To All Passive Aggressive People... You Know Who You Are!

[MrBadassButch]

The first thing you should do if you date a person who is passive aggressive, run like hell.

[JessPk212]

I don't want to be passive aggressive anymore but I don't know how to verbally express myself =/.

[nardnardn]

Thanks . Good presentation.

[upsidedown332]

I agree with Celeste this video makes out this problem is a laughing matter, live with one of these people and you will know this is not the case. They are liars, they also know what they are doing. They make peoples lives a misery and seem to be able to convincingly lie their way out of most things. The other thing they do is drag you down until you have no self esteem. I think it is also a form of abuse!!

[fetishisticrose]

passive aggressive people will never change because they are emotionally immature...they don't know the difference between healthy communication and unhealthy.

[DrowsyPoetCoffee]

DiaShanti, it's like you've met me!

I enjoy frustrating people because they frustrate me. I am not as good at talking about my feelings, so if I try, I may go off the deep end. Then I will look like a psycho, which I secretly believe I am. Then I get even madder because I'm not getting accepted as I would like to be.

[Bryce6789]

FAGGATS FAGGATS FAGGATS FAGGATS FAGGATS FUCKING STUPID FICKLE FUCKS

[Tacinta1977]

I'm legally separating from my passive aggressive husband. Anyone with a person who has this behavioral trait must understand this is ABUSE. It shouldn't be permitted nor excused.

[jesusfreak1159]

my momis passive and agressive. thank you for putting this up

[lavvy2585]

passive aggressive people are cowards and liars

[shmuli9]

Yes... like "Minnesota nice"... "I'll say everything is wonderful even though there are some I have some problems with certain behaviors and just get very angry inside."

[Soundgarden8497]

own this: FUCK OFF

[CelestAzz]

Though I found the video clip somewhat interesting...the amount of laughter, and the fact the interview made the condition out to be light and frivolous was quite disturbing. This is a very serious condition and dealing with people who are passive aggressive is exhausting, frustrating, and soul distroying...please be more professional in your approach. Thank you.

[bccogs]

Melody isn't fully explaining passive aggression. Passive aggression is underlying conflict that is not resolved. Pent up bitterness and not being able to admit to the truth behind the bitterness. I agree with some of the posters that people can target their passive aggression toward certain people and less to others, depending on the other's personality, dynamic; etc.

[anxietyawaynow]

cool channel...

[jaylaine74]

just stoppin by and checkin your channel out...

[menderfire9]

Being that passive-aggressive behavior is a learned behavior, I would speculate that there are many levels of this behavior & that certain types of people would trigger my passive aggressive tendencies more than other types would. I have a free, easy, emotional expressive relationship with many people & we are good with that. But then there are a few rare people who I walk on egg shells with because of the leverage they have on me, and I get very unconscious and passive aggressive around them.

[DARIUSSR612]

TYPE "A" PERSONALITY HERE, AND I "KNOW" A PASSIVE AGRESSIVE PERSON AND I AGREE WITH THE DEFINITION/ OF THE PERSON.

[LeftyLadybug]

Can one be passive-assertive or other combinations?

[coolman9999uk]

@LeftyLadybug I'm aggressively passive. No-one can be as passive as me in such an aggressive way!

[Agent1W]

I think I have a duality of passive and aggressive actions. I can be 100% passive in some things and 100% aggressive in others. Passive-aggressive behavior is good when being fully aggressive or fully passive is not going to solve the problem. Walking on eggshells...if I had a dollar for everytime I had to do that around people...

[blackezi3]

I am a very blunt and assertive person. A strong personality, who's very humorous. But I'm only passive aggressive to people I don't like. What's the point of getting into confrontation or arguments and waste your breath and energy to people that don't matter to you? But with my loves ones, I'm always honest and upfront

[174863og]

sorry honey I forgot not not to beat you :(

[joesimmons90]

@174863og LOL

[Thesenseofdelight]

This may be stupid ,but i don't get it.What is the definition of passive aggressive people,what does it mean?

