I personally dress for the occasion and my mood but I have a friend who is all about getting attention and outdoing people. She is just one of those females who are in constant competition with other women and she is always fishing for compliments. The funny thing is that she is one of the most attractive women I have ever met yet the most insecure. But dont tell her that because she thinks she has high self-esteem.
My thought is that if you are truly confident, you will be comfortable doing you despite what anyone else is doing or thinking.... By the way, I was once told that as a woman you should dress for men, not women...hmmm
I think if you dress up with the intention of receiving compliments and being noticed, you're setting yourself up for low self esteem, because people will not always notice, and when they don't, a person should still know that it was never a reflection of them, and that your inner beauty and worth is unaffected. So in that sense, I don't think dressing up for others' praise brings you anything in the long run, even though it can be uplifting to receive compliments.
I don't like dressing up at all unless it is for something work related, religion related, or specially occasion related. My profession requires me to wear medical scrubs so when I get home I love jumping into my jeans or sweats and a regular shirt! That is how I express myself, which is being comfortable and relaxed. Either way, you look AWESOME!
If your getting the the point were that inside stylista wants to bust on the scene dont fight it girl shes only gonna develop you into the adult style you dream of i think. Test it out it will be fun, if thats what your getting at
well i dont know if its a bad thing but i know its a african thing, i embrace it. in our culture the women are well dressed its a talent i feel. i love to dress it makes me feel good. Sometimes i wear things that others dont AGREE BUT ITS HOW I FEEL. and when i decide to go out in it most times im happy i did. Some times i cant wait to go home and change, but since i knew myself my style expressed me so i have less and less of those "what the heck am i wearing" days.
i love dressing up, I don't understand women who are only satisfied with wearing jeans and a t-shirt. We are WOMEN! we can practically wear anything in the world we want. I love dressing up, it allows me to express my individuality
i think dressing to look the best in the room is trying to hard..and it will show...when you dress to compliment your own uniqueness, (skin tone, body shape) and with cool accesories then you automatcily look like the best you and not someone else.
You should always try to look YOUR best. Find things that go with your body shape and skin tone. Also where things that express your personality. If you like to be modest and conservative, do so. If you would like something to accent it add an eye catching accesory. See what I'm saying.
TLC's What not to wear give's wonderful advice on style that works for any age. The most important component of style is fit, your clothes should always flatter your body type, colors don't always have to match but can complement each other. Personal style is how one makes a statement about themselves and you want to project a positive and sophisticated image.
You can tell whose artificial by the way they carry their confidence. Some people just look, "fake" and self-conscious. I believe that you can still look great with something simple, classy and sophisticated. This way you aren't under-doing anything and you aren't over-doing anything as well. Even though there are men who may not wait another second to sleep w/ a skanky woman, they will hold more respect for someone who respect themselves, not dress "scandalous" and be classy.
No matter where you are or what the occasion you should dress in something that fits your body type, flatters the tone of your skin, and makes you feel good. Women have a bad habit of measuring themselves against each other-and wearing things that are "hot" right now--but that really look terrible on them. Your girls may not say to your face that you shouldn't be wearing it...but they're thinkin it. Invest in quality pieces that are really beautiful on YOU-not the newest garbage trend.
I also think dressing is an art and it is something that (like you mentioned with the long hair goal) is just a personal passion, something that I like and should be allowed to like.
If you are curious, I encourage you to experiment especially during this time of holiday parties and all. If you feel uncertain of where to start, maybe approach a more fashionable friend for advice. I once did a "What Not to Wear" style makeover on my friend's closet. We had a LOT of fun!
I love dressing up. I think that, when done correctly, the way you dress can be a wonderful expression of who you are on the inside and can draw people to you. I am very artistically inclined and am always on the hunt for people who are open and creative and I find that dressing a certain way makes me visible enough that when I do go to events people do come up and talk to me because I look different and (hopefully) interesting.
Do not let your adornment be merely outward--arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel-- rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.
I think it is all about the person. I know for me I am usually dressed nicely whenever I go out. But it is just something I have always done. My mother told me that when I was a little girl I would cry if my hair wasnt combed and I didnt have a dress on every day even if I was just going to stay in the house. So for me, walking out the house in a t-shirt would make be feel frumpy. So for me it is more about being comfortable (and I wont lie sexy when I am going OUT).
People dress up for a couple reasons... social acceptance, because they enjoy it, or comfort. Sometimes, people feel that wherever they go, they should be at their best. They like to be on top of it. yet, sometimes, i think people who try to be entire party divas are sometimes afraid they are not going to stand out with their regular personality.
As said by others, I dont believe all ppl dress up to get attention, I "dress up" daily because I love fashion, I love to look nice it makes me feel good and confident..the sayn goes "if you look good ya fell good" lol...I could care less if anybody else says anything to me about what I am wearing...I just do me! But when my hair is done, my nails are done, and my makeups done and I smell good... I feel like a 100 bucks lol! In reality turning a head or two always makes one feel good!
I think that you can dress modest and still be sexy and attractive and it showa a mature man that you have self respect and your always comfy and you dont feeel awkward
Comfort , comfort, comfort! I l absolutely love fashion and always on the look out for the next trend but comfort and how the new style fits in with my daily life determine what I buy and wear. If I'm going to a party and want to impress someone in particular, I tend to dress down! This helps me see if my 'prey' can handle average me. It helps me know he's not just interested in my legs or whatever. However, I do like to wow on occassion. Nothing wrong with being told you look Hawt!
Sometimes people assume a person that "dresses up" is looking for attention thats to say a person that dresses down doesnt (which isnt true) When I dress up its because I like what Im wearing and when I dress like a "slob" its because I like that too lol Just dress like yourself and if you feel the need to explore other things thats ok too Some days I wake up and surprise myself by wearing or buying something new and different without stepping away from who I really am find your a happy medium
I'm really into fashion and clothes and what not. So naturally I feel more comfortable in a skirt, a dress, or something that some people would consider dressy than I do in jeans and a tee shirt or [[heaven forbid]] sweats! I like how sweats look on other people but i dont like how they look on me and they make me feel gross and uncomfortable. For me personally I like to be comfortable and I'm more comfortable and confident in dressier clothes!
I like to look nice too, but my problem is I will go in 5 stores and can't decide what to buy. But "really" dressing up every once in a while is ok, as long as you dont search the room too many times for attention. lol.
Well, I'm in college, and I have the same problem, especially being a big girl. I tent to wear nice shirts/blouses, jeans, and heels or flats. I feel most comfortable that way, but sometimes I feel its not enough when I look at what all the other females in the club/party have on!
Some people dress to stand out for a mere compliment while others dress to impress certain mates. Then you'd want to be the one to stand out the most where in his eyes everyone is in all black but then he spots the lady in red. That's what you would want him to see but you don't want any one to know that if it's the type of party that's some sole cookin, rap dancing, family and friend gathering where it is casual and you show up in a flowing gown LOL you would have definitely over done it.
Everyone here have really captured the essence of how I feel about this. Do you for whatever situation you are in. If its formal, do your version of formal and so on. I dress according to my mood. If I'm having an "I don't care day" then you can tell from my clothes. If I'm feelin' extra cute then my clothes show it. It has nothing to do with anyone else.
When I dress up, I dress up because I feel confident in what I have on or because it makes me feel sexxi....lol.. I dont let my clothes make me..I make them...ya feel me
You should always be comfortable. And if dressing up makes you feel good about yourself then DO IT!!! We only live once and life is short. You might only have the figure you are in for a short time so flaunt it. But never do it for anyone else or for the opinions and compliments of others! Do it for you! Do it to make yourself feel like the queen that you are. And if dressing up is not your thing your amazing ora will reflect in plain ole jeans and a T. Its not what you wear it's who you are!!
IMHO, your clothing should be a reflection of who you are. For example if you are a laid back person and feel most comfortable rocking jeans and a t-shirt do it. Divas might "dress to the nines" most of the time. I think you just have to be yourself. With that being said, I believe that your attire should be clean, coordinated and neat no matter what your style is! As women, we are most attractive when we are feeling comfortable and confident! So rock your style and make it work!
It looks phony when it IS phony- when your intentionally trying to impress or when what your wearing doesn't fit your personality/ your not wearing it with confidence. people that are trying to impress are not always confident because they need that stamp of approval from the crowd. A confident person can wear a paper bag, not care hat anyone thinks, and look good in it! LOL
My belief is that people should look their best as much as possible. Not "the" best but "your" best and you do it for you. When you look good you feel better and you take pride in yourself. Looking your best doesn't mean uncomfortable- you should feel like its naturally you. BUT Every now and then dress the body, make up the face, oil the skin, smell pretty, and have those nails done, because you feel better.
I always dress for myself, not for other people. I love dresses & jeans & boots and cute tops, so that's what my wardrobe mostly is.
I think people should wear clothes that make them comfortable and not to seek attention from others. I've heard guys speak about women who "dress up" to get attention & it's nothing nice.
PSA to all the women who have next to nothing on when it's freezing outside: the guys who smile @ u are laughing at you, not giving you their stamp of approval.
Dress up for you! Its about how your feelilng that day..I dont dress up, i have dress clothes, but i only wear them wheni go to the club or on a date...Its just about doing something different that you dont normally do...
I was brought up to distinguish between home clothes, work clothes and going out clothes, which I think is a good thing. Wearing a smile and how you feel in your skin and clothes always makes a difference.
Simply put, you do you - so dress in whatever style you are comfortable within reasonable standards. Meaning if the event is formal, don't show up in raggedy jeans, an old T-shirt and flip flops, but you also don't have to wear ball gown/tuxedo of tails. Again, put on what you are comfortable with nod to type of event you attending. Besides, attention will come your way if you have personality to attract it so there is no need to go out of way to dress to get the attention. Blessings.
