this version isn't from Afterglow...it's much too slow!! I adore this album and listen to it at least twice a week so I know this isn't the right version. But thank you so much for doing a Sarah video...her music is so lovely and you did a great job!!
Sorry, but it is. I own this album as well and have listened to it many, many times. It's exactly the same from Afterglow. Different country version maybe? I live in the US.
you must read this. once you have started there is no turning back. a little 10 year old girl was raped and murderded in 1945. her body was not found until 1947. then a boy last week read this and did not copy and paste this message. the dead girl appeared in his room haunting him and killed him. if you do not copy and paste this onto 10 videos in 30 minutes the dead girl will apear in your room tonight and haunt you and kill you. well you better start to copy and paste
I will always love this song for personal reasons. It helped me "see the light" so to speak about my last relationship. I knew I was drowning in it, but sometimes hearing songs helps to really see things differently.
too bad i don't have perfect skin, big tits like all your other girls..or money..the perfect girl is not from porn or does not look like a model..stereotypes of Hispanic women are really fucked, this is just myself getting this out..knowing the evil guy will never read because he thinks he's so much better..arrogant is what he is.other than that, this song is really good
@snowdreams i will send you a recording of a song i've played on piano it's a track from Twilight listen to it when you are on your bet and don't think about... the pass!!
just dream about the future what is to come when he will show up
I happen to think that there are two voices in this song: the "perfect girl" has the verses...and the girls partner has the chorus and the bridge.
Just seems to bipolar with just one voice. Perhaps, the girl finally comes around in the last verse...and sings the chorus "back" to him, because he's probably the real loser in this one!
All the coments that you guys wrote reflects very strong and deep feelings gather all the meanings of that song. it actually make me feel for a like i'm a total idiot! i will have to says that i'm one of this man who have let their girl down not buy cheating but by trying to push her in a direction that she didn't want, it's when this person is gone that trully you realize what you've lost and you just got your eyes left to cry
This song is exactly the message I want to relay to my ex-husband. I don't hate him, I will always care for him -- but I was never "enough" and I pray he finds his peace and his answers.
for me the person i loved left me and eventually never was my friend
so i could not say to him i will always love him for i don't, i can't
i cannot love anyone that makes me feel not good enough for him
i think it is unhealthy
i think that because of the inferior feelings his mental disease planted in me i blamed myself and stayed with him thought i should have cut for myself
why will you care for a man that doesn't care for you? i think you shouldn't
i hope your heart will mend and you will find your own answers, as you will let him go - and find love for yourself that is mutual with a healthy human/man who feels the same and can also show it
@Kittenlis I pray I can one day forgive my ex-husband as you have. I don't hate him, I was just hurt by him. Too many lies, and too many affairs, I just couldn't take it.
this song is what i feel. the person i love said; If i loved you i would not express it. I really think it's cause I'm just that little diffrent he can't except. and it's very heartbreaking because it dragged for 5 years and I begged him to let me go if he did not because i love him alot. but i am here for him even if he never comes back. it's what i would want some to do for me. I am still healing.
If a partner wants you around he will MAKE IT HAPPEN
don't wait for those who don't do for themselves to do for you
it will let you down if you hold on to what isn't or perhaps cannot be
the world is full of people and for sure you can find someone who loves you right for who you are, when you are doing for yourself and loving yourself and attracting similar people to your space
thankyou I love your opinion. as i see too happieness is a choice but part of loving someone fully (fooly) is allowing them to have some influence in how you feel. I think once you have really loved someone you are bonded to them so when they are gone apart of you is gone. sometimes i don't believe you can chose what you feel because I've cried in my sleep from the seperation. but I believe fullheartedly if day by day I focus on other things then i find happeness. .
@btytrthfrdmlv Whatever you do, dont shut off your pain; accept your pain and remain vulnerable. However desperate you become, accept your pain as it is, because it is in fact trying to hand you a priceless gift: the chance of discovering, through spiritual practice, what lies behind sorrow.
Grief, Rumi wrote, can be the garden of compassion. If you keep your heart open through everything, your pain can become your greatest ally in your lifes search for love and wisdom.
in the beginning you have to shut yourself up and repress because the feelings are too strong
later you can experience the feelings slowly
and until you recover... that depends greatly on what happened and how sensitive or able you are to recover quickly from mental and emotional storms of strenuous situations
the more progressed you are, the more able to "open your heart" (and mind)
but not all people can do so - some even can't and die
omg...i feel some what the same,though i think the situation is a tad bit different....atleast ur healing,that's gd...i hope you fully recover though...xo
i love her cover of Peter Gabriel's Solsbury Hill but i would love to hear her do a cover of Peter Gabriel's In Your Eyes, regardless there is not one bad song by sarah mclachlan
I believe that love is relative and unconditional. One will never know what love is if they cannot find it in their hearts. The only problem is for people who believe that they will never find it again is that their hearts has become locked in shell of ice. Everyone has a little fire in them that grows as love does but those who have locked their hearts behind that frozen wall need a little extra fire to help them melt through. Love is always present and will always be given to those in need.
