Why Men Cheat, Why I Don't...Truth with Scoop

[SP0iiLEDGrL]

AMEN ! This is very well put. I wish more men wake up and realize whats real and women to. Having someone in your life that wants to help you better yourself and as well their self as a person is most deff a keeper. You need somebdy thts gonna hold you dwn and ride for you no matter what ! And thts real shit.

[royaltee504]

I know I'm late but this was some REAL MAN TALK right here!!

[lashandarenay]

Very well said!!!

[teetash]

Straight from the heart..8 out of 10 times there's deeper reasons for cheating and not..You hit a point of realization of why not.Beautifully spoken

[LaWillz]

Umm no! if you fuck anyone you want like Derek just cuz your single don't mean u all good...having sex with girls after girls after girls makes u a Hoe! whether u a man or woman, period! We gotta learn to respect our bodies. But I get your point Scoop. :)

[OhYeahTheNightNurse]

I think most women are like your wife. It all depends on where a man is in his life, his self esteem, and his attitude towards women in general. Most of the time men have the entire package but they're just assholes. Always thinking the grass is greener.

[mmone1178]

strong luv! GodBless11111111

[Amin53362]

I admire ur stance. i know that u're being honest. used to be married. i used to believe in marriage. now i believe in Love. no more marriage! we live in a crazy world that gives crazy mixed-up messages! if you're in a relationship unless u & ur mate have an understanding no outside sex. none! why can't we see that by now? how many tears must we cry? how many hearts must we break? we can do better. AMIN53362

re cheating on is yourself.

[CRB2K1]

Fatman Scoop was running??? LOL!!!

[ohsosexy45]

Hey Man & Wife, Fatman you have a good woman in your life and the things you shared in this video shows that you are equally a good man. The development of your relationship together actually would make for a good movie/script/screen play. It's 100% real, may God bless you both and keep you always. Love Yall!!!

[thegoodblackman]

A Good Black Man will not cheat- I agree.

[dappydap1]

You too are good people, and I hope you stay blessed for LIFE""" for giving back good in life. Your both very real

[solteria14]

This video should have been titled "why this man doesn't cheat". Great video! I can tell there is some truth to what he is saying.

[Mobbin4theArt]

PEEEAAAAACE Fam..Nice Word To The Wise......

[victoria21826]

I love your vids!

[MissClassyChick1]

much respect to u!!!

[CJ321977]

That is one real way to keep it real...

[TCake87]

Why is it a man has to be middle age to come to this conclusion? I really enjoyed this video

[xxdadixx]

what about condoms?

[MAR4PJ2010]

Man I tell you what! I didn't know much about you! But I must say I have more Respect for you than I ever did! And I know Shanda Very well, like my sister but iknow you know that already! You're Good man, And I wish you and Shanda all the Best!

[Denalynnnful]

I had a relationship with someone that actually made a video stating when he finds the right women, funny considering he was supposed to be mine

[Rariimnida]

You are amazing. I don't know what to think about my guy cheating on me with girls online. :/

[toxicrexdawg]

u did it for me scoop, um i really think its more about the man breAking his code of honor for what he truelly believes in and thats his woman. its hard man im going threw sum shit right now that no man has been threw but if i make it work it can be heaven on earth. thanks bro peace! and put on a jacket!!!!! lmao holla 1

[xnicko84x]

hit me up wit some tomato resepies

[ritzadee]

hahahaha "she could look like shrek and id still love her to death"

[BrownEagle7]

Right Scoop! Most men won't stop the BS until they almost lose it all and then they may realize what God intended. If I could do it again, I would wait, educate and masturbate until I found the one...

[iloveredbull09]

"my man doesnt cheat, we havea great relationship" - FAMOUS LAST WORDS

[csarah32]

WOW!! Excellent video Scoop!! Applauding you and Shanda : )

[Khemistry101]

Wonderful testimony, Bruh. By your reckoning, your wife is the proverbial "good woman", the ride-or-die chick.

Your wife is a special lady for a reason. Did she grown up with both parents? If not, did she have a father figure that she respected? Was her mother raised in America or no? See what I'm getting at? Cause your wife is not the norm!

I know VERY few women like her. Most women raised in western culture are taught to devalue manhood and thereby men.

[xMollyBabesx]

@Khemistry101 are u trying to say hou can only be a good woman and wife if you've been brought up with both parents?

[Khemistry101]

@xMollyBabesx

Wow. The situation I am referring to is deep, young lady, and difficult to explain in this short amount of space. I'll PM you with a link.