Dressing up...When I dress up I feel sexy! lol Dressing up to me is any outfit with heels lol could be jeans, a skirt, etc...I dress up when going out on a date or like night clubs not everyday. It just makes you feel more confident and it's fun to display a different side that people don't get to see everyday! :)
Great Subject. In my teen to early twenties i had to check the mirror atleast 100 times before i left the house, lol im sure i am not alone on that. my mom used to tell me to always look nice but don't "burn myself out". meaning..after a while u may run out of things to do to urself very quicky. i would chnge nail color everyday, hairstyle etc. now that im in my 30s i luv 2 look nice still! however, i learnd its ok to chill...just not 2 hard ALL the time. dressing up makes me feel great!
I think you should dress the best you can without breaking the bank. I dress for comfort too. But now that I am older,30, when I go out I dress my abslute best
i can relate as far as the venturing into a new element of apearance now that i am getting older. however, dress for you and the room 1st impressionn is everthing. just as long as you aren't breaking the bank and trying to hard to the pointyou look foolish.and oh, don't look for the attention from others that desperate, it should find you.hello! ciao
Good post. I'm working on this as we speak. I work from home, go to online college, and used to homeschool so there was no reason for me to "dress up". I kind of lost myself because before I used to dress up. So as long as it's for you and about you I say do it. I'm starting small with accessories, make up, perfume, and things like that...It's fun and I love it!
I think that you should always try to look your best. I never used to dress up, and now its something that I try to do everyday. My aim is not to always look better than others, but to always look the best for myself. I think it also makes you feel really good.
I think if you make a decision to dress up. You should dress up! I know what you mean about others dressing for attention and half the time I would not wear what they have on. If your comfortable with what you choose to dress up in. Do it! and more power to you! = )
Its funny that you posted this because its been such a long time since I've dressed to impress other people vs dressing to look the very best that I can look and feeling that I'm rocking what I'm wearing. Yeah I want to look good but with my own flava. You feel good when you you look your best. When you feel good you have more confidence. IMO.
I think dressing up makes you feel good. I like to dress comfortable, but I still look great, but lately I've been trying to look my best. Maybe it's because I'm getting older....I'm 29. I'm at that age when I want to feel womanly so i dress more often and wear a little shadow, liner and gloss. My husband seems to love it. I say go for it if it makes you feel good..do it for you! By the way, you look great in that green dress girl!
I'm a person who never really thought about dressing up, but always dressed to be comfortable. My friends always commented that I didn't do enough to accentuate my looks? I think I'm just lazy, but my friends say that they like to look and feel good in what they've chosen to wear for that day. They like to 'take the trouble' to spoil themselves. Why not? Its not about craving attention, its the 'feel good factor' too.
Well think of the person who doesn't dress at all. I refused to go on a date this weekend because he wanted to wear jeans to a very nice restaurant. Dress appropriately for the occassion.
I agree with a lot of the comments. It does depend on your mood. For instance, I am a Toddler Teacher and maybe once a week I will dress up(skirt/slacks. tights, and a nice blouse). Or sometimes I will curl my hair or put it up. I know that some of my clothing may get dirty. But I still like to "spruce it up" sometimes. Thank goodness I have a change of clothes in my locker!
I think it is ok to dress up. Nowadays it seems people just don't try to put their best foot forward, going out in their pj's and hair all over the place! Back in the day our ancestors always looked their best when stepping out. Doesn't mean you have to have the best things on just clean and kept, they had a since of pride about how they looked. Up until my grandmother passed she wore her lipstick and heels! I look at it like this...if u don't dress up when u go out, when do you dress up? :)
is appropriate to wear in that environment which I fing annoying because sometimes I just want to wear what I want to wear without considering whether or not it's appropriate like pink hair and long hot pink nails at work if I so desired, you know?=).
Wow, I was just thinking about this. Well, I've always liked to dress up ever since I was a kid and my parents always thought that appearance is important but nowadays it's not always convenient (I may not have what you want to wear), I may feel unenthusiastic about getting dressed up, sometimes I feel like I don't want to call a lot of attention to myself evn though my natural style I think is a bit eccentric (may call attention). I think that it's important to consider you environment and what
I dress according to how I feel I guess. I don't intentionally try to be the best dressed in the room, but I've noticed that It doesn't matter how causal or how dressy I am, I tend to be best dressed in the room. Maybe it's a natural talent.
I currently work in the medical field and wear frumpy scrubs
all the time and still get lots of comments on my selection on colors I choose to wear..... too funny. They feel like pj's and can be non flattering, but too each his own.
I think your dress definately depends on your mood and the occassion but to be honest I do at times dress for people. for example my boyfriend and I had an event to go to and his high school sweetheart was gonna be there, we get along fine but i made sure my makeup was right and my outfit was on point so I fit all of the those situations...all in all i try to do me and clearly being natural is a great example...
My mother is a Showstopper, and she raised all 5 of us to be showtoppers as well. My father also, chimed in a little; so I have been raised to always dress your best no matter where you are. Of course, if you'rin an impossible situation that you can't do anything about it. I just tend to dress, and the attention seems to just come with the territory. Peopla always say that my personality is modest even though my attire is not. I think that you should dress you're best, ALWAYS
I guess that my thoughts are to each its own. Some people dress up to try to get attention and also some people dress up cause they like to see themselves looking nice. I dont judge either way because I guess the attention boost can be a big ego booster if they are not already feeling good about themselves. I think it all comes down to your confidence level and how you feel about yourself...Do what works well for you. But in my opinion the best way to feel good about yourself is to look within.
Girl do you...I dress for what the event call for...I dont care about how others feel about what I have on...But when I want to STOP THE SHOW JUST KNOW I CAN....LIKE LAST NIGHT...GIRL EVERYONE WAS FEELING MY LOL GET THIS MY $20 DRESS LOL AND CURLY AFRO U FEEL ABOUT YOURSELF...SOMETIME THE LESS YOU DO THE BETTER..THAT WHEN YOUR NATUAL BEAUTY SHINES.......PEACE AND BLESSING TO ALL...NYC LOVE
don't care about yourself. All the while, you believe you are carrying yourself opposite this type of personality, but really, to others, they just wish you would "do something w/ yourself" lol. I also found that you can repel the right people and attract the wrong when they see you this way. Even if you thought you had bought quality clothing and had something on w/ the times or trends, but if it is deliberately playing you down, people think the worst first and act on it.
it's not the dressing up part. If you are trying to be seen, you could look tore up but still be moving like you tryin ta be seen. It's sad and gets done a lot. But if you just love looking pretty, you don't have to do all that theater stuff. Just dress up. You know your personality and dress to accentuate that, don't associate dressing up w/ insecure people, I know from my experience that it just makes you reduce yourself and gives people the wrong impression, making you look like you...
Like many other have said, i think you should dress for your mood, sometimes you may feel like blending, and sometimes you may just feel on top of the world and want to dress like a show stopper
I agree with the person who mentioned personality. dress to what suits you. as someone who's in her very early 40's, this made me think that all my life i've always wanted to look good when going out. i've never dressed provacatively or anything like that and i've always managed to pull in the compliments. People know when you're trying too hard and when you're just doing you!
well i mostly dressed based on the mood i am in. I dont dress up to impress other people or to get a reaction b/c i am somewhat shy and i have a hard time adjusting when the spotlight is put on me. when people give me compliments i want to hide somewhere. But i am and always have been very into fashion so i love playing dress up and it may come across as im trying to do it for attention but i'm not im just me :)
Lately, i have been trying to dress more outgoing, if i can say that. I don't want to say provocative or sexual because it's not all that. I was raised in the church and have worn skirts and dressed most of my life. i am just now starting to wear pants, jeans. My dress is still modest, no tight clothes or cleavage. That's just not me. But lately, I feel I have not been true to myself and who i am. My family of course disagrees and now i'm on my way to hell (lol). Dress to show the best of you!
Always make sure you are comfortable. Dressing up is never a bad thing. I say go for it. Dress sexy (comfortably). As you get older your style changes. Add some things to your closet. Good compliments always make you feel good. I think people dress up for themselves and others. For others to give compliments and for you to selfishly feel good about yourself! Nothing wrong with that!
I think it all depends on you and who you are as a person. I see girls wearing heels everyday with everything matching from head to toe. I've sometimes wondered if i should start wearing heels or start trying to match everything. For me though, I just couldn't do it. I'm way too laid back for all that. I like to wear my sperrys everyday and just be comfortable. I hate it when I try to be cute and then I end up feeling miserable b/c my feet hurt. But it's all up to you
I personally feel that it really depends on the person's personality. If you have a very extraverted personality you WANT and probably NEED that attention. I myself and an introvert....so I tend not to seek the looks and stares from other people...even at a party. But every now and then I get my shine also....and my personality kind of speaks for itself.
If I'm going to a party, then yeah, I want to be the best dressed 1 there. Not necessarily the most expensively, or the most up-to-date with fashion, but I want something that is gorgeous on me and accentuates my good looks w/o being overly sexy. I'm a beautiful woman, and I like that other people notice.
On a day-to-day basis it is completely different. I dress for myself- comfortably and in colours I like. I probably look dowdy half the time,and out of style the other half, but that's OK.
I'm modest like you but if I find a particular outfit that I really like I may dress it up more than I normally would when I get a chance to wear it. It's nice to do a little extra sometimes. It's something that makes me feel good. It's not done intentionally to impress others but that's an added bonus if it does impress others.
Don't worry about others, just improve your dress if you feel it needs to be improved. If that means that you are the most stylish person in the room, then so be it! I am going through the same thing, and have stepped up my dress for the better, but I don't do it for others but I do it for myself but of course others notice any change you make - so be ready for that...
I think you should dress how you feel. My style has definitely changed over the years. I'm naturally a shy person (most wouldn't notice) so I don't like to draw to much attention to myself yet, I'm finding that dressed up or down, I do and I've learned to deal with it. I like to look nice and I'm always glad when others notice (especially my Sweetheart).
real talk anytime I put on clothes I want to look good and I want a select person to notice I look good and that select person is my man. even when I was single I wanted the prospective brotha to notice I look good. I really dont believe people look good for themselves. deep down they hoping somebody think so too. people who dont care what others think are the ones who go outside the house really not caring. sweats, bball shorts, scarves, house shoes in public dont care.
