Paul brilliantly describes the condition of selective mutism and asks the question in everyone's mind, Someone made her angry? Someone's got her scared?
In fact selective mutism is rarely caused by bullying or intimidation, it usually starts as any other childhood fear and it's the way people react that strengthens the fear to phobic proportions & avoidance.
Go to smira.org.uk for more information, free downloads and a chat forum with other parents and SM sufferers, past and present.
I had this as a kid. I always thought I was the only one, I didn't even know this condition existed, until I clicked on this video. Thank you, Paul, for solving one of my childhood mysteries. Just when I thought I couldn't love him more than I already do.
I found a page on selective mutism on wikipedia tonight, just by chance and when I was reading the symptoms it was just like me. I think this might be it. It would explain everything. Anyone have any advice?
Reading the comments, made me wannah post, I thot I was alone,too.... I thot there must be,something rlly wrong with me... Its nice tah kno im not alone.
@BLUE1SKY1DOVE Is it too much to ask that you at least make an attempt to use english properly? Honestly, I will never understand what motivates people like you to fuck with the language like that. I mean....."thot"? You have got to be kidding me.....
I have SM since I was 3-4.... now I'm 18..... can't get rid of it.... I was all my life bullied in school because I couldn't talk in front of the teachers, nor any other adult except my close family.... I had to change 3 times my school because of this.... I hope no one has to suffer like me because of SM... and I hope I can live a normal life in the future, without SM....
I didn't know what's wrong with me..I thought I'm going crazy but sometimes in my head is all I feel comfortable speaking..I was okay before but occasionally I choose to be quiet and they thought I was having my mood swing..but when I had to move school I couldn't fit in as everyone already knew everyone..I want to talk to someone but I don't know will they help me or disregard it..When I want to start talking I start to stutter I thought it make me look stupid anyway so I choose to keep quiet..
I've got Selective Mutism and I live a busy social life. I speak to some of my friends nonstop and can't shut up, but then around some other friends, I'm completely quiet and barely talk at all. I'll just sit and listen to their own conversations and many people who don't know me as well assume something's wrong, and I just assure them that everything is perfectly okay. Some people just make me feel alot more introverted than others haha
I think i have SM too.... I read the article in wikipedia 2 years ago and I discovered that a korean guy in America who's got SM killed people in his school-- and then killed himself afterward...
I started and I am slowly fixing my life... I most certainly dont want to be like him I am not giving up and YOU guys shouldnt as well... We will get through this--- help yourselves-- redemption will not always come from medications or other people.... :/
If you mocked me, "like a yap-a-yap-yap," I'd have very little to say to you, either, until meaningful apologies were forthcoming. "As you have done to the least of these. . . "
I have selective mutism too... I didn't know there are so many people with this too. I though I was an alien or something before discovering the exact name of my shyness. I think the society in general don't pay any attention to us, they let us suffer in this fucking shit. They should help us in some way. It's really painful can't talk to anyone and don't have anyone to love, it's the most horrible thing, I swear. And I'm sick of it, but I don't find any solution at all, and nobody seems to care
@1Beatlemaniac1 same here, I didn't get a real friend until I was 19 because of this. I could never speak to other people when I was young and when I was 17 I sometimes managed to try but always failed completely, ended up saying something incredably stupid or my grammar went to hell even though I know the grammar in my native language perfectly. Still today when I get stressed because I have to talk to other people I end up speaking with terrible grammar ...
I almost never talk at school only if a teacher talks to me. Or if i talk to my 1 friend (and i dont even talk to her much i just listen to her talk :P) I dont socailize either and cant stand being in crowds. no one really talks to me at school anyway and people in one of my classes thinks i am mute. I talk at home but i talk less cause no one listens, ignores me, interrupts and wint answer me. I talk loud at home. Even yelling sometimes wont get them to answerr me! :(Good luck to you all! :)
I had Selective Mutism as a child..in 1980. They didn't know what was wrong with me..I was traumatized by them trying to "help" me.
