the "daughter" didn't communicate enough to the mother either that she was going through all of that. it works BOTH ways. No way I'm adopting any of the millions of asian children that have no homes to go to, other than the abusive "kid-camps" they're raised in. .... lets go one step further, why adopt at all for that matter. Come on now. Seriously, ALLLL families have issues, but we just have to work together as communities the world over, to stop the bullying. STOP THE BULLYING!!!!!!!
By nature, being American means experiencing racism... This is a melting-pot of the world. African Americans, Hispanic, Italians, Asians, Indian--- ALL These cultures have been discriminated against!!! What about obsese ppl??? They are the most abused, teased & taunted in the US. Then disable ppl or unattractive ppl... The poor are horribly discriminated against. My Mother is an alcoholic, then I became one. I was abused for that!!! but I don't let it ruin my life!!! All americans are abused!!!!
I understand that she feels different....but she also needs to learn to try to avoid this...I'm hispanic and I live in a caucasian community where I go through the same feelings as her. She just needs to be strong and ignore the bad talk and thoughts even though it might be hard, because if she keeps this up shes just hurting herself even more and her adoptive family.
She should be grateful that they took her in! I mean they payed for her clothing, food, ect. instead shes stabbing them also
I wholeheartedly agree! Caucasian ppl in US should not adopt asian babies/children. They should leave them in the orphanges. Seems the overriding feeling of these videos is that the asian's do not want to come here, only to be teased. taunted and beratted. However, seems most adoptees HAVE been educate loved & not abandoned. Which is what the adoptive parent takes an oath not to do.
@nursewithapurse Still, adoptees should be grateful for the opportunity their families gave them. Children who do not get adopted work for the orphanges when they grow up. They do not have chances. That's why people preffer adopting them. Everyone is teased in some point in their lives. Just like everyone always struggle to define their identidy and discover who they are. Adoptees are not the only ones with those problems.
Self-loathing and wanting to change comes not solely from racism but from all sorts of places. I've yet to meet a single teenager who didn't want to change something about themselves. It's sad that she got teased but to blame it on her mom? She should blame it on the kids who were teasing her. She never shared her feelings with her mom at the time. Parents are just people an can't read your mind. Sounds more like she wants to vent but can't track down the kids, so goes to the one person she can.
lol i had to laugh. this woman is like baby just let me get some sleep while her daughter is pouring her heart out. I think this woman did the best that she could but it was society that created those problems easily. that woman gave her daughter love. American society creates these problems from just giving an interracial couple a dirty stare to making rude comments about someone who is different. thats why i stay out of that bigot country. people are much nicer in japan.
She seems to be just about blaming her (adoptive) mom for getting racist teasing at school as a 12 year old.
The ability of kids to be cruel is legendary, it's been that way for centuries. And as she says the self loathing she developed as a kid was the result of the kids who were assholes to her (like the boy on the bus going on about dental floss blindfolding), so I don't see why she almost seems to be placing some of the blame on her mom.
I don't think the mother was denying that the daughter had these bad things because she looked so sorry. I believe she really did not predict the daughter to have such bullies and bad experiences. But I agree, interracial adoption isn't really a good thing..
is this what adoptee from asia really feels? i'm 26 yrs old and my parents adopted an asian baby 10 yrs ago, would that mean my sister is also taunted in school for being different? i love my sister so much that i could give my life for her and seeing a video like this made me think of how much hurt she would have been after i left home. i don't want her to grow up bitter.... i want her to grow happy and loved.
is it really wrong to adopt a child from different culture or nationality?
is this what really children adopted from asia feels? my sister is asian and she's the only one in my family is this video saying my sister is feeling thesame way as this person is? she never said anything to us, i don't want her growing up bitter like the woman in the video i want her to grow up happy and loved. is it wrong to adopt a child from a different culture?
