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  • @aw7159,

    You're right. I'd rather have autism and be unique than be a worthless NT troll on YT with nothing better to do. And to those that are saying we should be aborted/euthanized, how would you feel if someone said all NT's should be exterminated? If it's someone that's a waste of human space, it's those trolls.

  • Your super cute :)

  • Love your video!

  • Thank you!!!! That's all I have to say.

  • You have it right! We are the way God needs us to be. At a time when computers & Science are evolving furiously more & more of us are going to be needed & QUICKLY! So much so a family nearby with 3 already who had a vasectomy had another blessed event ANYWAY! If we are not aborted & brain damaged with glutamate under the 40 different names it hides under in shots, foods & IVs & with heavy metals & our diets are OK we'll get rid of those pesky killer asteroids, build FTL starship engines, etc.

  • very sweet video I love your perspective

  • I Was Diagnosed With Aspergers Syndrome At A Young Age! I'm Usually A Curiosity In School And Get Questioned Quite Alot Although I'm High Functioning And Don't Show Much Signs Of Autism. It's Wonderful To See This Child, Knowing That There's So Many More People Like Me Out There Who Were Born With A Gift And Different Perspective And Way Of Thinking. Despite Some Of The Ignorant Comments Made Against Me I Always Remember That I'm Proud To Be Different.

  • THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS!!!!! and I know how chris feels! I have autism too and I hate when people apologize because I have autism! I love being autistic and who I am! Your son is beuatyfull

  • hes a cutie, how old is he? how was he diagnosed? we wernt able to get a diagnosis for our daughter until she was 4.shes 6 now. starting to wonder if our son has it also....he is 20 months.thanks.

  • good video

  • wow this is fantastic :D

  • Thank you for sharing this with us, it was very nicely created.

    We are new to the "offical" autism diagnoses. It gives us great comfort to watch what other families experience.

    Since no two children with autism are alike, it is nice to see positive stories full of love, hope and acceptance.

    Your son is beautiful and we wish your family much love, lots of happiness and many blessings!

  • Thank you for sharing this with us, it was very nicely created.

    We are new to the "offical" autism diagnoses. It gives us great comfort to watch what other families experience.

    Since no two children with autism are alike, it is nice to see positive stories full of love, hope and acceptance.

    Your son is beautiful and we wish your family much love, lots of happiness and many blessings!

  • Who is a more "valuable" human being, a beautiful, happy, delightful little boy who brings joy and blessings to everyone who knows him, or some loser who gets off on insulting disabled people on YouTube? If I had to choose to be born an autistic child who is loved and cherished and an important part of a family, or a mean-spirited hateful person who thinks that the disabled have no value and should be euthanized, I would much rather choose to have autism, thank you very much.

  • @aw7159 Very well put,.. I think it's due to the ignorance of ppl who never had to 'deal' with Autism. And ofcourse there are many uneducated and cruel idiots on youtube.

  • @aw7159 In my opinion they are both equally valuable. There's allways a story behind a person, even behind the persons we tend to call "mean-spirited". And I believe we should find a way to cope with people who might sometimes prove to be "hard to love".

  • Thank you for the effort of a positive outlook on autism, looks like its badly needed giving some of the responses.

  • i found your video very comforting..my Son is autistic also..and he is the light of my life..i feel sorry for the ignorant people out there...i will pray that god shows you people NO mercy!!you are very sad and pathetic individuals..i can't believe that you feel the need to type such nasty hateful and hurtful things about young children that have a life long disability,as if it was their choice or their parents choice!Autism is NOT a choice!!

  • The words you use to articulate yourself suggest intelligence....the mind numbing dribble that you use as your core point " however" state otherwise! stop looking at autistic related vids if it causes you somuch distress, get a life, get some friends, or perhaps an education. You are the kind of human that starts wars or discourse, pointless effort with distressing outcome, get over it, get some therapy and perhaps look up some music videos instead, there there!

  • The thing is greggor88, there are many holes in your opinion, you call autistic children/people "a useless shell of a human being" , and that they should no longer live...... well surely if we are to say that! are you tarring everyone that can't do things exceptionaly well, with your brush? If we were to think that, surely lets kill all that can't pass exams and do well in school? shall we? DO the words facist or biggott spring to your mind?

