Much love though man. Don't take that as me being negative towards your story. People like you are the ones that will break the barrier. Keep doing what you're doing.
Hey man, I just wanted to ask how you knew Harrison was gay. There is nothing wrong with being gay whatsoever. People should be what they want always. But I'm curious to know your sources because I live in the same city that Harrison did and was Good friends with him. The rise against song that acknowledges him also is about gay bullying suicide. But he was dating a girl when he died and I never knew of him being gay. So if you're just jumping to conclusions, please don't.
Calvin i know just how you feel but the other way around i lived in the city and move to a small town and when i came out at 18 witch seems along time ago i did not have the name calling but when i move to the small town and this is the sad thing is i am 55yr old now and i get what the kids that took there lives had to go true but for each one that would call my fag two would stand up for me so yes it get better
@wesleyis16 Oh, because he mentioned that people asked or told him how gay he was but here in this video we can't tell coz there's no gayness at all. That's why I put on that comment after watching at 2:54 XD
this video is completely inspiring. i'm completely straight, and like you, it was never a question. it breaks my heart to know that someone could be so badly hurt, just because of who they love. ALL LOVE IS EQUAL. i can't believe this is still a controversial topic among our society, and same-sex marriages aren't allowed in some places in the world. i'm doing a video about anti gay-bullying and i may use a couple clips from here.
I suffered in middle school with people calling me gay behind my back and some bullying in a class. I then went to a small private high school and I thrived. I met a friend and we would dress in drag for Halloween and school events and people just smiled and laughed. I loved high school. I am now in college in Vermont and my roommates think i'm gay. (I'm not sure if i'm gay or not..I still feel mixed and i'm 19 on Sunday.) You lived in Westchester County, NY? That is where I live!!!
I am SO glad that i live in one of the most accepting counties.. Three of my best friends are gay, and it mean nothing to anyone.. - it's hard to imagine that in some places of the world, people actually care if other people like the same sex or not.. Wow . .
i live and go to high school in westchester right now and i can safely say that the opinions of the kids here have changed a little bit for the better...people are more open and willing to accept anyone for who they are. Its slowly getting better and although there are still bullies more and more teenagers are willing to stick up for those who need a friend...thank you for speaking your mind and touching the hearts of so many people :)
…cont. Dont’t get it and are not accepting. But there are still so many people who are gay and who are accepting or plainly dont give a shit so idunno. Sounds odd to me. not that I think he’s lying haha but it is surprising and disappointing.
@esmith4646 yeah, in westchester at least nowadays no one really cares. it’s pretty big I’d say.. I mean its an entire county so it would at least seem to me like there is that opportunity especially being so close to the city to make friends that you can have so much in common with. I live in westchester and the school i go to is very big. it’s too big to have cliques and for there to be one way to be. sure, there are people who are not accepting of gays- people who are set in their ways and
i loved this story, its so motivational. you put up with so much, not many people can say they have that much self esteem, and could put up with 19 years of pressure.
ps you have beautiful eyes AND amazing cherry lips :)
You are amazing. I promise I will now stand up for anyone. I'm straight, but my brother is gay. He had death threats, bullying, everything in highschool. He now lives with his partner, and they own a house together. :) I completely support you, and you are so beautiful. Love you! <3
@Gking891 Would you PLEASE do us the huge favour and shut the fuck up? Wouldn't you whine about people calling you a shallow, stupid, ignorant person - even if you obviously ARE a shallow, stupid, ignorant person? Being gay is not filthy or immoral and it most certainly is NOT abnormal and it DEFINITELY does not give anyone the right to make fun of another human being! Regardless of our sexual preferences, weight, ethnical background or whatever - we're all humans!
You are a wonderful person please keep the faith and never forget that you are loved even by people who you don't know. I will hold you in my heart you are an inspiring person.
@Gking891 No one likes to be called a fag or to be known gay. Reason why is because whenever someone admits their gay or lesbo, people make fun of them. Stfu and gtfo.
A man having a relationship with another man and vice versa with woman is just not the way its supposed to be. Im not homophobic but I study the bible n all. and there are male and females on this earth for a reason, we humans have done this too ourselves it hasnt been like this forever, just a bit more recently. God made all other animals perfect and the way its supposed to be. Gay marriage shouldnt be. But bullying shouldn't be either. But this wont change anytime soon.
I honestly do not understand why anyone cares if someone is gay or not. Seriously. Why does it matter? If you're gay, and someone makes fun of you because of it, just call them a douchebag, give them the finger, and tell them to fuck off.. Then go have a rewarding and successful life.
I'm so glad that I found this, my best friend has been struggling with this issue lately, he's got a girlfriend a ton of friends everyone likes him but he's not happy. I tell him all the time he need to break up with his gf as nicely as possible and be with someone (obviously a guy) that he really wants to be with, I sent him this video and I hope he's as inspired as I was.
This is insane! When you tell an innocent 10 year old that a "gay" man invented anal sex, that could persuade that child to want to be gay or lesbian. What does a person's sex life have to do with their accomplishments? It has nothing to do with anything. This entire topic is aimed at teaching that gay sex is okay. When are the people going to put their feet down against these sick homosexuals. They are already "raping" our boys and girls. This must stop, and it must stop now!
I also knew I was gay since I was in kindergarten. I made the mistake of asking a boy if, since he was my friend, did that make him my "boy"friend, and from then on I was ostracized by my peers. I was only able to make friends with other outcasts or new students, but these friendships never lasted long. I went through 12 years of school trying harder to pass as straight than trying to pass my classes. Luckily, my family loved me no matter what.
