I gotta admit I've been in the same situation. My ex girlfriend wasn't so appealing at first, but when I got to know her she just seemed so beautiful after that.
I am 17 and I've never ever had a bf. I am a bigger girl too. But I feel it's necessary to have a bf my friend always has to have one and I don't see the big deal about it but it's what people choose... Idk what the hell this has to do with ur video but I decided to semi vent lol thanks and I love you and ur videos :6
Dude I think you are one smart young man, you stay with your beleives and you will do good, I wish their was more people in this world like you, and yes women can be cruel as shit most of the time, hell they dont even like each other, cat fights, and women will admit that their best friends are men!. we men have to put up with alot of drama from girls, but also remember there is also alot of bad men! and no good long lasting relationship was ever found in a night club or bar, they are al plastic
I did personallities more than looks,been 2 like 1 cluband the whole scene was not for me id rather hit up concerts of icp and shit...never been 2 a party except when I was 5 lol CAKE!!! I not a fat kid but I love cake...idky but I'm totally attracted 2 big guys yum
You sound like a real genuine guy. Stay that way and do not succumb to physical desire like you mentioned, be yourself, and definitely stop actually searching for that girl, let her come to you. That's how it happened with me, after I stopped searching. She caught me off-guard. The best advice I could ever give you or anyone in your situation because I've been there, is follow your heart/gut/intuition, no matter how good something looks on paper, follow it. It lead me to what I wanted most.
I totally agree with everything you said in this video. I had an epiphany about how shit clubs are whilst at one, I'm more of a party person tbh, like you said I prefer the social aspect of getting to know someone regardless of whether there is romantic feeling involved.
Been to the most exclusive clubs in LA & NYC. Only fun was getting hammered & making fun of all the people trying too hard. They had the celeb factor, which did not make them cooler, but slightly more interesting because, come on, seeing Tara Reid, Andy Dick, & Christina Aguilera belligerently drunk, falling down, puking on themselves & starting fights is something to watch. In the end, its all vapid bullshit with lots of alcohol and drugs and I pity anyone who goes to clubs for entertainment.
One thing i think should be said about any situation is, if you find yourself acting different to try to impress someone you're already lying to them in a weird indirect way. The best thing you can do is be yourself, I know it's Cleshe but that's the only way you will find anyone that you can truly get along with weather it's friends or something more. If your not being you it will only lead to disappointment later.
LOVE this video! I feel the same way about men though. I mean I love going out. Clubs, not so much because I don't like shaking my ass for all these creepers. I'd rather just go to a bar or party & sit & chat with people but the truth is, the kind of men that go to parties/clubs don't care about women. :/ Oh & fyi, not all girls who go out are tan blonde bimbos. (; Anyways, just worry about yourself & when it's time the right girl will come along. Keep the videos coming! You are a funny guy (:
i don't like clubs or parties, and i agree some popular girls/guys are jerks.....i agree some are very nice but most aren't. I am not the hot chick or anything yet i have a bf, so for gals and guys, don't lose hope just because you haven't found anybody yet. There are guys/girls out there that only care about who you are, not about the looks.
I don't really like going to clubs. Sometimes it's fun but most of the time I'm just being checked out by guys I have no interest in and that makes me feel pretty damn awkward.. But bars are usually fun. Well not really bars but more like pubs I guess.. Somewhere where a conversation is actually possible with a relaxed setting.. I like those.
how old are you? because you dont look THAT old, but i mean you have so much feelings and are such a good person for how old you look. to make it short, you are undeniably an amazing guy :)
i have to be honest, i dont even have the nessesary age to even go to a club. but what i can say is that i totally agree with you and looks are not everything. i personally dont even look for somene who has that much in common with me. shure, you need to have something to talk about but what most matters to me is if they give a fuck about me and like me and are funny and are nice to me and stuff. i dont know i guess that to find a nice guy would be a great place to start ;)
I totally agree. I live at university 6 hours away from my girlfriend of almost 2 years so when the weekend rolls around and all my friends want to go out to the club I'm really hesitant for a number of reasons, I usually end up DDing, the music is okay but I'd much rather go to a metal concert, hockey game or even a movie. I guess it's because I'm not really interested in meeting new girls but I totally agree that whenever I go to the clubs I feel like all ppl do there is judge other ppl.
