Should you date a widow or widower? My advice.

[kparsons1010321]

Hi, thank you for this video. I am dating a man who lost his wife to cancer after 38 years of marriage. I love this guy alot and it is hard to patient. but recently, things are changing and we are getting closer. Thank you for your words, they really helped me to understand.

[wanderoke]

As a young widower, the dating waters have been difficult for me, but life is moving forward. I try to blog honestly about it.

[AikoHoshiko]

This video provided me the insight I needed. I'm involved with a man who lost his wife unexpectedly a year ago. He is now a single father of two. He is a great guy but just as you stated, he refers to her as if he is still married to her and reminisces about her to me. I am so confused on where I stand but after this video I realized I will just continue to be patient and hope for the best. Protecting my heart by keeping a little distance was good advice as well. Thanks for the video! ^_^

[skippytada]

I have been a widow for two and half years and when I look around at other widows in my age group... 54... there seems to be a rush to get a man... I do believe that God has a plan for me and the rest of my life, so I am waiting on his plan rather than doing something that may not be smart. I feel I could not date until I am ready to deal with perhaps rejection or loss again. It feels like I am strong now, so anyone want coffee? :)

[fagsy1231]

I think you are spot on timing is everything and I think also from personal experience I jumped too soon after 9 months i wanted to ake it easy but was pushed really and it was so much harder to pick up when it didnt work out , there is a difference in constantly talking about your lost spouse than the memory it is very important for the new person in your life to accept the memory , Im widowed 5 years so ;)

[magyar5615]

great advice....if the widower is still continually talking about the late spouse =especailly in the present tense, it is too soon. Women, protect yourselves, they mean no harm but you do not need to be second best to a ghost, who he will forget all of the bad things about and idolize all of the good. Makes it very difficult to know if at any given time they are with you or in thier head they are with her....from one who knows....good luck...

[ladyofthelake3]

It is very hard when my boyfriend who is a widow, talks about his dead wife. She's been gone six years and we have been together 1 1/2 years. I do not know if I should give up on him or not. I dislike be secod best to her. :(

[ValueLady]

Hey, thanks for the video! Come over to Facebook and join us in the group "Dating a Widower" (both women/wives and widowers are members)