  • Autism and theory of mind does not mean that we view other people as objects like a blender or a refrigerator. What it does mean is that Aspies will more likely interpret a social situation intellectually/analytically compared to a more empathetic approach by neurotypicals.

    Drmaier did not initiate the process of having that hate-filled video removed. It was me who notified others in the Autism/Asperger community. All of us who viewed it agreed that flagging it was the right thing to do.

  • I am curious about something. Was your kid diagnosed with classic autism or Asperger's Syndrome? It looks like he is an early reader.

  • When ppl open up a bit of their world on you tube, why is there a minority of self "opinionated ppl who feel they can say things like "retard" and the like. Autistic kids ae not retarded, they percive the world differently. What's so wrong with that? My son is Autistic, and he is a magical human being, just like my " typically developed" daughter. I recently saw a comment on one of these vids stating that all autistic kids should die,how mind numbingly pathetic! live and let live! Stop the bile!

  • I must say that I cry when I see this lady,mother,somebody's wife's videos, she can be so brave,she fears not to be open. Amazing!) I was abused badly by my family,and extended family members. How the possitive forces got me through to the age I am (being autistic) is still amazing to me,had I had a possitive role model such as this and PhilCommando too,I would have suceeded long before in my life,but it is only know I am grasping the concept in my life.

  • no way hes good looking :)

  • He's adorable!

  • i just want to say thank you!!

  • Hi Gregor, I think you're pretty disgusting yourself.

    Perhaps your mother should have donated to the hungry children rather than raised someone so vile and hateful.

    personally, I really enjoy spending time with my kid. The two most important things a mother wants in her child is for it to be a nice person and a happy person. My son is both of those things. There are many technical jobs that aren't communication-oriented, and he will probably have a good job, maybe better than yours.

  • First of all, you uneducated bafoon, there is no test you can take while pregnant to detect autism

    Second of all, autism is thought to be genetic, so if I were to "try again" as you suggested, the child could also be autistic.

    My son is healthy and happy, he has a lot of people around him who like him and care about him. by all means HE should be just fine. It's YOU I'm worried about. You don't seem very happy. Maybe your mommy didn't hug you enough?

  • Nope. It is not the same test. A test to detect autism has not been created. And if it were, I wouldn't have opted for it. I'm not dissapointed that my son has autism.

    Seriously, why are you so concerned with trying to insult me? It only makes you look more petty to attack some person you know nothing about on the internet. I'm a happy mother, I couldn't have asked for a sweeter, funnier or more charming child. Hate to break it to you, but YOU don't determine whose life is valuable or not.

  • Perhaps one day, when one of those "retards" owns the company you work for, you will change your mind about autism. until then, find someone who cares about your stupid rant, and see if they will let you place a value on their kid. Cause that's not happening here.

  • Drmaier, how old is your son?

  • What are you talking about? What error?

  • I think you're being a troll looking for a response to have a flame arguement... If you suddenly got a stroke and found yourself unable to communicate your thoughts and express your feelings, you'll see a whole another side...and I bet your opinion on what is considered a "retard" would change really fast...

  • Hahaha!!!!sorry to disapoint but I have not taken offence at all,or even squirmed once. I also find it hilarious that idiots like yourself really get a kick out of it all-"a pitiful excuse for creature" "utterly useless shell of a human being"

    I think you have discribed yourself perfectly by the sounds of it-please carry on posting comments you are hilarious! They say its the weird saddos of the world that pick on the vulnerable-I think you have proved that,Oh my god you are one weirdo!Lol

  • Greggor88-if you care so little about Autistic people why take the time to find the videos, watch them, and then post comments?

    What a loser!!!!!!!!!

    Autistic people are worth a million of you.

  • So what if he's Autistic?! Who says an Autistic child can't grow up to a really good lifestyle?? Didn't Albert Einstein have Autism? And look at him!!! So shut up! He CAN contribute to the world!

  • Here's another troll looking for attention...

  • By the sounds of things, he got it

  • I love your theory that the scientists are the idiots in this society, since it was them who diagnosed einstein with autism by an analysis of his life.

  • I don't think there's any evidence that suggests Einstein being autistic. I've seen it debated whether he was dyslexic or not.

  • Well, I personally know, that in literature about epilepsy, it is claimed, that Einstein had epilepsy. So, I guess it's just a common thing to write some historical figures had "this-or-that" to give the people a bit more confidence and stuff. Like "It's not that dramatic. Many historical figures had "This-or-that"".