There needs to be more awareness of Selective Mutism so other children won't get hurt by doing the wrong things. Don't force or scold the child. Let them take small steps,let them talk through other people if they need to. Understand this is caused by anxiety and making them more anxious will just make it worse. Let them know they are loved just as they are.
I saw an interview where he explained where this song came from... basically he knew someone whose granddaughter did this (but was better by the time of the interview). And that's all he really knew - not why or the name of the disorder. I'm sure he knows now.
Ha, do you think we could ask him to do it? I'm sure he wouldn't, but.....
I'm 14 and i do like Paul says, i don't talk at school at all. I just can't do it. But i talk other places, sometimes to other people, but mostly my parents.
Hang in there brother. School days are rough. I had a difficult time because my Face would always get Red and i'd just be pretty much paralyzed and constantly anxious and thus unable to really speak. It can be rather difficult, but All things Must Pass. It will some day pass for you. I wish you the best of luck, and stay tight with your parents...that's a great bond to have. I absolutely love my parents!
@ShotGunAnd Yeah i am kind of like that. I almost never talk at school only if a teacher talks to me. Or if i talk to my 1 friend (and i dont even talk to her much i just listen to her talk :P ) I dont socailize either and cant stand being in crowds. no one really talks to me at school anyway and people in one of my classes thinks i am mute. I talk at home but i am talking less cause no one listens, ignores me, interrupts and wint answer me. I talk loud at home. Good luck to you! :)
I'll tell my daughter's teachers that even Sir Paul McCartney has obviously heard about SM, and written a song about it... that might make them sit up and notice!
I'm 17 and have SM. I was just told I have it by my doctor. I have suffered with it my whole life, but decided to finally do something about it to find out what was wrong with me. I had to have my mom tell my doctor for me, I just couldn't do it on my own. Now I'm on an anti-depressant and may need therapy. I won't allow SM to control my life any longer.
Off course u can. I have SM and i passed college the normal way, it wasn't easy but I did it. If I can do it, why not u, don't be negative, believe in yourself and everything will be allright.
@Pieter19 I wish i could, but because i wouldnt speak they wouldnt let me do the course i previously chose (which my friend also chose and is going to be doing.)
Yes that's a problem than, but still you can do it when you find another course you like. I know how you feel because I've had the same when I came to a new school without someone I had ever met before. I thought I would never pass but eventually I did. You can do more than you think you can, try to fight it every day, just like I did. Sometimes it wasn't easy but in the end I succeeded and if I can do it, why not you?
Off course u can. I have SM and i passed college the normal way, it wasn't easy but I did it. If I can do it, why not u, don't be negative, believe in yourself and everything will be allright.
Off course u can. I have SM and i passed college the normal way, it wasn't easy but I did it. If I can do it, why not u, don't be negative, believe in yourself and everything will be allright.
Off course u can. I have SM and i passed college the normal way, it wasn't easy but I did it. If I can do it, why not u, don't be negative, believe in yourself and everything will be allright.
I had SM through playgroup and during most of primary one and I still remember how difficult it was to start speaking. It wasn't that I didn't want to - I literally couldn't. Thankfully I got loads of help with it and after forcing myself to say hello one day, it just became easier and now I can't stop :)
It's an anxiety disorder where someone who can speak in places like home doesn't speak in social situations such as school. It's like a fear of talking.
I've had SM since Halloween. I just turned 14. :-/. Whenever I say SM people want to know what I mean... It's weird because at school I'm quiet unless I'm around my friends, at church I'm quiet unless I'm around anyone but one person...
I don't talk much, I don't have SM, but I just don't talk much. Not ever around my friends. I don't know why but even that's hard for me. I'd hate to see how hard it i for someone for SM.
This is one of my favourite songs from Paul, it's so different from his other stuff and... well, don't ask me why but it makes me think of something from Radiohead's OK Computer, something between Exit Music and Climbing Up The Walls, maybe beacause of the big drums, the fuzzy bass line and the atmospheric guitars...
Yes I too love the fuzzy bass line and the atmospheric Guitars and the big Drums.