& as far as appearances go, I think that there has to be SOME physical attraction, not necessarily a freakin model but looks play a part in who you're with. I mean, when I'm with someone I want to be "close" to them. If the guy has b.o. or just doesn't look that great, I will not be interested. I could be wrong though, but that's just my own two cents. I hope that made sense to someone out there...because everytime I explain it, people take it as me being a shallow bitch. >/
I LOVE this video! I feel the same way about men though. I mean I love going out. Clubs, not so much because I don't like shaking my ass for all these creepers. I'd rather just go to a bar or party & sit & chat with people but the truth is, the kind of men that go to parties/clubs don't care about women. :/ Oh & fyi, not all girls who go out are tan blonde bimbos. (; Anyways, just worry about yourself & when it's time the right girl will come along. Keep the videos coming! You are a funny guy (:
Clubs are the worst place to meet a serious romantic partner...& I'm somewhat of a club girl. Well, country dance bars more so. If you check out my videos you'll see what I mean. But I would never ever EVER go to a bar to look for a boyfriend, lol.
Also, weed itself as a narcotic is not addictive. It's the high that is addictive.
You're RIGHT! Personality is super important, but anyone who says looks don't matter at all is lying, lol.
Parties are cool, talking to new people is fun :)
you're right. i went to a club once and im never going again unless i have a girl to go with me. cuz girls at the club are whores they dont have the qualities im looking for and you're right about the whole personality thing. every girl i met always tell me i have one hell of a personality. thats why i never judge.
my girlfriend is addicted to mtv. Jersey Shore and bullshit like that. A bit frustrating because her interests are going out to the bar or club. I wouldn't mind going here and there if i could (turn 21 in a couple months). Fortunately she looks good without make up which is one of the aspects i look for in a female.
I think it's safe to say to avoid any relationship with another person if they are heavily into drugs.
YEEESSSS! I really don't like the idea of clubs and I hate going to parties when I don't know anybody because it just makes me awkward. If I can hang around a friend it's fine because even if everyone else isn't my kind of people, then at least I can talk to them. Also, personality>looks. If someone appeals to me personality wise they're going to be attractive whether the rest of the world thinks they're ugly or not. They're gorgeous to me. And grinding? Kissing? People I don't know? NEVER.
Ey dude I'll try keep this short cause I hate typing on my phone, firstly we are similar on the whole clubbing thing I've been a few times when I turned 18 (uk) but it is just full of people you wouldn't want to talk to normally and there all drunk to make it worse, I've been to a few sober and jesuuuuus it's embarrassing watching people. Anyhow you say finding girls remember your only looking for one and when you find her it will be awesome trust me, good vid man look forward to seeing more :)
ok i have a problem wit this gurl we went to a dance in high school im in 9th grade, and idkk if she likes me or not. and my friends are telling me not to ask her out becuz she is a whore. wht should i do?
I went to a club last summer for the first and last time. First of all, I'm not the club type of person and the music sucked. Also,too many nasty people shaking their nasty ass. My type of fun is going to a theme/water park even tho i'm 20. I find it much better than getting wasted and rubbed on by guys I don't even know. I also don't find it pleasant to walk out smelling like cow shit and smoke.
you are honestly one of the most amazing guys i've ever listened to. i love the way you think :) you seem like a really cool guy, very set on what you want- and that's the difference b/w you and most of the other people your age. a lot of people still DON'T know what they want, so they act like morons (esp. at clubs) 'cause it's basically what the media says to do. and when you don't have any thoughts of your own, it gives you guidelines. best of luck, & it'll be worth the wait. promise! :)
I hate the whole club scene, a lot of my schoolmates and close friends are turning 18 at the moment and are constantly wanting to go to clubs/parties etc every single weekend and its lame.
I also agree with your ideas on women. I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years now and I am just turning 18 and we knew each other since we were like 10 so I knew her really well beforehand and thats why we are still together
I TOTALY agree with u. Not to sound cheesy or anything, but I feel we have a connection... haha :)
and just so u know, I would totaly date u! When I ask my friend who she is interested in, she goes, "Mark, he is soo hot!" and I'll be like, "..and...??"
