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  • I thank you bcuz I haven't always been heavy, and now being the heaviest I've ever been, I had to deal with the underlying issues before moving forward. I'm ready now to start to LIVE. THNX for these vids

  • I wanted to say thank you for your honest expression also. I loved it that you open your heart and poured it out with such passion. I have lost weight and gained it again. I always vowed I would not be fat but lost it along the way.I need to have help with my goals because being a lone ranger doesn't really give long term success for me. Thankyou...I will reach out this time and keep on track.

  • Love ya video keep doing what you do

  • This is such a great video! So true and so real :D

  • Thanks a lot for that video BBBD. Very interesting and inspiring...

  • This is so true. I have been on both side of the tracks as well. There were new problems especially with other women. It is so silly.

  • Are you from New York? Inspiring video.

  • I can so relate already ... And I have only lost 22 pounds so far!!! SMH! Not sure why people feel threaten when someone goes on thier journey.

    Great information!!!

    *Karen*

  • Confusing confidence for arrogance. That was right on point. Great video!

  • Can I get a love it button Jesus have mercy. preach preach preach

  • wow i love this. i preach this all the time n ppl around me dont listen. i wouldnt say more fat loos mre problems thou

  • I love this lady!! This is a lesson in life and motivational speech rolled into 17mins

  • All this is Real Talk 101, lol.. Haters will be haters... I always said "quality over quanity" I never had a big group of girlfriends, all of mine are REAL and will be there til the end..

  • I always get the "how much weight have you lost", "how much more weight are you trying to lose", "you don't need to lose more weight","how much are you not eating", and lastly "you look anorexic or you're too skinny." I'm just like wtf? Why is my body your concern. But I'm there with you when you said people watch your weight more than you do. Its true. I hate it.

  • I love people that comes with the real talk, like my girl Jillian Michaels. You my sister speak the truth and I thank you, I'm on my way as well to lose 70 lbs so thank you for your videos you are an inspiration and I have them in my favorites so I can come back for a reality check and when I'm feeling like giving up. God bless, you are my SHERO:-)

  • I hear you.....you really made me smile today! I'm very happy for you! Do your thang girl!

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  • Let's not forget the constant question of "how much do you weigh now? You haven't loss any weight have you? You don't want to look stressed?" <--REALLY? You really learn a lot about your real girlfriends!!

    The problems you speak of are on both side of the weight line. Keep up the good work though. I've been back in the gym and been able to fit back into my regular size but I keep the "friends" I haven't seen in a while thinking that I haven't lost any weight. Can't wait for my reunion. Ha!

  • So much truth in this video!!! It is even worse when you've always been the "fit" one in the group and poeple just seem to get excited when you put on weight!! Spent years with "friends" that finally revealed how uncomfortable they felt around my "skinny butt" and mind you I was not really skinny, I just very active (I worked/danced out a lot). Comments like "Oh, you put on weight. It is not bad. Well, now I only have to lose 30 pounds to look like you now." ...

  • luv your weight loss videos you really tell it like it is.... i can relate to many things that you touched on as i have been on a weight loss journey for the past 3 and half months and i have lost 2 stones. in this time many people around me have tried to tell me that i have changed or they can’t go out with me anymore because i will be getting all the attention instead of them but i have learnt that those who judge you are not worth my time because im happy with me and that’s all that matters

  • I love you!! I want to lose weight too sooo badly and now I is the time I want to try and do it. I am 20 years old , natural,and you are most def my guru! I <3 you and your hair!

  • You're so right about how ppl treat you...I lost 40 lbs 7 years ago, and after I lost it, several guy "friends" who had only thought of me as one of the guys suddenly were flirting with me and trying to tell me that theu'd had a thing for me for years. It really shut me down a bit towards men for awhile. Also, I was accused several times of having an eating disorder bc they couldn't believe I was losing it in a healthy way. Heaven forbid I not be hungry at dinner! Oh no! Must be anorexic!!!

  • Thanks so much for this video. It's such an inspiration.

  • heyy i started working out in august and i lost 25 pounds so far and i was wondering , is that too slow should i work out more?