  • what's lulz? Lulz is the unstoppable force that regulates the cosmos.

  • ur son is cute :P

  • wats lulz!? i am just telling tanja to get a brain!!

  • i think tanja is simply doin it for the LULZ at this point

  • tanja would u should the fk up alrdy!!

    i have ahd it with u stop thinking that

    all people with autism are the same the people who raped u mabye ! they parents sed it was ok and mabye they was forced to do it!!

  • Jesus! it looks like the only thing happening on this page is an argument. How long will this go on? btw person that posted this video, these comments are only to generate many delectable lulz. anyway if you look in the fine print of the ED article about aspergers it is making fun of people who self diagnose themselves to get attention

  • cant we all just get along

  • Achtung!  Wir haben ein "Attention Whore!"

  • Go find something better to do... like play in traffic.

  • O'rly! No one wants to see your lifes story on the internet.

  • Then why are you spending the time to comment on this video...? I think you need to see a therapist about your irrational fear and hatred of autistic persons.

  • How would you know how I'm afraid of Autistic people? I never told you. Anyway, I just know the truth about them. They sexually harrassed me at a summer camp and did other terrible things. I want Autism awareness because I want people to know the truth about them and how violent and perverted they often are.

  • Yes you definitely need a therapist.

    You are over generalizing. That would be like me sating "I was raped by a german man. I just want to show the world how violent and perverted Germans are."

    That is just not logical, though. And you inferring that my four year old autistic son is violent and perverted is also not logical.

    The damage you are causing to the perception about kids like my son is not worth your silly, illogical crusade. Please go see a therapist.

  • No, you're wrong. There is nothing about being German that causes people to become rapists. This is unlike Autism because Autistic people do not care about other people and do not know that they have feelings. This makes them more likely to commit a violent act even though not all Autistic people are dangrous. Autistic people cost money from society, how many people would not live in poverty if the money spent on Autism was spent on them instead?

  • You obviously don't know a lot about autism. Autism is a COMMUNICATION disorder. While some autistic people have difficulty expressing their emotions - believe me, they have them. They care for and about people. There is nothing about autistic people that "causes them to be rapists."

    If you were to tally the total number of people raped by Germans against the total number of people raped by an autistic person, you would find that Germans cause more destruction.

  • Autistic people do not care about other people, every person who has written a book about Autism has written at least one section of the book about it. I never said that all Autistic people are rapists, but they are sexual people like us all who have trouble expressing themselves and don't care about other people. I belive you that there have been more German rapists than Autistic rapists, but there are more Germans than Autistic people, and how many of the German rapists were Autistic.

  • It is clear to me and snyone reading your comments that you are a hate-driven person. Someone should tell you what happened to Hitler as a result of his ignorant actions... or perhaps you think killing mass amounts of people is logical or moral?

  • I am not hate driven at all, what I want is for people to be safe. Hitler was extemely evil and I would never think of killing off mass numbers of Jews or Slavic people. What I am doing is trying to let people know about the Autistic boy who raped me and how he was willing to do such a terrible thing because Autism made him apethetic; and for people to think of the numbers of potentially people who could be saved with the 90 billions that is spent on Autistic people.

  • By the way, autistic people are people, too!! Those "people in society" includes them, you narrow minded, prejuduce, ignorant fool. YOU cost money from society. YOU are spreading hatred, that makes you a bad person - less deserving to live than others... is that your point? Because even though i think you are mindless scum... I still think you deserve the right to live. Maybe as you get older, you will change your ways, maybe not.

  • When I say people in society I mean people who actually contribute to it. I do not cost society anything at all, in fact I even have a job. I can tell that you're realizing I'm right and you don't want to admit it and can't think of anything logical to say I'm wrong based on the way you openly insult me. Think about people who live in poverty because money is directed toward Autistic people instead of toward them, if they were better educated they could have better jobs and contribute more.

  • Autism did not make the boy apathetic. Again, that is just like saying that German people are driven to violence because the influence of hitler's regime made them apathetic. (I am german, btw.) Part of Hitler's brainwashing technique was to put math prolems about how much it costed to support disabled people as a way of making it okay to kill them. To make it seem as though they are not real people. My son is a person. People with autism are no more likely to be "evil" than any other person.

