we are all polyamorous at some point or still are we just don't admit it to ourselves... no lie I'm here trying to figure out what your trying to say but me and all my friends are polyamorous already we just really don't admit it ourselves or really knew...
@saytun111 I actually have a link to a newer video in the description (and in an annotation on this video) on this topic, because I don't really believe exactly what I have in this video anymore. Now, in short, I think people are both!
This is a great video. Your words flowed very well, the delivery was good, and the content was amazing. But please consider that polyamory isn't for everyone. I don't think it's for me, mainly because I think I'm too mentally immature and I'd get jealous.
As for the content, I actually updated this video with a link at the bottom of it yesterday. Regardless, I have considered that thought even back when I first made this video, but my thoughts then were simply that working towards the ideals of polyamory would foster more of an individual's growth than monogamy. Looking at these two approaches now, I'd say that some would benefit more from one than the other - and learn especially by practicing the converse.
@omgoneleven Thanks for replying! Polyamory does seem like a beautiful thing, and you're right, a lot could be learned form looking at a (monogamous) realtionship in a ployamorous light. Even if they're not for you, it's always good to learn about different things, right?
It was interesting to hear such a young guy speak with a wisdom and one would normally expect from those much older. More power to you, and I hope you continue to live a really rich, full life and get to experience all the love and tenderness that this world has to offer. :)
All in all though. You and I agree I suppose in the sense that both can be the right path. I just...Think I have a hard time understanding polygamy as a lifestyle or incorporated into being a healthy relationship setting? There is this video in the sidebar of your video done by this other girl who did a great job at equaling out both sides (I think). Oh! When it comes to the person having a right, you know if their the 'one'. I think because they sort of fight for your love that they earn it <3
--searching for something more than ourselves. Therefore I suppose I attribute the choice to stick with one person and find that deep love apart of how we can distinguished ourselves from animals. Not that I'm saying anyone is a animal here! ;) I just think because of the above mentioned reasoning polygamy is a bit animalistic in a sense. At the same time people are people, and that same reasoning I just mentioned they have the right to choose what they want to do with their lives.
I see. I think by refined I meant just age. Although when you talk about the 'companionship', isn't that just having a really good friend? I mean if that's the case then I'd be polygamous. I see the difference between monogamy and polygamy as being referred to sexual partner/partners. This is a tricky topic...I suppose (again nothing against anyone cause all people are/can be beautiful), that I lay a lot on the fact that though we as 'humans' have biological tendencies we define our being by--
"Polygamous"= Chances for so much shit to go right way more to go wrong
~Why? Call this 'love' when it's simply being intimate with more than one person and causing so much headache for a person who meets you and wants to be with you forever?
~I have nothing against you or your opinion.I just think once you're older more 'refined'.You'll be able to distinguish love and sex. Because the two in this instance are not the same. From my experiences...
@dawningRAIN Being polyamorous doesn't mean being unrefined. Also, I am not talking about having to be sexually intimate with all parties in which you love. In some poly relationships, it is the love and companionship of a relationship that is shared without anything sexual. In others, it may be physical, partly physical, or both physical and emotional which in are allowed in entirety. Relationship "rules/guidelines" today are not restricted to be the same model for every relationship.
@dawningRAIN Also, who is to say that "a person who meets you and wants to be with you forever" is more right than any other? Some may think such a view is selfish or possibly even insane. Some may view polyamory the same way. Honestly, I made this video at a time when I was very pro-poly. Now I think either one work, and that such words should be applied to a relationship itself, instead of the people involved.
So, I know it would make sense for me to update, but I haven't had the time.
Thank you for posting this video! It gives great insight into those with different views on love and relationships, which is exactly what this world needs more of. I am poly as well and feel similarly about the topic, and commend you for being open about talking about yourself and your experience. Kudos. ;)
this is a very interesting take on love. i never really thought about polyamory as an option, but what you say really makes sense. you are very interesting to listen to and have a very interesting view on the world. its cool to here your point of view because a lot of what you say makes a lot of sense. it almost makes me want to look into polyamory, except for the fact that i have raging jealousy issues and i am very territorial. kudos to you in this video. i love it <3
@Saralovesguard4ever 1/2: Thank you! I have, admittedly, had jealousy issues as well. However, I see the principles of both monogamy and polyamory are ideals for which to strive.
