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  • i am an INTJ and this is 100% true!!..(at least for me) I find it so hard to express my feelings and this has really not helped me in relationships.. I 100% agree with this

  • a month ago I didnt even know what an INTJ was but now I am dealing with two of them. they both tell me that they like me. is that a pretty significant thing? for an INTJ to like you? some people will say they like you at a drop of a hat but I am guessing its more significant if an INTJ tells you they like you?

  • It's true that i always avoid people i'm attracted to, and i find myself being rude as well when interacting with them.

  • Good job. Interesting. InterP sums up what I was feeling.

  • You've helped me realize how immature my feeling side actually is. I'm no stranger to my personality type but I noticed that I completely disregarded feeling as something unimportant. Thanks :)

  • I feel like I am watching a nature show. "Deep in the plains of Westwood... the INTJ stalks its prey with calculated precision."

  • @TheKillershade Hahahahahaha

  • I wonder what an INTJ dating an INFJ would be like....

  • @TheRand0musername INFJ's can read people's emotions before they ever know them, so the INTJ would never have to show anything for an INFJ to know.

    I'm an INFJ btw xD

  • lol...mapping out the best route to work. I so did that for a friend at work. I'm all those things...

  • My best friend is an INTJ and we're trying to analyze how he'd fit with a girl.

    This video is pretty funny since most stuff actually is a very tight fit for his behavior

  • Nice work - you have captured this beautifully - and being an INTJ, I relate entirely. Just wanted to also share that the face that INTJs present to the outer world is very different to the one they share with the few they allow into their inner world. I have yet to meet an INTJ who didn't love the idea of partnership. With Ni-Fi on the inside, when committed INTJs study absolutely everything about their partners and keep trying to make every experience perfect.

  • I wrote my lady a thesis of why I love her. I am not weird I am INTJ.

  • @darkwhitedirewolf awwwwww! that is romantic! I am an INTJ by the way..

  • Thank you for this video. I enjoyed it.

  • To those who wish to see this in action visit my mini-blog (I disabled the rest of the entries as I'm rethinking things). My blog entry has been written before I knew about this vid. Later I adapted it with additonal analysys after communicating with the author of this vid.

    vbhsp.blogspot.com

  • Pretty spot one. I over indulge in cost/benefit analysis regarding the possible focus of my attentions. I like to think that I don't "fall" into anything, let alone a close relationship. I am analyzing this person's personality by her behaviour under different circumstances. Unfortunately some people view me as being overly aloof, and mistake this for disinterest. Nothing could be further from the truth.

  • I agree. I'm not big on gifts but finding ways to make my life easier is very very appreciated. Of the different love languages, acts of service would be mine. I like to give service and receive acts of service.

  • bullshit this isn't intj, this is someone that is shy. shy people will ignore you, introvert is not shy dont get it twisted.

  • @Here2QuestionYou I don't consider myself shy, but I am an INTJ. This is why the narrator says well-adjusted INTJ's may not show that behavior. Since I moved around a lot as a kid and played on many sports teams, I became socially well adjusted. I still prefer to have my own space and time. Because of this, I may prefer to ignore calls or texts when I'm working on something by myself and just get back to people later. Not all INTJ's are the same, but most generally think the same way.

  • @Here2QuestionYou Introversion and shyness are not mutually exclusive. Introversion/extroversion has to do with what situations a person feels the most comfortable, either by themselves or with people, respectively. Shyness has to do with a willingness to engage other people. Make no mistake, if an INTJ likes someone they most certainly are not ignoring that person. Quite the opposite, we usually are intensely focused on them, it's just that we lack the drive to actually engage them.

  • I have feelings. I'm sure of it. It's just...it is no one else's business what I'm feeling, except for a few close friends that I trust.

  • I'm an INTJ and this relates to what I would do perfectly. I say what I "would" do, because unfortunately I'm also extremely shy and can't get the courage to talk to the girl I like - in other words I'm trying (unsuccessfully) to do stage 2 right now. Stage 1 described it perfectly, and stage 3 sounds like what I would do.

  • I am finally understood, not only by myself, but by others like me and others who I would like to know me better. Thank you for posting this video. Well done.

  • I'm an INTJ from what I experience and from what people think of me. But I also think there is a bit of F within myself.

  • are you the femenine version of myself ?

  • Personally I call the first stage "research" but I guess I'm especially stalker-ish with my use of the internet and stuff.

  • Dear god. That fits me to the spot.

    I laughed where you talked about how we show our affection, since I tend to do that alot.

  • I'm stunned. Like I was watching a my image in the mirror.

  • Omg INFJ lost in the countless videos : o

    and I just wanted to show off that in INFJ ... :S

    Need to...

    find ...

    my ...

    way back.

  • It is striking how accurate this description/analysis really is. I've tried countless times to convince myself that I was not really an INTJ. And this through countless personality tests, and what I'd call deviant behavior, but I've always had to come to the conclusion that there were some things that I could not change. This video is playing the role of that last nail in the coffin. If what you described is the emotional/sentimental behavior of an INTJ, then that's definitely what I am.