  • Autistic people are apethetic, everyone who knows anything about Autism knows that they have no ability to empathize and treat other people as objects;even the parents of Autistic children have said this.I never said anything about killing retards,all I said is that they waste money that could be spent on somthing better like helping people.Think about a 15 year old girl who lives in the city and is really poor and the people around her treat her like an object,how would she feel about Autistic.

  • Your lack of knowledge on this subject overwhealms me. I openly insult you because you sound just like a nazi right out of the T4 regime. Do some research on that, and you will see why I correctly compare you to hitler. Do some more research on autism and what it means to have this disability. I find you repulsive as a human being because you don't understand the value of human life. Kick rocks and go educate yourself before you try to tell me I don't have anything logical to say.

  • I know a lot about the T4.I also have already done a lot of reasearch about Autism.I am nothing like a Nazi because I never said anything about killing retards.About having a disability,it's a terrible thing worse than death and I would kill myself I had one;being loved is the most important thing to me.Autistic people will never find love,not just because of love, and are condemned to suffer.I would kill myself I ever became disabled.Life is better for those who are happy and do not suffer.

  • So what is your goal in commenting on this video? Do you hope that anyone reading your comments will hate autistic people and deem them not worthy to live? And what is the point of that? To make it okay to hurt and kill disabled people?!? You're sick, you need professional help. Your feelings are not those of a normal, stable minded person.

    Should I not celebrate my own child who brings me so much joy? I should be shamed of him and feel devastated?? I DON'T.

  • I never said anything about killing Autistic people at all, but you insist on saying I do. What I want is for no one to be raped like I was. It was a terrible experience and no one should suffer having it. When people describe me, the say that I am realistic and rational except I get terrified when I am near Autistic people; so you can stop the name calling. You should not celebrate Autism the same way you would not celebrate Cancer or AIDS. You should be upset, but not ashamed at all.

  • okay, so what is your goal is trying to make others be afraid of autistic people. Is your hope that people will be cruel to him? Avoid him? Deny his friendship? Call him a rapist? Do you want people to fear him?

    He's a good boy, he does love. My fear is that people like you will reject him, make him feel like less of a person.

    The devastation for my son has nothing to do with his disability. it comes from the fear that people like you will make his life a hell it should never have to be.

  • My goal is to make people aware of what some Autistic people do and what others are willing to do and what things are done as the result of Autism. It's truly painful for me to think about what it's like for a human being to be Autistic. There lives are already hell without people fearing them. I continue what I do because I don't want the hell to spread to other people's lives. I often feel it's too late for me; no one should ever suffer what I suffer through.

  • But you are not doing ANY of that here. (and that is still harmful to autistics.)

    All you have done is come on here, called me an attention whore, and bashed autistic people in every way possible. I think you've made enough of a fool of yourself, and my point has been made. I allowed you to comment on my video as a way to show people that Hitler's way of thinking still exists. You've done that, and now I'm blocking you.

  • I don't think realizing theory of mind has anything to do with being a Nazi. I'm sorry about the comments that were made here. I really think you should have been nicer to Tanja though, she was raped and it's likely impossible for someone who has been raped by and Aspie to ever not fear them. Are you really upset about Tanja being afraid of Aspies? Does it really matter if Tanja grows up and tells her kids to stay away from Aspies? You could have really upset her with what you said.

  • I don't care who she is or what she claims, she's a vile, disgusting, pathetic, hateful, ugly person. I think she needs to be placed in a padded room, immediately.

  • please doctor I apologise but I will speak for my little brother,I was nice til' I felt your fear and pain,allow me,please..."AnnaFleiscer1",yo­u are the reason the condom was made,especially for "your" father. And didn't anyone tell your mom you flush sh%#!,down the toilet,not bring it into the livingroom for all to see what came out of you body?!!Please any one who sees this comment come to the video and see the woman's comment to the child and mother.

  • I was raped by a Neurotypical,but that does not mean that all are that way,and I am one to say it is not right at all so do I asume that you are same,because you are a neurotypical.If you are taking it out on a small child and a mother who works to avoid this and educate those like her and him(me).Your friend on you list calls out for murder,and that is better?(Lord"whoever?!"...

  • Anyway to whoever said that we're being harsh to tanja is totally wrong. I saw her comments on this video about autism and they were SICKENING. She basically uses rape as an excuse to flame us autistics.

