To all of the kick ass, beautiful fierce femmes out there...

[SophieAnneQueen]

This is just so amazing!

[HeeroWithAGun]

As a femme who has never heard this from anyone--let alone someone as beautiful as you--you made me cry.

Thank you.

[SoooArtsy]

You made my heart so happy! Thank you!!!!

[missfying]

I am not a lesbian, but I have always been attracted to people on the edge of gender. You are beautiful and don't let anyone ever tell you otherwise.

Sorry, but I won't wear those heals, nor the matching underwear. My clothes have to be comfortable first, and if they look good, that's a bonus.

I want to hug you non the less.

[patmiass4eva]

Is that a guy??

[klimtZ23]

Coyote, you are the love of my life.

[SlyFawkes]

<3 = melted. 

Go Leafs ;)

[TeaPartyTutu]

Oops *-3

[TeaPartyTutu]

This video gave me so much hope. I am forever grateful. -3

[kalikalimai1]

beautiful, brilliant and hot. xoxoxoxo

[jennzabelle]

i watch this at least once a week. it's brilliant and so lovely.

[Raksha38]

Damn, I'm all teary and sniffly now. What a beautiful piece!

[DanniSK1234]

This is amazing, and she is actually so hot lol

[Mindlestick]

Fuck this made me tear up. Amazing, so beautiful.

[ramupata]

That was fecken CHOICE

[SenseiAshley87]

this is really good.

[Beram42]

This is so fantastic. I had a bit of a cry. And Ivan, you are gorgeous.

[neophobicchik]

Happy Butch appreciation day!

[adultdatingsite452]

Wonderful Clip

[Mayabumble]

Thank you!

[KatieKalamity]

I would gladly date a girl who's scared of Edward Cullen too.

[WiccaSpirituality]

Swan: the ugly duckling story... just needed to find her/his true family, and then the real beauty could be seen.

[musicalywhoo]

What does she mean by the last line, about being a swan?

[HereToProcrastinate]

She has incredible empathy. Really funny, yet she also understands perfectly. Wonderful.

[kyndra1966]

Any girl would be lucky <3

[ServiceDogPartner]

Beautiful. You, and all of us.

[RainbowTruth]

Thank you. Oh, thank you.

[amelingui]

Thanks.

[toxicitysugarbabe]

omg you are so hot! lol

[ladyganja23]

WOW!!... Beautiful...* applauds* 

[gr8light]

Thank you for creating a window to your world. I loved your tender ferocious, loving candor. Looks good on you.

RM

[Grounded4Life16]

I love this woman.

[AkaMiko97124]

That made me laugh and tear up, who knows if it was the fem or the butch side of me.

[oliviabass3]

That was so beautiful!

[fuzzygreenplants]

Wonderful poem, but I'm confused... Is she transgendered? It seems like she had top surgery. I could tell if that's what she meant when she was talking about her chest. Just curious.

[LocksandLashes]

@fuzzygreenplants When talking about her chest she is referring to emotions and feelings (Her heart) x

[333dancergirl]

That was so touching. Too often people tell me how hard it is for "butch" women to always be out, but brush me off when I explain that it is also hard to have everyone assume I'm straight, and to have the queer community not recognize me and realize I am one of them. You are beautiful and I thank you for this wonderful message. =)

[TheRollerKitty]

@333dancergirl I know exactly how you feel.

[sweetdove15]

That was so beautiful...I cried. Thank you for loving us...you are exactly who we want to be with and we love you back just as much!

[LadyLegend2007]

I just love this!!! It makes me laugh hysterically a burst out crying!

[LadyLegend2007]

I just love this!!! It makes me laugh hysterically a burst out crying!

[LittleBoiFen]

Ivan is the kind of butch I hoped I'd grow into as a kid...Gorgeous. And this made me cry. A lot.

[chelsea5096]

So beautiful (the work, and you). Thank you for sharing yourself in so many ways.

