I take it hes rezding from his book..spot on and beautifully written..my mom is a severe narcissist who has cancer..so get this, cancer is the perfect desaese for narcisist...xo mucn attention, it almost confirms their grandiose..also, she lives with her sis inn law who has asbergers...you should see the cold bloodedness that takas place every day
@samvaknin I looked up the video.It clarifies the matter nicely. I would venture to say that there are not a few narcissists out there prowling around in asperger's clothing these days.
@samvaknin I watdhed the video you recommended.It clarifies the matter nicely.I venture to say there are a lot of narcissists these days out there prowling around in asperger's clothing. Thanks for your videos.
Dear Sam, this was your most beautifully written and spoke video .you are an artist painting a sadly dark picture of things to come for those who never can love and whom are no longer loved. Or should I say " someone who does not know that Jesus love them ! We must have hope Sam, the pain of loneliness and separation can be unbearable . Anyone hoping this is what should happen to narcissists should consider themselves a narcisitst
I gained a small amount of information on abusive relationships many years ago after coming out of an abusive relationship. After watching all sams videos it feels asthough my eyes have been opened & i've been walking around with blinkers on for half my life. imagine the amount of grief everyone would save themselves if they had this knowledge early on in life.
So true. My parents lives have gone down in flames. All their big fantasies never came true. Now they are scraping by. I, their adult daughter, the object of ridicule and scapegoating since they always felt superior, am having some success in my work. The tables turned. I thought it was karma but this makes more sense.
This, like all of Vaknin's videos, are powerful. Some of this reminded me of the movie "Sunset Boulevard," but the lead role was an aging FEMALE narcissist. Most narcissists are male. I wonder if part of womens' comparative lack of social & financial equality in society has to do with centuries of trauma inflicted on them as a result of being dependent on narcissistic males for finances and to raise their children. Centuries of this narcissistic abuse likely has a collective mass result with ma
Oh, so very very accurate. Trouble is, living beneath one actually aged me as well., of course. After 6 years of life sucked out for no good cause, I was finally free 2 days ago when it was moved out and I'm looking younger, already. That cheers me up no end; for if nothing and no-one else delivers her just deserts, old age shall and she's 50 already and looking more of a moose than she ever did.
I'm totally baffled about how a person can have the world's greatest insight, yet still have so much difficulty changing. Makes me think that insight and behaviour and/or the ability to change it are in totally separate parts of the brain that can't necessarily connect. Your videos are excellent and will help many destroyed people and/or families understand a bit more, if not escape from further destruction permanently. Thank you!
@Wispy463 It's not really baffling. The oligarchies that manage our society and engineer hegemony design our culture so narcissism and OCPD is consistently reinforced and shamed: engineering the perfect epidemic of personality disorders amongst children and adults.
I hate to say this, but I do think you may indeed beat out most of the world's psychologists and psychiatrists and will receive recognition for years, (but only after you are gone. People are afraid to give it to you now). After all, what greater knowledge could a man have than one who describes himself? (Have watched most of your other videos and you are dead on -- dead on about everything you say -- more accurate than anything I've ever read or heard in my life).
Wow, what do you say to a narcissist so as to not flatter him too much so as to make him worse? You have an extremely powerful effect but are few making comments or rating this because of the way I'm feeling?
You remind me of many famous killers and/or my mother but in a most interesting somehow well meaning way. You remind me of a person filled with sorrow who hurts, is hurting, hates to hurt & can't stop but wants to so badly needs and wants love & wants to help the world. Wow!
The more accountability you take the more self and character that is built. no one person can be blamed for everything that happens to them or around them and the N cant be blammed for the way he was raised yet if he takes accountability for how he acted to the way he was treated he will find some interesting things begin to happen.
@700moby - Hell. YT won't let me post the web address... I'll send it to you some other way. It's a good article. You have an email address? I'll try to send it to your YT email for now.
@700moby - I may get "Leaving Home" for my sister. She left home "extremely early". (Basically ran away) And still graduated H.S. and a University. Check out the website below. It's a good article on co-narcissism. It explains how three primary personalities develop from narcissistic parenting.
@700moby - The book i am reading now is called - Disarming the Narcissist, by Wendy T Behary. She talks about schemas. Shemas are what the narcissist used to trigger your guilt in order to get his/her way. What book are you reading now?
