Relationships: Does Dating Age Difference Matter?

[WimpyV3]

I'm a 22 yr old man and seeing a 42 year old woman...we are both very much on the same wavelength and share the same sense of humour...I have a much older than i am head on my shoulders and she is still young at heart...no problems whatsoever

[emobunnyrevolution]

im 15 and hes 18.... is that okay?? i mean ive been ashamed of alot of things about myself but my age was never one of them till now

[BaneOfAzrael]

@emobunnyrevolution “im 15 and hes 18.... is that okay?” --> generally, no. In most cases this would imply that the guy is in it for “less than admirable” reasons. That said, You may not be “most cases”. Just make sure you’re smart about it and it would be wise no to get into anything too serious until your a bit older.

[waluigithecool2]

In my opinion, age shouldn't barricade the overall satisfaction. It's disappointing that it's age over personality. For instance, Anthony Kiedis (49) is currently dating Beth Houghton (~22). That's almost a thirty year gap.

[caligal2010]

I'm 21 and he's 43.... we've been on 4 awesome dates, but we met online, and have known each other for almost a year now. I haven't told my parents yet bc I'm scared about what they'll think/say. Can someone give me some advice? Thank you (:

[BaneOfAzrael]

@caligal2010 Well if you love him and are in it for the right reasons, your family will understand. There will be social stigmas you’d have to deal with on account of the age difference, but who gives a damn what strangers think?

[caligal2010]

@BaneOfAzrael Strangers --- I don't give a damn! Let em think what they want. But I told my parents and they hate the idea :( But, I'm still seeing him because he's such a great guy. Hopefully, one day they'll respect my decision.

[franbot12]

ages doesnt matter long as its legal

[nicktheman0608]

ummmmm idk im 14 and shes 12 buttttt um im 2 years older than her and i really like her and dated before and idk im in high school and she is in middle school :/ idk what to dooooooooooo?

[NatalieHolmstrom]

@nicktheman0608 its fine

[MultiNeonCat]

@nicktheman0608 hi umm im 12 and i have a bf thats 16 and he says age is just a number sooo it doesn't matter thats much if ur in high school and shes in middle school, as long as u love her and she oves u thats kinda all that matters, good luck :)

[mariesauceda]

you right, two consenting adults. im in my thirties and my husband is in his fifties. as long as your happy thats all that matters:)

[Twil890]

does it matter if hes 16 nd im 13???

[loveformileyc]

I'm 13 and he is 17.. is that okay? :/

[bestvideos23]

You're sooooosoosoosoosooooooo prettty and funnny ! Love your opinion

[Mugenblaze300]

I'm 20 and I am really attracted to this 33 year old woman. Is that too big of a gap?

[Labelmebadd18]

i agreee can yu check out mine??

[ZoMb3LL3DarkAngel]

13(me) and 23(him),guess not possible?

[Princygirl18]

ur cute

[dani495x]

21 and 48 is this bad ? were really happy togetter and get long great just people out there start laghting and talking i feel like im on me own sometimes when this happens

[LucyIronMaiden]

@dani495x You're not on your own, im 19 and he is 46,

<3 Love comes in all shapes and forms.

[blooddlock]

Im 18 years old and im in love with a women that is 12 years older than me, I love her so much and i can feel that she feels the same for me. I know most of the people will say that we are crazy and dont know what we are doing. But i know its real love and that i want to be with her for the rest of my life. Think about her 24/7, Gonna try to live together soon.

[midnight1995raven]

how about 16 with 37... and 16 is the cuttoff age

[shellybellyluvsyoo]

@midnight1995raven uhhh??

[sweetgirlygirl93]

OMGGGGGGGGG THANK YOU SO MUCH PLANET ABIOLA :)

[GrammarNazi1988]

I am 23 and have been chit-chatting with a man who's 41.

He flirts like crazy and I love it.

People need to think for themselves and not condem something just because society says to do so.

[redsoxfan186]

I am 15 and a freshman, and the girl that i like and likes me is 14 and in 8th grade. do yall think its okay for me to date her?? please reply

[gothicsoul100]

Adolf Hitler and Eva Braun had a 23 yaers age Difference did that make hitler a bad gut no it did not his war made him a bad guy lol

[HBKdxfan]

hey can i ask?...how about a 21 year and a 30 year guy?...is it okay?

