The Black Male Bachelor: Truth or Myth

[melbreeze69]

Some men just want to have sex with a lot of different women. There are a lot of attractive women out there and they WANT TO HAVE AS MANY OF THEM AS THEY CAN GET, BUT THEY JUST DON'T WANT TO TELL YOU. THEY JUST ARE NOT READY TO BE COMMITTED. YOU ARE NOT THE ONE.......YET

[fmcneillii]

I gotta question tho, how did you come to meet these dudes?

[fmcneillii]

You need to go for guy that is into you. Men and women keep chasing people that aren't that interested.

[c00lwatter]

From what I read on YOUTUBE (academic research at it's finest) it looks like black people are the most egotistical people in the world. It pains me to think what NON-black people think about us.

For every man (black or not) complaining about "girls not giving him a chance" there are 100 women he has just looked right passed. For every woman saying "where are all the good black men" there are 100 perfectly respectable normal guys that she just wasn't feeling. The math is so simple.

[raebae90]

You kept it real girl....Im 21....and I totally agree with you

[uchiharod]

I can tell you why you are experiencing this. You women get used up when you are young by going through different dudes. I was having this talk with some friends of mine last week. Why would a man commit to you when he can get sex from you or other women? Why would he commit to you knowing you are texting others? Bottom line is that men don't take women seriously anymore and why should they.....Most of you ladies don't bring assets to the table other than your vagina.

[OfficialKohieArts]

Their are different rankings of men, lots of guys that say they are not ready for relationships are dumb ass because. While other men out their like myself working hard to get women. Those type of men are only players and want to get what they want from you. The problem he didn't have the good to bring to the table its not you.

[Chrystynsview]

@OfficialKohieArts :-)

[mostsincere]

@Chrystynsview

I like your personality and you are pretty. Give me a chance. I have my stuff together. I am about 6 foot, 250lbs of muscle. I work out and am gainfully employed.

[MrBric12]

I just don't want a black woman.

[NinjaZ1001]

What do you have to offer a guy? We heard your list of demands but you haven't said anything about what you have to offer.

Do you cook? Clean? Cater to your man?

Why would he want to be committed to you for the rest of his life?

If all you're bringing to the table is your used up vagina, keep it moving.

[Chrystynsview]

@NinjaZ1001 Well clearly my "used vagina" is enough cause I have someone, thanx for the comment but this video is old and i'm already passed it.

[bhillboy37]

@Chrystynsview

Chicks luck up on 1 boyfriend and feel like they have the right to talk shit and get smart.

[Lilart1981]

@NinjaZ1001 That is so funny. I ask females what they bring to the table & that's literally all they bring is a piece of ass that they give up when she wants to or when she wants you to do her a favor!

They don't bring much to the table which is why she didn't answer your question...

[Chrystynsview]

@Lilart1981 I didn't answer the question because I don't have to prove to anyone. I don't have to tell what I have to offer cause this wasn't made to attract someone. Like I said, this video is old.

[Lilart1981]

@Chrystynsview U make it seem as if the video is 9 yr old or something! It was made in march... Females are funny. Yall express your grievances then when we give a solution or suggestion to the question, yall go into defense mode.

Females now-a-days are worthless at best!

[Chrystynsview]

@Lilart1981 u are funny. cause u didn't give a suggestion or a solution, u jumped on the bandwagon of someone else's smartass remark. I am not in defense mode, I am stating fact. But clearly you have some female issues since all you have stated is that women don't live up to some bullshit idea of what YOU want or what YOU expect.

[Lilart1981]

@Chrystynsview You're not me so that means you're not important! Sorry...

but you do have sexy lips & kinda cute so I guess that's good enough...

[HonorablehardcoreWN]

THAT IS WHAT YOU GET!

[Chrystynsview]

@HonorablehardcoreWN lol ok?

[HonorablehardcoreWN]

@Chrystynsview look at your self then look at were you are and see why you look at dudes like this

[Chrystynsview]

@Chrystynsview I look at myself and I see nothing wrong, plus this video is old. I found a guy and I am beyond happy.

