damn I'm a single and pregnant soon to be mom, and watching this video just makes it no better on top of reading the comments :-( I've never see so many people mainly men, get so disgusted at single moms. This makes me afraid to be a single mom. It's just sad. I wish that men and women who are considered deadbeats who have kids would just take care of their seed and none of this craziness would happening.
@JunebugObama He lost his job and home here so he moved to another state t to live w/ other relatives and to supposedly get himself together and find a job, a home and then I would move up there with him. None of his family here helped him and he would've been homeless. Our relationship failed onced he moved up there because he started cheated on me and broke up with me for the woman's he's with now. So basically me and my unborn child are strangers to hm now. We dont talk at all anymore.
@Brivonn2 Sorry to hear about this. Now that I have gotten older, I've just come to the conclusion that a woman should not have any unprotected sex until AFTER she has the ring on her finger and has been happily married for several years. This is not a perfect solution because married couples do break up, but at least your chances are much better.
What made you think it was okay to NOT use protection?
@JunebugObama correction... I meant to say, she should not have any unprotected sex until after she is married and she should not have any children until after she has been married to this man for several years.
@JunebugObama I was on birth control and on the nuva ring, and he wore a condom that I think he tampered with because I had a very low chance of getting pregnant but What I know messed me up the most was taken antibiotics while on birth control because that can no longer make birth control affective anymore and I was never informed of that at all until I went to my doctor. At first I was getting birth control from planned parenthood until I was able to afford a doctor.
@JunebugObama I wanted kids but definintely not at this time. I would've preferred to wait much later, but things happened for a reason. If I could go back in time, I would rather be a virgin and wait to have sex til I'm married. I tried all forms of protection as much as I can for as long as I can.
For me, I don't want anymore kids so after my daughter grows up I think it wont matter. I am not looking for something leading to marriage quite yet because I don't feel mature enough yet and I don't want just a date or boyfriend to meet my daughter. I think the biggest factor is that I don't as much time because I want to be a good mom. I can still be spontaneous, but not as much as I used to. I've dated some guys who didn't mind, but others who did. But I think it's always best to be honest!
That was informative, I'm a single mum and my advice is to be patient. It's a good time to reconnect with yourself and find out what u really want in life, I'm very sure a man that is at your level will be attracted no matter if u have kids or not. To be on the safe side wait for him to pursue you because that would mean he has included everything spoken about in the video before making that decision to ask you out. :)
What about a girl with only one kid and its a very young girl isnt that the, most ideal in this less diserable situation lol. It seems the most do able if you like the girl.
some of these comments are offensive, i'm a 20 year old single mother and i'm a single mother by choice because my son's "father" was abusive and controlling. i'm a single mother because i chose to yes, but would you want your son to grow up and think that hitting a woman and making her feel like dirt is alright? i'd hope not.
i'd also like to add that i have a boyfriend and he's not a "replacement" for my son's father. he is here for ME not my son, my son already has a father.
@JunebugObama I didn't "choose" to have my son at a young age. When you're manipulated, forced to have sex unprotected and get pregnant you have a choice to make. I'm not trying to pick a fight here it just bothers me when people generalize certain topics. Sometimes being a single mother by choice is the BEST choice for you and your child(ren). He isn't very much of a father but that still doesn't mean i'll replace him with my boyfriend.
@LacyTuber I'm not arguing with you or putting you down...I'm just trying to understand. You say you were "forced to have sex unprotected and get pregnant". Are you saying you were raped??? If he raped you, why didn't you call the police and have him arrested?
@JunebugObama I wasn't raped, but if I refused he wouldn't even look at me. Much like many young girls, after I learned I was pregnant I thought a baby would "fix" everything. He said he wanted to have a son, I got pregnant, he didn't stop cheating but the physical abuse stopped. In my opinion emotional abuse is much more extensive though and that's where he got me. We're no longer together and he's taking me to court in March so he can have his son on weekends, which won't happen.
@LacyTuber I'm going to educate you of something just like I would if you were my niece or my little sister. If he didn't rape you, this means YOU CHOSE to have unprotected sex with an abusive man and as a result have a baby. You could have said, "No!" and walked away, which is what responsible practical people do.
You say, "If I refused he wouldn't even look at me." Are you telling me you could NOT leave him and find a better quality man to have a relationship with?
@LacyTuber We are not saying you are a bad person; or that you have made some very bad choices in your life which you now have to live with (but that could be said); We are saying that **we** do not think that what you have to offer is worth the hassles, costs and risks to us is worth the trade. I'd rather have a girl with no kids, so she can have mine. Moral of the story> choose your mate wisely..
@LacyTuber ALL you single mothers say "its by choice" but you have to say that because no one wants you....at least no one that is successful. Thats REAL talk.
Why do single mothers think they are a good catch? Should any man feel honored to be given the opportunity to raise another man's kids? Should he be content with a woman whose body has been stretched out of shape from her pregnancies from other men?
Also notice that single mothers often lower their height and looks requirements for a man, which means he is a PLAN B guy for the sake of security for her kids- and not for whatever she may consider to be love.
Dating a single mother interferes with the child's normal relationship with his father. Women believe they can date men for a game of catch with their children or the chance to substitute Father#1 for StepFather#5.
I'm a single mother and I don't see the horrible points in this video.I think its all true and I don't fault you or any man for there personal preference.This was a very non-offensive way to express what many men feel and I personally don't see where anyone could be hurt or they could be so greatly offended.Getting pregnant is the consequent of careless actions.Keeping the child of the other hand is a person decision and know one is at fault for making a single woman a mother but herself.
@Feriaplus yea you're saying that because your ass is lonely. Look at you scapegoating talking a man who doesnt wanna take care of another man's child is a child himself.Did u ever think he wanted to started a family on his owns? Smh
Good video! Well presented with a non bias view point, in my opinion. I think its all about chemistry. If its not there, its not there and the person its not there for is going to weigh up the reasons why they don't want to stay. One of which is someone else having kids. If there is strong chemistry there, they are going to be more likely to stay in spite of extra challenges.
@ncfwhitetigress It's truely legal, a man that dated and married a single mother in a relationship will have to pay child support even if the child isn't his and belongs to another man.
It's their own damn fault.Guys she told to fuck off before she had kids and she dated an asshole she thought was perfect. Now she has nobody and she tries to score points with the guy she told to fuck off.
I am appalled that single Moms are stereotyped in this manner. It is a gift to have a child, whether someone is single or not. Yes, we do get stretch marks & our breasts are not the once perky things that they were, we feel as embarrassed as you feel disgusted. We cannot change what babies do to our bodies. It is an honour to be a Mom, a challenge to be a single Mom. If men don't want to date single Moms, great, but don't insult & belittle us. Just don't date us.
@alicatplh7777 That's what they do...just don't date you....but then you single moms need to know why, and when a guy tell's you why...that he doesn't want to take care of another man's child, and all the bullshit that comes along with it...then you say it's an insult.
@kimmie6209 i wish I could 'like'your comment 10 times. You're right, single mothers, many not all, have issues in their lives (we all do anyway) what this video tries to do is highlight those issues and show how one can go about solving them for a better relationship. It's not about belittling but empowerment, remember what they say "Swallowing pride never choked anyone" so accept criticism positively to better yourself.
As I get older, there aren't too many single women without kids. There are some without kids but they are all unattractive and weirdos. I may I have to accept the fact that I may marry a woman with kids unless I marry a weirdo or an ugly woman.
@JunebugObama I am 25 and if I dated a much younger woman, I would end up in jail. LOL! I don't mind dating a woman with kids, I am fearing that it might be my only choice as I get older. Dating right now, every woman I meet has a child unless they are a weirdo or unattractive as I said before. I might end up being a budaest monk one day.
@doctorken2k I've been to Memphis numerous times, but I haven't been there in years. You mean to tell me you are 25 and a doctor and you can't find a woman 21-25 with no kids? You only need one woman. You can't find ONE? Wow...what has happened to Memphis?
