The first time I came out, in high school (I have since moved to another town for college, and crammed it back into the closet, but that's backfiring, so I'm planning on doing it again), I just left a big blog on myspace where I rationally explained that while I was the same person I had always been, I just so happened to want to be a woman. One of the reasons people freak out is because they feel like they're losing a close friend. Just be patient/rational, and re-enforce that you're still you.
I don't know what to do, I told my best friend 2 days ago and she was really accepting and wants me to come out to my parents, I know they will not accept me... I'm not gay but I've known for sure for 5-6 years that I want to be a girl. Help would be greatly appreciated :,(
Whatt exactly do you say when you tell people? I've used the line "I'm in the process of becoming a woman" and it feels super wierd to say haha well I guess it's awkward regardless of what you say but I'm justt curious. Much love! :)
I don't even know how I came across this video (just another sleepless night lurking YT), but I'm glad I did. You're a tremendously brave person to have done what you have done and to have put up with the negativity you encountered with such a positive attitude. It's really a shame that your family hasn't embraced you're decision, but like you said, it's important to stay true to yourself. I wish you all the luck in the world!
hi! I just found your videos after uploading my first one. I've kind of been having the same family problem so it's nice to know that someone somewhere went through the same thing. Only major parental difference is mine found out prematurely. I wasn't quite ready for them to know but they found out anyway... Thankfully I have a couple of good friends keeping me sane.
Thanks for sharing your experience. I live in a more conservative circle of family, friends and co-workers. I've actually brought up the subject of TG people and have met fierce ignorance from everyone. I've tried to educate them but to no avail. I fear I will eventually lose my family, friends and possible my job once I do come out. My biggest fear is being alone, but you have given me hope. Thanks again.
Excellent vid,sorry about your folks,hopefully in time they'll understand.I gotta say you look really good .Sharing your before and after in your vids is gonna help so many who are just starting their transitions and also those that so want to.I appreciate your letting me request ya as a friend on FB.I know i older :( but i'm proud of who and am and it just proves if ya want it bad enough age isn't a factor.Maybe we can chat on FB sometime.Hope you're weeks good.
I thought I was crazy when I woke up crying after I had a dream where my best friend did something really mean to me... Knowing you've done that to makes me feel better haha
Anyway, your videos are great! It's such a huge help to the transgendered community to hear what others have gone through. Maybe one day I'll have the courage to make my own.
I do have one question though... What did you do about work? Did you have to deal with coming out at work and all that fun stuff?
I agree and respect your feelings, if others dont see it that way then they need a reality check!! Even though I am straight, I again respect what you have done, you look beautiful!
As I replied in the first part of this video, thanks a lot, your words will be of any help for girls fearing the reaction of their relatives and friends.
You're a brave woman, a light in the darkness, what a pity that this dark world doesn´t have more minorqbacks to make it lighter.
With my deepest respect, admiration and gratitude.
Girls, you can't hide the truth forever, doing that, you will feel you're living a lie, not your life, only a "square minded" person will not accept who you are.
Great story. :) Honestly I think this all gave me just enough courage to tell my parents (or at least my mother...) about this. I just hope I'm not driven out of the house or anything. :o
For the Napoleon thing, I just respond with is there medical backing to wanting to be Napoleon? No there isn't, but there is medical backing to being transgendered.
As I have been entering the transition phase, I have found it easier to tell people that I am simply exploring this other side of me. The word exploring seems to take a lot of the edge off of the initial breaking of the news...especially with parents. People want to see that we are thinking it through (even though they dont realize many of us have been "thinking it through" our whole lives!
@Cassydie42 Very true. Family guy actually touched on this with quagmire's dad. the humor was pretty "at our expense" but in the end they realized that while "she" had been thinking about her whole life, her son hadnt and it was a sudden change that he was not ready for. Good advice.
just give your family time. it will probably take them about as long to accept it as it took you to come out.. but your dad being emotionally abusive, however, is not nice or healthy be be around.
