How To Have Great Sex Without Orgasm

[rezwanborja]

They make sex sound not fun and problematic to do

[slatbusterslat]

I wish I was under the table eating each one of them out.

[Adawg4008]

@slatbusterslat not the fat one...lol 

[SuperHappyCow]

"learning to get on top"

(other women give her strange look)

[lucylovesgaara]

i orgasm every time my partner does :D

[SaltShakerIsME]

This was a very inspirational video. Women can orgasm.

[biz3104]

Just work on it, try different things and don't be afraid of expressing what does it feel like, and what do you want ^^

If two people love eachother they want to make the other one orgasm anyway... :)

[moopoo23]

From all the information I've been studying on these issues, including this video here, it seems that the simple fact of the matter is that most women are, in general, sexually inferior to most men.

That's not politically correct, it will annoy many people, but it's a physiological reality.

It's telling how one woman in this video thought she was "defective" because of her lack of sexual abilities, but then decided that she wasn't when she found out that most women were sexually like her.

[moopoo23]

Instead of interpreting this "defectiveness" as "normal" because these lackings are the default state for many or most women, it would be just as easy to interpret and extrapolate it to mean that many or most women are sexually "defective."

Having to work for orgasm, seriously considering sex without orgasm as relevant and viable type of sexuality, finding orgasm difficult without constant intense self-stimulation, having orgasms only sporadically.

[moopoo23]

These things naturally would be as viewed as lackings, inability, weaknesses, disorders when compared to average male sexual capabilities.

Understand, I'm not trying to disparage women, but I rarely hear these types of points made, and they look like very relevant, decent points to me.

What I really hope is that many of these problems may be the result of psychological and social conditioning rather than biological traits.

[acorporatewhore]

Sexually inferior? Seriously....i think it's entirely the other way around. Men are simpletons....and therefore easy to please.

Women require a man to really know what he's doing in order to get them off...and since so many Women seem to be faking it....perhaps there's a direct connection to the lack of male skills going around these days!! :)

[moopoo23]

@acorporatewhore If the desire/goal is to have an orgasm, and men are *generally* more regularly able to attain orgasms than women are, then it is a simple objective fact that men are generally superior and women inferior in this particular area. Just as men are generally superior in strength, and women are generally superior in lifespan.

[moopoo23]

@acorporatewhore As for blaming men for the lack of female orgasms - no doubt there are plenty of men who have poor skills in giving sexual pleasure, but it's also true that many women can't even give *themselves* an orgasm. That issue is almost unheard of in men. I think this is very telling....

[acorporatewhore]

@moopoo23 I think 'many' is an over statement, but yes, there are some Women who can't achieve orgasm. Sometimes a physical issue...usually a mental one. It's unheard of in men cause the male orgasm is a much more simplistic biological process than the female one. And in general...more a physical act than an emotional one.

I think equating cumming more regularly with 'superiority' is just silly!

[moopoo23]

@acorporatewhore I love cumming regularly, I think it's much superior to cumming infrequently or not at all. Maybe it could be argued that men generally receive inferior/less *emotional* pleasure from sex?

[acorporatewhore]

@moopoo23 Hmmm....it could be a quantity versus quality thing though. Notice when you haven't had sex for a while you're more likely to get that real intense body tingling kind of orgasm...instead of the more generic 'yeah that was nice and all....time for sleep now' kind?

Perhaps that's just me? :)

[acorporatewhore]

@moopoo23 You've not gone longer than a week without an orgasm? Seriously? Okay....random youtube challenge...lol. One week....no sex (apologies to girlfriend/wife in advance)...no stroking it.....no nothing. When your time is up......kick back with some reeeaaallly good written porn....a bourbon (if you drink)...a toke (if you smoke).....and you'll see what i mean!! :)

[acorporatewhore]

@moopoo23 I think you greatly understate the lack of skills going round (too much bad porn watching imho)......and guys in general don't like to take instruction, so it's not that easy for a Women to tell someone that it's not working for them without hitting a nerve or damaging an ego. That's why so many Women are faking it....it's not that they can't orgasm...it's that they don't want to hurt their partners by coming clean with the fact they aren't satisfied!

[moopoo23]

@acorporatewhore Understate? Maybe "underestimate" is more accurate. Perhaps I'm incorrectly assuming that most men are like me in bed.

I have absolutely no problem with taking instruction, or even outright criticism, or asking what feels good, and I've always been very focused and invested in pleasuring my partner. I'd much rather honest expressions of lack of pleasure than faking. Faking and lack of sincerity eliminates any chance of real intimacy, let alone basic physical pleasure.

[acorporatewhore]

@moopoo23 underestimate...yep...that works better.

Yeah your assumption is incorrect. A lot of guys don't want to hear it. I know men who swear that nothing makes them hotter than the knowledge that they've made their Women scream.....but i also know those plenty of guys who treat sex like a sport.....and basically a win means they've cum....who cares about anyone else!

Interesting Easter banter....lol. You're Australian or is that just what the profile says?

[moopoo23]

@acorporatewhore Yep I'm Australian. Melbournian. I already looked at your profile - you seemed interesting, and your profile didn't disappoint. Love that one of your hobbies is masturbating! That's one of my favourite hobbies too! :) I like your taste in books and music also. Let me guess - you have a philosophical bent? I hope you do.

I love giving pleasure. Hell, I even just love giving massages, to everyone from friends, family, to strangers, to dogs, to masseurs he.

[MsSpanky8]

Good sex without orgasm? Possible. GREAT sex without orgasm? Just no.

[Vrael473]

@MsSpanky8 Go read up on Karezza, its got some interesting points, also for those in relationships the psychological biology of it is incredibly logical as far as relationship health and continuation goes. Orgasm is meant to achieve conception, whereas sex in and of itself is to create union. Evolution has engineered us so that through orgasm we achieve what our base natures desired in the exchange. Halting that end result disrupts our engineering thus discontinuing the cycle and forging a...

[Vrael473]

...new path of intimacy and closeness that our chemistries are geared to build and destroy through the release of chemicals in an orgasm. For example the honeymoon effect, would be non existent if couples did not orgasm, and yet the bonding through intercourse would not be changed. The chemicals released longterm make for dissatisfaction with your partner due to our natural engineering telling us to move on and become fertile with another mate. Anyway chek it out see what you think.

[maysoona99]

Good sex without orgasm? That's an oxymoron

[rungirl05]

there is no great sex without orgasm.

[zidanereal10]

@rungirl05 yeah

[STiNaXRaGXDoLL]

This was informative, but the video kept cutting, and the words don't match up in some areas. . . but still, very cool topic!