The Music is excellent in this song "She's Given Up Talking" I greatly admire Sir Paul for writing a song about this subject matter Mutism. Thank you for posting this video!!
I'm glad your finding it easier, i wish i was finding it easier too but it is taking over my life. SM sucks. Your an inspiration to all us selective mutism sufferers out there. we will be routing for you to show us the way through it. Thanks x
I just discovered this song by reading a Wikipedia article on selective mutism. I believe that as a child, I was affected by but undiagnosed with this problem. It was very difficult for me to function in school and have a social life. Then I began talking online. I made friends and found online communities to talk to. I think I am almost over my social anxiety, shyness, and selective mutism....
@secretlymystery0307
vickyboy96 2 weeks ago
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Paul brilliantly describes the condition of selective mutism and asks the question in everyone's mind, Someone made her angry? Someone's got her scared?
In fact selective mutism is rarely caused by bullying or intimidation, it usually starts as any other childhood fear and it's the way people react that strengthens the fear to phobic proportions & avoidance.
Go to smira.org.uk for more information, free downloads and a chat forum with other parents and SM sufferers, past and present.
talktalk1985 3 weeks ago
I had this as a kid. I always thought I was the only one, I didn't even know this condition existed, until I clicked on this video. Thank you, Paul, for solving one of my childhood mysteries. Just when I thought I couldn't love him more than I already do.
Pommejaune78 3 weeks ago
Sounds exactly like me.
Karimbus1 1 month ago
And then one day, you click on a random video on YT, and the next thing you know your whole childhood is flashing before your eyes!
AmelieEyre 2 months ago 6
Paul does have a 'Dark Side'....
nakidsoul 3 months ago
i didn't know that a song about sm exists ... it's wonderful ,that mccartney has written about it
sverigeaerbaest 3 months ago
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CynicalBlondeChick 4 months ago
I found a page on selective mutism on wikipedia tonight, just by chance and when I was reading the symptoms it was just like me. I think this might be it. It would explain everything. Anyone have any advice?
MissLuvMovies 4 months ago
@MissLuvMovies "It is better to remain silent and be suspected to be an idiot than to open ones' mouth and remove all doubt."
nakidsoul 3 months ago
Reading the comments, made me wannah post, I thot I was alone,too.... I thot there must be,something rlly wrong with me... Its nice tah kno im not alone.
BLUE1SKY1DOVE 5 months ago
@BLUE1SKY1DOVE Is it too much to ask that you at least make an attempt to use english properly? Honestly, I will never understand what motivates people like you to fuck with the language like that. I mean....."thot"? You have got to be kidding me.....
BreaksFast 5 months ago
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nakidsoul 3 months ago
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nakidsoul 3 months ago
I have SM since I was 3-4.... now I'm 18..... can't get rid of it.... I was all my life bullied in school because I couldn't talk in front of the teachers, nor any other adult except my close family.... I had to change 3 times my school because of this.... I hope no one has to suffer like me because of SM... and I hope I can live a normal life in the future, without SM....
20amy20 6 months ago
Sounds like it belongs on The White Album. Very hard rock and edgy.
cometandcupids 6 months ago
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zephyrquartz 7 months ago
I didn't know what's wrong with me..I thought I'm going crazy but sometimes in my head is all I feel comfortable speaking..I was okay before but occasionally I choose to be quiet and they thought I was having my mood swing..but when I had to move school I couldn't fit in as everyone already knew everyone..I want to talk to someone but I don't know will they help me or disregard it..When I want to start talking I start to stutter I thought it make me look stupid anyway so I choose to keep quiet..
secretlymystery0307 7 months ago
SM describes me correctly in every or almost every way
Troyski0020 8 months ago
I'm so glad that I found out about selective mutism and that I'm not alone. *^_^*
WyeSun 8 months ago
This explains everything. Amazing.