[Superkyler1]

@Thesenseofdelight

This may be a little simplistic but the way I understand passive-aggressive is the desire to avoid conflict at all costs. Emotions and feelings are not vocalized or discussed and any activity that may require that be done is avoided. When passive aggressive people are angry they lie about it, and instead use subversive or underhanded means to get back at you instead of just voicing their unhappiness. They don't want to confront their unhappiness or conflict.

[emerson24]

I live in Washington State, passive aggressive people everywhere. And the women are the worst to try and date.

[fourtywpm]

passive aggressive person = a pussy

[DiaShanti]

@fourtywpm Yes, the biggest wimps in the world. What I find really pathetic is all that pretend "forgetting" they do. They avoid accountability at all costs. So lame. It's as if they don't mind being thought of as being a scatter brain or a fuck up, just so they can passively punish you with some petty game playing. I can't imagine them to have much self esteem with all those lies. And they are lies.

[montebosss]

@fourtywpm and in marriage = oppressed gay.

[Anon5K]

You do not want to get a passive agressive dentist, especially one that smiles when you complain about pain.

[Maxpound]

People in general just disgust me. They cause problems that affect others and then sweep the problems under the rug. Then when they are confronted they talk about their "rights as a person". Fuck your "rights" if your "rights" directly causes another person to feel like shit or causes another person to hate their own skin. I already know that rights are bullshit its been proven to me time and time again.

[welhungjohnson]

@Maxpound Yep and after you've been going out with them for months genuinely trying to care about them and possibly love them they repay you by staying really quiet when you try to talk to them or not call you back then out of the blue just dump you and then have the gall to give you the stupid line of "Oh, it's personal so I don't feel like I need to tell you about it". Yep, that's what giving someone unconditional love and loyalty gets you - a punch in the gut.

[1967norway]

@Maxpound How do you feel about *your* rights? Are they bullshit too? You don't think you should have rights?

[Maxpound]

@1967norway Of course I don't have rights. Time and time again I have been proven right about not having any rights. Anyways I said all that stuff when I was pissed off about losing a friend who accused me of passive-aggressive when in fact he was to being passive-aggressive to me and triggered me snapping at his ass. To be honest I learned that if you're being passive aggressive then odds are you should change your environment for you cant speak your mind on things.

[1967norway]

@Maxpound You have a point there. Some people are just too difficult to deal with, but one shouldn't be afraid to speak out. A lot of people are not aware of how they are acting and by simply making them aware of it, they may begin to change.

[emerson24]

@Maxpound I appreciate the disgust. People are fucking weak. They can't discuss their feelings, and when you are able to communicate YOURS, then all of a sudden, you are aggressive and hostile. I feel like flying of the handle and saying, No I'm not, THIS IS FUCKING ANGRY, BITCH!!! Get it STRAIGHT Mother Fucker. It's as if they need a kleenex to wipe that tear coming from their vagina. Sometimes I fucking hate everybody :)

[Maxpound]

I hate almost everyone I'm around for they make me feel like some sort of freak or abomination. I try not to talk to people because they either don't understand when I explain or tell me that my feelings or thoughts are unacceptable. Apparently I fit this passive-aggressive behavior. What really pisses me off though is that when people talk about passive aggressive people(the type I am allegedly) they talk about them as if they are defective animals.

[frnksng]

To say it is lying I think is a bit harsh...Besides, I've been assertive at times to no success. Sometimes body language just comes out naturally.

Besides, passive aggressiveness is very common (not just in personal relationships)

[wintersrose829]

My husband is passive agressive and it drives me crazy!!!! I hate it! I just want the truth! How do I respond to him in one of his lets say "episodes".

[lilbitparanoid]

it makes you a very scary person at times too!

[paula793]

at the office a lot of bitchy girls are passive agressive..."sideway girls" cause they are really insecure about there life and their feelings...all because they suffered when they were childs with parents that abuse of power with their childs.

