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  • Nice use of Prince "I Hate u"..

  • LOVE THIS!

  • *Long, deep and drawn out sigh*

  • HOW CAN I LOSE A LOVE I NEVER HAD?

  • I 'd like to thank you Mary, for helping me lettin' ít go...

  • I was going through a divorce when this song/ album came out.. many of teary nights. LOVE LOVE LOVE this song

  • I know she was singing about KC, but now who's got that shine and look who's walking around with jacked up teeth. Karma's a bitch, aint it?

  • @miecy2miecy LMFAO!!!!!!!! :)

  • And Mary, if you're ever looking at this comment, if you ever come back in another life, "Can I marry you" Pleeeeeeeeeeeeassseeeeeeee????­"

  • @BermudaEntrepreneur...Your 2 funny! But you may have to get in line...sure your sentiments are shared by many! Have you received my reply to your message detailing the "MJB Live at the House of Blues" in LA?

  • @surenuffright1 Yeah, I just looked it up on amazon. I may have to somehow rip it so I can jam to it at work. I don't know how to rip dvds yet. Thanks.

    Well, if I can't marry her. Can she be my personal sleezy dominatrix for about an hour?

    "Yes ma'm. No mam! Yes ma'm, I've been a naughty boy and I deserve to be punished! *SMACK* OUCH!!!

  • @BermudaEntrepreneur....LMAO!.­...You sure an hour will be sufficient??? Now there's somethin' to think about! ~ Depends on how far your mind can travel within it's imagination! ~ I'm just sayin'! LOL!...

    Probably find instructions on 'ripping dvd's' on the net. Good luck, hope you find it! Again...cause you gonna love this concert! ;)

  • I have the album somewhere in the house. I can send you a copy when I find it.

  • I have the album somewhere in the house. I can send you a copy when I find it.

  • @liksha78 I got it. Thanks anyway.

  • Sorry @BermudaEntreprenuer....think the concert & release date above is incorrect. Believe the performance I'm referring to may have taken place between 2004 - 2006! I have this DVD and it says 2006...but could be a print error! My apologies! If interested check between that time frame!

  • @surenuffright1 Ok. i don't know that version or dvd. But there was a version on youtube where Mary J Blige was singing LIVE in a blue dress and doing scat vocals with the guitar player. That was soooooooooooooooooo bad ass. I used to bump that at work. Youtube removed it due to copyright infrigement. Is it that one?

  • WOW !!! I LOVE THIS SONG :)

  • Best song ever

  • This should've been on her upcoming My Life II album since she sampled that same run from the first My Life album - love this song!! It sounds so live.

  • MARY YOU WILL NEVER KNOW HOW MANY NIGHTS THIS SONG GOT ME BY!!!!! SIS YOU IS ON BAD LADY. ALWAYS HAVE BEEN ALWAYS WILL BE!!!! LOVE YOU

  • Yo Mary will have you crying and in your feelings.... I look up to Mary, her older music was beyond marvelous. The truth she put into this joint is crazy i mean "My Life" is my favorite album but this song just made the "Mary" CD one of the reasons I loved that album too.... This and No Happy Holidays. "I gotta wake up and stop living in dream" yes Mary sannnnnnnng

  • They had a live version to this song. It was even more intense than this. Does anyone know where I can find it?

  • @BermudaEntrepreneur....Mary J. performed live at the House of Blues in LA back in 2006. This performance was videotaped and is available on DVD...a intimate evening....'Mary J. Blige ~ Live at the House of Blues'. She tears this song up! And if you like 'The Love I Never Had'....you gonna love every song she puts down!...the whole performance...WICKED....I say~

  • 4:43 REALLY?

  • I needed to hear this....

  • Thanks Mary 4 this song.  I really needed this right now.

  • this is my shit too

    its deep!

  • This is one of Mary best songs ever!

  • ***cry****

  • I use to cray to this!

  • This is my JAM!

  • 1998..this song helped ease the pain..and still does! MJB sings to my soul.

  • this woman is so beautiful, te wrdz 2 her music beautiful n true<3

  • this should've been released on single. i have a real problem with her management team. all of her albums since '99 could've been bigger (well, sales & popularity-wise) but it doesn't seem like her team picks the best tracks 2 promote her albums. this is one of her alltime gr8est, hands down. yet most of her fans have never heard this.

  • @htownhomie06 You are SO right!!!!! The Mary album was a great artistic piece!!! SHe used a lot of live bands for several songs, inclucind this one! This is a CLASSIC song

  • mmmmmmmmm....

