Why stay away from sex before marriage?

[Tophir1]

Why does a ring and a piece of paper matter it's about weather t o people love eachother. English is not my main laugage.

[eric0100]

my ex mess up leaving a great guy like me. we started dating for 2 month she started talking about sex. i told her it too soon i wanna wait longer or better too wait till marry and she tell me how can we be together with out sex. so she broke up with me. since she broke up with me i knew right then she promble just wanna me for sex. cause sex is really not the meaning of love. i want someone who loves me for who i am. and how great there personally is. it hard to find the right girl :(

[abercrombiegal09]

@eric0100 don't worry, in time you will be really glad you avoided that bullet, there is always someone out there for everyone, you got the values though man.

[13SuperKings]

@eric0100 You are right it is very hard to find the right woman.

[sayerimr]

im against of sex b4 marriage......but its totally my thinking y sud evrybdy has 2 follow it?????? so really theres no need of such kind of msg...bt always have safe sex!!!!!

[RunNeonTigerTK]

These crazy church people teaching kids virgin isnt dirty but sex before marriage is dirty... Hmmm i had sex w/ my bf after 3 months and were still together after 2 years nope we totally dont love each other

[oneadamtwelve86]

why the hell would somebody marry someone before they had sex? thats pretty dumb

[sweetsweatyfeet]

We all have normal healthy biological urges and sex is a natural expression of it. Abstinence is a violation of human nature and completely unrealistic. Young people will have sex whether you like it or not. Teaching them effective contraception is the responsible thing to do. Don't let this fraudulent fear based control system (Christianity) impose guilt for fulfilling natural human needs.

[abercrombiegal09]

@sweetsweatyfeet smh.. It's partially true but everything we do isn't just based on nature. it's part biological and part morals.. so completely relying on the having "normal healthy biological urges" excuse and saying it's a NEED doesn't work.. everyone gets urges that doesn't mean you should always find a way to fullfill them. Honestly, as people mature they see that it's the best thing to do to wait anyways, i don't see where the "fear" is in that.

[sweetsweatyfeet]

@abercrombiegal09 Wait for what? Marriage? Do you consider people who don't wait to be immoral? It's religion that has assigned all this absurd moral baggage to human sexuality; especially in it's condemnation of things that don't conform to it's blinkered view of sexual behavior, like... Christianity's oppression of homosexuals and it's obsession with female virginity. Virginity is not a requirement for males in the bible.

[abercrombiegal09]

@sweetsweatyfeet No, but most people with a working conscience can see it's disgusting. Waiting for that person makes everything else a lot more meaningful-- I hated and made fun of God as much as a teenager could but that was still something I strongly believed in. There was no religion in my life, and society is gearing more and more towards having sex earlier, yet I was still strongly against it. And obviously in modern times it's not focused on female virginity,but everyone, for many reasons

[sweetsweatyfeet]

@abercrombiegal09 Like it or not, the obsession with virginity into marriage IS rooted in religious doctrine even if it's been somewhat modified today. The fallout from all this are puritanical prudish attitudes which afflict many of the religious.

You are welcome to wait as long as you like but I take issue with proscribing it for others and pronouncing it immoral if they don't. My only regret was that I didn't get laid in my youth---it would have done me a world of good.

[abercrombiegal09]

@sweetsweatyfeet Exactly--but everyone makes mistakes, and if you can prevent yourself from feeling regret or heartache, it's smart if you do..i don't see what good it'll bring to anyone messing with it. religious or not, sex especially early or before being in a committed relationship is messy. I have no obsession with virginity but I do think people should wait for that one person that they know theyre gunna stay with at least. How would doing it early be good? O.o smh

[elgmalone]

@wanderingivie ... I caught on to that too. And others were pure propoganda. "If you're giving it up, you're going stead with Hitler." How is that message anything but offensive.

[elgmalone]

@roac777 I would add a 3rd wrongful act to that and that is adultry. Not that allowing a consenting 3rd party to a sexual relationship is wrong, as long as all 3 partners are aware and consenting of the arrangement, weather it be a 3 some situation or a swinger situation. But I don't think sneaking around behind someone's back and commiting an act that you know would emotionally damage your partner should you get caught a good way to go when involved in a relationship. If you have to lie...