@doctorken2k nigga, i make 11 bucks an hour, don't have my own crib, don't have a car and i come across MANY chics who don't have kids. So naw, its YOU with the problem, Doogie Howser ass nigga.
@JunebugObama I am not a doctor yet. I just play one on youtube, but the only women that 21-25 with no kids are mostly at the Universities and they are either white(I have no problem with that although I get dirty looks for the sistas), a weirdo, or they are unattractive. But it is easy to find a woman with kids though. I mess with them all the time. Maybe I am not looking in the right places or maybe I just need to move to another city.
@doctorken2k You seem like you have your head on straight, so I'm sure you will eventually find the right solution even if it's increasing the number of quality women you meet. This is a number's game....but again, pay me no mind because I am not in Memphis so I don't know the female demographics there.
@JunebugObama I think I know what this guy is getting at. I live down south too and most of the women around us have kids unless you live in Atlanta. Seventy percent of the women I've dated have kids. You have to get them when they are like 18.
If you marry one and she divorces you, that's your ass. You could be legally responsible for them all = pay alimony for her to leave + child support for kids that ARE NOT yours.
Listen to Junebug. If you want to marry, get a prenup and a girl in her later 20s with no kids. Don't set yourself up to lose everything you've worked for...ain't worth it.
@doctorken2k NP. I'm 24, but I've been listening to Tom Leykis.
Marriage is a binding legal contract with her, yourself, and the state that obligates to pay severely for breach. Contract doesn't make a difference if you truly love someone/you or her will still leave/divorce if you want.
Create a prenup (with a lawyer) in which you both can agree what happens to the money, should a divorce happen, and don't let her convince you otherwise.She's a golddigger or crazy if she won't sign it.
It's not only the sistas having kids, it's also what pregnancy do to their bodies. Most of them look like a hot mess. I mean the ass pretty much still can look good, but the droopy tits, and stretchmarks just turn you off. And all they talk about is their problems and needs.
but my son listens to everything i say and if he behaves bad he will get a punishment that really works - take away what these kids love the most - tv ... back to the subject ... Get to know the man first that you introduce to your child because if you feel confident about that man your child will sense this and will respect the new guy ... but if he meets a new guy every week why should your child even try to built up respect when next week a "new daddy" comes around ...etc etc etc etc etc etc
i wont introduce my son to him -...more single mothers need to focus on their child needs first before they start a new relationship and once you have it on track that you are indeed a responsible mother you will have enough time to go out and find a man ... a man who will respect the fact that you have a child ... oh and to the spanking part - no way in hell a "step-parent" should spank the child ... Parents should not even spank their child ... maybe Im supermom and i have the greatest child
@MrBlackmask27 good for you..I am so proud of you..shows your intellect..you are not smart enough to raise a child without physical interaction...and before you start anything how kids need a whopping.no if you know to do the right punishment.they will listen anyways.I wish i could teach you this. my son is such a excellent child..he helps his teachers in school.he helps other children.he helps at home.etc etc..i never have a problem with him.. because i raise him with love and understanding
I LOVE THE LAST PART YOU SAID - As a Single mother myself ( recently got divorced ) I cant stand when i see/hear of woman who constantly bring strangers around their children ( i have a free "friends" like that ) - just shows how trashy they are and that they do not care about their children safety .....
I date Yes and I have sex ... but number one rule is my son wont hear or see anything of this - I am mother Theresa when it comes to this .... If Im not with the guy for at least 5 month -
Its funny because I used to think that it was a big deal to date someone with kids but now that I am older and I myself is a single mother has made me realize that the only guys that dont want to date a woman with a child are still children themselves...those guys will never grow up until they have kids themselves. Then your prospective of children will change. Sometimes its not the single womens fault why she is single. God Bless Single Mothers!
@Feriaplus It may not be single moms fault why they are single, but why in the hell should the guy care if it's your fault or not, the kid is still there, & there are several dynamics that come along with children being involved in a relationship. Are u saying that a guy who is educated, gainfully employeed, responsible, & has no desire to date a single mother, is acting like a child? And if they do have children of their own it doesn't mean they will end up a single parent like u.
@yourfuturequeen Which is pathetic considering you losers are still squeezing out babies at a record rate for men who aren't in the home but you're letting daycare centers raise your children and you wonder why kids today are unhinged? Thanks to single moms who never heard of contraception or abortion
To hell w/single moms. You can have 'em. I don't want to raise another man's seed, but most of all, I don't wanna deal w/the other dude unless that nigga already dead. It's one thing if she was married and divorced. It's another thing if she's got kids for two different men, never married and living in Section 8 housing. Fuck that shit.
03:59 LMAO. Studies prove that the number one cause of death in the male gender is an heart attack, and this explanation actually might be what causes that.
It amazes me that a woman knows that men don't want to date women with kids, but they have kids out of wedlock and then blame the man for the pregnancy and blame the man for not dating her because of the kid.
Life takes you in some unexpected places. I thought I did everything right as far as getting married then having a child. Right now, I'm absolutely 100 percent unhappy and facing the fact if I leave my spouse, I will have to enter the dating world with less potenial mates due to the fact that I have a child. If I could only do it over again, I would have never had a child with this person . So ladies think long and hard before you decide to have any children, it changes you life forever!!!!!
Finally, someone speaking the truth. Unfortunately this type of dating has never worked for me. And in some cases, it's the mother that ran the guy away in the first place. I would strongly advise against dating a single mother.
Hey junebug! what do you think about that Millionaire who its dating Tiger Woods children mom. I think he is a fuckin idiot . Some people just don't don't deserve the money that they have.
this is real, Im the ex-thug who dont want know other man around his kids lol, I would like it if you highlight the fact that even thugs wanna see their kids, sometimes single mums dont want them to see the kids. This is what causes the friction in the first place, single mums will tell you have big your dick etc etc to feed your ego, so you dont see how manipulative and irregular they are, its not always a case of the guys walking out on these women, it takes 2 to tango. God Bless you man.
if a man does not have children or is not married by a certain age, he has the problem. it is their house so you have to respect them and her. it is the same way if you have a close relationship with your momma you are watching her and how she and your mom interact. and as far as spending time alone with your wife, what do you think a babysitter is for? it takes a real man who knows what he is getting n2 and to have patience and be generous and not a selfish child. A KID IS a BABY GOAT.
You had to have written this out of anger...not logic.
Men aren't "real" because they raise someone else's seed. In actuality, they're either fools or inordinately magnaminamous. Evolution didn't condition males to "adopt" another man's seed. We are designed to ensure that our progeny succeeds not another man's.
I dated a single mom once, and I'm 24. It was the most stressful relationship that I've EVER been in and not worth the time or money I spent.
@3shacks I'm the kind of guy who doesn't want children...so I'm selfish for not dating a single mother? Why should ANY man have to take care of another man's seed? The only selfishness I see come from the mothers themselves since they feel they are entitled to a man to take of her mistakes. Women turn down single fathers all the time, but I'm guessing its due to "standards" right?
if a man does not have children or is not married by a certain age, he has the problem. it is their house so you have to respect them and her. it is the same way if you have a close relationship with your momma you are watching her and how she and your mom interact. and as far as spending time alone with your wife, what do you think a babysitter is for? it takes a real man who knows what he is getting n2 and to have patience and be generous and not a selfish child
@mindprism That's an old shaming tactic to get men to submit and be a traditional family guy. Notice how usually women are seen as independent and free spirits for not having families and/or children. Yet men are labeled as weird for not doing so. Fact is we have the upper hand in that situation and it bugs them since usually they were the girl at one time that everyone would go after.