[mesuhlikemusic]

You have a strand of shirt on your left arm.......by your wrist.

:^|

[Msigotitlikethat]

@mesuhlikemusic  hahahaha....That bothered me, too. I was like, "Dang, bro. Could you get that?"

[rose1998]

AWHH.♥

[LLKPL]

Czechoslovakia is no longer a country- just wanted to point that out

[FeelinFyne26]

I already respected scoop for his realness but this right here took my respect for him to another level!!! Shanda got herself a REAL good man!

[rainbow1892]

real talk My Girlfriend now is a Ride of Die chick she was there for me when I broke up with her and was seeing someone else and I got robed !! by gun point!! in front of this other girls house she held me down!! and supported me called me everyday and hungout with me and forgave me and still there for me!! and we back together we have been seeing each other for 5 years going on 6 years!! wife status Im not married but Would love to marry her

[tckaramelcutie]

This is amazing. <3

[mrsjaye21]

Count on you Scoop to keep it "real". GOOD points in all that you said in the video. THUNDERCLAP all of it!

But why did you have to get to the point of having your life threatened to understand the seriousness of cheating and it's affect on YOUR life? I wonder if someone had threatened the ex wife's life if you would've had that Come to Jesus moment as quickly as you did when it was your own life.....

[YSMZ2006]

cont. not saying the wold is bad, but just to expereince a new woman after a man is finished that is it..goes back home to the wifey. Im going to throw it out there what do people think of the nature of man? Were men/women, created/evolved to be with one person? or is this just a social construct developed over time????

[YSMZ2006]

second of all...the men that u referred to in ur video all of have one thing in common. MONEY that is the reason why it is hard for a celebrity to cheat. the women want to be looked after in some way shape or form. so they would JAM up the marriage cos they have nothing to lose. NOW ur average man on the street its a different world, some women just wanna f***, the poorest man could cheat on his wife and he has nothing to offer. its about change fo some men its about having something new

[YSMZ2006]

ok...first of all he did not discuss the topic..just alot of pointers about his relationship..an his comment about if his wife looked like SHREK he would still love her...bullshit....u were attracted to shawnda so u gave her the time of day, if she looked like SHREK i do not think u would have given her a chance. i do believe in beauty is the eyes of the beholder, but for a man there definitely has to be a physical attraction

[SASSYJ83]

thanks for the post it made me see you in a whole new way that was real God Bless

[slytherinsheirx]

First, that's a hell of an echo! It feels like you're in the middle of nowhere. That man that you commented about saying that all men cheat, I wonder why he had that opinion. It might have been so that it could justify any of his activities, or that he had security issues.

I love my fiance very much, and can't comprehend why someone would mindlessly cheat. She feels the same about me.

(How can you make tomatos and cucumber taste any good, by the way? I can't swallow tomato in it's pure form.)

[missladygray]

God bless you and Shanda. :) The world needs more examples of real love and honorable marriages. Thank you for this.

[hotdrumchick]

It's heartwarming to see a man who really knows what he has and appreciates it.....that's a blessing. But not all men have what Scoop has, and some men who cheat on good women aren't at the maturity level to realize what they have.

(This applies to women too.)

[ahaviaij]

Amen! Thank you for the truth. All men don't cheat and real love is out there.

[frustratedoperator]

over 80% men cheat, about 70% women cheat.

great to hear that you don't. <3

[00steels]

thats man means everyword he says every word!!!

[imanisankofa]

Real talk. Thanks for speaking out for ppl who have discovered real love and appreciate their spouse.

[Ladyykiara]

Those type of people who truly care for your well being are a dime in a dozen you right better cherish them!

[GagirlTxgirl]

I almost never comment on videos but scoop u did that!! My family and friends say all men cheat period the end, but I refuse to believe that. Im not dumb to the fact that most do but to say all men cheat and women should just accept it is bogus. Ive been through alot and have seen alot at the age of 25 but I believe a real man would not ruin what he has at home for sex, if he truly knowns what he wants and knowns where hes going.

[rizngfenix]

I...love....it! But you know, the responsibility doesn't just fall on the man who cheats. The woman who cheats with him plays just as big a part in it as he does.

[NuGhost]

@rizngfenix How? The responsibility lies solely on the people involved in the relationship. The female that a man in a relationship cheats w/, unless she herself is cheating on someone, has no ties to that man's girlfriend/wife and thus has no responsibility for what happens in that relationship. Basically she was just trying to get hers. If the two break up/divorce, what does the woman who he cheated w/ lose? Nothing.