  • wow,real good this song

  • Loved it when after pouring out her heart over the song, she lets out a sob. Great song.

  • She IS my favorite singer not just because of her voice, but because she is so honest in her music, it's a story in every song that she opens up and share with us, this paticular song is where I am right now, and I have heard it so many times, but it's deeper now, but it inspires me to wake up and move on, as usual thank you Mary!

  • 5 ppl gotta laugh to keep from crying

  • Damn I cant believe my comment has 50 likes...I appreicate yall like something that was REAL from my heart!!!...

  • Nice Melody and Lyrics. Classic! She Should Of Made A Video Out Of This Song.

  • thank you mary for changing my life with your music

  • better wake up and stop living in a dream.............smh

  • I just wanted to come back here and say wooow and thank you to everybody who responded to my post about this song this song and singer is just proof that music can really bring one back to life when they have thought everything has died. Keep it going everybody and keep it livin for 2011!

  • everybody needs someone to love and i know that it true and i know that it u i dont understand why u cant be my man so id better wake up and stop livin in a dream yes id better wake up cause i cant lose the love i never had so id better wake up as painful as it seem yes id better wake up ohhh love i can not lose the love i never had....

  • Love this song, Mary keep doing you!!

  • great artist and great song

  • what do i have to lose? Oh i think a little bit more than youuu! AND I DOUBT YOU WILL SEE THINGS CLEARRLY BEFORE IT'S TOO LA -ATE!!! CAUSE EVERYBODY NEED SOMEONE TO LOOOVE!!

  • @stylist203 That verse is the tear jerker for me!

  • I wish I would of gave James a chance,you told me Your sis or mom told me he was a good man Miss you gys on the road t Will see you !!!!!!!!!!!Happy Thanksgiving.Susan from Saginaw

  • "i understand that you are leaving, please don't leave here without me babe, cuz i think i might go insane"

  • which album is this from?

  • @alteri this is from her 1999 "Mary" album

  • JIMMY JAM & TERRI LEWIS BRING OUT THE BEST IN EVERY ARTIST THEY WORK WITH!

  • why cant u by my man?

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  • this is the ONE song that always kept my head in the real world when it came to relationships, and honesty. And I too, thank Mary for always keeping it real in her music and appealing to the hurt, confused and crushed people of the world like I have ONCE been. :)

  • oh unbelievable played!!!! there's CHRIS DAVE . . thats shit...

  • CHILLS! listen and hear the words people.

  • Mary def. should do another album like this. i can listen to it all of the way through

  • This is one of my favorite songs. I absolutely love Mary and this song. I definetly cried to this song too and aint afraid to admit it

  • And If The Words Of This Song Dont Speak My Life Then I Dont Know What Else Does! I Love Mary For Her Pure Honesty Mixed With Soulful Grace and Effortless Realness.

  • So had wake up 7yrs in but guess what not living in a dream today doing better then ever my hair has even grown back mary is the truth

  • feeling this song.............this here is deepppp,even tough we need love-don`t be a door mat..wake up!!

  • oh mary....(sob) thank you....i listened to this song and just pulled my tattered pride back together and covered myself..i dont want to be bitter and lonely..let me love me first.

  • being in love with some one who won't leave some one for you is a mess and it hurts a lil bit more everyday you let it happen......i was looking for the perfect song to push me away and give me strength and this one screams it out for me :) love it.

  • Played this song till I couldnt play it no more...gotta get all of MJB cd again ...and again...and again...hell

  • the best!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • THE BEST BREAK-UP SONG EVER!!!!!!!!!!

  • Singing the words to this song out loud is real therapy and helps you realize that if it was meant to be it would have been. But God, obviously did not have that person as a lifetime person in your life so don't be afaid to let go~you can't lose the love you never had!

  • This is the perfect song for my current situation. He says he loves me, but actions always speak way louder than words. And I can't lose the love that was never mine in the first place.

  • @honiekisses I know that's right. Stay strong girly :)

  • One of the greatest Mary songs ever

  • DOes anybody have the 1st run edition of no more drama with the "love" song think it was track 2 and crazy games track 3

  • i feel like this wit my past relationships we as woman have to love god and our selves first trust me i pray everyday for that unconditional love

  • i love this song Mary i going through something just like this right now and i hurt but i no i have to wake up and realize that if he wanted me then nothing would stand in his way no excuses

  • This is one of my all time favorites. This is the first time I had heard a live band on one of her Albums...............No one does it like Mary.