It is natural for love to be bound to emotions and sentiments that are the strong force of attachments to cause enormous pain when separation occurs. Instead of grieving, look on the positive side. On separation instead, celebrate and treasure the time or moments you have shared together in developing and nuturing that love with whoever it might have been ..
have you ever been abandoned by a partner who thought of you as not attractive enough to fall in love in simply because you could not live up to his highest ideals?
if so you would know that there is no great times together or so - there is only pain by a person who harmed your soul by just being who he is
and made you feel perhaps worthless and undeserving of love, not good enough etc
what you say is valid and beautiful - but not true to the situation of the lyrics of this song
You can not fully experience love until you learn to love yourself first..it is this time when you can experience it with others and learn that if it is not reflected in the same way..it is not the end of the world but a new beginning
and sometimes a person loves themselves truely but is simply not attracted to another if they are not perfect and even if they say it's 'not anywhere near love'
if you get the piont - some people can never live life and love to the fullest
Dudes and Dudas, check out a movie called Fountain, check out the commentary by Hugh Jackman at special features. Check out Wolfhound what the Goddess said to the main guy character. Love in A Walk To Remember is called the "wind". You cannot see it but you can feel it.
thought I do believe that in a relationship intimacy is critically important and if people are not compatible it will affect not only their sex life but also their communication and general ability to understand and relate to each other
the sick thing is that people can be very much attracted and even in love thought they are not really compatible
love is crazy - it makes no sense! :D
I'm 25, so I can't tell if I'm wise beyond my years or my age :)
Love is the willingness to develop the potentialities of Being wherever they are found. In other words you recognize that someone has certain potentials and you actively help nurture/promote the same so that the person can be the very best that they can be.
Love is also compassion. And an inner Alchemy.
It has been cheapened by modern society to be something practically worthless. Or it is selfish and self-seeking in a bad way. Mere attachment.
"Love is the willingness to develop the potentialities of Being wherever they are found"
at its best, that's what love is
however, when you fall in love, you also need the other - that's just amazing to feel it - if people find a way to have their individual (and perhaps different) needs met
i believe it is possible, by working on it - takes two to tange ;)
Yes...yu need to love yourself in a healthy way. The potentials maybe your own. Also...Love thy neighbour as thyself because thy neighbour is not other than thyself.
Love is a joke...a sick, twisted and cruel joke. Ok...so i don't really believe that...but it feels like that sometimes. Love is only good while you are deep in it...but losing it is the most torturous thing anyone can endure.
Like when yu have a tooth pulled...OK it's painful...but the more yu can relax in the chair and let go the better it will be for yu.
Yu will simply be aware of the pain, but yu notice when yu contract into the pain and then yu loosen your grip...then the pain will still arize but self liberate.
But be careful that yu don't confuse letting go with suppression. Aversion is as problematic as attachment.
I think in some people...there's a part of us that likes the suffering...it's hard to explain, but it feels good in a way...so we let the pain linger and we don't let go of it...we supress it so that we can fuction...but dig it up occasionally just to feel it again....because it feels better than nothing at all. If that makes sense. I know I do this, it's like there's a part of me that feeds off of the pain and enjoys it. Meditation and a little self love would probably help. lol
Well...pain and suffering is a choice, isn't it? It's a choice to be negatively affected by your external circumstances. Happiness and peace are a state of mind that comes from within and can be present in any situation...no matter what it is. I was speaking of the pain that came with losing a love...I COULD choose to accept and understand it and still be at peace, but instead I hold onto the pain and suffering...it's a choice I make...because I dont want to let it go...
"I was speaking of the pain that came with losing a love...I COULD choose to accept and understand it and still be at peace, but instead I hold onto the pain and suffering...it's a choice I make...because I dont want to let it go... "
maybe you CAN'T let go? Maybe it's harder for you than for others? Maybe your bio-chemical state and psychological state does not allow you to make that change for yourself?
@desirousofinspiratio Whatever you do, dont shut off your pain; accept your pain and remain vulnerable. However desperate you become, accept your pain as it is, because it is in fact trying to hand you a priceless gift: the chance of discovering, through spiritual practice, what lies behind sorrow.
Grief, Rumi wrote, can be the garden of compassion. If you keep your heart open through everything, your pain can become your greatest ally in your lifes search for love and wisdom.
The body is affected by external circumstance, sure but I wasnt talking about our physical bodiesI was talking about our emotional state of mind. I believe that how we choose to emotionally react to our circumstances is 100% in our control, whether we realize it or not.
I dont think its naïve to say that peace is a state of mind that can be present in any situationits just that most people arent willing or able to do itits the mark of a very advanced soul who can find peace within when times are trying.
