I respect you so much for this video. I'm a 19 year old gay boy and my parents are okay with it, but I have known people who have been completely shut out and disowned by their parents, because they are gay. You're a great woman and you're kids are lucky to have you as a mother. This video made me smile. :]
@otepjakers Thank you so much! There is NOTHING wrong with you kids ok? Your parents are the product of THEIR upbringing. What ever happened to them with their own parents and grandparents has made them the way they are. Its not normal to give up or turn your back on your own child for fear of what other friends or family would think. LOSE the other family and friends, NOTHING is more important then your own flesh and blood :-)
Wish my parents were as open-minded as you, i do not think they would disown me, but i can tell they deffinetly would try to change me(they are curious of my sexuality). My mom because: 1.Her Religion 2. she wouldn't want to 'have a gay son' to hurt her reputation.
My Dad: purely homophobia...
You are so awesome<333 i wish everyone was as awesome as you.
@smartandstupid37 Trust me hon, I have plenty of faults but no one has ever accused me of not being tolerant of others or loving the people in my life. Im so sorry you have to deal with the pain and hurt of just being YOU! Hang in there but just know...when you fall in love with the right person? You'll have to be out about who you are and the ones who love you wont care, they will just love you!
@GMPNY I think that my parents might(infesis on might =/) tolerate my sexuallity, but i know my grandmother and grandfather will deffinetly either- 1. Ignore me completely, and basically disown me from their lives. 2. Try to 'change' me and hate me until i tell them i am what im not.
I would actually prefer them ignoring me over trying to change me, and i think them trying to change me would hurt more emotionally...but i know my parents deffinetly wouldnt be okay with it. =/
@smartandstupid37 Grandparents are soooooo old school but they MIGHT just fool you. The thing is, are you willing to chance it. you have to start out with asking if they would love you no matter what. See where it takes you. Just be careful to quit while a head if you SEE where the road a head gets rough. Bail out before you get to the point of no return but if you say it right, they could very well surprise you. Maybe worth the chance? :-)
@GMPNY I still highly doubt they wouldn't hate me for it, they admit they are homophobic, and bring up being against it nearly every time i see them...i really don't care if they hate me for it though, which makes me feel wrong, but if they hate me for who i am, it's their fault =3 not mine. I am just worried about how my grandmas perspective on the situation would effect my moms...and then my moms perspective would most likely effect my dads =/
@smartandstupid37 Here is exactly WHY they bring it up everytime they see you. FEAR of the unknown! They already know in their hearts ok or they wouldnt keep bringing it up. Sadly they are wishing you'd throw them a few crumbs of what they call hope that you are not gay because they are afraid you ARE and they fear the unknown of why it would mean, you being gay. Im not exactly sure why parents and grandparents are so afraid of it other than being selfish and I dont mean that in a harsh way. (N)
@smartandstupid37 *Continued...Selfish and scared for themselves cause either way YOU will survive but for some family? Time and life stands still when a loved one decides to come out because NOW, what do they tell the rest of the family or their friends about you? Well, they tell them you're great and they love you! NOTHING further need be said because its YOU and not them! YOU make your own choices now. If you lose your family then you never had them. (NEXT)
@smartandstupid37 YOU werent born into this world with a list of "what if's & exceptions." WE choose to have children because we want them. Once you make that choice? WE are your parents for the rest of OUR lives & let me throw in that we should love unconditionally. Yes parents and children will often disappoint one another & we can say so & then we just get on with it. Disowning your child is breaking the highest vow I can think of. You are entrusted to bring him or her into the world. (NEXT)
@smartandstupid37 There is no greater sin against a child than to walk away after raising them, than to walk away because of who they are or what they are because WE as a parent dont like that you arent a carbon copy of what WE think you should have been? NO! They literally sentence themselves to suffer for the rest of their lives because their pain now of walking away will NEVER leave them & they did it to themselves. Thats also one fear, knowing they might walk or threaten to. (N)
@smartandstupid37 My advice? Dont live in fear or the fear of "what if"? Its a headache & torment you live with daily. Thats why several who DO finally come out no matter how it turns out are suddenly relieved and have said they felt set free from the chains and weight of keeping who they are a secret. Thats not fair to YOU & obviously they suspect already from how they talk & thats not fair either. DON'T come out unless you are ready for the immediate fall out. After that there is healing.
@GMPNY Yeah ^_^ you're comments about it are really helpful, thanks for your time ^_^ I really don't deny/lie about who i am...but i still keep it a secret...mostly because im trying to make them realize that im not denying it, and im trying to have them catch on and make it easier when i do come out(easier for them), I love my parents/siblings to death =/ and i hope that they don't hate me for who i am when they do figure it out the truth...