You've got to be the biggest idiot to date a single mother! Dudes, there's TONS of single women out there...what the hell are you settling for scraps while you can get someone completely NEW w/ NO excess baggage + some feral children that's not even yours!? Are you even kidding me!!?? I'd rather slit my throat w/ a rusted dull knife rather than being w/ someone with someone else's mistakes!!!
I am sooo glad I don't have kids! My dating options are endless except it's so difficult to find a man w no kids. I'm a 25 year-old Hispanic female who prefers to date men a few years older than me. Single parents comes w so much unnecessary baggage. Crazy baby momma, bad kids, extra responsibilities... ugh! I want to start fresh:)
Dating single moms? Risky? Be prepared to also cull out the ones who are entitled princesses and also the prospect that 3/4 of divorced moms have already made false abuse allegations to win in divorce. Never-married moms are risky too. Know the questions to ask and the signs to look for with entitled women - the majority of single moms. Dangerous pool of sharks from which to search for a partner.
I said I wont date a single mother, especially if she aint got her shit together, but shoot man in my area & more areas than one single mothers are outnumbering the women without kids & its only increasing with age, so whats a guy to do?
One major reason you didn't mention is that none of it is mine. The single mother found her "dream" guy, had her "dream" wedding, and now has her "dream" kids. Now she doesn't have her "dream" guy and are only looking for someone to clean-up her mess. Why the fuck do I want to clean up your issues? Chances are you passed up a sure thing for some flavor of the month or some "perfect" result in your head without considering reality. Oh pitty, how shitty....for you. :p
Single black mothers are most selfish women on earth. They want babies, baby daddies, boyfriends and husbands. What about the few sisters that don`t have kids outta wedlock and who wants a man too. Plus single mothers have no taste in men, are fat, have stretch marks, are mad at strangers because they single, used up, wore out, still dealing with their baby daddies, etc... Dating single moms arent worth it, this is what they wanted so this is what they got. Btw, the sex is always nasty anyway.
men that aren't ready to be fathers shouldn't date single moms. men that cant love another mans child DEFINATELY shouldnt date single moms. i would bet most of the ppl hating on single moms and thier kids on here claim to be christains.
@philmo211....u r so right, I dont want any ever in my life.. I don't hate them but I don't have the time, the money or the mental state of mind for snotty nose pissy ass chaps.
I have been dating a single mom for about a month now she only has 1 kid she treats me good buy me stuff and respects me the only problem is the time.
Thanks ... You .....whoever you are, for your selfish, "I'm the king of the world with an expectation to always be pleased" insight. It is true, that there are countless individuals with so little capacity to understand what real love is about......ha....some candidate.....
@angelgabrielmiamor Thank you for understanding and being a sensible person. You will have no problem finding the right person to spend the rest of your life with.
I'm a single mom of 3 kids (all from same dad) and I wouldn't date a single guy to begin with...a guy who doesn't or never experienced having kid aint on your level...bad idea, and yes all this he is saying in this video is true!!!
My advice is she a ho. Play like you serious about her, smoke her out until you get bored, then jet. Oh, use a rubber and make sure you flush it when you done.
again men reasons for not dating a single mom is the same exact reason they wanted to just screw in the first place and lazy and never want to take responsibility for anything,which causes all this.....men don't want relationships period, cuz as soon as the child pops out they gone,, and walla and new single mother is born.
@nwr33xl4 Smh. So we are irresponsible and lazy for NOT wanting to take care of another man's child? How about those women choose BETTER men and stop fucking the ones who have nothing going for them except some outdated "fonz" mentality? Have some accountability.
I need advice.. im dating this girl with 2 kids with 2 diffrent dads!! i lost my virginity to her, the only reason i likeher is cuz shes a sex maniac! and she gives it up anytime, anyways she says she was preggo and then she had a miscarage the first time i slept with her...now im scarred for the day that she says shes preggo and its mine, she says shes on birthcontrol and has a UID, but i just dont belive it..i need help im scarred of this Bitch but what if this wil be my only pussy in my life?
@Sonicku Don't be ridiculous. There are tons of other women out here who are good in bed and she won't be your only one. If you are going to be having sex, don't rely on the woman's word that she is protected. YOU must protect yourself by wearing a condom or not having any sex at all. Always remember to use YOUR condoms and not ones that she bought.
@Sonicku--When you're done with your condoms, put hot pepper sauce inside the condom; just in case they try to sneak away to insert it inside, you'll see just what type of game she tried to run on you. When she tries to sue--judges always throw it out! And don't get too close to her kids; if your relationship with her sours, she can tell a judge that you and her kids have 'bonded' and she'll try to get you on the hook for child support. They do try!!!
@Sonicku You need to STOP having sex with that girl. She already has two different kids with two different men, and she is obviously trying to have a third kid with you! You were lucked out when she had a miscarriage, but she will try to get you to knock her up again until she has your baby. If you don't cut her off now, you will end up having to support all her kids, including those that belong to other guys.
I don't want a HELP a used up single mother parasite. Or your bastard children. Men should go through life with the LEASE amount of problems. I value myself, I don't want to pay for YOUR mistakes. Single moms are delusional leeches, they really believe that their STOCKS are high. STUPID BITCHES.
I'm a single mom of one child and I don't see anything wrong with this video. These are all the things that I consider when I'm dating.I make sure he can deal with my situation because it's not for everyone. And I don't get offended if someone can't handle dating me becuase I do have a child.
@ThatChickChanie You seem to be a very reasonable woman and I have no doubt that you will find the right one for you. There is nothing wrong with any of us having likes and dislikes or even preferences when dating. It's good to know that not every woman overreacts when a man has preferences.
God, I hate all of these ignorant bitches who try to force to their bastard seeds on men. U were the one who decided to let an uneducated, jobless thug knock you up and now, you want a "real man" to clean up your garbage. Please, if not taking care of anyone's mistake makes me less of a man, then so be it.
@Ginuwine707 PREEEEEEEEEEEEACH. I won't talk to a bitch w/kids. I find that out to start, that way I don't get caught up w/that nonsense. It's not my fault you opened your legs and werent' responsible enough to prevent a pregnancy out of wedlock. that's a personal problem
I agree that you have to bond with the guy first. I'm a single mother of two. (Yes they have the same father, lol.) I have never brought a man around my kids. I don't think they actually have ever seen me with a guy since I left their father. I won't ever let them, unless I find that someone who mutually wants the pleasure of being introduced to my whole world. I have no baby daddy drama, he isn't around. Thanks to his parents... I do get a chance to have some freedom, so attention can be given.
Please don't delete this video! I'm a 23 yr old single mom & I believe every "baby mama" needs 2 hear things such as this. Its 2 many people like Fantasia making it seem like being a single mother is a badge of honor. Raising kids at a disadvantage & living in poverty is not an achievement....its the consequence 2 our actions. While the rest of these chicks complain about this video, I'm making sure I build stock in other areas 2 balance out the disadvantages that come with being with me.
DO NOT DELETE this video!!! Don't let the haters use their manipulative, ever-changing rules of what a real man is to shame you into silence or compliance with their agenda. I learned this from you! Manhood is decided in the wisdom and in the company of men--by men. There are no exceptions. Haters of this message think their wishful thinking has influence otherwise.
@Honeygirl1234 No, a real man doesn't have to take care of anyone else's kids. A real man is entitled to his own life and his own kids. What about his future and his right to the pursuit of happiness? Apparently you think that he should throw all of that away to bail you out of what you got yourself into. Sorry, but I don't think that is a reasonable expectation of anybody.
@MrFalcon675 +1, i agree a man's only responsibility is to pursue his own happiness and peace of mind. once he has kids that are his own/adopted, his responsibility extends to them. never is a man responsible for a woman's mess
plus this chick is 35 + 5 kids lookin for a dude to give her a free ride. lol i pity the sucka who would
@AnimeNikkaJamal The man who would give her a free are the men who are RAISED by single mothers, well the bitter ones who couldn't claw onto a man. They raise their boys to basically take women's shit and will make him feel obligated to do so. Since its on the rise, you also see more emasculated males around.
