Hay let me know if you would want someone to do an ask a wheelchair guy. Cuz I would so do that; I could give like the dude's perspective while you give the girl's obviously lol. I just want someon to tell me to do it so I actualy have a reason to. ^_^
Way back in college (mid 90s), we were trying to reform the union constitution and some of the exec wanted to replace "students with disabilities" with "students with different abilities", because it "sounds nice". I thought they should ask someone who's paralysed what's nice about that. I got together with the SWD officer (hearing impaired) and got it amended back in the general meeting. He said those guys had no idea what it's like to be disabled.
I find this is common among progressive folks - I do appreciate the thought, but I'd rather not have people always stumbling over what to label me. PWD is fine.
Particularly when it's a name for a service which people have to find somehow, and someone needing help with their disability might not recognise the "different abilities" label. Actually I was at Aberystwyth and there were no wheelchair users there then because of the steep hills and lack of lifts (there was one amputee). I found the attitude gormless; I thought, "hello, it's not meant to sound nice, it's meant to tell the people it's there to help that it's there!".
I dont care what term is used, unless of course its being an ignorant ass. I just hate when there is that awkward pause or stutter while saying it. Like instead of letting the conversation flow when they use, handicap, disabled, paralyzed, what ever theres always that pause like should I say that and to me thats awkward.
My friend Dave uses the word cripple for himself. When someone is having some difficulties walking do to some temporary thing he uses the term crippleitis. The ragged edge magazine uses the term crip. I personally have the most issues with terms people use to be PC. 2 of my most hated are special and handycapable. I am autistic I am not "special". I have recently started using a wheelchair. I wouldn't mind being called a cripple by the right person, like my friend Dave.
I dont mind gimp and cripple at all if they are used in the right context, like my friends call my van the gimp mobile, and my boyfriend calls me his cutie cripple, but that's just our weird relationship!
my advice to anyone is to just ask the person who uses the wheelchair what they prefer! although if someone asked me that i would probably just say "whatever you want!"
I've generally gone with "whatever you want" as well, although I've seen that turn bad as well, when someone thinks that we know each other well enough to whip out the inappropriate minority-specific naughty words. This video (actually the whole series) was more aimed at non-disabled people who don't know anyone in a chair or having a disability who might have questions -t hough it certainly didn't turn out that way!
yeah me and my girl have that to. i love to see her smile i could care less if she is whellchair bound or not myself she is a hell of a woman. we have sooo much fun with it though. i love her so much i wouldnt know what to do without her.
Great Vid Chiky ... i prefer the term "has a physical impairment" oh yes im born with SB i use to be quite mobile but as i got older my mobility got less ... life is great thou!!! i wouldn't change a thing. :D keep rockin!
The problem with your logic is that you haven't sat down with all the other folks with disabilities and asked "O.K. guys, what are we gonna call ourselves?". Handicapped is a descriptive term. You may not like it but it's there. Some people don't like it when people call them black but others get furious at being called "african american"! What do we call them? I don't mean to come down on you but the terms you prefer are your own opinion. This is where political correctness fails.
handicapped actually is not a descriptive term - see the video - it's a term that's socially bound and descriptive of a historical population that no longer really exists today in the West. This is why many people suggest that disabled or "person with a disability" is more descriptive on that front.
And I admitted in the video (or meant to!) that it is all subjective anyway. This is what I prefer to be called, and many others I know.
But hey, thanks for your viewpoint. I share your frustration regarding PC naming. Even the more ridiculous terms in the disability community, such as "differently abled" can be really over the top. it would be great for any community if people could agree on one name, but language is plastic - meanings change over time, and especially for marginalized populations, those names can be abused or used as perjorative terms, ie "retarded."
Good Show Girl, Keep It Up w/more Volumes to watch. To the newly disabled..Beware of suppliers who see themselves as beneficiaries but are "robbin' hoods" in disguise. They hang out in hospital corridors looking for chair parts.
No one ever thinks about the fact that we are so short that we can't be seen when we go behind vehicles. The fact is the disabled parking spaces are closer because we need the extra space at the ends and so we don't get run over passing behind vehicles where people can't see us. BTW great videos!
My question is: I'll be making a trip to the East Coast (NYC) this December. I know I'll probably have to swap out my thin Kenda tires for some wider ones with more traction, but I'd be grateful for any other tips or tricks for getting around in the snow with my manual chair. Thanks!
(Had to break the comment down to fit.) I've recently started using a chair for long distances. I'm still getting used to dealing with people's attitudes, doors, curbs, and the stares. The stares still bother me more than I'd like to admit.
My question is: I'll be making a trip to the East Coast (NYC) this December. I know I'll probably have to swap out my thin Kenda tires for some wider ones with more traction, but I'd be grateful for any other tips or tricks for getting around in the snow with my manual chair. Thanks!