  • actually lacking TOM makes you unaware what other people are thinking or acting...I actually learned some stuff about that from watching fucking Gundam and Tenchi Muyo and other animes when younger....

  • @AlexKayukov

    No, Ted Bundy was just a sick psychopath!

  • TREAT people with it with out austim THE SAME RESPECT!

  • oh you have done the T4 research... good. Then you realize how everything you're saying is straight out of that regime's propaganda. According to your yt page, I'm not the first person who has confronted you about your nazi views.

    **Everyone go look at this persons page - she's one of the most hateful souls I have ever crossed.

  • That's not why they were sending me messages about. If you understood what else was written on my page, you would see that their messages were posted on Encyclopedia Dramatica. Welcome to Anonymous, what I did with them was not what I'm doing here, it was for the LULZ. This is for awareness.

  • Did you even watch this video?

    Does my son scare you?

    No. He loves people, just like all of the other autistic kids in his class. They are ALL caring individuals, no matter how high or low functioning.

    There are unpleasant neurotypical children as well, who throw tantrums, etc.

    You have to be careful when you make these generalizations. You do sound like a nazi.

  • Yes I watched the video, and yes he does scare me; how many times has he tried to kill his sister? Maybe none, or what will he be like when he grows up? What is his aggration like? Autistic people cannot love, they only hug and say they do because people have told them that it is a good thing to do and will make people more likely to cooperate with them. The only generalization that I am making is that Autistic people do not care about other people which has been confirmed by everything I read.

  • You need professional help. What you are expressing here is that disabled persons are less than human - and not worthy of life. Tell me how that is so different than what Hitler wanted? My son is a person, like other autistics, who loves, learns and deserves to live. I have not been diagnosed with autism, but it is very likely that I have it. I have never harmed anyone in my life; I certainly have never raped anyone. You DON'T know much of anything about autism!!

  • Autistic people are Human, but they are still dangrous. If you want to know how I am diffrent from Hitler, it is because I do not want to kill retards. They must be seperated from the population so that no one will ever be harmed by them. If a usless Autistic boy kills one girl than society has a loss, but if 1000 retards are removed from the country than there is a gain to society. Maybe the best thing is to send them to island Autistic colonies that are self governed and supplied.

  • Oh, okay, so they're worthy of life - just not human life like everybody else. maybe I could keep Chase locked in a dungeon, and it would be less expensive to feed him bread and water... would that satisfy you? And what are the chances of his success as an adult then? Autistic people DO work (again more proof of how ignorant you are on this subject) they do get married, fall in love and have children. But what are the chances of that happening when people like you would rather see them shunned?

  • Hurting autistic people with this hatred and prejuduce does nothing to ease the experience of rape. You can't just pick a group of people to judge based on your experience and try to ruin their lives because of what happened to you. All of your energy is channeled into an effort that is all in vain. Hurting autistic people by trying to make others reject them will do nothing to stop your bitter feelings. YOU'RE SICK. YOU NEED COUNSELING. Your problems are in your mind, and not in my sons world.

  • 3 boys & 2 girls from our village came & knocked on the house where the Autistic boy lives,then ran away.The father quickly approached them and they all apologised.My daughter was in the street with Luke(another neighbour's kid)& witnessed it all. When I picked my girls up from the childminder she told my daughter to tell me what happened. The autistic boys mother called the school and said my daughter was involved.She cried all day.The boys told the head she wasn't involved & he apologised.

  • Another parent who loves there child for who they are! Great to see. Good vid!

  • I used to love to crawl into tight spaces and I used to like trick or treating until my feet started hurting, then it was no fun!

    Great positive video. As an autistic adult I'm appalled by all the negativity I find on the net and all the videos that make it seem like it is the end of the world...

    No wonder why so many people feel so frightened. It doesn't have to be this way.

  • you're right m8

    i'm autistic myself, and although i had problems in the past, i have conquered them and come out a happy 17 year-old with 9 GCSEs and a promising future with the right support

    AUTISM FOREVER

    NO CURE

    NO CURE

    NO CURE

    NO CURE

  • It sounds to me that the child you are referring to would greatly benefit if all those who surround him were better educated about autism. Including you.