Also, this calls for an update, but I ran across another video at one point (and had conversations with others) that led me to believe that it can really just be the relationship, not the individual, that is monogamous or polyamorous. Or in more scientific terms, the bond or combination is named, not its components...
@Saralovesguard4ever 2/2 ...because as individuals, two people may have a happier and healthier relationship as monogamous, while one of those same people may have a happier and healthier relationship as polyamorous, if they were with someone else. In a way, I'd say it's almost more of an understanding or agreement on lifestyles, with different ways of operating on trust.
Hm. Not sure if that's clear. I must say, it's hard to find words for explaining my thoughts sometimes... haha.
@omgoneleven It makes sense, it really does. Its definitely complicated to explain though. Everyone is different and their hearts and minds are different, so the relationship truely depends on the person. Your thoughts do make a lot of sense. :)
Hi ! :) I am polyamorous too. Congratulations and thanks for raising awareness...I have had some problems in the past (mostly with my parents) most of my friends simply put it as "you are consenting adults and as long as nobody is getting hurt" mostly I have chosen to pick the people I tell more wisely. Thanks again you are awesome (and very cute I might add ;) Best wishes for you and your partners. Lots of love.
Yeah, it's not really something I talk to my parents about. I'm not sure how they'd feel about it, because I think they'd get where I'm coming from even if they disagreed with my point-of-view... either way, I'm not too concerned about it. : P
I agree. If people could see and realize what they are doing when they limit their love to one gender or one person, I think there would be a whole lot more love :)
I'm Also a Polyamorus guy and i have so much love for this video! Right now my relantionship is complicated. Don't get me wrong i have love for both of them but what is getting on my nervs is my boyfriend goes "i bet you say/do this with him and not me" and my other boyfriend goes "i bet you say/do this with him and not me" and i'm sort of stuck in the middle of it >_<. You're a really good looking guy and good luck with everything :)
@omgoneleven Your welcome, I can tell you this, It's the most amazing relationship i have ever been in. I was in a relationship with my partner * Now Ex* for 4 and a half years and never thought Id ever find love again. It was tragic to me losing him. But then I met my now bf and gf and it's amazing how much love is shown. Not a day goes by that there isn't something going on, It's very entertaining, not a dull moment in the house, the love is over flowing. Questions ask, concerns ask. coments?
@irishpixie1982 That's just awesome... and really great to hear. Right now, I'm not focusing on this type of bond with someone - I have so many other things in my life that I need to find time for and commit to that I'm taking a break from investing into any kind of romantic relationship. When I do, I reaaally give my all... and I'm not willing to do that again at this time in my life. That being said, your comment gives me hope for my future love life, and I'm really happy for you. <3
This is great, very confessional. I'm on a YouTube and Google frenzy, lately. I've been searching for a poly relationship (off and on) for about 6 - 7 years (confining myself to online searching, out of fear+the speed/ease). I JUST discovered the term "polyamory" three days ago.
All those years I thought I was virtually alone. It's really amazing to discover so much information and like-minded people.
@omgoneleven Okay well where do i start, well ima start by saying you have opened my eyes! I thought polyamorous was just about sex, having fun, and not about love! But come 2 think of it you are just like me, i am a T-Girl, witch is a transgener woman and i have morals n values and by watching your video, i see people like u have them as well...You can love more then 1 person even though i am not polyamorous i am a lot more open then i ever once was! Thanks for sharing u are hella cute btw!!!
you are SO VERY HOT. i understand what you're saying umm i understand why you feel insecure about being poly causeee its your choice entirely to do so and the fact that it would be open makes it a 100 times better than cheating. btw what is pansexual?
I feel that Love is like total self-giving to one person when it's true. Choosing another to Love at the same time- means you are not giving of yourself completely to that person. You can Love many in the world but TRUE LOVE is the kind that is everlasting. I wish you luck on your life journey you seem to be really in touch with your own identity. I don't believe what u believe in but that doesn't make it right or wrong. Thanks!
well yes, i suppose you DO have to make choices because if you are poly with 100 people at the same time, there may be a lack of time and /or space , somewhere :-) So when you already have two girlfriends and four boyfriends , you may want to say to that great new person "ok, i like how you sing / paint / dance / talk and you are beautiful, but i guess we are just going to be friends because we are already seven at my place."
well yes, i suppose you DO have to make choices because if you are poly with 100 people at the same time, there may be a lack of time and /or space , somewhere :-) So when you already have two girlfriends and four boyfriends , you may want to say to that great new person "ok, i like how you sing / paint / dance / talk and you are beautiful, but i guess we are just going to be friends because we are already seven at my place."