Don't ever put a single mother down. I'm a single mother with 5 beautiful kids and a man who dates me needs to understand that he needs to take care of the kids too.
@Honeygirl1234 Questions: 1. Were you married when you had your kids? 2. Are your kids all by the same father? 3. Do you tell the men you meet up front that you have 5 kids as soon as you meet them? 4. Have you had problems getting a man to agree to a long term relationship because of your 5 beautiful kids?
@JunebugObama No I wasn't married when I had kid. All of them have different fathers. No I don't tell him up front. Yes I had problems getting a long term relationship.
@Honeygirl1234 Thats your problem right there...DIFFERENT fathers and you HIDE that huge fact that you have children. You fuck with a man's heart and then you expect him to take care of your kids...Thats very deceptive.
@Honeygirl1234 hes not putting single mothers down hes JUST EXPLAINING WHYYYY SOME men wouldnt date them ..and why does he need to take care of ur kids they r urs not his unless he marrys u its not his obligation and if u have alot of children its not the mans fault (new bf) to have that responsibility until he becomes ur husband
@Honeygirl1234 u woudlnt have to worry about finding a "REAL MAN" to take care of your kids of u just chose right from the start, ur lookin for a replacement father instead of a man for yourself, NOW WHOS THE GREEDY/SELFISH ONE? U tell me
@TheDreadMan I have goals in life and I wanna father who will take care of my kids while I do that. I wanna go to school in Cali but me and my kids are in NJ. If I take the kids out of state but if I do, the fathers can take me to court for taking the kids out of state. That's why I want a real man to take care of my kids, so I can do these things
@TheDreadMan I want to go to school in Cali but I'm in NJ taking care of my kids. If I can get a good man to take care of my kids, maybe that can happen. Real men take care of the kids. That's what real men do. I hope you start being a real man
Single mothers have a living example of their poor choicemaking skills.
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damn I'm a single and pregnant soon to be mom, and watching this video just makes it no better on top of reading the comments :-( I've never see so many people mainly men, get so disgusted at single moms. This makes me afraid to be a single mom. It's just sad. I wish that men and women who are considered deadbeats who have kids would just take care of their seed and none of this craziness would happening.
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@Brivonn2 I was just curious, why are you and your child's father not together? Did you break up with him or did he break up with you?
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@JunebugObama He lost his job and home here so he moved to another state t to live w/ other relatives and to supposedly get himself together and find a job, a home and then I would move up there with him. None of his family here helped him and he would've been homeless. Our relationship failed onced he moved up there because he started cheated on me and broke up with me for the woman's he's with now. So basically me and my unborn child are strangers to hm now. We dont talk at all anymore.
Brivonn2 1 day ago
@Brivonn2 Sorry to hear about this. Now that I have gotten older, I've just come to the conclusion that a woman should not have any unprotected sex until AFTER she has the ring on her finger and has been happily married for several years. This is not a perfect solution because married couples do break up, but at least your chances are much better.
What made you think it was okay to NOT use protection?
JunebugObama 1 day ago
@JunebugObama correction... I meant to say, she should not have any unprotected sex until after she is married and she should not have any children until after she has been married to this man for several years.
JunebugObama 1 day ago
@JunebugObama I was on birth control and on the nuva ring, and he wore a condom that I think he tampered with because I had a very low chance of getting pregnant but What I know messed me up the most was taken antibiotics while on birth control because that can no longer make birth control affective anymore and I was never informed of that at all until I went to my doctor. At first I was getting birth control from planned parenthood until I was able to afford a doctor.
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Brivonn2 23 hours ago
@JunebugObama I wanted kids but definintely not at this time. I would've preferred to wait much later, but things happened for a reason. If I could go back in time, I would rather be a virgin and wait to have sex til I'm married. I tried all forms of protection as much as I can for as long as I can.
Brivonn2 23 hours ago
For me, I don't want anymore kids so after my daughter grows up I think it wont matter. I am not looking for something leading to marriage quite yet because I don't feel mature enough yet and I don't want just a date or boyfriend to meet my daughter. I think the biggest factor is that I don't as much time because I want to be a good mom. I can still be spontaneous, but not as much as I used to. I've dated some guys who didn't mind, but others who did. But I think it's always best to be honest!
silverakisame 3 days ago
That was informative, I'm a single mum and my advice is to be patient. It's a good time to reconnect with yourself and find out what u really want in life, I'm very sure a man that is at your level will be attracted no matter if u have kids or not. To be on the safe side wait for him to pursue you because that would mean he has included everything spoken about in the video before making that decision to ask you out. :)
chaaanna 2 weeks ago 2
Single moms are a no! no! I've been out with one and they are some self-centered opportunist. If you see one and she likes you. RUN!
QUBECOGNITO 2 weeks ago 5
What about a girl with only one kid and its a very young girl isnt that the, most ideal in this less diserable situation lol. It seems the most do able if you like the girl.
cmp2nite2 2 weeks ago
some of these comments are offensive, i'm a 20 year old single mother and i'm a single mother by choice because my son's "father" was abusive and controlling. i'm a single mother because i chose to yes, but would you want your son to grow up and think that hitting a woman and making her feel like dirt is alright? i'd hope not.
i'd also like to add that i have a boyfriend and he's not a "replacement" for my son's father. he is here for ME not my son, my son already has a father.
LacyTuber 3 weeks ago
@LacyTuber
Questions:
1) Why did you choose to have a baby at such a young age? What's the rush?
2) Why did you have a baby by a man who is "abusive and controlling" who makes you feel like dirt?
3) You say, "my son already has a father." Are you talking about the dude who is abusive? What kind of father can he be if he is abusive?
JunebugObama 3 weeks ago 4
@JunebugObama I didn't "choose" to have my son at a young age. When you're manipulated, forced to have sex unprotected and get pregnant you have a choice to make. I'm not trying to pick a fight here it just bothers me when people generalize certain topics. Sometimes being a single mother by choice is the BEST choice for you and your child(ren). He isn't very much of a father but that still doesn't mean i'll replace him with my boyfriend.
LacyTuber 3 weeks ago
@LacyTuber I'm not arguing with you or putting you down...I'm just trying to understand. You say you were "forced to have sex unprotected and get pregnant". Are you saying you were raped??? If he raped you, why didn't you call the police and have him arrested?
JunebugObama 3 weeks ago
@JunebugObama I wasn't raped, but if I refused he wouldn't even look at me. Much like many young girls, after I learned I was pregnant I thought a baby would "fix" everything. He said he wanted to have a son, I got pregnant, he didn't stop cheating but the physical abuse stopped. In my opinion emotional abuse is much more extensive though and that's where he got me. We're no longer together and he's taking me to court in March so he can have his son on weekends, which won't happen.
LacyTuber 3 weeks ago
@LacyTuber I'm going to educate you of something just like I would if you were my niece or my little sister. If he didn't rape you, this means YOU CHOSE to have unprotected sex with an abusive man and as a result have a baby. You could have said, "No!" and walked away, which is what responsible practical people do.
You say, "If I refused he wouldn't even look at me." Are you telling me you could NOT leave him and find a better quality man to have a relationship with?
JunebugObama 3 weeks ago 10
@LacyTuber do you know something called contraception??complain only to yourself
wowerman 1 week ago
@LacyTuber We are not saying you are a bad person; or that you have made some very bad choices in your life which you now have to live with (but that could be said); We are saying that **we** do not think that what you have to offer is worth the hassles, costs and risks to us is worth the trade. I'd rather have a girl with no kids, so she can have mine. Moral of the story> choose your mate wisely..
delta6335 3 weeks ago
@LacyTuber ALL you single mothers say "its by choice" but you have to say that because no one wants you....at least no one that is successful. Thats REAL talk.
agenthelios1 1 week ago
now im wondering, would men rather date a woman who has kids or a woman who has had abortions?
karmamaster7 1 month ago
I dont see the upside never mind the downside.
scientific1982 1 month ago
A single-mother-by-choice, to me, her kids are nothing more then a reminder of what happened to the last guy!
mansuka1 1 month ago
Why do single mothers think they are a good catch? Should any man feel honored to be given the opportunity to raise another man's kids? Should he be content with a woman whose body has been stretched out of shape from her pregnancies from other men?