[elgmalone]

... then don't have sex for the first time on your wedding night. Do foreplay instead and then ease your way into sex in the time afterwards. Otherwise it could be a traumatic experience.

[elgmalone]

...a good idea. But one thing you should keep in mind is that, marriage is not the time for surprises. You're commiting your life to someone. Do you really want to find out you're not compatible until after the wedding? People think good sex is something that just comes naturally. It doesn't. Not at all. You have to learn how to have sex in a way that you enjoy it and that isn't going to be the same with each partner. If you do choose to wait until marriage...

[elgmalone]

...You HAVE to be responsible when you have sex. You HAVE to know how to protect yourself. You HAVE to use a condom, even if you're on the pill or on some other form of birth control, because it's the ONLY form of birth control that also protects against STD's. You HAVE to know where you stand on the issue of unwanted to pregnancy and make that clear to ANY partner you have BEFORE you have sex. You SHOULD be in a committed relationship, even if it is pre-marital. Random sex is NEVER ...

[elgmalone]

...You HAVE to be responsible when you have sex. You HAVE to know how to protect yourself. You HAVE to use a condom, even if you're on the pill or on some other form of birth control, because it's the ONLY form of birth control that also protects against STD's. You HAVE to know where you stand on the issue of unwanted to pregnancy and make that clear to ANY partner you have BEFORE you have sex. You SHOULD be in a committed relationship, even if it is pre-marital. Random sex is NEVER ...

[elgmalone]

...make it official.

[elgmalone]

...unwanted pregnancy should it occure. I made sure to tell every partner I had that I was pro-choice, that I wouldn't have sex without a condom, and that if it should fail, I would have an abortion. If they were uncomfortable with that then I simply wouldn't do it. All in all, though, I'm glad I didn't wait until I was married. I had a relationship with my husband long before we were married. The wedding was simply a celebration of our love and whatwe already had built together and to...

[elgmalone]

...anniversary of our first date. We have a 4 year old son, and we are still going strong. The thing about sex is that you have to be responsible about it. You have to know if your partner is healthy. Is it embarrassing to ask someone to get tested before you have sex? Yes, but if they care about themselves they'll take the test and ask you to do the same. You to make sure you know what you want as far as children and use protection. And make sure you are on the same page about ...

[elgmalone]

I'm not saying people shouldn't wait. Everyone should do what is right for them. But the first time I had sex it hurt. A lot. It was that way the first few times. Not to mention that I had partners who were good and others who weren't. My husband and I had sex on close to one of our first dates and it didn't affect our relationship. We dated and had sex for 3 years and lived together for 2 1/2 years before we were married. In October it will be our 9th wedding anniversary and 12th...

[lalizialena]

All i hope is that you all talk to your children about condoms too, you know, other methods to protect themselves if they have sex

[LordScouticus]

I'm in support of sex before marriage. From my experience, kids who decide to wait end up getting married early because they want to have sex. The need for sex also often results in poor partner choice on the part of those individuals, which means unhappy marriages. When a relationship ends, you have heartbreak whether you had sex or not. While I do condone committed relationships, there is no reason why signing a piece of paper makes you more ready to have sex. It's an individual choice.

[elgmalone]

@LordScouticus I'm also in support of pre-marital sex. Not everyone is compatible, the first time isn't the pleasurable experience people imagine it to be and can ruin a wedding night if that's what you're saving it for. Experience is what makes it pleasurable. And the fact is, how can you commit to someone, if you don't know if you're sexually compatible?  It's not the only important part of a relationship, but it's just like anything else. You wouldn't marry someone who doesn't have

[LordScouticus]

@elgmalone Not. At. All. First-time sex is awkward and uncomfortable, and often painful. If you and your partner aren't able to satisfy each other's... needs... then both partners end up unhappy. I am in support of people going at their own pace as they feel fits them, instead of waiting until they get married, expecting having waited to cause the first time to be this amazing, magical experience, when it won't be. Just because you're 'good people' doesn't mean you'll have good sex.