OK.... so im 22 and a senior in college... im an afrain amercian and im one of those dress up ALL the time girls.. I dont really wear make-up often(eye liner, mascara and lip gross for everyday basic) but the key to dressing up is two make it look effortless...... My personal opinion i dont think its nothing wrong with wanting to look your very best..(even if you're just going to the beauty supply store) LOL
my style has definitely changed. i used to be a jeans and tee kinda girl and thought i would be forever. it was effortless, i just wanted to blend in and not stand out b/c i thought people who stood out were trying too hard. but now, i dress nicely every day . . . just b/c i want to. it's a genuine interest in looking good for myself, not for others. i think that's the key.
I feel best and most ready to face the world when I look my Best and When I feel the Worst, I make it a point to look my Best because it makes me feel Good! And let's be honest, we All Like a Lil Attention every now and again(-: but it's an Individual Choice, So I say Do You!
when i dress up i dress up for myself...to how i want to look not that i want to "outdress" other people. this question comes right on time because i have a party to attend this weekend and i don't know what i want to wear!
I don't mind it. I let people do what they do for the most part. I think you should dress how you feel. If you feel like making a change and being more dressy/feminine then do that!
Honestly though, I've been told by a couple of my male friends that the best way to get a guy is to "look good all the time". lol *Kanye Shrug*
well as for my part...i do like "dressing up" not for attention but to feel good about myself...i love clothes,shoes,makeup,skincare...i love everything that has to do with fashion..and i know many girlies can relate to me...i just like looking and feeling good...U said different races btw..im Hispanic...love ya :) take care....
Now to the question at hand. I'm from NY so I love to dress. Can't help it. Of course we dress for the attention of others. We don't live in a vacuum you know. Dressing to over compensate for something you believe you're lacking in is a problem. But when my hair is looking extra rich and coily, along with some light fresh makeup, and I have on some fly boots, a pair of stone washed skinny jeans, paired with a cotton tshirt and my pleather bomber I feel like a rock star. And I think that's great.
I think the people who stand out the most are the ones who are dressed very flattering, (no sparkles on their booty, trying to be extra) but act like they just have on "any old thing".
when you dress you should feel good. there is nothing wrong to looking your best but one should always try to be modest.let your addornment be you amasing attude
remember faces change bbut attitudes remain the same
4 parties, I pay more attention 2 my skin & hair than clothes. It's important 2 have glowing, blemish free skin, well groomed hair & neat/clean cloths that fit. Smell like nothing or something, just don't stink. Try 2 keep up w/ current events, local/national/global. Read a little of everything so u can hold a convo w/ diff ppl. Big minds discuss ideas, mediocre minds discuss events, small minds discuss ppl. The flyest rags in the world won't compensate 4 the ugliest personality in the universe.
dress to impress for yourself! who cares what anybody else thinks! but hey why not try something new or different? re-event your style that is still comfortable but isnt boring, clothes are suppose to be fun, never get stuck in a rut
attention can be good and bad, but hey who doesnt like to see all eyes on them once in awhile?
...people who dress up to look the best at a party...is it bad or good. Not sure. I do think it's is competitive way of thinking when grooming for a party. Whether they are the best looking there depends on the standard of beauty the person looking at them has.
Rustic girl, let me give you my 2 cents, LOL. Really when people walk into a room its there stage presence that you notice off bat. So regardless of what you have on people are going to notice you based on the way you carry yourself alone. HOWEVER, having nice, more-dressed-up than usual clothes along with wearing make up, ect does add another layer to your personality and may make you more approachable. So are you trying to catch somebody's eye?
I am very modest and if anything I try not to draw attention to myself one way or the other. And really I can tell the differance when I am dressed up and some people come up to me that I know wouldn't if I was my plain Jane self. That irritates...
As long as we're not dressing to overcompensate for insecurities. That's always a killer when we care about what others think more than just doing us♥
as long as you keep modesty as the key, i think u should dress to impress yourself :) i like to wear things that make me smile when i look in the mirror :) (but of course im not smiling if God is not pleased so modesty modesty modesty - which includes NOT dressing to impress or grab the attn of others, but rather dressing nicely and appropriately for the event.)
Hope this doesnt sound too cliche but... if u feel comfortable with what u r wearing and u like it, u will look good. b/c u will exude that confidence from the inside out. I feel there r times when its appropriate 2 impress people (ie:job interview, wedding, etc...) But people who dress a certain way purely to show off seem vain and conceited sometimes which is always unattractive to me. I hope u find whats comfortable 4 u and makes u feel good. Take care
I think u should wear what makes u feel good. I live to dress up tho, I feel good when I do. Its a personal thing. If u like the way u dress stay with the look.
If you don't have a pair already, you might consider inverstining in a cute pair of boots. obviously they are all the rage this season. but i think they do a lot to dress up a pair of jeans but you low heels can keep you comfy and chic. Keep being you!
I'm 22 years old but i look very young and i'm practically the height of elementary school kids so i feel like i have to overdress so people don't think i'm a kid. I stopped wearing sneakers and only wear boots that look "adult" and i wear pea coats but i really don't like to dress up too much either
I would not say that everyone who dress up is not trying to get attention. I'm one of those women who just love fashion, I love to look different. I feel that you should always look you best not to please anyone esle but yourself. Does that mean I think everyone should dress a certain way no...do what makes you feel comfortable and happy. My only thing is if you see someone who dresses up dont assume that its for attention...it may just be their comfort zone.
A good-looking woman can look great in a burlap sack. If you wanto spice it up, dresses are great, wear some medium height heels (1"-3"), maybe put a flower in your hair....braid it up. Try it.
My "logo" now has been :"look on point at all times," looking nice and CLASSY. when i get dress i subconsciously think am i projecting what i want to be precieved as. i also dress on point at all times, becuz i wanna feel EXTRA confidence (already have a genuine confidence in myself) in how i look.
i know what you mean, i think. i was like u as well with the dressing modestly thing. i think it all boils down to your perception. i don't think that those gurls are looking for attention. it may be that they ust look on point and from your perception of them it looks like they are trying to get attention.
My mom and my 9 year old son "it skipped a generaion" plan their outfits the night before. I never know what I am wearing to work until in the morning. I did plan my outfit recently when I went to my 20th class reunion, but I think everyone did :-)
For myself, I'm a plus sized woman and have always had to dress to be more presentable than the next, as fuller figured women USED (definitely not now in ATL) to be targets for negativity, so "over dressing", has been my stamp. Not that that I try to outshine anyone, however, if you have that type of innate instinct to be a fashion forward person, it's hard to hide! However, to you, I think that you should be who you are, as facades never last. Besides you're gorgeous girl! Be you on purpose!
Everyone should dress to the degree that is comfortable for them. Some have a need to have the attention, and that is okay for them. Some go out to have a good time for themselves and don't do that whole attention walk thing. Personally, when I look good, I feel good. At times I dress more flashy than other times, but it is all according to how I feel. It is definitely a dressing for me thing.
every since i was little i have over-dressed. i mean i just always think if im over-dressed im the best dressed person in the room. Its nothing i'm doing to show up any body, but I feel like very good and professional and have high confidence when i dress up
Truth is everyone is different. Some people crave attention. Dress the way you want to dress and be your own individual unique self. Wear whatever you're comfortable with.
It dosent matter what you wear if you take care of your body hair skin and have good hygene the only accessory you need is confidence. Nice clothing and stuff should only add to your presence not be the cenerpice. You should have presence and confidence as your most important assett. That way you attract others such as yourself.
people always say "dress to impress" and "dress for success" but me personally, I am also a very modest dresser and i just like feeling comfortable, but i will dress-up when i feel like it or if i have to (i.e. a job interview); but i feel like there is nothing wrong with dressing to look your best especially if your trying to leave and impression, as long as your not doing so for bad attention or the wrong reasons...
hey! my mane is amber and i am 14 and a freshman in high school. well my opinion is that its always good to dress up. at school people always say amber u arent going to church and not like i dnt kno that. for me it makes me feel gud to kno i luk nice and i feel that i look like i put effort into myself. bt there are times i jus put on a tshirt an jeans bt not often. also i like the compliments that i get from various people. bt i am curvy so i also wanted to show thick girls can look gud also :)
I feel that you should definitely dress your best i don't think it should be for attention though.. I do feel that i dress really awesome but that because cause it's me as and individual. I feel you should dress in a way that represents you as a person and your personality. I love Fashion so i am always trying new things or trying things other wouldn't. I have a friend and if i tried to get her to go out with me she would be like no I don't dress like you guys. my response was r u serious? DO U!
I don't really like attention. I dress very modestly, comfortable...umm....sometimes bummy. It's tough because I'mm uncomfortable in the clothes that perhaps I would look my best in. I am sometimes uncomfortable in clothes that are fitted or a little tight. I would rather wear slacks or sweatpants. I am kind of lazy about dressing up too :(. I'm trying to work on it though. I just bought some make-up so that I can look more presentable and less bummy, but I have yet to wear it!
Wow you sound like me. One time I was trying on clothes, and my friend's sister asked "you must not want anyone looking at you?" because of my of shape. I don't like the way people (especially men) look at me when I have just jeans and a t-shirt, so I will throw on a jacket and sweats to hide my figure. To be honest, her comment made me a bit uncomfortable too.
I always say I would like to wear makeup, but I don't have the guts to wear it.
I'm talking about everything. My very old fashioned religious grandmother raised me and spoke somewhat negatively about women who didn't practice modesty. When I was younger, my cousin painted my fingernails and my grandfather suggested I take it off b/c it's a form of makeup (to them anyway). She lightened up a little 2 yrs before her death when I came home from college one day and had 3 piercings in each ear, she didn't have a major fit.
Even in her death, I can't seem to shake her ways.