@smartandstupid37 They wont hate you! Atleast Im almost positive your siblings wont. Slow and steady as she goes is the order of the day...you cant jump into anything too fast when it involves so many lives and personalities :-) Its not a race and there is no rush. I know you are not hiding who you are! Its self preservation and it also tells me how much your family means to you. I just hope they SEE your sacrifice and how much you do love them. You are a very good person. Write anytime!
@saulwilliams56 Thats terrible and my heart goes out to you AND to them because they are the ones losing out. Your heart was broke Im sure but it will heal. They know you are alive and lose out on the rest of your life because of "their feelings." One day they will be so sorry they werent more understanding and sadly it will be too late unless you're able to wait until they come to a proper understanding and beg for your forgiveness.
@rangergxi no body should effect your life. No body has the right to intrude on other peoples lives and feelings. If everyone lived their own lives what a great and happy world this would be but again,, like you say, there are a lot of stupid people in this world LOL For sure.
you aren't born with cerebral pulsy --> its due to oxygen deprivation before, during or after birth :D. Other examples are great though! And I love your view on parenthood! You are a wonderful person!
@extragjakovar Your job is to love them inspite of themselves. Show them how they raised you. You'll get your chance to point out they didnt do such a bad job but that they dropped the ball on their own feet along the line but that you're open to being "Family" no matter what. Unfortunately in most of these situations...(you), the child has to lead them. Its key to hold your temper, be sturdy & strong but not angry. They will SEE what a fabulous person they brought into this world! It's YOU!
You are amazing, anyone, child or adult would be blessed to have you in their life. I wish there were more people like you in this world. Thank you for being one of the amazing ones.
@RobNLynchburgVA I think there ARE a lot of me but so many people who are parents are closet supporters because of "what others might think?" I so F-Them! LOL Yes, I said that! Im of a certain age that I dont care and people need to start caring about their OWN and showing love and support. Friends die away, family is forever, make it the best that you can!
@LatinSoul89 Im Honored that you would say that :-) I was a School bus driver for 26 years, I met a LOT of lonely, unloved kids who just needed a hug. They ALL turned out to be quite amazing, with or without understanding parents. Even the ones who took a little longer to "find themselves" still keep in touch with me after all this time!
Some parents were amazing while others were an embarrassment to parenthood. NO ONE should ever care what their friends, family or neighbors think of the children YOU LOVE...live by that and your kids will adore you!
Awesome video Gail! I know I wouldn't and don't call people names based on the way they look or just "are" because that's the way there were born. Being disabled myself, I'm the last person in the world that should call someone a named based on those things. Now don't get me wrong, I'll call someone an idiot if they do something stupid to hurt some1 & know better but some1 who calls a person a named based on looks &/or natural personality are IDIOTS!
To some parents they're doing what they think is best for their child(ren). In fact I think it is the majority, but they also do it for themselves. Then there is a very scarece minority who just don't care and have no excuse!
They would look down on my mother. My nan looked down on her. My mother was abusive but also she is autistic. No one helped out, not even my nan.
Some people are engrosed with themselves they think they are doing the right thing no matter what! It's depressing!
Hi Rebecca, not all parents do this knowingly and not all parents are responsible. My wish would be for other family members to SEE things and get involved as hard as that would be it would be the right thing. Your Mom didnt have the parenting skills since she was autistic. Thats very sad indeed. Thank you for commenting! Good to have you back at YouTube!
this is very touching, i would do the same for my parents. my parents are of two different races, and back in the late 60's early 70's that was very hard to do, i get my strength from my parents.
Dave, I wanted to help you before but you said you use your own stuff. Id be happy to help ya. This video is over a year old before I even really knew how to edit. I brought it out of the moth balls because someone said it needed to be seen again so I shortened it from the 10 video it was. I ONLY use windows movie maker that comes on every computer for FREE. I have several tutorials if you are interested? Im not fancy cause I cant afford to buy programs to use like some other lucky ppl can!
I get the music FREE from a copyright free download site or I upload right from YouTubers who do their own singing or playing of music and edit it into mp3's and then edit it further to fit. It takes just minutes to do.
All kids start out normal ok? It depends on the parents they get, what these people turn them into I mean. My kids did talk back & I got to the bottom of the disrespect ASAP. I have spanked my kids, they often did the opposite of what I asked or wanted. Parents have to have the patience to reason with their kids & find out why they do these things. Very often its because they get no attention or something underlying is going on. Normal kids DO test us, EVERYDAY!
