Thank you God!!! For the longest time I've been feeling confused about my faith. There's so much negativity floating about and so many conflicting opinions about being gay and catholic. Your video made me smile so much. It's made me realise its ok to be both. If god didn't like up, why would he make so many of us?... Thank you Mary! x!
We, as one denomination, are the largest group of people that has ever walked this rock. No matter what the half million consecrated say we are - at the end of 2011 - almost two billion people. No matter what our scriptures, our elder, our neighbours say, we will always remain the largest group of people: gays, straight, left- / right-handed, guitar-players, gardeners, truckers, scientists, food allergics - you name it. The Peace of Christ for all of mankind. God bless you, Mary. <3
@peakoil76 The Bible condemns homosexual ACTS as in sexual acts with a person of the same sex. It does not however condemn attraction to a person of the same sex. Same sex relationships as a Catholic are expected to be similar to heterosexual relationships of people who are unmarried. They can show their affections, but cannot act on it sexually.
When I hear your plan for confession, to try to hide your real confession between other less personal sins, and then when confession starts, blurt out the real reason for why you are there, seems to me there is some' Irish Blood' somewhere in your ancestry, you may not be aware of it, but Irish Catholicism travels down the generations and serves you well as it did on that day
It's astonishing how important the empathy and understanding of a priest can be in the right circumstances, the right word at the right time can have a huge long term impact and support way beyond any expectation at the time, beautiful "vlog" thanks
for all u haters out there, i have some facts for you:
In st. Paul's letter to the romans- does it state homosexuality is wrong? NO NO NO!!! The viewpoint is different. St paul wrote as a man living in the first century. He also thought that SLAVES should Obey their masters and that women should wear veils to pray. He also thought that authority of government was instituted by god. If you think st paul was infallible, that means that he was right about all those things. He saw same-sex behavior
Mary, I appreciate the video and your ability to speak intelligently about this issue. I'm not sure what exactly went on in the confessional, but I think you're kind of misunderstanding what this priest was saying. Yes - you are what you are, just as anyone else is who they are. Sexual attractions and feelings are natural to everyone - homosexual and heterosexual. It is not a sin to be gay. However, what becomes sin is the very action. Sex is God's method for procreation and procreation only.
wow. i have never heard the verse from Mat. referenced in this context. you had one really great priest there Mary. know it's WAAAAAAYYYY after the fact, but thank's for sharing.
I am Catholic, i go to church every sunday with my family, there's a new father at my church, he told me that he want to talk to me and all that stuff but I'm so scare, my mom she think is a sin and she have told me the worst things, I really want to tell him (the priest)that I'm attractive to girl, that I'm in a relationship with a wonderful girl but I'm to scare
@marybside Thank you so, so much for this video. It actually made me cry it was so amazing and I don't even know how to express my gratitude (especially in 500 characters). When I realised a few months ago that I was probably gay after years of denial I felt so lost and what made it even worse was that I felt rejected by my faith (I'm a Catholic too) which had been a great source of support for me in the past. Videos like this and some really great websites are helping A LOT...so thanks! :) xxxx
@ajaeflower And yes, writers of the Bible were also people, who ad feelings, but it wasn't just a regular feelings of something, but inspiration from the holy Spirit, that's when they sat down and were writing.
And the last statement I would like to make is.... God is love, but that's only a half of the truth/ And we know that half of the truth is not the truth itself, or even at times is lying. Let me tell you something. Also, God is a consuming fire to those, who sin, e.g. homosexuals.
@ajaeflower Well, let me tell you something. The Bible is the same as it was centuries ago. People, who were doing translation were very careful doing that, cause they knew the importance of the translation. Yes, there are mistakes here and there, but overall meaning has been kept in its origin. And when you read other translations you can easily find mishaps.
I have no idea how to thank you enough. I am Catholic, and I have started coming out to my friends who know how important my faith is to me. I would love to get in touch with you.
Mary, Sodom and Gomorrah are not the only example in the Bible that shows God is against homosexuality. There are passages in the Bible where God clearly says, @No man, should lay down with another man as with a woman!!!" So,it proves once again that you know bits of the Bible, but not its teachings. Your comments show me one thing only - you are the product of a mix of knowledge of SOME PARTS of the Bible and People's PERCEPTION of their lives based on their EMOTIONAL FEELINGS.
That is true, The Bible is not ambiguous. The Catholic Church and the Bibleboth teach that homosexuality is not a natural relation and is a "detesable act". The Church does ackowledge the Bibles teachings that it is a sin, but it incourages Catholics to Love everyone but TO NOT make sin acceptable in society, but we can tolerate it- Just pray for God to help sinners. Lev. 20:13, "If there is a man who lies with a male as those who lie with a woman, both of them have committed a detestable act;
This video completely boosted by confidnece on my religion and my sexuality. I was raised Catholic and I go to a Catholic school so I as I've been coming across my homosexuality, I was afraid that Catholics wouldn't be understanding and that I wouldn't be able to practice it anymore. Thanks to this video, I am more sure of myself and the fact that I can be gay and Catholic. Thanks :)
Hey, I´ve been watching your videos and Jess´s all afternoon and just came across this one about your religion and have to tell you that I had tears on my eyes, I´m also lesbian and catholic and the priest that I came out to reacted almost the same way as your teacher, its a great feeling to know your self accepted and loved by your creator, without any guilt or anything, because God is love and he made you the way you are. Godspell means good news, and whan better news than that.
God is love and by loving anyone, including yourself, you proof his greatness. "Where two or more are gathered in my name, There will I (God) be " Matthew 18:20, If you and your partner are together in love, God will be present.
Didn't the priest tell her that this was "a cross that God gave her"(cross as in suffering). Doesn't that imply that her priest told her she needs to resist her same sex attraction, and not indulge in it? The Catechism of the Catholic Church clearly states that the homosexual act is "intrinsically evil". Fellow Catholics need to pray for this confused girl.
Didn't the priest tell her that this was "a cross that God gave her"(cross as in suffering). Doesn't that imply that her priest told her she needs to resist her same sex attraction, and not indulge in it? The Catechism of the Catholic Church clearly states that the homosexual act is "intrinsically evil". Fellow Catholics need to pray for this confused girl.
@BigPaulie007 also, in gods eyes sin is black and white. sin is sin. god does not see one sin as worse than another. so, if homosexuality is a sin, then in gods eyes having same sex intercourse is no more wrong than disobeying your parents, stealing, murder, adultery, not keeping the sabbath.
Jesus said many things about those who condemn others for their sins and turn a blind eye to their own. he said "let he who is without sin, cast the first stone." no one is without sin.
A very important point was not made. It's true God made all of us and every hair on our head is counted. He knows us better then we know ourselves. If you are born with the cross of homosexuality that doesn't mean you are going to burn in hell for all eternity. On the contrary, providing you do not commit the mortal sin of acting apon it, it provides the person with a solid thing they can sacarifice and offer up to God for the sake of their soul. May God bless you Mary, please bear this in mind.
To be attracted to someone of your own sex, yet knowing that there is no possibility of having a sexual relationship without endangering your immortal soul.
@mottledbrain May God be with you. Keep praying about it and ask for the grace of the Holy Spirit and He will help you. You also have your Guardian Angel who you can ask to help you as well and all the Angels and the Saints in Heaven.
@peakoil76 The Bible condemns homosexual acts. The Church teaches that all mankind is inclined to sin. This inclination itself is not in and of itself sin, though protestant denominations have a tendency to represent inclination itself as such. We are all God's, and we all have our crosses to bear. Whether homosexual or not, salvation is the plan for those who conform their inclinations to God's will.
@cllewis1 Natural law is a theorem devised by men(mankind). God's law is far more important and trust worthy. Obeying Him is all that should matter but the world has gone so far from him because of sin.
Just remember that God is always right but men are not. Want proof? Think of how meny times scientists have been wrong. (Smoking being good for you is a good example). Now think of how meny times God as been wrong?
Love thy neighbour as yourself. May God bless you and keep you. (Numbers 6:24)
Sounds like a wonderful Priest you have. God Bless and thank you for your presentation. You have a lot of courage to present this video for people to watch. Thank you again and God Bless you on your journey in the Catholic Faith.