Also: I now think of you when I buy my bras & panties. ;)

[tribalfairee]

This video touched my heart, and brought tears to my eyes. x

[Vikinghoops]

Thank you so much for posting this. It's absolutely beautiful and so well articulated. As a femme it's hard to not be seen and harder to explain why that invisibility hurts; so thank you to all the butches who get it.

[Vikinghoops]

Thank you so much for posting this. It's absolutely beautiful and so well articulated. As a femme it's hard to not be seen and harder to explain why that invisibility hurts; so thank you to all the butches who get it.

[janetbobannet]

when i first saw this i was a giggles and smile but by the end of it i was crying, GOD she is amazing!!!!!

[rienoupas]

like x 100000000000.  you made me cry.. thank you so much.

[noorderloos]

beautiful

[nyclear]

@Josielasa I think as our world evolves things like color of skin, sexual orientation, diet, etc will all be seen as part of nature's diversity.

[Reader12345678910]

Great. You capture so many things that are great about femmes.

[yoadrienne87]

This is so beautiful.

[southerncharma]

My own identity is somewhere in between butch and femme. I don't wear make up and don't wear dresses. Sometimes I wear women's clothing and sometimes I wear men's. This being said, most folks don't recognize me as gay. I have to come out to people. Maybe it's the hair? Anyhoo, I've always like femme women but they always seem to like women more like you. I didn't like girls like you (super butch)because of this for a long time. This video opened my eyes and heart a bit. Thanks.

[littlegreenliza]

A swan indeed! Why do I despair of ever being femme enough or fierce enough to attract a butch like you? Embolden me Goddess Ivan! More, more!

[nyclear]

I cried too. And I am a straight man.

[JosieLaSa]

@nyclear That gives me hope.

[StormyMonday1970]

When I first listened to this I cried! I'm not butch, but I love butches and I totally can relate to what she said about not being seen by your own people because you're femme. Thanks for opening your heart and writing something so poignant, funny and true.

[PressedSilence]

From a femme who cherishes butch, genderqueer/fluid souls...I see you.. on the bus, at the gym and in the park and I love you. For all of your parts that you do not know or cannot recognize... I love you.

I love the warrior heart and the wounded soul that doesn't quite fit in... know that you have your very own niche where you fit perfectly. And this femme loves the niches.

[acelaces]

i can't even favourite this or my mum finds out! <3 oh god...

[cayyta]

This was lovely.

[missusmadness]

As a queer femme, I love hearing this message. It always makes me cry.

[peterpan6625]

This is beautiful. Thank you Ivan.

[dancewomyn1]

Oh my god!!! I am so taken with this piece, and how incredibly vulnerable and open he is...Thank you for this beautiful homage!

[jennywho32]

I'm just a straight chick who digs women of all kinds anyway. And I cried like a baby. What a beautiful swan you are, Ivan.

[310BPM]

I basically cried through this whole poem.

I'm a young, genderqueer femme, and I sometimes feel invisible in the LGBT and especially trans communities.

Thank you so much, Ivan. This is absolutely beautiful. And so are you! ♥

[ReadymadeToOrder]

I saw Ivan and S Bear Bergman perform tonight, and when Ivan did this bit, I had that rare feeling that I get when I know someone said it better than I ever could. I still tear up at certain parts. It was powerful and incredible, and I can't express my gratitude enough.

[lithiumhoney]

I'm not butch, or femme - more andro, I guess. Anyway, that doesn't matter - this spoke to me so deeply and I teared up a little regardless. Thank you so much for this.

[Mangofemme]

My bulldagger came across this and began to cry. Later, I was asked to watch the video so that, in hys own words, “understand what I think but am unable to say".

Thanks Ivan! I had no idea that my bulldagger had such thoughts! Who knew that my stilettos were actually noticed, much less appreciated?

MF

[BluMcAnger]

ivan.. thank you for this... being butch is a bitch... but... by god we ot femmes to make it worth it... damned skippy!

[moondance39]

Thank you for this Ivan! When ever I have a day when I need a pick me up.