@Bulleadzcc Well, I can't say I've ever been in love with that many people at once, but in the case that I ever were (and they all happened to be in love with me), I wouldn't necessarily be living with all of them. Also, some relationships will last longer than others, and some I may only see every once in a while.
@omgoneleven I guessed this :) i 've just been exagerating the situation just to see what you might answer ^^ (mean provocative me ! ) Thank you for the video !
I guess you could make that claim. However, for me, this is more about choosing to live openly and honestly, with both myself and my partner(s). Not every guy wants to do that... or thinks that they can.
I must say, though... I do met a number of males who feel very deeply monogamous.
Not only are you a very attractive person, but you have some amazing things to say- they make so much sense, monogamy just adds another layer of suffering to humans. Love should let us be free!
im trans ftm and my mom made a comment about "if you want to be a boy so badly, why do u still wear makeup? i just wanted to tell her to fuck off. i love my guyliner. so i don't think i could be polyamorous because i don't condone cheating, i do get jealous [which is kind of immature i suppose] but i am so very much a protector and when my attention is on 1 person i don't have room for anyone else! then again, i get bored and wish i could date multiple personalities at a time. that'd be fun!!!
@omgoneleven Thank u for ur wonderful comments. it is so awakening to read all ur honest thoughts. I totally agree. It seems we all have to pass by jealous, insecurity in order to learn about ourself. Some will stay there chose to blame others. But some will really have the courage to look in to it, and chose LOVE instead. I believe LOVE is contagious, thank u 4 spreading real one ! <3
I've been focusing a lot on my polyamorous beliefs and practices a lot lately, too. I'm not so big into speaking about it on youtube, but I encourage you to check out my blog post on it. (This is actually the third post of three on the topic- if you want to see the others, let me know) I'd love to open more dialogues with others about polyamory. Nicely done, btw. :)
@lucy666lu That kind of moral judgment was exactly what made me fear to be myself. But first of all, polyamory doesn't have to include sex. Also, when it does, so what if shagging around with others is alright, as long as all parties are safe and open in lines of communication? I believe it is a logical way of thinking of and accepting human desire and behavior, and liberating to know that my love and my partners' ongoing love is uncontrolled and continually freely chosen. No one is caged.
I know in my heart that I am not strong enough to love more than one person at once. To me, the concept of being in a deep, intimate "she knows everything about me, all my darkest secrets" kind of relationship, and then going to someone else...is like trying to rip my heart in two and entrust one half to that other person.
But in turn, I could never attempt to keep someone all to myself. If they fall in love with someone else, so be it. I will let them go. Their happiness is all I care about.
@redfoxonstilts Mmm... yes, generally. However, that really depends on so many factors of where you live, what culture or subcultures you're a part of, and the expectations the various societies set for you. In general, I find people saying negative things about polyamory, no matter what a person's gender may be. It definitely does not get the popular vote, as most moralists cannot comprehend its ideals.
I agree I was in a monogomous relationship before the one Im in now as well & I was constantly feeling guilt & jealousey, now I am so much happier thanx for comming out & talking about it.
I found myself being SOOO unlike "myself." - and terribly guilty and jealous, just like you said. When I approach things from a poly point of view, I feel so much more confident in myself, as well as trusting and appreciative of my partner. : ]
This world is full of expectation to the others which lead us to disapointment and finally hate each others... depending too much of our happiness to the others... No one belong to anyone.
@ichigoaji I completely agree. It's a struggle to rid ourselves of the desire to "own," but I think it's a major step in the right direction to just appreciate what we can share in and be a part of, for however long it may last.
You're right that people sometimes do find others that they might find... interesting.. but if you "explore" that new person.. and they end up being so much more amazing then the one you're currently with (even in a polyamorous relationship).. won't you be more connected to that person..? (then won't the other person you were with get jealous!?)
