I was told by the biggest crush iv ever had. Your awesome and a great man. Your mt best friend and the only guy I could ever live with. But I don't want to date because I didn't get butterflies the first time I seen u. Wtf is up with that.
@BradColesaBlueWater well, the butterflies they are referring to is the chemistry one gets when one is around someone they spark with. But trust me, if it wasn't mutual--it's okay! You will soon discover what that "butterfly" feeling is and have someone reciprocate and you will be like, "oh, I get it!"
EVERYONE has there own attractions and turn off. I wouldn't date a fat chick or religious chick because they don't do anything for me. It has nothing to do with being shallow. If your going to spend time,money, feelings, and secrets with some one its going to damn well be someone I find attractive. If people can't understand that their the ones with problems. When you name call when rejected I think that says something about you. Why did you ask them out anyway? Looks perhaps? Double standard
@jakixs In fact--he wasn't hot, he was average....but seemed like a nice guy. But the "nice" went out the window very soon. I get it....everyone have attractions and "a type" but it could have been handled differently....in the long run....it made for a good vide topic...so I do thank him!
dude. u think guys dont date fat? psst.. try being straight. women absolutely refuse to date fat men. me and some friends did a study where we counted the couples we saw based on categories fat woman/thin man, thin woman/ thin man, and then fat man/ thin woman. and in every study of 200 couples the couple groups were almost identical EXCEPT for fat man/ thin woman. it was almost 25 to 1 compared to every other group.. women are shallow creatures.
@lindseythelush you see....that is just confusing....but sweetie, you will rock it with someone who is gonna love that spark inside that makes you...YOU! trust me.
i see all this talk about.. it doesnt matter what you look like and whats on the inside is what matters most, i believe in all of those things. reality is that people like to be nice but they dont really mean those things... here is what i've expierienced: nothing! because i have never been on a date before! I'm pretty and all but i am fat. i am 5'7 and i weigh about 250, blonde hair, green eyes... check my profile pic... would u want to date me?
Yeah i get all sorts of stuff as to why no one wants to date me but it is especially "Too Fat", "Too Short", A 'Nerd" and other things like that! I just think it is so rude! I am just a average girl and apparently that is not good enough for the guys! -sighs-
Yeah, I was just dumped because I am "too fat". I'm 5'7", 200 lbs, NO HEALTH ISSUES AT ALL (perfect blood sugar, iron, cholesterol, blood pressure, etc).
So trust me, it happens in straightland, as well, and it sucks. I don't think you're too fat to date. I think if your size is ok to you, and it's not causing you any health problems, you just need to find someone who isn't a superficial a-hole and will love you, body, mind and soul, as you are, and as you will be in the future.
Yeah, I was just dumped because I am "too fat". I'm 5'7", 200 lbs, NO HEALTH ISSUES AT ALL (perfect blood sugar, iron, cholesterol, blood pressure, etc).
So trust me, it happens in straightland, as well, and it sucks. I don't think you're too fat to date. I think if your size is ok to you, and it's not causing you any health problems, you just need to find someone who isn't a superficial a-hole and will love you, body, mind and soul, as you are, and as you will be in the future.
so what happened w/ the guy? i had the same thing happen to me! Guy wanted more pics (he had links to my facebook AND had seen my videos) I guess to make sure I wasn't fat! My thing is, you're never too fat too date-as long as you have the confidence to back up your *ahem* curves! Great video!
Being HIV Positive sure has its hurdles... that's a tough one, even when you are being asked out by other guys all the time. It's become such a hurdle that I haven't responded to flirtations or accepted invitations to date in nearly 3 years. We'll see what 2010 brings...
My best friend told me fat guys can not meet hot guys. I was fat lost sme lbs.Now guys are hitting on me hmmm.People judge you so much they can't see the real you,that's there propbum not yours.There lost..sounds like the guy your talking to is playing games Nando1635 and you know it.Now I ask you why are you playing games with him????????
@thebluray not playing games with him...I ended the mess! But I did a video because it's sparks up some awesome conversation! And that my friend, is the name of MY GAME!
No no no!! The weight is an issue in the straight world too! I have basically had the same exact thing said to me before! I guess they only wany stick anorexic thin! Whatever! It's their loss, I have come to realize that we don't need someone that superficial in our lives! I was upset once because I was turned down by that dating site where they have to judge your pic before they even let you join because it's all "pretty" people. Im glad he said no so u aren't stuck with a superficial moron!
sister, and I can honestly say this because we are music soul mates--you are the best! And any guy that you're considering dating--has to go through ME first!