Sounds like a wonderful Priest you have. God Bless and thank you for your presentation. You have a lot of courage to present this video for people to watch. Thank you again and God Bless you on your journey in the Catholic Faith.
here's the bottom line up till the early 1990's psychiatrist considered homosexuality what it is "a psychological dysfunction" THEN a group a gay psychiatrist lobbied to have it removed the MSDN.. Homosexuality It is an abomination that has been pushed by the liberal/atheist media as just another choice... If you are Gay you must strive for abstinence and realize that Homosexuality is a Sin that must be repented...
Quote: "do you think he would give you this cross to bear without knowing what He's given you?"
I don't understand. Did you not understand that describing homosexuality as a cross to bear means living a life of chastity, abstaining from sex since you are not attracted to men and intercourse with women is condemned?
Of course, God loves you for you, as you are, but that doesn't get past the point that sex, in the Catholic Church, is meant to be marital, exclusive between a married man and woman
marybside, it sounds as if that "compassionate" Franciscan friar betrayed you, if you left that confessional believing that homosexual activity is right and good. Same-sex attractions are disordered. Yes, God loves you, he loves all of us with disordered desires (desires for things or behaviors that are contrary to His will). Every single person is called to chastity. You are so much more than the sum of your sexual desires. You are not gay, there is no such thing as homosexual orientation.
Mary, thank you SO much. I've struggled with the same issue as you for such a long time, and for you to make it so clear how to have peace with yourself, is just such an amazing thing. You've inspired me so much I can't even begin to tell you. Just thank you!!
I'm also a Catholic, and I'm a teenager but. Doesn't it ever get frustrating when you read parts of the Old testement that tell us to condemn other people for what's considered disturbing and disgusting acts?
You are very lucky to have had a teacher like that, to show so much compassion and understanding.
great video! i love that u still love God and that u had a good experience. the father was right, God loves us all no matter what. but i was wonderin if he ever told u anythin bout them verses in the bible that say that a man should not lay with another man, and all that? have u thot bout that? i'd lov to kno wat u think. as a christian myself, gay rights is somethin i totally dont kno wat to say bout. cuz those verses are there but ppl say its all bout how u interpret it..
Mary, I have yet to see anything positive in any books or comments gays/lesbians make about the Catholic religion until now. I am so happy to have seen this video and see a strong Catholic lesbian and not be ashamed of it or shun it. I'm glad your religious comming out story went so beautifully. Thank you for this video. More gay Catholics need to see it!!
Don't you ever get mad at everything else inside the Bible? Don't you get mad that your sexuality needs to be treated as a cross? A sin? Don't you find it absurd? You believe an infitely wise entity made you and then your priests question his judgement in making you gay? Bah, religion is nonsensical in my eyes.
Also, there's a Greek film, "Straight Story" about a reverse world were straights are a minority! Ever since I watched it, I always apply this reverse thinking to all matters concerning discrimination. Being a guy, being white, being straight, being Greek... what if all these things were viewed as flaws? Gays, immigrants, people of different faiths and political views... The "different". The "others". Well we're all different and to equalize doesn't mean to homogenize!!
I was talking to my mom about this and she said that I could be kicked out if i wanted to come out at my catholic school. I thought that if god was here he wouldn't care. But this is the 21st century and its rediculous that I can be kicked out for be gay and its not fair. just to show you how far christian people have come now a days. I still believe that god is my father and he will love me no matter what but its a real downer that people are like this.
I love this video Mary and I want to thank you for posting it. I just wish all gay students experiences were the same at other colleges....way to go Sienna :-)
@peakoil76 If you are referring to Sodom and Gomorrah, which normally is the verse used, as @marybside stated this is not directly referring to homosexuality but to the intended rape the citizens were threatening. And yes rape is wrong whether it is perpetrated on the opposite sex or the same. I studied theology at another prestigious American Catholic university and spent many hour of exegetical study on this subject I just wish others would do the same.
I'm a lesbian as well - I'm 18 and I only came out in January to my mom when I was leaving to go to my first semester in college (I've since transferred from that college and am trying to get into another) She doesn't agree with it and constantly asks if I am sure. Most of my family are very devout Christians I've always personally been afraid of the Church; but you're story was wonderful.
I am so glad that you found acceptance in you're church.
@peakoil76 -- To say that the Bible is "not ambiguous" is gravely inaccurate. While many Christian leaders assert that homosexuality brought upon God’s wrath against Sodom and Gomorrah, this conclusion is simply not supported by the story itself. The story describes the Sodomites’ gross lack of hospitality, and their desire to dominate and humiliate strangers. It is not about homosexuality."” For you truth-seekers,check out "Hate Thy Neighbor; How the Bible is Misused to Condemn Homosexuality"
@marybside This is incorrect. This has never been the view of serious biblical scholars and exegetes, ever, in the history of the church. It is a novel and ahistorical misreading of the text invented by modern liberals to justify the sexual immorality of sodomy.
@marybside Agreed, the bible is ambiguous but not in the sense it is misleading. To be honest, I have never heard that homosexuality was the reason for S&G's downfall but it was more accuratly sexual impurity. This can be homosexual OR heterosexual. What I mean is, if two heterosexual people had sex outside of marridge they would be making promises with their body they simply couldn't keep. The whole thing would be a lie. Being promiscuous is a Mortal sin and can end up condemming you to hell.
@marybside Mary you are amazing. I remember being like 14 and arguing with my cousin, who is 3 years older than me, about whether homosexuality is wrong.... I didn't come out til I was 21 and I haven't seen her since I told my dad and opened my facebook up to all family (its only been a month :P) . I come from a extensive Portuguese Catholic family. I spend time every summer at a non denominational christian hockey camp. You just reaffirm in my mind that Gay and Catholic can go together. Thanks
@marybside Didn't the priest tell her that this was "a cross that God gave her"(cross as in suffering). Doesn't that imply that her priest told her she needs to resist her same sex attraction, and not indulge in it? The Catechism of the Catholic Church clearly states that the homosexual act is "intrinsically evil". Fellow Catholics need to pray for this confused girl.
a cross given to bear is a struggle god gives some one in order to teach them things in life. such as, for example, the struggle homosexuals face being discriminated against. Jesus is without sin and he bore the cross. bearing a cross does not mean the bearer is sinning. it means the bearer is going to struggle for sins that may very well not be their own.
@BigPaulie007 I agree:) Catholics are taught that same sex attraction is okay but when acted upon is when it is considered a sin. We all sin, but it does not make it okay to be proud about sinning. Sin is sin! 1 Cor. 6:9-10, " the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, 10nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, shall inherit the kingdom of God."
@marybside Let me tell you something. God Never ever punished people like Sodom and Gomorrah for a lack of hospitality. That's the dumbest point I've ever heard. Don't you think that you are the only one, who reads the Bible. In fact, your statements prove tat you just read it, but the Word teaches us not only read, but abide in it, study it and practice it. You may read it for ever, but not understand it. And God is love doesn't mean God loves the sin. Wrong!!!!
@marybside hold up, this is the thing people get wrong all the time. they think that just because someone says 'homosexuality is a sin' that they mean 'God hates'. God does not hate the sinner, He only hates the sin. so if homosexuality is considered a sin it doesnt mean people have the right to hate homosexuals. so false. sure there are people that might interpret it that way - hence stupid hate crimes - but thats cause they have it so twisted up in their head they've become delusional.
God isn't real and the Catholic church is an evil, corrupt hive of shitheads who suppress condom use in Africa and cover-up for rapists. Enjoy following your retarded, intrinsically homophobic religion.
As harsh as that is, it's not wrong. In hindsight, I should have started the conversation less....indecorously. I apologize for any injured feelings prompted by my excessive, rude bluntness. I still think it's strange to consider oneself Catholic in any orthodox sense and to be comfortable with ones homosexuality contemporaneously.
omg i love how you are gay and catholic. i was raised a christian and for a long time i tried to stifle the fact that i was gay because i was afraid of rejection from not just my friends and family but from God. after 5 years of it i finally decided to get over it even if not everyone was going to approve. i wish i had a professor/ priest to tell me what he told you! would have saved me alot of stressing :)
Wow I just saw this video. I grew up catholic too. I was even an alter boy and sang in the choir. First of all i'd like to thank you for sharing your life and experiences on the internet to total strangers. It must be hard, but i'm glad you do cause your helping alot of people understand better.
