Relationship Advice: Fighting all the time is not healthy

[geignaskgfasnjkvgjkl]

whatever bitches want a challenge.. Its there fault for staying with assholes like me!!

[lilwave123]

That was pretty brilliant xD

[KeoNecra]

@lilwave123 Thank you :)

[jacobo650]

Fighting is horrible and i will give all my love and not fight because its pointless!

[KeoNecra]

@jacobo650 Exactly! <3

[jacobo650]

@KeoNecra whens a new video coming? youtube misses u :)

[KeoNecra]

@jacobo650 Right now actually.  LOL.

[jacobo650]

@KeoNecra oh thats fantastic...can i have your email?

[cali420]

blind leading the Blind. People are foolish if they think a bad relationship will get better!!! How you been? I been @ Hospital with my Mom last few weeks she had Surgery to remove tumor/Cancer Praying they got it all! Other then that just doing School & work./ & What up with WP account??? marked private by its owner.

[KeoNecra]

@cali420 I've been re-working the widgets to be in my favor. It's been no bueno and I'm hoping I can get it up soon! 8) How's your mom doing now?

[perronnov]

Have you seen the movie "the adventures of mark twain"?

If not, DO it......now!

it gives you a pretty good idea of how we humans behave.

But it is nice to see that there is still positive people like you out there in the real world. :-)

[KeoNecra]

@perronnov Aww that means a lot. I will down load the torrent tonight. Right now I'm just reading up of some Niezschean stuff. His philogical thinking is pretty awesome, but he;s been compared to a Nazi.. Not that it's a bad thing if you really get into his stuff :)

[JullianIsKool]

your blog is private it says :( i went to it looking to see what was new with you and that's what it said ! makes me sad lol how do i see it?? or is it private for a reason??

[KeoNecra]

@JullianIsKool I'm fixing it!!! lol it looks ugly right nowwww

[sugaddikt]

You pretty much have it on point, the first step is always realizing it, but it's hard as fuck to let go.

[KeoNecra]

@sugaddikt This is true, but sometimes you have to be robotic about these things in life. Once you TRULY realize that you have the rest of your life ahead of you to find someone better, it's not so hard :)

[WillTheMaster]

Fighting is such a bitch, it's just as well i'm a lover not a fighter lol.

[KeoNecra]

@WillTheMaster I'm the same way, sir :)

[WillTheMaster]

@KeoNecra lol don't call me sir it's kinda weird, we're like the same age haha.

[HappySSFan]

so just send messages to your email or something?

[KeoNecra]

@HappySSFan yip!!

[squirrelywrath2]

You know, when I first read the title of this video, I thought "well no shit" lol

This reminds me of a piece that I read a while back on the good men project. It was an attempt to explain the statistic that women initiate the majority of divorces. The article discusses how this is usually attributed to the unproven statistic that men do most of the cheating in relationships. They instead argue that we socialize men to expect marriage to suck and just accept it. People should be happy I think :)

[KeoNecra]

@squirrelywrath2 You see, there should be more people who think like us and less like those who are trying to defend a problematic habit such as fighting. Marriage is a hollow sanction that sides with women. You can't make them sign a prenup because they think you expect it to end and if it does end, you're as broke as shit. So much for holy matrimony. If someone wanted to end a marriage, why should there be so much headache, baggage and burden involved? Marriage is a death trap. period.

[squirrelywrath2]

@KeoNecra lol all that I ask is that we do not solve the problem by making everyone hate marriage, love, and romance equally. Cause that would be evil and... stuff :P

[KeoNecra]

@squirrelywrath2 damn it you're spoiling my plans LOL jk. I don't think my words would yield enough power to send a young girl's pipe dream of love romance and marriage whirling down the toilet

[PiinoySolja]

you're fucking hot.

[KeoNecra]

@PiinoySolja You're too kind ;)

[HappySSFan]

well, if you're on facebook or not, i will still watch, support, and love your videos <3

[KeoNecra]

@HappySSFan well you can still message me like you used to. I wouldn't mind that either :)

[tigertank06]

i think this is the classic example of couples who fight but what about couples who don't have intense fights like that? personally, i think that people, especially girls, shouldn't invest everything into a relationship.

not to say that you shouldn't take your relationship seriously, but, you shouldn't go all in because what happens if you break up and you've invested everything? i say, invest in increments. 

[KeoNecra]

@tigertank06 I completely agree

[KeoNecra]

Acting married is for suckers.

[theojabroni]

I have a friend who has a girl and they fight all the time but still "love" each other, sometimes she just comes over just so he can make her cry and tell her to go home: it's incredibly irritating trying to sometimes be the jerry springer of the situation but damn... surely that ain't love... but some form of dependency. I don't know, i'll never understand. There are advantages to being single...hah

[KeoNecra]

@theojabroni Like I said. It's the sense of dependency on the "building" you back up aspect of the relationship AFTER a fight. That girl is a typical case of someone who wouldn't normally get the same warm attention so she starts a fight to get the affection after. It's super ridiculous LOL. Yes there are so many advantages of being single I've reaped them all when I was :) It was a good time in my life for sure. But I currently enjoy being in a relationship. I have too much love to give!

[Dreamer23245]

i do admit the quote is a little hard to understand and misinterpret (which you possibly pretty much did). but what it really means is what i described below.

[KeoNecra]

@Dreamer23245 I don't think I misinterpreted anything. It goes back to the basic question. If you fight all the time like an old married couple, is the relationship MEANT TO BE? Something as trivial as fighting couldn't possibly be the deciding factor of whether or not two people will be together forever. Perhaps thinking like that is a little too juvenile for me. In most cases "fighting" is juxtaposed to bickering with tears and anger not a debate or arguing. This is apparent in movies.