Its NOT always the childs fault that THEY have it so rough. Sometimes there is something wrong emotionally with the parent who doesnt know how to cope with a child who needs and deserves a lot of attention. The sad part is no one knows it or see's it and the child says nothing out of fear and then its too late. Sadly, these are the children who slip through the cracks and suffer for it. All your suffering will make you a better parent, trust me, that is so true.
As a parent, you will give better than you recieved. No one who has suffered as a child wants to be like the parent before them and we all want our kids to have better than what we had. Unfortunately children brought up in painful situations often have a hard time parenting but its not impossible, just put love FIRST and be patient, open and communicate. Always respect your children enough to let them talk while you listen. Let them finish a sentence.
Some parents dont get that children stop listening and turn off and tune out once they start their screaming as if you will hear them better if the volume is 20 times too loud. The only one hearing you then is the darn DOG! Very often, abused kids becoming adults have to forgive to let go of their past in order to move on and become the loving, caring, nurturing people they KNOW they can be. Love yourself so you can love others more than you ever had the chance to be loved in your own life.
Believe in YOU and others will respect like/love and believe in you as well. No matter who you grew up to be, what path your life took you down you can still be better than where you started from and thats a fact. YOU have the power, YOU can make it happen. YOU can be in total control so throw away the sadness, anger and horriffic memories and dont let them bind you any longer than they already have. Dont let bad memories hold you hostage. Free yourself to be YOU!
We all have inner demons, sadness, terrible memories. Not all of us but many of us. Some kids were luckier than others and skated through a "wonderful life." Many did not. The harshness of growing up often gives us the tools others never really aquire to carry on. Thanks for commenting!
Hey ...we just crossed posts on Zipster's "TP" post. I just wanted to let you know that you rock! Thank goodness, my mom accepted me for who I am nearly thirty years ago...I have many friends who were completely dis-owned by their own parents for being gay. I guess I was hoping that things were better these days, but it sounds like you've been seeing some disturbing things.
It NEVER fails to shock me when I see an adult scream fag or queer at a teen son or daughter. Then see into the eyes of the wounded teen and I say to myself, "This is someone THEY look up to for help, love and guidance and look DOWN while this person they love is abusing them!" Yeah, Ive seen a lot. Its uncalled for, totally!
thank you SO MUCH for this video! It shows how great person you are and that has to be respected! well I don't care if anybody call me FAG on youtube First because they close-minded and other reason is because here in UK Fag means a cigarette lol... so call me cigarette lol :P anyways! Thank You
Thanks and you are right, we dont cut the kids off. Not for anything. If they act like or do something you dont care for? You discuss it, everyone makes adnjusments or changes things to please one another, its NEVER a one way street, both or all I should say, have to YIELD once in a while to make things "passable" so you all can stay united as a family. Give and take.
@GMPNY Precisely. My parents raised me and my brother with a discipline and respect. My father always insisted on treating us like young people. He didn't speak down to us and even when I was small we would have mature discussions. Even now, when I came out as transgender, my family have communicated and we adjusted. Its about open communication, trust and honesty. That is a acheiveable and winning combination
Excellant! This is wonderful and how its supposed to be! Parents are supposed to support children so IF they have made the wrong decision there is no shame in asking for help or advice. You talk down to a kid or make them feel less than like a person, YOU are the last one they will ever come to for help further distancing themselves from family.
Truly, I AM the lucky one. My kids are both adults now and I consider them my best friends but even as we get older...we have to know when to give them space and still be a parent :-)
I didn't come out to my family until later in life, but when I did, none of them seemed to care. Nothing changed. Actually, my mother realized at that point, she would always be the most important woman in life! And believe me, my mom would have never got along with any woman I would have married! lol My problems were in school. I was called names, beat up, spit on, laughed at etc. But today, I look better and am much happier than the bullies who made my school years hell! -Steven-
Honestly, for a Mom its a win-win situation LOL All we want is for our kids to end up with someone who will love and honor them the rest of their lives and to be happy. Why make their lives miserable? I dont think kids should come out to their parents while they are in school but only after they move out and are on their own and dont have to be given a huge guilt trip for admitting they are gay. UNLESS they need help because of bullies, then by all means talk to your parents.
I think most parents or one of the two KNOWS if their child is gay. IM thinking how could you not? But then again, most parents are not involved in nearly every aspect of their kids lives. I was, I made sure I was a part of everything and I always had our home with the revolving door for all their friends. I wanted to see what was going on so I could better manage their upbringing.
I was fine with "Yeah bring them home, I'll have sandwiches ready." IF they brought friends home it was a relief cause I always KNEW where my kids were :-) I always wnated them to know it was ok to come home no matter what. It was simple, there were rules and absolute no-no's or there was answering for it. The other parents? Yeah, they were always too busy or "Not today, ask me another day." Another day never came. The ate, they swam, they had evening fires in the yard at my house.