[chevytruck123]

I have agression problems. Im insane!you know what if i ever saw that stupid bald fucker dan in the bar or anywhere i would make a fool of him insulting him infront of anyone if he tries to fight back you get beaten! get ko and i will keep beating your head till your dead!

[JinxOz]

@chevytruck123 Thats good. You should kill him.

[D1rec7or]

amen.

[yubarraboo]

a lot of people are just vengeful.

[drydust999]

Jeez I can understand why so many people divorce if they behave like that

[UTo098]

Ar ar jenn the dogs not showing u its boddy hole your just looking you sick sick person stop trying to push ur actions on the dog no really the dog started it yer im sure buddy

[skolonom]

lol you europeans are freaks

[BubblesDeveeer]

Passive Aggressive = Insanity.

[Freshhhhh1982]

@BubblesDeveeer Or. Internalizing anger to avoid going to jail.

[redcarpetceleb]

ok im listening to advice from a divorcee

[chevytruck123]

Oh ha ha omg dan you are so funny NOT i would fucking beat you so bad man you fucking PISS ME OFF nice fucking bald head faggot and your not a laidies man shut the fuck up same with you jenn your fucking ugly holy fuck quit thinking your all that you stuck up bitch you are not quallfied to be talking about this oh oh i have suscribers so that means im popular and know everything. Passive aggressive people ypu know who you are you so fucking stupid!!

[psgchisolm]

LOL

[static516]

@chevytruck123 you just proved you have no life by posting a very long comment

[chevytruck123]

@static516 and you have no life for reading it.

[static516]

lol people with no lives dont read they play video games all day kinda like ur mom she has been playing with my joystick all night

[Mayokitty7]

'Passive Agressive people...you know who you are'?

Hey, all those with clinical depression, you know who you are too! And those schizophrenics, boy are THEY liars!

There's a reason Passive-agressive has a disorder taked on at the end. It's a disorder, it's not something that one can control. Acting like a complete asshole does not qualify you.

[Creepydorky]

my closest friends are passive aggressive, and it totally blows. I am very direct and forward.

[zest4livin]

I have no problem being direct with my husband. He then undermines what I say as if I'm confused, and nothing gets done about it. He and I are so opposite.

[linebeck222]

i agree, but it's kinda corny

sorry :P

[Randyrp1993]

I'm a MAD AGGRESSIVE Person but I dont behave this way when I'm with my Baby, I just get like this with other people and when other guys flirt with my girl, and also when someone disses me for 1 little this, I just turn it into a big situation, but anyway, my Baby is changeing me, she's eaching me to bahave and everything.

[eabfitness]

I really apreciated this video!! Thank you for posting it....

[bhills240190]

wow everything about that is so true and makes so much sense, its hard not being passive agressive :(

[icecubebattery]

well, you know how you said be direct with it and just embrace the feeling rather than making it build up... what if you know that no one is going to listen to you when you want to say what yoiu feel ? and they all try to change what you think rather than understanding what ur saying ?

[Hania454]

Yes, put me in a nappy and then let me kick your behind. This is just rubbish and anyone who listens to this rubbish is a retard. Peace.

[professorbuglefarts1]

Don't take any advice from this pack of tools

[slaxxxer]

301-anyone ever seen a more loathesome and fake laugh,this guy is a sociopath through and through!

[reminiscence78]

i wish he knows that he is a passive aggressor. He cannot convince me of what he said before and it hurts... it was never healed

[FreemanZee]

You need first to DEFINE the subject, then give an EXAMPLE before DECONSTRUCTING.

[ronniethecrazyone]

Your making it look like it's a horrible thing. Whats the deal with that?

[jdfodio]

You know what didn't go over my head? Your doucheyness

[jdfodio]

My ex was extremely passive-aggressive, so I aggressively broke up with him.

[Zer0nite]

Good job breaking up with your ex but I wouldn't ever consider doing stand-up.