TheRaGiTe 8 months ago
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TheRaGiTe 8 months ago
I've got Selective Mutism and I live a busy social life. I speak to some of my friends nonstop and can't shut up, but then around some other friends, I'm completely quiet and barely talk at all. I'll just sit and listen to their own conversations and many people who don't know me as well assume something's wrong, and I just assure them that everything is perfectly okay. Some people just make me feel alot more introverted than others haha
parodylover 8 months ago
I think i have SM too.... I read the article in wikipedia 2 years ago and I discovered that a korean guy in America who's got SM killed people in his school-- and then killed himself afterward...
I started and I am slowly fixing my life... I most certainly dont want to be like him I am not giving up and YOU guys shouldnt as well... We will get through this--- help yourselves-- redemption will not always come from medications or other people.... :/
ambercruz100 10 months ago
I always think of this as being about his daughter Heather, for some reason
McLen194042 11 months ago
I'm 15 and have selective mutism i only have 2 friends in my high school and that's cuz the teacher put us together for a group project :(
youtoo124365 1 year ago
If you mocked me, "like a yap-a-yap-yap," I'd have very little to say to you, either, until meaningful apologies were forthcoming. "As you have done to the least of these. . . "
JohnnyClemenceed 1 year ago
I have selective mutism too... I didn't know there are so many people with this too. I though I was an alien or something before discovering the exact name of my shyness. I think the society in general don't pay any attention to us, they let us suffer in this fucking shit. They should help us in some way. It's really painful can't talk to anyone and don't have anyone to love, it's the most horrible thing, I swear. And I'm sick of it, but I don't find any solution at all, and nobody seems to care
1Beatlemaniac1 1 year ago 5
@1Beatlemaniac1 same here, I didn't get a real friend until I was 19 because of this. I could never speak to other people when I was young and when I was 17 I sometimes managed to try but always failed completely, ended up saying something incredably stupid or my grammar went to hell even though I know the grammar in my native language perfectly. Still today when I get stressed because I have to talk to other people I end up speaking with terrible grammar ...
Varghalur 11 months ago
i never knew something like selective mutism existed and always wondered what was wrong with me... this was in school.
now m 26 and social phobic and avoid situations where i know i will remain mute. and wen i cant avoid it, i am mute :(
i wish there were more awareness on this!!!
astropurni 1 year ago 16
I almost never talk at school only if a teacher talks to me. Or if i talk to my 1 friend (and i dont even talk to her much i just listen to her talk :P) I dont socailize either and cant stand being in crowds. no one really talks to me at school anyway and people in one of my classes thinks i am mute. I talk at home but i talk less cause no one listens, ignores me, interrupts and wint answer me. I talk loud at home. Even yelling sometimes wont get them to answerr me! :(Good luck to you all! :)
dommi9877 1 year ago
I have selective mutism...Just can not speak in certain situations...no matter how hard I try...
It's all good.
One Love
MarijuanaSamadhi 1 year ago
why not so many views????? awesome song,,))))
Homedaytime 1 year ago
I had Selective Mutism as a child..in 1980. They didn't know what was wrong with me..I was traumatized by them trying to "help" me.
There needs to be more awareness of Selective Mutism so other children won't get hurt by doing the wrong things. Don't force or scold the child. Let them take small steps,let them talk through other people if they need to. Understand this is caused by anxiety and making them more anxious will just make it worse. Let them know they are loved just as they are.
babu357 1 year ago 31
This is my life.
OnlyMusic16 1 year ago 3
@OnlyMusic16 mine too
AleMayaOM 1 year ago
I wish Paul would talk somewhere about Selective Mutism.
Or has he?
He probably doesn't have time. /:
Anyways... Thanks for uploading this! (:
iiTzAmberMarie 1 year ago
@iiTzAmberMarie Not that I know of.
I saw an interview where he explained where this song came from... basically he knew someone whose granddaughter did this (but was better by the time of the interview). And that's all he really knew - not why or the name of the disorder. I'm sure he knows now.
Ha, do you think we could ask him to do it? I'm sure he wouldn't, but.....
Elemarth 1 year ago
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the1realdreamer 1 year ago
I'm 14 and i do like Paul says, i don't talk at school at all. I just can't do it. But i talk other places, sometimes to other people, but mostly my parents.