@cesrsald Thanks for the book info. I've read about Schemas in another book, so I know how rich and helpful the topic is. I haven't even previewed Wendy's book yet and I'm already excited that I've found my next source of textual help on this journey. Thanks again, and Shalom Aleichem
@700moby & @lesband1 - It's a hard decision when you decide to finally leave. You've probably already taken every road (even blamming yourself when it is obviusly not your fault) to secure a peaceful relationship. Now, the only road you can see is leaving; not your fault. Guilt will probably eat at you for the first year. About three years ago, I left my mother. I haven't heard from her since. First year was very hurtful and hard. Although it still hurts, my healing now outweighs my pain & guilt
really interesting - towards the end you talk about a few elderly narcissists changing for the better. do you mean they devlop some sort of genuine humanity and empathy, and is it from some sort of physical neurological change that happens as they age or just experience/maturity?
@700moby I feel for you. I feel now that I will also need to make that decision about whether to see my mother at all any more. I feel there are no winners here, however I will need to be a "winner" for myself for once. I share your agony. It just sinks your heart.
Again beautifully composed and read , you rock Sam !!!
Kathydrel 3 weeks ago
I take it hes rezding from his book..spot on and beautifully written..my mom is a severe narcissist who has cancer..so get this, cancer is the perfect desaese for narcisist...xo mucn attention, it almost confirms their grandiose..also, she lives with her sis inn law who has asbergers...you should see the cold bloodedness that takas place every day
Wayfarer515 1 month ago
I think you may be confusing asperger's syndrome with narcissism--at least some of the time.
jesuisravi 1 month ago
@jesuisravi Watch the video about Asperger's misdiagnosed as narcissism on my channel.
samvaknin 1 month ago
@samvaknin I looked up the video.It clarifies the matter nicely. I would venture to say that there are not a few narcissists out there prowling around in asperger's clothing these days.
Many thinks for your videos on this topic.
jesuisravi 1 month ago
@samvaknin I watdhed the video you recommended.It clarifies the matter nicely.I venture to say there are a lot of narcissists these days out there prowling around in asperger's clothing. Thanks for your videos.
jesuisravi 1 month ago
Dear Sam, this was your most beautifully written and spoke video .you are an artist painting a sadly dark picture of things to come for those who never can love and whom are no longer loved. Or should I say " someone who does not know that Jesus love them ! We must have hope Sam, the pain of loneliness and separation can be unbearable . Anyone hoping this is what should happen to narcissists should consider themselves a narcisitst
Kathydrel 3 months ago
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Have you ever considered writing poetry, Mr. V?:)
xXPurpleLoliTranceXx 4 months ago
WOW... dark AND deep !
heygeno1951 5 months ago
I gained a small amount of information on abusive relationships many years ago after coming out of an abusive relationship. After watching all sams videos it feels asthough my eyes have been opened & i've been walking around with blinkers on for half my life. imagine the amount of grief everyone would save themselves if they had this knowledge early on in life.
TheKhat88 5 months ago
old age may be a punishment for some, the ones who don't get murdered by those they have pissed off. lol
thinlinebetweenable 6 months ago
all my ex boyfriends are narcissistic bastards
melindaFive 6 months ago
@melindaFive Sure,,,you are the victim.
jerome3151 3 months ago
but so many are famous and can get admirers and do plastic surgery?? do they suffer also ???
burnthewitch1431 6 months ago
So true. My parents lives have gone down in flames. All their big fantasies never came true. Now they are scraping by. I, their adult daughter, the object of ridicule and scapegoating since they always felt superior, am having some success in my work. The tables turned. I thought it was karma but this makes more sense.
twopurringcats 7 months ago
This, like all of Vaknin's videos, are powerful. Some of this reminded me of the movie "Sunset Boulevard," but the lead role was an aging FEMALE narcissist. Most narcissists are male. I wonder if part of womens' comparative lack of social & financial equality in society has to do with centuries of trauma inflicted on them as a result of being dependent on narcissistic males for finances and to raise their children. Centuries of this narcissistic abuse likely has a collective mass result with ma
dylanesque66 7 months ago
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blacklove160 7 months ago
Oh, so very very accurate. Trouble is, living beneath one actually aged me as well., of course. After 6 years of life sucked out for no good cause, I was finally free 2 days ago when it was moved out and I'm looking younger, already. That cheers me up no end; for if nothing and no-one else delivers her just deserts, old age shall and she's 50 already and looking more of a moose than she ever did.