  • Hey! I met you in target over the summer and I must tell you again that I truly admire you and you are a motivation for me to take care of me. Thank you!

  • I must say today was i first time i watched your video and you have inspired me to push forward. I will continue to look at the video posts to keep me going. Today i choose to my journey as an EX-FAT girl!!!

  • I love the strength, message and the flo!

  • You are an inspiration!!! Thank you.

  • You are an ins

  • I love you! I admire your dedication, confidence, and strength. You're beautiful and your fashion sense is rockin, seriously. Thank you for being an inspiration!

  • it doesnt really help that u have a doll baby face pretty eyes long hair i could go on and on about how pretty u r oh n forgot the educational success. prob when u lost the lbs your face started to become more n more beautiful and exotic looking and women usually cant stand pretty girls point blank

  • Thank you!!!

  • Are you gonna specialize in Health Psych or CBT? I think you are very insightful and could help a lot of people

  • Awesome video!!

  • Very well spoken and awesome channel! luv'd it!

  • I'm glad you made this video! It was so motivating and inspiring to me. It truly made me realize a lot of things that I have been holding back.

    Just thank you for your motivating and inspiring words!!

  • thats how it is for me...i was never over weight but i had acne ( i now take accutane) n im more confident ppl say ive changed but the real me is cominq out.

  • Love this, I'm bouta subscribe. :)

  • Loved this video. My message to all that have not yet reached their goals or aspirations .

    God know when's the right time in your life to put you where you want to be. It may not be your season just yet. Be patient

  • The picture at 1:03 my fav! :)

  • Your videos have really made me take a look deeper at myself...I have always been a health nut for the wrong reasons; however, after watching your videos it has made me want to do it for me, MY health....I am starting to love who I look at in the mirror daily. If you don't love yourself and you do things for the admiration and praise from people you will fall. I dedicate this healthy transition to God and give him all the praise and I pray that God continues to bless your journey. thank u!

  • GIRL your words are so motivating and inspirational! Thank u so much!!!

  • Thank You so much for this video. Finally a video that talks about the REAL truth about weight loss! This is the best video I’ve seen about weight loss! =)

  • You LOOK fabulous Girl!!!! Forget the HATERS......

  • What do you say to the people who you thought were your friends, but don't support you in your weight lose, increased confidence, and general new self? Do you still maintain relationships with them? Do you 'break-up' with them?

  • You Go Girl!!!!! This video is so inspirational! I'm a big girl myself and on a weight loss journey, so this video just gave me a boost to keep going! You are a beautiful girl inside and out, and you’re definitely pretty now but you were just as beautiful 5 years ago! I don’t know you but I’m proud of you, for achieving your goals! Go Girl!!!!!!! Keep up the hard work.

  • Preach!!! I stuck to my New Years resolution and I'm not the same person I was at the beginning of 2011! Luckily my true friends are still there and if anything, I'm inspiring them to step their game and get healthy FOR LIFE! I'm now working on unleasing my inner-athlete with lots of strength training! Thank you thank you thank you and keep the videos coming sis!!

  • I'm working on being an EX and have a long way to go. I appreciate your honest expressions. Your vids have been a great help. Thank you! Blessings to you! :D

  • this really helped me. you are so inspiring! Love you and God Bless!

  • Go mami, you tell it, I'm 40lbs over weight, yes I had a baby, but it's my lack of motivation....so I'm gonna do it....you remind me of my basic training drill sargeant....you tough!

  • GIRL!!! YOU CAN RHYME!!!! WHAT!!! Love it! You sound fresh!!!

  • You are awesome!

  • love u Dr!

  • If it became easier to say things and do things that you could not do when you was fat, does this not mean that you changed? It not a bad change but it is a change

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  • So you've lost weight, but gained haters!!

  • Soror u r so beautiful inside and out. Thank u for ur story and being so real. I am on a journey myself and watching u have giving me motivation. Keep doing what u do:)

  • I think you should start a self esteem group for young girls you are so strong willed and very respectable. I'm skinny and self esteem has nothing to do with it. I have never been big i actually feel bad for being skinny.