One thing i don't understand about some religions that believe in Jesus is why they can hate anyone. Even Jesus loved the sinners, Leopards, crippled and even the dead.
I just wanna say that your videos are awsome. You Jess, and the Beaverbunch have really made me feel great. I'm a Catholic and a lesbian in high school, and I haven't come out to my parents or anyone yet. (My mom would be fine with it ) The fact that a Catholic Priest was so acepting of you makes my fly! I've always known there was nothing wrong with me or being Gay/Bi/Trans... But not all Catholics think like that. My friend told me she thinks its a sin, but I'm happy and glad to see this vid
Great story. I hope it can be of help to someone who is struggling with their sexuality and their faith. Thank you for sharing. I was welling up listening to it.
You have no idea how good this made me feel. I'm a Christian (Lutheran) and I'm gay. I've been having a hard time being both of those things at the same time. However, I feel so much better having seen this. Thank you so much! God still loves me! Yay!
@Ace91939 true. im catholic and not gay and what you said is true. I hate it how the "so called" catholics condemn gay people. God loves the sinner not the sin. I hate it how some catholics mistreat gay people and treat them differently. those people truly do not follow what Jesus said. A real catholic will treat everyone one with respect. please ignore all the "catholics" who mistreat you. they are not true catholics.
I just want to say that you have honestly moved me. I am heading into my junior year of college and I'm confused, upset, and discouraged. I live for love, but first for those around me (family and friends.) Because I wish them the best and all the happiness before myself, I am stressed as to where I fit myself in the equation. Can I really have both. Love and safety for family/friends, while still finding my way? Will they be the only ones who find whatever it is. I love you for this.
hey mary my names dima and i am gay and i was raised in a pentecostal house and im not accepted for who i am ,this video is so encouraging to me i was sitting here in bed tonight thinking that where is the love where is the true love and the verses you read make total sense to me may god bless you with much happiness and i will subscribe:) thanks so much P.s i have tears in my eyes:')
So this totally helped me out so much and I feel so much better about being gay. I'm only in high school and my parents found out in a bad way and it's really hard for them to accept it even though they're trying. I've been raised catholic aswell and it was so hard to sit in church without wondering if I was doing something wrong. I was so scares to go to church. Thanks Mary b this video helped so much :)
So i'm basically sitting here balling my eyes out because i really needed to hear this! I'm going to be a sophomore at a small Catholic university in PA, and not many people know that i'm bisexual. I'm struggling to find the balance between being true to myself and being true to my faith, which has always been a huge aspect of my life. Thanks for this video, it really helped!
So i'm basically sitting here balling my eyes out because i really needed to hear this! I'm going to be a sophomore at a small Catholic university in PA, and not many people know that i'm bisexual. I'm struggling to find the balance between being true to myself and being true to my faith, which has always been a huge aspect of my life. Thanks for this video, it really helped!
Wow...that's incredible. I can't even think of words. It would be cool to talk to you more about your experience, especially how your family handled it, but I'm sure you've got plenty on your plate. Much love to you and thanks for the encouragement!
I am so glad for you....the unfortunate part is....I've seen this happen so many times...but the end result has been much worse. One of my best friends was gay, and he told his catholic parents. At only 15, he was kicked out of his home...no money, no food, nothing but the clothes on his back....he went to catholic school, and every single one of his "friends" mocked him and beat him. He ended up committing suicide because he just couldn't take it anymore. I miss you, Nate. :'(
I just wanted to let you know that I found this very inspiring. I'm a born and raised catholic who is gay, and I still go to mass regularly. I do struggle with some of the teachings but I have noticed you dont see many priests focus on the issue of the catholicism teaching on it. Any who, I've been far to scared to go to confession. Odd to me since I went to a catholic high school and elementary school, its like second nature to just go to church. So thank you for sharing!
Wow... I know you posted this almost a year ago... but that's a beautiful story. I'm a Catholic-raised atheist, and this has quite possibly been the most lovely thing I've ever heard about the catholic church. It's wonderful that the priest was so accepting and made you feel better rather than ostracising you. Even if you did have to do an act of contrition and say your hail mary's! :-)
The pastoral part of a Franciscan priest is awesome. I go to a school run by Franciscans. When I am there, I go to confession to a Franciscan. So I understand there pastoral side. Unfortunately, that sometimes gets in the way of then explaining what Catholic teaching is. Being gay and having those attractions to someone of the same sex is NOT a sin, acting on them is. In a nutshell that's what Catholic teaching says on the subject. Praying for you. You sound like an awesome person.
@nate12387 I would also say that I love the Franciscans at my school. They are vary knowledgeable about the faith. And from what I can tell, you sound like an awesome person. I'll be praying for yeah. That's about all I can do.
You've made me very happy. I'm a gay catholic. I unfortunately was removed from my home parish, just for believing in gay rights.....in college, its hard to go to a place where I feel they CANT like me. Like traditional Catholic Theology is you CANT be in a relationship with someone of the same sex, as though its out of their control... but I try to hang in there. And ppl like that priest is really wat its all about. God Bless you. Hold the faith strong
Thank you so much for sharing you experience with this. I sadly haven't been able to reconcile being gay and having God in my life...maybe someday I'll figure it out because I feel like I've lost a part of myself (my faith) in accepting true self. I haven't even acted on my attraction to women, but it's so strong, there's no denying it. Thanks again MaryB :) You rock.
K actually watched all the video. And I have to say that the priest sounds like an awesome guy for doing that. That's how a priest should be. He should provide comfort and answers (whilst obviously still remaining true to his faith). I'm personally agnostic rather than Christian, but if I needed to turn to somebody, and I knew a priest like that guy, I would do it in a second. Great story, thanks for telling it.
I think this video has such an important message. I'm not religious but i am bisexual and i think it's no important to let people know faith and sexuality can be totally compatible and they don't have to be a barrier to each other. Wonderful job as always Mary! :)
Both my parents believe in god, but never in my life forced me to worship their god, so I turned anti religion. Im happy though, I have friends with so many religons and beliefs and we all make jokes about each other. My friend Is a womanizer and one of the most popular people in the school, talking to the creepy, antisocial bi boy and to their surprise I talked back.
The position of the RCC is that the act of homosexuality is a sin. doing? Call Sienna College and ask what their position is on homosexuality. The priest is happy to recognize she confessed a sin and in spite of her disorder, let her know that God loves her, but not the sin!!! Interesting selection from the Bible. Read Romans 1:26-27 thats it!
oh mary, this video is so touching. thank you so much for sharing your experiences, you are helping me a loooot (and when I say "a lot", i mean it ;) ).
You are such a wonderful person :D I really don't know how else to say it... so happy, yet you have such an important message to say in this :) I'm a member of the Church of England myself, but I can't stand it when people prejudge certain denominations because of what THEY think that Church says, when really that's not what that Church says at all!
So thank you for this, and I hope you have a wonderful day ^^
To REALLY know and expose the worst flaws of the Roman Catholic church - which the media hasn't even discovered yet -, you've got to have known it from THE INSIDE.
To see what I learned as a priest and seminary professor, Google "JesusWouldBeFurious" (one word).
i think you are awesome personally and you remind me of my friend Kaylee sooo much lolz its also cool that you can still feel comfortable while being in a religious..........religion...if that makes sense lolz well just wanted to give you props!!!!! your fan Cody.......XD
I cannot stress enough how great a person you are...
I am a catholic, and I think nowadays there are more catholics with an open mind to things like homosexuals, abortion etc. .... my mum practices catholicism 'religiously' (to the point of doing flowers, being in the choir etc) and yet is not homophobic... everyone should love one another as you yourself would like to be loved, peace throughout the world.