I think changing up your style and evolving is positive as you mature. When a woman really knows what suits her well and she is comfortable in her own skin, heads will turn automatically. Forcibly asking or calling for attention through style and parading around a room isn't elegant or sophisticated. Be true to you and evolve into your own style and being. That is the way to go.
The better I dress, the better I feel. And people treat me better when I dress up. And when I dress to draw attention, Men notice, and hold the door. And it's a Good Thing!
Wow... so I was just talking about the same thing, and personally I think that if you dress up once or twice not even to go out just for you at work I think that it makes you feel good about yourself, and I also dress modest but when I dress up I do like to "stunt" as some would call it!!!! I think that if you have you own style thats what really counts cuz money sure can't buy style only clothes!!!! SO DO YOU!!!
If you just want to change up your style, you can start by incorporating something different pieces into your wardrobe that you dont usually wear but the most important thing is that You should wear whatever makes you feel comfortable and happy!
Dressing up is fun when you want to and when you feel like it, but it should never be totally about what other people think.. Also, as you get older go ahead and do something different, while you can still where the clothes and it's age appropriate-not saying you should not be modest. Myself-I always keep it classy but sassy! :)
When I am going out most of the time I dress up to look sexy, not sluty. I do this for attention and to be the coldest women at that scene. This is just attention for that night because I dont get numbers. I guess you can say I just want to build up my confidence. Its human nature people like compliments.
I dress up to draw attention and I get complimented on my great style however I never go out of my way to draw attention. I just feel that when someone is too obvious about wanting others to notice them it's a huge turn off.
i dress how i feel.. if im guna dress up, i go all out for myself. the attention is always high whether i dress up or not. so when i dress up, its not to get attention, its because i feel good and wana dress spiffy. good topic Rustic :]
Everybody wants to be validated I think if I wore an outfit regardless of my motive for wearing it if no one commented on it I probably wouldn't wear it very often but if I did get a positive reaction that would validate me and I would feel good. We say we dress for ourselves but deep down we want someone to notice whether we want to admit it or not and there is nothing wrong with that.
Some people need people to validate their self esteem. Need people to make them feel good about themselves. (Psychological Issue, maybe) Or they just want attention for whatever reason.
There are times when you want to dress up for first impressions like job interviews, meeting your mate's folks, I like to dress up for church. But it does seem that the older I get (40) the less I seem to care about what other people think and I want to wear what I want to wear lol! Most definitely dress for you though... life is too short to be living someone else's. Tish
if i do dress nice, i never over do it. and im not an attention whore so i dont dress just to be noticed either. but when i dress up i wont try to be the best dressed
Since I have been natural, I have learned that I grab attention without even wanting it because of my hair. With that being said, I also LOVE to dress up! That has always been apart of my personality. I think it is important to do what makes you feel good. I never care or regret my choice in clothing or hairstyle based on anyone's opinion because I have to BE MYSELF!! That is important, the Self Worth!
How do you determine whether the person is dressed up to impress others or dressed up just 'cause they want to be dressed? Personally I have been told I deck out much more than is typical but that's just how I roll. I've never went somewhere and thought to myself a person was dressing to impress others or gain attention, I just assume they are wearing feathers 'cause they want to or wholy sweats 'cause they want to. end of story.
If I'm going to a special event or outing, then yes I dress to impress. I don't do it to look like the best dressed person in the room, I just like to look good! lol Otherwise, I dress pretty basic on a day-to-day basis.
People dressing up to look the best are lacking sense of selfworth otherwise the competitive need wouldn't be there. On the other hand some ppl love to dress up cause it's they're style and the enjoy it which is all good. Personally always dress to feel happy and most of all comfortable with yourself even when people when it's not a party sometimes I feel like dressing up and I do, all clothes are decoration anyway
The older I get, especially now that I'm married, I never really dress up w/ that special sparkle. I know it's lame. I say dress up when you feel like it, and it you don't feel like it, don't.
There is nothing wrong with dressing your best. I was taught both ways, dress to impress and dress for yourself, cause if you are not feeling it then its not a good thing
My mom taught me to dress for me then for everyone and the key to doing so is to do it tastefully and with common sense! Not necessarily by Gucci (like someone else said), but to wear flattering clothes and etc.
p.s. love the color of the dress on you! brings some brightness to my dull day :)
Looking presentable and well put together has got to be a good thing. I think "stand out from the croud" outfits should be worn by those with personaly to match. You dont want to look like the outfit is wearing you! x
When you dress good you feel good. You exude a sense of confidence about yourself in a good way. You don't have to wear the most expensive clothes or even that seasons "it" item,which some people get confused when you dress well. To me a good dresser is someone who picks clothes that suit their body type and they just look well put together
I like to dress up just so I look a little more put together. Here in Colorado that can be a dark pair of denim with heels and a nice top. It makes me feel good when I look good so it's more of a boost to me. Still I like to keep it less trendy and more conservative. Plus, you never know who you might run into. Once, I saw the guy I went to prom with at the grocery store! Definitely want to look nice in situations like that..lol :D
Let your personality speak for you. What you wear matters far less than how you act. When you wear what makes you feel comfortable, you will radiate confidence. Fads and fashion come and go, and you could break the bank trying to keep up. It's the sparkle in your eyes, your smile, your conversation. That's what draws the real attention.
I think a person should wears the clothes; don't let the clothes wear them. Some people over dress for attention, "Gucci" suit, "Gucci" shoes, "Gucci" purse, knowing goodness well they cannot afford Gucci, at least not like that. Here in AZ NOBODY hardly ever dresses up, I remember going to a concert wearing my midwest (Chicagoland area) flair and I felt over dressed. I like to dress up, with quality clothes and look conservative, sharp, and feel sexy.
THAT is NOT MODEST dressing what you have on here.
MsHoly777 1 year ago
I personally dress for the occasion and my mood but I have a friend who is all about getting attention and outdoing people. She is just one of those females who are in constant competition with other women and she is always fishing for compliments. The funny thing is that she is one of the most attractive women I have ever met yet the most insecure. But dont tell her that because she thinks she has high self-esteem.
HairLikeMyDaddy 1 year ago
My thought is that if you are truly confident, you will be comfortable doing you despite what anyone else is doing or thinking.... By the way, I was once told that as a woman you should dress for men, not women...hmmm
HairLikeMyDaddy 1 year ago
I think if you dress up with the intention of receiving compliments and being noticed, you're setting yourself up for low self esteem, because people will not always notice, and when they don't, a person should still know that it was never a reflection of them, and that your inner beauty and worth is unaffected. So in that sense, I don't think dressing up for others' praise brings you anything in the long run, even though it can be uplifting to receive compliments.
pl4689 1 year ago
I don't like dressing up at all unless it is for something work related, religion related, or specially occasion related. My profession requires me to wear medical scrubs so when I get home I love jumping into my jeans or sweats and a regular shirt! That is how I express myself, which is being comfortable and relaxed. Either way, you look AWESOME!
babyshuf2 2 years ago
If your getting the the point were that inside stylista wants to bust on the scene dont fight it girl shes only gonna develop you into the adult style you dream of i think. Test it out it will be fun, if thats what your getting at
MsAlLib 2 years ago
well i dont know if its a bad thing but i know its a african thing, i embrace it. in our culture the women are well dressed its a talent i feel. i love to dress it makes me feel good. Sometimes i wear things that others dont AGREE BUT ITS HOW I FEEL. and when i decide to go out in it most times im happy i did. Some times i cant wait to go home and change, but since i knew myself my style expressed me so i have less and less of those "what the heck am i wearing" days.
MsAlLib 2 years ago
i love dressing up, I don't understand women who are only satisfied with wearing jeans and a t-shirt. We are WOMEN! we can practically wear anything in the world we want. I love dressing up, it allows me to express my individuality
Nashara23 2 years ago
i think dressing to look the best in the room is trying to hard..and it will show...when you dress to compliment your own uniqueness, (skin tone, body shape) and with cool accesories then you automatcily look like the best you and not someone else.
deionc 2 years ago
Dressing your best best is a more fruitful endeavor because who and what looks the best is relative. Two old sayings come to mind.
1) Beauty is in the eye of the beholder
2) You can't please all of the people all of the time.
That being said, just do you, girl!
redeemed2bfree 2 years ago 2
You should always try to look YOUR best. Find things that go with your body shape and skin tone. Also where things that express your personality. If you like to be modest and conservative, do so. If you would like something to accent it add an eye catching accesory. See what I'm saying.
msoyekan 2 years ago
TLC's What not to wear give's wonderful advice on style that works for any age. The most important component of style is fit, your clothes should always flatter your body type, colors don't always have to match but can complement each other. Personal style is how one makes a statement about themselves and you want to project a positive and sophisticated image.
225megan 2 years ago
You can tell whose artificial by the way they carry their confidence. Some people just look, "fake" and self-conscious. I believe that you can still look great with something simple, classy and sophisticated. This way you aren't under-doing anything and you aren't over-doing anything as well. Even though there are men who may not wait another second to sleep w/ a skanky woman, they will hold more respect for someone who respect themselves, not dress "scandalous" and be classy.
Neutralbuttafly 2 years ago
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Neutralbuttafly 2 years ago
No matter where you are or what the occasion you should dress in something that fits your body type, flatters the tone of your skin, and makes you feel good. Women have a bad habit of measuring themselves against each other-and wearing things that are "hot" right now--but that really look terrible on them. Your girls may not say to your face that you shouldn't be wearing it...but they're thinkin it. Invest in quality pieces that are really beautiful on YOU-not the newest garbage trend.
nadirahB 2 years ago 7
I also think dressing is an art and it is something that (like you mentioned with the long hair goal) is just a personal passion, something that I like and should be allowed to like.