[Dreamer23245]

depends what kind of "argueing" it is and what kind of "fight" it is. it also depends on the conditions of which the conflict is about. most of the times those conditions are minor unfixable faults in married couples. usualy they know they cannot fix them but whine about it all the time. hence the quote.. that is what it means. its specific to this type of "fighting" i think.

[KeoNecra]

@Dreamer23245 You are correct and I agree. I have thought about all of the above when I made this video. If I dove in deep about the subject, you can bet the video would be a lot longer than 2 and a half minutes.

[Dreamer23245]

@KeoNecra I suppose the quote could be taken a number of ways. And the number of ways its meant to be taken are not many at all.

[KeoNecra]

@Dreamer23245 definitely!

[timalowa]

yann martel is such a great writer! I've got 3 of his books all paper backed =D

[KeoNecra]

@timalowa Totally agree!

[HappySSFan]

are you still on facebook ?

[KeoNecra]

@HappySSFan unfortunately no. I kicked the habit 6 months ago :)

[bootsANDglitter]

finally !!! i agree 100000% why would you want to hurt someone you love to death?

[KeoNecra]

@bootsANDglitter You wouldn't! :) Everyone should be able to speak up without letting anger cloud their judgment

[bootsANDglitter]

@KeoNecra Theres always a rational way to discuss problems without hurting the other person involved. I dont think you really love someone if you set out to hurt them.

[AngeloMellow]

drunk couples are too cute! Hahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa, lookin great keo!

[KeoNecra]

@AngeloMellow Awww Thanks <3

[Livinglifehigh]

lookin sexy keo B-)

[KeoNecra]

@Livinglifehigh <3 You're too kind, thank you

[l0ngj0ng]

i threw my book against the wall once i read the ending of life of pi

[KeoNecra]

@l0ngj0ng SHHHHHHHHH!!! Don't spoil it! I don't want to throw my ipad at the wall. I love it too much!

[JullianIsKool]

soo true!

[KeoNecra]

@JullianIsKool <3

[medinaarm]

One way you could look at this, is that the couple arguing, is communicating. Many don't know how to communicate properly and it is perceived as arguing. Pay attention to what is being said. ...Overall I feel your video is too general. And yes, there is a difference between an abusive relationship and a couple yelling at each other because they care about one another. ...And never censor yourself in a relationship. Stay mindful.

[KeoNecra]

@medinaarm One reason why couples start yelling is if they have NO idea how to structure what they want to say, hence twisting words around. You may think it's ok to start yelling your point across but I don't. The minute you accept a scream match you are giving the other person subtle permission to verbally assault you. An abusive relationship has to start somewhere. You think an apology will solve everything after what's said & done? It's ridiculous to think people think fights keep it fresh

[medinaarm]

@KeoNecra First I say, I always enjoy a good discussion, such as this. Second, there's a difference in knowing when to fight and when to let go (and I'm not speaking verbally or psychically). ...A screaming match is never the intended outcome, but what do you think someone is trying to say when they're engaged? "I'm yelling at you because I love you" From parents and their children to married couples. ...And third, some people don't belong together alone in the same room.

[KeoNecra]

@medinaarm It's not appropriate to link yelling at a family member to yelling at your partner. They are NOT family. They can choose to pick up and leave at any sign of disrespect. It's not smart to be so enthralled in commitment that family members get attached to the relationship as well. Yelling is what you do to disobedient children not an adult whom you respect. If I disagree with my bf, I don't yell. He's a smart person who's clearly capable of comprehending a message through discussion.

[nlle043]

Keo is growing up and in a relationship ;P Another good advice video as usual!

[KeoNecra]

@nlle043 Thank you! 8)

[TFv052]

What a LUCKY dude..LOL

[KeoNecra]

@TFv052 I think I'm the lucky one ^_^

[ikimus]

Aww thanks so much for the advice! I'm currently seeing someone and so far we don't fight or anything like that. Everythings going really well with her, hopefully its worth it and it was meant ot be. <3 ^.^

[KeoNecra]

@ikimus 0o0o0h I hope things are meant to be for you as well. Good luck 8) and remember communication is key

[Churchingy]

are u dating your bestfriend?? hehe cuz u said that your partner should be like your bestfriend xD just wondering ;P

[KeoNecra]

@Churchingy Yes I am :)

[Churchingy]

@KeoNecra awww that guy must be lucky then...i wish i could date my bestfriend(girl) but naww...girls say im to nice >.<

[pinkee12491]

preach this<3

[KeoNecra]

@pinkee12491 <3

[bubbabrand]

hard to believe some people dont get this

[KeoNecra]

@bubbabrand I think it's the whole "language" barrier. If you excel in english, it's best not to date someone who isn't.

[slyline17]

Thank you for saying things that I personally believe!

As always love your videos ^__^ I look forward to your video~

[KeoNecra]

@slyline17 I'm glad you believe in respecting yourself and your partner :) New videos more often, I promise

[quikieemart]

amen.

[KeoNecra]

@quikieemart :)

[mercilessgladiator]

wait...what!??? u have a boyfriend!??! NOOOOOOOOO!!!

[KeoNecra]

@mercilessgladiator it had to happen sooner or later LOL. you'll still be my fave commenter of all time. :)

[pinkee12491]

@KeoNecra EXCUSEEEE ME! LOL. :D

[JullianIsKool]

@KeoNecra Whattt he's your favorite!@!??? lol jkin ^_^

[KeoNecra]

@JullianIsKool i can have more than one! 8)

[mercilessgladiator]

u are adorable! I am in love with u :D

[KeoNecra]

@mercilessgladiator <33