Also notice that single mothers often lower their height and looks requirements for a man, which means he is a PLAN B guy for the sake of security for her kids- and not for whatever she may consider to be love.
vincent15641 1 month ago 8
@vincent15641 Respect!
Aonexia 2 weeks ago
The #1 reason men abandon mothers is that there is low paternal certainty. Single mothers will do that to you, too.
feministsAreCorrupt 1 month ago
Dating a single mother interferes with the child's normal relationship with his father. Women believe they can date men for a game of catch with their children or the chance to substitute Father#1 for StepFather#5.
feministsAreCorrupt 1 month ago
I'm a single mother and I don't see the horrible points in this video.I think its all true and I don't fault you or any man for there personal preference.This was a very non-offensive way to express what many men feel and I personally don't see where anyone could be hurt or they could be so greatly offended.Getting pregnant is the consequent of careless actions.Keeping the child of the other hand is a person decision and know one is at fault for making a single woman a mother but herself.
lovely267 1 month ago
@lovely267 Well, you are a very sensible and reasonable woman and I doubt you will ever have any problems attracting a compatible mate.
JunebugObama 1 month ago
Chuuch!!!!
SIRTURF 1 month ago
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capnhands 2 months ago
@Feriaplus yea you're saying that because your ass is lonely. Look at you scapegoating talking a man who doesnt wanna take care of another man's child is a child himself.Did u ever think he wanted to started a family on his owns? Smh
QUBECOGNITO 2 months ago
Good video! Well presented with a non bias view point, in my opinion. I think its all about chemistry. If its not there, its not there and the person its not there for is going to weigh up the reasons why they don't want to stay. One of which is someone else having kids. If there is strong chemistry there, they are going to be more likely to stay in spite of extra challenges.
dennymambo 2 months ago
@ncfwhitetigress It's truely legal, a man that dated and married a single mother in a relationship will have to pay child support even if the child isn't his and belongs to another man.
mjdc2505 2 months ago
It's their own damn fault.Guys she told to fuck off before she had kids and she dated an asshole she thought was perfect. Now she has nobody and she tries to score points with the guy she told to fuck off.
capnhands 2 months ago
I am appalled that single Moms are stereotyped in this manner. It is a gift to have a child, whether someone is single or not. Yes, we do get stretch marks & our breasts are not the once perky things that they were, we feel as embarrassed as you feel disgusted. We cannot change what babies do to our bodies. It is an honour to be a Mom, a challenge to be a single Mom. If men don't want to date single Moms, great, but don't insult & belittle us. Just don't date us.
alicatplh7777 2 months ago
@alicatplh7777 That's what they do...just don't date you....but then you single moms need to know why, and when a guy tell's you why...that he doesn't want to take care of another man's child, and all the bullshit that comes along with it...then you say it's an insult.
kimmie6209 2 months ago 3
@kimmie6209 i wish I could 'like'your comment 10 times. You're right, single mothers, many not all, have issues in their lives (we all do anyway) what this video tries to do is highlight those issues and show how one can go about solving them for a better relationship. It's not about belittling but empowerment, remember what they say "Swallowing pride never choked anyone" so accept criticism positively to better yourself.
munukusama 2 months ago
As I get older, there aren't too many single women without kids. There are some without kids but they are all unattractive and weirdos. I may I have to accept the fact that I may marry a woman with kids unless I marry a weirdo or an ugly woman.
doctorken2k 2 months ago
@doctorken2k It's your decision, but I was just curious: Is a much younger woman completely out of the question?
JunebugObama 2 months ago
@JunebugObama I am 25 and if I dated a much younger woman, I would end up in jail. LOL! I don't mind dating a woman with kids, I am fearing that it might be my only choice as I get older. Dating right now, every woman I meet has a child unless they are a weirdo or unattractive as I said before. I might end up being a budaest monk one day.
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testizel 1 month ago
@doctorken2k There's 3.5 billion women on the planet. 150 Million in the U.S. alone. You can find one without kids.
enterjcs 2 months ago
@enterjcs You ought to come to Memphis, TN then and you can see what I am talking about.
doctorken2k 1 month ago
@doctorken2k I've been to Memphis numerous times, but I haven't been there in years. You mean to tell me you are 25 and a doctor and you can't find a woman 21-25 with no kids? You only need one woman. You can't find ONE? Wow...what has happened to Memphis?
JunebugObama 1 month ago
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@JunebugObama something wrong with that nigga lol
testizel 1 month ago
@testizel No. It is something wrong you.
doctorken2k 1 month ago
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@doctorken2k nigga, i make 11 bucks an hour, don't have my own crib, don't have a car and i come across MANY chics who don't have kids. So naw, its YOU with the problem, Doogie Howser ass nigga.
testizel 1 month ago
@JunebugObama I am not a doctor yet. I just play one on youtube, but the only women that 21-25 with no kids are mostly at the Universities and they are either white(I have no problem with that although I get dirty looks for the sistas), a weirdo, or they are unattractive. But it is easy to find a woman with kids though. I mess with them all the time. Maybe I am not looking in the right places or maybe I just need to move to another city.
doctorken2k 1 month ago
@doctorken2k You seem like you have your head on straight, so I'm sure you will eventually find the right solution even if it's increasing the number of quality women you meet. This is a number's game....but again, pay me no mind because I am not in Memphis so I don't know the female demographics there.
JunebugObama 1 month ago
@JunebugObama I think I know what this guy is getting at. I live down south too and most of the women around us have kids unless you live in Atlanta. Seventy percent of the women I've dated have kids. You have to get them when they are like 18.
TheZulaKing 1 month ago
@doctorken2k
If you marry one and she divorces you, that's your ass. You could be legally responsible for them all = pay alimony for her to leave + child support for kids that ARE NOT yours.
Listen to Junebug. If you want to marry, get a prenup and a girl in her later 20s with no kids. Don't set yourself up to lose everything you've worked for...ain't worth it.
RBG02005 1 month ago 2
@RBG02005 Thanx. I will keep that in mind.
doctorken2k 1 month ago
@doctorken2k NP. I'm 24, but I've been listening to Tom Leykis.
Marriage is a binding legal contract with her, yourself, and the state that obligates to pay severely for breach. Contract doesn't make a difference if you truly love someone/you or her will still leave/divorce if you want.
Create a prenup (with a lawyer) in which you both can agree what happens to the money, should a divorce happen, and don't let her convince you otherwise.She's a golddigger or crazy if she won't sign it.
RBG02005 1 month ago
The more kids they have and the fatter they are, the worse the sense of self entitlement gets. Freakin' mind boggling.
Cap285 2 months ago
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Never date a single mother. You will end up suffering for their mistakes.
DrFoofyMan 3 months ago
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DrFoofyMan 3 months ago
"Balls just swingin' " LOL!!
nagone11 3 months ago
Its there fault for believing in a CIA funded program in the 60's known as "feminism".
fargonbastedge 3 months ago
It's not only the sistas having kids, it's also what pregnancy do to their bodies. Most of them look like a hot mess. I mean the ass pretty much still can look good, but the droopy tits, and stretchmarks just turn you off. And all they talk about is their problems and needs.