[elgmalone]

@LordScouticus Yes, this is exactly my point. These people are deluding themselves. My mom said something to me that seemed odd at the time for a parent to say to their own child, but over the years it has stuck and that is "You have to test drive the car before you buy it." This is a woman who only had 2 partners before she met my dad. But they had sex before they were married too and she never made that a secret. My parents are still together and have been married for 34 years.

[LordScouticus]

@elgmalone My parents had sex before they were married, but still ended up divorcing. For completely unrelated reasons (She developed Bipolar disorder which caused her to verbally abuse me and mismanaged the finances that ended with my dad $50k in debt) But relationships still work better when both partners are sexually satisfied. Anyone who knows what a high school looks like knows how dysfunctional sexually frustrated people tend to be. "Make sure you try it before you buy it."

[elgmalone]

@LordScouticus Relationships fall apart for all different reasons. Sex is definitely not the only factor in a relationship, but that's all the more reason why waiting is a bad idea. Inexperienced sex can just add all that much more stress to a relationship. If you're working on other issues and trying to hold it together, bad sex can be the straw that breaks the camel's back.

[MrChildoGod]

@elgmalone Sex is not meant for unwedded couples. Period. It's not something that God permitted us to practice doing before we get married so that were good when we finally do. It's something that you and the person your married to can get better together. It's damaging to do the deed before you have been wedded.

[elgmalone]

@MrChildoGod First off, I don't believe in God. Second, I had sex with more than one person before I even met my husband. Not everyone is sexaually compatible. To put it bluntly size DOES matter. So does shape. Also experience is important. Sex isn't something you're born knowing how to do. You learn how to do it. In a woman's case it hurts the first few times and then it takes time to figure out what it is you really like.

[elgmalone]

@MrChildoGod Third, I had sex with my husband 3 years before we were married and today is my 9th wedding anniversary and the 12th anniversary of our first date. We're still here and going strong.

[elgmalone]

@LordScouticus the same interests as you, but you'll marry someone who may not be sexually compatible? It seems odd to me.

[abercrombiegal09]

@LordScouticus It's not really the paper that counts, it's really just real, serious commitment. I mean I do believe some rare teenagers can have committed relationships, but when you're adult, grown up and mature, and ready to officially be with the same person for the rest of your life, then that also means you're ready to do it for the first time. Of course there's the people who are driven by sex, but there are also people who aren't like that ! Like me. Waiting to do it has alot of benefits

[fatpizzaman]

Fuck legalism and stay out of consenting people's lives. Jesus never condemned pre-marital sex you control freak cunts!

[SaltwaterAir1]

@fatpizzaman maybe Jesus didn't in RECORDED words, but I'm sure He did. And it IS in the Bible

[dariowestern]

@SaltwaterAir1 I don't cared about "maybe". Fact is that Jesus himself said nothing about it - fuck what the others wrote.

[fatpizzaman]

MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS! WHAT OTHER PEOPLE DO WITH THEIR SEX LIVES HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU!! IF IT FEELS GOOD AND DOES NOT KILL, MAIM OR INJURE ANYBODY DO IT!

[SaltwaterAir1]

@fatpizzaman It does kill people if they get AIDS. Or abortions. And it injures your heart and your spirit.

[dariowestern]

@SaltwaterAir1 it doesn't kill people if they use the right protection. Abortion is a woman's business, not yours. Go and have a shag and stop moralising.

[SaltwaterAir1]

@dariowestern Scuse me, I AM a woman, so abortion is kinda my business too, and AIDS can still be transmitted

[nybotheveg]

sex was designed by god to be WITHIN marriage not out of it.

no no no that's all wrong. sex is a result in evulotion as a way of doing meiose reproduction

[MindofMichaelMyers]

Sex will never make a woman beautiful. If anything it makes them fucked.

[BootyBallerina]

likee my friend saaid the other day.. a good vegan meal is likee a good christian rock song..even when itts good it still sucks ....

[btrfly25]

No wonder U.S. has highest divorce rates in world and STD's keep rising. Good job Americans! Yes it's the way to go! Lmao. Idiots.

[AutomatonGames]

@btrfly25 Um, you sound like a muslim. Muslims think all americans are 'christian' or do these kinds of things. No sex before marriage is super rare in america. Its actualy because of sex before marriage and things like living together before marriage that cause breakups.