I'm also an adopted korean and I recognize a lot of the feelings she's talking about. I also wanted to be white, not because white is better but just to fit in. But it's not healthy to deny your own heritage. I now accept the fact that I am korean, and I wouldnt even want to change it if I had the chance, cause it defines me for who I am. But I also know that not everyone is racist, and if u feel happy with yourself, most ppl usually wont make a big deal out of it either.
yes, i think asian should adopt asian..or if a white family adopt an asian kid at least have her expose to her kind..this is why this girl here want to be white so badly to fit in because she lives around white ppl only and she got tease!
Ok real talk here, this is why diversity is bad. If she grew up in a homogeneous society with her own people she would never experience this type of self-loathing and longing to be white in order to fit in.
Race is an illusion, and anyone who cannot figure that out is pathetic. This movie is all about "keeping people in their place." The people who made this movie are clearly closet hatemongers.
I really wanted to feel sympathy for this girl but she went way over the line when she said in the movie "my parents dying is them abandoning me". She also NEVER says one bad thing about her biological parents who literally abandoned her to die. She hated her parents because they were white and Koreans always hate white people.
Koreans invented white people? How is this so? Did they put the arms and legs together and program them? Do you have any idea how stupid your statement is?
Interesting video here, I think it's great y'all have put together these excerpts. Asian American guy here, grew up in the Southern USA. For me, the racial experiences, allowed me to grow up fast, and become very successful in life. But I searched for my identity, but when I look back, I'm thankful for the experiences I had. Some people become stronger, but I can see many can become weaker. It's how you look at your experiences and where you draw your strength.
i wanted to be asian when i was little because i lived in japan, but my family was white, and i used to have a lot of problems with it too, and i'm not adopted.
In University (at 18) any girl who was not from the city I grew up with was popular and considered attractive because they looked different, especially those with an English accident or those who were Asian.
I applaud any movie that sheds light on these difficult times and the coming to terms with this trauma that is necessary , if there is any hope of moving forward both for the individual and society as a whole.
At 12 we all want to be the same and loath any quality that makes us different. I remember a girl who came from England to Canada at 12 and hated her English accident and was teased incessantly, and quickly disowned her British Past, and quickly adopted a Canadian accent and style.
If I bring it up with her as adults she becomes visibly uncomfortable and relives this shame.
Love is wonderful, and every child deserves it, but it can't "make up for" growing up in an alien culture. Parents need to be a LOT more aware than this if they want to adopt internationally and/or interracially.
@jenkinscrowe Totally agree. Adoption will always happen. I don't want to see it banned. But a lot more research needs to be made into attachment issues, parents need to be more aware of what their kids will need. One issue is, is that many adoptees don't want to tell their parents how they are feeling, because they feel they are betraying them.
i feel bad for this woman, the mother is just lying there almost denying that all these bad things ever existed towards her "daughter." not to be mean, but i wouldn't want white families to adopt these asian children, despite how loving they are.
There were negative things she had to endure growing up, sure, but there were probably lots of positives as well. I think it's rediculous to say that in this case her being adopted to a white family was a negative thing, and even more rediculous to generalize. It would be more reasonable to say that families, of any ethnicity, that want to adopt across racial lines should be aware of the issues that a child of a different ethnicity might face so their better able to deal with them.
the "daughter" didn't communicate enough to the mother either that she was going through all of that. it works BOTH ways. No way I'm adopting any of the millions of asian children that have no homes to go to, other than the abusive "kid-camps" they're raised in. .... lets go one step further, why adopt at all for that matter. Come on now. Seriously, ALLLL families have issues, but we just have to work together as communities the world over, to stop the bullying. STOP THE BULLYING!!!!!!!
CitizenOvTheWorld 7 months ago
Yeah I totally agree from someone who is adopted. :(
CollieNikkiCoco 8 months ago in playlist adopted the movie
By nature, being American means experiencing racism... This is a melting-pot of the world. African Americans, Hispanic, Italians, Asians, Indian--- ALL These cultures have been discriminated against!!! What about obsese ppl??? They are the most abused, teased & taunted in the US. Then disable ppl or unattractive ppl... The poor are horribly discriminated against. My Mother is an alcoholic, then I became one. I was abused for that!!! but I don't let it ruin my life!!! All americans are abused!!!!
nursewithapurse 1 year ago
I understand that she feels different....but she also needs to learn to try to avoid this...I'm hispanic and I live in a caucasian community where I go through the same feelings as her. She just needs to be strong and ignore the bad talk and thoughts even though it might be hard, because if she keeps this up shes just hurting herself even more and her adoptive family.
