B. Scott Ep #62: Childhood Affects Adulthood

[0neinamilli0n]

I agree with yiu 110% yes every single persons issues in their adulthood - comes from their childhoods and how they were raised and any and all traumatic events! i was looking up videos for an essay! lol btw your ADORABLE!!!!

[keta4332]

i used to get poked fun of by black students in middle school b/c i didn't act like them & they used to call me "oreo". i didn't care then & i still don't care. i be me regardless. i surround myself with folks that can ACCEPT me!

[urlosre1]

Raven Symone is a child star and she's ok :P

[echoshadowlight]

Much better than Chris Crockers brit vid.

[nellie2581]

@echoshadowlight  That's true

[eealexander2167]

you have to hold everyone accountable for there actions ........but thats not to say ypu cant understand and act accordingly to the situation.

[FlyFree77]

Hey B Scott!...i totally agree with you on the whole childhood affects adulthood thing but we have to be careful not to cross that line and JUSTIFYING our behaviours as adults because of what we went through as children. I guess what im trying to say is that there is a fine line between a REASON and an EXCUSE for what is goin on with us. Great video! very thought provoking :)

[MJsTink]

I totally agree and love your points B.Scott! Look at Michael Jackson ( I LOVE him ), childhoods affect most everyone. It has to be ten times harder for child stars because their constantly in the spotlight and being watched as they grow.

[nellie2581]

@MJsTink That's true, and media puts pressure on them. They're being judged and criticized by the media and paparazzi.

[DFWsearch]

ooooh, so true. hit it right on the nail.

[MsLeeLee2500]

im sure he knows that, thanks. take your hate elsewhere.

[powerrangergeek]

youz a hater

[bittasweetlove]

I love thai food :-)

[nellie2581]

@bittasweetlove me too. It's one of the best foods. Vietnamese food is jut ok.

[streckle18]

Hey bscott.. i just wanted to let u know that you are great and that u inspire me soo miuch.... you are the extra push that i needed to tell my dad i am gay.. and i did it tonight thanks to you :) i feel splendiferous(or however u spell it:P).. everyone except him in my family knew and it was so hard but i got it done!!! i was going to pick a more appropriate video to put this on..but i couldnt find the one i was looking for and i just had to say this now lol. u are my gay oprah!! double kisses!

[Gahuki44]

Might teen years were pretty tramatic. Lots of bad things went down. It's still affects me. I'm moving foreward but it affects how I interact w/ ppl.

My mom always held me accontable, she said every1 has problems and u can't act a fool.

[Ardenwolfe]

Everyone's path is different.

Definitely. It takes forever for me to trust anyone.

Wolfe

[gititgurl94]

I agree with you...

the mother is to blame

also the father

[samsara6900]

You are so clever B.Scott...

I love you

Sam

[anonymizzle]

chiiiile your swoop is a MESS! but i still love you lol

[RenegadeQueen]

Yes

[viruseltony]

I don't know if a childhood really creates a character,but a person's character reveals from how a person response to a whole bunch of different things during a lifetime.So..what can I say is that your video response is good and yes we might consider to blame it on maama Spears!

[ITZoMEoCC]

raven symone seems like the only norm and maybe a couple of others

[husfey]

she the only one

[mand1sh3p]

please...raven still thinks shes 11 years old...but no she has no PUBLIC malfunctions we know about.

[jaackgirdlers]

you sound like prince! that's cool.

[yummy620]

1 day ago...it seemed like a very hard for me to talk to my father. But I went to my parents house for father's day and we had great dinner together tonite...I couldn't do it without you B. Scott. It's been very hurting but I wanted to get over with it so much.

Thank you and I love you so much!

[yummy620]

Yes,it is...that's the reason why I cannot talk to my father. He've tried to control me when I was kid and hadn't accepted me who I am. It made me so hurts and I cannot have dream anymore. Because I felt like nobody really care and who really I am. I know that's not true but I'm still hurting.

[renkitty1984]

i agree..it is childhood related..and the mother has to take part of the blame. how a child acts is based on how she or he is raised. i observe the differences in behavior among most of my cousins and ho their parents are, and if there is a lack of discipline, or somethign else is amiss...the negative impact shows.

[SOOPERflyy]

B spears is the modern day MJ .