You can't deny that it happens.. as humans we get tired of the old and want something new...
@NoncoolName That is always a possibility. However, I would much rather know and keep lines of communication open than have cheating happen, or making a person choose between myself and another person if we are both loved. Also, I want to be proud of my partner(s), and would like others to know how amazing they are. Part of that for me would be allowing them to know by loving that person as well. I also believe jealousy comes from fear of being "less than" another. That is a personal issue.
@NoncoolName Aside from that, I want my loved ones to be happy and loved. If they can have more love and happiness in their lives, which I believe is multiplied by having numerous contributors, why not promote that? Why not allow my partner to promote that in my life as well? Like monogamy, this is ideal. There is no perfection. However, for the reasons I've mentioned, that is why I believe in this ideal. : ]
I am believing that love does not depending on thank to who your loved one will be happy, but simply wish others happiness. It does not make me happy if my partner stay with me another day just because I am "his girl friend", or his wife. If someone stay with me another day, it has to be conscience decision that because he is happy with me among all the freedom choice he could have. I believe only in freedom we can really feel true love.
:) congrats hun on coming to terms with this. Polyamorous relationships are vilified in society but there is a great deal of acceptance that is starting to take root :) Keep on keeping on shug :)
can i be one of the different people that you love? ^^.... however i live the same thing, in different cases i was in love with different people at the same time...but for me it's more strong have a monogamy relation ^^
what you're saying could be lines from casanova
and i totally like your eyebrows.
all of your facial expression are way of cute :D
Feeluck 1 month ago
@Feeluck Lines from Casanova? How so?
And thank you!
omgoneleven 1 month ago
@omgoneleven hmm.. don't know
the way you speak just reminds me of him for some reason
guess this is because you're a very charming person, thinking about what you're saying
you know, there are not much people talking so well-considered these days
its kinda catching
Feeluck 1 month ago
@Feeluck Aww, that's very sweet of you to say. : ]
omgoneleven 1 month ago
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we are all polyamorous at some point or still are we just don't admit it to ourselves... no lie I'm here trying to figure out what your trying to say but me and all my friends are polyamorous already we just really don't admit it ourselves or really knew...
saytun111 1 month ago
@saytun111 I actually have a link to a newer video in the description (and in an annotation on this video) on this topic, because I don't really believe exactly what I have in this video anymore. Now, in short, I think people are both!
omgoneleven 1 month ago
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saytun111 1 month ago
Can I keep you? =)
ReverendMichal 1 month ago
@ReverendMichal : P
omgoneleven 1 month ago
my god you're so gorgeous!!!!!!! <3
emmaleteaceee 2 months ago
@emmaleteaceee Aww, thanks! <3
omgoneleven 1 month ago
This is a great video. Your words flowed very well, the delivery was good, and the content was amazing. But please consider that polyamory isn't for everyone. I don't think it's for me, mainly because I think I'm too mentally immature and I'd get jealous.
xxxTokioTwilightxxx 4 months ago
@xxxTokioTwilightxxx Thank you!
As for the content, I actually updated this video with a link at the bottom of it yesterday. Regardless, I have considered that thought even back when I first made this video, but my thoughts then were simply that working towards the ideals of polyamory would foster more of an individual's growth than monogamy. Looking at these two approaches now, I'd say that some would benefit more from one than the other - and learn especially by practicing the converse.
omgoneleven 4 months ago
@omgoneleven Thanks for replying! Polyamory does seem like a beautiful thing, and you're right, a lot could be learned form looking at a (monogamous) realtionship in a ployamorous light. Even if they're not for you, it's always good to learn about different things, right?
xxxTokioTwilightxxx 4 months ago
@xxxTokioTwilightxxx Agreed! : ]
omgoneleven 4 months ago
It was interesting to hear such a young guy speak with a wisdom and one would normally expect from those much older. More power to you, and I hope you continue to live a really rich, full life and get to experience all the love and tenderness that this world has to offer. :)
Ilionabebe 4 months ago
@Ilionabebe Aww, thank you so much! I hope you do, too! <3
omgoneleven 4 months ago
Tsk, tsk no updates! Lol, jkjkjk...Your video was enlightening? And your feedback surely insightful.