If you are curious, I encourage you to experiment especially during this time of holiday parties and all. If you feel uncertain of where to start, maybe approach a more fashionable friend for advice. I once did a "What Not to Wear" style makeover on my friend's closet. We had a LOT of fun!
olamina 2 years ago
I love dressing up. I think that, when done correctly, the way you dress can be a wonderful expression of who you are on the inside and can draw people to you. I am very artistically inclined and am always on the hunt for people who are open and creative and I find that dressing a certain way makes me visible enough that when I do go to events people do come up and talk to me because I look different and (hopefully) interesting.
olamina 2 years ago 3
Do not let your adornment be merely outward--arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel-- rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.
crownofHisglory 2 years ago 11
amen...so true
gonatureal 2 years ago
I think it is all about the person. I know for me I am usually dressed nicely whenever I go out. But it is just something I have always done. My mother told me that when I was a little girl I would cry if my hair wasnt combed and I didnt have a dress on every day even if I was just going to stay in the house. So for me, walking out the house in a t-shirt would make be feel frumpy. So for me it is more about being comfortable (and I wont lie sexy when I am going OUT).
movado32k1 2 years ago
People dress up for a couple reasons... social acceptance, because they enjoy it, or comfort. Sometimes, people feel that wherever they go, they should be at their best. They like to be on top of it. yet, sometimes, i think people who try to be entire party divas are sometimes afraid they are not going to stand out with their regular personality.
gonatureal 2 years ago
As said by others, I dont believe all ppl dress up to get attention, I "dress up" daily because I love fashion, I love to look nice it makes me feel good and confident..the sayn goes "if you look good ya fell good" lol...I could care less if anybody else says anything to me about what I am wearing...I just do me! But when my hair is done, my nails are done, and my makeups done and I smell good... I feel like a 100 bucks lol! In reality turning a head or two always makes one feel good!
MzSpates 2 years ago 3
I think that you can dress modest and still be sexy and attractive and it showa a mature man that you have self respect and your always comfy and you dont feeel awkward
natrlbeuty 2 years ago 2
Comfort , comfort, comfort! I l absolutely love fashion and always on the look out for the next trend but comfort and how the new style fits in with my daily life determine what I buy and wear. If I'm going to a party and want to impress someone in particular, I tend to dress down! This helps me see if my 'prey' can handle average me. It helps me know he's not just interested in my legs or whatever. However, I do like to wow on occassion. Nothing wrong with being told you look Hawt!
pamakiri 2 years ago
Sometimes people assume a person that "dresses up" is looking for attention thats to say a person that dresses down doesnt (which isnt true) When I dress up its because I like what Im wearing and when I dress like a "slob" its because I like that too lol Just dress like yourself and if you feel the need to explore other things thats ok too Some days I wake up and surprise myself by wearing or buying something new and different without stepping away from who I really am find your a happy medium
anjriss 2 years ago 3
I'm really into fashion and clothes and what not. So naturally I feel more comfortable in a skirt, a dress, or something that some people would consider dressy than I do in jeans and a tee shirt or [[heaven forbid]] sweats! I like how sweats look on other people but i dont like how they look on me and they make me feel gross and uncomfortable. For me personally I like to be comfortable and I'm more comfortable and confident in dressier clothes!
malyboobarbee 2 years ago
I like to look nice too, but my problem is I will go in 5 stores and can't decide what to buy. But "really" dressing up every once in a while is ok, as long as you dont search the room too many times for attention. lol.
rose8877 2 years ago
Well, I'm in college, and I have the same problem, especially being a big girl. I tent to wear nice shirts/blouses, jeans, and heels or flats. I feel most comfortable that way, but sometimes I feel its not enough when I look at what all the other females in the club/party have on!
PearlfectJourney 2 years ago
i love to look nice and feminine - that's just who i am.
do what works for you - and then sometimes you can change who you are - it's all up to you.
Durotha 2 years ago
Some people dress to stand out for a mere compliment while others dress to impress certain mates. Then you'd want to be the one to stand out the most where in his eyes everyone is in all black but then he spots the lady in red. That's what you would want him to see but you don't want any one to know that if it's the type of party that's some sole cookin, rap dancing, family and friend gathering where it is casual and you show up in a flowing gown LOL you would have definitely over done it.
alavedawson 2 years ago
Everyone here have really captured the essence of how I feel about this. Do you for whatever situation you are in. If its formal, do your version of formal and so on. I dress according to my mood. If I'm having an "I don't care day" then you can tell from my clothes. If I'm feelin' extra cute then my clothes show it. It has nothing to do with anyone else.
n2xrcise 2 years ago
When I dress up, I dress up because I feel confident in what I have on or because it makes me feel sexxi....lol.. I dont let my clothes make me..I make them...ya feel me
ChiDirtySouthGul 2 years ago
You should always be comfortable. And if dressing up makes you feel good about yourself then DO IT!!! We only live once and life is short. You might only have the figure you are in for a short time so flaunt it. But never do it for anyone else or for the opinions and compliments of others! Do it for you! Do it to make yourself feel like the queen that you are. And if dressing up is not your thing your amazing ora will reflect in plain ole jeans and a T. Its not what you wear it's who you are!!
StayceeThomas 2 years ago
IMHO, your clothing should be a reflection of who you are. For example if you are a laid back person and feel most comfortable rocking jeans and a t-shirt do it. Divas might "dress to the nines" most of the time. I think you just have to be yourself. With that being said, I believe that your attire should be clean, coordinated and neat no matter what your style is! As women, we are most attractive when we are feeling comfortable and confident! So rock your style and make it work!
SoWonderfullyMade 2 years ago 2
It looks phony when it IS phony- when your intentionally trying to impress or when what your wearing doesn't fit your personality/ your not wearing it with confidence. people that are trying to impress are not always confident because they need that stamp of approval from the crowd. A confident person can wear a paper bag, not care hat anyone thinks, and look good in it! LOL
stufftoon06 2 years ago 2
My belief is that people should look their best as much as possible. Not "the" best but "your" best and you do it for you. When you look good you feel better and you take pride in yourself. Looking your best doesn't mean uncomfortable- you should feel like its naturally you. BUT Every now and then dress the body, make up the face, oil the skin, smell pretty, and have those nails done, because you feel better.
stufftoon06 2 years ago
I always dress for myself, not for other people. I love dresses & jeans & boots and cute tops, so that's what my wardrobe mostly is.
I think people should wear clothes that make them comfortable and not to seek attention from others. I've heard guys speak about women who "dress up" to get attention & it's nothing nice.
PSA to all the women who have next to nothing on when it's freezing outside: the guys who smile @ u are laughing at you, not giving you their stamp of approval.
randb247 2 years ago 2
Dress up for you! Its about how your feelilng that day..I dont dress up, i have dress clothes, but i only wear them wheni go to the club or on a date...Its just about doing something different that you dont normally do...
missdavis24 2 years ago
i've been exploring this lately as well, im 33. i think im going to try it out from time to time and see if i dig it, can't hurt.
michelblog 2 years ago
I was brought up to distinguish between home clothes, work clothes and going out clothes, which I think is a good thing. Wearing a smile and how you feel in your skin and clothes always makes a difference.
carmay30 2 years ago 3
Simply put, you do you - so dress in whatever style you are comfortable within reasonable standards. Meaning if the event is formal, don't show up in raggedy jeans, an old T-shirt and flip flops, but you also don't have to wear ball gown/tuxedo of tails. Again, put on what you are comfortable with nod to type of event you attending. Besides, attention will come your way if you have personality to attract it so there is no need to go out of way to dress to get the attention. Blessings.
NikiD40 2 years ago
Dressing up...When I dress up I feel sexy! lol Dressing up to me is any outfit with heels lol could be jeans, a skirt, etc...I dress up when going out on a date or like night clubs not everyday. It just makes you feel more confident and it's fun to display a different side that people don't get to see everyday! :)
myzluda86 2 years ago
wear that hair down darn it :)!!
4realrenee 2 years ago
Wow, where did my comment go?
MISSRN12 2 years ago
Great Subject. In my teen to early twenties i had to check the mirror atleast 100 times before i left the house, lol im sure i am not alone on that. my mom used to tell me to always look nice but don't "burn myself out". meaning..after a while u may run out of things to do to urself very quicky. i would chnge nail color everyday, hairstyle etc. now that im in my 30s i luv 2 look nice still! however, i learnd its ok to chill...just not 2 hard ALL the time. dressing up makes me feel great!
MAC4daze 2 years ago
I think you should dress the best you can without breaking the bank. I dress for comfort too. But now that I am older,30, when I go out I dress my abslute best
tori790 2 years ago
i can relate as far as the venturing into a new element of apearance now that i am getting older. however, dress for you and the room 1st impressionn is everthing. just as long as you aren't breaking the bank and trying to hard to the pointyou look foolish.and oh, don't look for the attention from others that desperate, it should find you.hello! ciao
danappybody1 2 years ago
I say dress up so that you feel good not for anybody else. I keep it real elegant and classy, but I put a personal touch on it to make it me.
kyates1 2 years ago
I dress up because it makes me feel lovely!
I dont do it for attention I do it because I feel super feminine when I look my best!
It all depends on the person I suppose but I do and will continue to dress/glam up when I go out
ppg0069 2 years ago
Good post. I'm working on this as we speak. I work from home, go to online college, and used to homeschool so there was no reason for me to "dress up". I kind of lost myself because before I used to dress up. So as long as it's for you and about you I say do it. I'm starting small with accessories, make up, perfume, and things like that...It's fun and I love it!
niaranyela 2 years ago
I think that you should always try to look your best. I never used to dress up, and now its something that I try to do everyday. My aim is not to always look better than others, but to always look the best for myself. I think it also makes you feel really good.
nemicouture 2 years ago 2
I think if you make a decision to dress up. You should dress up! I know what you mean about others dressing for attention and half the time I would not wear what they have on. If your comfortable with what you choose to dress up in. Do it! and more power to you! = )
sfaithfully1 2 years ago
Its funny that you posted this because its been such a long time since I've dressed to impress other people vs dressing to look the very best that I can look and feeling that I'm rocking what I'm wearing. Yeah I want to look good but with my own flava. You feel good when you you look your best. When you feel good you have more confidence. IMO.
tulipsun21 2 years ago
I think dressing up makes you feel good. I like to dress comfortable, but I still look great, but lately I've been trying to look my best. Maybe it's because I'm getting older....I'm 29. I'm at that age when I want to feel womanly so i dress more often and wear a little shadow, liner and gloss. My husband seems to love it. I say go for it if it makes you feel good..do it for you! By the way, you look great in that green dress girl!