God loves everyone no matter what they are right? then to all the stupid homophobes out there, you obviously don't know your God as well as you think do you?
Really? This video only has that many views. Well I hope others in the closet like me find this, because it's honestly one of the best on YouTube. I'm 16, it will get better in 2 years. (:
To any gay guys contemplating suicide,take it from a future preacher-Jesus loves you,none of us are good enough to go to heaven,gay or straight,only Jesus was.What's important is to accept Christ as your Lord and Savior.
I am still in the closet but get bullied for being gay... My bestfriend is the only one who knows and he is in love with me but I fear that he is all I have and I dont wanna lose him as a friend.
@packerman1962 FUCK YOU, YOU COMPLEAT AND UTER FUCKING JUDGEMENTAL HOMOPHOBE GO TWO FUCKING HELL WITH ALL THE OUTHER JUDGEMENTAL PRICK GET A FUCKING LIFE DICK HEAD !!!!!!!
@packerman1962 excuse me? we're in 2011 and you still think that only gays can rape children? Boy, you're such a retarded guy. EVERYONE (at least, those who has psychological disorders) can rape a child, can be a pedophile, I mean a mother can be a pedophile, a straight brother, a straight grandpa, even a priest can be a pedophile!
And ou know what? What you think doesn't make you a better person than a pedophile.
Your life was sad so you say.i'm a God believer and i found God two years and now i'm been bully and talk back because i believe in Jesus.I don't Blame you who am I to do that and nor should someone one else.God gave us free will i hate religions because it drags most of us to be confused, I separate religion and God why? because he is the truth i am not gay and i'm a Christian i don't think your right nor i feel sorry for you but i love. why? cause God is Love.
I can't believe you had to put up with such a life. I live in the UK and all of a sudden I feel so blessed that I have not had it nearly as hard as you. Is this what it's like everywhere in America? It's heartbreaking.
I used to hate myself, and insults really hurt me, however I would only ever get the odd insult.
I wished to thank you for doing your part as a queer (LGBT/gay) man to promote this project, whose values will I believe , ultimately benifit both gay and straight young "at risk people ! Even I, growing up in the "left leaning, progressive", San Francisco Bay area, was not immune to the suffering wrought
by the suicide of a boy (Bobby Griffith/Prayers for Bobby) I had once loved. Stopping this profane phenomenon is very personal to me!
hey. i found tis vid while researching for a school production peice on how gay bullying affects people . i am a bisexual girl and i go to school in the city but live in a tiny village . when i came out a few months ago it was really hard and i got alot of stick for it . but it is getting better for me . i just wanted to say thank you for uploading this video because i got bullied so badly i started self harming . this video has helped me slightly so again thank you :)
Hey Calvin! I am a 22-yr-old straight girl so I can't know exactly how u felf, but I know what it feels like being different than what society expects u to be. I just want to add to what you're saying that if anyone gets bullied for any reason at all, you should just remember it's just school. It definitely does get better. When you finish school you just find ur way with ppl who accept u for who u are. No matter why you are different, it gets better. NICE VID CALVIN!
Omg dude I feel so bad 4 u... I got bullied n shit but I got over it...i just got over it n didn't give a fuk about eat ppl thought... I'm happy 4 u dat u weren't sum idiot that killed himself :)
Thanks for the video. You had a very different experience than I did, and I think it's good for me to stay grounded by hearing others people's stories.
jesee... BULLYING IS BULLYING.. ITS NOT A GAY ISSUE !!.. *rolls eyes*.. GIMMIE A BREAK GAYS..
...GAYS ARE A JOKE, TRYING TO TAKE OVER THE BULLYING ISSUE.. AND THE COLOR PURPLE.. WTF! , THEY ALREADY STOLE THE RAINBOW... THIS KID IS A SO MIS INFORMED..
@raiders2000 (sighs) oh my god.. SHUT THE FUCK UP, YOU HOMOPHOBIC ASSHOLE!!! just go rot in hell with the rest of the homophobes, racists, sexists, etc. i mean, really... just what is your justification for being so biased towards gay people? WHAT IS YOUR FUCKING JUSTIFICATION?! And don't give me all this "gays are immoral" or "faggots are evil" bullcrap! Give me a real GOOD REASON why you should have the right to treat gays as unequal. If ya can't do so, then please don't respond.
@raiders2000 TRY BEING GAY, GOING THROUGH THIS SHIT, BEING "DIFFERENT" TO ALL OF YOUR CLASS MATES, BEING MADE TO FEEL LIKE A FUCKING ALIENATED COCK SUCKER, AND YOU'LL UNDERSTAND WHAT IT FEELS LIKE.
when I was in high school, when I had those dudes who found other ways to make life hell for me other than calling me a fag, because the one time someone called me that I knocked him on his ass and he was a bully and I am manly anyhow so I had to tell people and so they found other ways to exclude me and be subtle...
but with those homophobes that picked me last and gave me shitty parts of projects, I found that blowing them was the solution to that issue... they shut up after that...
on the contrary, the few gay people in my school were either queens or diesel dykes and my admission and beating up the isolated incident of homophobia I experienced didn't make me accepted by them at all... my lesbian mother either... for "bowing down to the straight world" by not being into the scene and pink triangle, which having family who fled the 3rd reich to avoid being killed by Nazis, I still can't understand that being a proud thing to wear and being afraid to be a queen...
and I am not the annoying macho trying to hard gay dudes either, they are like those fag bashers and tend to mate well with the same type of guy, kind of like the queens, they end up together also... my exes and I have always seemed like the single straight best friends and often get hit on by annoying straight women in bars and coming out leads to "we should go shopping sometime" and after passing they get rude too... not all fags want to be gay bffs and shop with women...