[totalJeffgroupie]

I completely agree with you about the fact that people obsessing over Britney are the reason she is constantly tortured by the press. My sister has a theory that K-Fed has caused a lot of it because as long as she stays in the spotlight he stays in the spotlight in the background. The worse she looks the better he looks. She does need to work on overcomming it though and stop letting it be her excuse. Her best defense against it would be to keep her senses in spite these people.

[izzatiizzatiizzati]

i <3 you! love you

[sk8rgrl49]

i love britney, but wait, how was britney's childhood bad??

[zane1234s]

Her childhood wasn't BAD, but she never really had one. It was all, like, singing, dancing, performing, auditions, and all that kinda stuff. From New York to LA, etc. And her fame hit HARD as soon as she turned 17. I don't think people would be suprised of Hannah Montanna lost it.

[sk8rgrl49]

wasn't her dad a drunk, and her parents didn't get along? and weren't they poor also? some things i heard....

[Andysauce]

P.S. BTW, hey B. Scott, I support you and agree with most of what you have to say. I laughed so hard when you told the e-BALLURS to take up a hobby like knitting or something because that's EXACTLY what I was doing while I was watching that video! I'm slow at subscribing (don't worry, I'll get there!), and -as you once asked- I'm from Tampa, FL. I'm an English major at USF, so logically, I feel as though I can throw my own weight around :)

[Andysauce]

As a result, since I've moved stateside, a lot of new friendships that I try to make tell me that I'm too motherly, but that's the main way I know how to express my love.

I think it's a fine line between allowing the past to help define you, and just living in the past altogether, and if we're not careful, we can slip into the latter. I think for this reason, Britney should definitely be given some leeway, and the paparazzi totally needs to get off her back anyways. Let the woman live her life!

[Andysauce]

My past is VERY relevant to who I am today. I grew up as a navy brat in a single parent home, and an only child no less. I learned to grow up quickly, and as a result of my mom always going out to sea, I became very independent, and because my friend's parents were always out to sea as well, we learned how to take care of each other; to be each other's parents. We questioned each other's goals and gave out our own hands to help each other because we had no one else there to help us.

[shorty1469]

i mite not be a childhood celeb... but jus cuz she didnt have a childhood... doesnt mean she needs to be actin like a child especially wen she has 2 kids and now anotha one on da way... i really hope she doesnt end u like dem otha mothers killin her kids cuz she has saver PPD but i also think dat everyone should jus leave her alone

[yorkie4220]

britney, britney, britney.. so tired of celeb sympathy.. but u still rock, <3 muffin!!

[rissytinker]

lol could you IMAGINE if their mom put out a parenting book lmao oooooh my goood. i would read it just to laugh. i sometimes wonder if she wanted jamie lynn to get pregnant to keep all eyes on the spears... its a sick but possible theory, she was probably hoping for a reality show... they need help, not publicity... in the words of chris crocker LEAVE BRITNEY ALOOOOONE lol... its true, this family needs so much help they should disappear from all media for quite awhile.

[RONIECE21]

i love the swoop!

[KingofDApin]

I think her mother is really selfish...trying to live her life through britney and Jamie... :/

My dad has done and does that now to me and my little brother...It truly effects almost every aspect of our lives...We try hard to be sane but at times we have our slip ups and we realize how much our father and mother have really affected us... :[

I hate parents..i'd never put my child through that misery..i'd love them for whatever they want to be and not try to make them something else.

[uchegab]

correct! your childhood affects your adulthood

Fraud theory.

[empressqueen]

It's "Freud", love...but I know what u saying

[Oftheforgotten23]

I seriously wish that more woman think like you (not that you are one), I just feel like you're more intune and aware of people and behavior patterns that mothers these days simply lack for some reason. You have a really good understanding of things. To answer your question I think parents should be accountable for their children during the child-bearing years (1-18) after that then i belive the child has an individual responsibility to overcome childhood traumas, and to heal and grow.

[pheonixphire]

i think you are right. i mean the things people say even in a off handed way can affect a child and enstill things in you that as a dult you never even knew was there. like when my boyfriends tells me i am beautiful i cry..its so hard for me to hear that becasue all my life i never got that fromt he most important man in my life..my father.