  • real talk! like it!

  • THANK YOU FOR BEING REAL AND SHARING!

  • I got nothing but love 4 u bbbd. I can relate to all that u said cuz I lost 7Olbs n kept it off for 5yrs now and it's true, less fat, more problems, but all in all the rewards outweigh the negatives. Thanks 4 sharing your experiences!!!

  • Thank you for speaking the truth to me!!

    

  • thanks for sharing so much of yourself. i definitely would buy your book. you are writing one, right?

  • Still a Big Gurl. And, I feel you. It happens with all of us Phat or Slim. I love it keep it coming...

  • I love your video Confessions of an Ex-Fat Girl you kept it real to the fullest. See I want to lose weight. 14 months ago I had a baby girl and now I am almost 300lbs. Prior to getting pregnant I was in the 240s. The thing is I want to lose weight but I am not mentally there. Like you said it is a mental thing. In high school I was between 184-192lbs because I was active and played sports. Since then I have been less active and I love to eat especially sweets. What can I do to motivate myself?

  • I want to say congratulations for being in the Essence magazine. I am a subscriber to Himay10nence and I seen the video she uploaded showing your picture in the Essence magazine. God is amazing......continue to keep God the head of your life and He will continue to keep opening doors for you. May God continue to bless you in your endeavours.

  • GREAT info!!! So glad I'm subscribed to you :)

  • I'm a pretty fat girl (chunky chics rock!!) and I've noticed that folks think I'm all kinds of stuck up, other negative perceptions because some folks think I'm cute.

  • This vid is so true. People have changed, as have I. But, I'm still surprised by the way some ppl. who had my back 110% (I thought) have fell back. I'm thinking you should be happy that I'm finally doing it. People watching my plate, "you sure you can eat that" don't worry it. Oh my about the women who are now grabbing their man's arm. I'm like men still tried to get at me at a heavier wt. So many points are coming to pass, it's still (wt. loss) new to me.

  • You know Doc BBD you are just cool. You make weight loss seem realistic and that it can be done. This was a very inspiring video. I am really considering to try and change my weight and health.

  • New this channel...how did u lose the weight and how long did it take?

  • but everyone has something to say about it. They know i am having health issues but it is like it is irrelevant. At first I felt really bad, but then I told myself....I am the only person that matters when it comes to my body. This really put things further into perspective for me. I am grateful to you for this.

  • You covered so much...it is really hard to comment on this video, except to say you really gave it. And everything you said can be applied to so many different things.....be it a person living in poverty to making it out and becoming successful, etc. I know that for me I have had the opposite happen....I have been ill for a few years and gained weight (i use to be the skinny girl). My weight doesnt bother me ( i mean i would like to be in a healthy range for my height)

  • Great video

  • REAL TALK!!! Need more of these ASAP makes me realize it's not me it's the company around me!!! Thank you BBBD

  • Great message.

  • Please keep these videos coming!!!! I lost a lot of weight, gained it back, and I'm trying to lose it again, and I CAN RELATE to everything you are saying!

  • AMEN! You ain't speakin' nothin' but the truth!

  • Lady, you are exceptional! Why am I just finding your vids??? I've been struggling with my weight and self esteem for years. Now that I've finally began to regain my selfesteem and confidence so now I'm ready to attack the weight.

  • I like the rap!

    

  • You are on the money with this video. It is truly amazing how looks play a part on how people treat you. I am at the stage of my weightloss journey where I am angry that my weightloss is what has some people treating me humanely. In my head I am just screaming I was still a person at 300lbs!! Thanx for making this video. Lovin your swagga.

  • I can relate because you have been where I am going. It is a little bit sad that people really do view you different....

  • What a WONDERFUL and INSPIRATIONAL video!! Thank you for this.

  • Wooowwww!! U have really inspired me!

  • i never really comment on videos but i have to say i admire and respect the hell out of you. your weight lose is amazing and i wish i had the mind frame to work out on a regular basis like you do. i also love that you are educated and natural and at the top of your game in so many ways. you are truly someone to look up to. I just love it you bangin' girl!