Thank you for sharing, Calvin. I am in my late 60s and went to school in the 1950s, and experienced the very same emotions you express in your video. Sadly, I had to stay in that closet for many more years hiding from it all, but finally found the courage to deal with the lies when I was 53 years old. It wasn't easy, but my life did get better as you've promised others it does.
Never regret what you DIDN'T do when you could have. What matters is that you did this and SOMEBODY is probably going to see it and be helped by it. Bravo, Calvin, for your bravery and your honesty!
I think that it's amazing how much stressed is shown the the children. Just like he said, he was in kinder and he already had issues like how can he make the people around him believe that he is not gay. It's just sad how things are in society, but it is true. It does get better. Hope that all of the people out there don't have to suffer like Calvin. For those that are in that sort of place, I just want you to know, "It does get better."
It was hard for me too - the kids knew I was different in 3rd grade back in 1971. I made it through school and now there is so much joy to life. When you hear the taunts, withdraw focus and know that there is great love for you. Believe and the love will become prominent in your life. Love yourself because you are perfect just the way you are. Perfect.
Calvin, I realized my comments from 2 weeks ago didn't get published. Just wanted to add my support and praise for your brave and thoughtful contribution to this important dialogue. Keep up the great work. Take this as far as you can!
Thank you so much for this. You went through that young-- and now look at you-- at handsome, young eloquent boy with so much wonderful ahead of you. Greetings from London, England. Zack x
Bless you Calvin for having so much courage. This brought tears to my eyes. I hope many young people hear this & have the courage to call The Trevor Project for help.
Calvin, you are such a beautiful young man. Thank you for posting. I hope this reaches parents of young children and anyone who has a child in their life whom they care about . We must be aware that even very young children have these strong feelings about who they are, and that they receive and internalize the messages and the attitudes that surround them. We must let the children in our lives know that there's nothing wrong with them or their peers being gay, and that it's not okay to bully.
You are a wonderful bright human being! Thank you for doing this video! I hope this helps the children, young adults, and adults who feel trapped, bullied and desperate. We are all human, and each one of us is precious.
I was bullied in junior high and high school in Springfield, Oregon during the 1970's but I had an advantage - my dad was my high school Vice Principal! Even so, it was a horrible experience and I am distraught to know that it still goes on today... I had hoped our nation had evolved more. Still I am heartened by young people like you with the will and determination to stand up to bullying. I hope that in our earlier and ongoing struggles we have in some ways made things easier for you.
The fact of the matter is, the kid who killed himself over the bullying freely & willingly chose to take his own life. This is the American left's Terri Schiavo-taking one family's tragedy & using it to further their radical agenda. Hollywood has made it cool to be gay through tv & movies. People who commit suicide do so because they choose to, this is the America the left lives in-no morals, no accountability & utter exploitation for political gain.
You can be proud: I'm out of the closet for 17 years and I never felt so proud to be gay, to see guys like you sharing a wonderful story... Just onhe word: Thank you!
Hi Calvin - I was touched by your monologue and I feel sure that it will help some young people. It continues to amaze me that when the truth is told, it is so riveting. David-Paul in Montreal, Canada
Wow, Calvin. Yet another great video from a guy who has found his way.
I am wondering, when in college, and when your friends asked "Are you gay, Calvin?" if saying "Yes" may have been a better thing for you. I have a feeling many of them would not care or would be more accepting of you. Some may have wanted to date you, as you are obviously a good-looking man.
Take it from a 47-year old gay man, it's not 10% of the population. It's more like 50% interested, 30% for sure. ;-)
Great video and encouragement to others who may be going through the same thing. You are right no matter what our life situation is things will change and they do get better. Bullying is a major problem and the only way we can change it is by speaking up. Thank you to all who are watching and leaving your comments.
Hey Calvin, thanks for your beautiful video. You are a beautiful guy, and masculine in the best sense - I wouldn't have guessed you were gay, but I'm glad you are! And glad you are happy!
@net1warrior it's important not to hate yourself because others hate you. You are beautiful because of who you are, not because of what others think of you. Just endure it and you will lead a great life after school~
Calvin, thank you for sharing your story with the world! Big kiss! X
artlondon123 2 weeks ago
Much love though man. Don't take that as me being negative towards your story. People like you are the ones that will break the barrier. Keep doing what you're doing.
unavailable94 1 month ago
Hey man, I just wanted to ask how you knew Harrison was gay. There is nothing wrong with being gay whatsoever. People should be what they want always. But I'm curious to know your sources because I live in the same city that Harrison did and was Good friends with him. The rise against song that acknowledges him also is about gay bullying suicide. But he was dating a girl when he died and I never knew of him being gay. So if you're just jumping to conclusions, please don't.
unavailable94 1 month ago
Calvin i know just how you feel but the other way around i lived in the city and move to a small town and when i came out at 18 witch seems along time ago i did not have the name calling but when i move to the small town and this is the sad thing is i am 55yr old now and i get what the kids that took there lives had to go true but for each one that would call my fag two would stand up for me so yes it get better
MrJRD55 1 month ago
This Video has gave me hope for the Future, thankyou!