[pheonixphire]

he was the first person to make me question my beauty and that just paved the way for everyone else in my life who calle dme fat or ugly to bring me down. i belived them becasue if my father thought i was too then it must be true. so i do think that what happne din your childhood affects you as an adult. even if you dont relize that it dose.

[stayfly4]

I agree with u!! Totally!!!

[bpittman09]

i DO BLAME THE MOTHER BECAUSE MAYBE THEY, (BRiTNEY AND JAMiE), DiDNT GET ENOUGH OF ATTENTiON FROM THEiR PARENTS OR WHOMEVER AND THEY ARE NOW LONGiNG FOR ATTENTiON THAT THEY NEVER HAD!

♥QUEEN

[Jlori88]

Amazing!!! U r so right ...

[babyphat009]

lol

"Check out my little swoop action!"

that's something i'd say!

[princedepressia]

Britney's mom is a bitch, IMO... Jamie-Lynn obviously wanted to keep it a secret. Okay, mistakes happen, but you DO NOT use your CHILDREN'S mistakes and air it on a damn magazine just because you get millions of dollars out of it?

I mean, aren't their paychecks enough? No one deserves a mother like this, really.

[mpurnell5]

my friends and i had some childhood issues that were parallel. its crazy because most of them continued to act out in negative ways into adulthood, but i didn't. however, i did make a horrible decision when i was 20, to do something that stemmed from childhood problems. so my answer is: some people can dust themselves off, but others continue to walk into the same wall. the point is our past molds us.

[avendanoc]

I think you could only use your childhood to a certain extent. Yes if you had a huge drama i can understand the effect it takes you as an adult. Losing your virginity to someone you love doesnt take a huge toll. It's not like her mother beat her down..took her money away. you cant use that excuse to bring up your own kids. you want to be much better then your mother. but now being a brat wondering around changing outfits is not quite the mother's fault.

[dzulinisgirl]

My mom refused to allow my sister and I to use my father's absence as an excuse.Britney's mother and father owed it to her to enable her to grow..not come up with excuses.Time to grow up.

[tubester1234]

i think it is possible that your childhood affects how u r as an adult but da only 2 not being affected is changing the way u r 4 da betta

[mzshai79]

monkey doodle fool lol, i love Britney and her music...but daem she can't take a fart without the paparazi being around

[lilshawty602]

damn man... or (women)

u kewl with me

[BunmbleK]

B.Scott I agree w alot of what you say and I

Luv your site keep on keepin on BUMMBLEK. I

Subscribed to you also MS. THANG!

[yorkhugo]

Im a fan of the swoop!

[VioletSauce]

I agree with a lot of what your saying. I do think peoples childhood have a lot to do with how they act as an adult. That said I also think no matter what you may have gone through if you know right from wrong then you should be held accountable for your actions.

[chanley608]

of course its becaus eof bad parenting. These people pimp their young children to the masses to make money of their budding sexuality. Just like the whole B2K debacle. This probably went on with all "boy" bands. Britneys behavior - and her sisters current scandal - are a result of a bad childhood caused by bad parenting.

[Clacci34]

Everyone's past affects them in a negative or positive way. I will say this. Thank GOD my life is not on TV. You can't act as if your shit don't stink. We all have issues we can attribute to our past. You have two options SINK or SWIM.

[markdodge126]

You are so right..you go gurl...I agree with everything u gots to say

[JayMay06]

You can use your childhood to EXPLAIN the way you are but not to EXCUSE. You can only make excuses for so long.

[pornanyone]

childhood experiences do affect you. It's healthy to address the past and how it's shaped you. BUT, The past is not an excuse to hurt others or yourself. It's your responsibility, as an adult, to get professional help when you realize you've lost control of your life. You must make sure that those around you will not suffer because of your past

[origin760]

I think that your childhood can affect you. My father beat my mom until I shot and killed him. I was 12. I wasn't right until I was 25.

[lawrencedaman]

I think a person's childhood can effect them however, when that person starts to mistreat others. All excuses or reasons go off the table. Brittney is a horrible mother point blank. She can't use what her mother did or didn't do as an excuse. If we were to logically follow this to it's conclusion, Brittney's mother has an out because of the way she was brought up.

[LBloggie]

lol i kind of think britney needed a moment to rebel and maybe the rebel phase hasnt ended

[lele89119]

I'm sick of people treating her like a victim all the time. we had issues in our past. and since she took that paparazzo to a hotel this past weekend,(there's video footage of this) i have officialy lost the little bit of respect i had left for her. SHE BRINGS THAT ATTENTION ON HERSELF.