  • We all know about it and is very concerned because his mother and father gave up on him. I have been studying autism since last year. I walked him with the dog, he runs to me when his parents chase him out the house. But then again, you sound just like his parents. Keep lying for him, not talking to the 'victims' us, so we can help and guide with her. Just because she is tired and (sarcastic) we don;t work, we have no protection. He throws my daughters withs stones, he pokes with sticks!

  • It is people like you that make me fear for my son as he gets older. You shouldn't be allowed anywhere near an autistic if you feel "victimized" by them.

  • Exfuckin-actly! You as a parent with an autistic child should NEVER EVER EVER leave them alone. My point from the start you moron. Then again autism is genetic too, why I even bother talking to you is besides me. So yes, please keep your child by your side and in good care, because the kids he has lied about and got away with will victimize him, without a doubt. Unless you as a good parent sit down with the people involved & come up with a solution nothing will change.U should not b a parent!

  • I think you need to see a therapist about your aggressive feelings towards disabled people. Your viewpoint as expressed as comments on this video display a viewpoint that is dangerous for autistics; including the one whom you live by. Autistic people are PEOPLE. The negativity THAT HAS NO PLACE IN THE CONTEXT OF THIS VIDEO has nothing to do with me, my son, or the situation. In all honesty, you need to find something better to do. Because you clearly are not interested in a different perspective

  • I've not talked about u or ur son, I have referred 2 a 12 year old.He is unbelievably articulate.I was hoping for u to talk to me & ask relevant questions which I might not have asked myself.This boy has a restraining order and should stay 25meters away from 'Mathew'. When he played outside with my girls and their friends,the last thing he said was 'I wish Mathew was dead.One of the girls said that's not a nice thing to say,then he got aggressive and poked her with a stick.She has a big bruise

  • Well, if your hope was for me to help you or make suggestions, calling me a moron is probably not the best way to go about it. Like I said, possibly due to some things that are going on in your neighborhood, you have developed some aggression problems with the topic of disabled people. I suggest you seek professional help, both for yourself, and any disabled person involved. Once you have done that, and can communicate with me without being abusive, I would be more than happy to help you.

  • Oh so you're willing to help me? If that's true I will gladly accept it, if you accept why I have fear.

  • Thank you for making this video!!

    I am so tired of entering discussions about Autism or reading about it and there is all this doom and gloom. There is no way I could just live my life feeling sorry for my kid and holding pity parties monthly.

    Focus on loving the child, accepting them for who they are, and give them the most pleasant life they can live.

    My kid is just fine and I believe she will and has been living a fulfilling life.

  • You have a beautiful son. He reminds me of my boy, Connor, who you can learn more about by doing a search for "Connor Kremser" or "autism angel." Its comforting to know that other parents are out there who love their special children as much as we do. Good luck.

  • Again, I'm not sure what your point is...

    This video is about feeling sorry for people with autism. I am in favor of many interventions, I think every child should be given the tools to succeed. But this video has nothing to do with interventions.

    I'm very "impressed" by your statistical knowledge of this subject, I just wonder where it's place is in response to this video.

  • I just want people 2 know that they can B in the love em camp, but those who desire change 4 their children relative 2 behavior can love em just as much & can often find they help them in important ways 2.

    Best of luck 2 U & even more luck 2 your son. As then your luck will be 3x since I'm sure U care 4 him doubly so.

    Still effort is an important part of getting luck.

    My focus is making sure effort isn't discarded. Effort is critical 4 at risk child whether it B mental or behavioral.

  • I am autistic too, and all I can say is get to know the autistic people in your life, and assume NOTHING!

  • Reaching out to adults with autism has been the most helpful thing I've done all year. It's all about perspective.

  • Reaching out to adults with autism has been the most helpful thing I've done all year. It's all about perspective.

    DITTO for me!

  • I find it interesting, how when a little kid lines stuff like shapes or blocks up without a diagnosis, it is widely perceived as showing intelligence, focus, and the like, but when a diagnosis is attached, then it is perceived as pathological. I love to line things up at 18. I am going to college, though if I weren't capable of that, I would want just as much respect for who I am as I get now from people who know me well. Thank you.

  • Thank you so much, glory! And thanks for posting this on facebook for Chase, that was thoughtful of you. Take care!

  • Excellent! What a beautiful gift to your son. When Chase grows up I hope he is able to appreciate what a great mom (and dad, I'm sure) he was gifted with.