No matter what road anyone travels I just hope it's a happy one and along the way they spread smiles and not tears ^w^
I do apologize to everyone for spamming the comment column 0.0'
dawningRAIN 5 months ago
All in all though. You and I agree I suppose in the sense that both can be the right path. I just...Think I have a hard time understanding polygamy as a lifestyle or incorporated into being a healthy relationship setting? There is this video in the sidebar of your video done by this other girl who did a great job at equaling out both sides (I think). Oh! When it comes to the person having a right, you know if their the 'one'. I think because they sort of fight for your love that they earn it <3
dawningRAIN 5 months ago
--searching for something more than ourselves. Therefore I suppose I attribute the choice to stick with one person and find that deep love apart of how we can distinguished ourselves from animals. Not that I'm saying anyone is a animal here! ;) I just think because of the above mentioned reasoning polygamy is a bit animalistic in a sense. At the same time people are people, and that same reasoning I just mentioned they have the right to choose what they want to do with their lives.
dawningRAIN 5 months ago
I see. I think by refined I meant just age. Although when you talk about the 'companionship', isn't that just having a really good friend? I mean if that's the case then I'd be polygamous. I see the difference between monogamy and polygamy as being referred to sexual partner/partners. This is a tricky topic...I suppose (again nothing against anyone cause all people are/can be beautiful), that I lay a lot on the fact that though we as 'humans' have biological tendencies we define our being by--
dawningRAIN 5 months ago
"Options"= Sleeping with more than one person
"Polygamous"= Chances for so much shit to go right way more to go wrong
~Why? Call this 'love' when it's simply being intimate with more than one person and causing so much headache for a person who meets you and wants to be with you forever?
~I have nothing against you or your opinion.I just think once you're older more 'refined'.You'll be able to distinguish love and sex. Because the two in this instance are not the same. From my experiences...
dawningRAIN 5 months ago
@dawningRAIN Being polyamorous doesn't mean being unrefined. Also, I am not talking about having to be sexually intimate with all parties in which you love. In some poly relationships, it is the love and companionship of a relationship that is shared without anything sexual. In others, it may be physical, partly physical, or both physical and emotional which in are allowed in entirety. Relationship "rules/guidelines" today are not restricted to be the same model for every relationship.
omgoneleven 5 months ago
@dawningRAIN Also, who is to say that "a person who meets you and wants to be with you forever" is more right than any other? Some may think such a view is selfish or possibly even insane. Some may view polyamory the same way. Honestly, I made this video at a time when I was very pro-poly. Now I think either one work, and that such words should be applied to a relationship itself, instead of the people involved.
So, I know it would make sense for me to update, but I haven't had the time.
omgoneleven 5 months ago
Thank you for posting this video! It gives great insight into those with different views on love and relationships, which is exactly what this world needs more of. I am poly as well and feel similarly about the topic, and commend you for being open about talking about yourself and your experience. Kudos. ;)
SourPatchKels 5 months ago
@SourPatchKels Aww, thanks! : ]
omgoneleven 5 months ago
this is a very interesting take on love. i never really thought about polyamory as an option, but what you say really makes sense. you are very interesting to listen to and have a very interesting view on the world. its cool to here your point of view because a lot of what you say makes a lot of sense. it almost makes me want to look into polyamory, except for the fact that i have raging jealousy issues and i am very territorial. kudos to you in this video. i love it <3
Saralovesguard4ever 5 months ago
@Saralovesguard4ever 1/2: Thank you! I have, admittedly, had jealousy issues as well. However, I see the principles of both monogamy and polyamory are ideals for which to strive.
Also, this calls for an update, but I ran across another video at one point (and had conversations with others) that led me to believe that it can really just be the relationship, not the individual, that is monogamous or polyamorous. Or in more scientific terms, the bond or combination is named, not its components...
omgoneleven 5 months ago
@Saralovesguard4ever 2/2 ...because as individuals, two people may have a happier and healthier relationship as monogamous, while one of those same people may have a happier and healthier relationship as polyamorous, if they were with someone else. In a way, I'd say it's almost more of an understanding or agreement on lifestyles, with different ways of operating on trust.