[ickaickaicka]

This makes me so happy so much

[ShannaKatz]

I keep crying every time I see this.

[DemiLitreDuLait]

Awesome. ^-^

[VocalCord1214]

i cried. this is so beautiful i can't even handle it.

[kaliyuta]

wow this is intense.

[caitilynx]

Wow... sometimes I wish someone felt like this about me. It's not easy being the girl who dresses up to be noticed by someone other then the "MEN" on the bus, in the streets, at the park, in the library or a coffee shop. Thanks for being the person who is the opposite of that guy I hope doesn't walk up to me when I'm alone. Thanks for being you.

[orwellreturning]

From someone who's been there, esp. the chest stuff: So true, so well put, so touching. So thank you very much to Ivan , to the poster, and everyone who unknowingly contributed to it's making P.S Ivan, I think you are the most handsome guy I have seen in ages! You? Ugly? Never! You are stunning both inside and out. ''Together, we are unstoppable'' Encore!

[misstartfuldodger]

Yes this video has a lot more respect and appreciation for femmes than the sentiments I've heard from many others...

But as a femme who isn't into butches its actually VERY alienating.

It is possible to be a queer femme who isn't there to look pretty for butches, to love, console and desire them. My femininity and my identity as a femme isn't based on a attraction to masculinity. My queerness comes from my desire for similarity, for the love of other feminine women.

[xsarahelisa]

@misstartfuldodger I agree with you fully.

[FeliciaNicole86]

I just discovered you, and after that, I could assuredly love you.....that was fantastic. And please note: To All Butches,

Thank you for making us feel beautiful. Thank you for allowing us to take long showers and take forever getting ready for a date. Thank you for letting us hold your hand and sing to you when we cant carry a tune because you let us express ourselves in so many ways. The list goes on and on.....thank you for loving us and allowing us to love you too!

[xoRayKayxo]

i love this so, so much. youre a beautiful person and should be very proud of yourself. thank you so much. makes me feel better about being a femme, actually.

[RachelLeeProductions]

amazing. moving. relevant and beautiful. thank you so much for your words and vulnerability. I am not butch, but am so appreciate of all of what the femme woman gives me. again, thank you.

[Jenn3d93]

I'm crying some very pleasant tears. Thank you!

[meganprost]

Dearest Ivan, You probably never read the comments on these videos, but I'm sending my thanks out into the universe. Hopefully you receive it. Last weekend, after a year of growing my hair out, I cut it so that I would be re-invited back into the queer world. I wish I would have heard this first. You moved me at Brief Encounters, and you moved me again. Thank you.

[PinknessQueen]

That was beautiful thanks Ivan for writing it <3

[crazypencil100]

U no I don't Mind gay people but people who take it over the top like Adam lambert and shit then that kinda pisses me off

[FoolishTheMortal]

@crazypencil100 Why? It's his life. You don't like it, don't talk to him.

[UnmaskedTime]

Shine those boots girly!

[HotButterOnToast]

if there were more butches/ags/studs/bois like this I might go back to wearing dresses and high heels again. The butches I've met lately have just made me feel like the weak caribou in the herd or something so i stopped.

[Mav3ricky]

Wow this made me feel loved <3

[thegraduate0911]

Thank you so much for this. This makes me feel really good.

[majaparla]

I love you, Ivan! You are beautiful!! As a femmey femme femme, THANK YOU for giving me validation and making me feel NOT despised by other queers! "Being queer IS my desire!!"

[gigglers1]

Thank you for seeing us. Thank you for your black 12lb boots. Thank you for all that you are.

[BlacklitFloater]

bawww! I loved this. I can totally relate.

You get used to being invisible.

Learn to take advantage of it.

And I love my 5 inch heeled knee high boots too.

[tygirrrl]

..... i loved it.. ;)

[starmaiden26]

Thank you Ivan, for this...and your are a terrific speaker. Annnnd very handsome:)

[MJN13elixir]

Ivan - thank you for really, really *getting it*.

[MJN13elixir]

Ivan - thank you for really, really *getting it*.