[Yanadew]

Britney is a Torch Song! Her whole life so far! Yes, her childhood has a effect on her, mother, grandmother, all that drama is hard for anybody! Their mom has major issues!

[MaddamL]

I cant stand when people defend Britney Spears because the bottom line is she has KIDS and they need her. I think that our childhood does shape our personality and that you can be damage long term because of it BUT her children didn't ask to be here and all that cry baby boo-hoo poor me sh*t has to stop.

[ThIsGyrLisPosion]

I would argue that if any parent was filmed constantly and had the media only expose the "better" stories would look like a horrible parent. "[she] don't see no harm in working and being a mama."

[msdrella]

Experiences help to shape who we are as people... I agree 100% B. ...

[lookntofck]

Hey B

We all have things that happen in our past but at some point we each have to take responsibility for our own actions! At no time is it ok to go around actn like a dumb ass cause of your past, step up and be your own person!

You are the bomb BSCOTT keep it up!

[dnb200]

oh & i luv the swoop action :)

Merry Christmas!!

[dnb200]

i think a lot of celebs just get so far away from reality that they really lose their minds because they are so catered to and ppl expect so much out of them and they cant even live their lives normally, it takes its toll

im sure her life growing up had something to do with it as well and ppl handle things differently, i think she just need real ppl around that can provide a sense or normalness in her life

[TheRocketHero]

Personally, I dislike Britney Spears, but I wholeheartedly AGREE with you. Mother is God in a child's eyes. Parents GREATLY influence who people become to be.

[QuintonTV]

Wow!! This was a great Vlog!!

You are the truth, B.Scott!!

[AndreasZone]

Hey mate, i really agree with you 100%...people only wants from her only the best... no one is perfect, she's a human like as

[DivaDeb1234]

You are a compassionate and patient person, B. We need more people like you on this planet.

DIVADEB

[thewestindiangirl]

i think you can use your past to explain who you are now but once you're an adult you can't use you childhood to excuse it. at some point you need to get whatever counseling you may need for you to become a healthy and stable individual.

[RaveGrave]

i agree with you B. 100%

[windcu]

People are not their experiences. If you hold on to the past that is all you'll see. Free your mind!

[SuperBlaze22]

Britney has no one to blame for herself her mom is only a small piece of the problem!

It's funny cause people thought that Christin Aguilerra would have been the STUPID one and cleary she played ya'll for a fool.

Note worthy {true}vocalist & a Stable life and didn't let her career interfer with her personal life!

People like Britney are jokes this has been going on for too long! Shes not gonna get it together.

[chrissys31]

Yes your right I think the mama is living off them and being the kid and not giving motherly advice because she has to kiss their ass or the money might stop! Yes my husband has a son from previous marriage and his mom let him and his girl shack up in their basement and guess what...yup girl was prego!

[dawnderer26]

I believe that childhood trauma affects people into adulthood. I discuss that in my therapy group. There are things that have happened to me that even affect how I date. Go figure!

[dawnderer26]

I think celebrity is enough to drive anyone crazy. It's unfortunate that the media focuses on women gone wild instead of men (what about Haley Joel Osment and his DUI/weed bust?? did't hear more than a whisper). Mama Spears needs to focus on her daughters. I

PS Ever see Dexter on Showtime? Talk about childhood traumas that can affect you! For reals! lol

[XaiJaiDaDoness]

U hit dis shit all ova da head!!!

*Ima post a vid response when I get home...*

[RhinestoneGlove]

yes being a michael jackson fan the way he talks about childhood, i think childhood is very important its our first view on life things that effect us in our childhood are with us for the rest of our lives. every child needs a childhood

[rlw10101010]

I love your Grandmother's words of wisdom "I am paying for your bowels to move." Across your forehead looks like you are rocking some finger waves.

[sta937]

I'm sorry B. Scott.. The swoop is comin' across on camera like a combover.. Maybe it's the lighting.. It looks a lil'.. how u say.. ugh.. bustedness.. Lawd knows I'm not tryin' to hate.. It's just my opinion B.. Much luv and respect!!!

