx 1 year ago
i always get that and people just dont get me
deadrose6612 1 year ago
They all say the same thing
TheBubblemint 1 year ago
I think they say it because they want you to feel better, like say you cut because you think your ugly. Well they think that if they can reassure you that your pretty than maybe you won't need to cut. Just a thought.
RiversOfCrimson 1 year ago
some people do it because tey think theyr ugly. but most people have the real problems. like me. my friend says we think the wrong way. like it doeesnt make no sence how could you think wrong. preverted or sad. i dont get it. when something happens its like your doing it to realease the stress and emotional pain inside you. then when people see it they get all wierd and tell you your too pretty to do it. i dont care if im pretty. it doesnt make a fukin diff
awsocute12345 1 year ago
my god, i hate people who do that. the other day someone was say to me that i could be healed by them and that i'm beautifle so i could be healed and that i to beautifle to be damaged...it made me furt even more...
Kii3DA 1 year ago
Ugh it's totally inappropriate. I had it where I was "too young" to self harm, or too young to be in a ward... making comments instead of actually helping me.. It's patronising.
mentalhealthhelpUK 1 year ago
I had a nurse say to me "one day you are going to want to get married and wear a beautifull wedding dress,but you won't be able to with arms like that".Just what I wanted to hear!
Ilovebobbetty 1 year ago
When people tell me I'm too pretty to cut myself, I feel extremely misunderstood. It's like people are so ostentatious that they think my problems are only skin deep. And Melissa I was just released from a 3 week stay in hospital, I saw alot of messed up things in there, it would be a great help if I could talk to you about it. Xxoo I hope your well.
TheActsofdepression 1 year ago 2
@TheActsofdepression
You are welcome to send me a PM. I always answer, and I'd be glad to listen.
idranktheseawater 1 year ago
When I told my best friend that I cut myself, she told me, "YOU'RE WAY TOO SMART TO DO THAT!" It really upset me because, I don't think anybody is too smart to be depressed. Plus, the self harm ALREADY made me think of myself as stupid, so when she said that to me, I thought she was referring to me as stupid. That day was supposed to be a release, but it was just a really triggering day... Atleast I stayed strong. Five and a half months and counting! :D Good luck to you all. Stay strong.`
loversloveliarslie23 1 year ago
i totally agree with you
DucGiaLuong 1 year ago
I recently read about Tila Tequila's twitter about her SI.
Tila wouldn't do that... she's not like that...
She's hot... she shouldn't have any problems... She could steal any guy away from his girlfriend without even trying and have sex with him anytime she wanted to.
What could she possibly be cutting for? Aside from being young, rich, popular, and hot what could she possibly be missing?
TheLibertariansUnite 1 year ago
I just tried to post a very long comment, but I was on my ipod and it totally screwed up and lost my comment. :(
Valkyara 1 year ago
You are very pretty, but everyone has their own reason for self harming.
It's very good that your trying to stop though.
buddhistbozkov 1 year ago
Yeah the school psyciatrist told me i was so pretty. It was weird. they think that you don't have problems with your life but there is. I HATE THAT!!!!!!!!!!!
PunkGirlChicken1801 1 year ago
well, i agree, a lot of people dont understand.
My boyfriend had a very bad past and when he found out about me cutting he was very upset as he didnt understand as i have a "nice" house and "home". so now i refuse to talk to him about it. people dont understand, although he is there for me if i need him i cant as he doesnt understand. So i get where you are coming from,.
lovewithoutlover 1 year ago
This is great. Those comments piss me off on a number of levels. One being the belief that the beauty standard is at all relevent. Two being that it's understandable that ugly people would cut themselves (or that being ugly actually matters for shit outside of the patriarchy). Three it's fucking patronizing. And four, it's none of anyone else's business what you look like. My body is not public property, those commenters don't know what it's like to be inside of my body, so cut it the hell out.
spagerbot 1 year ago
Too pretty to cut yourself.. Well, when I told my friend, she said something similar.
She said "but why would you need it to make yourself feel better?! your life is perfect, you have a huge house, family that loves you, blah blah blah..", well, that made me feel horrible. Because it's not true. :-/
Jasminee10 1 year ago
Well just look at celebs they are rich pretty everything and they seem to have the most problems
myemoboy1218 1 year ago
Just cus your pretty or might not look like you have problems dosnt really mean anything.... some people will use them being pretty or whatever to keep people from seeing that they hurt and have crap in there life.
PurpleDiscoStick 1 year ago
I agree.
They think just because you have good looks, you have no problems.