I hear you. I am a bbw and had men said oh they only want skinny minnys. I was like ok but thats your loss. But I have come across alot of men especially black and latin men that love women with meat on their bones. Nando Your not fat. Ok had to say that. That guy was an idiot. I would have said well come to think of it in this light you really don't look like my type. I can be a mean bitch when I have to with a smart mouth. lol.
Nando that happens to be the story of my life! So much that it kind of puts me down and causes me to have a low self-esteem!!! I just hate it! I mean i know im a big boy, i wear a size 36 but thats nothing compared to my tight 40 waist i once use to have! Gays are superficial.... and for that reason i have trouble with them, ironic because im gay too! I know i look good, and that im fab! The right guy will come along! And so are u! Keep up the good work... i love ur videos!!! XOXO... R
In Chicago, 5'9" and 32" waist would not be an issue for most people. And if if was an issue -- whether NYC, Chicago, SF, LA, whatever -- then that person is not worth your fucking time. Sounds like a shallow idiot.
jeff, you are my Chicago angel. I used to think it was Oprah--but she's never commented on one of my videos yet. A big HARPO hug for you! thank you buddy. And I'll be making a stop over at your blog--thanks for the invite.
Well that guy sounds pretty freaking stupid. lol. The weight issue is a major thing (mainly in the gay world) because, for some reason, people think that you have to have a 6 pack if your gay. Which is entirely bull shit. Personally, as long as you look good, I don't care how much you weigh. That's just my opinion though
For what it's worth, I think you're a hottie-- and he needs to get his eyes checked. ;]
But as a curvier girl, I've gotten the "weight question" before. I know everyone has a type, everyone is attracted to something different, and that's fine-- everyone is entitled to their opinion. He's entitled to ask, and you obviously didn't evade the question. Sending youtube links goes above and beyond. You're better off w/o him!
I met someone online and meeting him in person he was blatantly overweight/obese. Pics were obvs older. I didn't acknowledge it and decided not to address it. Needless to say that was one and only time I saw him.
@nando1635 absolutely you did! I was very honest with pics as well - full length, standing etc. I think this guy may be a bit insecure and not honest himself ? Just a thought. In my case I kinda felt lied to but just figured I'd let it go.
I dated this guy who said to me "Damn, you gained a lot of weight." (Okay, we weren't dating, we just had a lot of sex.) Anyway, for a while he would tell me we couldn't date until I lost weight. Made me feel like shit. I let that sink in and I thought that was why others wouldn't date me. So I ditched him and subsequently lost 190lbs (his weight + my 15lbs) and I've never felt better.
As someone who has always had weight issues and have seen both sides of the scale, people that are that into how you look and are that concerned about your weight are probably dealing with their own body image issues. It's really a reflection of their own insecurity.
Best to follow the advice above - after the first two requests I would have put him on ignore, I once made myself anorexic and bulimic for a guy - yes, really, and I will NEVER do that again.
Mike, really? Ah, sweetie--thank you so much for sharing this with us. I'm so glad you're at a better place. This means a lot. And I hope people reading understand that self-love will bring you closer to happiness!
The fact my boyfriend carries a .45 stops a lot of guys from dating me:-) As for the punk..just wait, time he hits 40 he will balloon out and have some hot thing call him a fat ass. Ps. You are from from fat..care for a date? LOL
Sister, you need to decrease you lead time and convert these fools to a 1:1 face to face meeting sooner. In my book, you get 3-4 emails, then it goes to phone. At the end of the phone conversation, guy asks if you want to meet. That's it. Someone that pulls this back and forth crap isn't someone who is really interested in meeting. It has nothing to do with being fat.
in the gay world--we can't just meet--I won't do it myself--I have to have a few emails then a phone convo..then I will meet. Maybe it's a East Coast thing?
Oh, maybe I misunderstood. I thought in the video you said a couple of weeks you were flirting back/forth. I eliminate quickly via phone because most guys want to dick around on email for weeks. I have no patience for that. Dating is a numbers game. N-E-X-T.
Yeah well being a Chubby / Phat Chick, I have heard it all, "if you were skinner you'd be really pretty" etc etc.
So dating, I don't date anymore.
Being a cougar I have the option of coming the high schools for my next victim if I wanted to go there, but I don't! LMAO :)
I think it's sad in some ways but it's understandable if people are attracted to certain body types, so I just move on and keep myself busy with school etc so I don't feel lonely.
I was told by the biggest crush iv ever had. Your awesome and a great man. Your mt best friend and the only guy I could ever live with. But I don't want to date because I didn't get butterflies the first time I seen u. Wtf is up with that.