So yeh, I've never dated anyone ever!! Never kissed or hugged a guy that is not related to me. I'm like only 15 and that, but to me, its the hardest time bcoz of high school. With the pressure and everything.
I hate all clubs apart from one rock club. I like going with my frineds and my girlfriend . It's a really atcepting club if i go to another one with my gf everyone will galre at us and give us troubel cause we are gay. With partys I know what you mean but I only go to parties where I know the host and can make a few friends.
you're totally right, I don't like clubbing to, because all they do is just get drunk, search a bitch and then fuck them. In my opinion this is very primitive and it ruins our society. I prefer to go to metal concert because I'm a metalhead and also meet girls that have the same interests that I do, it's more difficult to find a girl in this way but it's worth.
no worries. i've been single my whole life. i'm a month away from being 20. you'll find someone, i'll find someone. we all do, sometimes it just takes more time than expected, i guess haha
You haven't made a video on this channel in a while. You have long fingers, I noticed that when you flipped me off haha. I lost the game. Also. I completely agree about parties and clubs and everything, I'm gonna be the biggest loser in college.
the way i find girls is at college. so i'm kind of at an advantage. i feel like clubs/parties have trashy girls. not all, but a lot. dont meet girls there haha
(our personal message conversation) she likes the short guy but he don't like her and DRAMA and annoyance and yeah cool video keep making ones like these
Just kidding but I always say to my self that is wish everyone was blind so no one got ANYTHING because of their looks because the guys who have girlfriends,and vis versa, (BTW I am in 6 th grade so)they mostly are good looking (no homo) and the same is with girls so no one cares about personality except me right now cause I am just really deep and think really hard on things that people do and stuff and I am ranting but ShotzVlogz that situation didn't work out (our personal message conve
Read "Rules of The Game by Neil Strauss". I found my girlfriend in a club an we have been together since march 2010. That book really changed my life you gotta commit to it and everything will go as described in the book. I love your videos and I admire you as a person so these suggestions are sincere. Keep it up :)
@InTheMindOfAJ I don't know bro, i think that by approaching more girls you gives you the chance to find the one that you like. That method works for everybody I'm a big guy just like you and after following the 30 guide of that book I was totally reborn. Trust me clubs and parties are not filled only with people that are tanned and want to have sex, there are a lot of people that will surprise you once you get to know them.
I gotta admit I've been in the same situation. My ex girlfriend wasn't so appealing at first, but when I got to know her she just seemed so beautiful after that.
Exphyxia 7 months ago
I am 17 and I've never ever had a bf. I am a bigger girl too. But I feel it's necessary to have a bf my friend always has to have one and I don't see the big deal about it but it's what people choose... Idk what the hell this has to do with ur video but I decided to semi vent lol thanks and I love you and ur videos :6
Saraj1060 7 months ago
well i will now you like to fucking eat by looking at you
hsojjosh679 7 months ago
iv been single for two years now, because im fat!!
hsojjosh679 7 months ago
Jesus christ, yes. Everyone says "Be confident" and "Be groomed" but they never say ANYTHING about just finding people that aren't superficial.
GreenGearMood 7 months ago
Dude I think you are one smart young man, you stay with your beleives and you will do good, I wish their was more people in this world like you, and yes women can be cruel as shit most of the time, hell they dont even like each other, cat fights, and women will admit that their best friends are men!. we men have to put up with alot of drama from girls, but also remember there is also alot of bad men! and no good long lasting relationship was ever found in a night club or bar, they are al plastic
mpdanna53 8 months ago
don't judge by looks first before you know someone!!That's so true! Thank you, sir!
lambmian 8 months ago
I did personallities more than looks,been 2 like 1 cluband the whole scene was not for me id rather hit up concerts of icp and shit...never been 2 a party except when I was 5 lol CAKE!!! I not a fat kid but I love cake...idky but I'm totally attracted 2 big guys yum
freaklette69 10 months ago
even though ive never been to a club partys still are better
chriso1265 10 months ago
clubs are shitty.. parties are pretty fun it depends on whos there.bbut yeah take it easy man
AlecVannoy 11 months ago
keep up the good work brother....stay up
AlecVannoy 11 months ago
You sound like a real genuine guy. Stay that way and do not succumb to physical desire like you mentioned, be yourself, and definitely stop actually searching for that girl, let her come to you. That's how it happened with me, after I stopped searching. She caught me off-guard. The best advice I could ever give you or anyone in your situation because I've been there, is follow your heart/gut/intuition, no matter how good something looks on paper, follow it. It lead me to what I wanted most.