She should be grateful that they took her in! I mean they payed for her clothing, food, ect. instead shes stabbing them also
tomboy313 1 year ago
I wholeheartedly agree! Caucasian ppl in US should not adopt asian babies/children. They should leave them in the orphanges. Seems the overriding feeling of these videos is that the asian's do not want to come here, only to be teased. taunted and beratted. However, seems most adoptees HAVE been educate loved & not abandoned. Which is what the adoptive parent takes an oath not to do.
nursewithapurse 1 year ago
@nursewithapurse Still, adoptees should be grateful for the opportunity their families gave them. Children who do not get adopted work for the orphanges when they grow up. They do not have chances. That's why people preffer adopting them. Everyone is teased in some point in their lives. Just like everyone always struggle to define their identidy and discover who they are. Adoptees are not the only ones with those problems.
leli0601 9 months ago
Self-loathing and wanting to change comes not solely from racism but from all sorts of places. I've yet to meet a single teenager who didn't want to change something about themselves. It's sad that she got teased but to blame it on her mom? She should blame it on the kids who were teasing her. She never shared her feelings with her mom at the time. Parents are just people an can't read your mind. Sounds more like she wants to vent but can't track down the kids, so goes to the one person she can.
MahoganyDesk 1 year ago
lol i had to laugh. this woman is like baby just let me get some sleep while her daughter is pouring her heart out. I think this woman did the best that she could but it was society that created those problems easily. that woman gave her daughter love. American society creates these problems from just giving an interracial couple a dirty stare to making rude comments about someone who is different. thats why i stay out of that bigot country. people are much nicer in japan.
khalilahinjapan 1 year ago
She seems to be just about blaming her (adoptive) mom for getting racist teasing at school as a 12 year old.
The ability of kids to be cruel is legendary, it's been that way for centuries. And as she says the self loathing she developed as a kid was the result of the kids who were assholes to her (like the boy on the bus going on about dental floss blindfolding), so I don't see why she almost seems to be placing some of the blame on her mom.
Bloodgod40 1 year ago
I don't think the mother was denying that the daughter had these bad things because she looked so sorry. I believe she really did not predict the daughter to have such bullies and bad experiences. But I agree, interracial adoption isn't really a good thing..
kickmyask82 1 year ago
is this what adoptee from asia really feels? i'm 26 yrs old and my parents adopted an asian baby 10 yrs ago, would that mean my sister is also taunted in school for being different? i love my sister so much that i could give my life for her and seeing a video like this made me think of how much hurt she would have been after i left home. i don't want her to grow up bitter.... i want her to grow happy and loved.
is it really wrong to adopt a child from different culture or nationality?
clarmey 1 year ago
is this what really children adopted from asia feels? my sister is asian and she's the only one in my family is this video saying my sister is feeling thesame way as this person is? she never said anything to us, i don't want her growing up bitter like the woman in the video i want her to grow up happy and loved. is it wrong to adopt a child from a different culture?
clarmey 1 year ago
I'm also an adopted korean and I recognize a lot of the feelings she's talking about. I also wanted to be white, not because white is better but just to fit in. But it's not healthy to deny your own heritage. I now accept the fact that I am korean, and I wouldnt even want to change it if I had the chance, cause it defines me for who I am. But I also know that not everyone is racist, and if u feel happy with yourself, most ppl usually wont make a big deal out of it either.
0mniaVincitAm0r 1 year ago
yes, i think asian should adopt asian..or if a white family adopt an asian kid at least have her expose to her kind..this is why this girl here want to be white so badly to fit in because she lives around white ppl only and she got tease!
msgoodiegoodie 1 year ago
Ok real talk here, this is why diversity is bad. If she grew up in a homogeneous society with her own people she would never experience this type of self-loathing and longing to be white in order to fit in.