[becomewiser8]

@Chrystynsview Woman give a black man stress when they just know the guy so there is no way he would want to give her further rights to stress him out some more by saying he is in a relationship. There are not many woman out there who will leave a man alone to the point where he would crave her attention as a result the majority of black men would logically not commit, why commit when you can have everything that involves a relationship without giving the woman the actual licence to talk shit

[theMessnger]

Seems like most black men let you know how serious they are from the beginning by their actions, also you kinda have to have some similarities in interest to really make a connection when courting these days.

[visionimagify]

A black bachelor should have his own place, a good job, or career, A 1 bedroom apartment, or house doesn't matter, good clothes, a low-mileage car and a pack of condoms.

[mindyourbizok]

You can't make someone want to be in a relationship. The men may not be attracted to you. Be patient there is someone for you. A man makes no excuses when he wants a relationships.

[Chrystynsview]

@mindyourbizok Thanx and you're right. I did find someone:-)

[logician3]

Your a unusually introspective and intelligent young lady. Hopefully you'll get over your clueless stage before its too late. Unfortunately you've been played by society. While the whole Feminist Movement of sexual freedom and blah blah blah changed how women think, it dint change how men think. Men usually honor women who honor and value their own virtue. Think about it, why would a man marry u if your already suckin his d*#k every night?? Theres no virtue left to honor. This is how men think.

[ncili]

y buy the cow if the milk is free? aint no mystery to this shit, u let him fuck w/o commitment so y commit to u now? bitches is stupid.

what pisses me off is i know u turned down alot of dudes who would've been committed and faithful to yo whore ass, but u didnt like how they looked or some dumb shit.

whenever i hear girls as pretty as this talk about relationship problems, all i can think about the dudes she turned down vs. the ones she chose.

[Chrystynsview]

@ncili lol i know I should be offended but I'll say this..............thanx and u have a lot of truth to what ur saying. I have turned down relationships but not for the reasons u mentioned. We all have our issues and mine definitely define who i am attracted to on a personality level.

[NewJackBaby]

@Chrystynsview You a damn lie

[Chrystynsview]

@NewJackBaby riiiiiiiiiiiight cause u know me so well to say that. lol whateva buddy

[whitetailhunta]

@ncili man you hit the nail on the head! its like you read my mind.

[4LOSTSOULSONLY]

As soon as all females worldwide require marriage and real LOVE aka selflessness only from all males worldwide then they won't be used like garbage cans no more and males will have no choice but to marry all females first in order to have sex with them period (1st Corinthians 6:18,2nd Timothy 3:1-9,verse 13,Revelation 21:8) but you don't hear me though.The majority of males just want sex only worldwide period but you don't hear me though.

[blackandgoldone]

You seem exceptional and I like your video. Yes there is a shortage of committal black men. Also, a lot of black women act in ways that drive black men to behave in the way you described. As a result, we sometimes don't recognize what appears to be a woman who is worthy of commitment OR we simply don't trust her for the long run. Finally, if you limit yourself to guys 6ft and over; you have limited yourself to the most in demand guys in the dating pool...you'll PROBABLY get the same results...

[Chrystynsview]

@blackandgoldone Thanx for the comment. LOL! I don't limit myself to men who are only 6ft cause most of the men I've dated fall far short of that. But I can appreciate where you are coming.

[blackandgoldone]

@Chrystynsview That mean you should try wearing 3 inch heels.

I GUARANTEE you'll get more of what you want...

[Chrystynsview]

@blackandgoldone haha 3 or higher is all I wear and only guys bold enough to come up to me then are the ones who would still be shorter than me with my heels off lol,

[blackandgoldone]

I'm posting this comment BEFORE I listen to the video. I'm a Black Male Bachelor, and I'm SKEPTICAL about the views I think will be prevented. I will post again AFTER I have watched the video. As a college educated and generally attractive African American bachelor; I don't even know why the word myth would be associated with me. OK....let's see what you have to say...

[cjjaxxon]

I think you just have to accept that if man says that he don't wanna be or don't have time to be in a relationship, then that's it. Men and women are different, If you ain't got it by now, you'll get it. And no it ain't an epidemic. Either us as men don't wanna be in a relationship or we're waiting for that one.

[Chrystynsview]

@cjjaxxon I can appreciate that..........thanx for the comment

[cjjaxxon]

@Chrystynsview No problem. If a woman told me me she didn't want to commit yeah, I'd ask why too. There's nothing you can do about the reason because the bottom line is she don't wanna be in a relationship.