TheMcdili 11 months ago
I totally agree with everything you said in this video. I had an epiphany about how shit clubs are whilst at one, I'm more of a party person tbh, like you said I prefer the social aspect of getting to know someone regardless of whether there is romantic feeling involved.
absolutionjhx 11 months ago
Been to the most exclusive clubs in LA & NYC. Only fun was getting hammered & making fun of all the people trying too hard. They had the celeb factor, which did not make them cooler, but slightly more interesting because, come on, seeing Tara Reid, Andy Dick, & Christina Aguilera belligerently drunk, falling down, puking on themselves & starting fights is something to watch. In the end, its all vapid bullshit with lots of alcohol and drugs and I pity anyone who goes to clubs for entertainment.
AmazingMonkeyQueen 11 months ago
All that i'm saying is that from someone's conent/beliefs and subconcious brings about that superfcial
Crunkmastaflexx 11 months ago
One thing i think should be said about any situation is, if you find yourself acting different to try to impress someone you're already lying to them in a weird indirect way. The best thing you can do is be yourself, I know it's Cleshe but that's the only way you will find anyone that you can truly get along with weather it's friends or something more. If your not being you it will only lead to disappointment later.
TravisLisonbee 11 months ago
LOVE this video! I feel the same way about men though. I mean I love going out. Clubs, not so much because I don't like shaking my ass for all these creepers. I'd rather just go to a bar or party & sit & chat with people but the truth is, the kind of men that go to parties/clubs don't care about women. :/ Oh & fyi, not all girls who go out are tan blonde bimbos. (; Anyways, just worry about yourself & when it's time the right girl will come along. Keep the videos coming! You are a funny guy (:
wannabeloserr1 1 year ago
i don't like clubs or parties, and i agree some popular girls/guys are jerks.....i agree some are very nice but most aren't. I am not the hot chick or anything yet i have a bf, so for gals and guys, don't lose hope just because you haven't found anybody yet. There are guys/girls out there that only care about who you are, not about the looks.
Deetycat 1 year ago
I don't really like going to clubs. Sometimes it's fun but most of the time I'm just being checked out by guys I have no interest in and that makes me feel pretty damn awkward.. But bars are usually fun. Well not really bars but more like pubs I guess.. Somewhere where a conversation is actually possible with a relaxed setting.. I like those.
LadyPleasance 1 year ago
how old are you? because you dont look THAT old, but i mean you have so much feelings and are such a good person for how old you look. to make it short, you are undeniably an amazing guy :)
thecottonpuff 1 year ago 3
@thecottonpuff i am almost 20.
ShoTzVlogz 1 year ago
Clubs and parties are full of a ton of show offs
xCRDz 1 year ago 2
i have to be honest, i dont even have the nessesary age to even go to a club. but what i can say is that i totally agree with you and looks are not everything. i personally dont even look for somene who has that much in common with me. shure, you need to have something to talk about but what most matters to me is if they give a fuck about me and like me and are funny and are nice to me and stuff. i dont know i guess that to find a nice guy would be a great place to start ;)
8Drakkar3 1 year ago
I totally agree. I live at university 6 hours away from my girlfriend of almost 2 years so when the weekend rolls around and all my friends want to go out to the club I'm really hesitant for a number of reasons, I usually end up DDing, the music is okay but I'd much rather go to a metal concert, hockey game or even a movie. I guess it's because I'm not really interested in meeting new girls but I totally agree that whenever I go to the clubs I feel like all ppl do there is judge other ppl.