  • great video!!!

  • I could NOT agree with you more (after losing almost 70lbs)! :-) You are SO on! That's why I love you girl You are so real!

  • Luv u girl!

    

  • i watched a few of your videos before, but this one right here made me a devoted subscriber. for real i'm hitting the subscribe button right now!

  • You betta tell it!

  • great video!!!

  • Awesome video!!!!! I am starting my diet tomorrow, hoping to have just as much success as you have maintained with weight loss, stay blessed

  • But a month agao I realized that I needed to make a change. And from that day I realizes that I am in control of the way I like look and feel. I have since completed a 30 days weight loss challenge and have made changes in my life. 

  • I love your channel. A couple of days ago my cousin set out a questionaire to family members. One question that was ask was "What do you need to improve" ? I stated that I needed to change the way I view myself. What others see is nothing what I see. As i look in the mirror I see a fat girl with low self esteem. I spoke iwth my cousing and she stated that she would never have thought that. Daily I look at myself in the mirror and wonder why I not pleased with myself.

  • Girl you better PREACH. It's called jealousy - that's all. I lost 90 lbs 5 years ago and have gained 30 back. It is so hard trying to get them off but it's so worth it. Most coporations place attractive people in higher positions. Also, you look so differently when you lose weight because the facial structures are more defined.

    Overall, people will hate because of their own low self esteem whether you're pretty or ugly, big or small. Keep building Physically,Mentally,and Spiritually.

  • I love your honesty!! Thank you so much for sharing this!

  • Speaking from someone who has lost 86.5lbs( with diet and exercise I have 50 more to go till hit my goal). You are RIGHT on target with all the drama that comes after your weight loss. Also I'm still a fat girl on the inside and will probably remain that way forever! It's a struggle but I admire you a lot!

  • Great video.You remind me of Janelle Monae the fabulous singer, video artist

  • Very eye opening video. Never thought things could be so drama filled just because of weight loss! Glad you were able to overcome it!

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  • OMG! I LOVE YOU!! I usually don't like long yt videos cause people aren't really talking about anything, but i had ours open while I was studying, and when I started listening to what you were saying, i found myself being your "Amen Corner" haha!! Im a Psych (Pre Med) major and natural too!!!...great minds lol!

  • WOW......AWESOME!!!

    

  • I am so glad that you spoke on this issue because this is a reality and it's very relevant.

  • You are such an inspiration!

  • Everything happens for a reason. will definitely watch this again

  • You are soooooo inspiring! I LOVE YOU CHILE!!!!! Keeping it real is BBBD.

    Peace.

  • You helping me sis....I'm working to become a "x" as well.

  • OMG! it seems like you are speaking all my thoughts and experiences out loud... brilliant

  • im so glad i seen this video you said everything ive been thinking so thank you, thank you, thank you

  • it's amazing the people who are only ok with having you around as long as you were "beneath" them in their eyes. As long as they could see themselves as being better than you or having something over you they're ok with hanging with you! But the minute you start coming up & getting yaself 2gether, they start feeling threatened & start 2 project their true inner thoughts on you (ie> they think you're better than them know so they say "you act like you think you betta than everybody else!")

  • Congrats on being featured in Essence!!!

  • I feel like your the mirror of me. I have lost 120lbs so far myself over the last 2years and everything you said is so true! I too have a degree in psychology, I think it helps to know of a variety of behaviors because it is challenging. The craziest question I keep getting, "so your done now cause you've gotten smaller." My journey has been about health and that's when I'll stop. Thank you for this posting!

    GlamLuv01

  • You have truly inspired me! I cant wait to see the shrinkage :). I'm also a natural and I love your hair!. You are just so awesome! keep up the great work!

  • I absolutely enjoyed this video. I have always been a "big girl" but i never felt that i was. I was the "average" or "ok-looking" girl to the guys while growing up, however after my mom broke my fear of people when i turned 15, My confidence sprouted and I began referring to myself as "Queen" because i feel that way on the inside. I want to lose this weight because I feel it is time to make a change in my life. i'm 27, just completed my Masters and I needed an inspiration to make a change.

