Ways to overcome your shyness

[bry252123]

This is shit. this is like telling someone who already stubbed their toe "dont stub your toe." just saying

[MsDeelz]

Please check out my video 5 steps towards overcoming shyness

[chetes15]

I'm shy just because I am not like other people want me to be... I prefer being shy that fake xD

[yooitsmee13]

i like the macys backround song

[shugochara78]

Great advice for Tenda

[SLuMberMoOn7]

nice advice & background music...kinda reminds me of the sims game music lol...but thats not important..the vid was good! :)

[3moejoe]

Im so sick and tired of people making fun of shy people. They are fucking stupid and judge so quickly. Stupid fucks...

[puppydoggeh]

@3moejoe I agree

[prettyyoungthing90]

@3moejoe that's why people are shy! ..because they are afraid to be normal around them fools ..who wants to be fake? ... I may not seem shy but I am shy because of them

[Selfimprovementips]

As much as I would agree with your points here there are some that will be a real extreme for a shy person. Example joining a social club, a really shy person will find this just difficult

[ed391929]

No this doesn't fucking work. There's too many conceded fuckers our there in school that just laugh and make fun of you in front of your face simply because "you're not cool enough" or "youre ugly". Thats why there's just about zero shy attractive people out there because today, everybody fucking judges you so quickly and doesn't even give you a fucking chance. Now you guys see why people are shy? Because of fuckers out there who do nothing but label and judge each other so quickly.

[ToribashInsane]

the only ture way to overcome shyness is to stab the shit outta it if you agree thumbs up and if your a dumbass thumbs down

[lilboyblue01]

i HATE IT when i berly get to kno the person, i get shy dont matter who it is a girl or a guy, a friends friend,etc but just give me like a day or so n nxt time im wit em im so talkative...i hate that lol

[JennyBitesYouJB]

I get shy around shy people. Is that possible?

[julisvideo]

try getting so depressed from the shyness you wake up in one flew over the coo coo nest - having to defend and stand up for yourself will get ya out of your shyness in a heart beat!!!!

[RuneScapeVidsAndMore]

hey, im shy and i want to get a gf but im just 2 shy, got any tips?

[IkeepLickinMyHair]

im a shy person, i have been scince i was 2 or 3 i can only talk to my best friends that are guys, when i look at people i dont know my face goes bright red and i cant talk to older girls especially the girl i love

can you help me?

[Musiclover2009able]

I'm shy too and I used to have difficulties whenever I called people on the phone and I overcame it. I think shy individuals are respected because they'e good listeners and pay attention to what others say.

Thank you :)

[aelfwin999]

I agree w/shygirlwrites--you gotta put yourself out there and face what you fear. I used to stutter, was shy, super-self-conscious, and socially awkward. I purposefully took retail jobs so it made me talk with people every day, speak up, and make eye contact (scarey!!!). I became more self-confident as people began listening to me and asked for my advice. It was a process of de-sensitizing myself and then getting some positive feedback. Later, I taught kids, and now adults and love it!

[Gabriela50552]

self-confidence? that thing has died inside me a long time ago....lol

[mootchjoo]

I have the same problem as all you guys.. It really sucks :s... If one of you wants to talk to me or getting with me out of this problem, just send me a mail. It'll be great!

[AwwwMuffinz]

watch?v=4V6y0kMjr04 end you anxiety in 6-12 weeks. youre welcome

[primplegirliessxoxo]

reading these comments make me want to cry! why must people in social settings make us so uncomfortable? think about it this way, it's YOUR life, do you want to waste it away being shy about everything? what does it matter if you seem stupid around people sometimes, or you kind of make a fool of yourself. everyone does it, all the time. we move on, and try to find things in our lives that make us happy! because once you leave high school/college, you will actually find people that are like you:)

[kurtanglerocks555]

bulid self confidence and no neagtivty WITH A WORTHLESS UGLY MUG LIKE ME THATS NOT POSSIBLE

more chance of learing to fly than buliding my self confidence and getting rid of neagtive thoughts espically when i get reminded about how pathtic and ugly i am by the students in my school

[Npixelvd]

One thing that helps is to talk with children first, if you cannot do it the adult. If you wanna do it with an adult one, start with your cousins then to the salesladies or any vendors of newspapers or in the market. You don't have to worry about anything here because they are mostly nice and open minded. Hope this helps cause it did with me.