[claudiaandhearts]

Im 14 and This guy im kind of dating is 18... Is that wrong ? I live in australia so 18 is considered adult and under 18 considered underage :| Help me ?

[bribri9327]

Ok my bf is 24 & im 18 we hve been dating over a year now ... Idk how to tell my mom since she threatend him but now she cant or should I even tell her im so confused helpp !!

[yaz1990amanda20]

thats wrong 17 and 21

[tinkerbell10111991]

im 19 and I turn 20 in october.... I'm dating a 35 year old guy. We really love eachother and we are both happy and the sex is AMAZING!!!! haha... what do you think?? too much?

[MsKristenJaymes]

15 & 18?

[MsTiffsickle]

I'm only 15 now, and I'm waiting until I'm at least 21 to try dating the way I'd like, but I find myself only attracted to older men. Not old, more around 30-38 range. I can't help it, and I feel so out of place. I would never act on these feelings at such a young age, but I feel terrible. I'm worried about what other people would think of such a big age difference. People may think I'm a whore, I don't know. I just want to feel better. Your video made me feel a little better, thank you!

[beauty84535]

Do you think 21 and 28 is a big a difference?

[eastasiapower]

@beauty84535 nope

[emmaaoxo]

im in high school+ hes year 11, but 1 week of year 10,im year 8, but 2 months of year 9.

i like him+he likes me but i dont think my family would understand? what do you think?

[Kagepsycho13]

what do you think about a 15yr old kid boy dating a 23yr old girl?

[baggagequeen]

Normally I would say age doesn't matter...feelings matter. But in my case, my husband is 20 years older, and its really becoming a problem. That and other issues LoL. Btw, luv ya girl! <3

[eLLeBO0GIE]

im 21 n a junior in college and the guy is 18 and a freshman in college. i actually his spanish tutor... we flirt alot and i feel guilty about it. i cant help but feel the attraction between us. what do yall think about this?

[thebigboss1212]

I am a 18 years old, and i fell in love with my friend who is 25.

I don't know if should tell her. : (

[LuckyInJuly]

im 43 , but a youngish 43 and the girl im in love with is 26....is that ok?

[Labella221100]

I am 24 years old and my fiance is 41 and we have been crazy in love since we met 3 1/2 years ago

[Slyuken]

@Labella221100

<3

[MiniCoop1996]

Okay well im 14 ( but ill be 15 in a couple months) and i like this guy who is 17( and he likes me too but he just turned 17 like a couple days ago) so tech. we are 2 years apart. Next year he'll be a senior and I'll be a freshman. Is that too wide of a difference??? HELP!

[MsKTMvalley]

18 and 34? :) (girl, me, is 18. my bf is 34)

[sunshine0774820]

I have one question... I'm 15 and i've liked this guy for like 10 years but he is 23 years old.... Should I wait untill im 18? Please help. Thank you

[EliraSTAR1]

@sunshine0774820 i know you not asking me, but i think its all up to you. if this man loves you and you love him, then who cares what other people think?

[sunshine0774820]

@EliraSTAR1 Thank you so much! But what do you think? That I should wait till im 18? I know its illegal for someone older than 18 to date a minor.

[EliraSTAR1]

@sunshine0774820 okay, because you asking me ill give you my honest opinion, yes, i think you should wait. but then again i dont know your relationship with this guy, so the last thing i wanna do is judge. i was in a relationship with an older man, and i waited, thats why i say it. but as i said before, its up to you. all the best.

[sunshine0774820]

@EliraSTAR1 Thank you i think i will probable wait till I get alittle older. I appreciate your honest opinion.

[MisfitAngel85]

My fiancee & I met while we were both working at a local retail store, trying to survive the economy. As our friendship blossomed so did our adoration for one another & 2 years later, here we are! Our Mar.-Dec. (25-46), relationship gets noticed all the time, but we sit back & enjoy the stares & sometimes even joke, "Is it the guy or girl that thinks I'm the gold digger?!" My family loves him & we all get along wonderfully. Never judge a book by it's cover! :D Thanks for the great post!