BigBrotherUK12 1 month ago
calvin, your eyes are amazing... from another planet. Keep being this sweet
span26 1 month ago
@izzylark That's actually the korean sign for U. :/
wesleyis16 1 month ago
Ok, but you don't look so gay in this video
YaoiSutori 2 months ago
@YaoiSutori Homosexuality isn't a fashion movement, jsyk
wesleyis16 1 month ago
@wesleyis16 Oh, because he mentioned that people asked or told him how gay he was but here in this video we can't tell coz there's no gayness at all. That's why I put on that comment after watching at 2:54 XD
YaoiSutori 1 month ago
this video is completely inspiring. i'm completely straight, and like you, it was never a question. it breaks my heart to know that someone could be so badly hurt, just because of who they love. ALL LOVE IS EQUAL. i can't believe this is still a controversial topic among our society, and same-sex marriages aren't allowed in some places in the world. i'm doing a video about anti gay-bullying and i may use a couple clips from here.
sdybvig 3 months ago
Im fall in love with you
Vehusogex 3 months ago
I suffered in middle school with people calling me gay behind my back and some bullying in a class. I then went to a small private high school and I thrived. I met a friend and we would dress in drag for Halloween and school events and people just smiled and laughed. I loved high school. I am now in college in Vermont and my roommates think i'm gay. (I'm not sure if i'm gay or not..I still feel mixed and i'm 19 on Sunday.) You lived in Westchester County, NY? That is where I live!!!
Jonita123 4 months ago
YOURE SO CUTE :) your eyes are gorgeous<3
joelandbenjimadden 4 months ago 3
I am SO glad that i live in one of the most accepting counties.. Three of my best friends are gay, and it mean nothing to anyone.. - it's hard to imagine that in some places of the world, people actually care if other people like the same sex or not.. Wow . .
steventylerrockon 5 months ago in playlist It Gets Better
Very brave of you to share this story!
pufferluver14 5 months ago in playlist It Gets Better
This was an incredibly moving coming-out story. Worrying about having a beard in Kindergarten? Wow.
Also, I kind of have a crush on you now. :)
OnMyWaytotheFLA 5 months ago in playlist It Gets Better
You don't sound or look gay.... in a way that's how I can respect you.
FlyteWizard 5 months ago in playlist It Gets Better
You're amazing Calvin <3
VanyaLeanne 5 months ago in playlist It Gets Better 2
i live and go to high school in westchester right now and i can safely say that the opinions of the kids here have changed a little bit for the better...people are more open and willing to accept anyone for who they are. Its slowly getting better and although there are still bullies more and more teenagers are willing to stick up for those who need a friend...thank you for speaking your mind and touching the hearts of so many people :)
jboop23 5 months ago in playlist It Gets Better
…cont. Dont’t get it and are not accepting. But there are still so many people who are gay and who are accepting or plainly dont give a shit so idunno. Sounds odd to me. not that I think he’s lying haha but it is surprising and disappointing.
jx3xc 5 months ago in playlist It Gets Better
west chester pa i wldnt think that wld happen there
esmith4646 5 months ago in playlist It Gets Better
@esmith4646 yeah, in westchester at least nowadays no one really cares. it’s pretty big I’d say.. I mean its an entire county so it would at least seem to me like there is that opportunity especially being so close to the city to make friends that you can have so much in common with. I live in westchester and the school i go to is very big. it’s too big to have cliques and for there to be one way to be. sure, there are people who are not accepting of gays- people who are set in their ways and
jx3xc 5 months ago in playlist It Gets Better
@jx3xc thats suprising i live 10 miles from the philly montgom border and theres no hate there... mayb cuz its wealthier....
esmith4646 5 months ago
i loved this story, its so motivational. you put up with so much, not many people can say they have that much self esteem, and could put up with 19 years of pressure.
ps you have beautiful eyes AND amazing cherry lips :)
snowwons12 5 months ago in playlist It Gets Better
You are amazing. I promise I will now stand up for anyone. I'm straight, but my brother is gay. He had death threats, bullying, everything in highschool. He now lives with his partner, and they own a house together. :) I completely support you, and you are so beautiful. Love you! <3
petpet217 5 months ago in playlist It Gets Better
Your great Calvin. Your brave Calvin. Your a beautiful person Calvin. Forget everyone else.
KLovesMack1 5 months ago in playlist It Gets Better 3
You're awesome.
GoodjobStephen 5 months ago in playlist It Gets Better
You are a beautiful person, on the inside and the outside :)
GeertTV 5 months ago in playlist It Gets Better
@Gking891 you are so fucking ignorant -_- then what ur sayin is racism, sexism etc is ok? wow..
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XxLunaniexX 5 months ago in playlist It Gets Better
@Gking891 Would you PLEASE do us the huge favour and shut the fuck up? Wouldn't you whine about people calling you a shallow, stupid, ignorant person - even if you obviously ARE a shallow, stupid, ignorant person? Being gay is not filthy or immoral and it most certainly is NOT abnormal and it DEFINITELY does not give anyone the right to make fun of another human being! Regardless of our sexual preferences, weight, ethnical background or whatever - we're all humans!
XxLunaniexX 5 months ago in playlist It Gets Better
Calvin,
You are a wonderful person please keep the faith and never forget that you are loved even by people who you don't know. I will hold you in my heart you are an inspiring person.
catwoman18603 5 months ago in playlist It Gets Better
Im so happy for you! Keep empowering others :))
Lixinim 5 months ago in playlist It Gets Better
Buck sent me here. It's nice to hear it again. I know for a fact that it does get better. You are really gorgeous.