[BUNNOBB]

Bruh u have a GOOD WOMAN...CONGRATS

[MC0090]

even the bible says the man with a good wife

is rich indeed .... may God continue to bless you

both and enrich your lives together

[ColorOrStateOfMind]

That was beautiful.

[Saternoc]

Damn its a shame you didn't get slim from eating all of those tomatoes and cucumbers!

[LaLaMicia]

THAT WAS REAL!

[charliestube1]

Right Scoop. REAL TALK FROM A REAL OG. Tell Shanda that she's a great lady, and I hope that her ear infection gets better!

[markonit]

A woman who makes a man a better man will stand a better chance of finding love that a woman who is with a man who isn't trying to be a better man. At the same time, only a woman who has herself together, can step to a man who is trying to be a better man. Otherwise, he will go right past her to where he is headed.

[Ladyykiara]

@markonit Preach it!

[starissexi]

Loved it!!! I cant wait till i have a relationship like this!! A real man thats what you are!!

[lydiav08yey]

i used to like ur show when it was the two of you. Now i'm just bored, lalala

[ex0tiikn3ss]

i agree with EVERYTHING you put out there. me and my boyfriend are going through the same things. everybody is very discouraging on both ends, since we're in a long distance relationhship and have been faithful to eachother for 3 years... people don't understand what real love is, it's when you are there for eachother even when there's NOTHING else, such as money. if you really love someone to your soul, you really don't even feel attracted to anyone anymore but them!

[MusicLovin123]

great video.

hopefully men who cheat will change their point of view on cheatin.

[NYCutie]

Love you for this one! You summed it up.

[JmasterJr]

Pussy is great but love is the key to happiness and success i have been cheated on many times but never cheated on any of them

[soulsista04]

n dats a wrap... when i find the one i am gonna ride till i die with/for him. as long as he is loyal, loving, and respectful. its good to hear from a mans pov... thank ya!

[kebruya]

that was a good 1

[dar3wea]

that's real.

[Synnsational]

Get off of Tiger Woods, why do Media make a big issue about celebritys and their relationships, its nobodys damn business, most men cheat, they cheat with their thoughts, eyes. Just because hes a celebrity and he's half black with a white woman they making an issue oh please GET OFF IT ALREADY.

[queensupreme2]

thats really good advice

[MOMMALALA09]

Great video.

[nicegurl35]

great video!!

[mafio6]

already .... a pussy quest ....

[montejuiced]

Scoop dats some real truth there, dealing with women, and how you can lose it all, and be to the point where you are at bottom and wondering if someone is coming from behind,,,,,,,,,,, so you live and learn and go thru it,,,,,,, i just pray the one im with now is my shanda, the one that whats to be down with me even when im at my lowest and brokest. thanks for everthing, keep up the videos this is real knowledge

[TallAlexx2]

i love this...

[Phoenixspin]

I have not found my Shanda yet.

[kierah16]

You will one day.

[HEKTIK64]

I feel you! I use to do work up at HOT 97 as well back in the day. I am 25 years married and I understand where you coming from. You do shit, you go thru shit, and you fuck around with shit, then you have to pay for that shit!! IT AINT WORTH THE HEADACHE my dude! you right!! keep that shit in ya draws. I was lucky and ended up with the right one. PEACE!

[mediteranian213]

I LOVE YA . U BOTH KEEP IT REAL 100%

[amatron201]

This is a beautiful testimony...this is one of the realest things I've ever heard. I wish you guys continued success.

[ThoughfuL20]

u live n learn...that's what it is

[elmosmidlap]

you have to get to that/a point where you have bonded to no end....i cheat in my relationships because of pussy only. I like getting different pussy out side of my lady. IT MEANS NOTHING! Men are able to separate family home and cooochie on the side. Fat-man explained why he does not cheat..he has been there and done that..but prior to that...his ass was out there...All men cheat, have cheated and has the propensity to cheat..you just have to present them with the right bitch..thats allll...

[chuckbjj2000]

That was a great video my dude.

[brittmariediamond]

this was a good video its great to actually hear a man explaining why he doesnt cheat i hope that one day i could find someone like you because im at the point in my life where i feel all men cheat

[BlackAzzRobb]

That's wzup!

[Cherished131]

That was beautiful Scoop. So the video should titled why men stop cheating.

[FlowMaster679]

Is this foo a sale out already or wat? why is he doing utube videos??

[elite009]

Need to do a why women cheat?

[soulover4lyfe]

That is so true though. I hate when some find a good descent woman thats gonna hold them down, get married to her yet still wanna have jumpoffs on the side. Don't string her along a make them suffer for your foolishness. Be single!