[WhoDestiny]

I'm 15 & I'm talking to a guy who is 17.

No sex is involved & though he is experienced, he knows his limits with me.

He is incredibly sweet & helped me through many problems I've had.

I'm a freshman & he's a senior . . . is it bad?

[MiniCoop1996]

@WhoDestiny ugh im having the same problem!! lol

[romantix1224]

what if the girl is 19 and the guy is 40+?

[romantix1224]

what if 19 and 40+?

[lesleychaos]

in the "old days" age didn't matter, even teens under 18 were marrying guys in their late twenties, or early thirties, sometimes older through arranged marriages etc. it's in history. just saying.

[Xnothinbetter2dewX]

having trouble with feelings...theres a girl younger than me who really likes me, shes 16 i just turned 20...she's very intelligent and mature for her age..i couldnt believe her when she told me...im attracted to her also...we share interests and have alot in common..just a little confused at the moment

[tacanaca94]

so i have a bf and he is 28 and im 16 .... uhm.. my boyfriend i kno he really truely loves me . . i got pregnant from him and my mom made me abort it ;( we have been going out for three years everyone else is so happy for us but my own family hates me at the moment ..i dont think its wrong to fall in love is it ? we always forget about the age . it doesnt bother us at all . . then i dont know why it should bother the people aorund us . even wen i got prego he was their for me he was so excited.

[cottylover]

@tacanaca94 i know how you feel! im 16 and my boyfriend is 24, i love him to death and we don't notice they age difference at all! hes so respectful and loving, we are both still virgins and he wants to wait until our wedding night ;) we are prefect for each other but all of my friends HATE him, they think its disgusting and stuff but really hes been nothing but nice to them :( its so hard to be catch in between them

[eastasiapower]

@cottylover wow! He's so nice!!!!!

[thunderinthevalley]

@tacanaca94 wow your mom made you abrot it? thats terrible, if i were you, id leave your family and stick with your man!

[E4mily44]

im 18my boyfriend 1 month (friend for 3) is 33, i love him it feels like his what ive been looking for but im so confused its a huge gap im scared to introduce him to family and friends coz what they'll think! he was my bf before i even found out his real age first it was 26 then 23, it was a random girl on fb that told me he was 33 i didnt believe her i trusted him it eventualy realy got to me i went thru his wallet and found his id, then i just cryed it was the fact he lied that hurt so much

[lolol00l]

im very picky with girls soo im 16 and she's 14 ive had sex before and this girl is really pretty and i really like her.

[FanatikosKafetzis]

28 and 19...? Crap, couldn't she be older or me younger? But we communicate deeply and the feelings are strong and carry real weight and after I speak with her I feel so fresh and at times moved by the child she hides inside her. I hate the gap though for many reasons...what is to be done? As usually, nothing, life just moves on because of fears we have and we forget things along the way :-/

[visionimagify]

I was 23 at the time and almost dated a 17 year old, but I stopped it. Was stupid and didn't make sense. I like chicks who are 19+.

[Darkpool14]

what if shes 16 im 15?? will she take me??xd

[cottylover]

@Darkpool14 if you guys are ment to be and she likes u back then yes, one year is NOT a big deal!

[KristinCullen1]

13- and he's 17. I'm really mature for my age.

He's such an Edward Cullen. he'd never use words like "hot".

He's so kind and understanding, when I told him that I had a boyfriend, he said "Oh, I didn't know that. I hope he's good to you."

??help.

[PlanetAbiola]

@KristinCullen1 This is an unhealthy age gap. 17 is much too mature for a 13 year old. I am sure that you are brilliant, beautiful and mature, but take your time!! Love you. xoxo

[Jeffrizel1986]

Personally as long as both parties are 18 or over and ADULTS.. then I really don't see a problem with age...

[ashleytck69]

im 18 and dating a 27 year old i dont see no problem with it.