[jdfodio]

Who mentioned wanting to do stand-up?

[Zer0nite]

Woooosh straight over your head.

[guitargod231]

my question: Is watching porn ok sometimes?

[voicesinurhead01]

What do you think?

[CyAnideSiikNness]

wow im learning a lot from them lol

i was just on the phone with my boyfriend and was angry but was passive/aggressive about it and i didnt even realize it! def. 5/5

this is very good and important stuff to know!! :]

thnx ^^

[FormerDeathMachine]

That's so awesome that you even acknowledge it! I know, I love this video too. I just happened to type in "passive aggressive" and found this video. I hope you keep on pressing with evaluating yourself and changing from passive aggression to NO aggression! It's so hard, isn't it?

[xraymond10]

What a CROCK.

aggressive/aggressive = Hitler

passive/passive = Ghandi

aggressive/passive = apologetic wife beaters

passive/aggressive = Lt. Columbo

it's a wait and see.

f&*k with me and I'll F&* with you.

[gaypplreadthis]

lol they always have diffrent colored drinks

[Antichrys]

On the point mentioned about being direct without blame:

One good strategy Dan and Jenn mentioned in another vid is taking the word 'you' out of the conversation. It has worked so well for me and my girl.

[akelley411]

So what if you started out direct and ended up passive aggressive because your partner wasn't listening? How do you get your partner to listen and not turn things around and make it "your fault"?

[raindrop10155]

wow thanx for uploading

[998987987698765]

Love is an illness cured by marriage.

[HiddenHitman]

i hear suicide works too

[jdfodio]

LOL! Dark humor = passive-aggressive?

[idgirl97]

:(

My husband won't let me watch this show while he's in the room with me because he says it's more obnoxious than WhatTheBuck. But I LOVE both shows. The compromise is that he doesn't watch Chris Crocker videos while I'm in the room with him.... this comment is offtopic and pointless. Ohhh and passive aggression is no fun. My husband does it a lot with his family. Gah.

[tinka023]

wow, my step father is passive aggressive

[tubehax]

you guys are awesome but there is something i feel you havent touched much yet and that is making your partner feel like they are worth something to keep a healthy relationship

[susyshoes]

Melody Brooke is right! Being passive-aggressive is the same as lying. We avoid discord at all cost and wind up pushing our partner away. I look forward to more videos with Melody.

[Bobdillos]

@susyshoes Wait... what? No its not. your wrong.

[Skipper372]

What does it mean to be passive-aggressive?

[l3tsjustk1ll]

saying one thing the opposite of how you feel to mock the other person,its a form of sarcasm

[earthgirl3413]

omg so right!

[gossamerwindweb]

being up front and honest is just so much easier! I think she's right. Women need to own their feelings. :)

[lavinder11]

This isn't related to the topic, but I loved the black woman/white man couple! I've been seeing a lot of those lately. It makes me happy.

But PA people win all the time because you have to act like them to not hurt their feelings. Don't fall for it!

I don't think he was staring at her boobies; they both have nice pairs anyway.

[gammypage]

"But PA people win all the time because you have to act like them to not hurt their feelings. Don't fall for it!" I Think that part of you comment is important.

[griebel11]

dan just grab those old ladie's boobs instead of just watching to them

[dominicjm]

So if i, quietly pulled out my colt .45 and blew somones head off, would this be passive or agressive?

[resilientkid]

It'd be insane, that's for sure...

[babesblingandbooze]

LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL

[wolfinside]

Who amoungst us has not been passive aggressive at one time or another. I'm a male and I've done it. But I feel so much better when I gently confront someone about a problem. And usually if I do it right, the problem can be resolved in a peaceful way.

[Nightavenger2]

@wolfinside I agree. Just like rejection I think everyone is going to be passive aggressive at one time or another. If everyone was a Ozzie Guillen wear your emotions on your sleeves then there would be no passive aggressive however very likely more hostility, tension, and violence.