OWNERBUSINESS 2 years ago
I'm a person who never really thought about dressing up, but always dressed to be comfortable. My friends always commented that I didn't do enough to accentuate my looks? I think I'm just lazy, but my friends say that they like to look and feel good in what they've chosen to wear for that day. They like to 'take the trouble' to spoil themselves. Why not? Its not about craving attention, its the 'feel good factor' too.
VeeBee81 2 years ago
Well think of the person who doesn't dress at all. I refused to go on a date this weekend because he wanted to wear jeans to a very nice restaurant. Dress appropriately for the occassion.
Blkbeautee 2 years ago
I agree with a lot of the comments. It does depend on your mood. For instance, I am a Toddler Teacher and maybe once a week I will dress up(skirt/slacks. tights, and a nice blouse). Or sometimes I will curl my hair or put it up. I know that some of my clothing may get dirty. But I still like to "spruce it up" sometimes. Thank goodness I have a change of clothes in my locker!
Myfavcolorisbleu 2 years ago
I think it is ok to dress up. Nowadays it seems people just don't try to put their best foot forward, going out in their pj's and hair all over the place! Back in the day our ancestors always looked their best when stepping out. Doesn't mean you have to have the best things on just clean and kept, they had a since of pride about how they looked. Up until my grandmother passed she wore her lipstick and heels! I look at it like this...if u don't dress up when u go out, when do you dress up? :)
msdyamonddiva 2 years ago
My take on it is this:
Dress for yourself...if u feel u want to change it up or go over the top then do u....Unless you want to dress to get attention....
There should not be no WAY to dress...Dress how u feel comfortable with...if u want to try something new then sure...: )
mammalmoose 2 years ago
is appropriate to wear in that environment which I fing annoying because sometimes I just want to wear what I want to wear without considering whether or not it's appropriate like pink hair and long hot pink nails at work if I so desired, you know?=).
Cake1848 2 years ago
Wow, I was just thinking about this. Well, I've always liked to dress up ever since I was a kid and my parents always thought that appearance is important but nowadays it's not always convenient (I may not have what you want to wear), I may feel unenthusiastic about getting dressed up, sometimes I feel like I don't want to call a lot of attention to myself evn though my natural style I think is a bit eccentric (may call attention). I think that it's important to consider you environment and what
Cake1848 2 years ago
We got a LOT of show offs in the ATL...but it's all good. Cause I sure don't have style worth a flip...good to see you, BTW!
Banksparty4 2 years ago
I dress according to how I feel I guess. I don't intentionally try to be the best dressed in the room, but I've noticed that It doesn't matter how causal or how dressy I am, I tend to be best dressed in the room. Maybe it's a natural talent.
I currently work in the medical field and wear frumpy scrubs
all the time and still get lots of comments on my selection on colors I choose to wear..... too funny. They feel like pj's and can be non flattering, but too each his own.
naturalmakea 2 years ago
A person can be current on fashion, but do it in good taste. Stay modest...
benjaminscameron 2 years ago
I think your dress definately depends on your mood and the occassion but to be honest I do at times dress for people. for example my boyfriend and I had an event to go to and his high school sweetheart was gonna be there, we get along fine but i made sure my makeup was right and my outfit was on point so I fit all of the those situations...all in all i try to do me and clearly being natural is a great example...
msladie78 2 years ago
My mother is a Showstopper, and she raised all 5 of us to be showtoppers as well. My father also, chimed in a little; so I have been raised to always dress your best no matter where you are. Of course, if you'rin an impossible situation that you can't do anything about it. I just tend to dress, and the attention seems to just come with the territory. Peopla always say that my personality is modest even though my attire is not. I think that you should dress you're best, ALWAYS
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pamakiri 2 years ago
I guess that my thoughts are to each its own. Some people dress up to try to get attention and also some people dress up cause they like to see themselves looking nice. I dont judge either way because I guess the attention boost can be a big ego booster if they are not already feeling good about themselves. I think it all comes down to your confidence level and how you feel about yourself...Do what works well for you. But in my opinion the best way to feel good about yourself is to look within.
MISSRN12 2 years ago
Girl do you...I dress for what the event call for...I dont care about how others feel about what I have on...But when I want to STOP THE SHOW JUST KNOW I CAN....LIKE LAST NIGHT...GIRL EVERYONE WAS FEELING MY LOL GET THIS MY $20 DRESS LOL AND CURLY AFRO U FEEL ABOUT YOURSELF...SOMETIME THE LESS YOU DO THE BETTER..THAT WHEN YOUR NATUAL BEAUTY SHINES.......PEACE AND BLESSING TO ALL...NYC LOVE
safire718 2 years ago
don't care about yourself. All the while, you believe you are carrying yourself opposite this type of personality, but really, to others, they just wish you would "do something w/ yourself" lol. I also found that you can repel the right people and attract the wrong when they see you this way. Even if you thought you had bought quality clothing and had something on w/ the times or trends, but if it is deliberately playing you down, people think the worst first and act on it.
jujajun99 2 years ago
it's not the dressing up part. If you are trying to be seen, you could look tore up but still be moving like you tryin ta be seen. It's sad and gets done a lot. But if you just love looking pretty, you don't have to do all that theater stuff. Just dress up. You know your personality and dress to accentuate that, don't associate dressing up w/ insecure people, I know from my experience that it just makes you reduce yourself and gives people the wrong impression, making you look like you...
jujajun99 2 years ago
Like many other have said, i think you should dress for your mood, sometimes you may feel like blending, and sometimes you may just feel on top of the world and want to dress like a show stopper
shaday21 2 years ago
I agree with the person who mentioned personality. dress to what suits you. as someone who's in her very early 40's, this made me think that all my life i've always wanted to look good when going out. i've never dressed provacatively or anything like that and i've always managed to pull in the compliments. People know when you're trying too hard and when you're just doing you!
kpierce93 2 years ago
there is a pic of you in a dress on your profile and you look great
mpoet21 2 years ago
well i mostly dressed based on the mood i am in. I dont dress up to impress other people or to get a reaction b/c i am somewhat shy and i have a hard time adjusting when the spotlight is put on me. when people give me compliments i want to hide somewhere. But i am and always have been very into fashion so i love playing dress up and it may come across as im trying to do it for attention but i'm not im just me :)
butaflyprincess1002 2 years ago
Lately, i have been trying to dress more outgoing, if i can say that. I don't want to say provocative or sexual because it's not all that. I was raised in the church and have worn skirts and dressed most of my life. i am just now starting to wear pants, jeans. My dress is still modest, no tight clothes or cleavage. That's just not me. But lately, I feel I have not been true to myself and who i am. My family of course disagrees and now i'm on my way to hell (lol). Dress to show the best of you!
bnme13 2 years ago
Always make sure you are comfortable. Dressing up is never a bad thing. I say go for it. Dress sexy (comfortably). As you get older your style changes. Add some things to your closet. Good compliments always make you feel good. I think people dress up for themselves and others. For others to give compliments and for you to selfishly feel good about yourself! Nothing wrong with that!
Dejahzvu 2 years ago
Do what makes You feel comfortable.
IMINTOMAKEUPNOW 2 years ago
I think it all depends on you and who you are as a person. I see girls wearing heels everyday with everything matching from head to toe. I've sometimes wondered if i should start wearing heels or start trying to match everything. For me though, I just couldn't do it. I'm way too laid back for all that. I like to wear my sperrys everyday and just be comfortable. I hate it when I try to be cute and then I end up feeling miserable b/c my feet hurt. But it's all up to you
dunn0411 2 years ago
If I knew how to sew, I'd dress to the 9's every single day..
MixtressTV 2 years ago
I personally feel that it really depends on the person's personality. If you have a very extraverted personality you WANT and probably NEED that attention. I myself and an introvert....so I tend not to seek the looks and stares from other people...even at a party. But every now and then I get my shine also....and my personality kind of speaks for itself.
mytubeison 2 years ago
If I'm going to a party, then yeah, I want to be the best dressed 1 there. Not necessarily the most expensively, or the most up-to-date with fashion, but I want something that is gorgeous on me and accentuates my good looks w/o being overly sexy. I'm a beautiful woman, and I like that other people notice.
On a day-to-day basis it is completely different. I dress for myself- comfortably and in colours I like. I probably look dowdy half the time,and out of style the other half, but that's OK.
TheSupasweet 2 years ago
I'm modest like you but if I find a particular outfit that I really like I may dress it up more than I normally would when I get a chance to wear it. It's nice to do a little extra sometimes. It's something that makes me feel good. It's not done intentionally to impress others but that's an added bonus if it does impress others.
clementangel 2 years ago
Don't worry about others, just improve your dress if you feel it needs to be improved. If that means that you are the most stylish person in the room, then so be it! I am going through the same thing, and have stepped up my dress for the better, but I don't do it for others but I do it for myself but of course others notice any change you make - so be ready for that...
cyulove 2 years ago
i like to dress up even though i can be reserved.
nubianqueen707 2 years ago
I think you should dress how you feel. My style has definitely changed over the years. I'm naturally a shy person (most wouldn't notice) so I don't like to draw to much attention to myself yet, I'm finding that dressed up or down, I do and I've learned to deal with it. I like to look nice and I'm always glad when others notice (especially my Sweetheart).