ShotGunAnd 1 year ago 3
@ShotGunAnd
Hang in there brother. School days are rough. I had a difficult time because my Face would always get Red and i'd just be pretty much paralyzed and constantly anxious and thus unable to really speak. It can be rather difficult, but All things Must Pass. It will some day pass for you. I wish you the best of luck, and stay tight with your parents...that's a great bond to have. I absolutely love my parents!
One Love, Take it Easy
MarijuanaSamadhi 1 year ago 2
@ShotGunAnd Yeah i am kind of like that. I almost never talk at school only if a teacher talks to me. Or if i talk to my 1 friend (and i dont even talk to her much i just listen to her talk :P ) I dont socailize either and cant stand being in crowds. no one really talks to me at school anyway and people in one of my classes thinks i am mute. I talk at home but i am talking less cause no one listens, ignores me, interrupts and wint answer me. I talk loud at home. Good luck to you! :)
dommi9877 1 year ago
I have selective mutism but I won't let selective mutism have me.
7emily6 1 year ago 6
I'll tell my daughter's teachers that even Sir Paul McCartney has obviously heard about SM, and written a song about it... that might make them sit up and notice!
emrender66 1 year ago 3
I'm 17 and have SM. I was just told I have it by my doctor. I have suffered with it my whole life, but decided to finally do something about it to find out what was wrong with me. I had to have my mom tell my doctor for me, I just couldn't do it on my own. Now I'm on an anti-depressant and may need therapy. I won't allow SM to control my life any longer.
"7 in every 1000 people have it."
nickie312 1 year ago 2
Ive had this pretty much since forever. I have to start college soon..i cant do it..
Wtflolyay 1 year ago
@Wtflolyay
Off course u can. I have SM and i passed college the normal way, it wasn't easy but I did it. If I can do it, why not u, don't be negative, believe in yourself and everything will be allright.
Pieter19 1 year ago 2
@Pieter19 I wish i could, but because i wouldnt speak they wouldnt let me do the course i previously chose (which my friend also chose and is going to be doing.)
Wtflolyay 1 year ago
@Wtflolyay
Yes that's a problem than, but still you can do it when you find another course you like. I know how you feel because I've had the same when I came to a new school without someone I had ever met before. I thought I would never pass but eventually I did. You can do more than you think you can, try to fight it every day, just like I did. Sometimes it wasn't easy but in the end I succeeded and if I can do it, why not you?
Pieter19 1 year ago
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@Wtflolyay
Off course u can. I have SM and i passed college the normal way, it wasn't easy but I did it. If I can do it, why not u, don't be negative, believe in yourself and everything will be allright.
Pieter19 1 year ago
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@Wtflolyay
Off course u can. I have SM and i passed college the normal way, it wasn't easy but I did it. If I can do it, why not u, don't be negative, believe in yourself and everything will be allright.
Pieter19 1 year ago
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@Wtflolyay
Off course u can. I have SM and i passed college the normal way, it wasn't easy but I did it. If I can do it, why not u, don't be negative, believe in yourself and everything will be allright.
Pieter19 1 year ago
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Mysterioux 1 year ago
I had SM through playgroup and during most of primary one and I still remember how difficult it was to start speaking. It wasn't that I didn't want to - I literally couldn't. Thankfully I got loads of help with it and after forcing myself to say hello one day, it just became easier and now I can't stop :)
XSkyelassX 2 years ago 2
Sorry, but what is SM? I was looking for in it on internet, but I haven't found the answer.
Hacsaturjan 2 years ago
@Hacsaturjan selective mutism
OurWordsSpoken 2 years ago
Thank you!
Hacsaturjan 2 years ago
It's an anxiety disorder where someone who can speak in places like home doesn't speak in social situations such as school. It's like a fear of talking.