TenderCharles 5 months ago in playlist It Gets Better
@Gking891 No one likes to be called a fag or to be known gay. Reason why is because whenever someone admits their gay or lesbo, people make fun of them. Stfu and gtfo.
xMercuryx56 5 months ago 11
This is great, great video. :)
RyanIsMeBlog 5 months ago
@alot0fmonkeys only god can judge people. In you doing so, you commit blasphemy which is far worse.
neinfun 5 months ago
A man having a relationship with another man and vice versa with woman is just not the way its supposed to be. Im not homophobic but I study the bible n all. and there are male and females on this earth for a reason, we humans have done this too ourselves it hasnt been like this forever, just a bit more recently. God made all other animals perfect and the way its supposed to be. Gay marriage shouldnt be. But bullying shouldn't be either. But this wont change anytime soon.
Alot0fmonkeys 5 months ago
@Alot0fmonkeys there exist homosexual animals, so how are they "perfect" yet we're not?
cyberboy855 5 months ago
I honestly do not understand why anyone cares if someone is gay or not. Seriously. Why does it matter? If you're gay, and someone makes fun of you because of it, just call them a douchebag, give them the finger, and tell them to fuck off.. Then go have a rewarding and successful life.
matt22mccarthy 5 months ago
I'm so glad that I found this, my best friend has been struggling with this issue lately, he's got a girlfriend a ton of friends everyone likes him but he's not happy. I tell him all the time he need to break up with his gf as nicely as possible and be with someone (obviously a guy) that he really wants to be with, I sent him this video and I hope he's as inspired as I was.
bekhababy16 5 months ago 2
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This is insane! When you tell an innocent 10 year old that a "gay" man invented anal sex, that could persuade that child to want to be gay or lesbian. What does a person's sex life have to do with their accomplishments? It has nothing to do with anything. This entire topic is aimed at teaching that gay sex is okay. When are the people going to put their feet down against these sick homosexuals. They are already "raping" our boys and girls. This must stop, and it must stop now!
MsPamAnn 5 months ago in playlist Gay-It Gets Better
I also knew I was gay since I was in kindergarten. I made the mistake of asking a boy if, since he was my friend, did that make him my "boy"friend, and from then on I was ostracized by my peers. I was only able to make friends with other outcasts or new students, but these friendships never lasted long. I went through 12 years of school trying harder to pass as straight than trying to pass my classes. Luckily, my family loved me no matter what.
Xornvestite 6 months ago 2
God loves everyone no matter what they are right? then to all the stupid homophobes out there, you obviously don't know your God as well as you think do you?
emomarauderd93 6 months ago
You dont look gay at all
mystic0608 7 months ago
i fucking respect you for this, not many people can do that, but you did. you've got through it. you are a fucking LEGEND.
ChazRogerz 7 months ago 2
U r really cute. I'm gay and think all homophobes should rot in hell
monquet17 7 months ago 3
Really? This video only has that many views. Well I hope others in the closet like me find this, because it's honestly one of the best on YouTube. I'm 16, it will get better in 2 years. (:
thegayteen 8 months ago 51
@thegayteen Trust me, go to a liberal arts college. You will thrive!
TheCapturetheBomb 5 months ago in playlist It Gets Better
To any gay guys contemplating suicide,take it from a future preacher-Jesus loves you,none of us are good enough to go to heaven,gay or straight,only Jesus was.What's important is to accept Christ as your Lord and Savior.
glassstatue 8 months ago
I am still in the closet but get bullied for being gay... My bestfriend is the only one who knows and he is in love with me but I fear that he is all I have and I dont wanna lose him as a friend.
Tectricity 8 months ago
I allway thought that gay meant happy:P
paktheking1 8 months ago
YOU GO GIRL! :P
paktheking1 8 months ago
this vidio made me cry!!!
smile4ever234 8 months ago
u got pretty eyes ;D
esparto09 8 months ago
Thank you. This video has helped me so much. Inspiring. =)
SuperJazz711 8 months ago
how did they know you were gay? I would never guess.
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AlastairNowill 9 months ago
Amazing video man. I can relate to everything you said, and I hope every gay youth watches this.
davec128 9 months ago
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Oh who cares. Homosexuality is immoral just like pedophilia. If you can't control your urges you know what you should do.
packerman1962 9 months ago
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Oh who cares. Homesexuality is immoral just like pedophilia. If you can't control your urges you know what you should do.
packerman1962 9 months ago
@packerman1962 FUCK YOU, YOU COMPLEAT AND UTER FUCKING JUDGEMENTAL HOMOPHOBE GO TWO FUCKING HELL WITH ALL THE OUTHER JUDGEMENTAL PRICK GET A FUCKING LIFE DICK HEAD !!!!!!!
katyperryloony101 9 months ago
@packerman1962 'jack ass'
GeoffreyD18 8 months ago
@packerman1962 excuse me? we're in 2011 and you still think that only gays can rape children? Boy, you're such a retarded guy. EVERYONE (at least, those who has psychological disorders) can rape a child, can be a pedophile, I mean a mother can be a pedophile, a straight brother, a straight grandpa, even a priest can be a pedophile!
And ou know what? What you think doesn't make you a better person than a pedophile.
nicolasfxckoff 8 months ago
Your life was sad so you say.i'm a God believer and i found God two years and now i'm been bully and talk back because i believe in Jesus.I don't Blame you who am I to do that and nor should someone one else.God gave us free will i hate religions because it drags most of us to be confused, I separate religion and God why? because he is the truth i am not gay and i'm a Christian i don't think your right nor i feel sorry for you but i love. why? cause God is Love.