  • I feel everything u saying I was a size 16 now I'm a 12. Ppl will watch u easy and make comments like ain't u going against your diet? And ppl honestly think I'm quick up but I'm so not! Ok still that goofy girl with a streak of tomboy. In me. And ppl tell me you so cool I thought u were stuck up! And if u even look at somebody wrong they jump on the defense! Smh I'm still not stopping though. My goal is a size 6

  • When I was 16 up until I was 18 I lost 98 pounds. I did it for the wrong reasons (to look like my friends to get boys to notice me more etc) And I did it the WRONG way and I became incredibly sick ( I was just eating a small box of fruit a day, I was in the hospital and I also had to get a blood transfusion) And now I am 20 I have put on 90% of the weight. But now watching your vids etc am doing it properly and I want to lose 100 pounds and keep it of. Your truly an inspiration. God Bless You.

  • What really goes away is HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, AND RISK OF STROKE, HEART FAILURE,KIDNEY FAILURE,DIABETES ETC

  • I had lost about 40 lbs and completely fell off from working out and eating well. I haven't gained it all back, but this was just the encouragement I needed to get on the grind. I just need to redevote to the journey. Thanks a bunch!

    krystina (chicago, il)

  • I know this is just Youtube but you seem to have such a beautiful spirit that radiates thru your vids. You would make a great motivational speaker &/or life coach (imo). I'm a new subscriber & I almost didn't watch this vid bcs of the length but I'm so glad I did! I'm not trying to sound shallow by any means but one of my biggest fears in life is becoming "fat". I'm NO skinny minny OR beauty queen but I've gained weight over the years plus I've watched my relatives go from small to big & NEVER

  • Love where you're coming from at this..

    And know what?

    You have a right to have that confidence because you've done so much to get where you are now! :)

  • All I can do is gives this a thumbs up!

  • This is so true! I lost 45lbs last years, and I had FAMILY MEMBERS who had a problem with my weight loss-- telling me I needed to stop. I have gained about 15lbs back and it seems as if it pleases other people that I slipped, but I WILL get the 15 back off! And I aint even mad about them watching me...I would be watching me too! lol!

    OAN: Love, Love, Love the videos! Best wishes!

  • 5 Years Of Weight Drama???

  • Great video, I'm on my weight loss journey and some of the things you touched on I never considered before. I guess that's why they say lose weight for you and not for nobody else.

  • BBBD!!!! girl,you just made me cry,everything you said is sooooo true,i am going through everything you said from friends to relationships,to how i'm being treated now in comparism to when i was heavier,people that never even recognise that i exist now what to talk to me/be my friend,peopel hating on me and now think because i'm now more out going/confidence i'm now conceited,please do more of these confessions,trust me,its saving lives!!,love ya!

  • I so needed This..I am experiencing this right now

  • I grew up very thin and many always commented on it. I thought I needed to gain weight to look Womanly. Once I did, people commented on my weight gain and seemed happy about it, unfortunately it was all females. I noticed that people focused on my weight more than me. Wen I felt I became too big, I lost the weight and realized that all those years, it was others insecurity, not mine. I've learned to remain healthy, thinner and not to care what others think about my weight.

  • Incredible... I loved it... You did that!!! I consider you such an inspiration and your words are very motivating. Congratulations on being natural, educated, and confident. Keep doing what you do!

  • loved this video. you inspire me to keep moving towards my goal. i feel like i need to keep pushing forward because i don't want to disappoint you. great video, as usual!

  • PREACH!!! Thank you so much for real talk! :o)

  • 1st of all sis you are beautiful!!! and this video is absolutely true!

  • Thanks for sharing! You're an inspiration!

  • You said some really profound things. Thanks for sharing your insights.

  • Ummm...you did that!!!! Absolutely loved it!!!!

  • Such an encouraging video. You really touched on some good points. :)

  • Thank you, Soror Nina, for your HONESTY!