I made it all available because that made it so easy for me to keep an eye on tham and their friends. My kids were lucky, most of their friends were pretty decent and they still have the same best friends as they did when they were kids. They all, still remember the hospitality too :-)
Many times,parents wear two hats,one while they are at home,and one while they are out among the public. Shame and stigma are traumatic for the child. Unconditional love is a rare and priceless commodity (although one would hope differently). The love that we all aspire to is universal...sometimes however,parents have a very difficult time demonstrating this love that is both comforting and respectful of their children's own emotional well-being.
That was so well said I cant even top it so Im just going to agree. Ive seen people in high positions literally turn their backs on thir son or daughter because "What would their guests or neighbors think?" The answer is, take the spotlight off of yourself. Your job and friends will be gone long before your child will, they are yours for a lifetime of love. My advice? Demonstrate it! :-)
I completely agree with you. Having grown up in a family that was "different" and can tell you that parental acceptance is of utmost importance. Most parents are accepting of their children. However, there are way too many who are not.
I was NEVER treated any differently from my siblings Gail, despite being disabled. My mother loves me unconditionally, as I love my two kids unconditionally. They grew up knowing they had that love no matter what. I'm behind you 100% on this one. How CAN you stop loving and wanting to protect your own kids. They were'nt born to be moulded into the person you think they should be. It saddens me that not all mothers/families feel this way.
You go GAIL! I'm right there with you on this issue. As parents it's our responsibility to give our kids the tools to make it and live in this rather opinionated and oftentimes cruel world. All too often parents will simply ignore the differences in their children. Ignorance is NOT bliss... and it's hurtful.
Oh and my first son, no longer with us, was Red-haired and had Down Syndrome. I loved him with all my heart and he's our angel! Love your kids because they are all gifts.
I respect you so much for this video. I'm a 19 year old gay boy and my parents are okay with it, but I have known people who have been completely shut out and disowned by their parents, because they are gay. You're a great woman and you're kids are lucky to have you as a mother. This video made me smile. :]
otepjakers 6 months ago
@otepjakers Thank you so much! There is NOTHING wrong with you kids ok? Your parents are the product of THEIR upbringing. What ever happened to them with their own parents and grandparents has made them the way they are. Its not normal to give up or turn your back on your own child for fear of what other friends or family would think. LOSE the other family and friends, NOTHING is more important then your own flesh and blood :-)
GMPNY 6 months ago
Wish my parents were as open-minded as you, i do not think they would disown me, but i can tell they deffinetly would try to change me(they are curious of my sexuality). My mom because: 1.Her Religion 2. she wouldn't want to 'have a gay son' to hurt her reputation.
My Dad: purely homophobia...
You are so awesome<333 i wish everyone was as awesome as you.
smartandstupid37 6 months ago
@smartandstupid37 Trust me hon, I have plenty of faults but no one has ever accused me of not being tolerant of others or loving the people in my life. Im so sorry you have to deal with the pain and hurt of just being YOU! Hang in there but just know...when you fall in love with the right person? You'll have to be out about who you are and the ones who love you wont care, they will just love you!
GMPNY 6 months ago
@GMPNY I think that my parents might(infesis on might =/) tolerate my sexuallity, but i know my grandmother and grandfather will deffinetly either- 1. Ignore me completely, and basically disown me from their lives. 2. Try to 'change' me and hate me until i tell them i am what im not.