[Twilightgirlz484]

Here's the problem, I have LOW self-confidence.

I always think that the all the guys that I have a crush on hate me.

I think all my friends secretly hate me and is using me.

And whenever I look at myself in the mirror, I always know that no one will want to make friends with someone like me.

So all my hope is gone. :(

[OpticJBigBalls]

@Twilightgirlz484 me too. my teacher told me to read in front of the whole class. i couldnt even say one word.. that was embarrasing as hell

[kurtanglerocks555]

@Twilightgirlz484 same i have low self confidence

i think actully i know all girls hate me

and i look in the mirror and feel like puking

but i love my friends i know they dont hate me

[carly99992]

thx for the alsome video but im still very shy i cant even look at people or when im at school when the teacher calls on me i just sit there and everyone looks at me uhh i always want to talk to some people i really want to be friend with but when i do stupit things come out of my mouth and i my face get really red and uhh i always like i should just die because i cant make any friends and like my life is boring so why am i alive so yea i want to over come my shyness before it too late HELP ME!!

[TheSeven45]

join the Marines I bet you all will overcome the shyness like I did

[nameless527]

thanks alot mate, i hope it help

[AimeebabyUK]

socialphobiaplanetdotcom :)

[Yankee4Life]

Hello. I think you made a very nice video and I was happy I was able to find it on Youtube to view it. I think point number 2 is very hard to do, at least for me. As for point number 3 that is what holds me back the most. I have been this way all my life and it is really all I know. Thanks for making your video and best of luck to you.

[craigis123]

but girls think that a guy who is shy is cute..so there is a positive out of being shy

[MrMary1356]

Omg this was so helpful thanks :P

[sonicgrl9]

1. Did that but I'm still shy around the people IN the club!

2. When I say hi to someone i don't know what to say afterwards!

3. I try to do that but it just doesn't help me..

UGH I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!

[Mubarak635]

thats only two ways. this is a dumb video no offense.

[kryckeestrooff]

1) The only social gathering in my area is that of Aboriginals getting blind drunk, and hurling abuse a white people! So I guess with #1 out the door, I'm screwed! :)

[mariosmashfann]

omg im so shy its killing me....ever since i was 12 ive been shy and now im 14 and im still shy......it annoys me so much i want to just kill myself thinkin no one cares,thinkin i got no purpose in life..when people try to talk to me i at least say 5 words then silence comes..i dont want them to misjudge me..either im shy or i got nothing to say anymore..shyness keeps ruining my life little by little..im not even a nerd..people say i look good and all ....shynes keeps making me loose my friends

[kryckeestrooff]

@mariosmashfann It's true you should kill yourself and there is no purpose to life! People will screw you over first chance they get, even so called best friends. I've been shy since I was 10, I'm now in my 40s and still shy, I wish I killed myself long ago, it would have saved a lot of brain pain and misery!

[LeeBee091]

@mariosmashfann hey, i no exactly what you mean because i was very shy wen i was in school, i got bullied coz of it, some people wouldn't talk to me because of it, but after i left school and went to college, i met new people, they gave me a chance and eventually i opened up to them.

So dont worry about it too much, try and meet new people. Im 19 now and still shy, but im more confident than ever before. Oh and, DONT EVEN THINK ABOUT KILLING YOURSELF COZ I THOUGHT THAT N IT GOT ME NO-WHERE.

[nameless527]

@mariosmashfann hello mate ^^ i just wanna say if u meet new people, try finding out if they like something you like, even if you thing you look stupid, they think the same thing about them selfs, and even if they dont like things you like try finding out what the like

[JULIANFROMOKC]

Yeah umm i tried that and i got slapped

[iiHatezDomii]

@JULIANFROMOKC lmfao Really??