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Oh who cares. Homosexuality is immoral just like pedophilia. If you can't control your urges you know what you should do
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esparto09 9 months ago
what the....? I don't look nor act gay at all.
bibbo94 10 months ago
WHAT I wan't everyone to know is that everything in society is a SOCIAL CONSTRUCTION: A DISCOURSE. When people realize that WORDS WILL NEVER HURT.
nZombi23 10 months ago
You're cute. And love the video. :)
Very inspirational.
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gamerdudepunk 11 months ago
I can't believe you had to put up with such a life. I live in the UK and all of a sudden I feel so blessed that I have not had it nearly as hard as you. Is this what it's like everywhere in America? It's heartbreaking.
I used to hate myself, and insults really hurt me, however I would only ever get the odd insult.
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CheatersAdvocacy 11 months ago
Thanks! Very inspirational!
1albuseverus 11 months ago
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Ciao Bello Calvin!
I wished to thank you for doing your part as a queer (LGBT/gay) man to promote this project, whose values will I believe , ultimately benifit both gay and straight young "at risk people ! Even I, growing up in the "left leaning, progressive", San Francisco Bay area, was not immune to the suffering wrought
by the suicide of a boy (Bobby Griffith/Prayers for Bobby) I had once loved. Stopping this profane phenomenon is very personal to me!
Grazie
Blaine
blainebill39 11 months ago
hey. i found tis vid while researching for a school production peice on how gay bullying affects people . i am a bisexual girl and i go to school in the city but live in a tiny village . when i came out a few months ago it was really hard and i got alot of stick for it . but it is getting better for me . i just wanted to say thank you for uploading this video because i got bullied so badly i started self harming . this video has helped me slightly so again thank you :)
deathangles100 1 year ago
im crying
TRwalnut 1 year ago
Hey Calvin! I am a 22-yr-old straight girl so I can't know exactly how u felf, but I know what it feels like being different than what society expects u to be. I just want to add to what you're saying that if anyone gets bullied for any reason at all, you should just remember it's just school. It definitely does get better. When you finish school you just find ur way with ppl who accept u for who u are. No matter why you are different, it gets better. NICE VID CALVIN!
sprevil 1 year ago
you're pretty!
electroxxxd 1 year ago
Great video, thank you Calvin
kimbeaverFO 1 year ago
xoxo calvin <3
domeandersoncooper 1 year ago
Omg dude I feel so bad 4 u... I got bullied n shit but I got over it...i just got over it n didn't give a fuk about eat ppl thought... I'm happy 4 u dat u weren't sum idiot that killed himself :)
mandosbi 1 year ago
great video! can you make another? lol
cooperscooper1 1 year ago
You are so sexy you could fuck the shit out of me any day of the week
bbofu 1 year ago
Good going. For the record, I don't think you look gay.
EverlastingVision 1 year ago
Calvin,
Thanks for the video. You had a very different experience than I did, and I think it's good for me to stay grounded by hearing others people's stories.
Best, Ben.
benadgatemusic 1 year ago
Y would people say you sound so gay? You don't. I liked this video thank you
cokefan23 1 year ago
Thank you for making this video.
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monikaminole 1 year ago
Yes thank you, it needs to be repeated all the time, I know just how difficult it is to come out to everyone,
telecomms1 1 year ago
Shame on the 7 privileged homophobic bigots who disliked this video.
finleyquaye 1 year ago
This is so real and so necessary. I'm straight, but thanks for making this video.
d1ppsy 1 year ago
your cute!
And Inspirational <3
:)
xx
magikmusic1 1 year ago
@Gking891 Shut the fuck up- delete your comment please...you must have no heart to say that. >:|
magikmusic1 1 year ago
MamaLuigiMaster ..if u want a real chat about this..call anytime, didn't think so :)
...NO GAY RIGHTS
raiders2000 1 year ago
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jesee... BULLYING IS BULLYING.. ITS NOT A GAY ISSUE !!.. *rolls eyes*.. GIMMIE A BREAK GAYS..
...GAYS ARE A JOKE, TRYING TO TAKE OVER THE BULLYING ISSUE.. AND THE COLOR PURPLE.. WTF! , THEY ALREADY STOLE THE RAINBOW... THIS KID IS A SO MIS INFORMED..
NO GAY RIGHTS
raiders2000 1 year ago
@raiders2000 (sighs) oh my god.. SHUT THE FUCK UP, YOU HOMOPHOBIC ASSHOLE!!! just go rot in hell with the rest of the homophobes, racists, sexists, etc. i mean, really... just what is your justification for being so biased towards gay people? WHAT IS YOUR FUCKING JUSTIFICATION?! And don't give me all this "gays are immoral" or "faggots are evil" bullcrap! Give me a real GOOD REASON why you should have the right to treat gays as unequal. If ya can't do so, then please don't respond.
MamaLuigiMaster 1 year ago 47
@MamaLuigiMaster Because they have the option to be happier than he can ever be. Miserable people strive to make others miserable.
TheCapturetheBomb 5 months ago in playlist It Gets Better
@raiders2000 TRY BEING GAY, GOING THROUGH THIS SHIT, BEING "DIFFERENT" TO ALL OF YOUR CLASS MATES, BEING MADE TO FEEL LIKE A FUCKING ALIENATED COCK SUCKER, AND YOU'LL UNDERSTAND WHAT IT FEELS LIKE.
oforbesy 1 year ago
when I was in high school, when I had those dudes who found other ways to make life hell for me other than calling me a fag, because the one time someone called me that I knocked him on his ass and he was a bully and I am manly anyhow so I had to tell people and so they found other ways to exclude me and be subtle...
but with those homophobes that picked me last and gave me shitty parts of projects, I found that blowing them was the solution to that issue... they shut up after that...