Respond to this video...your lucky that you have a positive experience on coming out on a catholic college .. im so jealous.. ugh im from a catholic country and most my school years i have been in a catholic college ..so i didnt came out.... because i know catholic people are judgemental and i will be judge as immoral for the rest of my life ... but now im out im here in a different country and im awway from all those people who sees me that way.......
Oh Gosh. I feel like I need to watch this video. I mean everything happens for a reason. I'm the younger anxious you before the confession. And I'm so happy for you and for hearing your story! Thank you for sharing it from the bottom of my heart! It gave me so much power and strength! cheers!
@inspire27 -- hmm, i'm not sure I agree with that. there wasn't much interpretation or room for opinion when you're pursing a bachelor of science. it's pretty cut and dry in the business department!
@inspire27 And secular teachers can't be biased at all?! pure BS- so what if he's a priest. If he has to teach Chemistry... he's gonna teach chem! or whatever he's suppose to teach- otherwise that school wouldn't be accredited lol.
i've grown up with catholics all the 16years my life, and i work in a christian bookshop - i only know two gay christians - adult or teenager :) so no - that ain't true.
im catholic and, um, undecided at 16, but i will say homophobics may well go to church every sunday - but standing in a church makes you as much a christian as standing in a garage makes you a car. ghandi said 'i like your jesus, but i don't like your christianity'. christianity shouldn't be about hating people for loving other people, and theirselves, they arn't real christians.
im a catholic. the part about the priest speaking to you with compassion and wisdom, made me tear-up. i would love to have a moment of clarity like that. yet to come.
We all have desires to do what we know is wrong and are tempted by it. Yet God loves us the same. When you love God you will turn from doing what you know is wrong.
im feel so proud to be a catholic now that ive heard how positive a responce you got from a catholic priest ! I think it has fully restored my faith that was eroded by the disgrace in the church here in Ireland !
Almost the exact same thing happened to me. But I'm 16, I was at a church retreat, and I got out with 1 Hail Mary :) I watched this video over and over and over again before I went to confession until the battery on my phone and my iPod was completely dead. And I was crying like no other too, but your video helped me a LOT. Sooo, thank you! :D
Thank you so much for this MaryB i really need to hear all that you said in this video cuz i've been struggling with feeling accepted in God's eyes since my coming out. I'm not Catholic but still, i only wish i had someone be as compassionate as your priest was to you.
Well... if you know so much about the bible, then you should start practicing what you read. Calling someone an asshole and telling her that she should be excommunicated isn't the best way to transmit the love of God. Why don't you try to speak before the insults? Honestly, you've been such an ass
and you should know more about Catholic faith... read the Catechism, it says that every gay person should be accepted and respected. Also, to wish something bad for someone is a sine, it's a way of killing someone, so you are breaking the fifth commandment. God loves us all... remember that
Read the Bible again... but this time try not to read it like a book, because it's more than that. Why don't you pray while you read and then you tell me in what part of the bible it says that two people of the same gender cant love each other? As far as I know, the Bible says that gay sexual relations are a sine, but loving someone is never gonna be a sine. you tell me in what part of the Bible says that a man can't love a man or a woman cant love a woman and i'll take back what i've just said.
Siena '12 here. Let's go Saints @marybside
RWHarr 4 days ago
Fr. Dan??!?!
RWHarr 4 days ago
I come back and watch this video every so often because it gives me hope. Mary, you're awesome :)
sharmen45 3 weeks ago
I feel blessed to have come across this video. Bless you on your journey, and take care!
TheWanderingtree 1 month ago
Thank you God!!! For the longest time I've been feeling confused about my faith. There's so much negativity floating about and so many conflicting opinions about being gay and catholic. Your video made me smile so much. It's made me realise its ok to be both. If god didn't like up, why would he make so many of us?... Thank you Mary! x!
PinksPlace 1 month ago
I got so choked up...You are the most inspiring person I have heard in a very long time. God bless you.
MrDarksultan 4 months ago
We, as one denomination, are the largest group of people that has ever walked this rock. No matter what the half million consecrated say we are - at the end of 2011 - almost two billion people. No matter what our scriptures, our elder, our neighbours say, we will always remain the largest group of people: gays, straight, left- / right-handed, guitar-players, gardeners, truckers, scientists, food allergics - you name it. The Peace of Christ for all of mankind. God bless you, Mary. <3
OceanoLuso 5 months ago
Im sitting in my room all by my self Cheering my guts out. Thanks so much!
havaneezer 6 months ago
@peakoil76 The Bible condemns homosexual ACTS as in sexual acts with a person of the same sex. It does not however condemn attraction to a person of the same sex. Same sex relationships as a Catholic are expected to be similar to heterosexual relationships of people who are unmarried. They can show their affections, but cannot act on it sexually.
monkeyman3895 7 months ago
God bless you, Mary.
Detectivefiction 7 months ago
Your awesome. Your added to my friends list.
AntonioAzz 7 months ago
"sweating sinful bullets" i totally get that !!!
this video helped make my day :) :)
thank you
Alcazar91 8 months ago
When I hear your plan for confession, to try to hide your real confession between other less personal sins, and then when confession starts, blurt out the real reason for why you are there, seems to me there is some' Irish Blood' somewhere in your ancestry, you may not be aware of it, but Irish Catholicism travels down the generations and serves you well as it did on that day
rodoh22 10 months ago
It's astonishing how important the empathy and understanding of a priest can be in the right circumstances, the right word at the right time can have a huge long term impact and support way beyond any expectation at the time, beautiful "vlog" thanks
rodoh22 10 months ago
for all u haters out there, i have some facts for you:
In st. Paul's letter to the romans- does it state homosexuality is wrong? NO NO NO!!! The viewpoint is different. St paul wrote as a man living in the first century. He also thought that SLAVES should Obey their masters and that women should wear veils to pray. He also thought that authority of government was instituted by god. If you think st paul was infallible, that means that he was right about all those things. He saw same-sex behavior
msboyxboy 10 months ago
Mary, I appreciate the video and your ability to speak intelligently about this issue. I'm not sure what exactly went on in the confessional, but I think you're kind of misunderstanding what this priest was saying. Yes - you are what you are, just as anyone else is who they are. Sexual attractions and feelings are natural to everyone - homosexual and heterosexual. It is not a sin to be gay. However, what becomes sin is the very action. Sex is God's method for procreation and procreation only.
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niwanthiumara 10 months ago
wow. i have never heard the verse from Mat. referenced in this context. you had one really great priest there Mary. know it's WAAAAAAYYYY after the fact, but thank's for sharing.
oforth 10 months ago
I am Catholic, i go to church every sunday with my family, there's a new father at my church, he told me that he want to talk to me and all that stuff but I'm so scare, my mom she think is a sin and she have told me the worst things, I really want to tell him (the priest)that I'm attractive to girl, that I'm in a relationship with a wonderful girl but I'm to scare
liaescu 11 months ago
Thank you, Mary. I needed this. [=
kaitynoel 11 months ago
@marybside Thank you so, so much for this video. It actually made me cry it was so amazing and I don't even know how to express my gratitude (especially in 500 characters). When I realised a few months ago that I was probably gay after years of denial I felt so lost and what made it even worse was that I felt rejected by my faith (I'm a Catholic too) which had been a great source of support for me in the past. Videos like this and some really great websites are helping A LOT...so thanks! :) xxxx
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CatholicFaithInfo 11 months ago
@ajaeflower And yes, writers of the Bible were also people, who ad feelings, but it wasn't just a regular feelings of something, but inspiration from the holy Spirit, that's when they sat down and were writing.
And the last statement I would like to make is.... God is love, but that's only a half of the truth/ And we know that half of the truth is not the truth itself, or even at times is lying. Let me tell you something. Also, God is a consuming fire to those, who sin, e.g. homosexuals.
LUK77ACH 1 year ago
@ajaeflower Well, let me tell you something. The Bible is the same as it was centuries ago. People, who were doing translation were very careful doing that, cause they knew the importance of the translation. Yes, there are mistakes here and there, but overall meaning has been kept in its origin. And when you read other translations you can easily find mishaps.
LUK77ACH 1 year ago
Mary,
I have no idea how to thank you enough. I am Catholic, and I have started coming out to my friends who know how important my faith is to me. I would love to get in touch with you.