Im very aware that I CHOOSE not to let go of my lost loveits not that I CANT, I simply choose not to and this choice is detrimental to my well being and causes me to question whether or not theres a part of me that actually enjoys being in pain. Lol. Not that Im being hard on myself or anythingits just the way I think.
This makes me think of one of my best friends who recently got involved in a very 'cruel' boy and he was always a jerk to her and everyone else... we tried to tell her what he really was... but she wouldn't listen. Then she came running to us after he left her with a broken heart,, it's hard to see that happen. and yet when a girl's in love (or thinks she is) she won't even listen to her own best friends trying to help her. at least everything is better now.. thank goodness. i love her too much.
maybe he knew he couldn't love her and tried to behave like a jerk so that she'll hate him and go away - so not to break her heart?
the problem is that some girls 'see thru' such behavior - that the guy is 'trapped' inside a mechanism of behavior and - because they are not strong enough to know how to love - they become 'trapped' as well and can't let go
i can only tell - this person which i had feelings for - once i told him the truth - i felt
always there for her...and even though we were VERY dissappointed in her, we knew that she needed us. I told her that she needs to find that man(not a boy) who can be that strong partner and truly care and love her. Maybe that boy was good and right deep down, but it sure wasn't showing and it's going to take awhile for that to surface. Until then, I hope he takes his time with girls,, because it could never be capable of meaning more than a "takin advantage" type of sitation. Thankyou tho!
and because he is NOT a jerk - you want to do everything in your power to make them happy too and share love, passion, good times without it getting too much for them to handle, but that takes a very strong partner who knows how to make sure she isn't too frustrating for such a man who has enough issues of his own to be able to be figure out what is going on with the woman who needs him while he can't be there for her - it can break a guy inside too till he decides to give up rsps at all
I appreciate everything you wrote, it really is true. But this situation was entirely different, I hate to say it but he wanted sex from her. he told her it himself.. and they never talked, they just got did stuff in his truck. although they never took it as far as sex, it was terrible. he didn't even care about her and after all this happened he called her a slut(yet he was the one who wanted her to sleep with him and she clearly had said no) and weird. I do know him...
every healthy guy wants sex, ok, that should not interfere with a real relationship, on the contrary - in a real relationship the sex should be BETTER - as there is PASSION between people and love of each other
maybe he did not accept himself as he is and loved himself yet, so he wasn't ready to really have good sex WITH a woman - he did so, USING a woman.
I've gone to school with him for many years and witnessed him doing this same thing to many other girls. You'd probably say my friend was dumb for going to him, but the truth is that she's having a very tough time right now... and not being herself. I'm not quite sure why, but I do know that no matter what, I need to be there for her. Even if it means telling her the truth before things get too ugly. Its just that there was no love in this experience, except from my friends and I who were
I hope your friend will be strong enough and learn to love herself and attract to her men who really are attractive, strong and confident - know what they want and how to get what they want (love in their lives) - so they can be supportive of her, her sexuality etc.
a healthy and mature guy knows when it's ok to just 'make fuck' together and when there are 'more' feelings in a woman or maybe in him
gotta mention - sometimes a guy can do everything to make a woman comfortable in her own skin (sexuality, self esteem etc) but then to have her attacking him with questions like 'what do you want from me? you want sex or more?' - can be stressing, so he gets 'jerk' like - when in fact he was not a jerk but only not Iron Man ;)
the point is - maybe that person is trying to be a man but gets messed and insecure and attracts similar girlfriends
If ye didnt feel the same then youd not give a crapp now would ye :) no, and thus, all would be fine if one was adult enough to accept that fact, EITHER way :)
This is the song that I told my exhusband to listen to when I filed for divorce. It explains exactly why I had to leave. The Riot in my heart choose my life.
Great decision :) Hope you will find shared love with someone in your life, also your ex-husband, maybe in a better connection for him.
The matter is love, not so much one or the other person - it's not that you are not good enough but that together the shared love was not enough to make strong together [i can imagine, if you had to leave]
This is just how I feel for someone, but... each man would feel the same with me so i guess i understand him
i believe that women who are drawn to these type of expecting and demanding men are like that themselves and it's because they are too much alike that it either works or doesn't
it doesn't help the other to know they are loved when they can't feel it - it means nothing to them other than some nice words and much good will but no 'feel' ;)
Afterglow was her last good album, but disappointing nevertheless.
manco82 3 months ago
check out tabitha streets arms of an angel
kiits96 5 months ago
this version isn't from Afterglow...it's much too slow!! I adore this album and listen to it at least twice a week so I know this isn't the right version. But thank you so much for doing a Sarah video...her music is so lovely and you did a great job!!
LorileaiRay 5 months ago
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Sorry, but it is. I own this album as well and have listened to it many, many times. It's exactly the same from Afterglow. Different country version maybe? I live in the US.
SpryPersonalVids 5 months ago
Her music is so heavy with affect, you could almost eat it. Her words are Food for my soul.