I visited it, yes. It was a Saturday morning visit and I made the mistake of exploring that building (called the Brown building or something?).
I thought you looked familiar. Coincidentally, I was talking to my SFU friend about something while looking at this video; I connected the dots soon after he mentioned SFU.
I like your idea of "ask a wheelchair girl" a lot. Not a bad way to start off. I've got a suggestion (posting it in a separate comment due to Youtube's comments' size limits)
I dunno about you, but I've been approached by people who think I "need help" simply because I'm stopped on the street somewhere (even if I just stopped to change my iPod song or something). (con't. in following comment)
And then there are some who would decide to "help" without even asking if I need it. In other words, people who are well-meaning but don't know that if we need help, we'd ask for it (and instead they become over-"helpful").
Again, I'm not sure if that's just me, but if you feel that's a good topic for the second video... :)
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You are the most beautiful crippled piece of handi-crap shit I have ever seen in my life!
What? You think you're special? I'm going to treat you the same way I treat everyone else.
Stop taking all the good parking spaces, you retard. Its not like your legs are going to get tired walking from the back of the parking lot. YOU ARE IN A FUCKING CHAIR, DUMBASS!
Hay let me know if you would want someone to do an ask a wheelchair guy. Cuz I would so do that; I could give like the dude's perspective while you give the girl's obviously lol. I just want someon to tell me to do it so I actualy have a reason to. ^_^
coolguy815 2 years ago
Way back in college (mid 90s), we were trying to reform the union constitution and some of the exec wanted to replace "students with disabilities" with "students with different abilities", because it "sounds nice". I thought they should ask someone who's paralysed what's nice about that. I got together with the SWD officer (hearing impaired) and got it amended back in the general meeting. He said those guys had no idea what it's like to be disabled.
IndigoJo 2 years ago
I find this is common among progressive folks - I do appreciate the thought, but I'd rather not have people always stumbling over what to label me. PWD is fine.
josiejose 2 years ago
Particularly when it's a name for a service which people have to find somehow, and someone needing help with their disability might not recognise the "different abilities" label. Actually I was at Aberystwyth and there were no wheelchair users there then because of the steep hills and lack of lifts (there was one amputee). I found the attitude gormless; I thought, "hello, it's not meant to sound nice, it's meant to tell the people it's there to help that it's there!".
IndigoJo 2 years ago
Awesome video
WheelchairDude1990 2 years ago
I dont care what term is used, unless of course its being an ignorant ass. I just hate when there is that awkward pause or stutter while saying it. Like instead of letting the conversation flow when they use, handicap, disabled, paralyzed, what ever theres always that pause like should I say that and to me thats awkward.
egkg75 2 years ago
hey, thanks for giving us a voice.
peace!
Jay
jaywheeler08 3 years ago
My friend Dave uses the word cripple for himself. When someone is having some difficulties walking do to some temporary thing he uses the term crippleitis. The ragged edge magazine uses the term crip. I personally have the most issues with terms people use to be PC. 2 of my most hated are special and handycapable. I am autistic I am not "special". I have recently started using a wheelchair. I wouldn't mind being called a cripple by the right person, like my friend Dave.
purplemutantas 3 years ago
Ask a Wheelchair Girl, if you really think about it should be Ask a Girl in a Wheelchair :-)
wheelieblind 3 years ago
HA! I can't believe you are the first person to point that out! You are right!
It just doesn't have the same ring to it...
josiejose 3 years ago
hey there! thanks for the video.
I dont mind gimp and cripple at all if they are used in the right context, like my friends call my van the gimp mobile, and my boyfriend calls me his cutie cripple, but that's just our weird relationship!
my advice to anyone is to just ask the person who uses the wheelchair what they prefer! although if someone asked me that i would probably just say "whatever you want!"
check out my profile josiejose!
lindsaybovshow 4 years ago
I've generally gone with "whatever you want" as well, although I've seen that turn bad as well, when someone thinks that we know each other well enough to whip out the inappropriate minority-specific naughty words. This video (actually the whole series) was more aimed at non-disabled people who don't know anyone in a chair or having a disability who might have questions -t hough it certainly didn't turn out that way!
josiejose 3 years ago
yeah me and my girl have that to. i love to see her smile i could care less if she is whellchair bound or not myself she is a hell of a woman. we have sooo much fun with it though. i love her so much i wouldnt know what to do without her.
mysubsbang 3 years ago
Great Vid Chiky ... i prefer the term "has a physical impairment" oh yes im born with SB i use to be quite mobile but as i got older my mobility got less ... life is great thou!!! i wouldn't change a thing. :D keep rockin!