I would actually prefer them ignoring me over trying to change me, and i think them trying to change me would hurt more emotionally...but i know my parents deffinetly wouldnt be okay with it. =/
smartandstupid37 6 months ago
@smartandstupid37 Grandparents are soooooo old school but they MIGHT just fool you. The thing is, are you willing to chance it. you have to start out with asking if they would love you no matter what. See where it takes you. Just be careful to quit while a head if you SEE where the road a head gets rough. Bail out before you get to the point of no return but if you say it right, they could very well surprise you. Maybe worth the chance? :-)
GMPNY 6 months ago
@GMPNY I still highly doubt they wouldn't hate me for it, they admit they are homophobic, and bring up being against it nearly every time i see them...i really don't care if they hate me for it though, which makes me feel wrong, but if they hate me for who i am, it's their fault =3 not mine. I am just worried about how my grandmas perspective on the situation would effect my moms...and then my moms perspective would most likely effect my dads =/
smartandstupid37 6 months ago
@smartandstupid37 Here is exactly WHY they bring it up everytime they see you. FEAR of the unknown! They already know in their hearts ok or they wouldnt keep bringing it up. Sadly they are wishing you'd throw them a few crumbs of what they call hope that you are not gay because they are afraid you ARE and they fear the unknown of why it would mean, you being gay. Im not exactly sure why parents and grandparents are so afraid of it other than being selfish and I dont mean that in a harsh way. (N)
GMPNY 6 months ago
@smartandstupid37 *Continued...Selfish and scared for themselves cause either way YOU will survive but for some family? Time and life stands still when a loved one decides to come out because NOW, what do they tell the rest of the family or their friends about you? Well, they tell them you're great and they love you! NOTHING further need be said because its YOU and not them! YOU make your own choices now. If you lose your family then you never had them. (NEXT)
GMPNY 6 months ago
@smartandstupid37 YOU werent born into this world with a list of "what if's & exceptions." WE choose to have children because we want them. Once you make that choice? WE are your parents for the rest of OUR lives & let me throw in that we should love unconditionally. Yes parents and children will often disappoint one another & we can say so & then we just get on with it. Disowning your child is breaking the highest vow I can think of. You are entrusted to bring him or her into the world. (NEXT)
GMPNY 6 months ago
@smartandstupid37 There is no greater sin against a child than to walk away after raising them, than to walk away because of who they are or what they are because WE as a parent dont like that you arent a carbon copy of what WE think you should have been? NO! They literally sentence themselves to suffer for the rest of their lives because their pain now of walking away will NEVER leave them & they did it to themselves. Thats also one fear, knowing they might walk or threaten to. (N)
GMPNY 6 months ago
@smartandstupid37 My advice? Dont live in fear or the fear of "what if"? Its a headache & torment you live with daily. Thats why several who DO finally come out no matter how it turns out are suddenly relieved and have said they felt set free from the chains and weight of keeping who they are a secret. Thats not fair to YOU & obviously they suspect already from how they talk & thats not fair either. DON'T come out unless you are ready for the immediate fall out. After that there is healing.
GMPNY 6 months ago
@GMPNY Yeah ^_^ you're comments about it are really helpful, thanks for your time ^_^ I really don't deny/lie about who i am...but i still keep it a secret...mostly because im trying to make them realize that im not denying it, and im trying to have them catch on and make it easier when i do come out(easier for them), I love my parents/siblings to death =/ and i hope that they don't hate me for who i am when they do figure it out the truth...
smartandstupid37 6 months ago
@smartandstupid37 They wont hate you! Atleast Im almost positive your siblings wont. Slow and steady as she goes is the order of the day...you cant jump into anything too fast when it involves so many lives and personalities :-) Its not a race and there is no rush. I know you are not hiding who you are! Its self preservation and it also tells me how much your family means to you. I just hope they SEE your sacrifice and how much you do love them. You are a very good person. Write anytime!
GMPNY 6 months ago
@GMPNY Okay =) gladly will, thanks again ^_^.
smartandstupid37 6 months ago
@GMPNY It's good to see someone who understands "UNCONDITIONAL LOVE."
mscubana 7 months ago
@mscubana Thank you and I honestly do!
GMPNY 7 months ago
I bet you are a great mom, I admire your strength in this lil video.
FilmsReView 8 months ago
Hehe, I always like seeing older people on the internet. It adds some intelect to a sometimes immature community. Thanks for speaking out on this.
ubertubered 10 months ago
@ubertubered Thank you if you really mean it because I really mean what I say :-)
GMPNY 10 months ago
as parents, our job is to love our kids and make sure that they have a happy life. :)
zitoh 1 year ago
i wish i had a mum like you, my parents disowned me when they found out i was gay
saulwilliams56 1 year ago
@saulwilliams56 Thats terrible and my heart goes out to you AND to them because they are the ones losing out. Your heart was broke Im sure but it will heal. They know you are alive and lose out on the rest of your life because of "their feelings." One day they will be so sorry they werent more understanding and sadly it will be too late unless you're able to wait until they come to a proper understanding and beg for your forgiveness.
GMPNY 1 year ago
Gays do not effect my life.. THUS! I do not care. :D It seems pretty simple...
I blame the bible and stupid people.
rangergxi 1 year ago
@rangergxi no body should effect your life. No body has the right to intrude on other peoples lives and feelings. If everyone lived their own lives what a great and happy world this would be but again,, like you say, there are a lot of stupid people in this world LOL For sure.
GMPNY 1 year ago
you aren't born with cerebral pulsy --> its due to oxygen deprivation before, during or after birth :D. Other examples are great though! And I love your view on parenthood! You are a wonderful person!