[goodguysVSbadguys]

Have you ever thought that maybe YOU could be the problem? What are you doing to increase your wifeability? Because when you look at your dilemma, you are the common denominator.

Also, this is not meant to be a personal diss to you, but 5'9 at 160lbs... ehhhh??? You should really work on your on yourself first before making such outlandish physical demands on guys.... Prince Charming isn't just going to come out of nowhere and swoop you up... You got to work for it, sistah

[Chrystynsview]

@goodguysVSbadguys maybe because I am exhausted from work and too tired to be mad, but I have to laugh at ur comment. Clearly you didn't listen to most of my video and that okay cause 10 mins is a long ass time, but first off I did say I have contributed to some of my own dating issues and I ain't tryin to play up to wifey role at 22. Secondly, who the hell is 160lbs? lol cause I surely ain't.

Prince charmin' can kick rocks, cause who wants that bs neways. I want a real dude who ain't short

[goodguysVSbadguys]

@Chrystynsview well if you aren't looking for wifey role then why are you going on a rampage about dudes not wanting to wife you up. You say one thing and then feel the total opposite. Typical 22/old female. And I agree you shouldn't be looking for a relationship right now. You are waaay too young. Therefore, you should stop getting mad at dudes who don't want relationships also. Just enjoy your 20's and have fun. You aint 160, that's cool but you could stand to lose a few lbs and get braces...

[Chrystynsview]

@goodguysVSbadguys WOW! WHO THE FUCK ARE YOU!? I ain't on a rampage about dudes trying to wife me up (clearly you didn't listen), I want to know why some won't grow the fuck up. Don't come to me with some bullshit statements like you are making a point (cause ya didn't) and then try to talk shit about me when your ass ain't even got a damn profile pic. I asked if there was an epidemic, not for some dumbass irrelevant comment. So you can kill it with that shit.

[goodguysVSbadguys]

@Chrystynsview made you mad huh?? sounds like an internal issue to me...

[Chrystynsview]

@goodguysVSbadguys don't flatter yourself

[TheLanguageOfMyWorld]

lol Im kind of like that. I tell females all the time that I'm not ready for a relationship. The thing is for me I actually do want a relationship but I feel like I never find that one that really gets me. Plus I am joining the Marines so the timing is kind of off. So most of the time I put the females I meet in the friend zone and see what happens. Maybe im too picky. I don't know but I know I don't wanna be a bachelor, I just need to find the right one

[Chrystynsview]

@TheLanguageOfMyWorld I respect that answer. I have dated my share of military guys and to be with someone in the military when the other person isn't is hard on both people. I like ur honesty, thanx for the comment boo:-)

[christyle77]

Some guys just aren't ready for commitment.

[Chrystynsview]

@christyle77 true

[cjjaxxon]

@christyle77 Simply put.

[jonez2020]

I have friends who dealt with women like this one. The Smart Dumb Chicks, who can't make up their fucking minds. The Clinging type that is straight up crazy. The who thinks, that ever man is suppose to settle down with her,because she has numerous degrees. You can kick anything in her ear, and she falls for it. she just Gives up the pussy on the count of LIP HUSTLE, My Advice is stop giving up the goods so early. If you give it up in heart beat, Brothers will have no respect for you. One

[Chrystynsview]

@jonez2020 Imma assume you didn't watch the whole video cause I don't know how ANY of that applies to me. I'm sure there are truth to ur words............if they were about someone else. I'm just sayin'........"one"

[jonez2020]

@Chrystynsview Yes i watch the whole Entire Video. Really!!! so it don't apply to you. From what was being said, fit the mold. So you never give the goods so early, when you met these 20's 30 something old dudes?

[Chrystynsview]

@jonez2020 what I've done in my life and what I said in that video don't go hand in hand. You are assuming and you know what they say about that. It don't apply to me because no one said I started doing anything "early." Plus I never said anything about a man settling down with me because of my education. You trying to read between the lines when there isn't anything there. I said what I meant and did.........nothin' more.