DaftAida 8 months ago
Informative and beautifully written.
Science and theory combined with the art of literature.
I thoroughly enjoyed this particular video, thank you Mr. Vaknin.
hearrtsodarrk 9 months ago 12
I'm totally baffled about how a person can have the world's greatest insight, yet still have so much difficulty changing. Makes me think that insight and behaviour and/or the ability to change it are in totally separate parts of the brain that can't necessarily connect. Your videos are excellent and will help many destroyed people and/or families understand a bit more, if not escape from further destruction permanently. Thank you!
Wispy463 10 months ago 3
@Wispy463 It's not really baffling. The oligarchies that manage our society and engineer hegemony design our culture so narcissism and OCPD is consistently reinforced and shamed: engineering the perfect epidemic of personality disorders amongst children and adults.
dutytocareforothers 7 months ago
I hate to say this, but I do think you may indeed beat out most of the world's psychologists and psychiatrists and will receive recognition for years, (but only after you are gone. People are afraid to give it to you now). After all, what greater knowledge could a man have than one who describes himself? (Have watched most of your other videos and you are dead on -- dead on about everything you say -- more accurate than anything I've ever read or heard in my life).
Wispy463 10 months ago 10
Wow, what do you say to a narcissist so as to not flatter him too much so as to make him worse? You have an extremely powerful effect but are few making comments or rating this because of the way I'm feeling?
You remind me of many famous killers and/or my mother but in a most interesting somehow well meaning way. You remind me of a person filled with sorrow who hurts, is hurting, hates to hurt & can't stop but wants to so badly needs and wants love & wants to help the world. Wow!
Wispy463 10 months ago
@Wispy463 Flattery does not make a narcissist worse.
dutytocareforothers 7 months ago
this is like confessions of a sinner......its sad to watch but its never to late to broaden your horizons.
nkvd1000 10 months ago
The more accountability you take the more self and character that is built. no one person can be blamed for everything that happens to them or around them and the N cant be blammed for the way he was raised yet if he takes accountability for how he acted to the way he was treated he will find some interesting things begin to happen.
iamillful 11 months ago
For whatsoever a man soweth that shall he also reap. Gal 6:7
And be sure your sin will find you out. Num 32:23
rhoadess 1 year ago
@700moby - Hell. YT won't let me post the web address... I'll send it to you some other way. It's a good article. You have an email address? I'll try to send it to your YT email for now.
cesrsald 1 year ago
@700moby - I may get "Leaving Home" for my sister. She left home "extremely early". (Basically ran away) And still graduated H.S. and a University. Check out the website below. It's a good article on co-narcissism. It explains how three primary personalities develop from narcissistic parenting.
cesrsald 1 year ago
@700moby - The book i am reading now is called - Disarming the Narcissist, by Wendy T Behary. She talks about schemas. Shemas are what the narcissist used to trigger your guilt in order to get his/her way. What book are you reading now?
cesrsald 1 year ago
@cesrsald Thanks for the book info. I've read about Schemas in another book, so I know how rich and helpful the topic is. I haven't even previewed Wendy's book yet and I'm already excited that I've found my next source of textual help on this journey. Thanks again, and Shalom Aleichem
jhvenus2004 8 months ago
@700moby - testing
cesrsald 1 year ago
@700moby
cesrsald 1 year ago
@700moby & @lesband1 - It's a hard decision when you decide to finally leave. You've probably already taken every road (even blamming yourself when it is obviusly not your fault) to secure a peaceful relationship. Now, the only road you can see is leaving; not your fault. Guilt will probably eat at you for the first year. About three years ago, I left my mother. I haven't heard from her since. First year was very hurtful and hard. Although it still hurts, my healing now outweighs my pain & guilt
cesrsald 1 year ago
really interesting - towards the end you talk about a few elderly narcissists changing for the better. do you mean they devlop some sort of genuine humanity and empathy, and is it from some sort of physical neurological change that happens as they age or just experience/maturity?
LTBL88 1 year ago
narcissists and nuture their friendships shouldnt be used in the same sentence!
thanks :)
DropDeadCouture 1 year ago
@700moby I feel for you. I feel now that I will also need to make that decision about whether to see my mother at all any more. I feel there are no winners here, however I will need to be a "winner" for myself for once. I share your agony. It just sinks your heart.
lesband1 1 year ago