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you must read this. once you have started there is no turning back. a little 10 year old girl was raped and murderded in 1945. her body was not found until 1947. then a boy last week read this and did not copy and paste this message. the dead girl appeared in his room haunting him and killed him. if you do not copy and paste this onto 10 videos in 30 minutes the dead girl will apear in your room tonight and haunt you and kill you. well you better start to copy and paste
paparztis 1 year ago
so beautiful
marinafatureto 1 year ago
Powerful to the point of being almost devastating.
Adfumbler 1 year ago 19
@Adfumbler agreed...love is a bitch
lozzymagoo 4 months ago
Don't worry you will find the answer if you let it go
Give yourself some time to falter
But don't forgo know that you're loved no matter what
And everything will come around in time
jarek1919 1 year ago 2
i love sarah mclachlan,pls make another concert sarah♪♪
kukiana08 1 year ago
Words can't describe the enormity of emotion and beauty that this song holds.
bullballsallday 1 year ago 14
:(((((((((((((((((((((((
andre3astar 1 year ago
this song help me alot
andre3astar 1 year ago 2
Wonderfull!
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AlexiaLabriola 1 year ago
Amazing song
IndigoCat17 1 year ago
I love Sarah McLachlin
Her voice is so soft and
relaxing,absaloutly beautiful!
IndigoCat17 1 year ago
WOW =) SALUDOS
ELISAJERA 1 year ago
I will always love this song for personal reasons. It helped me "see the light" so to speak about my last relationship. I knew I was drowning in it, but sometimes hearing songs helps to really see things differently.
msliss96 1 year ago
Extraordinary song and perfect lyrics!
foxxxyhottie 1 year ago
Thumbs up if u like this song because of Kabuto the Python.
girgo99 1 year ago
too bad i don't have perfect skin, big tits like all your other girls..or money..the perfect girl is not from porn or does not look like a model..stereotypes of Hispanic women are really fucked, this is just myself getting this out..knowing the evil guy will never read because he thinks he's so much better..arrogant is what he is.other than that, this song is really good
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saprinaJgirl 1 year ago
It isn't my favorite song that she's written but it's pretty good and has a powerful message.
tffnyfarfan113 1 year ago
Wonderful voice, powerful message... <3
MissLonelyLover 1 year ago 6
The eight people who pressed Disklike. WTF! Sarah is amazing!! :)
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Some means to come to shrift on the 25th;
And there she shall at Trinity Church in Copley Square
Be shrived and married. Here is for thy pains
elixir1379 1 year ago
Some means to come to shrift on the 25th;
And there she shall at Trinity Church in Copley Square
Be shrived and married. Here is for thy pains
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@snowdreams i will send you a recording of a song i've played on piano it's a track from Twilight listen to it when you are on your bet and don't think about... the pass!!
just dream about the future what is to come when he will show up
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elixir1379 1 year ago
This may sound a bit corny to some but this song really helped me out a lot after a bad break up a few years ago.
BookLoverforLife 1 year ago
shes not str8 is she
lezzielet00 1 year ago
@lezzielet00 ...she is str8.
etrnlygr8tful 1 year ago
somebody please tell me shes not str8
lezzielet00 1 year ago
she is wonderfull
foreveryouforeverme 1 year ago
I happen to think that there are two voices in this song: the "perfect girl" has the verses...and the girls partner has the chorus and the bridge.
Just seems to bipolar with just one voice. Perhaps, the girl finally comes around in the last verse...and sings the chorus "back" to him, because he's probably the real loser in this one!
Jude1017 1 year ago
@Jude1017 shouldn't have said he's the loser...he's the one truly lost.
Jude1017 1 year ago
@Jude1017 OR she is just comforting herself by singing the chorus...who knows! I guess only Sarah McLachlan does!
Jude1017 1 year ago
Note to self! EVERYTHING WILL COME IN TIME!
wendyrichsoto 1 year ago
love is so beautifull is hurts.
babyblue070 1 year ago
All the coments that you guys wrote reflects very strong and deep feelings gather all the meanings of that song. it actually make me feel for a like i'm a total idiot! i will have to says that i'm one of this man who have let their girl down not buy cheating but by trying to push her in a direction that she didn't want, it's when this person is gone that trully you realize what you've lost and you just got your eyes left to cry
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elixir1379 1 year ago
such a soothing song but at the same time bring tears to the eyes....
Erykha13 1 year ago
How long are those extensions please ?
ianfoster99 1 year ago
Sarah truly speaks to the heart. I feel so calm when I listen to her music.
emily315star 1 year ago
This song is exactly the message I want to relay to my ex-husband. I don't hate him, I will always care for him -- but I was never "enough" and I pray he finds his peace and his answers.