SPARKWISDOM 2 years ago
real talk anytime I put on clothes I want to look good and I want a select person to notice I look good and that select person is my man. even when I was single I wanted the prospective brotha to notice I look good. I really dont believe people look good for themselves. deep down they hoping somebody think so too. people who dont care what others think are the ones who go outside the house really not caring. sweats, bball shorts, scarves, house shoes in public dont care.
imsatindoll 2 years ago
OK.... so im 22 and a senior in college... im an afrain amercian and im one of those dress up ALL the time girls.. I dont really wear make-up often(eye liner, mascara and lip gross for everyday basic) but the key to dressing up is two make it look effortless...... My personal opinion i dont think its nothing wrong with wanting to look your very best..(even if you're just going to the beauty supply store) LOL
charlishag206 2 years ago 3
my style has definitely changed. i used to be a jeans and tee kinda girl and thought i would be forever. it was effortless, i just wanted to blend in and not stand out b/c i thought people who stood out were trying too hard. but now, i dress nicely every day . . . just b/c i want to. it's a genuine interest in looking good for myself, not for others. i think that's the key.
bsquared0408 2 years ago
I feel best and most ready to face the world when I look my Best and When I feel the Worst, I make it a point to look my Best because it makes me feel Good! And let's be honest, we All Like a Lil Attention every now and again(-: but it's an Individual Choice, So I say Do You!
AllisonLPayne 2 years ago 2
when i dress up i dress up for myself...to how i want to look not that i want to "outdress" other people. this question comes right on time because i have a party to attend this weekend and i don't know what i want to wear!
brnize1969 2 years ago
I don't mind it. I let people do what they do for the most part. I think you should dress how you feel. If you feel like making a change and being more dressy/feminine then do that!
Honestly though, I've been told by a couple of my male friends that the best way to get a guy is to "look good all the time". lol *Kanye Shrug*
GooGoo32 2 years ago
Hmm sounds like you're thinking of a change, you should do it! Doesn't change who you are, just adds a little spice.
BeautyU2U 2 years ago 2
well as for my part...i do like "dressing up" not for attention but to feel good about myself...i love clothes,shoes,makeup,skincare...i love everything that has to do with fashion..and i know many girlies can relate to me...i just like looking and feeling good...U said different races btw..im Hispanic...love ya :) take care....
jgmilly97 2 years ago
Now to the question at hand. I'm from NY so I love to dress. Can't help it. Of course we dress for the attention of others. We don't live in a vacuum you know. Dressing to over compensate for something you believe you're lacking in is a problem. But when my hair is looking extra rich and coily, along with some light fresh makeup, and I have on some fly boots, a pair of stone washed skinny jeans, paired with a cotton tshirt and my pleather bomber I feel like a rock star. And I think that's great.
Hajalin 2 years ago
You talk just like my aunt it's so funny. Your mannerisms and the way you say your words are almost identical to her. Bazaar lol
Hajalin 2 years ago
Whats crazy is she looks like my aunt!
lit26 2 years ago
I think the people who stand out the most are the ones who are dressed very flattering, (no sparkles on their booty, trying to be extra) but act like they just have on "any old thing".
kylanol 2 years ago
You're so cool. :^)
LatashaTrueHeart 2 years ago
when you dress you should feel good. there is nothing wrong to looking your best but one should always try to be modest.let your addornment be you amasing attude
remember faces change bbut attitudes remain the same
jojoreneePrincess 2 years ago
4 parties, I pay more attention 2 my skin & hair than clothes. It's important 2 have glowing, blemish free skin, well groomed hair & neat/clean cloths that fit. Smell like nothing or something, just don't stink. Try 2 keep up w/ current events, local/national/global. Read a little of everything so u can hold a convo w/ diff ppl. Big minds discuss ideas, mediocre minds discuss events, small minds discuss ppl. The flyest rags in the world won't compensate 4 the ugliest personality in the universe.
PaisleyPlum 2 years ago
dress to impress for yourself! who cares what anybody else thinks! but hey why not try something new or different? re-event your style that is still comfortable but isnt boring, clothes are suppose to be fun, never get stuck in a rut
attention can be good and bad, but hey who doesnt like to see all eyes on them once in awhile?
yoruba21 2 years ago 2
...people who dress up to look the best at a party...is it bad or good. Not sure. I do think it's is competitive way of thinking when grooming for a party. Whether they are the best looking there depends on the standard of beauty the person looking at them has.
PaisleyPlum 2 years ago
Rustic girl, let me give you my 2 cents, LOL. Really when people walk into a room its there stage presence that you notice off bat. So regardless of what you have on people are going to notice you based on the way you carry yourself alone. HOWEVER, having nice, more-dressed-up than usual clothes along with wearing make up, ect does add another layer to your personality and may make you more approachable. So are you trying to catch somebody's eye?
BlkRoyalty31 2 years ago
I am very modest and if anything I try not to draw attention to myself one way or the other. And really I can tell the differance when I am dressed up and some people come up to me that I know wouldn't if I was my plain Jane self. That irritates...
ShonHealth 2 years ago
As long as we're not dressing to overcompensate for insecurities. That's always a killer when we care about what others think more than just doing us♥
KayLaLaGODsDiVa 2 years ago
as long as you keep modesty as the key, i think u should dress to impress yourself :) i like to wear things that make me smile when i look in the mirror :) (but of course im not smiling if God is not pleased so modesty modesty modesty - which includes NOT dressing to impress or grab the attn of others, but rather dressing nicely and appropriately for the event.)
xbrownshugababyx 2 years ago
Hope this doesnt sound too cliche but... if u feel comfortable with what u r wearing and u like it, u will look good. b/c u will exude that confidence from the inside out. I feel there r times when its appropriate 2 impress people (ie:job interview, wedding, etc...) But people who dress a certain way purely to show off seem vain and conceited sometimes which is always unattractive to me. I hope u find whats comfortable 4 u and makes u feel good. Take care
truGEMini01 2 years ago
No matter how you dress if you are confident then you will definitely grab the attention of others.
naturalbornqueen 2 years ago
I think u should wear what makes u feel good. I live to dress up tho, I feel good when I do. Its a personal thing. If u like the way u dress stay with the look.
cynmille2000 2 years ago
If you don't have a pair already, you might consider inverstining in a cute pair of boots. obviously they are all the rage this season. but i think they do a lot to dress up a pair of jeans but you low heels can keep you comfy and chic. Keep being you!
bornearth 2 years ago
Neat and clean, that works for me. I feel like very good. Having confidence in yourself is the finishing touch!
andavis50 2 years ago
I'm 22 years old but i look very young and i'm practically the height of elementary school kids so i feel like i have to overdress so people don't think i'm a kid. I stopped wearing sneakers and only wear boots that look "adult" and i wear pea coats but i really don't like to dress up too much either
curlscurlscurls 2 years ago 2
I would not say that everyone who dress up is not trying to get attention. I'm one of those women who just love fashion, I love to look different. I feel that you should always look you best not to please anyone esle but yourself. Does that mean I think everyone should dress a certain way no...do what makes you feel comfortable and happy. My only thing is if you see someone who dresses up dont assume that its for attention...it may just be their comfort zone.
stgblkwmn 2 years ago
A good-looking woman can look great in a burlap sack. If you wanto spice it up, dresses are great, wear some medium height heels (1"-3"), maybe put a flower in your hair....braid it up. Try it.
MaxSachs 2 years ago
My "logo" now has been :"look on point at all times," looking nice and CLASSY. when i get dress i subconsciously think am i projecting what i want to be precieved as. i also dress on point at all times, becuz i wanna feel EXTRA confidence (already have a genuine confidence in myself) in how i look.
MsStarzy 2 years ago
i know what you mean, i think. i was like u as well with the dressing modestly thing. i think it all boils down to your perception. i don't think that those gurls are looking for attention. it may be that they ust look on point and from your perception of them it looks like they are trying to get attention.
MsStarzy 2 years ago
My mom and my 9 year old son "it skipped a generaion" plan their outfits the night before. I never know what I am wearing to work until in the morning. I did plan my outfit recently when I went to my 20th class reunion, but I think everyone did :-)
UnderNaps 2 years ago
For myself, I'm a plus sized woman and have always had to dress to be more presentable than the next, as fuller figured women USED (definitely not now in ATL) to be targets for negativity, so "over dressing", has been my stamp. Not that that I try to outshine anyone, however, if you have that type of innate instinct to be a fashion forward person, it's hard to hide! However, to you, I think that you should be who you are, as facades never last. Besides you're gorgeous girl! Be you on purpose!
goldenfunk 2 years ago
Everyone should dress to the degree that is comfortable for them. Some have a need to have the attention, and that is okay for them. Some go out to have a good time for themselves and don't do that whole attention walk thing. Personally, when I look good, I feel good. At times I dress more flashy than other times, but it is all according to how I feel. It is definitely a dressing for me thing.
SumKindaWndrful 2 years ago
So why dont you just tell us about the boy you crushing on!!?? :)
martinblubber 2 years ago
every since i was little i have over-dressed. i mean i just always think if im over-dressed im the best dressed person in the room. Its nothing i'm doing to show up any body, but I feel like very good and professional and have high confidence when i dress up
nyeema2005 2 years ago
Truth is everyone is different. Some people crave attention. Dress the way you want to dress and be your own individual unique self. Wear whatever you're comfortable with.
aclay44 2 years ago
no I dont think it's a bad thing to look the best for themselves but to purposely beg for attention is kind of sad to me.
jazdj04 2 years ago
It dosent matter what you wear if you take care of your body hair skin and have good hygene the only accessory you need is confidence. Nice clothing and stuff should only add to your presence not be the cenerpice. You should have presence and confidence as your most important assett. That way you attract others such as yourself.
latia4u 2 years ago
(latia4u) Hey gurl! Welcome back, I'm glad you are doing okay :)
RusticBeauty 2 years ago
people always say "dress to impress" and "dress for success" but me personally, I am also a very modest dresser and i just like feeling comfortable, but i will dress-up when i feel like it or if i have to (i.e. a job interview); but i feel like there is nothing wrong with dressing to look your best especially if your trying to leave and impression, as long as your not doing so for bad attention or the wrong reasons...
Kaytube19 2 years ago
BE AUTHENTIC. Dress so that you feel comfortable and confident.
