How to reject tactfully after a first date

[thelaurels13]

I get the feeling this bitch is single!

[Cap285]

Fuck this old hag. Women are completely cruel when it comes to rejection. Some of them do it for sport. Another female double standard.

[BobbyDelRiv]

No Lisa Birnbaum! YOU make the search for romance tough by your being so picky.

[BobbyDelRiv]

Those that unfairly reject others are abusers and make no mistake about it. Those who reject others for STUPIDFICIAL reasons (looks/height/non macho or non ultra feminine appearance) are abusers. Those who lie to others looking for another to flatter he or she before rejecting the duped person is an abuser too. We must recognize the abuser no matter how physically "attractive" the abuser may be.............We must shine the light on the abuser. We must call them on their abuse.

[BobbyDelRiv]

Us veterans of rejection know when we are being rejected for superficial reasons and we can see right through all the "soft" and the "tactful" excuses because we've heard them all before............How do you reject in the "kindest" way? Well YOU DON'T REJECT! Instead go beyond the "chemistry" and give a good person a chance. How many times has the "chemistry" feeling misled you in the past? Why keep doing the same thing when all it has done for you was brought you misery? Marry the nice guy!

[BobbyDelRiv]

Rejection hurts! Teach others to NOT reject anyone for STUPIDFICIAL reasons such as looks/height/macho. Teach them that attraction grows. Teach that rejecting after a first meeting for no chemistry is stupid because chemistry grows. Show them how to find the attractiveness in all member of the opposite sex.

[c00lwatter]

Very few men say they will call if they have no intention of calling. The issue is that a lot of things happen in between us getting our number and the next day. I have pissed several girls off in the past by telling them I would call and doing one of the following:

1: Losing their numbers (prompting me to purchase my first cell phone)

2: Getting scared shitless cause I have no life/plans/idea what to do

3: Meeting someone else

4: Getting over the moment

5: Seeing the girl in the light of day

[greengirllover]

LOOOOOOOOOL. This is so very, very awkward!

[zer02771]

there is no way to reject someone tactfully it's always unpleasant even if they don't let you know

[MissExecutive]

closure??

[Globez123]

Be honest. Don't say crap like "I'm busy" or "I'm only looking for friendship".

Say I'm not interested, so the other person can move on!

[SpikeLanta]

@Globez123 i hate it when women say "let's just be friends". I made a promise to myself that the next woman that says that to me, I'm not even going to talk to her anymore and just ignore her. If she complains about how I never talk to her anymore, I'm just going to say "Go find someone else to be "Just friends" with. Leave me alone!"

[BobbyDelRiv]

@SpikeLanta I'm a rough rugged guy with my friends. We like to belt each other in the arm and wrestle each other and tell hard core filthy jokes and look at nasty porno and go out and meet low class hot babes. At least I tell that b.s. to the women who only want to be "good friends" and then I ask them if they are ready for my kind of friendship. Also they dare not use me as a "girlfriend" by telling me their troubles with the guys who THEY like. Just friends is an excuse calling for my nasty

[samosval92]

i think this guy is crazy. When i see his smile the demons came infront of me

[sillyrnu007]

It kind of seemed like she was trying to corner him. Like, she was saying, "Oh, women are so much more gentle with how they reject someone, but men... oh, MEN! They go out of their way to hurt this poor girl!"

That was the impression I got from her. Guys aren't as sensitive as women, that's true, but it's not like they'll be mean on purpose, in most cases. They're just kind of dense when it comes to our emotions and don't fully know how to edit what they say so that it doesn't hurt so much.

[sillyrnu007]

It kind of seemed like she was trying to corner him. Like, she was saying, "Oh, women are so much more gentle with how they reject someone, but men... oh, MEN! They go out of their way to hurt this poor girl!"

That was the impression I got from her. Guys aren't as sensitive as women, that's true, but it's not like they'll be mean on purpose - in most cases. They're just kind of dense when it comes to our emotions and don't fully know how to edit what they say so that it doesn't hurt so much.

[amy1827]

Men are a species? LOL

This was a strange interview... it seemed like Stefan shagged this lady and she was pissed at him for never calling her again afterwards

[YAMNASAGA]

Honestly, a real man or woman whom is mature -would be front forward about it with respect. (Tell them the truth in a kind manner, and you have another friend). If not both carry on. It's not the end of the world, when you're rejected. There are hundreds of men/ women out-there for you; just in different types/ individuals.

[ImThinkingShhhh]

Are they acting cos its reallly bad ha and if they are not oh dear god O.O

[Crouton351]

Lol, she got pwned.

[sircesare]

i liked his views but i think she was taking it personally :)

[SpunkyXeE]

Was that an awkward conversation or was it just me?

[injaley]

@SpunkyXeE

Totally, it appeared as if she used him as a substitute for all the guys that left her and never called her again and left her w/o ...closure...very awkward...