KittChiWolf 1 year ago 3
I've had SM since Halloween. I just turned 14. :-/. Whenever I say SM people want to know what I mean... It's weird because at school I'm quiet unless I'm around my friends, at church I'm quiet unless I'm around anyone but one person...
prankisteen 2 years ago
I hate being shy and not talking or finding the write words when someone talks to me.
anythingnew 2 years ago
"right"
anythingnew 2 years ago
THIS BIRD HAS FLOWN AGAIN XOXOZZZ
jetbirdzme 2 years ago
WOW STILL GOT2! :)...
jetbirdzme 2 years ago
I don't talk much, I don't have SM, but I just don't talk much. Not ever around my friends. I don't know why but even that's hard for me. I'd hate to see how hard it i for someone for SM.
XxDatBlonde1xX 2 years ago
Possibly the heaviest, darkest song Paul has ever written. This is a chilling, profound and substantial masterpiece.
Absolutely stunning.
MATWrehearsals 2 years ago 4
Makes me cry every time I hear it. My 5yr old was just diagnosed with SM.
desire62777 2 years ago 3
I'm so sorry
MarthaMyDear64 2 years ago 3
Yesterday, I went to McCartneys concert... it was awesome!
tobypower 2 years ago 3
i have sm also/=
bamfreak246owns 2 years ago
PERFECT SONG.
I've discovered that only today.
VladGuardian 2 years ago 2
Pretty much sums me up with this song,
TheMoviemadness 2 years ago
do you have selective mutism? I do
Hiedster321 2 years ago
I Do too
TheMoviemadness 2 years ago
Paul strikes gold. AGAIN!
kir3txsbcglobalnet 2 years ago
This is one of my favourite songs from Paul, it's so different from his other stuff and... well, don't ask me why but it makes me think of something from Radiohead's OK Computer, something between Exit Music and Climbing Up The Walls, maybe beacause of the big drums, the fuzzy bass line and the atmospheric guitars...
Willdo89 2 years ago
Yes I too love the fuzzy bass line and the atmospheric Guitars and the big Drums.
The Music is excellent in this song "She's Given Up Talking" I greatly admire Sir Paul for writing a song about this subject matter Mutism. Thank you for posting this video!!
TinaM1177 2 years ago
I could never give up talking as I LOVE to talk a lot. I'm a very outgoing person who loves to talk. This song is perfect for me.
When she comes home it's yap,yyap. yap.
LOL Talkin' Tina
TinaM1177 2 years ago
Now I can talk to pretty much any one with ease. With practice, talking can become second nature.
And I am increasingly obsessed with The Beatles and Paul. :P
Feel free to message me.
SJK11 2 years ago
I'm glad your finding it easier, i wish i was finding it easier too but it is taking over my life. SM sucks. Your an inspiration to all us selective mutism sufferers out there. we will be routing for you to show us the way through it. Thanks x
84bec 2 years ago 3
Hi everyone,
I just discovered this song by reading a Wikipedia article on selective mutism. I believe that as a child, I was affected by but undiagnosed with this problem. It was very difficult for me to function in school and have a social life. Then I began talking online. I made friends and found online communities to talk to. I think I am almost over my social anxiety, shyness, and selective mutism....
SJK11 2 years ago 2
i think i have it as well......it sucks
axcvbh 2 years ago
i think i have it.....
ndbt404 2 years ago
my 4 year old daughter has selective mutism :(
tstarling485 2 years ago 2
I suffer from selective mutism but am starting to overcome it now
136squadron 2 years ago
Bless your heart. I am glad to hear that you are overcoming mutism. I talk too much and wish I could be more silent.
TinaM1177 2 years ago
Selective mutism is half ruining my life at the moment. the person that i desperately want to make friends with has it :(
DAMN YOU, SM!!!
dooki123 2 years ago
Story of my life.
beatlebijou 3 years ago 5
selective mutism :(
i suffer from it.
Georgiaaaaaa123 3 years ago 2
Thanks a lot for the great song and awesome pictures
youtalkingtome1943 3 years ago 4
it's about mutism, right? great! (I am mutism)
sandyneedsmusic 3 years ago 23
@sandyneedsmusic
I too
ergerlinchen 8 months ago
Great song!
Venable1965 3 years ago 8
Love this song! You've got GREAT taste!
icanwaitanotherday 3 years ago 4