BradColesaBlueWater 5 months ago
@BradColesaBlueWater well, the butterflies they are referring to is the chemistry one gets when one is around someone they spark with. But trust me, if it wasn't mutual--it's okay! You will soon discover what that "butterfly" feeling is and have someone reciprocate and you will be like, "oh, I get it!"
nando1635 3 months ago
EVERYONE has there own attractions and turn off. I wouldn't date a fat chick or religious chick because they don't do anything for me. It has nothing to do with being shallow. If your going to spend time,money, feelings, and secrets with some one its going to damn well be someone I find attractive. If people can't understand that their the ones with problems. When you name call when rejected I think that says something about you. Why did you ask them out anyway? Looks perhaps? Double standard
jakixs 9 months ago
@jakixs In fact--he wasn't hot, he was average....but seemed like a nice guy. But the "nice" went out the window very soon. I get it....everyone have attractions and "a type" but it could have been handled differently....in the long run....it made for a good vide topic...so I do thank him!
nando1635 3 months ago
dude. u think guys dont date fat? psst.. try being straight. women absolutely refuse to date fat men. me and some friends did a study where we counted the couples we saw based on categories fat woman/thin man, thin woman/ thin man, and then fat man/ thin woman. and in every study of 200 couples the couple groups were almost identical EXCEPT for fat man/ thin woman. it was almost 25 to 1 compared to every other group.. women are shallow creatures.
raztis1 9 months ago
@raztis1 rock on! that's for shining the light on the other side of the coin!
nando1635 3 months ago
OMG, which silly head said you were fat??
I cant even believe that!! Youre gorgeous they way you are!!
Just sending you a big mamacita hug!
Luchessa 1 year ago
@Luchessa haahah! thank you hot stuff! It's all good though, I'm with Marin NYC and we are going on 2 years strong.....fat and all!
nando1635 3 months ago
I'm biracial and I have been told that I'm not white enough!
lindseythelush 1 year ago
@lindseythelush you see....that is just confusing....but sweetie, you will rock it with someone who is gonna love that spark inside that makes you...YOU! trust me.
nando1635 3 months ago
i've been told i'm just too ugly so that isn't very specific but it paints a beautifully painful picture:)
eekthecat 1 year ago
@eekthecat ah sweetie....so how are you now?
nando1635 3 months ago
i see all this talk about.. it doesnt matter what you look like and whats on the inside is what matters most, i believe in all of those things. reality is that people like to be nice but they dont really mean those things... here is what i've expierienced: nothing! because i have never been on a date before! I'm pretty and all but i am fat. i am 5'7 and i weigh about 250, blonde hair, green eyes... check my profile pic... would u want to date me?
Xxsexyme15xX 1 year ago
@Xxsexyme15xX Confidence counts for a lot....sometimes more than the physical.
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mikaylwright 1 year ago
Yeah i get all sorts of stuff as to why no one wants to date me but it is especially "Too Fat", "Too Short", A 'Nerd" and other things like that! I just think it is so rude! I am just a average girl and apparently that is not good enough for the guys! -sighs-
GoldenTiger456 1 year ago
@GoldenTiger456 You are a TIGER....so go be a TIGER girl! ROAR!
nando1635 3 months ago
Yeah, I was just dumped because I am "too fat". I'm 5'7", 200 lbs, NO HEALTH ISSUES AT ALL (perfect blood sugar, iron, cholesterol, blood pressure, etc).
So trust me, it happens in straightland, as well, and it sucks. I don't think you're too fat to date. I think if your size is ok to you, and it's not causing you any health problems, you just need to find someone who isn't a superficial a-hole and will love you, body, mind and soul, as you are, and as you will be in the future.
rennypenny06 1 year ago
@rennypenny06 I found someone--and he is awesome! And if I can do it--so can you!
nando1635 3 months ago
Yeah, I was just dumped because I am "too fat". I'm 5'7", 200 lbs, NO HEALTH ISSUES AT ALL (perfect blood sugar, iron, cholesterol, blood pressure, etc).
So trust me, it happens in straightland, as well, and it sucks. I don't think you're too fat to date. I think if your size is ok to you, and it's not causing you any health problems, you just need to find someone who isn't a superficial a-hole and will love you, body, mind and soul, as you are, and as you will be in the future.
rennypenny06 1 year ago
WOW! Gay men also have to worry about their weight too? Well that there is a "F--K MEN" altogether then!!!!
rainslave 1 year ago
@rainslave hahaah! yeah, it's all around us!
nando1635 3 months ago
so what happened w/ the guy? i had the same thing happen to me! Guy wanted more pics (he had links to my facebook AND had seen my videos) I guess to make sure I wasn't fat! My thing is, you're never too fat too date-as long as you have the confidence to back up your *ahem* curves! Great video!
kimhessdivorceguru 1 year ago
@kimhessdivorceguru haha! I feel in those cases--they weed themselves out. And I guess I was a HOE, cause I weeded him out of my garden!
nando1635 3 months ago
Being HIV Positive sure has its hurdles... that's a tough one, even when you are being asked out by other guys all the time. It's become such a hurdle that I haven't responded to flirtations or accepted invitations to date in nearly 3 years. We'll see what 2010 brings...