    Cheers,

    Glory

  • loved your video i too have a 4 year old diag hfa dec 07 he`s the best thing that happened in our lives. I think people think im strange as i kind of celerbrate his autism this is what makes him who he is SMART, FUNNY and BEATIFULL etc.

  • this is just so beautiful, i too have an autistic little boy and this just makes me so glad too know that there are other parents of autistic children feeling so proud of there babies.... bless your son he is just inspirational..

  • If we don't look at the positive how will they succeed?

    If we don't plan for the worst how will they succeed?

    Communication gets more complex with age & reinforcement thins from others whether we like it or not.

    If children remain nonverbal we must teach nonverbal communication that becomes more complex like sign language or PECS (picture exchange communication system) from Bondy & Frost.

  • Again, what is your point?

    Is it possible that you are assuming I haven't read the literature?!? Are you assuming my son doesn't go to speech and occupational therapy?

    Are you assuming I would be amazed by how you cited a couple of well known sources and feel you had imparted some profound and intense wisdom on me? Please. Assuming only makes an ASS out of U and ME.

  • the point is that WE autistic people aren;t "suffering" or "in pain", we just find some things more difficult than others, LIKE EVERYONE ELSE DOES

    we aren;t diseased, we're just different, and anyone who fears us because of that is no better than Hitler, or the settlers who slaughtered the native americans

  • my son Max is Chase's age, also pdd nos. you are an incredible mom with a beautiful child!!

    God bless you both,

    jack

  • heheeh, he is a true bookworm hehe, but seruiously though, really cool kid

    ( check out amanda baggs and the other sautistic and proud adults, there awesome ;-)

    take care good to chat on your utube spot, good day to you both

  • great parents

  • Love this!!! Thanks for sharing your adorable son & your awesome message. My daughter's favorite toys are small figurines too, she has a whole bunch of them (great for lining up!). I love the "I don't have to look at your face for you to know I love you." That is so very, very true!

  • I know they are wonderful for lining up!

    And best of all, THEY'RE CHEAP!!!

    Nothing makes him happier than plastic animals fromthe dollar store.

  • oh about the eye cintact thing also you kow in native american is not polite to make eye contactsee just like other races andcultures, autistics,disabled peolple,we are jut another rac/culture who learn communicate think act and interact different;-)its all good only cure needed is ignotant society fix that and we all can function and have a great life huh ? ;-)life islife for all it got up and down hard and easy times just life ;-)he like animals, i like cars and other things hehe )

  • thank you , I dont speak enghish but i want to thank you, Im not autist but the girl that i love is asperger and artist and I am a litle obsesive compulsive and bipolar, but for my is a gift that im poet and artesan, i lives happy for be a neurodivergent person, oohhh if my mother has been like you :)thankz

  • My son has "classic autism" and I found her video refreshing! How great to have someone celebrate our children, instead of pity them, no matter how severe their autism. Yes it gets hard sometimes, but where does pity get you? Nowhere. It's better to ENJOY life and ENJOY your children.

  • I think you need to differentiate between mild autism and Asperger's Syndrome, and severe autism. I've worked with severely autistic kids and adults, and they and their parents would give anything for a "cure." All the positive things Chase does, they don't.

  • My son does not have "mild autism or asperger's"

    What positive things were you referring to that my son does and the people you experienced don't?

    And WHY, exactly, do you feel the need to differentiate between these?

  • agreed, he not ill broke or diseased, no cure needed, accept respect appreciate, im moderate autisitc and i talk by sound, hands typong, words, multilpe ways, i flap chew toys ( im 25 ) rock,  ect, and so on, no eye contact, so what, i still full person and quique and by the way your son not only perfect as he is, hes cuuuute ;-)

  • I agree wholeheartedly. There are seriously disabled Kanners autistics who I relate more to in terms of what areas my difficulties lie than to "high functioning" Aspergians whose only troubles are in making friends and socializing - in fact, I am quite satisfied with my socialization skills and with my ability and interest to make friends. Though I tend to say less in conversations, because real-time speaking takes so much energy.

  • The kids and adults I worked with were so severely autistic that there was little chance for meaningful communication or daily functioning. They were shut off from the world by their condition. Most were also retarded. You need to differentiate between these folks and much higher functioning folks and those with Aspergers - they are worlds apart. What does your son have?