[btrfly25]

@AutomatonGames I am, but I didn't said all americans were "christian"--most of them probably aren't. Sex before marriage isn't allowed in christianity either. I have friends who are christian and abstaining. But then again, I don't live in the U.S so who knows. I agree with what you said later. That's my point. That's why people break up (divorce etc) there so often. I mentioned divorce rates. In our psychology textbook, common law marriages do result in a higher risk of breakup--that's true. 

[DedicatedOne2]

You need to post these adds in your African American communities!! Instead of trying to save yourselves!!

[xSimplyAmusedx]

sex before marriage hurts emotionally!

[NightHawkBomber001]

@xSimplyAmusedx Depends on the person, depends on the circumstance, etc. Its a bad idea to generalize. 

[Danthemanlyman7]

It's amazing how weak Americans have become. We've lost discipline and self control and the ability to make our bodies submit to our minds. Everyone now a days gives in to their flesh. Look at the outcome, 70% of the nation is overweight, teenagers everywhere are having children out of wedlock, murder and rape are continually rising. It's sad really. It takes real character to exercise the discipline to wait. We all know how difficult it is to resist impulse, but the ability to do so separates

[LordScouticus]

@Danthemanlyman7 Everyone is a product of their environment and their DNA. Americans live in a culture in which we are taught to consume, not because we are weak. The main cause of obesity is because of the poor food normal to Americans. Teen pregnancy is caused because American teens learn their sex ed on the back of the bus because their school and parents are too scared to talk about is, and also there is a near-constant percentage, only changing because humans breed.

[littlemrsWayside]

@JeremiahGalan7070 -Calling people a whore for their personal decisions is completely immature and, honestly, rather against religion as a whole. I was raised Christian. I grew up hearing about TOLERANCE; realizing mistakes would be made, people would sin, and to be tolerant of every other human on this planet. Am I religious now? No. Did I carry away the things I was taught about tolerance and RESPECT for human beings? Yes. I've had sex before marriage and I'm no less human than you.

[ultimatedazzler]

@littlemrsWayside

christians should never tolerate evil. I hate 'tolerance'. when we tolerate evil we are condoning it.

[arrozcubano]

my sister does sex before marridge..i tell her that is wrong but she doesnt wanna listen and she knows thats wrong.sometimes i wonder how someone so inosent when little becomes so disgraceful when growned

[karamdiabful]

@arrozcubano dude u should control ur sister and tell her that its a big sin dude

[billysharp15]

This is very good! What church are you from my friend?

[Solitaire8888]

HA this is so stupid, as is anyone who deliberately waits til their married to have sex

[Heliosvector]

also this video doesnt make ethical sense. it calls on teens to be abstinant before marriage. that would mean that they are expected to marry when they become 21.

"Why should you abstain from sexual intercouse before marriage? What does God say about the issue?" this video doesnt say anything or give reason to be abstnant.

also those quotes 4min into the movie.. he also proclaimed that if a man rapes a woman, his punishment is to be married to her. wake up people. abstinance is ok butnotgodsword

[Heliosvector]

you guys are very hard on miamigirl. you act as if sex is all that matters. if you have sex with someone and then break up and move onto someone else then shes a whore?!? I can love someone and break up with them and feel heartbroken. i dont feel heartbroken because i had sex with them. I would be heartbroken because i loved them. for guys that are abstinant, you guys are really focused on sex alot

[Heliosvector]

to accept abstinance untill marriage under the grounds of "god said so" also means that you dont believe in evolution. we were not always so civilised to be married. we didnt stay abstinant before we were human.

Love occurs many times and comes in different forms. I know this well because my parents split up from a 27year relationship yet my mom has found love again. there is no such thing as the "one" the one may only exist if you stay with a single person and you are compatible.

[miamigurl123]

Here's what bothers me -- if you're trying to promote absitinence because of religious reasons, fine. By all means, if your religion preaches abstinence, then by all means, wait. But do not use pseudoscience to try to justify your belief. Last time I looked, sex doesn't always lead to pregnancy or STDs. Nor does it cause heartbreak or depression or make you a Nazi (Hitler, really??). Last time I looked, LIFE causes heartbreak and depression.