Kittenlis 1 year ago 63
did you leave him or he you?
for me the person i loved left me and eventually never was my friend
so i could not say to him i will always love him for i don't, i can't
i cannot love anyone that makes me feel not good enough for him
i think it is unhealthy
i think that because of the inferior feelings his mental disease planted in me i blamed myself and stayed with him thought i should have cut for myself
why will you care for a man that doesn't care for you? i think you shouldn't
desirousofinspiratio 1 year ago
and if you do (understand him, accept him as he is and let him go) - don't show it. He will eat you alive with it.
desirousofinspiratio 1 year ago
unless doing so gives you peace for you
i hope your heart will mend and you will find your own answers, as you will let him go - and find love for yourself that is mutual with a healthy human/man who feels the same and can also show it
*hugs*
desirousofinspiratio 1 year ago
@Kittenlis I pray I can one day forgive my ex-husband as you have. I don't hate him, I was just hurt by him. Too many lies, and too many affairs, I just couldn't take it.
ButterflyKisses 1 year ago
@Kittenlis I understand this. Same story, different place.
heroheidr 1 year ago
It's good to hear Jorane's voice.
francispelletier 2 years ago
I love her voice and the lyrics.
Yapiej 2 years ago
Good lyrics...and very good part of the song at 0:56
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TaianeTessarollo 2 years ago
this song is what i feel. the person i love said; If i loved you i would not express it. I really think it's cause I'm just that little diffrent he can't except. and it's very heartbreaking because it dragged for 5 years and I begged him to let me go if he did not because i love him alot. but i am here for him even if he never comes back. it's what i would want some to do for me. I am still healing.
btytrthfrdmlv 2 years ago
If a partner wants you around he will MAKE IT HAPPEN
don't wait for those who don't do for themselves to do for you
it will let you down if you hold on to what isn't or perhaps cannot be
the world is full of people and for sure you can find someone who loves you right for who you are, when you are doing for yourself and loving yourself and attracting similar people to your space
*hugs*
desirousofinspiratio 2 years ago 21
thankyou I love your opinion. as i see too happieness is a choice but part of loving someone fully (fooly) is allowing them to have some influence in how you feel. I think once you have really loved someone you are bonded to them so when they are gone apart of you is gone. sometimes i don't believe you can chose what you feel because I've cried in my sleep from the seperation. but I believe fullheartedly if day by day I focus on other things then i find happeness. .
btytrthfrdmlv 2 years ago
very deep and beautiful words :)
desirousofinspiratio 2 years ago
@btytrthfrdmlv Whatever you do, dont shut off your pain; accept your pain and remain vulnerable. However desperate you become, accept your pain as it is, because it is in fact trying to hand you a priceless gift: the chance of discovering, through spiritual practice, what lies behind sorrow.
Grief, Rumi wrote, can be the garden of compassion. If you keep your heart open through everything, your pain can become your greatest ally in your lifes search for love and wisdom.
Sogyal Rimpoche
signofthetimes0760 1 year ago
@signofthetimes0760
there are stages of recovery
in the beginning you have to shut yourself up and repress because the feelings are too strong
later you can experience the feelings slowly
and until you recover... that depends greatly on what happened and how sensitive or able you are to recover quickly from mental and emotional storms of strenuous situations
the more progressed you are, the more able to "open your heart" (and mind)
but not all people can do so - some even can't and die
desirousofinspiratio 1 year ago
excllent words
kellyfosbourne 1 year ago
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excllent words n uuuu
kellyfosbourne 1 year ago
@desirousofinspiratio Wise words. Thank you :)
PsylightFay 1 year ago
omg...i feel some what the same,though i think the situation is a tad bit different....atleast ur healing,that's gd...i hope you fully recover though...xo
triniLes20 2 years ago
You won't find the answer if you let it go. Let some things go, then be purposeful in everything you do.
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PunkDollie92 2 years ago
I am absolutely in love with this song.. No song describes my current situation better .. That's why i can relate to it soo much..
Fallen in love with a loser and getting over him.. Hope never dies but i am still trying.. And i think in time i will forget him :)
avnipatel17 2 years ago 2
i love her cover of Peter Gabriel's Solsbury Hill but i would love to hear her do a cover of Peter Gabriel's In Your Eyes, regardless there is not one bad song by sarah mclachlan
ninfan1989 2 years ago
I believe that love is relative and unconditional. One will never know what love is if they cannot find it in their hearts. The only problem is for people who believe that they will never find it again is that their hearts has become locked in shell of ice. Everyone has a little fire in them that grows as love does but those who have locked their hearts behind that frozen wall need a little extra fire to help them melt through. Love is always present and will always be given to those in need.