[whitebitchnigga]

You need to self reflect a bit sweety stop blaming the men. SELF REFLECT

[Chrystynsview]

@whitebitchnigga Ummmmm clearly you didn't watch the whole video, cause I have self reflected. While your sitting here being a smartass about some bastard kids that I don't have........maybe u should invest the time and pay closer attention to what I actually said. I'm just sayin'.

[whitebitchnigga]

@Chrystynsview you aint nothing but a jumpoff, nigga's come over and bust inside then they leave. Case closed

[whitebitchnigga]

And i also wonder how many kids you have?

[whitebitchnigga]

it sounds like to me that this guy views you as a jumpoff or bootycall material. And i wonder what attracted to this guy. It prolly was some silly ass stuff.

[Chrystynsview]

@whitebitchnigga haha whateva.......how bout u do us both a favor and just kill ya'self. THANX!

[AccessorizeAlways]

Just as they say "nice guys finish last" i think that applies to women too

[AccessorizeAlways]

I gotta be honest, I didn't watch the whole video, so maybe i missed something, i don't want to assume so if i'm wrong about something (i'm reading the comments), sorry lol. I"m going to watch the whole video lol now.

[AccessorizeAlways]

And you say that black men are that way, I don't see it that way. I"ve just realized that black people can be more blunt and honest. So I think that's what it is. I think white men hide it more, at least that's how i see it. Maybe i'm wrong though.

[Chrystynsview]

@AccessorizeAlways I agree with a lot of what you said. I think you may have something there about the white guy holding it in. I've dated some white guys and I will admit they will put up with certain things longer before expressing their annoyance.

[AccessorizeAlways]

@Chrystynsview yeah and i don't like that about them.

[AccessorizeAlways]

I honestly couldn't tell you, honestly i'm not the most sane person, i'm jealous a lot, but still, i'm not that bad, and i'm almost 31 and i'm still single lol. And really, everyone i dated was jealous too so that's not excuse for me really to be single. SO I have no clue.

[AccessorizeAlways]

I can tell you it's not just black me nthough

[AccessorizeAlways]

the one i dated that was leastasshole like lol was hispanic but i really don't think that had anything to do with it.  I think there is just slim pickings lol.

[AccessorizeAlways]

I do think though sometimes the younger ones that have grown up with society teaching them things like you know, it's ok to have a lot of women, which you know they didn't do that as much when my parents were young (my mom is in her 60s, my dad would be too) makes a big difference), can make a difference with age too.

[AccessorizeAlways]

But I don't always think that is the case. I think older men are becoming that way too.

[TheGoldenChyle]

Women need to understand how MOST men think. If a man can have sex with a woman without a commitment, why would he then turn around and get into a relationship with her? He can have what he wants WITHOUT the responsibility. As long as a man "feels" that there are "better" options he won't settle down. Men usually surrender to marriage LOL. Either he knows this is the best he can get or he's simply tired of dealing with whores. Some men seek marriage but they're not the majority.. All men do this

[Chrystynsview]

@TheGoldenChyle LOL! I appreciate the honesty.

[Roklan2000]

if youre not a "single mother" you have a great chance of getting married

[Chrystynsview]

@Roklan2000 lol is that supposed to be a joke?

[Somuchpotential2010]

This video parallels so much of what I am hearing from women of ALL ages...it does hit a nerve...it's a shame that we invest so much into a relationship that yields nothing in return...but us females tend to delve deep in order to get to know these dudes @ the risk of doing exactly what u mentioned...wasting our time!!! IDK if there's even an answer to ur ????...

[Chrystynsview]

@Somuchpotential2010 there probably isn't an answer, I guess because there are so many reasons for relationships not panning out. It still sucks for us, but it is what it is.

thanx for the comment

[Chrystynsview]

WOW! You didn't listen to what I said AT ALL! I NEVER said I was in love with old dude.....not by a long shot! Also, I mentioned 2 guys and they weren't just "sleeping over." I have no problem being alone and I didn't invest that much energy into him, cause that was our biggest issue......according to him and other people I don't make enough effort. Your advice would be appreciated if it really applied to me, but you are way off base. You makin' some heavy judgments for 10mins of my life

[Chrystynsview]

Just cause you are a girl and a fool, doesn't mean that it applies to the entire sex. Yea I was almost in tears cause my feelings were hurt not love. You have to believe in that shit to be in love. And where is this pussy passing shit coming from neways. Me sleeping with one person is no different than you, we just don't have the same relationship base. I'm an adult and last time I check sex with one person isn't a crime or even a hoeish thing unless you my friend have a stick up your ass

[Chrystynsview]

Whateva heffa..........I can take criticism, you can't talk out of your ass obviously. do what you got to do then, unsubscribe.........tear, im so fuckin' sad.