CocteauBoyTV 2 years ago
@CocteauBoyTV How do you deal with that? If you ever wanna share...let me know. I would love to do a video on it.
nando1635 3 months ago
Wait--your too _fat_ to date?!
I dunno--I think you are too _skinny_ to date XD
I have never gotten why people make such a mess about people having to be skinny. I LIKE CHUBBIES
XD
*huggles*
NimhLabs 2 years ago
@NimhLabs if you like chubbies...maybe that's why you like me? But I love you! Rock on!
nando1635 3 months ago
My best friend told me fat guys can not meet hot guys. I was fat lost sme lbs.Now guys are hitting on me hmmm.People judge you so much they can't see the real you,that's there propbum not yours.There lost..sounds like the guy your talking to is playing games Nando1635 and you know it.Now I ask you why are you playing games with him????????
thebluray 2 years ago
@thebluray not playing games with him...I ended the mess! But I did a video because it's sparks up some awesome conversation! And that my friend, is the name of MY GAME!
nando1635 3 months ago
No no no!! The weight is an issue in the straight world too! I have basically had the same exact thing said to me before! I guess they only wany stick anorexic thin! Whatever! It's their loss, I have come to realize that we don't need someone that superficial in our lives! I was upset once because I was turned down by that dating site where they have to judge your pic before they even let you join because it's all "pretty" people. Im glad he said no so u aren't stuck with a superficial moron!
Nsyncdiva420 2 years ago
sister, and I can honestly say this because we are music soul mates--you are the best! And any guy that you're considering dating--has to go through ME first!
nando1635 2 years ago
I hear you. I am a bbw and had men said oh they only want skinny minnys. I was like ok but thats your loss. But I have come across alot of men especially black and latin men that love women with meat on their bones. Nando Your not fat. Ok had to say that. That guy was an idiot. I would have said well come to think of it in this light you really don't look like my type. I can be a mean bitch when I have to with a smart mouth. lol.
pochakila 2 years ago
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OMG Nando I love your video I totally agree in what your saying. Those types of guys your explaing only care about themselves
cplmac27 2 years ago
thanks buddy! And thanks for the great chat tonight. U rock.
nando1635 2 years ago
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cplmac27 2 years ago
Nando that happens to be the story of my life! So much that it kind of puts me down and causes me to have a low self-esteem!!! I just hate it! I mean i know im a big boy, i wear a size 36 but thats nothing compared to my tight 40 waist i once use to have! Gays are superficial.... and for that reason i have trouble with them, ironic because im gay too! I know i look good, and that im fab! The right guy will come along! And so are u! Keep up the good work... i love ur videos!!! XOXO... R
velasco858 2 years ago
oh buddy. I just wanna reach out and hug you. Listen, we big boys gotta stand united and not let any break our spirits.
not everyone is superficial, but we all have our preferences--we just have to work hard in our garden of life and dig through the dirt!
nando1635 2 years ago
In Chicago, 5'9" and 32" waist would not be an issue for most people. And if if was an issue -- whether NYC, Chicago, SF, LA, whatever -- then that person is not worth your fucking time. Sounds like a shallow idiot.
jefframone 2 years ago
jeff, you are my Chicago angel. I used to think it was Oprah--but she's never commented on one of my videos yet. A big HARPO hug for you! thank you buddy. And I'll be making a stop over at your blog--thanks for the invite.
nando1635 2 years ago
You are welcome. You seem like a catch to me, I dunno why you are still single. :D
jefframone 2 years ago
Well that guy sounds pretty freaking stupid. lol. The weight issue is a major thing (mainly in the gay world) because, for some reason, people think that you have to have a 6 pack if your gay. Which is entirely bull shit. Personally, as long as you look good, I don't care how much you weigh. That's just my opinion though
Love the video!
JustAnotherGayKid 2 years ago
a 6 pack--the gay calling card. ah, too late for me.
nando1635 2 years ago
NANDO!
I can't believe the nerve of this guy! Hahaha.