JoyceElaineCutliff 1 year ago 2
Mary, Sodom and Gomorrah are not the only example in the Bible that shows God is against homosexuality. There are passages in the Bible where God clearly says, @No man, should lay down with another man as with a woman!!!" So,it proves once again that you know bits of the Bible, but not its teachings. Your comments show me one thing only - you are the product of a mix of knowledge of SOME PARTS of the Bible and People's PERCEPTION of their lives based on their EMOTIONAL FEELINGS.
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surangagayan99 1 year ago
That is true, The Bible is not ambiguous. The Catholic Church and the Bibleboth teach that homosexuality is not a natural relation and is a "detesable act". The Church does ackowledge the Bibles teachings that it is a sin, but it incourages Catholics to Love everyone but TO NOT make sin acceptable in society, but we can tolerate it- Just pray for God to help sinners. Lev. 20:13, "If there is a man who lies with a male as those who lie with a woman, both of them have committed a detestable act;
Allycat5555 1 year ago
This video completely boosted by confidnece on my religion and my sexuality. I was raised Catholic and I go to a Catholic school so I as I've been coming across my homosexuality, I was afraid that Catholics wouldn't be understanding and that I wouldn't be able to practice it anymore. Thanks to this video, I am more sure of myself and the fact that I can be gay and Catholic. Thanks :)
k8eeful 1 year ago
Hey, I´ve been watching your videos and Jess´s all afternoon and just came across this one about your religion and have to tell you that I had tears on my eyes, I´m also lesbian and catholic and the priest that I came out to reacted almost the same way as your teacher, its a great feeling to know your self accepted and loved by your creator, without any guilt or anything, because God is love and he made you the way you are. Godspell means good news, and whan better news than that.
serendy22 1 year ago
God is love and by loving anyone, including yourself, you proof his greatness. "Where two or more are gathered in my name, There will I (God) be " Matthew 18:20, If you and your partner are together in love, God will be present.
lazymind1990 1 year ago
I love you Ellen. You TV show is mad funny
sirnubenegra 1 year ago
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Didn't the priest tell her that this was "a cross that God gave her"(cross as in suffering). Doesn't that imply that her priest told her she needs to resist her same sex attraction, and not indulge in it? The Catechism of the Catholic Church clearly states that the homosexual act is "intrinsically evil". Fellow Catholics need to pray for this confused girl.
BigPaulie007 1 year ago
Didn't the priest tell her that this was "a cross that God gave her"(cross as in suffering). Doesn't that imply that her priest told her she needs to resist her same sex attraction, and not indulge in it? The Catechism of the Catholic Church clearly states that the homosexual act is "intrinsically evil". Fellow Catholics need to pray for this confused girl.
BigPaulie007 1 year ago
@BigPaulie007 also, in gods eyes sin is black and white. sin is sin. god does not see one sin as worse than another. so, if homosexuality is a sin, then in gods eyes having same sex intercourse is no more wrong than disobeying your parents, stealing, murder, adultery, not keeping the sabbath.
Jesus said many things about those who condemn others for their sins and turn a blind eye to their own. he said "let he who is without sin, cast the first stone." no one is without sin.
45stillalive 1 year ago 2
im gay. super gay. but i still believe in God. People say Im going to hell for being gay. but honestly.....
spitaliricanmami 1 year ago
I would love a reply to my previous comment.
DeathToTheseWalls 1 year ago
Don't let the negative comments get to you. Know that your story, has changed so many live. [=
kaitynoel 1 year ago 3
sparrows are adorable :)) just sayin
WeAreBullets 1 year ago
I loooove you! thank you like so much for this video, I'm gay and Catholic and this really helped me a lot to feel a little bit better about myself
cbowie92 1 year ago 2
Take a peak at the Catachism for the official stance of the Church on homosexuality.
Childinfaith 1 year ago
Check this video out. youtube.com/user/RealCatholicTV#p/u/51/K0sILSapUUc
GottaStopAbortion 1 year ago
A very important point was not made. It's true God made all of us and every hair on our head is counted. He knows us better then we know ourselves. If you are born with the cross of homosexuality that doesn't mean you are going to burn in hell for all eternity. On the contrary, providing you do not commit the mortal sin of acting apon it, it provides the person with a solid thing they can sacarifice and offer up to God for the sake of their soul. May God bless you Mary, please bear this in mind.
GottaStopAbortion 1 year ago
That is an immense cross to bare.
To be attracted to someone of your own sex, yet knowing that there is no possibility of having a sexual relationship without endangering your immortal soul.
And I think I have problems ......
mottledbrain 1 year ago 2
@mottledbrain May God be with you. Keep praying about it and ask for the grace of the Holy Spirit and He will help you. You also have your Guardian Angel who you can ask to help you as well and all the Angels and the Saints in Heaven.
GottaStopAbortion 1 year ago
@GottaStopAbortion When I said "And I think I have problems..." I was comparing my problems to those afflicted with SSA. I shall pray anyway.
P.S. Great screen name.
mottledbrain 1 year ago
@mottledbrain My apologies. Thanks for the complement. It was inspired by God so all thanks go to Him. :)
GottaStopAbortion 1 year ago
@peakoil76 The Bible condemns homosexual acts. The Church teaches that all mankind is inclined to sin. This inclination itself is not in and of itself sin, though protestant denominations have a tendency to represent inclination itself as such. We are all God's, and we all have our crosses to bear. Whether homosexual or not, salvation is the plan for those who conform their inclinations to God's will.
commodianus 1 year ago
@peakoil76 That's not even mentioning the whole "natural law" thing.
cllewis1 1 year ago
@cllewis1 Natural law is a theorem devised by men(mankind). God's law is far more important and trust worthy. Obeying Him is all that should matter but the world has gone so far from him because of sin.
Just remember that God is always right but men are not. Want proof? Think of how meny times scientists have been wrong. (Smoking being good for you is a good example). Now think of how meny times God as been wrong?
Love thy neighbour as yourself. May God bless you and keep you. (Numbers 6:24)
GottaStopAbortion 1 year ago
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Sounds like a wonderful Priest you have. God Bless and thank you for your presentation. You have a lot of courage to present this video for people to watch. Thank you again and God Bless you on your journey in the Catholic Faith.
8bluestone 1 year ago
Sounds like a wonderful Priest you have. God Bless and thank you for your presentation. You have a lot of courage to present this video for people to watch. Thank you again and God Bless you on your journey in the Catholic Faith.
8bluestone 1 year ago
here's the bottom line up till the early 1990's psychiatrist considered homosexuality what it is "a psychological dysfunction" THEN a group a gay psychiatrist lobbied to have it removed the MSDN.. Homosexuality It is an abomination that has been pushed by the liberal/atheist media as just another choice... If you are Gay you must strive for abstinence and realize that Homosexuality is a Sin that must be repented...
megaead69 1 year ago 2
Quote: "do you think he would give you this cross to bear without knowing what He's given you?"
I don't understand. Did you not understand that describing homosexuality as a cross to bear means living a life of chastity, abstaining from sex since you are not attracted to men and intercourse with women is condemned?
Of course, God loves you for you, as you are, but that doesn't get past the point that sex, in the Catholic Church, is meant to be marital, exclusive between a married man and woman
DeathToTheseWalls 1 year ago 3
marybside, it sounds as if that "compassionate" Franciscan friar betrayed you, if you left that confessional believing that homosexual activity is right and good. Same-sex attractions are disordered. Yes, God loves you, he loves all of us with disordered desires (desires for things or behaviors that are contrary to His will). Every single person is called to chastity. You are so much more than the sum of your sexual desires. You are not gay, there is no such thing as homosexual orientation.
MostlyHolyRamblings 1 year ago 2
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MostlyHolyRamblings 1 year ago
Gross.
MarkGauvreau 1 year ago
You know what...you're awesome. Thanks for that.
ilyalibi 1 year ago
Mary, thank you SO much. I've struggled with the same issue as you for such a long time, and for you to make it so clear how to have peace with yourself, is just such an amazing thing. You've inspired me so much I can't even begin to tell you. Just thank you!!
ericjaames 1 year ago
I'm so happy for you.