  • I notice he seems to make eye contact often, and smiles. You see him as "happy." I could not say this about the kids and adults I worked with. If they were ever really "happy" there was no way for anyone to know. They had nothing approaching real speech. Some could be trained to handle basic needs, others could not, some even wore diapers. I suspect that many folks have never seen anyone with truly severe Autism.

  • I would have to say, Profriend, that you don't understand autism very well at all. I find this a common phenomenon with people who work with disability, as opposed to people who love someone with a disability.

    i imagine if you worked with my son, you would see him as unhappy, feel sorry for him and wish for a cure. Don't feel sorry for my son or people like him. the biggest challenge autistic people face is the ignorance of the community surrounding them.

  • You seem to be the one who didn't understand ProFriend.

  • All of you give different angles, and diverse experiences, and you are all right, each has a different perspective, but main thing is that we all embrace Autism.

  • My son has autism. He is "high functioning" in the respect that he leads a happy, normal life. He is "low functioning" in that he has very little speech other than scripting, has frequent breakdowns, does not tolerate changes and has extreme difficulty in communicating appropriately with his peers. The distinction you are talking about is a dangerous one - especially in the realm of parenting an autistic child.

  • Making that distinction implies that I should be less accepting of my son than those parents with a "higher functioning" child. You can see that Chase's eyes are half closed in most of the pics. that is because I had to be very quick with the camera to catch his glance.

    being "happy" has nothing to do with "how autistic" he is. MOST kids (autistic or not) enjoy the affection and silly games with their parents.

  • "being "happy" has nothing to do with "how autistic" he is." AMEN AMEN!!

  • I don't find it helpful to differentiate by functioning level. You say "most were retarded". But what do you mean by that word? My sons would be classified as such. I take it to mean slow to develop, not without the potential to develop. My sons have Downs and Kanner's respectively.

  • I think your comment is as ignorant as saying, "your son is only Bi, you would want him cured if he were a full-blown homosexual."

    Think about it.

  • No kidding. This boy's parents love him and everything about him. They dont look at him as different. He's their child. So stop being a dick. cutest kid i have EVER seen:)

  • Exactly. Unfortunately, there are a number of less disabled autistics who say "don't cure me, but go ahead and cure 'low-functioners'". I used to think this way. Then I started listening to the words of those who actually had Kanners LFA diagnoses, and I realized that I had just made assumptions about the feeling of people based on their appearance and abilities. And I am quite visibly autistic, both in mind and behavior. I can only imagine the assumptions a neurotypical person could make.

  • Just because someone gives appearance of being withdrawn from people/reality, because they don't communicate with speech/typing, doesn't mean their existence is a tragedy.

    I am dx'd Aspergers and while I am not severely disabled, I listen and respect the thoughts communicated by those with more difficulties. Just because a parent would give anything for a "cure" doesn't mean it's what the autistic individual wants. Even someone who doesn't laugh or smile much, doesn't mean they're a robot.

  • Thank-You for the video. I too have gotten some pretty awful comments about my daughter, She's so beautiful to bad she's "you know not right". How devestating.

  • What a great positive Video!! Your son is a Cutie Pie!!

  • Thank you, and other commenters, for these statements against the devastation rhetoric. Chase is a lucky kid to be so loved.

  • chase is gorgeous! he is really adorable! those eyes are just intoxicating. he is very lucky to have a mom that loves him so much. i loved the line about not needed to look at you to know that he loves you. i feel the same way about my son, eye contact isnt everything. thank you for your video.

  • Thank you so much, backtothegarden!

    It took me a long time to learn that eye contact isn't important. I used to beg him to look at me. I mean, like you said... those eyes! I just wanted to see them more often.

  • i know what you mean. i used to feel that by him not looking at me it meant he wasnt noticing me. but now i understand. he can't say i love you with his eyes or with his words, but my son finds his own ways to say it. when he kisses me, or holds my hand. or smiles when he sees me. that is better than anything in the world! i look foreward to hearing more about chase as he grows! good luck, and enjoy!

  • I like this video! :)

    I didn't talk much as a child too.

  • mewesq, is Wes verbal at all?

    Yes, Chase is three now, and I was amazed to learn that he really does READ! He's recently been spelling things out in foam letters, but it's very hard to find out exactly what he knows. I try not to push him when he's having progress.