Thanxs hon for sharing and helping others to gain there strength and giving hope. I don't have wonder why we get so caught up with complete strangers. transpeople, have a very very sacred common ground. I would love give you a great big hug. Tiffany
I just sat down to see Part 1 and 2 of this video. I wanted to thank you for the advice that you gave on how to tell family and friends. I was fretting on how to do just that, but setting aside some time individually for each one is definitely a great way to educate the close people around us. It has worked well for me too. so thank you. more people understand than i had guessed. maybe they saw something in me that i didn't for most of my life. you are beautiful. - Lee
Jordan give your folks time ... its hard for them to see their son dissapear and be replaced by you .. it will hurt both you and your folks but if you truly love them and they truly love you then it will be like it was .My mom is still not liking it and i have not told my dad yet (divorced) and i am terrified to tell my dad but everyone i know who has transitioned with parents is still with them. my prayers for you ! Jenny
Thanks for this video. Being someone who hasn't come out yet, these coming out videos are always reassuring. I told myself "Come out before you're 20" and I just couldn't do it. I've been twenty for a week now and It's driving me insane! I have to say though, everyday it feels more overbearing and harder to hide. I know its impending, I just wish it would hurry the hell up! lol
I appreciate American women that can appreciate soccer even though deep down I loathe it, nm world cup soon, America V England, hope you win, nah I'm torn, damn yanks ;) Anyway, regardless, you look amazing and love your stories of acceptance they give me hope.
The first time I came out, in high school (I have since moved to another town for college, and crammed it back into the closet, but that's backfiring, so I'm planning on doing it again), I just left a big blog on myspace where I rationally explained that while I was the same person I had always been, I just so happened to want to be a woman. One of the reasons people freak out is because they feel like they're losing a close friend. Just be patient/rational, and re-enforce that you're still you.
3percentmilk 1 month ago
I don't know what to do, I told my best friend 2 days ago and she was really accepting and wants me to come out to my parents, I know they will not accept me... I'm not gay but I've known for sure for 5-6 years that I want to be a girl. Help would be greatly appreciated :,(
M200InTeRvEnTiOnPro 2 months ago
Thank you for sharing this. You are a really brave person considering the things you've done. This video I'm sure has helped out a lot of people.
xAceOfSpades55x 4 months ago
Whatt exactly do you say when you tell people? I've used the line "I'm in the process of becoming a woman" and it feels super wierd to say haha well I guess it's awkward regardless of what you say but I'm justt curious. Much love! :)
xWildxChildx92x 5 months ago
I don't even know how I came across this video (just another sleepless night lurking YT), but I'm glad I did. You're a tremendously brave person to have done what you have done and to have put up with the negativity you encountered with such a positive attitude. It's really a shame that your family hasn't embraced you're decision, but like you said, it's important to stay true to yourself. I wish you all the luck in the world!
modestomouso1234 8 months ago
I honestly don't think you need FFS. You have a very beautiful face already. I'd kill to have your face!
Chris188228 9 months ago
This video made me laugh and cry. I think you're my new favorite person on Youtube.
andrew83gq 10 months ago
6:10 is that metallica i hear in the backround?
1C9J9S5 10 months ago
Thank you so much. Listening to you I can feel the weight fall away.
johannaN271 11 months ago
I am starting my transition too only 30 miles up I 80 from you. LOL What a small world we live in. I respect your courage it has helped me too.;p
WheedWhack3R 11 months ago
Was mtf (srs) hard how much did it cost
thesaint99100 1 year ago
I'll be you friend girl?Rock on.
Ipexx 1 year ago
You are an amazing person.
coltdaggabuzzbuzz 1 year ago
hi! I just found your videos after uploading my first one. I've kind of been having the same family problem so it's nice to know that someone somewhere went through the same thing. Only major parental difference is mine found out prematurely. I wasn't quite ready for them to know but they found out anyway... Thankfully I have a couple of good friends keeping me sane.
PunkRockTGirl 1 year ago
are you on facebook??
DEATHBYGHANDI 1 year ago
Thanks for sharing your experience. I live in a more conservative circle of family, friends and co-workers. I've actually brought up the subject of TG people and have met fierce ignorance from everyone. I've tried to educate them but to no avail. I fear I will eventually lose my family, friends and possible my job once I do come out. My biggest fear is being alone, but you have given me hope. Thanks again.
dressed2chill 1 year ago
Excellent vid,sorry about your folks,hopefully in time they'll understand.I gotta say you look really good .Sharing your before and after in your vids is gonna help so many who are just starting their transitions and also those that so want to.I appreciate your letting me request ya as a friend on FB.I know i older :( but i'm proud of who and am and it just proves if ya want it bad enough age isn't a factor.Maybe we can chat on FB sometime.Hope you're weeks good.
kerirose13 1 year ago
I thought I was crazy when I woke up crying after I had a dream where my best friend did something really mean to me... Knowing you've done that to makes me feel better haha
Anyway, your videos are great! It's such a huge help to the transgendered community to hear what others have gone through. Maybe one day I'll have the courage to make my own.