[howellrod21]

what about a 21 year old with a 17 year old? But we known eachother our entire lives and have best friends since birth literally! No sex involved either at no circumstance we do not want to have sex because she wants to wait and I agree and respect her. An We are in love :)

[PlanetAbiola]

@howellrod21 Wait a year until she's legal, ok? xoxo

[howellrod21]

@PlanetAbiola Thanks for the advice! I will do that :)

[Jeffyboy207]

Well quick question for you. Is it to big of a difference if the girl is 18 and the guy is 30.

[PlanetAbiola]

@Jeffyboy207 You are both consulting adults but an 18 year old is just trying to find her way-- no matter how mature she is. xoxo

[Jeffyboy207]

@PlanetAbiola Thanks it did not work out between us.

[Jeffyboy207]

Just a quick question. Would me dating a 18 year old be weird if I am 30?

[Navygurl181]

Hey girl i was wondering if its ok for a 18 year old to date a 14 year old???

[PlanetAbiola]

@Navygurl181 NO. 18 to 14 is a HUGE developmental difference. And probably illegal. xoxo

[winds4u]

`` What if the guy is younger? xD like 3 years or 4? I'm kinda in that situation... I like this guy 3 years younger. =.= help?

[xDiamondButterfly13]

Well Im 12, & the guy i like is 15. its not bad in the future, but i feel like its a lot right now. But everyone says i look and act like im 15.

[PlanetAbiola]

@xDiamondButterfly13 NO good. Don't do it. If you're 12 you should only be in group dates if you're dating at all. xoxoxo

[MultiColouredRibbonz]

@xDiamondButterfly13 :o same! well hes gonna be 15 in september and im 12. :P

[PlanetAbiola]

@MultiColouredRibbonz 12 is too YOUNG!!! Love you. xoxo

[MultiColouredRibbonz]

@PlanetAbiola :L you think? but when hes older it will be okay. :L

[blah0206]

i'm 16. my ex boyfriends 32. he's hard of hearing, and we started by being good friends. i was interested in sign language, he was helping me, we formed a very strong bond, then became intimate. it lasted a while and then our maturity levels started to come between us. (NOT OUR AGE) i personally think age isnt the question, but how mature the people are. our relationship didnt last, but it was fun while it lasted, and we are still great friends. we both date other people and are open about it :)

[PlanetAbiola]

You're underage so please make sure that your parents our guardians know who you're dating for safety reasons. xoxo

[blah0206]

i'm not dating anyone now. but my parents knew about it. thank you for worrying though :) its sweet.

[rodssslive]

@PlanetAbiola fuck that! that is so american.

[808Lana]

i don't want to limit myself by age. Pickings are already slim even within the same age group so I broaden my horizons as I get older anyway. An age gap is better than living and then dying alone. Shoot.

[PlanetAbiola]

I feel you!

[libertyprincess]

what about a man who is 24 years older?? and the fact of the guy passing on and how to handle that??

[thakozhani]

well my great uncle when in his mid 50's married a much younger mid 20's woman..had a couple shortys and 10yrs later are no longer 2gether...guess it can b good while it lasts...

[Pirate7X]

Big shouts to you Abiola and whole Guyana-Caribbean fam!

Gorgeous as always.

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[damaliabrams]

hmmm....it's a tough call. 18 is considered an adult but everyone over 18 knows that you're still a kid at that age so an 18 yr old with a 30 yr old is gross to me but i guess that's just me.

[kambridge967]

@damaliabrams your ignorant if u think an 18 year old going out with a 30 year old is gross. their nothing gross about that your just brainwashed and ignorant thats all.

[MsKTMvalley]

@kambridge967 Why would it be gross and why wouldn't it be gross?

[kambridge967]

@MsKTMvalley I have no reason on why its gross because i dont think its gross. I dont think its gross because age is just a number and why should a fuckin age number diffrence between 2 fully developed individuals be considered gross.? shit is mega stupid!!1

[MsKTMvalley]

@kambridge967 What but one is not fully developed? Although 18 is considered the age of an adult, one still hasn't gained enough wisdom nor physically developed fully.