[miamigurl123]

@miamigurl123 And on that note, the virgin Mary waited to have sex, and she still ended up pregnant. So according to your book, the action (or lack thereof) may still reap the same consequences. That twist of pseudo religion puts a little hole through your argument, doesn't it?

[JeremiahGalan7070]

@miamigurl123 isn't relationship part of life? isn't it depressing if you give your whole life to someone then ended breaking-up? isn't it depressing if you love somebody very dearly, the both of you committed sex, then break-up? if not, im sorry to say but your being/acting like a WHORE. 4 ex: you had a relationship, committed sex, then broke-up.. then another relationship, committed sex again, then broke-up again... then again and again and again... its too immoral...

[miamigurl123]

@JeremiahGalan7070 I thumbs upped your comment, because it made me laugh. I never gave my whole life to anyone. I was 21 when I broke up with my first boyfriend. I dated him for four years, and yes we made love. We were ready, and neither of us are very religious, so what the Book said is irrelevent. That being said, I haven't said anything disrespectful about abstinence in terms of religion -- to each his own, yet you call me a whore because I had sex in a long term relationship? Nonsense.

[greenblue49]

@miamigurl123 Just because you choose to ignore it, it doesn't means it's irrelevent!

P.S. Having sex when you aren't married doesn't make you a whore.

[miamigurl123]

@greenblue49 In reference to my life and my beliefs, what it has to say is irrelevant, but it is surely most relevant to other people. However, the Bible dictates very little in my life. I'm a good person, and I try not to do most things you call sin, but that's because generally they're just wrong to do it. But I NEVER said the bible was wholly irrelevant -- I said what it had to say in regards to my life and my belief system is irrelevant to the way I choose to live.

[karamdiabful]

@greenblue49 dude believe me that person who have sex before marriage make him a whore...

[vanfanel150]

@JeremiahGalan7070 I highly doubt that, especially today, that you would find the right person ON YOUR VERY FIRST TRY. Don't be silly and naive.

[NightHawkBomber001]

@JeremiahGalan7070 Thats not the definition of a whore, But you seem to fit the part of insolent ass

[lreed1980]

@JeremiahGalan7070 I will admit...I used to live that lifestyle. and it is painful. Women don't want to admit how painful it is because we want to be loved so badly...smh. But u come to the realization that that's not love...not even a little bit. I had to change. I am now celibate and am waiting for the person who I am to spend my life with before it happens again.

[elgmalone]

@lreed1980 ... I don't know how much sex you were having or if it was random or what. But I had my share of partners and I never found it "painful", except for the physical act the first few times. And when I met my husband, I was happy to share that kind of intimacy with him, even though it was before we were married. I charish every moment I have had and still have with him, from before we were married and in our marriage today.

[lreed1980]

@JeremiahGalan7070 I will admit...I used to live that lifestyle. and it is painful. Women don't want to admit how painful it is because we want to be loved so badly...smh. But u come to the realization that that's not love...not even a little bit. I had to change. I am now celibate and am waiting for the person who I am to spend my life with before it happens again. Christ spoke on the whole issue of marriage and yes, you ARE supposed to be married...

[JeremiahGalan7070]

@miamigurl123 .......its too immoral.... cause you gave your whole body to your first boy/girlfriend then breaking-up... and another relationship came, and the both of you committed sex (you committed sex again) and then breaking-up again... and again and again and again... so if someone has only fleshly desire for you but not love, then he courted [or whatsoever] you, committed sex, then after sex he broke-up with you.... you just gave your body easily... then you're like a whore but.....

[miamigurl123]

@JeremiahGalan7070 Aww, a troll. How cute. You can't make an argument to refute what I said, so you call me a whore. But I'm sure it makes you feel better, so go on ahead, I suppose. Sex would probably make you feel a lot better, but eh. To each his own.

Besides, according to your religion, you're not supposed to judge my sin. Yet clearly you are. I think you need to go read your bible some more, my friend.

[JeremiahGalan7070]

@miamigurl123 .....then you're like a whore but..... giving your body for free.... how wasteful.....