I do have one question though... What did you do about work? Did you have to deal with coming out at work and all that fun stuff?
Aurora900 1 year ago
I agree and respect your feelings, if others dont see it that way then they need a reality check!! Even though I am straight, I again respect what you have done, you look beautiful!
JWS4414 1 year ago
As I replied in the first part of this video, thanks a lot, your words will be of any help for girls fearing the reaction of their relatives and friends.
You're a brave woman, a light in the darkness, what a pity that this dark world doesn´t have more minorqbacks to make it lighter.
With my deepest respect, admiration and gratitude.
Girls, you can't hide the truth forever, doing that, you will feel you're living a lie, not your life, only a "square minded" person will not accept who you are.
servdegocu 1 year ago
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servdegocu 1 year ago
Great story. :) Honestly I think this all gave me just enough courage to tell my parents (or at least my mother...) about this. I just hope I'm not driven out of the house or anything. :o
RRRadish 1 year ago
For the Napoleon thing, I just respond with is there medical backing to wanting to be Napoleon? No there isn't, but there is medical backing to being transgendered.
1Vella 1 year ago
As I have been entering the transition phase, I have found it easier to tell people that I am simply exploring this other side of me. The word exploring seems to take a lot of the edge off of the initial breaking of the news...especially with parents. People want to see that we are thinking it through (even though they dont realize many of us have been "thinking it through" our whole lives!
Cassydie42 1 year ago
@Cassydie42 Very true. Family guy actually touched on this with quagmire's dad. the humor was pretty "at our expense" but in the end they realized that while "she" had been thinking about her whole life, her son hadnt and it was a sudden change that he was not ready for. Good advice.
minorqback 1 year ago
I think your parents are totally in the wrong and should love you for you no matter what. But I admit the Napoleon thing made me lol...
AmatatsuShitenshi 1 year ago
just give your family time. it will probably take them about as long to accept it as it took you to come out.. but your dad being emotionally abusive, however, is not nice or healthy be be around.
ShpinxiLotus23 1 year ago
Thanxs hon for sharing and helping others to gain there strength and giving hope. I don't have wonder why we get so caught up with complete strangers. transpeople, have a very very sacred common ground. I would love give you a great big hug. Tiffany
themarzman 1 year ago
Jordan,
I just sat down to see Part 1 and 2 of this video. I wanted to thank you for the advice that you gave on how to tell family and friends. I was fretting on how to do just that, but setting aside some time individually for each one is definitely a great way to educate the close people around us. It has worked well for me too. so thank you. more people understand than i had guessed. maybe they saw something in me that i didn't for most of my life. you are beautiful. - Lee
leesjourney 1 year ago
you are brave, and beautyful. wow. what a combination. takes alot of grit to reach out and be tue. my sincere admiration and acceptance. from me.
vegetalian 1 year ago
when you were talking about your parrents i wanted to hug you because you looked like you were gonna cry
OMGItsMe241 1 year ago
Jordan give your folks time ... its hard for them to see their son dissapear and be replaced by you .. it will hurt both you and your folks but if you truly love them and they truly love you then it will be like it was .My mom is still not liking it and i have not told my dad yet (divorced) and i am terrified to tell my dad but everyone i know who has transitioned with parents is still with them. my prayers for you ! Jenny
jennjelly 1 year ago
Thanks for this video. Being someone who hasn't come out yet, these coming out videos are always reassuring. I told myself "Come out before you're 20" and I just couldn't do it. I've been twenty for a week now and It's driving me insane! I have to say though, everyday it feels more overbearing and harder to hide. I know its impending, I just wish it would hurry the hell up! lol
watermellony 1 year ago
I appreciate American women that can appreciate soccer even though deep down I loathe it, nm world cup soon, America V England, hope you win, nah I'm torn, damn yanks ;) Anyway, regardless, you look amazing and love your stories of acceptance they give me hope.
bonio999 1 year ago