I'm also a Catholic, and I'm a teenager but. Doesn't it ever get frustrating when you read parts of the Old testement that tell us to condemn other people for what's considered disturbing and disgusting acts?
You are very lucky to have had a teacher like that, to show so much compassion and understanding.
kaykenna 1 year ago
great video! i love that u still love God and that u had a good experience. the father was right, God loves us all no matter what. but i was wonderin if he ever told u anythin bout them verses in the bible that say that a man should not lay with another man, and all that? have u thot bout that? i'd lov to kno wat u think. as a christian myself, gay rights is somethin i totally dont kno wat to say bout. cuz those verses are there but ppl say its all bout how u interpret it..
WeAreBullets 1 year ago
Idunno but your eyes resemble the eyes of BETTE'S!
emmnauta 1 year ago
This video is beautiful! It makes me happy to know that there are people like you and the priest in this world.
TheEmmyR 1 year ago
Mary, I have yet to see anything positive in any books or comments gays/lesbians make about the Catholic religion until now. I am so happy to have seen this video and see a strong Catholic lesbian and not be ashamed of it or shun it. I'm glad your religious comming out story went so beautifully. Thank you for this video. More gay Catholics need to see it!!
nisa21087 1 year ago
Don't you ever get mad at everything else inside the Bible? Don't you get mad that your sexuality needs to be treated as a cross? A sin? Don't you find it absurd? You believe an infitely wise entity made you and then your priests question his judgement in making you gay? Bah, religion is nonsensical in my eyes.
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NaxNax96 1 year ago
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Also, there's a Greek film, "Straight Story" about a reverse world were straights are a minority! Ever since I watched it, I always apply this reverse thinking to all matters concerning discrimination. Being a guy, being white, being straight, being Greek... what if all these things were viewed as flaws? Gays, immigrants, people of different faiths and political views... The "different". The "others". Well we're all different and to equalize doesn't mean to homogenize!!
Peace.
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Hi Mary, Thank you for being true to yourself and God.
MsLori18 1 year ago
Hi Mary, Thank you for being true to yourself and God.
MsLori18 1 year ago
I was talking to my mom about this and she said that I could be kicked out if i wanted to come out at my catholic school. I thought that if god was here he wouldn't care. But this is the 21st century and its rediculous that I can be kicked out for be gay and its not fair. just to show you how far christian people have come now a days. I still believe that god is my father and he will love me no matter what but its a real downer that people are like this.
rachael9396 1 year ago
You have beautiful brown eyes. And I'm so glad I saw this video (Not just for your eyes, but for the content.) I needed that.
JGT318 1 year ago
Nice video but God is not a her. Just an FYI. Have you tried the Traditional Latin Mass?
MyBetty111 1 year ago
I love this video Mary and I want to thank you for posting it. I just wish all gay students experiences were the same at other colleges....way to go Sienna :-)
allybritchick 1 year ago
@peakoil76 If you are referring to Sodom and Gomorrah, which normally is the verse used, as @marybside stated this is not directly referring to homosexuality but to the intended rape the citizens were threatening. And yes rape is wrong whether it is perpetrated on the opposite sex or the same. I studied theology at another prestigious American Catholic university and spent many hour of exegetical study on this subject I just wish others would do the same.
allybritchick 1 year ago
I'm a lesbian as well - I'm 18 and I only came out in January to my mom when I was leaving to go to my first semester in college (I've since transferred from that college and am trying to get into another) She doesn't agree with it and constantly asks if I am sure. Most of my family are very devout Christians I've always personally been afraid of the Church; but you're story was wonderful.
I am so glad that you found acceptance in you're church.
Thank you for making this video<3
MissPandaRox 1 year ago
@peakoil76 -- To say that the Bible is "not ambiguous" is gravely inaccurate. While many Christian leaders assert that homosexuality brought upon God’s wrath against Sodom and Gomorrah, this conclusion is simply not supported by the story itself. The story describes the Sodomites’ gross lack of hospitality, and their desire to dominate and humiliate strangers. It is not about homosexuality."” For you truth-seekers,check out "Hate Thy Neighbor; How the Bible is Misused to Condemn Homosexuality"
marybside 1 year ago 29
@marybside This is incorrect. This has never been the view of serious biblical scholars and exegetes, ever, in the history of the church. It is a novel and ahistorical misreading of the text invented by modern liberals to justify the sexual immorality of sodomy.
ytuseruber 1 year ago 3
@marybside Mary, please read St. Paul's letter to the Romans, Chapter 1, verse 18-32 (specifically verses 26-28).
SkaterFX 1 year ago
@marybside Agreed, the bible is ambiguous but not in the sense it is misleading. To be honest, I have never heard that homosexuality was the reason for S&G's downfall but it was more accuratly sexual impurity. This can be homosexual OR heterosexual. What I mean is, if two heterosexual people had sex outside of marridge they would be making promises with their body they simply couldn't keep. The whole thing would be a lie. Being promiscuous is a Mortal sin and can end up condemming you to hell.
GottaStopAbortion 1 year ago
@marybside Mary you are amazing. I remember being like 14 and arguing with my cousin, who is 3 years older than me, about whether homosexuality is wrong.... I didn't come out til I was 21 and I haven't seen her since I told my dad and opened my facebook up to all family (its only been a month :P) . I come from a extensive Portuguese Catholic family. I spend time every summer at a non denominational christian hockey camp. You just reaffirm in my mind that Gay and Catholic can go together. Thanks
Chicola16 1 year ago
@marybside Didn't the priest tell her that this was "a cross that God gave her"(cross as in suffering). Doesn't that imply that her priest told her she needs to resist her same sex attraction, and not indulge in it? The Catechism of the Catholic Church clearly states that the homosexual act is "intrinsically evil". Fellow Catholics need to pray for this confused girl.
BigPaulie007 1 year ago
@BigPaulie007
a cross given to bear is a struggle god gives some one in order to teach them things in life. such as, for example, the struggle homosexuals face being discriminated against. Jesus is without sin and he bore the cross. bearing a cross does not mean the bearer is sinning. it means the bearer is going to struggle for sins that may very well not be their own.
45stillalive 1 year ago
@BigPaulie007 I agree:) Catholics are taught that same sex attraction is okay but when acted upon is when it is considered a sin. We all sin, but it does not make it okay to be proud about sinning. Sin is sin! 1 Cor. 6:9-10, " the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, 10nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, shall inherit the kingdom of God."
Allycat5555 1 year ago
@marybside Let me tell you something. God Never ever punished people like Sodom and Gomorrah for a lack of hospitality. That's the dumbest point I've ever heard. Don't you think that you are the only one, who reads the Bible. In fact, your statements prove tat you just read it, but the Word teaches us not only read, but abide in it, study it and practice it. You may read it for ever, but not understand it. And God is love doesn't mean God loves the sin. Wrong!!!!
LUK77ACH 1 year ago
@marybside hold up, this is the thing people get wrong all the time. they think that just because someone says 'homosexuality is a sin' that they mean 'God hates'. God does not hate the sinner, He only hates the sin. so if homosexuality is considered a sin it doesnt mean people have the right to hate homosexuals. so false. sure there are people that might interpret it that way - hence stupid hate crimes - but thats cause they have it so twisted up in their head they've become delusional.
WeAreBullets 10 months ago
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God isn't real and the Catholic church is an evil, corrupt hive of shitheads who suppress condom use in Africa and cover-up for rapists. Enjoy following your retarded, intrinsically homophobic religion.
ToothpickMcBrainy 1 year ago
@ToothpickMcBrainy -- it takes all kinds. thanks for voicing your opinion.
marybside 1 year ago 14
@ToothpickMcBrainy wow. not cool man, not cool.
iwasboredwoo 1 year ago
@iwasboredwoo
As harsh as that is, it's not wrong. In hindsight, I should have started the conversation less....indecorously. I apologize for any injured feelings prompted by my excessive, rude bluntness. I still think it's strange to consider oneself Catholic in any orthodox sense and to be comfortable with ones homosexuality contemporaneously.
