Fear of Intimacy, Part 2- "Intimations"

[LuvleeeeMyers]

Every relationship I've been in say I keep people out, I wont let anyone get close, . I dont understand this at all. No one has ever taken the time to help me understand this . All I've ever ever wanted is to love and be loved. Why cant I see what others clearly can, especially when my perspective on it seems to be open to intimacy. i want to be loved.

My father has not spoken to me in 18years, I'm sure that has an affect on me. I've tried to get him to re unite. NO luck Help me out ok

[SydTheSkeptic]

@LuvleeeeMyers Dude, I did this video because I DON'T have the answers. I don't know your circumstances enough to even give you suggestions. If the first thing that comes to mind as a reason is your dad, you're probably on to something.

[jessycat09]

I like the woman in the black and white with the long hair. She is so relate-able.

[jx14aby]

Don't forget the impact of circumcision.

[IbnNero]

@jx14aby ???define moe explicit please?

[IbnNero]

@IbnNero "more"

[jx14aby]

@IbnNero

A natural penis is more comfortable and pleasurable for both the man and woman. It enhances the intimacy of the sexual relationship. A circumcised penis is less pleasurable. Many failed relationships can be traced to this flaw.

[qbrute]

Emotional intimacy is sharing and being vulnerable. This requires believing that someone you trust will not threaten your vulnerability. People can have physical intimacy (sex) with or without emotional intimacy.

[SydTheSkeptic]

Yup, that's about it in a nutshell. :o)

[TheAussieOz]

I think you should continue this! I want to know moreeeee about the fear of intimacy and of what intimacy is. I really love this. :)))) You should dive deeper into this. :) Maybe involving more of people's personal lives would make this an even more amazing documentary/series. :D

[SydTheSkeptic]

I still have a lot of footage from this and I had planned about five of them.

Thanks for nudging me to finish what I started. I definitely will.

(I think I let my fear of going deeper get the best of me- all the more reason to finish it!)

[LadyDiWolfe]

Very nicely done video. Some amazingly deep thoughts there. It's been awhile since I saw something like this on YT... (Just noticed it: this is 'an old vid'...) :)

[SydTheSkeptic]

I keep going back and forth about wanting to keep doing stuff like this. I got so much out of it because when you're using other people's clips, you tend to listen more actively and I actually gained a helluva lot more insight while editing this collab than I did while just doing vlogs here and there about it.

:o)

If I had more time, I'd do a lot more stuff like this. I love the collaborative potential video-sharing offers.

[LadyDiWolfe]

Oh, please do more stuff like this! It's worth of the time it takes. :)

[Jayenwoods]

This really was great syd, I really do need to find the time to sit down and go through all your fear chronicle videos.

I kind of feel after watching this that in recent years i've allowed life to get in the way of asking myself these kinds of questions.

Jayen

[SydTheSkeptic]

Thanks Jayen- I think I may have gotten in the way of my own questions, too, given I let the Fear Chronicles linger for this long.

Appreciate the comment.

[renetto]

Amazing! What a great example of what I'd like to do with a little twist of course:)

[SydTheSkeptic]

Renetto commentary. Could be fun.

[davidhnet]

Great video. Thanks for sharing.

[SydTheSkeptic]

Thanks- and thanks for commenting.  :o)

[iodcalison]

Thank you for doing this! It's really important and quite special.

[SydTheSkeptic]

I'm glad you found it of value. It was fun and personally enlightening when I put it together.

[SelfHelpCollective]

Thanks for all of you sharing your thoughts! :-)

[U2bianSynic]

Thank YOU for watching and commenting!

[altargirl89]

Does anyone know who the vlogger is on 5:53 ?

[U2bianSynic]

MelancholyMomma :o)

[altargirl89]

Thanks for the reply. Too bad she took down her video. It sounded interesting

[DiscussionGuy]

see you have to be smart and have good editing abilities, luckily you have both, lol.

[TheStepfordNews]

this is a great video!

[U2bianSynic]

I'm glad you liked it!! Gotta get around to finishing the others, lol!

[PrincessDiana161]

here's my theory on love... if you're able to fart in front of your partner and not be embarrassed then BINGO :)

I've been with my husband 20 years, I don't always like him but I will always love him.

Love this vid!

[U2bianSynic]

Hah!! That's a great theory. I'll run with that one. Thanks Princess ;o)

[pansgrove]

Really awesome video. I can see it helping a lot of people.

[GrandpopPhiladelphia]

I like the style of this video. Very good. Very intimate.

[GeminiAuntie]

Aww your nephew is so adorable...Your sister did good producing such a good looking young man. I can see how much you love him...It's the same kind of love I have for my nieces. :) <3

[mutememories]

Wow, it seems that everyone is sharing very personal things. With this, you have to overcome your fear to share it which is great.