  • @Thierrymasters Out of curiosity, why would one want to convince oneself otherwise? Also, I'm told that INTPs behave similarly.

  • @zeixify Mainly because of the way the INTJ personality comes up sometimes: Insensitive , sometimes rude or unemotional. I'm very critical of myself so I took it a few different times, just to make sure

  • Oh my gosh, this is so true! It takes me so long to get over the analyzing the person and my own emotions stage. "We're masters of stealth" hilarious... my dad used to tell me I should be a spy. I'm an anthropologist now... almost the same thing; it involves stealthily gathering info. I've often come right out and said it... and it is a feasibility analysis! You're brilliant!

  • Well shit. That's me.

  • I think this video convinced me that I'm an intj. But just to be sure I'm going to continue my research on the other major rational personalities. lol

  • @paultoner INTJs: They don't take your word for it.

  • I dated an INTJ and it was very...confusing.

    I'm an ENTP. I thought she hated me at first but she warmed up later. When I asked her out I had to wait a day til she gave me an answer. And in the relationship she always wanted space and time. Which luckily, I'm very patient. I think this is pretty accurate of her behavior. Sadly, when she moved, the distance didn't work.

  • @Gatzlocke That sounds very much like INTJ behaviour. I often dissuade potential reciprocity in stage 1.

  • Nailed it. Developed the first crush of my life (took me till college) and in the course of this odd situation I've done exactly what you've described.

  • Uncanny how eerily accurate this is.

  • As an INTJ, I won't even lie, I said some things at the exact same time as you in the exact wording. It's interesting how all of this is 100% accurate.

  • I'm often surprised by how similar INTJs are to each other.

  • it me! wow......

  • Creepily accurate,lol

  • L0L,

    WUT?

    This is my life.

    Oh god, lmfao.

  • hahaha that's just me. This is so ridiculous the way we work with people, but i just can't change it it's an horrible feeling, sometime you would like to get thing straight, wait did i say sometime? lol all the time...

  • I can't believe people think in this manner like me. Really crazy.

  • Holy shit..

    This is me.. I hate small talk. I always ask the (what most would consider) weird questions. I just like to get to know people on an intellectual level. I don't want to date a narrow minded idiot.

  • Amazing. Now I know why I always find myself ignoring women that I'm attracted to, but eavesdropping on their conversations.

  • This is a perfect explanation of me.

  • I am an entp and I love this explanation.

  • I think having the Perception sense as opposed to the Judgmental sense helps INTPs push things along more so than the INTJs, for me at least. I usually have the ability to "tap in" to what my partner is thinking or feeling and use that abstract "information" to make decisions on what to do next. Basically it is a very similar process, but I think the INTP is more willing to conform to the expected "social norms" of forming a relationship, if they think it is necessary.

  • Eerily accurate. Thumbs up.

  • My boyfriend is and INTJ. I'm an INTP. The several weeks before we started dating were some of the most awkward weeks I've ever experienced, and it seems what you've described is well-suited to what seemed to be happening inside his head at the time XD

  • @TheCarriepanda That's interesting. My partner is an INTP and he (and other INTPs) say that this process is pretty similar from them. What are your thoughts?

  • Holy crap. That's eerily accurate.

  • I agree with it all. Well put.

  • Although, as you said, this isn't based on scientific reasearch, I find that as a fellow INTJ, my feelings of love towards the one person whom I've been in love with do, for the most part, coincide with the points you've laid out in your video. I approve. :)

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  • An INTJ won't be interested in you.Period.

  • Brilliant. So true.

  • I'm INTP (I think) and I do this.

  • @Shwaggetyshfifty Hahahaha! You think? How very 'INTP' of you! ;o)

  • So true. Distancing myself when I'm first attracted to somebody has always been my Achilles heel. It costed me quite a few relationships.. But I guess time goes on and there's always more possibilities. Good video.

  • @SteveStin25 Thanks. Over the years, I've learnt (forced myself) to maintain a semblance of normalcy around a potential interest but there tends to be a few bouts of awkwardness, which in retrospect can be quite humorous.

  • (I'm basing all of this on a single sentence so its likely to be absolute drivel) Moving on,INTJs like closure so once something is over,we like to move on. NiTe interaction, I think.Being an INTJ yourself I'm sure you appreciate how stubborn we can be once our mind is made up.It must have been a difficult situation nonetheless because while we make great co-workers and friends we can be quite difficult in relationships.

  • I have been rejected by an INTJ because I tried to move too fast into this "stages", I knew this person is an INTJ, I found out I was, and everytime I see her is like looking into a mirror, she's deeply troubled and has told me she doesn't want out of her armored shell" because when she does, its only to get hurt, I apologized for the first time and told her I want to be friends, but I refuse to let go, and want to slowly navigate the stages over again. She also confused my love with debauchery.