[Chrystynsview]

FYI.............I am celibate. Me and old dude haven't hung out in forever, he just randomly texted me that night.

[BamaGuySRT]

All this time I've been watching your videos you have been saying you're single and everything. I'm not stupid and I can figure out that you still get sum by just your twitter comments.  So why put yourself out there like that without getting a relationship commitment first? How do you know that this guy you have liked so much is not out gettin with other women? Are you that desperate for sex? Also, why limit yourself to just black guys? You have to look past the race thing I think.

[Thrown2010]

BamaGuySRT.....would you date her? I do agree with you about her putting herself out there. Why go buy milk when you have a dairy farm. Nothing turns me off more than when I ask a chick "Are you in a relationship."...she responds"No, but I have have friends". I dont it has anything to do with race though,,...its universal.

[BamaGuySRT]

@Thrown2010 .... I've dated 2 black women in my life and obviously neither worked out....cuz I'm still single. I really believe she's got the "only a black man can satisfy me" attitude and that will never change. So, I'd never have a chance anyway. She needs to re-think her priorities in a relationship. Sex is definitely NOT number one or two or three or even four and if it is then she is definitely shallow and too shallow for me. No, I don't claim to be perfect.

[Chrystynsview]

I find your responses to be interesting. It's a put off for a girl to have a fuck buddy, but why does that not go both ways. I feel like this, I'm an adult and can do what I want but it is bullshit that I'm expected to hold myself to some Virginal standard why my homeboys can fuck anything that moves with no judgment. But at the same time fuck buddies (either sex) aren't the people u go into the situation looking for love and commitment either. Unless your dumb lol

[BamaGuySRT]

So now we're getting somewhere. The title of your video alone sets you up as only liking black guys. Not true?...thats great!! On to fuck buddies... I personally have never had a fuck buddy and I never will. I just dont think like that. So when I expect you to "hold" yourself to some "virginal standard", I, myself am not being a hypocrite because I don't have fuck buddies and will not be in the bed or where ever with a woman I'm not at least in a relationship with.....to be continued...

[Chrystynsview]

I would be lying if I said black guys aren't my preference (hence the title of the video). As far as the fuck buddy thing, that is you. My views on sex and love are a bit skewed but at the same time guys want a girl who is doing the opposite of what they are doing and that shit is annoying.

[Chrystynsview]

Having a fuck buddy doesn't mean you are sleeping around.....

[Chrystynsview]

So what the fuck is the difference than trusting a man in a relationship who could be cheating. Life is about blind faith at times. Anytime you have sex with someone who ain't a gotdamn virgin you are bound to get in bed with ,more than one person. Clearly you have some men issues you need to deal with boo.

[Chrystynsview]

Whateva bitch......

[BamaGuySRT]

So why have a fuck buddy when you know you really want a relationship? Why would you put yourself out like that? You seem like a really nice girl but you cant just do that and expect the guy to want a relationship when he knows he can get sum without being in one. And all the "talk" you have with the guy you are sleepin with isn't real...he knows he's gonna get sum so it's not gonna bother him to talk to you a little before hand....you know...as long as he's gonna get sum and leave after.

[Chrystynsview]

A) didn't want a relationship B) What is putting myself out there like that supposed to mean. C.)and the rest of you comment has nothing to do with my relationship with that guy

[BamaGuySRT]

It really doesn't have to do with that guy specifically. You said in your video that you are at a point in your life where you're ready for a relationship. So actually you were hoping for something more from that guy and he said he wasn't ready, hence the reason for this video and you almost breaking down on camera. So back to priorities. DONT FUCK THEM TIL THEY ARE READY TO COMMIT!! So, sex should be the last thing in your priority list or the guy is gonna expect to fuck right off the bat.