Fatechopper 1 year ago
thank you i wish my fam. would be open like that
extragjakovar 1 year ago
@extragjakovar Your job is to love them inspite of themselves. Show them how they raised you. You'll get your chance to point out they didnt do such a bad job but that they dropped the ball on their own feet along the line but that you're open to being "Family" no matter what. Unfortunately in most of these situations...(you), the child has to lead them. Its key to hold your temper, be sturdy & strong but not angry. They will SEE what a fabulous person they brought into this world! It's YOU!
GMPNY 1 year ago
You are amazing, anyone, child or adult would be blessed to have you in their life. I wish there were more people like you in this world. Thank you for being one of the amazing ones.
RobNLynchburgVA 1 year ago
@RobNLynchburgVA I think there ARE a lot of me but so many people who are parents are closet supporters because of "what others might think?" I so F-Them! LOL Yes, I said that! Im of a certain age that I dont care and people need to start caring about their OWN and showing love and support. Friends die away, family is forever, make it the best that you can!
GMPNY 1 year ago
Thank you so much for posting this. You are a beautiful person! :)
gayology101 1 year ago
@gayology101 Im not amazing...I'm MOM! Thank you for your kind words.
GMPNY 1 year ago
you made me cry. why cant more ppeople be like you, you are amazing.
LatinSoul89 1 year ago
@LatinSoul89 Im Honored that you would say that :-) I was a School bus driver for 26 years, I met a LOT of lonely, unloved kids who just needed a hug. They ALL turned out to be quite amazing, with or without understanding parents. Even the ones who took a little longer to "find themselves" still keep in touch with me after all this time!
GMPNY 1 year ago
Some parents were amazing while others were an embarrassment to parenthood. NO ONE should ever care what their friends, family or neighbors think of the children YOU LOVE...live by that and your kids will adore you!
GMPNY 1 year ago
Good on you Gail...
ThatAussieFamily 1 year ago
Love it! Really great video :)
abbynormal0ne 1 year ago
fav'd!
you have such a beautiful heart.......im so happy i found your channel!
jakluk4 1 year ago
Awesome video Gail! I know I wouldn't and don't call people names based on the way they look or just "are" because that's the way there were born. Being disabled myself, I'm the last person in the world that should call someone a named based on those things. Now don't get me wrong, I'll call someone an idiot if they do something stupid to hurt some1 & know better but some1 who calls a person a named based on looks &/or natural personality are IDIOTS!
civilwarcat 2 years ago
I agree 100% And being disables has nothing to do with someone behaving like an idiot :-) Those who judge do not matter,
Those who matter do not judge. Just remember that!
GMPNY 2 years ago
To some parents they're doing what they think is best for their child(ren). In fact I think it is the majority, but they also do it for themselves. Then there is a very scarece minority who just don't care and have no excuse!
They would look down on my mother. My nan looked down on her. My mother was abusive but also she is autistic. No one helped out, not even my nan.
Some people are engrosed with themselves they think they are doing the right thing no matter what! It's depressing!
RebeccaFarquharson 2 years ago
Hi Rebecca, not all parents do this knowingly and not all parents are responsible. My wish would be for other family members to SEE things and get involved as hard as that would be it would be the right thing. Your Mom didnt have the parenting skills since she was autistic. Thats very sad indeed. Thank you for commenting! Good to have you back at YouTube!
GMPNY 2 years ago
this is very touching, i would do the same for my parents. my parents are of two different races, and back in the late 60's early 70's that was very hard to do, i get my strength from my parents.
thedancetuber 2 years ago
girl you made me cry.what a great mom you are Gail.love you lots
PS.and your a great grandmother too.
itspunkieboy 2 years ago
Thank you! You are too kind and thanks also for sharing it with your friends. My wish is that it could get seen by all parents of ALL kids :-)
GMPNY 2 years ago
where do u get the music from???...how do you edit???....
DavesVideos313 2 years ago
Dave, I wanted to help you before but you said you use your own stuff. Id be happy to help ya. This video is over a year old before I even really knew how to edit. I brought it out of the moth balls because someone said it needed to be seen again so I shortened it from the 10 video it was. I ONLY use windows movie maker that comes on every computer for FREE. I have several tutorials if you are interested? Im not fancy cause I cant afford to buy programs to use like some other lucky ppl can!
GMPNY 2 years ago
I get the music FREE from a copyright free download site or I upload right from YouTubers who do their own singing or playing of music and edit it into mp3's and then edit it further to fit. It takes just minutes to do.
GMPNY 2 years ago
All kids start out normal ok? It depends on the parents they get, what these people turn them into I mean. My kids did talk back & I got to the bottom of the disrespect ASAP. I have spanked my kids, they often did the opposite of what I asked or wanted. Parents have to have the patience to reason with their kids & find out why they do these things. Very often its because they get no attention or something underlying is going on. Normal kids DO test us, EVERYDAY!