LACraig621 3 months ago
but my son listens to everything i say and if he behaves bad he will get a punishment that really works - take away what these kids love the most - tv ... back to the subject ... Get to know the man first that you introduce to your child because if you feel confident about that man your child will sense this and will respect the new guy ... but if he meets a new guy every week why should your child even try to built up respect when next week a "new daddy" comes around ...etc etc etc etc etc etc
StellaBellaNutella 3 months ago
i wont introduce my son to him -...more single mothers need to focus on their child needs first before they start a new relationship and once you have it on track that you are indeed a responsible mother you will have enough time to go out and find a man ... a man who will respect the fact that you have a child ... oh and to the spanking part - no way in hell a "step-parent" should spank the child ... Parents should not even spank their child ... maybe Im supermom and i have the greatest child
StellaBellaNutella 3 months ago
@StellaBellaNutella im a step daddy the kids love..i whips they asses
MrBlackmask27 3 months ago
@MrBlackmask27 good for you..I am so proud of you..shows your intellect..you are not smart enough to raise a child without physical interaction...and before you start anything how kids need a whopping.no if you know to do the right punishment.they will listen anyways.I wish i could teach you this. my son is such a excellent child..he helps his teachers in school.he helps other children.he helps at home.etc etc..i never have a problem with him.. because i raise him with love and understanding
StellaBellaNutella 3 months ago
I LOVE THE LAST PART YOU SAID - As a Single mother myself ( recently got divorced ) I cant stand when i see/hear of woman who constantly bring strangers around their children ( i have a free "friends" like that ) - just shows how trashy they are and that they do not care about their children safety .....
I date Yes and I have sex ... but number one rule is my son wont hear or see anything of this - I am mother Theresa when it comes to this .... If Im not with the guy for at least 5 month -
StellaBellaNutella 3 months ago
Its funny because I used to think that it was a big deal to date someone with kids but now that I am older and I myself is a single mother has made me realize that the only guys that dont want to date a woman with a child are still children themselves...those guys will never grow up until they have kids themselves. Then your prospective of children will change. Sometimes its not the single womens fault why she is single. God Bless Single Mothers!
Feriaplus 3 months ago
@Feriaplus It may not be single moms fault why they are single, but why in the hell should the guy care if it's your fault or not, the kid is still there, & there are several dynamics that come along with children being involved in a relationship. Are u saying that a guy who is educated, gainfully employeed, responsible, & has no desire to date a single mother, is acting like a child? And if they do have children of their own it doesn't mean they will end up a single parent like u.
kimmie6209 2 months ago
@yourfuturequeen Which is pathetic considering you losers are still squeezing out babies at a record rate for men who aren't in the home but you're letting daycare centers raise your children and you wonder why kids today are unhinged? Thanks to single moms who never heard of contraception or abortion
Vergadoce 3 months ago
To all single moms who have an issue w/the truth Junebug is speaking: NEXT TIME, HAVE AN ABORTION!
Vergadoce 3 months ago
To hell w/single moms. You can have 'em. I don't want to raise another man's seed, but most of all, I don't wanna deal w/the other dude unless that nigga already dead. It's one thing if she was married and divorced. It's another thing if she's got kids for two different men, never married and living in Section 8 housing. Fuck that shit.
Vergadoce 3 months ago
03:59 LMAO. Studies prove that the number one cause of death in the male gender is an heart attack, and this explanation actually might be what causes that.
xubarze 3 months ago
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xubarze 3 months ago
Don't marry a bitch with fucking children, don't be STUPID !!! You are expected to raise another man's mistake !!!.
arelius1971 3 months ago
The kids make you NOT want to bang the chick...
arelius1971 3 months ago 2
It amazes me that a woman knows that men don't want to date women with kids, but they have kids out of wedlock and then blame the man for the pregnancy and blame the man for not dating her because of the kid.
middletech 3 months ago
Heres just 1 rule you need to know:
If you get a mother, go find another.
AssociateAdvocate79 3 months ago
Life takes you in some unexpected places. I thought I did everything right as far as getting married then having a child. Right now, I'm absolutely 100 percent unhappy and facing the fact if I leave my spouse, I will have to enter the dating world with less potenial mates due to the fact that I have a child. If I could only do it over again, I would have never had a child with this person . So ladies think long and hard before you decide to have any children, it changes you life forever!!!!!
PrettyConfident08 4 months ago
@PrettyConfident08
Rule of thumb is to wait a minimum of two years before having a child after marriage.
RBG02005 4 months ago
Finally, someone speaking the truth. Unfortunately this type of dating has never worked for me. And in some cases, it's the mother that ran the guy away in the first place. I would strongly advise against dating a single mother.
mercury4metal 4 months ago
Don't date single moms.
LevelHeadOpinion 4 months ago
little late for the profanity note :)
LeakingReddJuice 5 months ago
drinking coffee an dtaking nodos! LMAO Bebe kids reference FTW!
hobolobo2 5 months ago
Hey junebug! what do you think about that Millionaire who its dating Tiger Woods children mom. I think he is a fuckin idiot . Some people just don't don't deserve the money that they have.
JimmyCasserole 5 months ago
@JimmyCasserole I haven't been keeping up with the story, but I will do a google search and read up on it.
JunebugObama 5 months ago
i would not ever date a woman with kids ever
GothamCity2100 6 months ago
this is real, Im the ex-thug who dont want know other man around his kids lol, I would like it if you highlight the fact that even thugs wanna see their kids, sometimes single mums dont want them to see the kids. This is what causes the friction in the first place, single mums will tell you have big your dick etc etc to feed your ego, so you dont see how manipulative and irregular they are, its not always a case of the guys walking out on these women, it takes 2 to tango. God Bless you man.
charliebrownw11 6 months ago
the major problem with single mothers is that the kids are just not yours...
carig121 6 months ago
i wouldn,t date a bitch with kids if she ain,t got no money or something going on.she can,t be sitting around doing shit fuck these dead beat bitches
terrence6720 6 months ago
if a man does not have children or is not married by a certain age, he has the problem. it is their house so you have to respect them and her. it is the same way if you have a close relationship with your momma you are watching her and how she and your mom interact. and as far as spending time alone with your wife, what do you think a babysitter is for? it takes a real man who knows what he is getting n2 and to have patience and be generous and not a selfish child. A KID IS a BABY GOAT.
3shacks 7 months ago
@3shacks
You had to have written this out of anger...not logic.
Men aren't "real" because they raise someone else's seed. In actuality, they're either fools or inordinately magnaminamous. Evolution didn't condition males to "adopt" another man's seed. We are designed to ensure that our progeny succeeds not another man's.
I dated a single mom once, and I'm 24. It was the most stressful relationship that I've EVER been in and not worth the time or money I spent.
RBG02005 4 months ago
@3shacks I'm the kind of guy who doesn't want children...so I'm selfish for not dating a single mother? Why should ANY man have to take care of another man's seed? The only selfishness I see come from the mothers themselves since they feel they are entitled to a man to take of her mistakes. Women turn down single fathers all the time, but I'm guessing its due to "standards" right?
DeadSleepers 4 months ago
if a man does not have children or is not married by a certain age, he has the problem. it is their house so you have to respect them and her. it is the same way if you have a close relationship with your momma you are watching her and how she and your mom interact. and as far as spending time alone with your wife, what do you think a babysitter is for? it takes a real man who knows what he is getting n2 and to have patience and be generous and not a selfish child
3shacks 7 months ago
@3shacks {if a man does not have children or is not married by a certain age, he has the problem. }
Wow, and what "problem" would that be? My guess is he has a LOT fewer "problems", and you know what those are don't you.
{it takes a real man who knows what he is getting n2 and to have patience and be generous and not a selfish child}
Ah, the "real man" thing. Face it, if you have kids, you are expecting a lot more from him than he is of you. You are in the hole from the get go.
mindprism 4 months ago
@mindprism That's an old shaming tactic to get men to submit and be a traditional family guy. Notice how usually women are seen as independent and free spirits for not having families and/or children. Yet men are labeled as weird for not doing so. Fact is we have the upper hand in that situation and it bugs them since usually they were the girl at one time that everyone would go after.