Maffu30 4 years ago
can i c ur chair i have one for my scoliosis
westcredit 4 years ago
The problem with your logic is that you haven't sat down with all the other folks with disabilities and asked "O.K. guys, what are we gonna call ourselves?". Handicapped is a descriptive term. You may not like it but it's there. Some people don't like it when people call them black but others get furious at being called "african american"! What do we call them? I don't mean to come down on you but the terms you prefer are your own opinion. This is where political correctness fails.
therealmadwombat 4 years ago
handicapped actually is not a descriptive term - see the video - it's a term that's socially bound and descriptive of a historical population that no longer really exists today in the West. This is why many people suggest that disabled or "person with a disability" is more descriptive on that front.
And I admitted in the video (or meant to!) that it is all subjective anyway. This is what I prefer to be called, and many others I know.
josiejose 4 years ago
But hey, thanks for your viewpoint. I share your frustration regarding PC naming. Even the more ridiculous terms in the disability community, such as "differently abled" can be really over the top. it would be great for any community if people could agree on one name, but language is plastic - meanings change over time, and especially for marginalized populations, those names can be abused or used as perjorative terms, ie "retarded."
josiejose 4 years ago
Hey you...
How about 'can't stop without brakes?'
Like your stuff. I'll be back.
misterstogy 4 years ago
Good Show Girl, Keep It Up w/more Volumes to watch. To the newly disabled..Beware of suppliers who see themselves as beneficiaries but are "robbin' hoods" in disguise. They hang out in hospital corridors looking for chair parts.
deft10 4 years ago
arent you jus cute as a button
knowlife 4 years ago
call me anything but "physically challanged"
i hate that stitty label, i know what i can do physically, its a mental challange every day. be dependent on people to do mthings 4 u sucks.
hamslice15164 4 years ago
hi, can i make you frieand?
i from malaysia
norwis 4 years ago
No one ever thinks about the fact that we are so short that we can't be seen when we go behind vehicles. The fact is the disabled parking spaces are closer because we need the extra space at the ends and so we don't get run over passing behind vehicles where people can't see us. BTW great videos!
KimAndSophie 4 years ago
My question is: I'll be making a trip to the East Coast (NYC) this December. I know I'll probably have to swap out my thin Kenda tires for some wider ones with more traction, but I'd be grateful for any other tips or tricks for getting around in the snow with my manual chair. Thanks!
jellypxe 4 years ago
Great idea for a video log. :)
(Had to break the comment down to fit.) I've recently started using a chair for long distances. I'm still getting used to dealing with people's attitudes, doors, curbs, and the stares. The stares still bother me more than I'd like to admit.
jellypxe 4 years ago
My question is: I'll be making a trip to the East Coast (NYC) this December. I know I'll probably have to swap out my thin Kenda tires for some wider ones with more traction, but I'd be grateful for any other tips or tricks for getting around in the snow with my manual chair. Thanks!
jellypxe 4 years ago
...and a thumbs-down vote to Grdgome...there. Good video though. You basically said a lot that needed to be said.
(I just realized that you're the same person I emailed a while back about SFU's death ramp. Small world...)
starletrealm 4 years ago
Holy cow! such a small world! you used to go to SFU, or visited at one point, right?
josiejose 4 years ago
I visited it, yes. It was a Saturday morning visit and I made the mistake of exploring that building (called the Brown building or something?).
I thought you looked familiar. Coincidentally, I was talking to my SFU friend about something while looking at this video; I connected the dots soon after he mentioned SFU.
I like your idea of "ask a wheelchair girl" a lot. Not a bad way to start off. I've got a suggestion (posting it in a separate comment due to Youtube's comments' size limits)
starletrealm 4 years ago
I've got an idea for the second part:
I dunno about you, but I've been approached by people who think I "need help" simply because I'm stopped on the street somewhere (even if I just stopped to change my iPod song or something). (con't. in following comment)
starletrealm 4 years ago
And then there are some who would decide to "help" without even asking if I need it. In other words, people who are well-meaning but don't know that if we need help, we'd ask for it (and instead they become over-"helpful").
Again, I'm not sure if that's just me, but if you feel that's a good topic for the second video... :)
starletrealm 4 years ago
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You are the most beautiful crippled piece of handi-crap shit I have ever seen in my life!
What? You think you're special? I'm going to treat you the same way I treat everyone else.
Stop taking all the good parking spaces, you retard. Its not like your legs are going to get tired walking from the back of the parking lot. YOU ARE IN A FUCKING CHAIR, DUMBASS!
grdgome 4 years ago
sure, go for it. I am an equal-opportunity comment recipient.
I will however, ignore your comment with the same sort of vigor that I will pleasantly receive all the others.
Oh, and I'll also enjoy my parking space all the more. Thanks for making it more meaningful for me!
josiejose 4 years ago
informative! :-)
ralcus 4 years ago