[isylvia2461]

i think the only problem i have is keeping the conversion

[Smartperson18]

It's true if you join a club at school or a team you'll have something to do with other people and you'll have something to talk about if you have nothing to say. It goes around.

[jenlo21babe]

I am like that too and my friend told me because i get real shy around guys to say hi to random guys but i cant do that. But i am not shy around my friends but only guys and its like especially when they are good looking,...

[MrGoodcap]

@HeartbreakWarfare i have the same problem :/

i cannot find any subjest to talk about

[toxicfairy71]

me too!!!!!!!!!

[bluvsocr8]

Ice cream social? Anyway, I am mega shy though. Any tips are great

[gothguy5]

i freaking hate being shy cause the hottest girl in school likes me but i way to shy she try to make me talk to her and play with her (im not a kid) that suck alot i dont know what to do i hope this works

[lalabEsjen]

soo the same like me...

[Lonelyangel21993]

I know how you feel- i have the same problem. I feel so isolated and people speak to me like i'm stupid. I know i'm not a bad person but i get the impression people find me stuck up and aloof cos i don't say much. I also think people think i'm really boring but i just say to myself- Just because i'm *** at communicating with my voice it doesn't mean i'm not an interesting person. (rant over-sorry ^^)

[curiousserieux]

i like this music

[Godlystriker]

What if you say Hi, and the other person just stares at you and looks away :(

[norcalgemini420]

Then there's something wrong with that person, not you. Folks are supposed to say "hi" back so if s/he doesn't, then they are rude. You shouldnt have to worry about that too much though because most people are receptive to a simple "hi".

[xXAZN407Xx]

then damn there just ass holes

[alanmcg1987]

if so there not a nice person nonthing 2 do wit u... keep the head up

[1guitarfreak4]

i commented on this

[chenrezigjulian69]

Thanks, I´m gonna try all of those!

[MasacruRo]

thx

[gordo33]

Good Advice!

Be Happy

WE ONLY LIVE ONCE!

[Lisa3679]

I am shy AND introverted. I am not too willing to open up, since I don't feel comfortable around most people . . . don't trust them. I only know a few people, but don't spend time with them. Join a social group? Are you kidding?

[Strife72]

Good advice! Me being a fairly shy guy and stuggling to come out of my shell I'll be sure to follow this. =). Being shy is no way to live..

[srg1231]

i am shy

[chocolat80]

Thank you

[vincent4500]

ANNUAL SHYNESS CONVENTION: NO ONE TURNED UP! THEY WERE TOO SOCIALLY ANXIOUS...I'M A VERY shy guy 37 years old, get a fair amount of women interested in me because i 'act' well and am pretty good looking..however, i never realise these opportunities, or rather do so very rarely..it' s a bitch as after all these yrs I still go blank and cant think what to say and do...lifes torture for the seriously shy guy...

[mintyroses99]

I also love how slow the words are layed out. It causes one to really process the message. That was probably unintentional, but I found that pretty cool.

[mintyroses99]

I love each and every one of your videos. It helps me feel secure about my anxiety and helps me realize I'm not the only one suffering. I'm not entirely alone. Thank you. Please don't feel discouraged to continue creating more videos in relation to anxiety. I love these, so feel encouraged! Keep up the fantastic work!

[Shane2day]

As a shy person myself i find your 1st recommendation a little daunting,but the 2nd and 3rd ones more easily achieved also instilling self-belief and becoming more assertive is the key to overcoming it,thanks for the video though.

[8207209]

I'm sure this is not gonna work for me

here if you say hello to someone

someone might show his middle finger to you

cuz i tried, so i decided before they show their mid finger to me, i show mine to them

[Emilyomg]

I really like this.

Thanks.