Im sorry you had it so bad :-(
GMPNY 2 years ago
Its NOT always the childs fault that THEY have it so rough. Sometimes there is something wrong emotionally with the parent who doesnt know how to cope with a child who needs and deserves a lot of attention. The sad part is no one knows it or see's it and the child says nothing out of fear and then its too late. Sadly, these are the children who slip through the cracks and suffer for it. All your suffering will make you a better parent, trust me, that is so true.
GMPNY 2 years ago
As a parent, you will give better than you recieved. No one who has suffered as a child wants to be like the parent before them and we all want our kids to have better than what we had. Unfortunately children brought up in painful situations often have a hard time parenting but its not impossible, just put love FIRST and be patient, open and communicate. Always respect your children enough to let them talk while you listen. Let them finish a sentence.
GMPNY 2 years ago
Some parents dont get that children stop listening and turn off and tune out once they start their screaming as if you will hear them better if the volume is 20 times too loud. The only one hearing you then is the darn DOG! Very often, abused kids becoming adults have to forgive to let go of their past in order to move on and become the loving, caring, nurturing people they KNOW they can be. Love yourself so you can love others more than you ever had the chance to be loved in your own life.
GMPNY 2 years ago
Believe in YOU and others will respect like/love and believe in you as well. No matter who you grew up to be, what path your life took you down you can still be better than where you started from and thats a fact. YOU have the power, YOU can make it happen. YOU can be in total control so throw away the sadness, anger and horriffic memories and dont let them bind you any longer than they already have. Dont let bad memories hold you hostage. Free yourself to be YOU!
GMPNY 2 years ago
We all have inner demons, sadness, terrible memories. Not all of us but many of us. Some kids were luckier than others and skated through a "wonderful life." Many did not. The harshness of growing up often gives us the tools others never really aquire to carry on. Thanks for commenting!
GMPNY 2 years ago
Wow Gail you should do more vlogs like this ,
totally lush , and true ;)
xx
ColdNova75 2 years ago
wonderful.
you are so right on.
bugsme10 2 years ago
Thanks for agreeing and also for stopping by :-)
GMPNY 2 years ago
Hey ...we just crossed posts on Zipster's "TP" post. I just wanted to let you know that you rock! Thank goodness, my mom accepted me for who I am nearly thirty years ago...I have many friends who were completely dis-owned by their own parents for being gay. I guess I was hoping that things were better these days, but it sounds like you've been seeing some disturbing things.
scandia61 2 years ago
It NEVER fails to shock me when I see an adult scream fag or queer at a teen son or daughter. Then see into the eyes of the wounded teen and I say to myself, "This is someone THEY look up to for help, love and guidance and look DOWN while this person they love is abusing them!" Yeah, Ive seen a lot. Its uncalled for, totally!
GMPNY 2 years ago
good one gail. spot on. children are forever.
DruSCarey 2 years ago
Thanks Dru :-)
GMPNY 2 years ago
Thank you for reposting, was nice to hear once again your openness and support. Wish all parents had your understanding and acceptance.
mishakailana 2 years ago
thank you SO MUCH for this video! It shows how great person you are and that has to be respected! well I don't care if anybody call me FAG on youtube First because they close-minded and other reason is because here in UK Fag means a cigarette lol... so call me cigarette lol :P anyways! Thank You
Love xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
MrLukasDiSparrow 2 years ago
Great video - Peace.
AxeMoose 2 years ago
You are a remarkable woman Gail, I love watching your videos and your grandkids will grow up to be wonderful young people.
When (if) I have kids, I would never dream of shunting them for however they are. They would me my children, end of.
grimreaper636 2 years ago
Thanks and you are right, we dont cut the kids off. Not for anything. If they act like or do something you dont care for? You discuss it, everyone makes adnjusments or changes things to please one another, its NEVER a one way street, both or all I should say, have to YIELD once in a while to make things "passable" so you all can stay united as a family. Give and take.
GMPNY 2 years ago
@GMPNY Precisely. My parents raised me and my brother with a discipline and respect. My father always insisted on treating us like young people. He didn't speak down to us and even when I was small we would have mature discussions. Even now, when I came out as transgender, my family have communicated and we adjusted. Its about open communication, trust and honesty. That is a acheiveable and winning combination
grimreaper636 2 years ago
Excellant! This is wonderful and how its supposed to be! Parents are supposed to support children so IF they have made the wrong decision there is no shame in asking for help or advice. You talk down to a kid or make them feel less than like a person, YOU are the last one they will ever come to for help further distancing themselves from family.