martinibookworm 1 year ago
& as far as appearances go, I think that there has to be SOME physical attraction, not necessarily a freakin model but looks play a part in who you're with. I mean, when I'm with someone I want to be "close" to them. If the guy has b.o. or just doesn't look that great, I will not be interested. I could be wrong though, but that's just my own two cents. I hope that made sense to someone out there...because everytime I explain it, people take it as me being a shallow bitch. >/
alyisamichelle 1 year ago
I LOVE this video! I feel the same way about men though. I mean I love going out. Clubs, not so much because I don't like shaking my ass for all these creepers. I'd rather just go to a bar or party & sit & chat with people but the truth is, the kind of men that go to parties/clubs don't care about women. :/ Oh & fyi, not all girls who go out are tan blonde bimbos. (; Anyways, just worry about yourself & when it's time the right girl will come along. Keep the videos coming! You are a funny guy (:
alyisamichelle 1 year ago 2
Ill back you...
because YOU sir, talk sense
Sumosurferr 1 year ago 13
Clubs are the worst place to meet a serious romantic partner...& I'm somewhat of a club girl. Well, country dance bars more so. If you check out my videos you'll see what I mean. But I would never ever EVER go to a bar to look for a boyfriend, lol.
Also, weed itself as a narcotic is not addictive. It's the high that is addictive.
You're RIGHT! Personality is super important, but anyone who says looks don't matter at all is lying, lol.
Parties are cool, talking to new people is fun :)
navychick88 1 year ago
you're right. i went to a club once and im never going again unless i have a girl to go with me. cuz girls at the club are whores they dont have the qualities im looking for and you're right about the whole personality thing. every girl i met always tell me i have one hell of a personality. thats why i never judge.
bensononyeugbo 1 year ago
I think people judge other so quickly on apperance, it sucks. :(
claudiahable 1 year ago
my girlfriend is addicted to mtv. Jersey Shore and bullshit like that. A bit frustrating because her interests are going out to the bar or club. I wouldn't mind going here and there if i could (turn 21 in a couple months). Fortunately she looks good without make up which is one of the aspects i look for in a female.
I think it's safe to say to avoid any relationship with another person if they are heavily into drugs.
eatpumkin090 1 year ago
i totally agree with you ;D
shakin911 1 year ago
YEEESSSS! I really don't like the idea of clubs and I hate going to parties when I don't know anybody because it just makes me awkward. If I can hang around a friend it's fine because even if everyone else isn't my kind of people, then at least I can talk to them. Also, personality>looks. If someone appeals to me personality wise they're going to be attractive whether the rest of the world thinks they're ugly or not. They're gorgeous to me. And grinding? Kissing? People I don't know? NEVER.
ammiella 1 year ago
Ey dude I'll try keep this short cause I hate typing on my phone, firstly we are similar on the whole clubbing thing I've been a few times when I turned 18 (uk) but it is just full of people you wouldn't want to talk to normally and there all drunk to make it worse, I've been to a few sober and jesuuuuus it's embarrassing watching people. Anyhow you say finding girls remember your only looking for one and when you find her it will be awesome trust me, good vid man look forward to seeing more :)
TmakesV 1 year ago
ok i have a problem wit this gurl we went to a dance in high school im in 9th grade, and idkk if she likes me or not. and my friends are telling me not to ask her out becuz she is a whore. wht should i do?
Gilberto1rst 1 year ago
The only reason I would go to a club or party is to get fucked up and dance.
deathmetalterrorist 1 year ago
P.S. More Videos >:D
Gir0flee 1 year ago
I went to a club last summer for the first and last time. First of all, I'm not the club type of person and the music sucked. Also,too many nasty people shaking their nasty ass. My type of fun is going to a theme/water park even tho i'm 20. I find it much better than getting wasted and rubbed on by guys I don't even know. I also don't find it pleasant to walk out smelling like cow shit and smoke.
Gir0flee 1 year ago 16
i dont understand how your single! <3
asheybutt1 1 year ago
you are honestly one of the most amazing guys i've ever listened to. i love the way you think :) you seem like a really cool guy, very set on what you want- and that's the difference b/w you and most of the other people your age. a lot of people still DON'T know what they want, so they act like morons (esp. at clubs) 'cause it's basically what the media says to do. and when you don't have any thoughts of your own, it gives you guidelines. best of luck, & it'll be worth the wait. promise! :)
ShesWithHim 1 year ago
We are pretty similar :P
I hate the whole club scene, a lot of my schoolmates and close friends are turning 18 at the moment and are constantly wanting to go to clubs/parties etc every single weekend and its lame.