[barstowmama]

B! Say that that is NOT a combover! Oh HELLTOTHEMONKEYDOODLENAW! The turban, yes...the ponytail, yes...the natural curly loveliness, hell yes...but the combover...."is not the business." As for them Spears what can I say, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. And why do we care? This happens every day in many communities and no one blinks. But let a Spears drop a load and life stops. The mother needs to be pimp slapped for not raising her kids right. Point blank!

[Littlewater]

You cant blame the parents all the time...most parents naively want to keep there kids as innocent as possible as long as possible..its unfortunate that we live in a world where thats getting less and less probable....If parents are a source of light and the world is jet black how can you expect kids NOT to be a shade of GREY!!!!

[Littlewater]

The experiences and consequently the decisions you make for yourself concerning them when we are young utimately affect how you choose to deal with similar and subsequent expereinces as you get older. It a shame though that people feel that an age be it 18 or 21 automatically wipes your mind blank of the foundation you already have...its not possible and depending on the situation can take YEARS to "rewire"...

[xy11xy]

I remember seeing Britney on a talk show here in Toronto when she first started. She seemed a normal teenager...she said "yes ma'am" when Dini Petty asked her a question. I think it's primarily the fame. Mom probably lost control when her girls started making more money than her...she probably gave up and succumbed to the Hollywood machinery.

[jacybabi]

I think the cause of Britney Spears erratic behaviour is definitely to do with her childhood and mother. Her mother just seems to be pimping out her children for everything she can get. In reference to her being a child star, that must have added to her problems I guess but look at Beyonce. She was a child star and her parents PUSHED her but she hasn't been acting crazy so far.

B.Scott I must say your videos lately have been on point. Keep in going. luv ya xxx

[antoniastfu]

You can to an extent. It depends on the situation and it also depends on the influences they have in their life to DO BETTER. Some people live and learn, others just wanna sit and sulk and be all woe is me and not realizing that their only stalling their own process. I don't know just like you said everyone is different. I feel for them more than anything though. Life is hard! & you only get one...Merry Xmas!

[LadyKay29]

Everyone should be held accountable for thier actions but there are reasons why ppl act out. Some ppl are on drugs, since they were kids cause they couldn't handle the trama. but to hold them accountable is one thing but to condemn then is another. It also helps when you have ppl around you that have your back so that you can get the help you need to handle those problems.

[iriegal]

Actually in my case my childhood did affect my adulthood. The only difference between me and a celebrity is I don't have people with cameras up my crotch every minute. They really need to leave her family alone.

I do agree at some time the mother should STOP trying to be in the spotlight and be a PARENT..

ONELOVE...YOU SAID IT BEST!!

[jiatv]

Britney's the business...I really hope she gets it together. I blame her mother also...not 100% but I do. I think that right now, shes just lashing out b/c she didnt get a chance to have a REAL childhood. Lynn was pushing, probably trying to live out her dreams through Brit...either or, Britney...Jia loves you.

[blackprincess9789]

I LIKE YOUR SWOOP ACTION! IT'S REAL CUTE!

Anyways, I put all the blame on the mother. I think that Britney and Jamie have been running things for a long time because they are making the money for the family. So they have authority of their mother. They probably have people around them telling them "yes" all the time. And those "yes" people are hurting them in the end.

[maymajesty]

I had to grow up faster than I wanted and needed to, but once there is a life that you are responsible for, it's time to pull it together. I was perfect by no means, but I used my mistakes as stepping stones and learned from them. She is not doing that in the least.

[maymajesty]

I vote no. I do feel there is an effect from childhood upbringing, but once you reach a certain age...early to mid teen, you know the difference between right and wrong. Once you reach adulthood, you make a choice as to what direction you want you life to go in. There is not reason she should not have been seeking some type of counseling. She has the resources. I was a teenage mother at 16. I did not continue to have children.

[l0v3m3oseven]

i totally agree with you .. I feel that every experience in life is like paint on a canvas

[EssenceOfTruth]

I think it does show that Britney has some sort of psychological illness going on. No one saw that this was affecting her..infact, I think none of her family members has the sense to get help. Yes, you can say your childhood comprehends your adult behavior. Michael Jackson is in the same rut.