Which isn't the case, because we all go through bad situations, pretty or ugly.
affiecorpse 1 year ago
ive been told im to pretty to cut myself and i told them that beauty isnt my reason for SI i do it bc im in mental pain and they were like well ur just making urself ugly
prettyemofarie 1 year ago
I agree...it's ridiculous: you're pretty, you're a straight A student, your parents are together, you're thin--why do you cut? Sure, they can be compliments...but people shouldn't use compliments to minimize your pain. Thanks for posting :) It's true that you're a beautiful person, but I don't in any way see how that should affect your cutting...not to say that you *should* be cutting, just that appearances have nothing to do with it. Take care.
FoolishThings127 1 year ago
stay strong
booly5 1 year ago
I know someone would help a pretty person out a lot faster then a ugly one. That's the case I normally see. So yeah naturally you'd think that the pretty person has it a little easier then the ugly person. I guess it's one of those things where you don't want to see a pretty thing get hurt and care less about the ugly thing. Just the way humans are. =( That fact makes me sad...
darkstar685 1 year ago
@darkstar685
I've noticed that too. I recognize experiences that I've had that were mostly based on my appearance. I too find that upsetting.
idranktheseawater 1 year ago 5
Yeah. It bothers me when people do that! It's like "you don't deserve any help because you're just attention seeking because you have no reason to have any problems because you have enough money to live" (okay, that's a LITTLE different from what you said, but still). For depression and other things like that, you don't need to have problems like not having enough money or whatever. I often burst out crying for no reason. For me, it's genetic. There's nothing I can do to change that.
CabbageKitty 1 year ago
I completely agree. I am an honors student and (according to most people) a very talented singer and writer. And people have decided that because of these traits I have, I shouldn't cut myself. And (I know I sound like I'm seeking attention here, but I'm honestly not) when people tell me I'm too pretty to cut myself I....I can't take it to heart, or believe it or whatever because i don't think I am, honestly. And I feel statements like these actually cause MORE issues that can lead to SI.
xDropDeadDarlingx 1 year ago
people tell me i were smart (pretty does not seem to be an option with me ;) ) i get the notion of being a good friend, a good listener a kind soul even but still i do it. i do it for and against none of the above reasons, but with girls i might assume a simble male logic would be "pretty girl cutting = becoming ugly girl through scars = no good" so by mentioning you were pretty they try to discourage you without giving it any thought,...
scharrer1 1 year ago
i find statements like that ignorant and invalidating, but not necessarily insulting. i can only imagine how that can make you guys feel. some people just don't understand and maybe a comment like this can open up dialogue and get them to think a little harder about abuse and mental illness. perhaps statements like this say more about our culture than anything else.
oxidesofliving 1 year ago
you must be used of pain or something.knowing ur cutting urself hurts more then an unsuspecting cut..
TheAnimalDen 1 year ago
@TheAnimalDen
Im not sure I understand.
idranktheseawater 1 year ago
So true... im a nurse and i cut, and my boss freaked and was like it makes no sence, but i do love ur hair in this video
2young1s 1 year ago
I've always been told I'm too intelligent to cut myself, starve myself, binge, purge, whatever. But intelligence (or beauty or money or fame or anything else) doesnt mean you don't still develop severe psychological problems. My intelligence has just meant that I seem to have a better understanding of why I do what I do.
MsShadowangel 1 year ago
I had this in hospital from the only nurse that treated me like a person...And you're right; whilst it feels good to be told you're beautiful, you're left feeling sort of isolated by how they have no understanding of what kind of complex emotions and situations lead up to self-harm. Im not worrying at the time about what my arm is going to look like after I've done this, I would so much rather people appreciate that my scars are a result of an experience, not some decoration I use to gain pity.
sygnitte 1 year ago
I think it's really stupid
It may be a compliment but at the same time it isn't
they actually say: 'You're pretty! You shouldn't cut yourself!'
Like the outside is the only thing that matters
Ugly people can be the happiest people alive, and beautiful people can have suicide thoughts
The inside isn't always visible
daantjebanaantje1 1 year ago
I've gone through this repeatedly. But it always gets thrown back at me cos I say, "No, I'm not." when they say I'm pretty. Just because you have something, look a certain way, or aren't exactly like, a "loner" doesn't mean you can't SI.
xOfVanityAndWaxx 1 year ago
i hate it, people always say that im too pretty to make myself ill or hurt myself and i hate it coz i know its not true, they never know what going on inside me or what im feeling inside
LittleMissNeon1 1 year ago
People tell me that im gorgeous nd ect all the time..why do i cut? that i have ti easy. but they never see the inside..only the surface part..People with self injury probs do it for many different reasons. nd others around need to hear there side. dont matter if ur pretty. got money..ect..everyone does it for a reason
Tig3rlov3 1 year ago
I get complimented on my appearance all the time and it drives me insane tbh. I am not 'beautiful' and, even if I was, I would still have the same issues. Silly people haha
theladyofshalott16 1 year ago