MasterBonobo 2 years ago 3
I like what you say , it is my belief also.
thestarweasel 2 years ago
It is natural for love to be bound to emotions and sentiments that are the strong force of attachments to cause enormous pain when separation occurs. Instead of grieving, look on the positive side. On separation instead, celebrate and treasure the time or moments you have shared together in developing and nuturing that love with whoever it might have been ..
atms001 2 years ago 2
have you ever been abandoned by a partner who thought of you as not attractive enough to fall in love in simply because you could not live up to his highest ideals?
if so you would know that there is no great times together or so - there is only pain by a person who harmed your soul by just being who he is
and made you feel perhaps worthless and undeserving of love, not good enough etc
what you say is valid and beautiful - but not true to the situation of the lyrics of this song
desirousofinspiratio 2 years ago
You can not fully experience love until you learn to love yourself first..it is this time when you can experience it with others and learn that if it is not reflected in the same way..it is not the end of the world but a new beginning
TheNoobist 2 years ago
easier said than done :)
and sometimes a person loves themselves truely but is simply not attracted to another if they are not perfect and even if they say it's 'not anywhere near love'
if you get the piont - some people can never live life and love to the fullest
desirousofinspiratio 2 years ago
human love is conditional, gods love is un-conditional
mactheartofwarfare 2 years ago
Dudes and Dudas, check out a movie called Fountain, check out the commentary by Hugh Jackman at special features. Check out Wolfhound what the Goddess said to the main guy character. Love in A Walk To Remember is called the "wind". You cannot see it but you can feel it.
lovetheworld81 2 years ago
"Love is just a word until someone comes along and makes it worth something"
ailsakitty 2 years ago 27
sex isnt everything afterall is it, no :)) Bless you sista, you are wise beyond your years :)
MystSilverDragon 2 years ago
sex isn't everything - yeah,
thought I do believe that in a relationship intimacy is critically important and if people are not compatible it will affect not only their sex life but also their communication and general ability to understand and relate to each other
the sick thing is that people can be very much attracted and even in love thought they are not really compatible
love is crazy - it makes no sense! :D
I'm 25, so I can't tell if I'm wise beyond my years or my age :)
sistaspooky1013 2 years ago
Relationships suk.
Men and women want radically different things...sad but true.
Best to be honest. These days I just want to fuck. Don't need a special friend...I've got friends.
And love...has little to do with what most people think.
MrFreelove69 2 years ago
Ok, you are talking about yourself - but each individual has their own needs :)
What is love in your opinion?
sistaspooky1013 2 years ago
Love is the willingness to develop the potentialities of Being wherever they are found. In other words you recognize that someone has certain potentials and you actively help nurture/promote the same so that the person can be the very best that they can be.
Love is also compassion. And an inner Alchemy.
It has been cheapened by modern society to be something practically worthless. Or it is selfish and self-seeking in a bad way. Mere attachment.
MrFreelove69 2 years ago
"Love is the willingness to develop the potentialities of Being wherever they are found"
at its best, that's what love is
however, when you fall in love, you also need the other - that's just amazing to feel it - if people find a way to have their individual (and perhaps different) needs met
i believe it is possible, by working on it - takes two to tange ;)
sistaspooky1013 2 years ago
LOVE-BLISS is our natural state but then we contract into egotism and selfishness.
MrFreelove69 2 years ago
it's enough for each person to develop their own very best in order to have shared thing together - it's about taking responsibility of one's life
when you have two grown responsible beings sharing love together - it's bond to NOT fail :D
sistaspooky1013 2 years ago
Yes...yu need to love yourself in a healthy way. The potentials maybe your own. Also...Love thy neighbour as thyself because thy neighbour is not other than thyself.
MrFreelove69 2 years ago
Love is a joke...a sick, twisted and cruel joke. Ok...so i don't really believe that...but it feels like that sometimes. Love is only good while you are deep in it...but losing it is the most torturous thing anyone can endure.
snwdream22 2 years ago
We need to love without attachment.
Blake says: He who binds to himself a joy doth the winged life destroy
But he who kisses a joy as it flies lives in eternitys sunrise !
What most call love is bullshit.
MrFreelove69 2 years ago
Love without attachment? Is that really possible? To love and not feel pain when love is lost? (If that's what you are suggesting)
snwdream22 2 years ago
You still feel the pain but not suffering.
Like when yu have a tooth pulled...OK it's painful...but the more yu can relax in the chair and let go the better it will be for yu.
Yu will simply be aware of the pain, but yu notice when yu contract into the pain and then yu loosen your grip...then the pain will still arize but self liberate.
But be careful that yu don't confuse letting go with suppression. Aversion is as problematic as attachment.
Practice some meditation:)
MrFreelove69 2 years ago
I think in some people...there's a part of us that likes the suffering...it's hard to explain, but it feels good in a way...so we let the pain linger and we don't let go of it...we supress it so that we can fuction...but dig it up occasionally just to feel it again....because it feels better than nothing at all. If that makes sense. I know I do this, it's like there's a part of me that feeds off of the pain and enjoys it. Meditation and a little self love would probably help. lol
snwdream22 2 years ago
True.
MrFreelove69 2 years ago
I am sorry - this is the most stupid thing I have ever heard.