I also agree with your ideas on women. I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years now and I am just turning 18 and we knew each other since we were like 10 so I knew her really well beforehand and thats why we are still together
muzzatheginger 1 year ago
yeah. this is exactly why i dont have any action word for word.
mestarimuna 1 year ago
I TOTALY agree with u. Not to sound cheesy or anything, but I feel we have a connection... haha :)
and just so u know, I would totaly date u! When I ask my friend who she is interested in, she goes, "Mark, he is soo hot!" and I'll be like, "..and...??"
So yeh, I've never dated anyone ever!! Never kissed or hugged a guy that is not related to me. I'm like only 15 and that, but to me, its the hardest time bcoz of high school. With the pressure and everything.
So yeh, I think ur a great guy :D
YAYBeyonce 1 year ago
I hate all clubs apart from one rock club. I like going with my frineds and my girlfriend . It's a really atcepting club if i go to another one with my gf everyone will galre at us and give us troubel cause we are gay. With partys I know what you mean but I only go to parties where I know the host and can make a few friends.
kirstkitten 1 year ago
lol i agree with clubs xD
trueloveis4u 1 year ago
you're totally right, I don't like clubbing to, because all they do is just get drunk, search a bitch and then fuck them. In my opinion this is very primitive and it ruins our society. I prefer to go to metal concert because I'm a metalhead and also meet girls that have the same interests that I do, it's more difficult to find a girl in this way but it's worth.
lokom123 1 year ago
You read this :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D
9InchesInDiameter 1 year ago 2
I cant understand how you are single. You are just a bit too gorgeous :)
crimsonlondon 1 year ago
no worries. i've been single my whole life. i'm a month away from being 20. you'll find someone, i'll find someone. we all do, sometimes it just takes more time than expected, i guess haha
TromboneGirl09 1 year ago
@TromboneGirl09 I've been single all my life, too.
How can you guarantee that? WHY do you guarantee that?
GreenGearMood 7 months ago
BITCHES LOVE TRICYCLES!
ZacharyZips 1 year ago
You haven't made a video on this channel in a while. You have long fingers, I noticed that when you flipped me off haha. I lost the game. Also. I completely agree about parties and clubs and everything, I'm gonna be the biggest loser in college.
dancelover2396 1 year ago
the way i find girls is at college. so i'm kind of at an advantage. i feel like clubs/parties have trashy girls. not all, but a lot. dont meet girls there haha
ghero46 1 year ago
(our personal message conversation) she likes the short guy but he don't like her and DRAMA and annoyance and yeah cool video keep making ones like these
VikingMoviesInc 1 year ago
Just kidding but I always say to my self that is wish everyone was blind so no one got ANYTHING because of their looks because the guys who have girlfriends,and vis versa, (BTW I am in 6 th grade so)they mostly are good looking (no homo) and the same is with girls so no one cares about personality except me right now cause I am just really deep and think really hard on things that people do and stuff and I am ranting but ShotzVlogz that situation didn't work out (our personal message conve
VikingMoviesInc 1 year ago
I've been single for 11 years beat that
VikingMoviesInc 1 year ago
Read "Rules of The Game by Neil Strauss". I found my girlfriend in a club an we have been together since march 2010. That book really changed my life you gotta commit to it and everything will go as described in the book. I love your videos and I admire you as a person so these suggestions are sincere. Keep it up :)
malacif 1 year ago
@malacif ive read alot of Styles stuff also Carlos Xuma n a few others..it doesnt seem to help me.
InTheMindOfAJ 1 year ago
@InTheMindOfAJ I don't know bro, i think that by approaching more girls you gives you the chance to find the one that you like. That method works for everybody I'm a big guy just like you and after following the 30 guide of that book I was totally reborn. Trust me clubs and parties are not filled only with people that are tanned and want to have sex, there are a lot of people that will surprise you once you get to know them.
malacif 1 year ago