[Arsenalpulp]

Ivan has a new book this fall and a CD! Ivan's new site is launching this week. I'll let ya know when. It's pretty fab!

Visit Arsenalpulp to find out more.

[Ayries]

I love coming onto this video ready to twitch at the thumbs down counter and realising it's almost all positive. Not as much as the wonderful poem, but it kind of made my day.

[chachasikes]

Thank you (from a femme) it's true no one notices us. I bawled. You are awesome.

[biancalovecraft]

From a femme... thanks, I loved it :)

[msholga]

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! From a fierce full-bodied femme!

[jilclare]

This is amazing. Thank you. I'm femme, not all that fierce but I come out everyday.

[daniandv]

Ivan, Thank you for putting words to my Butch existence, to my appreciation for my Alpha Femme Wife, and expressing the emotions I don't think to talk about.

Enjoy, Dani B. Hope

[heeheehee89]

dude this is amazing :D <3

[karmadeeb]

Love it, but can someone please explain this part: "That sometimes my chest is a field full of landmines and where you went last night you can’t go tomorrow."

[JamesInAsh]

this is so heartfelt. I totally cried towards the end. there is a very lucky femme somewhere.

[liviawillow]

<3 tears of love

thank you

[gypsybrat33]

Thank you ... thank you ... thank you again Ivan! Has helped me turn a tide - a wave of horrid self loathing - for my being a kick-ass, beautiful, full figured fierce femme!

[RiahKW]

Saw her perform this at Pride and the Word in Victoria BC this july. Amazing.

[SpiltIntegrity]

This is a wonderful video & poem. I hope that everything is going well with your girl and yourself.

[Annagorn]

Lovely. Amazing. Thank you. :)

[mkitty333]

Love it! thank god there is @ least one butch out there that takes some care w/ her clothes! I am SO tired of the butches here in VT that wont even by a nice button down. It's also nice to have my invisibility acknowledged. Kinda made me want to cry.

[wesgarson]

ivan, i hope you view the comments here. thank you. i cried through at least half of this. beautiful.

[chefjennkcc]

Oh... so very awesome.. and heart-felt... makes me love my butch even more. :

[CardCarryingLesbian]

Wow, I am in love! Well, with my gf of course. But also with this poem. It really touched me and made me laugh and cry. As a femme and a writer that constantly writes about the butch/femme dynamic this was amazingly insightful and honest to it's core. Thank you Ivan. I LOVED IT! I even had to blog about it. :)

[mlhicks3]

Thank You Ivan, for truly seeing. I couldn't have said it better...myself.

[brwnhoney]

very nice video, very emotional too

[LisaMontoya]

As one of the invisible femmes who have to come out over and over again - this video makes me cry every single time I see it.

[crushable]

this is hilarious, and as a femme i can't say how touching it is. thanks ivan.

[sandidaniels]

wow, i am nearly speechless, this is so beautiful, i wish the world was willing to understand.

thank you Ivan Coyote for sharing your heart

[RavensDarkness]

OMG. I love this. I am near to tears. It made me feel beautiful as a femme. Sometimes i felt like i needed to change who i was simply because I was always viewed as being straight. Things like this make me, and prob most femmes, feel good

[adamsonxxfifteen]

This is so sweet <3 Almost cried...

[sherection]

This really made me feel awesome. My thanks to Ivan for writing it!

[Monfri]

Ivan is the most amazing story teller I know. I'm so glad I've been able to read and hear his stories and know that I am not alone, and have never been alone.

[Misukoneko]

Amazing, JUST amazing.

[taytay030]

OMG OM GOM THAT WAS AMAZING!

[awkwardfacewut]

This is amazing. I'm damn near bawling and cracking up at the same time.

[donnastarrnorton]

waldoman7...um really?? your blurring the lines of intelligence

[InfamousQBert]

just, wow. so beautiful. thank you SO much ms coyote for sharing your voice!

[09Buds]

waldoman7 are you retarded? Get a clue.

[wererox]

Fukin amazin!!