Love you Scoop! Wise words......

[Javerrijumar28]

THATS WHAT IT IS.. once you get a good woman in your life,hang on to her cuz its so hard to find one these days. Ps..scoop ..where you get those tee shirts Homie?..

[intjurban]

A wise man considers his opportunities and increases the wealth of his own; a foolish man may hit rock bottom but has the courage to raise up. Only a boy sits in poopy diapers blaming others for his plight on the bottom. Great vid, real adult talk, love is grand.

[aarmington]

oooh scoop U PREACHING!!! ooooh wee!!....i feel ya %100!!!!

[stlucia68]

Big ups Scoop! Wonderful to hear a man express their love to their woman. Get well soon Shanda.

[vivacious1083]

Luv it! Great vLog.

[youngbeauty8]

REAL TALK LOVE IT!!

[mel33184]

luv yall

[sheistopclass]

Thank you for this response Scoop! Just hand a really good discussion about this with my honey and he was basically saying the same thing..

[Qu33nL33]

Now this is what I'm talking about!!! I'm so glad to hear a man stand up and say what it really is!!!! This is really encouraging bc it makes me realize what I have with my husband @ home. Thanx for this Scoop! :)

[HipHopNotRap]

Real Talk from a real dude. Thats grown man talk right there. Not all men cheat. Some do some don't. If you 45 still trying to fuck everything & can't apreciate a good women you aint a grown man yet.

[streetinfo]

Thats the realiest shit I heard in a While. It's funny because I felt the same way about my last relationship. Sometimes a women really dont know how much they mean to you. Because their perception about men in general. I am a real man, Will always be accountable and responsible for my actions. So take notes ladies and Gentlemen anyone that comes in your life make sure they respect who you are,what you do, where you wanna go and love you enough to add to where you need to be.

[santoinette]

i am very happy 4 you and Shanda!

[katmancool]

well spoken fat man. For those guys that simply can't do without strange - they ought to man-up and simply tell a woman that they always are going to wander. If the woman can deal with that fine, if not, keep on wandering. One day, that guy may find a woman who understands his desires and needs, and if he was truthful then its good, But just remember she may need to get a little strange herself. and that would be called - Fair Play.

[manpreet123]

cheating is wrong, no matter what, if you love the person its even worse, doesnt matter of your male or female, if you cheat once then the trust may never come back!

[Urhoboman5]

lol this question has been beaten to death

lolol

[undercovernemo]

i wish my baby dad/fiance can hear you say all this. He has nothing and hes sad most of the time when he talks to me because hes use to having nothing but ive been getting him watever he needs and showing him love that hes never gotten from anyone b4,he has a real good heart and thats y it doesnt matter 2 me that he doesnt have anything as long as i have something hes got something

[nativehunie]

That's so sweet

[tuchesuavae]

part 3 that. I feel it's wrong and I'm a real dude and I think it's a fake thing to do. but to each there own that's just why I don't cheat. It's my opion you don't have to agree.

[tuchesuavae]

part 2 me. Also how are you gonna cheat on some one eve though it hurts them but then you get cheated on you get mad? that's hypocracy keep it real.There are a bunch of reasons I don't cheat but it's because I choose not to. It's a choice people make. you get things presented to you and you make the desition to do those things or not to do thoose things. There lots of reasons I don't cheat these are just some of the. I feel what scoop said in this vid. But I personally never had to go through

[tuchesuavae]

I don't cheat because I feel it's not right. Also it's selfish me playing her when she's commited to me is holding her up from finding some one that could make her happy. also you can't be a real dude and cheat a real nigga doesn't sneak around a real dude doesn't hide if i got to creep then it's not real. I don't disrespect people so I wouldn't cheat on who I'm with. If you love some one you wouldn't want to hurt that person. I run my self not pussy I sontrol my desires my desires don't control

[bigtymer9778]

You aint lying Scoop. Amen!

[countryconvict]

scoop u a blessed man unfortunitly my marriage is not on that level i admire you

[seewat]

i wish it was snowing here! its super warm at our area where ure still sweating with the fan on!

[BeeNaturalMe]

Wonderful Vlog...

it's a powerful thing when your better half can inspire your greatest potential. To be able to do that says alot about Shonda and her knowing her self worth, being completely secure and loving yourself so much you can give it to another.

"Let me upgrade you"

[lovingutube1]

Great video.

[candygurll32]

Shanda is very lucky to have found you and of course same goes for you finding her...