[littlemrsWayside]

@JeremiahGalan7070

Oh. By the way. 1 Peter 3:8-11; Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind. Do not repay evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary, bless, for to this you were called, that you may obtain a blessing. For “Whoever desires to love life and see good days, let him keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking deceit; let him turn away from evil and do good; let him seek peace and pursue it."

[littlemrsWayside]

You should probably stop being so rediculously ironic about your beliefs and understandings of your own religion.

[karamdiabful]

@JeremiahGalan7070 yeah god bless u what u r saying is completely true

[MsRakiztababe]

oh yeah! thats your opinion that sex b4 marriage is not bad,.

but we're talking bout the bible here..if u dont respect the Bible, then its up to u

[miamigurl123]

@MsRakiztababe It's not a matter of respect or disrespect. I don't disrespect the Bible; I just don't believe in it. But I do value it as a classic source of literature for Western civilization. That being said, I do believe that many things in the Bible is outdated. The Old Testament is over 3000 yrs old, and the New Testament is thought to have been started around the 50s. That's 0050. But again, just because I doubt its relevence to modern society does not mean I disrespect it.

[LeeLee198820]

I believe ppl have a chocie if they want sex b4 marriage its not wrong as long as they take responibilty im personally waiting but not becuz i have to or becuz its the right think im waiting becuz its my choice ppl r not bad if they have sex b4 marriage and if any1 tells u that then they r wrong

[ChaoticDemonOverlord]

Meh screw that, ill go with sex.

[karamdiabful]

@ChaoticDemonOverlord dude its a sin u should know it ...u should have some chastity

[elgmalone]

@karamdiabful What if he doesn't know anyone named Chastity?

[karamdiabful]

@elgmalone then he make sex and its a sin coz sex is designed to be within marriage not out of it

[elgmalone]

@karamdiabful ... Says who? I'm not religious and I don't believe in sin. If you think it's a sin, then don't do it. But every time I had sex, I went into it fully aware of what I was doing and consented with another fully aware consenting adult. So as far as I'm concerned no sin was commited.

[elgmalone]

Oh, I thought you were responding to another comment. LOL! My comment was a joke. You said he should have some Chastity. But seriously. If he doesn't know someone named Chastity, I don't see what the big deal is. If her name is Destiny, or Amber, or Delia, that would be ok too. Why should he descriminate because of a name? LOL!

[elgmalone]

@karamdiabful... It's not funny anymore because I had to explain it. And I'm guessing you still don't get it.

[karamdiabful]

@elgmalone dude every one do what he believe is right so i don't make sex and im 23 guy and still virgin until i get married and im Muslim and i care about what god says not as the people that call themselves open minded and civilized who have high rate of abortion and aids and divorce and im proud of my thoughts and religion....

[elgmalone]

@karamdiabful Well, as I said in a previous comment. Everyone should do what they think is right. But if at some point you do want to get married you should at least learn about sex first. Unfortunately, two virgins having sex isn't a lot of fun and can be very traumatic. Particularly for the woman. Most men have no idea how to make it pleasurable for a woman the first time and many men don't care to learn. That is extremely selfish and can make a miserable relationship.

[MrChildoGod]

@elgmalone It's very important to wait.I know that I wouldn't be able to forgive myself if I had sex with a girl that I wasn't married to,and then having sex with the girl I do marry,and wishing that my first time was with her.Sure the pain is something that will be experienced for the girl,but if the guy genuenly loves this girl than he would do everything he can to make it as pleasurable for her as possible. Fully give himself to her. Be willing to do anything she asks. That's real sex.

[elgmalone]

@MrChildoGod If it's important to you to wait, then by all means do. But honestly, what you don't understand is that you can't make the first time pleasurable, particularly if you're inexperienced yourself. The fact is, you're a virgin, so you have no idea what you're talking about. I'm not trying to be mean, but it's the truth.

[MrChildoGod]

@elgmalone It can be pleasureable if the guy is patient and the girl fully trusts him. Oral sex can go a long way. If the guy solely focuses on the girls pleasure instead of his own. I know that most wives in general go unsatisfied because their partner focuses too much on his pleasure and not enough on hers. Yeah i'm not going to be a pro my first time, but I have done my share of research, on how female orgasms work, and how their are nine different levels.Most guys only take girls to level 4.