HerrSpieldose 1 year ago
on the contrary, the few gay people in my school were either queens or diesel dykes and my admission and beating up the isolated incident of homophobia I experienced didn't make me accepted by them at all... my lesbian mother either... for "bowing down to the straight world" by not being into the scene and pink triangle, which having family who fled the 3rd reich to avoid being killed by Nazis, I still can't understand that being a proud thing to wear and being afraid to be a queen...
HerrSpieldose 1 year ago
and I am not the annoying macho trying to hard gay dudes either, they are like those fag bashers and tend to mate well with the same type of guy, kind of like the queens, they end up together also... my exes and I have always seemed like the single straight best friends and often get hit on by annoying straight women in bars and coming out leads to "we should go shopping sometime" and after passing they get rude too... not all fags want to be gay bffs and shop with women...
HerrSpieldose 1 year ago
Great video, Calvin. Very inspiring, I hope there are kids out there who are listening and who take it to heart.
Findelglorin 1 year ago
Thank you for sharing, Calvin. I am in my late 60s and went to school in the 1950s, and experienced the very same emotions you express in your video. Sadly, I had to stay in that closet for many more years hiding from it all, but finally found the courage to deal with the lies when I was 53 years old. It wasn't easy, but my life did get better as you've promised others it does.
samiinh 1 year ago
I hope things are still working out for you calv
GeoTrans89 1 year ago
I absolutely loved your video.
yunablajer 1 year ago
I hope you make some more videos about different subjects... you have a good style.
copman109a 1 year ago
Thanks for makeing this video Calvin
Im 13 and the bullying at my school i get for being gay is the same as what you said you went threw your video makes me feel better
-sean :)
ihatemetoo1 1 year ago
Touching story. Now can we see your boyfriend? Is he beautiful inside and outside? Dying to know, no pun intended.
digitalkaos2374 1 year ago
Never regret what you DIDN'T do when you could have. What matters is that you did this and SOMEBODY is probably going to see it and be helped by it. Bravo, Calvin, for your bravery and your honesty!
Survivor2002 1 year ago
I love your purple shirt ♥
huy14491 1 year ago
I think that it's amazing how much stressed is shown the the children. Just like he said, he was in kinder and he already had issues like how can he make the people around him believe that he is not gay. It's just sad how things are in society, but it is true. It does get better. Hope that all of the people out there don't have to suffer like Calvin. For those that are in that sort of place, I just want you to know, "It does get better."
RCalister 1 year ago
Calvin, you're so right.
It was hard for me too - the kids knew I was different in 3rd grade back in 1971. I made it through school and now there is so much joy to life. When you hear the taunts, withdraw focus and know that there is great love for you. Believe and the love will become prominent in your life. Love yourself because you are perfect just the way you are. Perfect.
Calvin - thanks again. Peace to you.
wdaley24 1 year ago
Calvin, I realized my comments from 2 weeks ago didn't get published. Just wanted to add my support and praise for your brave and thoughtful contribution to this important dialogue. Keep up the great work. Take this as far as you can!
popguynyc 1 year ago
Thank you so much for this. You went through that young-- and now look at you-- at handsome, young eloquent boy with so much wonderful ahead of you. Greetings from London, England. Zack x
ZackoriahHolland 1 year ago
Flawless video, flawless message, stan for life etc etc.
Found this via you know where
leafdais 1 year ago
Bless you Calvin for having so much courage. This brought tears to my eyes. I hope many young people hear this & have the courage to call The Trevor Project for help.
vihara79 1 year ago
Great video. This is why mine is silent; others like yourself have said it so much better than I could have.
firstpigeon 1 year ago
Calvin, you are such a beautiful young man. Thank you for posting. I hope this reaches parents of young children and anyone who has a child in their life whom they care about . We must be aware that even very young children have these strong feelings about who they are, and that they receive and internalize the messages and the attitudes that surround them. We must let the children in our lives know that there's nothing wrong with them or their peers being gay, and that it's not okay to bully.
mrbuddychou 1 year ago
This is such a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing your story and your strength with us all. <3
Gisellybean 1 year ago
Woohoo! Love it! Love you! Hooray for Gayness!
TheAlaskanPirate 1 year ago
Thank you so much for this. Just awesome.
xav8rdan 1 year ago
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uhm.... whoa, you are insanely cute. way beautiful. inside and out. thanks for this.
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socalecho 1 year ago
Great video; thanks for creating/sharing. I hope this and the whole series is found by kids in need of these hopeful messages!
sbaratz 1 year ago
You are a wonderful bright human being! Thank you for doing this video! I hope this helps the children, young adults, and adults who feel trapped, bullied and desperate. We are all human, and each one of us is precious.
MEWolf9656 1 year ago
I was bullied in junior high and high school in Springfield, Oregon during the 1970's but I had an advantage - my dad was my high school Vice Principal! Even so, it was a horrible experience and I am distraught to know that it still goes on today... I had hoped our nation had evolved more. Still I am heartened by young people like you with the will and determination to stand up to bullying. I hope that in our earlier and ongoing struggles we have in some ways made things easier for you.
akdouglas1 1 year ago
Calvin, you rock. Proud to know you're an actual, real-life friend. Much Love Always!
antfactor 1 year ago
thank you so much! this really helped me out ^^
sacredtree 1 year ago
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The fact of the matter is, the kid who killed himself over the bullying freely & willingly chose to take his own life. This is the American left's Terri Schiavo-taking one family's tragedy & using it to further their radical agenda. Hollywood has made it cool to be gay through tv & movies. People who commit suicide do so because they choose to, this is the America the left lives in-no morals, no accountability & utter exploitation for political gain.