[BeCoily3Paula]

Yeah it can be an explanation but it cant be a justification. Everyone goes through things. You have to learn and grow from the experiences. At the end of the day you cant use that to be a victim your entire life. When you enter into adulthood & have kids you have to face it, deal with it and not let it hold you back and/or affect other people's lives.

[leo469nw]

i won't jus blame the mother, where was the father. britney is looking 4 love in all the wrong places and the 2 men who she loved first justin then went on tv talking about how he and her had sex then k-fed and all the shit he did, NOW SHE LIKE WHAT DO I DO NOW, I CAN'T I FIND LOVE. I THINK SHE DEPRESS.

[luvcaponesprotege]

For some reason this made me think of Emmanuel Lewis. I wonder what's going on with him. I agree with you childhood up bringing has a major impact on who you become as an adult. My life is case and point.

[luvcaponesprotege]

Ohh, but I wanted to add that you should always be held accountable for your actions because we ALL should know right from wrong.

And I'm loving the swoop, lol

[relir]

What would be interesting to know is at what age their mother lost her virginity and at what age did she start having kids. That could, very well, influence one's perception/values as a parent.

[SCteacher843]

I love the swoop

[relir]

Once you recognize the problem it's up to you to get that help. You have to take responsibility and step up. Those two girls have had resources to do that. I don't think they've been raised to be held accountable for their actions. They have been shielded from that due to fame, riches and an overly accommodating mother; whereases, the rest of us find out real quick that the hurt we experienced as children will not justify acting a monkey-doodle fool.

[relir]

Also, I feel that 16yrs old is sort of young to be starting a family; however, every person's life is different. I consider how early people, say, 3-5 generations ago started their families. My great-grandparents started in their teens - they were married, they were Christian (not that that matters in these days); they had 13 kids and took care of all of them. They were good parents. Each life has a different calling. You know that.

[wilsonf15]

the only thing you should be worrying about are your children because its going to be a cycle. Lynn is worrying about a book not her daughter. Britney is worrying about a comeback albumn not getting custody of her children back if they all dont grow up now whats next for jamie lynn

[relir]

Speaking of 16yr old mothers, did you know that actress/comedian Whoopi Goldberg had her child at 16yrs old and that her daughter also had a child at 16yrs old? I've been following her though the years, esp. now since she's on 'The View' and she seems like she's been a good parent despite that.

[wilsonf15]

She has every resource available to her she can get family counciling or whatever they need to straigten things out in her home. im not saying i dont understand her story because i can only image the stress of becoming that famous at such a young age, but my point is that when you have children your childhood issues need to take a back seat you are now a mother and you should behave as such and do everything in you power to be the best mother you can. !!!

[relir]

exactly. But, I guess, everyone is different. I think of Keyshia Cole and how, at age 25, she's been through a lot, yet is a level headed adult. She's used her resources to improve the lives of herself and her family. But, then, there's Mary J. Blige who, remember, was have a hard time in her 20's, but is now alright.

[wilsonf15]

of course there is a coorelation between childhood and adulthood but....when you have kids all that BS should go out the window britney spears has two small children and for her to continue on with this behavior is ridiculous.

[ebonyd4ever]

I think you hit the nail on the head when you said, "by the Grace of God I am in my right mind." I think everyone goes through terrible experiences, and I believe that the mind is a very fragile thing.  Based on what I have heard of Britney's past, it is no wonder that she is acting out. HOWEVER, we have the power to break the bonds of our past. I pray that soon she will be ready to break the bonds of her past and move into healthy future.

[relir]

It's not a matter of 'using' what happened to you to explain. Those things, like you said, affect a person. Her mother, I realize now, has focused on the wrong things as it pertains to her daughters.

[mancheeks64]

We only have so much room, B. Scott. But I agree with you, everyone has different experience and it does depend on each individual. I had some terrible experiences, and it took it's toll on me for a while and it took me a minute to get it together. Well, outta room......

[BeeTeeV]

You can use your childhood and your past experiences only to a certain point..then you have got to start taking responsiblity for yourself..I have been through all types of shit but I'm still managing to hold things together..and I wouldn't never call myself a very strong person...but like you said Bscott..she was a childhood star and I have never been that.lol.

[charismaticdiva81]

I'm first! lol However,I personally don't think her childhood has nothing to do with her current behavior.Brit is a grown as woman who is fully aware of behavior.I think using your past is cop-out.Thats why you live,learn and grow!