Always dress to enhance and highlight your positives and be yourself!
ynottexasful 2 years ago
hey! my mane is amber and i am 14 and a freshman in high school. well my opinion is that its always good to dress up. at school people always say amber u arent going to church and not like i dnt kno that. for me it makes me feel gud to kno i luk nice and i feel that i look like i put effort into myself. bt there are times i jus put on a tshirt an jeans bt not often. also i like the compliments that i get from various people. bt i am curvy so i also wanted to show thick girls can look gud also :)
PrincessAmber4eva 2 years ago
My moto is, "I you are not overdressed, your underdressed"
TashaGreat 2 years ago
I feel that you should definitely dress your best i don't think it should be for attention though.. I do feel that i dress really awesome but that because cause it's me as and individual. I feel you should dress in a way that represents you as a person and your personality. I love Fashion so i am always trying new things or trying things other wouldn't. I have a friend and if i tried to get her to go out with me she would be like no I don't dress like you guys. my response was r u serious? DO U!
ashleystyle 2 years ago
I don't really like attention. I dress very modestly, comfortable...umm....sometimes bummy. It's tough because I'mm uncomfortable in the clothes that perhaps I would look my best in. I am sometimes uncomfortable in clothes that are fitted or a little tight. I would rather wear slacks or sweatpants. I am kind of lazy about dressing up too :(. I'm trying to work on it though. I just bought some make-up so that I can look more presentable and less bummy, but I have yet to wear it!
TheRoyalEmpress 2 years ago 2
Wow you sound like me. One time I was trying on clothes, and my friend's sister asked "you must not want anyone looking at you?" because of my of shape. I don't like the way people (especially men) look at me when I have just jeans and a t-shirt, so I will throw on a jacket and sweats to hide my figure. To be honest, her comment made me a bit uncomfortable too.
I always say I would like to wear makeup, but I don't have the guts to wear it.
kdbrown1385 2 years ago
kd: you dont have the guts to wear makeup? I've never heard anyone say that before, why? are you talking about foundation, eyeshadow or what?
jazdj04 2 years ago
I'm talking about everything. My very old fashioned religious grandmother raised me and spoke somewhat negatively about women who didn't practice modesty. When I was younger, my cousin painted my fingernails and my grandfather suggested I take it off b/c it's a form of makeup (to them anyway). She lightened up a little 2 yrs before her death when I came home from college one day and had 3 piercings in each ear, she didn't have a major fit.
Even in her death, I can't seem to shake her ways.
kdbrown1385 2 years ago
I think changing up your style and evolving is positive as you mature. When a woman really knows what suits her well and she is comfortable in her own skin, heads will turn automatically. Forcibly asking or calling for attention through style and parading around a room isn't elegant or sophisticated. Be true to you and evolve into your own style and being. That is the way to go.
NvrSettle 2 years ago
The better I dress, the better I feel. And people treat me better when I dress up. And when I dress to draw attention, Men notice, and hold the door. And it's a Good Thing!
atinob43 2 years ago
Wow... so I was just talking about the same thing, and personally I think that if you dress up once or twice not even to go out just for you at work I think that it makes you feel good about yourself, and I also dress modest but when I dress up I do like to "stunt" as some would call it!!!! I think that if you have you own style thats what really counts cuz money sure can't buy style only clothes!!!! SO DO YOU!!!
dolcedolce21 2 years ago
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shaggylocs7 2 years ago
If you just want to change up your style, you can start by incorporating something different pieces into your wardrobe that you dont usually wear but the most important thing is that You should wear whatever makes you feel comfortable and happy!
myenmoni 2 years ago
Dress what make you feel comfortable and happy. Not saying show up in your bathrobe haha.
yoyo0323 2 years ago
Dressing up is fun when you want to and when you feel like it, but it should never be totally about what other people think.. Also, as you get older go ahead and do something different, while you can still where the clothes and it's age appropriate-not saying you should not be modest. Myself-I always keep it classy but sassy! :)
trasco50 2 years ago
When I am going out most of the time I dress up to look sexy, not sluty. I do this for attention and to be the coldest women at that scene. This is just attention for that night because I dont get numbers. I guess you can say I just want to build up my confidence. Its human nature people like compliments.
Beautytome 2 years ago
whether you want to dress sexy one or modest the next, as long as you're happy and confident with your style bonk everyone else. Do you!
crystalwoodi 2 years ago
I dress up to draw attention and I get complimented on my great style however I never go out of my way to draw attention. I just feel that when someone is too obvious about wanting others to notice them it's a huge turn off.
ElPressie 2 years ago
i dress how i feel.. if im guna dress up, i go all out for myself. the attention is always high whether i dress up or not. so when i dress up, its not to get attention, its because i feel good and wana dress spiffy. good topic Rustic :]
baby8969 2 years ago
Everybody wants to be validated I think if I wore an outfit regardless of my motive for wearing it if no one commented on it I probably wouldn't wear it very often but if I did get a positive reaction that would validate me and I would feel good. We say we dress for ourselves but deep down we want someone to notice whether we want to admit it or not and there is nothing wrong with that.
QiaWoo 2 years ago
Some people need people to validate their self esteem. Need people to make them feel good about themselves. (Psychological Issue, maybe) Or they just want attention for whatever reason.
naturalself9 2 years ago
It is more of a psychological reason! due to neglect from not receiving attention as child or by another person they may have liked
mecadsmith 2 years ago
@ mecadsmith, i agree with you
naturalself9 2 years ago
There are times when you want to dress up for first impressions like job interviews, meeting your mate's folks, I like to dress up for church. But it does seem that the older I get (40) the less I seem to care about what other people think and I want to wear what I want to wear lol! Most definitely dress for you though... life is too short to be living someone else's. Tish
Ididucantoo 2 years ago
Somebody must have made you mad. I say be yourself. That is all we can be and in the end that's the person everyone sees anyway.
sand07228 2 years ago
Personally i think if your going to take the time to dress up might as well do it the best way possible =)
xxXIllusive4uXxx 2 years ago
i was always told....clothes don't' make you.
eastsaintlouis62203 2 years ago
People should look nice for themselves.. not anyone else.
itsme123445 2 years ago
if i do dress nice, i never over do it. and im not an attention whore so i dont dress just to be noticed either. but when i dress up i wont try to be the best dressed
joyariffic 2 years ago
Since I have been natural, I have learned that I grab attention without even wanting it because of my hair. With that being said, I also LOVE to dress up! That has always been apart of my personality. I think it is important to do what makes you feel good. I never care or regret my choice in clothing or hairstyle based on anyone's opinion because I have to BE MYSELF!! That is important, the Self Worth!
leeoramassengill 2 years ago
How do you determine whether the person is dressed up to impress others or dressed up just 'cause they want to be dressed? Personally I have been told I deck out much more than is typical but that's just how I roll. I've never went somewhere and thought to myself a person was dressing to impress others or gain attention, I just assume they are wearing feathers 'cause they want to or wholy sweats 'cause they want to. end of story.
glamazini 2 years ago
I dress for my own comfort. Even when I dress up.
hollyhollyrose 2 years ago
If I'm going to a special event or outing, then yes I dress to impress. I don't do it to look like the best dressed person in the room, I just like to look good! lol Otherwise, I dress pretty basic on a day-to-day basis.
brownshuga24 2 years ago
People dressing up to look the best are lacking sense of selfworth otherwise the competitive need wouldn't be there. On the other hand some ppl love to dress up cause it's they're style and the enjoy it which is all good. Personally always dress to feel happy and most of all comfortable with yourself even when people when it's not a party sometimes I feel like dressing up and I do, all clothes are decoration anyway
ckzckw 2 years ago
The older I get, especially now that I'm married, I never really dress up w/ that special sparkle. I know it's lame. I say dress up when you feel like it, and it you don't feel like it, don't.
saintswife1 2 years ago
There is nothing wrong with dressing your best. I was taught both ways, dress to impress and dress for yourself, cause if you are not feeling it then its not a good thing
My mom taught me to dress for me then for everyone and the key to doing so is to do it tastefully and with common sense! Not necessarily by Gucci (like someone else said), but to wear flattering clothes and etc.
p.s. love the color of the dress on you! brings some brightness to my dull day :)
HoneyBnatural 2 years ago
a little skin never hurt anybody !
lol
coolasschick 2 years ago
Looking presentable and well put together has got to be a good thing. I think "stand out from the croud" outfits should be worn by those with personaly to match. You dont want to look like the outfit is wearing you! x
OtokiniD 2 years ago
When you dress good you feel good. You exude a sense of confidence about yourself in a good way. You don't have to wear the most expensive clothes or even that seasons "it" item,which some people get confused when you dress well. To me a good dresser is someone who picks clothes that suit their body type and they just look well put together
jgee19 2 years ago
I like to dress up just so I look a little more put together. Here in Colorado that can be a dark pair of denim with heels and a nice top. It makes me feel good when I look good so it's more of a boost to me. Still I like to keep it less trendy and more conservative. Plus, you never know who you might run into. Once, I saw the guy I went to prom with at the grocery store! Definitely want to look nice in situations like that..lol :D
mitchellzee 2 years ago
Let your personality speak for you. What you wear matters far less than how you act. When you wear what makes you feel comfortable, you will radiate confidence. Fads and fashion come and go, and you could break the bank trying to keep up. It's the sparkle in your eyes, your smile, your conversation. That's what draws the real attention.
1pepperylady 2 years ago
I think a person should wears the clothes; don't let the clothes wear them. Some people over dress for attention, "Gucci" suit, "Gucci" shoes, "Gucci" purse, knowing goodness well they cannot afford Gucci, at least not like that. Here in AZ NOBODY hardly ever dresses up, I remember going to a concert wearing my midwest (Chicagoland area) flair and I felt over dressed. I like to dress up, with quality clothes and look conservative, sharp, and feel sexy.
missmeekab 2 years ago
I always dress the best and most fashion forward way going to a party. It is fun.
kshel104 2 years ago