Why confidence is a perception: How to look more confident even if you don't feel it

[Mashulik95]

Hi. I love your videos- your advice is really helpful, but I have a problem. Overall, I have a loving and close relationship with my father, but he has a very forceful and aggressive personality. He doesn't respect my opinions about things and imposes his own, says rude and mean things to me, constantly points out flaws in everything. How do I handle that? How do I demand respect and tolerance from him? How can I let him see the beautiful things in life? I would really appreciate your help.

[ruyyan]

You're an idiot. Some men have so much confidence they command presence. They don't even say a word and everyone can just smell it on them. Women swoon at them and old men nod at them with a smile. Acting confident without feeling it is what someone who has no confidence and even worse gave up on ever having it does. And women smell that too and they despise them. Including you.

[Bryce6789]

best trip i ever taken had to saying it is from mexico, xel ha and gala resort. virgin mary dakiries, swimming, my dad fell in romance with another woman. w were finally a cmoplete family again!

[domisthebomb09]

You have an new subscriber! Your videos are very helpful!

[Mackjnl]

good video  , thanks for the advice ...

[MilkyWhisper]

I love your hair. :)

[Hellraizor87303]

Peed myself at a interview! :( I will prob never ever be confident in my life! 

[artdjmaster]

I demand respect better when I don't think about it. If I think, "Oh this girl butted me in line I don't want to cause a fight and tell her she butted me after I waited so long in this lineup when she only waited a couple seconds." Whereas if I just snap and say immediately thnat she butted me it will work because the longer it takes, the worse it's gonna be. I think you have to react within 60 seconds or else it will be a lot harder.

[okamifox13]

my mom said she used to be shy like me and she told me that pretend that ur not shy and eventually u won't be shy any more! thank u! now I'm very sure it works! :3

[Tiffany51693]

what if u come accros as cocky instead of confident? how do u know the difference when trying to act confident?

[VRgrappz]

@Tiffany51693 just depends on what kinda people are around you, if their a little cocky/over confident, then adapt to that and join in! and vice versa..i've always noticed nothing much can go wrong when you are able to smile and laugh more..dont laugh at your own jokes..but at other people's obviously..and not too hard or it'll be obvious its fake! anyways im ranting on and on..first day at work..reflecting on what everyone thinks of me..god how insecure are we as a race?!?

[Tiffany51693]

@VRgrappz haha alrighty, thank you that did actually help alot!! :)

[VRgrappz]

@Tiffany51693 lol :) your welcome

[BigSloppyHoe]

@Tiffany51693 Confidence and cockyness are easy to tell the difference between. Having confidence is simply being completely comfortable with who you are and not giving a shit about what others think. Its ok to talk about some things you have achieved, but cocky is not ok. An example of cocky would be saying like "oh yeah im the BEST at this yup im the BEST and u all suck haha" please dont ever act like that, if your CONFIDENT and not COCKY, people will notice and you will prevail

[chrome999999999]

I know someone who IS in fact confident. I think the trick is that she judges other people. She is not mean about it. In fact, she is very nice and well-liked, but she is in the habit of making quick judgments and deductions: he is overweight, she has pretty legs, he is probably Jewish, she must be Korean. I think this grounds her firmly in what/who she herself is, and therefore she is not afraid of presenting herself for judgment to other people. (But I have not learned to do this!)

[StrangerNReality]

@chrome999999999 Sounds like cowardice in disguise

[chrome999999999]

I know someone who IS in fact confident. I think the trick is that she judges other people. She is not mean about it. In fact, she is very nice and well-liked, but she is in the habit of making quick judgments and deductions: he is overweight, she has pretty legs, he is probably Jewish, she must be Korean. I think this grounds her firmly in what/who she herself is, and therefore she is not afraid of presenting herself for judgment to other people.

[MrCassanova08]

@chrome999999999 Your friend has insecurities, so she has a reason to judge others. It gives her a buzz, and this isnt the way to be. In judging other people we judge ourselves. I hope she changes.

[chrome999999999]

I know someone who IS in fact confident almost all the time. The first rule to be that way is to be able to judge others. You don't have to be mean, but you have to have strong opinions about other people and be able to make quick deductions: he is overweight, she has pretty legs, he is probably Jewish, she must be Korean. This person I know is in fact super nice and well-liked, but she makes all sorts of judgments and I think that grounds her firmly in what/who she herself is.

[capncrunch93able]

fake it till you make it :-)

[smul08]

@capncrunch93able tyson said that once, that he had to fake it to make it. great quote

[Ihugmoons]

your so sweet marie :) you make my heart warm with all yo vids :)

[earlsutton]

i am confident am no actor

[Michaeltanase]

You are right, people always ask me, "how are you so confident and cool, even when the world is in shit?" I tell them I feel pain, insecurity, and anxiety like you I just act confident.

[uselessmayhem]

how to be confident = "act confident" lol....

[javajunkie101]

Everything you say makes total sense. Thank you so much for posting this.

[mariedubuque]

Thank you so much!

[MegaTriangular]

Marie you speak the truth, it is all an act, like William Shakespear used to say: All the world's a stage and a man plays many parts:,

Your videos are really enjoyable you know ??