Breaking out of pain and suffering is difficult, even out of depression or laziness
sometimes even the slightest effort to be active looks too much to be possible and you're sick of forcing yourself to get up again
it's NOT because you like to suffer
i have to mark your comment -1
experiencing the pain to understand and deal with it is another thing, sometimes you have to let yourself break down to survive - rest
desirousofinspiratio 2 years ago
Well...pain and suffering is a choice, isn't it? It's a choice to be negatively affected by your external circumstances. Happiness and peace are a state of mind that comes from within and can be present in any situation...no matter what it is. I was speaking of the pain that came with losing a love...I COULD choose to accept and understand it and still be at peace, but instead I hold onto the pain and suffering...it's a choice I make...because I dont want to let it go...
snwdream22 2 years ago
"pain and suffering is a choice, isn't it?"
No. Thought awareness can HELP people affect their mindsets in a positive way
There is never 100% choice in this world - as people are also affected by the circumstances
Those who are stronger and more changable may be able to progress more easily and positively than those who are not.
desirousofinspiratio 2 years ago
"Happiness and peace are a state of mind that comes from within and can be present in any situation...no matter what it is."
You are naive
The body is affected by external circumstances
Otherwise - why do you wear a coat in the winter?
Why do people suffer winter or seasonal depression?
It is all a part of nature. Thus - in order to better a situation or make someone happy one has to take care of all factors
Yes, there are states of happiness that are extreme - exceptional ;)
desirousofinspiratio 2 years ago
"I was speaking of the pain that came with losing a love...I COULD choose to accept and understand it and still be at peace, but instead I hold onto the pain and suffering...it's a choice I make...because I dont want to let it go... "
maybe you CAN'T let go? Maybe it's harder for you than for others? Maybe your bio-chemical state and psychological state does not allow you to make that change for yourself?
don't be so hard on you
desirousofinspiratio 2 years ago
@desirousofinspiratio Whatever you do, dont shut off your pain; accept your pain and remain vulnerable. However desperate you become, accept your pain as it is, because it is in fact trying to hand you a priceless gift: the chance of discovering, through spiritual practice, what lies behind sorrow.
Grief, Rumi wrote, can be the garden of compassion. If you keep your heart open through everything, your pain can become your greatest ally in your lifes search for love and wisdom.
signofthetimes0760 1 year ago
Thank you for the beautiful words :)
Unfortunately, that person which i loved, ate compassionate people for breakfast
today, from afar, i accept his character with compassion, but i must not ever show him that compassion - as he will manipulate it against me
so to him i always have to be like a brick wall,
but behind his back i cry, i cry for him (his inner), for me, for all that was and could never be
*hugs* and thank you for your comment
desirousofinspiratio 1 year ago
and excuse the bunch of comments - i express myself quite extensively and it's hard for some people to read
didn't mean to spam or anything (hope you got me right and not wrong) :)
desirousofinspiratio 2 years ago
The body is affected by external circumstance, sure but I wasnt talking about our physical bodiesI was talking about our emotional state of mind. I believe that how we choose to emotionally react to our circumstances is 100% in our control, whether we realize it or not.
snwdream22 2 years ago
I dont think its naïve to say that peace is a state of mind that can be present in any situationits just that most people arent willing or able to do itits the mark of a very advanced soul who can find peace within when times are trying.
snwdream22 2 years ago
Im very aware that I CHOOSE not to let go of my lost loveits not that I CANT, I simply choose not to and this choice is detrimental to my well being and causes me to question whether or not theres a part of me that actually enjoys being in pain. Lol. Not that Im being hard on myself or anythingits just the way I think.
snwdream22 2 years ago
I think I got you right...lol, and no worries about all the comments...I express myself quite extensively as well.
snwdream22 2 years ago
...and I have no idea what happened to my comments that my sentences are all running into eachother..must be some weird youtube glitch. lol
snwdream22 2 years ago
This makes me think of one of my best friends who recently got involved in a very 'cruel' boy and he was always a jerk to her and everyone else... we tried to tell her what he really was... but she wouldn't listen. Then she came running to us after he left her with a broken heart,, it's hard to see that happen. and yet when a girl's in love (or thinks she is) she won't even listen to her own best friends trying to help her. at least everything is better now.. thank goodness. i love her too much.
eyesonfire23 2 years ago
'he was always a jerk' - you don't know him
maybe he knew he couldn't love her and tried to behave like a jerk so that she'll hate him and go away - so not to break her heart?
the problem is that some girls 'see thru' such behavior - that the guy is 'trapped' inside a mechanism of behavior and - because they are not strong enough to know how to love - they become 'trapped' as well and can't let go
i can only tell - this person which i had feelings for - once i told him the truth - i felt
sistaspooky1013 2 years ago
always there for her...and even though we were VERY dissappointed in her, we knew that she needed us. I told her that she needs to find that man(not a boy) who can be that strong partner and truly care and love her. Maybe that boy was good and right deep down, but it sure wasn't showing and it's going to take awhile for that to surface. Until then, I hope he takes his time with girls,, because it could never be capable of meaning more than a "takin advantage" type of sitation. Thankyou tho!