[ilovepink760]

Ok just letting you know im not trying to fight or offend anyone If I come off like it im sorry. Just wanted to make that clear. Ok im really shy and its been taking over everything. I dont know what to do,but when you say to say hi to someone and smile,wont they think your weird? Like that person i dont even know is talking to me like they know me. I dont know I need some help

[LindaDanvers]

It all comes down to practicing your social skills. The first dozen of times it feels really awkward. Walking up to someone, introductions / starting a conversation, looking the people you talk to in the eye, keeping the conversation going etc. However,if you start small and do it regularly, the fear gradually lessens. You get better at talking to people and you no longer have to worry about what you are going to say. After a while, it starts feeling natural.

[civicqvist]

hey fucker these tips didnt help at all i got my ass kicked when i tryed these, people dont use them they don't work.... trust me

[emilygreenday10]

lmaoo i already say hii,

im shyy,

but not that kind of shyy,

im the kind of shy were I HATE presentingg,

my face gets all red an crapp,

its soo annoyingg, butt yah ,

thoses tips dont work

[Luv4Learning]

Those are really good ideas :-). I'm beginning to think that I might have some form of Avoidant Personality Disorder because some of the criteria fit me.

I have always been deemed as being "shy" by friends and family, though the reasons for my "shyness" are 1.) I feel like I'm being judged constantly by others; 2.) I feel like if someone got to know me, they might decide that I'm too boring for them (something I'm slowly getting over); etc.

Are there any good books on APD?

[alain56700]

this is one of my ways to overcome shyness maybe you are going to think that i'm crazy but i don`t care and that is what you need to do don`t care about anything now you have to think that you are going to die in a few hours and you can do whatever you want because you gonna die and nobody is going to judge you so think about it and try to be dare

[shygirlwrites]

Hey, that's okay. There are others ways to overcome shyness. These are just from my experience.

[WutangClan4LiF3]

@shygirlwrites 3 step isnt easy miss shygirl :P but ty for your help

[uninsomnia89]

@alain56700 haha thats cool Im gonna try that

[gunskill20]

@alain56700 thats genius!!!! tanx man!!!

[lilboyblue01]

@alain56700 Thats a good way to put it Hahaha

[RealLakersFan4Life]

I am a shy person. Whenever I look at someone, it seems like they always give me a weird look that makes me feel very uncomfortable. The closer the person is to me the harder it is for me to look at them.

I remember when I was small, I didn't have any problem getting along with people. Now it totally changed and I hated it!

Can you please help me?

I would like to be able to look at people without having this weird feeling inside. I also need help being more outgoing, more talkative.

[shygirlwrites]

I went through the same thing. What you could do is to go to a club at school or in your community and try to talk to someone. It helped for me. Hard at first, but after a while I got comfortable.

Hope that helps. :-)

[RealLakersFan4Life]

Thanks, I'll try it someday.

[shygirlwrites]

You're welcome. :-)

[shygirlwrites]

And you're blocked. ;-)

[FluffyPorcupines]

one day, i waved at this girl i knew from my spanish class. she gave me a weird look and ignored me. i also joined the tennis team, i always felt awkward so i stopped. D= I'm hopeless.

[shygirlwrites]

I know how you feel. It doesn't hurt to try though. :-)

[BeyonceChrisB]

very true :-)

[shygirlwrites]

Thank you :-)

[thecrackwalker]

Those are great tips! I will try to say hi next time i am out

[shygirlwrites]

Thanks. I hope they'll help. :-)

[thebanrigh18]

I usually try the smile and say hi thing, but I'm so soft-spoken when it comes to talking to people other than my family. I usually don't get heard :(

But I have tried going to social gatherings in the past. Going to my senior prom helped my socialization issues lots :)

[shygirlwrites]

Same here, but it's always good to try. :-)

[headhead9]

dont think i could do num 1,

number 2 i could do without the smile,

3, oh darn those negavtive thoughts overcome positive thoughts by habbit positive thinking only works for a while them they come back

[shygirlwrites]

Well, at first I was scare to go to a social gathering, but I actually did and it wasn't that bad. Just try to think that you can do it (it works). Hope that helps. :-)