[kambridge967]

@MsKTMvalley oh! god wait a minute you say an 18 year old shouldnt be in a relationship because they havent gained enough wisdom? 18 year olds have to be in a relationship to get that wisdom, its called learning. and a 30 year old can guide the 18 year old in the right direction or give valueble advice because he or she has a little bit more wisdom, theyve been through it. Now thats true that males are not physically fully developed at 18. But females are fully developed at 18. Even before 18!

[MsKTMvalley]

@kambridge967 The alcoholic drinking age is 21. There's a reason for that. It's to ensure safe drinking. A matter of responsibility and physical capabilities of taking in the alcohol content. 18 year olds are definitely NOT fully developed.

[eLLeBO0GIE]

@MsKTMvalley but its legal to drink at 18 in trinidad. u can be responsible at 18

[LuvemOrLeavem]

Too many fans to be contained on one fan page! You go Abiola. Fun video as always. BTW, only you could make that hat look good.

[hourglas39]

Cute Hat by the way. Looks like you just came from Alaska or some place Cold :)

[hourglas39]

Depends on what the relationship is based on. If it based on sex, and Good sex at that, then the guy would HAVE to be younger because they have more energy in the bedroom. LOL :)

Now for companionship, as long as you have alot in common and depending on the sex drive that you both have, then it would just depend. May a 5 year difference.

Thanks for the Shout Out Diva !

I was wondering where you've been ! :)

Have you been hooking up with that Cab driver from your video ? LMAO :) hahah

[ADULTabuse]

i dont care what age you are, as long as she's as sexy as you and has a funky hat, then i'm down.......*hint hint*

[Bombshellvixen08]

girl i love that hat your so beautiful.

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[ericljonesshow]

you have great show ..keep up the work lady!!!

[yvessaintlaurent88]

Abiola, you look so beautiful!! I LOVE your make up!! But, yeah, I kind of think age doesn't matter. Well, this may sound messed up but I think it's ok for a man to date a younger woman but I don't think it's cool for a woman to date a younger man. There's something really weird about a woman dating a man who is much younger than her. Maybe that's just me but I could NEVER date a younger man.

[RealGurl920]

thank-u 4 shoutin' me out abiola, I'll be waitin' 4 ure many more vids, ure the best.!!!!!

[DrJeanine]

You are fantastic!! Glad I discovered you!!

[OceanTownPictures]

If two people have enough in common, age shouldn't matter. People need to do what makes them happy and never worry about the opinions of others and let's face it, society can be pretty damn judgmental. So, if you're 20 and happy with your 80 year old, party on! -Steven-

[nando1635]

work that sexiness--live and let live, right!

[Sweet1T28]

i say age is only a number, i perfer to be with someone older, due to mature levels. also it just works out to be more stable when dating older people.

[omobolanle27]

pls, can somebody tell me if this does matter, i met a woman who is 6 yrs older than me, she insisted she cant go out with me cos of age diffrence, pls does this really matter, i fink age is a number but maturity and exposures matters in relationship? 36-42

[yvessaintlaurent88]

@omobolanle27.....I think it does. MOST women don't like the thought of being older than their man. I can't really explain it but if I dated a guy who was younger than me, I would feel like he couldn't protect me like an older man could (lol I don't know; it's weird). I would also feel like I'm really old also. Women do not like to feel old so MOST women would say "no" to dating a younger man since it would make us worry about our age even more. I hope I answered your question correctly.

[omobolanle27]

tanks very much 4 ur respond but pls can i have more views.........?

[yvessaintlaurent88]

@omobolanle27.......You're welcome!

[Pirate7X]

Honestly it seem if that woman had more insecurities than she let on. 6 year difference is NOTHING. And y'all are both over 30? Please, sounds like you're better without her...

YSL88 above gave some insight. But I think the protection thing goes with very young cats with no life experience. 36-42 is the same age range. Find someone more suitable than her.

[bertmarx]

never....... if its me... yo you gave me a shout.. good looking out...

[nurvahnah]

I agree with you regarding the maturity level...my man is 13 years older than me and we have been together for 19 months and we now live together and are headed towards marriage!!

[houstonempress86]

it works for me bacause my bf is 6 yrs older than me and when i was with guys younger or my age it just didn't work because they were not mature.