  • qoood sonq!

  • you have no idea how much this song describes the exact thing Im going through this very moment,

  • this song is so true she tells a story that most of us go through on the regular

  • Man did this song give me an awakening that was well needed in 99'...I love you Mary!!!

  • Mary this songs makes me cry everytime i hear it when im playing thIS song in front of ppl i try to hold back my tears but its hard."I HAVE TO LAUGH TO KEEP FROM CRYING"....even though Im a man we have feelings too and when u thought you had a LOVE and u realize you didnt it sucks....This person is still on my mind as I write this but this song helped me realize that i have to WAKE UP AND STOP LIVING IN A DREAM..thanks Mary for the years of music thats talks to the soul

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  • This means EVERYTHING to me right now,i'll listen to this everyday allday if i have to!

  • I love it very much

  • I <3 this song, my fav to sing in the shower...haha...I don't care who is home...I belt it out! ~  I think it has more soul in it than any other song she's ever done, and that says a lot!!

  • @sugarbabie101 me too! I get horse! lol

  • Damn Mary Mary one of the best songs EVER! I heard this when I was going through a real messy break up and found out that I was hiv+ this song is the reason why I am living here today there's always a light at the end of that tunnel don't give up people!

  • aw hun..that's so wonderful! you have a purpose here on earth :) xo

  • @Pugartes

    Hey sweery live your life like it is golden being Hiv + doent have to change the fact that you can still enjoy everyday every sunrise and every sunset

    This song is so touching its just Amazing Mary J is 1 of my favourite Artists a true Queen

  • @Pugartes OMG I am so sorry to hear that. That takes courage to share that. HOLD ON DO NOT GIVE UP! STAY STRONG

  • @Pugartes inspiring if you can make it through that i can make it through whatever keep your head up positives wishes and praises always...

  • @Pugartes - it is hard! i have had several ppl in my fam who have already passed on because of the ordeal with HIV/AIDS. Keep the faith and God will work it out. But i do understand the other part, this song helped me through a bad divorce. and since then life has been so much better! keep ya head up hunny! MWAH!

  • @Pugartes When you come to the end of all the light you know! TWO OF ONE THINGS WILL HAPPEN: Either there will be something Solid in the darkness for YOU to STAND ON or YOU will be taught how to FLY!

  • ii feel yahh mary.... i feel yah. if yu feel mary comment unda dhis... yahh feel meh...

  • the "Mary" album is so soulful and down to earth, this is her best album besides, "Share My World" and "Love and Life"!

  • time warp..breaking it down..love don't live hear no more..what I never had a chance to get next to..damn..reality check..don't sign u away..it just gives u ur walking papers..2sign ..seal..and deliver..chow

  • wow......fa male questa, ma è davvero stupenda ;-)

  • i keep asking myself why so much pain in loving you???why do i think that without you baby i cant go on anywhere....it hurts my soul to feel my tears keep on faling and you to turn your back on me....why???was it realy nothing??did i mean this little to you baby???????maybe is better for bouth to let go,and find our way true life with someone else....nice song i dedicate it to my loved one that is thinking about living after 3 years becouse he is to stuborn...

  • "I gotta learn to keep from crying" "as painful as it seems"<<<,TOO REAL

  • i have always wondered why, why i can't live without you babe, and im longing to be your lady, i understand that you are leaving, please don't leave here without me babe, cause i think i might go insane

  • YES I BETTA WAKE UP!

  • Yes i betta wake up cuz i cant lose da love i never had....dats my song i can relate to dat song real good....

  • This is BAAAAD! When did it come out and what album is it on?

  • It was on the Mary CD. The one where she finally showed her scar on the cover.

  • Its on the mary album

  • its 4rm the "Mary" album..the one wit,"All that I can say," "Deep inside," "Give me you," & "Your Child" This my favorite song off of this album..i listen 2 it all the time seriously!!!!

  • One of her best! Wow!

  • I LOVE THIS SONG! Love you Mary!

  • The second woman's theme song

  • its the first im hearin this and i love it

  • moma always told us you cant miss what you never had!

  • the break down on this song is siiiicccccccc!

  • love it!!! thanks for posting...

  • love this song

  • this is my shit right here!!!!!

  • Her vocals are flawless!

  • Sorry, but it's 'As an educator...' Just thought you should know if you're teaching others.