[Loveislight1]

this is why I love you.......good stuff!

[souljagurlsha]

That's def love man, I got mad respect man.

[hip2dadip]

Excellent commentary scoop! I had to go back and watch and read everything that led up to this before viewing so I could fully grasp the content. I thought you were going to SLAM harbrow but you took the high road and handled yourself with class. You and Shanda are great!!

[harlemw651]

That was awesome...thanks for being so honest!!!

P.S. You guys look like u live in a beautiful neighborhood.

[Evilkitty64]

Much Love to both of you all. Damn I miss your TV show

[DaLoRdTrAg]

WHO CARES?

[AFRICANEXPORT]

I love you two.! Shanda is an amazing woman, and because she picked you, that makes you pretty darn special . I wish you both much sucuess and love.

[DGrassE]

This was a Really Powerful and insightfull BLOGGGG

[khalilbr]

Bravo

[MissFalero1211]

I loved this vlog... Shanda you trained hi very well....lolol

Carmencita

[LadiiOri]

Scoop this video really resonates with me and I thank you. You two inspire me so much! Continued success to you and Shanda. Love & Light.

[lilegyptian83]

God Bless you & Shanda! Anybody can see that yall are genuine people & that what yall have is real. That type of love is hard to find & I can't see nobody else 4 U but Shanda & nobody else 4 Shanda but U. U can see the heart & soul in yall eyes when yall look @ each other. It's a beautiful thing. I know u could be with Shanda 24/7 & it's still not enough b/c that's how I feel bout my husband & yall remind me of us so much. YALL HAVE A GOOD THING. Sumthin these clubs don't & never will have!

[tyakack]

Hmmmm ok but why do women cheat........im a man so this didnt really help me lol. Nice vid tho man true shit.

[sakura20007]

i agree scoop

[Nergy4life]

SCOOP! Please respond! So where does this leave the woman who is interested in a man who is doing well and living comfortably. Perhaps both of them are finacially stable and not wilding out. Is it a matter of finding a man who is down on his luck. If he's got it together, keep looking.....i guess.

[LadiiOri]

I think it's about finding that person who is mentally on the same level as you. As women sometimes we find men who are not in the same place mentally as we are. Then we try to change them. Keep vibrating on a higher level and you will attract the same. I am trying to take my own advice as well ;-)

[Treknologist]

As beautiful and lovely as Shanda is, I find Scoop a lot more entertaining. I can easily sit through his rambling videos.

[stang4lyfe07]

you the man scoooooooooooop!

[brownbfly]

So.... the men who don't go through much are more prone to cheating?

What if he never gets the opportunity to have those experiences?

Is that an excuse for his behavior?

[lilegyptian83]

@brownbfly: I think that a man OR a woman is more likely to cheat if they don't have those experiences b/c they start to feel like they've missed out. That's why ppl talk about Jay and Beyonce.... saying that Beyonce is more likely to cheat b/c she hasn't gone out (in the eye of the public) and done the things that Jay has done. He's much older than her and he's locked down the vision of a perfect woman. She is still in her 20's and doesn't have the experiences Jay has had in terms of dating

[bklyn10268]

WOW, you really showed your heart here Scoop. and that is AWESOME.

[itshot123]

Much Luv! Shanda "Get Well Wishes"!

[Peachis911]

u were a RAPPER? WHAT WAS UR STAGE NAME?

[hip2dadip]

look him up on you tube. he has worked a lot of people including missy elliott, ciara, rhianna and others!

[Peachis911]

@hip2dadip i just did i never even noticed tht b4 kool that is really cool

[nubyia1]

I know some ppl who need to hear this.

[Peachis911]

omg u guys stay in the same area as my brother i can tell by the backyard

[lyricbrodie]

i agree my husband says he wont cheat on me because i take care of him, our 3 kids, that i would go to the end of the dirt with him, and because he loves and respects me as a person. we have been broker then broke also, but i think our foundation is really held us together over the hard times, and bn able to communicate and tell each other ANYTHING

[tooblessed0000]

That's what my boyfriend told me, thanks for sharing men have to get to that level in there life where they don't want that life style any longer like u said. Thanx for sharing

[PBARBII3TV]

GREAT video scoop you really did speak the truth & i hope shanda gets better soon make sure you take good care of her scoop**

[GlamaMamiCEO]

Thats some real stuff right there. You all have the real deal and alot of people can't find it so they believe that it doesn't exist. I wish you both a lifetime of love & happiness thanks for the vids.

XOXO,

Hood Barbie