  • I think INTJs like to form their own opinions about people and relationships although sometimes, an INTJ can respond to an enthusiastic pursuer.This usually happens when the INTJ is interested/curious about this person him/herself.'Not wanting to come out of her armored shell out of fear of being hurt,'does not sound very much like an INTJ to me. I think people can test as other types if they answer the questions based on some ideal rather than their actual behaviour.

  • (I'm not saying that theINTJ is the ideal personality type.)What I mean is,if I come to the conclusion that relationships are hurtful,therefore in order not to get hurt,I mustn't get into them&so mustn't feel.It's a case of consciously trying to contain myself or guarding my feelings.So this is something I aspire to(as opposed to naturally not connection/experiencing less intense emotions)&if I base my MBTI responses on what I aspire to instead of what I am,I'd type myself incorrectly

  • @zeixify "I know and to tell you the truth the second reply sounds exactly like her, she has told me though, that her personality bounces from INTJ to INFJ back and forth, but I really just want to find a way to her heart, I told her she means everything to me, but she doesn't want to let her guard down, I get instatly happy when I saw her, she told me that there are better women out there, but I just want her, first she callled it debauchery, and now she calls it a crush, I'd give anything 4her

  • I enjoy these videos! It's funny listen to this and think, "This sounds a lot like me".

  • I used to find it hard to believe that others, so similar to me, exist.

  • Ha! This is really good! I laughed cause its true.

  • @DaveSuperPowers Thanks! I really enjoy your videos.

  • I love INTJs girls because they are nonexistent...and I am one. Awesome to talk to!

  • That sounds somewhat solipsistic. :) Welcome. It's nice to meet another INTJ.

  • We differ. Serious conversations of a romantic/personal nature are difficult for me and take time. I think it's mostly because it takes me time to get comfortable with my feelings for another person. I'd probably have to extend this theory to include a Stage 4 (in my case) in order to accommodate this. :)

  • @zeixify well i do have the stage in which i must somewhat step back and try to understand why it is that i have this interest, and think about how it should be handled. but during that stage there is not much contact with the other individual at all. most times i never make it past the analysis phase because i have trouble deciding whether the person is worth pursuing. however once the decision is made, in my ideal world, i would skip the smalltalk, although usually that cant be done

  • this was quite accurrate.

    although i think some INTJs skip phase 1 and go straight to phase 2, at least with romantic relationships

  • @AgentCarter That's possible. I used to do much less of phase 1 when I was in my teens.

  • @zeixify i feel like the INTJ has a tendency to rush this process, and immediately try to engage in serious conversation without the gradual buildup to that point that many of types would have.

    but then again im somewhat of an INTJ/INFJ hybrid so im not sure if thats just how i am

  • Serious conversation that isn't work/school related=flirting, hence there is no perceived build-up.I think for us,the very investment of our time in another person is indicative of interest and demonstrative of affection. I do tend to spend time observing and dealing with my own feelings in this phase.It's almost as if it's difficult to accept that someone brings out these sort of feelings.I wonder if this is something individual or if this is something other INTJs feel.

  • @zeixify well i think most types will have work/school related surface talk first (flriting is for most types is playful and not serious) and take a while before they take the conversation to the next, more serious, level

    however when it is someone i actually care about, i want to go straight to the deep conversations. i can handle small talk if it is with someone that i dont care about, but having meaningless conversations with romantic interests severely bothers me. i prefer to skip that step

  • I test as an INTJ female and your INTJ description is much more descriptive of myself. Thank you for the lesser focus on being a 'villain' or 'scientist' , and explaining more about our actual pattern of thought and not a caricature; good job.

  • Great video, my new friend. INTJ here. You and I would get along just fine. It's normal that you don't show your face. We're low-profile types. It's normal. But the pic, is that Ireland? It looks like it. Provide more INTJ videos. I've made great friends on YouTube because of it ; )

  • @NewYorkS4U Thanks! It's nice to hear from a fellow INTJ. I'm still in the process of 'reconciling myself to my INTJness.' (Perhaps the subject for another video). The pic was taken in the Faroe Islands last year. No trees, see? :) I will be doing more videos. In fact one on INTJ women should be out next week.

  • Sometimes I think INTJ is an abused version of an INTP... anyone agree?

  • This is a great video! But show your face next time :p

  • @chirality123 Thanks! I don't show my face because I don't like being 'out there,' for everyone to see. Maybe it's an 'I' thing.

  • The rosetta stone of INTJ has just been revealed.

  • @nofearspk INTJs and attraction.... that's a puzzle even to us.

  • I'm an INTJ to a T. What you described was 100% what I do. Almost like you made a documentary about me.

  • @Skeeter85 Great! Would love to know more about other INTJ and how they experience life!

  • @zeixify *INTJs

  • @zeixify Bravo for making the video. Maybe I'll get the courage to make one myself. Maybe after many drinks....

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