[fijayne06]

OMG i can't say this enough to all you people that shared your stories your such brave souls and so special. Thank you for sharing and letting us in to your world even if it is only for a min. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for this and I am sure you all will help others with this to feel like they are no longer alone. your all wonderful people

[SunnyDazStormyNitz]

Love the way you put these videos together. So many great points.

BTW- your kid is a cutie. :-)

[proudyke]

Great series Syd. I'm lucky that I have been in a sustained intimate relationship for 7 years, w/ no signs of stopping. Was that your nephew sneaking in there on ya?

[shyone4444]

Syd... This is by far one of the best videos I've seen yet on Your Tube!!! I appreciate you sharing your journey with us, but not only that, your allowing us to be part of the journey.... I can't wait for the next video!

[torigirl35]

hey syd...like i've been saying...excellent. thanks for sharing this. take care. ((hugs)) ciao for now.

*tori*

[U2bianSynic]

Thanks Tori! Ciao!

[andymooseman]

Very interesting Syd.

I do sometimes wonder if these videos don't raise more questions than they answer, for me anyway :)

[U2bianSynic]

Questions are like fractals. The interesting ones hold more questions within them and those questions, the same. That's why I tell my students that a good question is the start of a journey.

[andymooseman]

Great reply. I like the comparison between questions & fractals, very interesting thought.

I often feel that people don't question things enough :)

[JeeprzCreepers56]

I like these videos, they're a real eye opener.

[U2bianSynic]

Glad you're liking them!

[MelancholyMomma]

Wonderful once again Miss Syd!

Amazing soul you are.

Front paging this one as well.

Hugs

[U2bianSynic]

Thanks once again! I'm especially hopeful that you and the others who participated in this enjoy it!

[DoctorOhh]

Syd,

You have the soul of an artist.

Beautifully done.

[U2bianSynic]

Thanks, and thanks again for participating. I loved your video!

[UnificationNow]

excellent topic and really well done!

[U2bianSynic]

Thanks!

[kayleewyatt]

Amazing! and the level of intimacy was palpable and quietly intense, and so on the money!

[U2bianSynic]

Quietly intense!! Good way of putting it Kaylee. Thanks!

[kimlea69]

YOUR WELCOME...JUST START HUGGING EVERTHING WITH A HEARTBEAT THAT MAY GET YOU INTIMACY ISSUES....kim

[KimOsh72]

wow! I must say...this video gets so close to what I was saying in the comments of the first part.

And the only relationships I feel comfortable with NOW are my sister, my nephew and my son...and the kids are still babies.

The fear of intimacy videos have given me a lot to think about.

[U2bianSynic]

Your comment means a lot to me, Kim. I'm hoping a few people maybe get a little insight for their own lives thanks to the brave and wise words of those who participated here.

[OhCurt]

Sitting back in my chair after having taken it all in, and just reflecting quietly.

:-)

[U2bianSynic]

Thanks for watching and commenting, Curt (as always)

[kimlea69]

I LIKE YOU FUNNY PEOPLE....kim

[U2bianSynic]

hehe

"letting people see how much of a f*ck up I am"- love that kind of wisdom, too.

thanks for commenting

[kimlea69]

57 years old with same woman 40 years loveing her more ever day , just know now is all there is ....lov yall all ...Kim

[U2bianSynic]

"Now is all there is" is great if "now" is a highly desirable situation. You are indeed the lucky one.

Thanks, Kim!

[CoZzMiX]

You have done it again, This was extraordinarily well put together all the elements fused together so well. I am totally gob-smacked by these last 2 Videos. I have some spare time this weekend I'm gona have a look through your back catalog and catch up on some of the ones I missed.

Love and respect to you Syd..

[U2bianSynic]

Aw, thanks Howard. You're always so thoughtful in your comments. It means a lot to me.

[CoZzMiX]

Iv got part 1 as my channel vid because I think this subject is really important to all of us...

I never leave comments just to be nice, if I say it I mean it and I'm sure gona let you know if I think your messing up... I never have to do that with you.

Everyone involved with this did an Amazing Job

[U2bianSynic]

I get that sense about ya, which is why it means so much.

Thanks again, and thanks for finding it important enough to share with others. The process of editing it and really getting to listen intently to all these great people was a real gift to me so the video series is more a gift to others, if they're interested.

Again, much appreciated!

[ItalianStallionette]

front paging this baby!

[U2bianSynic]

THanks Gina!! And thanks, again, for being one of the brave souls who participated.

[ItalianStallionette]

WOW... just... WOW.

"Intimacy is not substainable" I'm speechless. Maybe we so badly want to be loved, we give our intimate selves out of the need to feed the soul, bu once we give ourselves.... we can panick that we have given up something. DAMNIT. You made me think again.. Beautifully done!

[U2bianSynic]

lol

Maybe when we lose brain cells for thinking too hard, we're making room for fresh ones!!

A girl can hope, can't she?

[suburbanmom]

Another fantastic video of yours.

[U2bianSynic]

Thanks Alana!!