DeadSleepers 4 months ago
@3shacks Any man who willing has out of wedlock children w/some broad is a fool
Vergadoce 3 months ago
if a man does not have children or is not married by a certain age, he has the problem. it is their house so you have to respect them and her.
3shacks 7 months ago
You've got to be the biggest idiot to date a single mother! Dudes, there's TONS of single women out there...what the hell are you settling for scraps while you can get someone completely NEW w/ NO excess baggage + some feral children that's not even yours!? Are you even kidding me!!?? I'd rather slit my throat w/ a rusted dull knife rather than being w/ someone with someone else's mistakes!!!
joel750 7 months ago
i like the picture at 5:04 with the kid in handcuffs lol wtf did that little boy do
dariusphilly 7 months ago
I agree with pretty much everything in this video, well said.
ornitorrinco01 7 months ago
Single moms have way too much baggage
tom11zz884 7 months ago 11
All i can say is if you are a man ...if you are going to get a dog you dont get a old dog you get a puppy
MrBUTTERBEAN420 7 months ago
glad i dont have chillins right now! My Eharmony bio is on my Channel, hope it works!
loveseekingsarah 7 months ago
I am sooo glad I don't have kids! My dating options are endless except it's so difficult to find a man w no kids. I'm a 25 year-old Hispanic female who prefers to date men a few years older than me. Single parents comes w so much unnecessary baggage. Crazy baby momma, bad kids, extra responsibilities... ugh! I want to start fresh:)
SazonDReyes 8 months ago
Dating single moms? Risky? Be prepared to also cull out the ones who are entitled princesses and also the prospect that 3/4 of divorced moms have already made false abuse allegations to win in divorce. Never-married moms are risky too. Know the questions to ask and the signs to look for with entitled women - the majority of single moms. Dangerous pool of sharks from which to search for a partner.
addvoc8 8 months ago
I said I wont date a single mother, especially if she aint got her shit together, but shoot man in my area & more areas than one single mothers are outnumbering the women without kids & its only increasing with age, so whats a guy to do?
TheDreadMan 8 months ago
One major reason you didn't mention is that none of it is mine. The single mother found her "dream" guy, had her "dream" wedding, and now has her "dream" kids. Now she doesn't have her "dream" guy and are only looking for someone to clean-up her mess. Why the fuck do I want to clean up your issues? Chances are you passed up a sure thing for some flavor of the month or some "perfect" result in your head without considering reality. Oh pitty, how shitty....for you. :p
besomiculopunta 8 months ago 2
If you're so smart or educated, why can't you keep a man? Didn't they teach you that in college?
besomiculopunta 8 months ago 4
This is a very truthful and funny video. I enjoyed listening to it.
lovetotravel780 8 months ago
Single black mothers are most selfish women on earth. They want babies, baby daddies, boyfriends and husbands. What about the few sisters that don`t have kids outta wedlock and who wants a man too. Plus single mothers have no taste in men, are fat, have stretch marks, are mad at strangers because they single, used up, wore out, still dealing with their baby daddies, etc... Dating single moms arent worth it, this is what they wanted so this is what they got. Btw, the sex is always nasty anyway.
LACraig621 8 months ago 4
men that aren't ready to be fathers shouldn't date single moms. men that cant love another mans child DEFINATELY shouldnt date single moms. i would bet most of the ppl hating on single moms and thier kids on here claim to be christains.
sunsagleaming 8 months ago 3
@philmo211....u r so right, I dont want any ever in my life.. I don't hate them but I don't have the time, the money or the mental state of mind for snotty nose pissy ass chaps.
tsg581ba1 8 months ago
I have been dating a single mom for about a month now she only has 1 kid she treats me good buy me stuff and respects me the only problem is the time.
johnied8509 8 months ago
@johnied8509 she's spending her welfare/child support money on you?! wow- she has no scruples. smh I guess she realized her options are limited.
SazonDReyes 8 months ago
Lol ha u wont catch me dead with one of these creatures i dont know weather 2 run from em or if i should try to kull it. Yuck!
philmo211 8 months ago
Thanks ... You .....whoever you are, for your selfish, "I'm the king of the world with an expectation to always be pleased" insight. It is true, that there are countless individuals with so little capacity to understand what real love is about......ha....some candidate.....
JLo33W 9 months ago
So true! I'm convinced! Thank you for this wake up call! No single moms EVER!
7575047 9 months ago
Ha your story from 2:00 - 5:00. . . damn i feel yo pain. . June u the man. . madd respect
pimpinnevaslipin 9 months ago
I'm 36 and have 2 children with my ex husband. Everything you said is true (you're so funny)
I've been dating my boyfriend for one year and he hasn't met my children. You shouldn't rush that.
angelgabrielmiamor 9 months ago
@angelgabrielmiamor Thank you for understanding and being a sensible person. You will have no problem finding the right person to spend the rest of your life with.
JunebugObama 9 months ago
@angelgabrielmiamor You shouldn't rush that. It's not of his business. Your kids are your problem, not his, keep it that way.
600trillion 2 months ago
this is so true what you are saying in this video, its good to say the truth even if it can be painfull somtimes
thank you for sharing
myladyline 9 months ago
I'm a single mom of 3 kids (all from same dad) and I wouldn't date a single guy to begin with...a guy who doesn't or never experienced having kid aint on your level...bad idea, and yes all this he is saying in this video is true!!!
luvingmommie05 9 months ago
My advice is she a ho. Play like you serious about her, smoke her out until you get bored, then jet. Oh, use a rubber and make sure you flush it when you done.
DONDIVA1969 9 months ago
again men reasons for not dating a single mom is the same exact reason they wanted to just screw in the first place and lazy and never want to take responsibility for anything,which causes all this.....men don't want relationships period, cuz as soon as the child pops out they gone,, and walla and new single mother is born.
nwr33xl4 9 months ago
@nwr33xl4 yup....so true
TheFashionableChic 9 months ago
@nwr33xl4 Smh. So we are irresponsible and lazy for NOT wanting to take care of another man's child? How about those women choose BETTER men and stop fucking the ones who have nothing going for them except some outdated "fonz" mentality? Have some accountability.
DeadSleepers 9 months ago 10
I feel the same way about men with children.
lilsexy1982 10 months ago
I need advice.. im dating this girl with 2 kids with 2 diffrent dads!! i lost my virginity to her, the only reason i likeher is cuz shes a sex maniac! and she gives it up anytime, anyways she says she was preggo and then she had a miscarage the first time i slept with her...now im scarred for the day that she says shes preggo and its mine, she says shes on birthcontrol and has a UID, but i just dont belive it..i need help im scarred of this Bitch but what if this wil be my only pussy in my life?
Sonicku 10 months ago
@Sonicku Don't be ridiculous. There are tons of other women out here who are good in bed and she won't be your only one. If you are going to be having sex, don't rely on the woman's word that she is protected. YOU must protect yourself by wearing a condom or not having any sex at all. Always remember to use YOUR condoms and not ones that she bought.
JunebugObama 10 months ago 9
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ktchong 9 months ago
@JunebugObama and flush it or take it with you cause they still up to the tricks
tonyaldorsey 6 months ago
@Sonicku--When you're done with your condoms, put hot pepper sauce inside the condom; just in case they try to sneak away to insert it inside, you'll see just what type of game she tried to run on you. When she tries to sue--judges always throw it out! And don't get too close to her kids; if your relationship with her sours, she can tell a judge that you and her kids have 'bonded' and she'll try to get you on the hook for child support. They do try!!!
dariusdise 9 months ago
ot@Sonicku
LOl wear a condom honestly.. some women are crazy..
and will poke holes in the condom..
hey, just leave, go find someone else to fuck .. its not worth the nightmare.
its just sex, don't fuck up your life for some pussy.
coolbeens21 9 months ago
@coolbeens21 but why would they do that? Is it to get child support? or bcuz they really are in love wit the Guy? what goes tru their head!?!?