ToothpickMcBrainy 1 year ago
omg i love how you are gay and catholic. i was raised a christian and for a long time i tried to stifle the fact that i was gay because i was afraid of rejection from not just my friends and family but from God. after 5 years of it i finally decided to get over it even if not everyone was going to approve. i wish i had a professor/ priest to tell me what he told you! would have saved me alot of stressing :)
dallians33 1 year ago
"Felt it in my bones." Tegan and Sara reference! =P
Wow. What an amazing priest.
AspenTheDragon 1 year ago
wow it's great that you had a positive response to coming out. goes to show not all religious people are anti gay. "God is Love" i like that!
beatlegreg07 1 year ago
Wow I just saw this video. I grew up catholic too. I was even an alter boy and sang in the choir. First of all i'd like to thank you for sharing your life and experiences on the internet to total strangers. It must be hard, but i'm glad you do cause your helping alot of people understand better.
One thing i don't understand about some religions that believe in Jesus is why they can hate anyone. Even Jesus loved the sinners, Leopards, crippled and even the dead.
JonothanSiple777 1 year ago
@JonothanSiple777 If Jesus loved these people then why can't you love Gay's, Lesbians? We are all created in GOD's image.
If you can hate something other then evil then your not a true Cristian!
JonothanSiple777 1 year ago
What a moving story. I am sure you have touched many sharing it.
dookerbaby 1 year ago
I just wanna say that your videos are awsome. You Jess, and the Beaverbunch have really made me feel great. I'm a Catholic and a lesbian in high school, and I haven't come out to my parents or anyone yet. (My mom would be fine with it ) The fact that a Catholic Priest was so acepting of you makes my fly! I've always known there was nothing wrong with me or being Gay/Bi/Trans... But not all Catholics think like that. My friend told me she thinks its a sin, but I'm happy and glad to see this vid
HeinkelxYumie 1 year ago
Great story. I hope it can be of help to someone who is struggling with their sexuality and their faith. Thank you for sharing. I was welling up listening to it.
cleveohgal 1 year ago
You have no idea how good this made me feel. I'm a Christian (Lutheran) and I'm gay. I've been having a hard time being both of those things at the same time. However, I feel so much better having seen this. Thank you so much! God still loves me! Yay!
GabbyXena100 1 year ago
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GabbyXena100 1 year ago
That would have scarred the crud out of me!
constantresearcher34 1 year ago
@Ace91939 true. im catholic and not gay and what you said is true. I hate it how the "so called" catholics condemn gay people. God loves the sinner not the sin. I hate it how some catholics mistreat gay people and treat them differently. those people truly do not follow what Jesus said. A real catholic will treat everyone one with respect. please ignore all the "catholics" who mistreat you. they are not true catholics.
Melodikiller 1 year ago
This really spoke to me :) Thanks!
t8rmonster 1 year ago
It is wonderful how joyful you are :-) You're an awesome person
foititis 1 year ago
I just want to say that you have honestly moved me. I am heading into my junior year of college and I'm confused, upset, and discouraged. I live for love, but first for those around me (family and friends.) Because I wish them the best and all the happiness before myself, I am stressed as to where I fit myself in the equation. Can I really have both. Love and safety for family/friends, while still finding my way? Will they be the only ones who find whatever it is. I love you for this.
tennispr24 1 year ago
hey mary my names dima and i am gay and i was raised in a pentecostal house and im not accepted for who i am ,this video is so encouraging to me i was sitting here in bed tonight thinking that where is the love where is the true love and the verses you read make total sense to me may god bless you with much happiness and i will subscribe:) thanks so much P.s i have tears in my eyes:')
luvebug21 1 year ago
So this totally helped me out so much and I feel so much better about being gay. I'm only in high school and my parents found out in a bad way and it's really hard for them to accept it even though they're trying. I've been raised catholic aswell and it was so hard to sit in church without wondering if I was doing something wrong. I was so scares to go to church. Thanks Mary b this video helped so much :)
xAshlynnnx14 1 year ago
So i'm basically sitting here balling my eyes out because i really needed to hear this! I'm going to be a sophomore at a small Catholic university in PA, and not many people know that i'm bisexual. I'm struggling to find the balance between being true to myself and being true to my faith, which has always been a huge aspect of my life. Thanks for this video, it really helped!
eileendarbymusic 1 year ago
So i'm basically sitting here balling my eyes out because i really needed to hear this! I'm going to be a sophomore at a small Catholic university in PA, and not many people know that i'm bisexual. I'm struggling to find the balance between being true to myself and being true to my faith, which has always been a huge aspect of my life. Thanks for this video, it really helped!
eileendarbymusic 1 year ago
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Do you go to Kings College? If you do I have some great resources for you.
foititis 1 year ago
@foititis No i don't go to Kings, I actually go to DeSales University, which is near Allentown.
eileendarbymusic 1 year ago
Wow...that's incredible. I can't even think of words. It would be cool to talk to you more about your experience, especially how your family handled it, but I'm sure you've got plenty on your plate. Much love to you and thanks for the encouragement!
peaceup08 1 year ago
I am so glad for you....the unfortunate part is....I've seen this happen so many times...but the end result has been much worse. One of my best friends was gay, and he told his catholic parents. At only 15, he was kicked out of his home...no money, no food, nothing but the clothes on his back....he went to catholic school, and every single one of his "friends" mocked him and beat him. He ended up committing suicide because he just couldn't take it anymore. I miss you, Nate. :'(
MrKasey361 1 year ago
I just wanted to let you know that I found this very inspiring. I'm a born and raised catholic who is gay, and I still go to mass regularly. I do struggle with some of the teachings but I have noticed you dont see many priests focus on the issue of the catholicism teaching on it. Any who, I've been far to scared to go to confession. Odd to me since I went to a catholic high school and elementary school, its like second nature to just go to church. So thank you for sharing!
cdb4123 1 year ago
Wow... I know you posted this almost a year ago... but that's a beautiful story. I'm a Catholic-raised atheist, and this has quite possibly been the most lovely thing I've ever heard about the catholic church. It's wonderful that the priest was so accepting and made you feel better rather than ostracising you. Even if you did have to do an act of contrition and say your hail mary's! :-)
oliverj83 1 year ago
this is so amazing, love it :)
cathy202ntnbtluv 1 year ago
What a great video...I hope people who really need to hear this message find this video. God bless you, MaryB...!
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MattDCnMD 1 year ago
Yeah, come out in a church, always a good idea! XD But I'm glad it went well!
squigoo 1 year ago
Love your energy!!!:D
ArabFantast 1 year ago
I love Mary B :) <3 Thanks for this :)
xTigerlilyxxx 1 year ago
The pastoral part of a Franciscan priest is awesome. I go to a school run by Franciscans. When I am there, I go to confession to a Franciscan. So I understand there pastoral side. Unfortunately, that sometimes gets in the way of then explaining what Catholic teaching is. Being gay and having those attractions to someone of the same sex is NOT a sin, acting on them is. In a nutshell that's what Catholic teaching says on the subject. Praying for you. You sound like an awesome person.
nate12387 1 year ago
@nate12387 I would also say that I love the Franciscans at my school. They are vary knowledgeable about the faith. And from what I can tell, you sound like an awesome person. I'll be praying for yeah. That's about all I can do.
nate12387 1 year ago
This was wonderful. I'm honestly crying right now.
twelvethousandcats 1 year ago
You've made me very happy. I'm a gay catholic. I unfortunately was removed from my home parish, just for believing in gay rights.....in college, its hard to go to a place where I feel they CANT like me. Like traditional Catholic Theology is you CANT be in a relationship with someone of the same sex, as though its out of their control... but I try to hang in there. And ppl like that priest is really wat its all about. God Bless you. Hold the faith strong
ephenderson 1 year ago
Thank you so much for this video. Unfortunately my confession didn't quite go like that.. :[[
italiangirl222 1 year ago
Thank you so much for sharing you experience with this. I sadly haven't been able to reconcile being gay and having God in my life...maybe someday I'll figure it out because I feel like I've lost a part of myself (my faith) in accepting true self. I haven't even acted on my attraction to women, but it's so strong, there's no denying it. Thanks again MaryB :) You rock.