  • As a Educator, recently dating a parent, this song describes my situation to a T. I can't believe how Mary captured my feeling 100% despite the time frame. This song came out much earlier then my situation but it is so relevant.

  • This song makes me burst into tears..it reminds me of this dood i liked for 4 years..and finally realizing its never gona happen..to top it off he was a great friend..

  • i can defanitley relate

  • That was the numbe 1 thack on the Cd in my opion

  • i agree!!!! i hate that it was overlooked though

  • recently i listened to this song and i cried for a minute which suprised me cause i dont cry. i feel like she knew what i felt at the time. this is one of my favorites from her

  • Sometimes you have to let a man come around. When you say that we can handle commitment, what could be happening is that his feelings may not be as strong as yours yet. If you make a man feel obligated just because you have feelings, it's only natural for him to back off. We are more likely to handle our responsibilities with ease when it doesn't feel like we didn't have a choice. Enjoy the ride and give us the time to come to terms that we really want to be with you.

  • This lady is FINE

  • U HAVE TO WAKE UP

  • this song is sooooooooooooooooo true!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • CALSSIC!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!­

  • Thanks for sharing

  • this help me get over my ex

  • dis is my jam.

  • this song is so tru i &hearts; it

  • Mary was her best album - so much life in that album

  • THE JAM FO SHO! LOVE MARY J THE QUEEN

  • what is the name of this album, anyone remember

  • The album was just called "MARY" IT ROCKED!

  • Damn I forgot about this

  • newgirlfriend,....girl i am gonna kick your butt!

    This is my jam!!!

    this song has sooo much power in it.

    whenever i am in a really bad mood i puts this on and shed me a couple and go on.

  • from 4:54 and on is FIRE!!!!!!

  • this is the first time i ever heard this.This joint is hot.

  • I've never heard this before either, and I must say that this is the jam. I love Mary's music, because she knows how to deliver. I can always feel where she's coming from.

  • i miss cruently this Mary J. Blige. After this release she dropped her style

  • Mary is just the realest.

  • Thanks for sharing this song. When I bought this album when it first came out I was in love with a guy that d@mn sure didn't want me. This song helped me get through it. Thanks for the memories because my husband now is a better husband than he could have ever been...

  • honey child, i know what u mean about being in love with a guy that didn't want u because that's the problem i'm dealing with right now. i love him so much & just don't know how i'm gonna get over him. =(

  • Girl just stay strong and have this song on REPEAT!!! Know that there is someone out there for you who will want you just as much as you want him. God bless! :)

  • you will in time!! time heals all wounds. gain knowledge from your ordeal and know one day you will find that special someone who will share you the feelings you'll have for them!! good luck

  • i feel u iam in a situation i been with my man 4 8yrs and to find out he's gettin married someone else its hard to get over someone when you love them just remember there are brite dayz ahead i cry everyday and pray i let go now cuz this time next year he'll be married so keep ya head up babygirl

  • this is from the mary album. the one where she shows the scar she has on the cover. this album got me through a really hard time. luv ya mary!!!

  • Man I luv this song this is the first I ever heard of it,,, somebody tell me what cd is this on

  • Its on the album MARY

  • omg this song is so true I YOU LOVE MARY

  • This is my favorite MJB song, hand's down. I was 18 when that album came out. It turned me into a bona fide fan!

  • This woman is my IDOL 4 life... She is soo influential 2 all ppl particularly African American women. Her talent his unmatched and her growth as a woman is incredible.

  • You listen to this when u at ur lowest and it brings u back up

  • this my favorite MJB song; she gave it to you on this one...The Mary album as well was a masterpiece!

  • I played this song so many times when i bought this album(which in my opinion was her best to date) I LOOOVVEEE THIS SONG, you could not tell me i wasnt Mary in the mirror

  • i saw in concent in 2000 she song this song from her heart ''mary keep letting these people know''

  • When she sings this song live you feel what she is saying, I luv it!!!

  • OMG I love it

  • tell em mary sing it girl!!!!

  • Girlfriend I love Mary J. B.

  • Yes this my jam.

  • 5 stars!

  • Next to the "My Life" album, this is her best one by far....at least to me anyway.

  • Doesn't get any better than this! MJB @ her finest..

  • this is so tru to heart.....i feel ya gurl

  • THE GREATEST SONG. EVER!!!!!

  • in my top 3 of mary j songs of all time i believe

  • Love this song. It grows on you.