eyesonfire23 2 years ago
he was inside pure hearted (a person that hates to hurt anyone) - and he told me i'm one of the few who really notice that he tries to be pure hearted
my guess is a lot have mistaken him for a jerk many times - it simply wasn't true
but yes, in love and rsps he was/is too demanding for almost anyone
so you can love - but not have your love returned thought the person wants to love he can't etc...
sistaspooky1013 2 years ago
and because he is NOT a jerk - you want to do everything in your power to make them happy too and share love, passion, good times without it getting too much for them to handle, but that takes a very strong partner who knows how to make sure she isn't too frustrating for such a man who has enough issues of his own to be able to be figure out what is going on with the woman who needs him while he can't be there for her - it can break a guy inside too till he decides to give up rsps at all
sistaspooky1013 2 years ago
I appreciate everything you wrote, it really is true. But this situation was entirely different, I hate to say it but he wanted sex from her. he told her it himself.. and they never talked, they just got did stuff in his truck. although they never took it as far as sex, it was terrible. he didn't even care about her and after all this happened he called her a slut(yet he was the one who wanted her to sleep with him and she clearly had said no) and weird. I do know him...
eyesonfire23 2 years ago
he seems to have problems with his sexuality
every healthy guy wants sex, ok, that should not interfere with a real relationship, on the contrary - in a real relationship the sex should be BETTER - as there is PASSION between people and love of each other
maybe he did not accept himself as he is and loved himself yet, so he wasn't ready to really have good sex WITH a woman - he did so, USING a woman.
Maybe he wanted MORE but didn't know HOW to ;)
sistaspooky1013 2 years ago
This is exactly my case.
Confusion caused it.
I also wanted sex - to me it was obvious that sex is something i want with a guy i'm in love with.
I was in love. But very insecure.
So I gave him 'bad vibes' - sex was a way to ESCAPE and feel good - but he wasn't in love (i never managed to give him 'that' feel)
Were I strong enough and condifent and not stressed - me and him would be happy together.
But I needed him to love me FOR ME instead of FOR HIMSELF as it SHOULD be (healthy rsp)
sistaspooky1013 2 years ago
I've gone to school with him for many years and witnessed him doing this same thing to many other girls. You'd probably say my friend was dumb for going to him, but the truth is that she's having a very tough time right now... and not being herself. I'm not quite sure why, but I do know that no matter what, I need to be there for her. Even if it means telling her the truth before things get too ugly. Its just that there was no love in this experience, except from my friends and I who were
eyesonfire23 2 years ago
Looks like love was used as emotional extortion.
I hope your friend will be strong enough and learn to love herself and attract to her men who really are attractive, strong and confident - know what they want and how to get what they want (love in their lives) - so they can be supportive of her, her sexuality etc.
a healthy and mature guy knows when it's ok to just 'make fuck' together and when there are 'more' feelings in a woman or maybe in him
sistaspooky1013 2 years ago
gotta mention - sometimes a guy can do everything to make a woman comfortable in her own skin (sexuality, self esteem etc) but then to have her attacking him with questions like 'what do you want from me? you want sex or more?' - can be stressing, so he gets 'jerk' like - when in fact he was not a jerk but only not Iron Man ;)
the point is - maybe that person is trying to be a man but gets messed and insecure and attracts similar girlfriends
sistaspooky1013 2 years ago
If ye didnt feel the same then youd not give a crapp now would ye :) no, and thus, all would be fine if one was adult enough to accept that fact, EITHER way :)
MystSilverDragon 2 years ago
You would only feel sorry for that person that loves you that much and you can't do anything other than break their heart
sistaspooky1013 2 years ago
You are loved no matter what :)
MystSilverDragon 2 years ago
nice words, aren't they? now imagine yourself hearing them from a person you don't feel the same for :D
sistaspooky1013 2 years ago
This is the song that I told my exhusband to listen to when I filed for divorce. It explains exactly why I had to leave. The Riot in my heart choose my life.
aprilfaery 2 years ago
Great decision :) Hope you will find shared love with someone in your life, also your ex-husband, maybe in a better connection for him.
The matter is love, not so much one or the other person - it's not that you are not good enough but that together the shared love was not enough to make strong together [i can imagine, if you had to leave]
sistaspooky1013 2 years ago
This is just how I feel for someone, but... each man would feel the same with me so i guess i understand him
i believe that women who are drawn to these type of expecting and demanding men are like that themselves and it's because they are too much alike that it either works or doesn't
it doesn't help the other to know they are loved when they can't feel it - it means nothing to them other than some nice words and much good will but no 'feel' ;)
sistaspooky1013 2 years ago 2