Sugarwater802 1 year ago
You just made me so happy with your story. It was so heartfelt and you seem like a wonderful person. Thank you!
chesterfield1989 1 year ago
K actually watched all the video. And I have to say that the priest sounds like an awesome guy for doing that. That's how a priest should be. He should provide comfort and answers (whilst obviously still remaining true to his faith). I'm personally agnostic rather than Christian, but if I needed to turn to somebody, and I knew a priest like that guy, I would do it in a second. Great story, thanks for telling it.
BobbyJenkins 1 year ago
Wow you posted this on my 21st birthday. Not that you'd be interested in this. Oh well.
BobbyJenkins 1 year ago
I think this video has such an important message. I'm not religious but i am bisexual and i think it's no important to let people know faith and sexuality can be totally compatible and they don't have to be a barrier to each other. Wonderful job as always Mary! :)
TheJJettgirl 1 year ago
Both my parents believe in god, but never in my life forced me to worship their god, so I turned anti religion. Im happy though, I have friends with so many religons and beliefs and we all make jokes about each other. My friend Is a womanizer and one of the most popular people in the school, talking to the creepy, antisocial bi boy and to their surprise I talked back.
anime18andup 1 year ago
"The hairs on your head are numbered" god must REALLY like bald people, becausethe hairs on their head are already numbered
arachnophile01 1 year ago
sooooooo cool.
spacewings1 1 year ago
Thanks for sharing!
UnicornBooty 1 year ago
The position of the RCC is that the act of homosexuality is a sin. doing? Call Sienna College and ask what their position is on homosexuality. The priest is happy to recognize she confessed a sin and in spite of her disorder, let her know that God loves her, but not the sin!!! Interesting selection from the Bible. Read Romans 1:26-27 thats it!
1seticat 1 year ago
oh mary, this video is so touching. thank you so much for sharing your experiences, you are helping me a loooot (and when I say "a lot", i mean it ;) ).
all the best to you and jess!
hugs from southern germany
apollo1852 1 year ago
You are such a wonderful person :D I really don't know how else to say it... so happy, yet you have such an important message to say in this :) I'm a member of the Church of England myself, but I can't stand it when people prejudge certain denominations because of what THEY think that Church says, when really that's not what that Church says at all!
So thank you for this, and I hope you have a wonderful day ^^
LeKayFace 1 year ago
u are too cute.
cynthiacerda5836 1 year ago
can u be anymore adorable?!
cynthiacerda5836 1 year ago
To REALLY know and expose the worst flaws of the Roman Catholic church - which the media hasn't even discovered yet -, you've got to have known it from THE INSIDE.
To see what I learned as a priest and seminary professor, Google "JesusWouldBeFurious" (one word).
Rayosun 1 year ago
i think you are awesome personally and you remind me of my friend Kaylee sooo much lolz its also cool that you can still feel comfortable while being in a religious..........religion...if that makes sense lolz well just wanted to give you props!!!!! your fan Cody.......XD
pigbutt12345 1 year ago
I cannot stress enough how great a person you are...
I am a catholic, and I think nowadays there are more catholics with an open mind to things like homosexuals, abortion etc. .... my mum practices catholicism 'religiously' (to the point of doing flowers, being in the choir etc) and yet is not homophobic... everyone should love one another as you yourself would like to be loved, peace throughout the world.
love4choc 1 year ago
Perfect video- He slid open the divider! WOE-
anotherloaner 1 year ago
Respond to this video...your lucky that you have a positive experience on coming out on a catholic college .. im so jealous.. ugh im from a catholic country and most my school years i have been in a catholic college ..so i didnt came out.... because i know catholic people are judgemental and i will be judge as immoral for the rest of my life ... but now im out im here in a different country and im awway from all those people who sees me that way.......
elledrowxxx1628 1 year ago
Oh Gosh. I feel like I need to watch this video. I mean everything happens for a reason. I'm the younger anxious you before the confession. And I'm so happy for you and for hearing your story! Thank you for sharing it from the bottom of my heart! It gave me so much power and strength! cheers!
szapoly 1 year ago
@MikeM7O aww thanks, Mike. that sure means a lot. welcome :)
marybside 1 year ago
You really made me smile. You're a great person.
joosie2 1 year ago 6
so so difficult! what do you think about First Corinthians 6:9?? eh..
mroliviap 2 years ago
Aaw. You have such a lovable personality and seem like such a happy-go-lucky girl. Good for you. :' )
EmoMexNerd 2 years ago
I needed this. Thank you.
maddie10989 2 years ago 2
U made me cry. So touching. :>
lisesolveig 2 years ago 2
most of your professors were priests?! what a biased education you must have had.
inspire27 2 years ago
@inspire27 -- hmm, i'm not sure I agree with that. there wasn't much interpretation or room for opinion when you're pursing a bachelor of science. it's pretty cut and dry in the business department!
marybside 1 year ago 3
@inspire27 And secular teachers can't be biased at all?! pure BS- so what if he's a priest. If he has to teach Chemistry... he's gonna teach chem! or whatever he's suppose to teach- otherwise that school wouldn't be accredited lol.
ephenderson 1 year ago
i've grown up with catholics all the 16years my life, and i work in a christian bookshop - i only know two gay christians - adult or teenager :) so no - that ain't true.
annaelizabethedith 2 years ago
im catholic and, um, undecided at 16, but i will say homophobics may well go to church every sunday - but standing in a church makes you as much a christian as standing in a garage makes you a car. ghandi said 'i like your jesus, but i don't like your christianity'. christianity shouldn't be about hating people for loving other people, and theirselves, they arn't real christians.
annaelizabethedith 2 years ago 3
i dig you.
im a catholic. the part about the priest speaking to you with compassion and wisdom, made me tear-up. i would love to have a moment of clarity like that. yet to come.
KELSCENE 2 years ago
maryb you are the luckiest person in the world!!!
freakishstomptm 2 years ago
This comment has received too many negative votes show
You cant teach gays
You cant teach criminals
You cant teach sucide bombers
You cant teach serial killers
You are wrong if you believe in God
If you believe in christianity then you are wrong
Unless if you wont mix it with christianity
babalisa06 2 years ago
We all have desires to do what we know is wrong and are tempted by it. Yet God loves us the same. When you love God you will turn from doing what you know is wrong.
gashyna 2 years ago
im feel so proud to be a catholic now that ive heard how positive a responce you got from a catholic priest ! I think it has fully restored my faith that was eroded by the disgrace in the church here in Ireland !
Locker10a 2 years ago 14
Almost the exact same thing happened to me. But I'm 16, I was at a church retreat, and I got out with 1 Hail Mary :) I watched this video over and over and over again before I went to confession until the battery on my phone and my iPod was completely dead. And I was crying like no other too, but your video helped me a LOT. Sooo, thank you! :D
ikatelynmarie 2 years ago
Thank you so much for this MaryB i really need to hear all that you said in this video cuz i've been struggling with feeling accepted in God's eyes since my coming out. I'm not Catholic but still, i only wish i had someone be as compassionate as your priest was to you.
Shadygirl51 2 years ago
Well... if you know so much about the bible, then you should start practicing what you read. Calling someone an asshole and telling her that she should be excommunicated isn't the best way to transmit the love of God. Why don't you try to speak before the insults? Honestly, you've been such an ass
BetoCaycho 2 years ago
and you should know more about Catholic faith... read the Catechism, it says that every gay person should be accepted and respected. Also, to wish something bad for someone is a sine, it's a way of killing someone, so you are breaking the fifth commandment. God loves us all... remember that
BetoCaycho 2 years ago 3
Read the Bible again... but this time try not to read it like a book, because it's more than that. Why don't you pray while you read and then you tell me in what part of the bible it says that two people of the same gender cant love each other? As far as I know, the Bible says that gay sexual relations are a sine, but loving someone is never gonna be a sine. you tell me in what part of the Bible says that a man can't love a man or a woman cant love a woman and i'll take back what i've just said.
BetoCaycho 2 years ago
Fav'd it!!!
halfbro 2 years ago