BlackRepublican2010 1 year ago
You are adorable. Thank you for sharing your story and for making yourself available for those that need help.
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You people need to stop worshiping the dead.They are in hell people.
montsyblackmadonna 1 year ago
Make another video, Calvin!
Spaceroads 1 year ago
i dont get it he doesnt sound gay?
FrekklesOnFire 1 year ago
@FrekklesOnFire You can't sayhe doesn't sound gay. Some people sound gay doesn't mean they r gay.. :S..
samueljameziskewl 1 year ago
@samueljameziskewl im aware of that im talking about how he says ppl would say oh kalvin u sound gay
FrekklesOnFire 1 year ago
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"are you a faggot, no offense" WTF!?!?!?
blazereef 1 year ago
thank you for sharing your story...happy you remained so strong...and you are really cute ;)
musicfan808 1 year ago
Sad, but gerat Story. Thanks for Helling me. Greefs from Germane
Knuckles23X 1 year ago
You can be proud: I'm out of the closet for 17 years and I never felt so proud to be gay, to see guys like you sharing a wonderful story... Just onhe word: Thank you!
Big hugs from Germany !
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x3terry 1 year ago
Oh. You're wearing purple. Coincidence?
Spaceroads 1 year ago
aw, you're cute:3
and you don't even sound gay
this was inspiring.
i love you for making this
it's similar to what i'm going through and it gives me hope<3 thank you.
chriscam122 1 year ago
Thank you for sharing your story. It's so important that we stand up for people who are bullied for any reason. I hope you story helps someone.
ste11astar 1 year ago
i hate that it has to get better, it should already be better. But nice video.
babygurl112 1 year ago
I admire your beautiful honesty. Your words have incredible power. Thank you.
lauradamb 1 year ago
I admire your beautiful honesty. Your words have incredible power. Thank you.
lauradamb 1 year ago
You are so beautiful and courage is your name. Thank you. You made me cry you bastard. Love Calvin.
edehin 1 year ago
wow, what a story... thanks so much for sharing.
stanleycoleman 1 year ago
Aww <3 I bet your first boyfriend felt exactly the same way about you!
pusssssyyyyyy 1 year ago
Hi Calvin - I was touched by your monologue and I feel sure that it will help some young people. It continues to amaze me that when the truth is told, it is so riveting. David-Paul in Montreal, Canada
InnerBouquet 1 year ago
Wow, Calvin. Yet another great video from a guy who has found his way.
I am wondering, when in college, and when your friends asked "Are you gay, Calvin?" if saying "Yes" may have been a better thing for you. I have a feeling many of them would not care or would be more accepting of you. Some may have wanted to date you, as you are obviously a good-looking man.
Take it from a 47-year old gay man, it's not 10% of the population. It's more like 50% interested, 30% for sure. ;-)
Victorweb 1 year ago
Great video and encouragement to others who may be going through the same thing. You are right no matter what our life situation is things will change and they do get better. Bullying is a major problem and the only way we can change it is by speaking up. Thank you to all who are watching and leaving your comments.
MissMejiaHQ 1 year ago
Thanks! You're wonderful!
098anne 1 year ago
wooow! so deep! congrats for be so brave! good luck from Barcelona in Catalonia. :)
jamv333333333 1 year ago
Hey Calvin, thanks for your beautiful video. You are a beautiful guy, and masculine in the best sense - I wouldn't have guessed you were gay, but I'm glad you are! And glad you are happy!
premanadi 1 year ago
Sorry, this is my second comment and I've seen your video like 5 times now. I think I'm in love with you! You are so adorable.
cashernandes1 1 year ago
AMAZING video and story. I know exactly where you are coming from.
WelcometoJersey 1 year ago
Calvin, thank you so much for sharing your story. You are an awesome person, and you're so right. It does get better!
ciaranrr 1 year ago
Great video. Plus, you are GORGEOUS. Nice lips and eyes!! Sorry, I know I'm not supposed to be saying things like that, lol.
cashernandes1 1 year ago
I feel so bad for how it went for you. That happened to me too, but back then I was just called a "sissy" all the time.
copman109a 1 year ago
Brought tears to my eyes. Many thanks.
scruffycritter 1 year ago
videos like these make me so happy.
as i get older i feel so bad for other young gay people.
i guess i had a tough time in school too, but ive always had a super thick skin.
i feel bad for people who do let ignorant people get to them and these videos are so great because its letting them know things do get better.
its so true! kids are idiots. ignore them, keep going.
stay strong and carry on.
brush them haters off! :)
k0smikblog 1 year ago
I'm 16 ..
and Yeah I get bullied @ school alot cuz I'm gay.
I hated my life .. I started not caring of myself ..
It still ain't working .. I'm still hating my life .. I'm still getting
bullied .. and after seeing this video .. and after knowing that
it gets better .. it made me feel really good .. it feel way so much better ..
so I guess I'll have to focus on my study and get out of this country
as fast as I could ..
Thank you!
net1warrior 1 year ago
@net1warrior it's important not to hate yourself because others hate you. You are beautiful because of who you are, not because of what others think of you. Just endure it and you will lead a great life after school~
HenhousetheRed 1 year ago