For what it's worth, I think you're a hottie-- and he needs to get his eyes checked. ;]
But as a curvier girl, I've gotten the "weight question" before. I know everyone has a type, everyone is attracted to something different, and that's fine-- everyone is entitled to their opinion. He's entitled to ask, and you obviously didn't evade the question. Sending youtube links goes above and beyond. You're better off w/o him!
-@denversweets :]
thatoneinternetgirl 2 years ago
we all have types--you are correct.
And we will find that in situations like these
we may feel a bit "knocked down" but we just have to just dust ourselves off and keep it moving.
nando1635 2 years ago
I met someone online and meeting him in person he was blatantly overweight/obese. Pics were obvs older. I didn't acknowledge it and decided not to address it. Needless to say that was one and only time I saw him.
mkerepesi1 2 years ago
yeah, seems like he was hiding--but I sent video links--so there's nothing to hide. I can't be more open and honest than that.
nando1635 2 years ago
@nando1635 absolutely you did! I was very honest with pics as well - full length, standing etc. I think this guy may be a bit insecure and not honest himself ? Just a thought. In my case I kinda felt lied to but just figured I'd let it go.
mkerepesi1 2 years ago
HELL NO you're not fat.
Wow you really dodged a bullet! You could've ended up with an incredibly shallow twat.
luvmfurry 2 years ago
wow, I guess when you put it that way! hahah
nando1635 2 years ago
Nando, YOU are delicious. Come back over to my side, baby. ;) My 5'11" will take care of you. LOL I cannot believe the nerve of this guy.
gradstudent01 2 years ago
hahah--delicious? that' a first! I love it. If I do for some reason "switch"--I will look you up! PROMISE!
nando1635 2 years ago
I dated this guy who said to me "Damn, you gained a lot of weight." (Okay, we weren't dating, we just had a lot of sex.) Anyway, for a while he would tell me we couldn't date until I lost weight. Made me feel like shit. I let that sink in and I thought that was why others wouldn't date me. So I ditched him and subsequently lost 190lbs (his weight + my 15lbs) and I've never felt better.
lovingyouiseasyify 2 years ago
you ROCK sister!
That is the best news ever. I love that this situation is brining so many people that have empowered themselves over to me!
Thanks for sharing!
nando1635 2 years ago
As someone who has always had weight issues and have seen both sides of the scale, people that are that into how you look and are that concerned about your weight are probably dealing with their own body image issues. It's really a reflection of their own insecurity.
Best to follow the advice above - after the first two requests I would have put him on ignore, I once made myself anorexic and bulimic for a guy - yes, really, and I will NEVER do that again.
BTW Nando - you are NOT fat.
tazz602 2 years ago
Mike, really? Ah, sweetie--thank you so much for sharing this with us. I'm so glad you're at a better place. This means a lot. And I hope people reading understand that self-love will bring you closer to happiness!
Thanks again for sharing Mike.
nando1635 2 years ago
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tazz602 2 years ago
The fact my boyfriend carries a .45 stops a lot of guys from dating me:-) As for the punk..just wait, time he hits 40 he will balloon out and have some hot thing call him a fat ass. Ps. You are from from fat..care for a date? LOL
MrTekewood 2 years ago
I would accept Teke, but scared of your boyfriend's .45! hehehe. Love ya, buddy!
nando1635 2 years ago
Sister, you need to decrease you lead time and convert these fools to a 1:1 face to face meeting sooner. In my book, you get 3-4 emails, then it goes to phone. At the end of the phone conversation, guy asks if you want to meet. That's it. Someone that pulls this back and forth crap isn't someone who is really interested in meeting. It has nothing to do with being fat.
MarnaBelle 2 years ago
in the gay world--we can't just meet--I won't do it myself--I have to have a few emails then a phone convo..then I will meet. Maybe it's a East Coast thing?
nando1635 2 years ago
Oh, maybe I misunderstood. I thought in the video you said a couple of weeks you were flirting back/forth. I eliminate quickly via phone because most guys want to dick around on email for weeks. I have no patience for that. Dating is a numbers game. N-E-X-T.
MarnaBelle 2 years ago
I have to have phone chemistry. If it's there--then let's meet. I can't go from online profile to meeting. It's also a safety thing.
nando1635 2 years ago
Excellent Video Honey !
Yeah well being a Chubby / Phat Chick, I have heard it all, "if you were skinner you'd be really pretty" etc etc.
So dating, I don't date anymore.
Being a cougar I have the option of coming the high schools for my next victim if I wanted to go there, but I don't! LMAO :)
I think it's sad in some ways but it's understandable if people are attracted to certain body types, so I just move on and keep myself busy with school etc so I don't feel lonely.
hourglas39 2 years ago
power to the people, sister!
nando1635 2 years ago