SuddenCatharsis 1 year ago
I thought race didn't exist?
SuddenCatharsis 1 year ago
Race is an illusion, and anyone who cannot figure that out is pathetic. This movie is all about "keeping people in their place." The people who made this movie are clearly closet hatemongers.
Vlaxitov 1 year ago
I urge people not to adopt trans-racially. It's not about love. It's about money. Everything is about money--especially in America.
Kirke182 1 year ago
I really wanted to feel sympathy for this girl but she went way over the line when she said in the movie "my parents dying is them abandoning me". She also NEVER says one bad thing about her biological parents who literally abandoned her to die. She hated her parents because they were white and Koreans always hate white people.
joshua81em 1 year ago
This is Exactly Y They need Cultural Diversity in Elementary School all over this country......
UserP 1 year ago
Her wanting to be white is something comon amongst women that live in Asia. It is sad how week minded women can be.
chazkm 2 years ago
It's ok, Koreans invented white people
nagexingqisi 2 years ago
Koreans invented white people? How is this so? Did they put the arms and legs together and program them? Do you have any idea how stupid your statement is?
chazkm 2 years ago
If you still want to adopt, I hope you learned something from this clip.
GDGspire 2 years ago
Interesting video here, I think it's great y'all have put together these excerpts. Asian American guy here, grew up in the Southern USA. For me, the racial experiences, allowed me to grow up fast, and become very successful in life. But I searched for my identity, but when I look back, I'm thankful for the experiences I had. Some people become stronger, but I can see many can become weaker. It's how you look at your experiences and where you draw your strength.
busymarketer 2 years ago
i wanted to be asian when i was little because i lived in japan, but my family was white, and i used to have a lot of problems with it too, and i'm not adopted.
Kiljan137 2 years ago 4
In University (at 18) any girl who was not from the city I grew up with was popular and considered attractive because they looked different, especially those with an English accident or those who were Asian.
I applaud any movie that sheds light on these difficult times and the coming to terms with this trauma that is necessary , if there is any hope of moving forward both for the individual and society as a whole.
uberhog105 2 years ago
At 12 we all want to be the same and loath any quality that makes us different. I remember a girl who came from England to Canada at 12 and hated her English accident and was teased incessantly, and quickly disowned her British Past, and quickly adopted a Canadian accent and style.
If I bring it up with her as adults she becomes visibly uncomfortable and relives this shame.
uberhog105 2 years ago
There are a lot of things kids are angry about, and which they don't know how to tell their parents.
But if you know that the people at the school will ask, you have to prepare your child with something to answer with.
MondoBeno 2 years ago
WHERE CAN I BUY THIS MOVIE?
Coolbird00 2 years ago 2
"I say that im an asian woman and i want you to see as your asian daughter because you cant seperate my race from me"
she is has a very big point... and i hope parents who will adopt children internationally will understand that because what she says is very true.
onigiri1205 2 years ago 3
Love is wonderful, and every child deserves it, but it can't "make up for" growing up in an alien culture. Parents need to be a LOT more aware than this if they want to adopt internationally and/or interracially.
jenkinscrowe 2 years ago 9
@jenkinscrowe Totally agree. Adoption will always happen. I don't want to see it banned. But a lot more research needs to be made into attachment issues, parents need to be more aware of what their kids will need. One issue is, is that many adoptees don't want to tell their parents how they are feeling, because they feel they are betraying them.
metaldragon82 1 month ago
i feel bad for this woman, the mother is just lying there almost denying that all these bad things ever existed towards her "daughter." not to be mean, but i wouldn't want white families to adopt these asian children, despite how loving they are.
1YellowStiLetto 2 years ago 9
There were negative things she had to endure growing up, sure, but there were probably lots of positives as well. I think it's rediculous to say that in this case her being adopted to a white family was a negative thing, and even more rediculous to generalize. It would be more reasonable to say that families, of any ethnicity, that want to adopt across racial lines should be aware of the issues that a child of a different ethnicity might face so their better able to deal with them.
lawstudent84 2 years ago