Sonicku 9 months ago
@Sonicku You need to STOP having sex with that girl. She already has two different kids with two different men, and she is obviously trying to have a third kid with you! You were lucked out when she had a miscarriage, but she will try to get you to knock her up again until she has your baby. If you don't cut her off now, you will end up having to support all her kids, including those that belong to other guys.
ktchong 9 months ago
@JunebugObama When you dated these single mothers, was this before or after you started listening to Tom?
psx2514 10 months ago
Women with kids are "tagged" by other guys. I personally don't want a chick who's been "tagged".
orrin4 10 months ago
I don't want a HELP a used up single mother parasite. Or your bastard children. Men should go through life with the LEASE amount of problems. I value myself, I don't want to pay for YOUR mistakes. Single moms are delusional leeches, they really believe that their STOCKS are high. STUPID BITCHES.
tttkill 10 months ago
So, let's see... the same woman who probably wouldn't even look at you back in high school got knocked up by the scrubs/bad boys she chose over you.
Now she expects men to enter a relationship where they know from the beginning that they will be #2 forever, or worse, they'll just be a sugar daddy.
Sadly, some won't even understand why they get turned down. Karma's a bitch. Deal with it.
1337DementedOne 10 months ago 4
I'm a single mom of one child and I don't see anything wrong with this video. These are all the things that I consider when I'm dating.I make sure he can deal with my situation because it's not for everyone. And I don't get offended if someone can't handle dating me becuase I do have a child.
ThatChickChanie 10 months ago 5
@ThatChickChanie You seem to be a very reasonable woman and I have no doubt that you will find the right one for you. There is nothing wrong with any of us having likes and dislikes or even preferences when dating. It's good to know that not every woman overreacts when a man has preferences.
JunebugObama 10 months ago
I am single and pregnant and it was very hurtful to watch this video
pookiesindo 10 months ago
@pookiesindo you reape what you sow, next time sleep with a better man and not a thug
mottopower4250 8 months ago
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Im pregnant and single. This video was very hurtful and I shouldn't have watched it.
pookiesindo 10 months ago
Im pregnant and single. This video was very hurtful and I shouldn't have watched it.
pookiesindo 10 months ago
God, I hate all of these ignorant bitches who try to force to their bastard seeds on men. U were the one who decided to let an uneducated, jobless thug knock you up and now, you want a "real man" to clean up your garbage. Please, if not taking care of anyone's mistake makes me less of a man, then so be it.
Ginuwine707 10 months ago
@Ginuwine707 PREEEEEEEEEEEEACH. I won't talk to a bitch w/kids. I find that out to start, that way I don't get caught up w/that nonsense. It's not my fault you opened your legs and werent' responsible enough to prevent a pregnancy out of wedlock. that's a personal problem
Vergadoce 3 months ago
I agree that you have to bond with the guy first. I'm a single mother of two. (Yes they have the same father, lol.) I have never brought a man around my kids. I don't think they actually have ever seen me with a guy since I left their father. I won't ever let them, unless I find that someone who mutually wants the pleasure of being introduced to my whole world. I have no baby daddy drama, he isn't around. Thanks to his parents... I do get a chance to have some freedom, so attention can be given.
NerdehGirl 10 months ago
Please don't delete this video! I'm a 23 yr old single mom & I believe every "baby mama" needs 2 hear things such as this. Its 2 many people like Fantasia making it seem like being a single mother is a badge of honor. Raising kids at a disadvantage & living in poverty is not an achievement....its the consequence 2 our actions. While the rest of these chicks complain about this video, I'm making sure I build stock in other areas 2 balance out the disadvantages that come with being with me.
Samonethomas 10 months ago
you mean there's an "upside" to dating single moms?
BillKiernan 10 months ago 13
@BillKiernan You betcha. No nonsense. No games. Over that crap. Plus we know how to play.
rumezzo 4 months ago
DO NOT DELETE this video!!! Don't let the haters use their manipulative, ever-changing rules of what a real man is to shame you into silence or compliance with their agenda. I learned this from you! Manhood is decided in the wisdom and in the company of men--by men. There are no exceptions. Haters of this message think their wishful thinking has influence otherwise.
dariusdise 10 months ago
@dariusdise Thanks, Darius, I appreciate the support.
JunebugObama 10 months ago
@Honeygirl1234 No, a real man doesn't have to take care of anyone else's kids. A real man is entitled to his own life and his own kids. What about his future and his right to the pursuit of happiness? Apparently you think that he should throw all of that away to bail you out of what you got yourself into. Sorry, but I don't think that is a reasonable expectation of anybody.
MrFalcon675 10 months ago
@MrFalcon675 +1, i agree a man's only responsibility is to pursue his own happiness and peace of mind. once he has kids that are his own/adopted, his responsibility extends to them. never is a man responsible for a woman's mess
plus this chick is 35 + 5 kids lookin for a dude to give her a free ride. lol i pity the sucka who would
AnimeNikkaJamal 10 months ago
@AnimeNikkaJamal The man who would give her a free are the men who are RAISED by single mothers, well the bitter ones who couldn't claw onto a man. They raise their boys to basically take women's shit and will make him feel obligated to do so. Since its on the rise, you also see more emasculated males around.
DeadSleepers 10 months ago
Don't ever put a single mother down. I'm a single mother with 5 beautiful kids and a man who dates me needs to understand that he needs to take care of the kids too.
Honeygirl1234 10 months ago
@Honeygirl1234 Questions: 1. Were you married when you had your kids? 2. Are your kids all by the same father? 3. Do you tell the men you meet up front that you have 5 kids as soon as you meet them? 4. Have you had problems getting a man to agree to a long term relationship because of your 5 beautiful kids?
JunebugObama 10 months ago 2
@JunebugObama No I wasn't married when I had kid. All of them have different fathers. No I don't tell him up front. Yes I had problems getting a long term relationship.
Honeygirl1234 10 months ago
@Honeygirl1234 Thats your problem right there...DIFFERENT fathers and you HIDE that huge fact that you have children. You fuck with a man's heart and then you expect him to take care of your kids...Thats very deceptive.
DeadSleepers 10 months ago
@Honeygirl1234 hes not putting single mothers down hes JUST EXPLAINING WHYYYY SOME men wouldnt date them ..and why does he need to take care of ur kids they r urs not his unless he marrys u its not his obligation and if u have alot of children its not the mans fault (new bf) to have that responsibility until he becomes ur husband
650Pisces 10 months ago
@650Pisces Well that's the way I feel about it. Men who don't date single mothers are not real men.
Honeygirl1234 10 months ago
@Honeygirl1234 UR KIDDIN, UR JUDGING MEN FOR YOUR PERSONAL BAGGAGE? & ALOT OF WOMEN WONDER WHY SOME MEN TREAT THEM LIKE CRAP
TheDreadMan 10 months ago
@TheDreadMan I want a real man to take care of my kids. Real men take care of kids whether they're his or not
Honeygirl1234 10 months ago
@Honeygirl1234 u woudlnt have to worry about finding a "REAL MAN" to take care of your kids of u just chose right from the start, ur lookin for a replacement father instead of a man for yourself, NOW WHOS THE GREEDY/SELFISH ONE? U tell me
TheDreadMan 10 months ago
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@TheDreadMan I have goals in life and I wanna father who will take care of my kids while I do that. I wanna go to school in Cali but me and my kids are in NJ. If I take the kids out of state but if I do, the fathers can take me to court for taking the kids out of state. That's why I want a real man to take care of my kids, so I can do these things
Honeygirl1234 10 months ago
@TheDreadMan I want to go to school in Cali but I'm in NJ taking care of my kids. If I can get a good man to take care of my kids, maybe that can happen. Real men take care of the kids. That's what real men do. I hope you start being a real man
Honeygirl1234 10 months ago