    I'm down 106, and people look at me crazy when I say, it's not all glittery gold. You will lose 'friends,' people will see you as a threat and men who never saw it for you - will become major fans.

    Tougher skin and confidence are things I've had to fine tune. I'm gearing up to lose this last 35 and am bracing for what's next to come. However, all in all, my goal and my health trump all of the drama that comes along with this transformation.

  • Wow...you have touched me deeply with your words...thanks for speaking up!!

  • girl i almost broke my wrist trying to give u a high five thru the computer screen! lol lol so true girl... all u said. i've been on both sides after losing 78 pounds and ppl do watch for u to gain it back, be jealous for no reason, etc... its really eye opening as u say!!

    have a great week!

  • Love our personality sooooo much!!! Love your confidence. You're positive. I'm always scouring youtube for positive females that I can relate to, i.e. (intelligent conversation, thoughtful, confident, classy-oh and natural hair!!) I've experienced everything you speak of, so I look forward to your next videos. Please keep them coming

  • Love our personality sooooo much!!! Love your confidence. You're positive. I'm always scouring youtube for positive females that I can relate to, i.e. (intelligent conversation, thoughtful, confident, classy-oh and natural hair!!) I've experienced everything you speak of, so I look forward to your next videos. Please keep them coming

  • She really stated the truth @ 15:27

  • That's what's up!

  • I enjoy your videos very much!! You should take it up a notch and try to create a professional studio in your home for recording. You can conduct your videos there with better lighting and scenery.

    Thanks

  • you are such an inspiration and i look forward to more of ur videos

  • You look amazing. I also lost weight. Not as much as you, but I have experienced a lot of the same things. I would like to lose another 10, but it isn't like its gonna make me happier, just 10 lbs smaller, you know? I am not big now, so I truly I appreciate my body. I hated being overweight in high school, and my joints hated it more. I believe that unless you have a genuine physical problem, anyone ca do it :) But your mind definitely has to change. You have to be confident to lose weight.

  • I have to agree with you on that "fat girl mind frame". I went from wearing a size 24 to a size 15 and I still go to the store and look for the super plus styles out of habit. I still have some of the same jeans I had when I was bigger, I just put a belt on them (hadn't worn a belt in 13 years). My husband keeps telling me, I need to do a whole wardrobe change, but I still have not lost all I want to lose just yet. 40 more to go! Great video!!

  • Exactly, it's usually women....!

  • Loooooove the tubetop

  • you are a very strong woman , GOD bless you , :) so up lifting

  • Excellent, Excellent video !!!

  • I swear I LOVE THIS WOMAN!!!!

  • Great Video and insight!  Thanks for fixing the sound

  • I was always the big girl growing up (big and tall). Lost 50lbs, gained 50lbs back. The reactions both ways were mind blowing. Bottom line - you have to be confident, grounded and realistic at EVERY end of the spectrum, whether you're gaining or losing. Weight loss isn't the automatic answer to life's problems. It just adds a new set. (Still very well worth it, imho.)

  • so true!! I never thought of it in that way. I have alot of weight to lose now and I always think that everything will be "all good" when I lose it. Thanks for this video. thank you so much!!!

  • Girl!!! Pass the collection plate 'cause you just preached an awesome sermon. I loved it!

  • and i bet there are ppl who look at you like youve always been skinny or you think your all that too but thats life, haters love to hate but anyway thanks for posting :3

  • Bravo!! Well said!! You are such an inspiration! Thank you again!! I got it!! Thank you for the post!!

  • Wow!! So well said! Thank u for being so transparent. Ur journey is inspirational.

  • Preach! Awesome video.

  • thank you so much for this video, i am personally battling weight loss right now and people think that its suppose to just drop off and your not suppose to exercise, you really encourage alot of us out here that are fighting weight. Keep you head up and let God use you.

  • thank you and good luck on you journey

  • that just opened up my eyes.glad to have a heads up on what to expect!it's a shame,but i feel like you hit the nail on the head when you said "people will watch what you eat more than you" i can already picture some people i know who will be doing that.

  • I love you, peace and blessing to you, for the inspiration!

  • loved it!!!!