[Chrystynsview]

YEA THANX DADDY FOR NOT LISTENING! LOL! I said I want a relationship now, that convo me and him had was long before I made this video. Me being upset came from some grimey shit he said to me and how he said it. Sex isn't my priority and fucking outside of a relationship isn't my issue. Cause the way you puttin' it is like I just sleep around.........thanx. love being called a hoe;-)

[AccessorizeAlways]

@BamaGuySRT Oh and it probably has something to do with you being from the south too, since we are stereotyping people lol jk. No but I am southern and I do sometimes feel like there's a difference when i travel and then come back home.

[AccessorizeAlways]

@BamaGuySRT good for you! I'm glad you hold yourself to the same standard you would a woman you dated or thought about dating. That is someone who has standards. Not someone who tells someone to do this or not do this, but does the opposite. I don't like people much that don't practice what they preach.

[Thrown2010]

Personally...I wouldnt get into a relationship with a chick with fuck buddies....Its like...Why would I wife the bitch up, when she's already banging other dudes. I like to meet chicks that nobody is hitting. Its nothing wrong with cut buddies though, unless you are Chistian...

[Chrystynsview]

lol you make it sound like you want to "wife" up a virgin. unless she is a hoe, im sure if she is lookin' for a relationship she ain't fuck nobody let alone multiple dudes. and this all depends if she even told you;-P

[Thrown2010]

I'm getting up with a virgin Thursday....just got off the phone with her, not even a hour ago. :)

[Chrystynsview]

So I don't know whether to be offended by ur comment or laugh. When I met him, he was supposed to just be there for a short time. I created the dynamic and guess it was too late to change my mind. Doubt he was getting with other girls, but if he was I wasn't in the place to judge. Desperate for sex? LOL! NEGATIVE! Where did that come from? I've dated white guys, I don't "limit" myself to anything. Shit just doesn't work out I guess (with any race)

[111Treasury]

Yeah, another thing. These day's some men really don't want to be married. They see marriage as something that will tie them down and possibly rob them of their freedom. Guy's are choosy when it comes to be in relationships. They can sleep with any woman because they quote on quote want and need sex. BUT, they don't want to settle down. I think females who want relationships these days may have to start talking to older males. Sad but true.

[eminalien]

I think it depends on the person I have a lot of friends who want a relationship and some who dont.

[brishaw13]

Girl you are not alone! I'm 19 and i've talked to men ranging in age from 17 to 24, and i feel the same way you do! i don't even think its just black men, although they are the main ones. Guys in general these days don't think things through and have no idea what they are doing! lol cheer up girl things will eventually get better! ttyl on twitter! (VogueVeggie) :)

[Chrystynsview]

preciate the comment chica!

[601demblockboizent]

sexy i will date you !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Chrystynsview]

lol thanx boo

[111Treasury]

I believe guys are starting to do this. It probably is an epidemic. They claim they want someone but they probably don't. They just want someone to sleep with, men are more cautious with relationships.

[111Treasury]

I think when a guy says he don't want a relationship, it means he's not ready for a relationship with YOU or don't want a relationship with you. Guys know how to switch stuff around.

[Thrown2010]

@111Treasury....You got it! I told a chick I wasnt ready for a relationship the other day. Not one with HER! She bores the shit out of me. She tells me she likes being around me too. She asked me me how I felt about her. I'm very interested in a relationship.....but not with HER..NOPE! I got like 4 numbers since she asked me that.,lol.

[111Treasury]

@Thrown2010 Hmm, I thought so. I must know how to decode men or something.

[111Treasury]

@Thrown2010 Why was the girl boring?

[Thrown2010]

@111Treasury.....her conversations are wack. She has no sense of excitement. Shes really anal about things. I'm the affectionate type....kissing, hugging...caressing, all that good shit. Seems shes stiff as a board.

[Chrystynsview]

And that is a reason if she was fuckin' lame lol

[Chrystynsview]

You probably right. But its the ones that pretty much act as if you are a couple but when it comes to making it "officially a relationship" suddenly they ain't read for one, those are the ones that annoy me.

[111Treasury]

@Chrystynsview Those are the ones you have to break from. Guys think they can get away with certain stuff.

[Chrystynsview]

lol hell you ain't got to tell me, i know.