GMPNY 2 years ago
Agreed!!! Very well said Gail, hope those that watch this vid HEAR what you are saying and take it to heart;)
Hugs
Marylou
blueclouds4me 2 years ago
Great video.People like you never get enough of giving love,your kids are lucky.
Freedomformine 2 years ago
Truly, I AM the lucky one. My kids are both adults now and I consider them my best friends but even as we get older...we have to know when to give them space and still be a parent :-)
GMPNY 2 years ago
I didn't come out to my family until later in life, but when I did, none of them seemed to care. Nothing changed. Actually, my mother realized at that point, she would always be the most important woman in life! And believe me, my mom would have never got along with any woman I would have married! lol My problems were in school. I was called names, beat up, spit on, laughed at etc. But today, I look better and am much happier than the bullies who made my school years hell! -Steven-
OceanTownPictures 2 years ago
Honestly, for a Mom its a win-win situation LOL All we want is for our kids to end up with someone who will love and honor them the rest of their lives and to be happy. Why make their lives miserable? I dont think kids should come out to their parents while they are in school but only after they move out and are on their own and dont have to be given a huge guilt trip for admitting they are gay. UNLESS they need help because of bullies, then by all means talk to your parents.
GMPNY 2 years ago
I think most parents or one of the two KNOWS if their child is gay. IM thinking how could you not? But then again, most parents are not involved in nearly every aspect of their kids lives. I was, I made sure I was a part of everything and I always had our home with the revolving door for all their friends. I wanted to see what was going on so I could better manage their upbringing.
GMPNY 2 years ago
I was fine with "Yeah bring them home, I'll have sandwiches ready." IF they brought friends home it was a relief cause I always KNEW where my kids were :-) I always wnated them to know it was ok to come home no matter what. It was simple, there were rules and absolute no-no's or there was answering for it. The other parents? Yeah, they were always too busy or "Not today, ask me another day." Another day never came. The ate, they swam, they had evening fires in the yard at my house.
GMPNY 2 years ago
I made it all available because that made it so easy for me to keep an eye on tham and their friends. My kids were lucky, most of their friends were pretty decent and they still have the same best friends as they did when they were kids. They all, still remember the hospitality too :-)
GMPNY 2 years ago
I agree 100%..so well said..You say it..yes you do:)
hysonly 2 years ago
Hello
Gail...
Many times,parents wear two hats,one while they are at home,and one while they are out among the public. Shame and stigma are traumatic for the child. Unconditional love is a rare and priceless commodity (although one would hope differently). The love that we all aspire to is universal...sometimes however,parents have a very difficult time demonstrating this love that is both comforting and respectful of their children's own emotional well-being.
Pax,
Max
stewballmax3 2 years ago
That was so well said I cant even top it so Im just going to agree. Ive seen people in high positions literally turn their backs on thir son or daughter because "What would their guests or neighbors think?" The answer is, take the spotlight off of yourself. Your job and friends will be gone long before your child will, they are yours for a lifetime of love. My advice? Demonstrate it! :-)
GMPNY 2 years ago
you are awesome i agree 100%
if the parents can't accept it is really bad
this is in my favs hugs kisses
jasminequeentagaholi 2 years ago
Thanks for favoring!
GMPNY 2 years ago
I completely agree with you. Having grown up in a family that was "different" and can tell you that parental acceptance is of utmost importance. Most parents are accepting of their children. However, there are way too many who are not.
mrquiet2009 2 years ago
I have to agree with you on this, so many not so accepting. I risk not having friends or "wonderfu neighbors" Before Id risk losing my child!
GMPNY 2 years ago
I was NEVER treated any differently from my siblings Gail, despite being disabled. My mother loves me unconditionally, as I love my two kids unconditionally. They grew up knowing they had that love no matter what. I'm behind you 100% on this one. How CAN you stop loving and wanting to protect your own kids. They were'nt born to be moulded into the person you think they should be. It saddens me that not all mothers/families feel this way.
Love and hugs..Jan and Susan ♥
weeyin1155 2 years ago
It saddens me too, thank you for commenting!
GMPNY 2 years ago
You go GAIL! I'm right there with you on this issue. As parents it's our responsibility to give our kids the tools to make it and live in this rather opinionated and oftentimes cruel world. All too often parents will simply ignore the differences in their children. Ignorance is NOT bliss... and it's hurtful.
Oh and my first son, no longer with us, was Red-haired and had Down Syndrome. I loved him with all my heart and he's our angel! Love your kids because they are all gifts.
Witchymel 2 years ago
Thankyou for your comment and so true, this is a cruel world and we have to be the soft place for our children to fall.
GMPNY 2 years ago