[PhillAlexandros]

Thank you so much, this is precisely what I have always felt.

[meep86]

I smile like that too. "She's with me, not you!"

Lovely performance and thank you to the up-loader too!

[femmedyke]

Candid, touching and oh so terribly sweet. Blessings to you and your femme!

[TahniMara]

Wonderful!

[fritzgenius15]

This was heartbreaking and funny and beautiful, and I am so in love with this Ivan person right now-- I want to hug her. :D

[mtlange1]

this is amazing. thank you for posting this. and of course, mad love, respect and appreciation to ivan from an invisible femme for these powerful words and speaking the truth.

[Talkingearsoffcorn]

(HUGS) Dear Ivan. You were always a swan. It isn't your responsibility that there are some eyes that refuse to see the beauty alive in those who stand strong as individuals, and strive harder to love themselves against the odd's of a cold world that thinks they do not deserve even that.

You are not those things they call you. You are instead the wisdom of what it takes to survive through the names!

Bless your journey eternally. Every step one more whisper that resonates, you are lovable!

[vizkidder]

Darlin'! Thank You for being Real. Words are music to my heart. Standing still listening, tears of pride and joy. I needed to hear and feel that. Picked me up and feel much better. GRITS... gays raised in the South but came out in Bedfordshire, UK. of all places...

[Iishieboo]

Ivan: The first thing I thought when I saw you in this video was "Oh god... hot!"

[melizabeth196]

Vulnerable. Inspiring. Courageous. Thank you.

[shinseichieien]

This is so wonderful! My heart goes out to you; you are beautiful!

[shinseichieien]

@shinseichieien That was direct to Ivan, but you know, person-who-uploaded, you're beautiful too for understanding and posting! Thanks! :D

[abdishtar]

Very well done, it made a tear hit my eye. Loved the poem!

[jenzthename]

Ivan, showing that white knights do exist

[LovinTVJunkie]

"To pass right by your people, and not be recognized."

Exactly. All the time.

[pallaszina]

This is wonderful. Ivan really shows emotion which makes it all the more beautiful. Ivan is so real, so down to earth. HOT!

[pallaszina]

This is wonderful. Ivan really shows emotion which makes it all the more beautiful. Ivan is so realm so down to earth. HOT!

[SGKasper]

Wow, that was so intimate and moving...heart wrenching, in a good way...i admire his courage and his words! He IS a swan always...BRAVO Ivan!!!!!

[mwinnike]

After a pretty crappy morning at work this story made me smile. Wonderful story.

[lainejewell]

aaand I'm crying

[tvdedicated]

just WOW.

[triptriptriplestripe]

that was beautiful. thank you.

[tigerfishgirl]

there are tears on my keyboard... i hope it doesn't break my 'puter.

your words are wonderful. just wonderful!

[kzoogirl08]

Thank you, Ivan, for acknowledging and accepting all the fierce femmes out there. How powerful it is to know that someone sees us and understands! The naked truth is so moving... you ARE beautiful!

[LadyLucidity]

OMG that was so beautiful. This kick-ass Femme thanks you. You made me cry. And that is a good thing.

[bituminous]

"Thank you for wearing matching bra and panties. I do not know why this makes my life seem so perfect... but it does." haha, I love that. :)

[brookiisvermilion]

i just choked really hard on my nachos due to this video. XD how do you like them apples. roflmao.

aw, ivan, so sweet.

[newyorkmicah]

so very touching

[elishaheather]

absolutely beautiful - thank you from the bottom of my glittery heart Ivan <3

[chrissina2]

are you still a lesbian when you are attracted to a transgender?mmh..

[misstartfuldodger]

@chrissina2

a transgender? Is that even a noun?

I do take your point in a way... lesbians are attracted to women, and if someone isn't in their heart of hearts a woman then it's disrespectful to all concerned to refer to it as a lesbian.... but still, you came off as being very ignorant.

[ap0115]

funny and beautiful. thank you so much for sharing

[GoldenGal42]

Beautiful.