[wanderingivie]

You do realize that the lifeguard comic was ANTI-Abstinence?

Not that there's anything wrong with teens who choose to be abstinent, but we know for a fact that most teens won't. Of course, everyone makes better decisions when they're wiser, but people only become wise by learning from their mistakes.

And sex doesn't lead to depression (it actually releases chemicals that drastically improve mood), though it can make break-ups more painful.

[Tocxica]

@wanderingivie I'm glad someone else noticed that. I thought I'd gone crazy for a bit.

As for the abstinence issue. I did my senior thesis on teen sexuality. The truth is, most teens aren't emotionally prepared for sex, but some are. Instead of preaching abstinence only, we should provide all of our children information on different choices, i.e. forms of birth control. If rolling a condom on a banana helps one kid, then it's worth it. Abstinence isn't for everyone.

[miamigurl123]

@wanderingivie lol. So was the football picture.

[wellsaid89]

Hahaha sex IN marriage can lead to unwanted pregnancy and disease! And marriage in general is more likely to lead to heartbreak than sex. And who the hell gets depressed after sex? Im sorry, good work those who are waiting for "the one" but abstinence these days is unrealistic, just try to teach safe sex. That is a goal that MAYBE we can succeed in.

[elgmalone]

@wellsaid89 ... I agree. There's nothing wrong with waiting if that's what's really right for the person who is waiting. But it's really not realistic in most cases and because of that, teaching abstinence only and nothing about safe sex, is just dangerous. Teenagers have sex. It happens all the time. Isn't better that they go into it knowing how to protect themselves and others? Is it really smart to assume they won't and turn a blind eye to it until it's too late?

[roac7777]

There is nothing wrong with having sex before or out of marriage. It is the basic right of any consenting adult, whether they be single, married, hetrosexual or homosexual.

Of course it is wise to use condoms for partners who have not known each other for very long, in order to prevent stds and unwanted pregnancies.

If men or women prefer to wait after marriage that is their affair.

Only 2 major wrongful sex acts, paedophillia and rape.

[ThatJENNAchick]

absinence is so irrealistic. some people dont get married til they are like 20, 30, and sometimes 40 or so. Virgins that old are just PATHETIC, honestly!

[LeeLee198820]

@ThatJENNAchick so im pathict im 22 and a virgin and waiting for marriage and no marriage til 30s i believe sex is meant for lvoe but i dotn judge ppl for what they do with there own body and u shouldnt judge too

[karamdiabful]

@LeeLee198820 u r a good person ...don't listen to what some idiots say ....premarital sex is a big sin but they don't want to admit it ...im a guy 22 years old and virgin ..and im so proud of that at least i have chastity

[SaltwaterAir1]

@karamdiabful wow, go you! lol 22, a guy, and a virgin? rare these days. Even 16 year old girl virgins are rare (i am proudly one of those)

[karamdiabful]

@ThatJENNAchick why they are pathetic ....because ppl have some chastity and hear the gods word ...all of u should know that sex before marriage is a biggggg sin and thats it

[elgmalone]

@ThatJENNAchick Calling them pathetic is mean. But there is something odd about men who remain abstinent past the age of 20. It's hard to put your finger on it, but it's almost like they lack something. Like they're too innocent or unaware somehow? I don't know how to explain it. It's just that I always seem to know when a man hasn't had sex.

[partyprash2000]

NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE FOR ME THANKS ! !

im waiting for "the one"

[wiredkiller]

hahaha lesbian

[partyprash2000]

@partyprash2000 update, - i didnt stick to my word :s

[totollyawesomeness]

good job!!!!!!!! : )

[hotministriesonline]

The situation by Krystal Meyers

[ojesulem]

@hotministriesonline

Thanks for this. I really appreciate it. Good to know we still have virgins out there in a morally degraded world like this...

[karamdiabful]

@ojesulem thank u bro for ur good words yeah really we r living in a morally degraded world

[hotministriesonline]

the situation by krystal meyers

[tally10808]

what is the song