Hm. Not sure if that's clear. I must say, it's hard to find words for explaining my thoughts sometimes... haha.
omgoneleven 5 months ago
@omgoneleven It makes sense, it really does. Its definitely complicated to explain though. Everyone is different and their hearts and minds are different, so the relationship truely depends on the person. Your thoughts do make a lot of sense. :)
Saralovesguard4ever 5 months ago
Hi ! :) I am polyamorous too. Congratulations and thanks for raising awareness...I have had some problems in the past (mostly with my parents) most of my friends simply put it as "you are consenting adults and as long as nobody is getting hurt" mostly I have chosen to pick the people I tell more wisely. Thanks again you are awesome (and very cute I might add ;) Best wishes for you and your partners. Lots of love.
LadyPhanteana 5 months ago
@LadyPhanteana Aww, thanks! <3
Yeah, it's not really something I talk to my parents about. I'm not sure how they'd feel about it, because I think they'd get where I'm coming from even if they disagreed with my point-of-view... either way, I'm not too concerned about it. : P
omgoneleven 5 months ago
wow sexy and smart! ;)
I agree. If people could see and realize what they are doing when they limit their love to one gender or one person, I think there would be a whole lot more love :)
VickyVicVicx 6 months ago
Awesome video!!
You got that right :)
I'm poly too, I couldn't have said better :)
YukiSumah 6 months ago
I'm Also a Polyamorus guy and i have so much love for this video! Right now my relantionship is complicated. Don't get me wrong i have love for both of them but what is getting on my nervs is my boyfriend goes "i bet you say/do this with him and not me" and my other boyfriend goes "i bet you say/do this with him and not me" and i'm sort of stuck in the middle of it >_<. You're a really good looking guy and good luck with everything :)
JaYdEn0666 7 months ago
@omgoneleven Your welcome, I can tell you this, It's the most amazing relationship i have ever been in. I was in a relationship with my partner * Now Ex* for 4 and a half years and never thought Id ever find love again. It was tragic to me losing him. But then I met my now bf and gf and it's amazing how much love is shown. Not a day goes by that there isn't something going on, It's very entertaining, not a dull moment in the house, the love is over flowing. Questions ask, concerns ask. coments?
irishpixie1982 8 months ago
@irishpixie1982 That's just awesome... and really great to hear. Right now, I'm not focusing on this type of bond with someone - I have so many other things in my life that I need to find time for and commit to that I'm taking a break from investing into any kind of romantic relationship. When I do, I reaaally give my all... and I'm not willing to do that again at this time in my life. That being said, your comment gives me hope for my future love life, and I'm really happy for you. <3
omgoneleven 8 months ago
This is great, very confessional. I'm on a YouTube and Google frenzy, lately. I've been searching for a poly relationship (off and on) for about 6 - 7 years (confining myself to online searching, out of fear+the speed/ease). I JUST discovered the term "polyamory" three days ago.
All those years I thought I was virtually alone. It's really amazing to discover so much information and like-minded people.
Cinique1984 8 months ago
@Cinique1984 Yeah, I get what you mean about the YouTube and Google frenzy... luckily, there's more out there every day. : ]
omgoneleven 8 months ago
I am polyamorous as well bud, There are three of us and we all live together. So thanks for putting this video out there..
irishpixie1982 8 months ago
@irishpixie1982 That's awesome! Thanks for your comment! It's great to hear from others - especially who live with their S/O's. : ]
omgoneleven 8 months ago
@omgoneleven Okay well where do i start, well ima start by saying you have opened my eyes! I thought polyamorous was just about sex, having fun, and not about love! But come 2 think of it you are just like me, i am a T-Girl, witch is a transgener woman and i have morals n values and by watching your video, i see people like u have them as well...You can love more then 1 person even though i am not polyamorous i am a lot more open then i ever once was! Thanks for sharing u are hella cute btw!!!
TGirl4Lif3 10 months ago
@TGirl4Lif3 Aww, thank you so much for sharing all of that!! <3
omgoneleven 10 months ago
you are SO VERY HOT. i understand what you're saying umm i understand why you feel insecure about being poly causeee its your choice entirely to do so and the fact that it would be open makes it a 100 times better than cheating. btw what is pansexual?
MelzThreeDaysGrace 10 months ago
I feel that Love is like total self-giving to one person when it's true. Choosing another to Love at the same time- means you are not giving of yourself completely to that person. You can Love many in the world but TRUE LOVE is the kind that is everlasting. I wish you luck on your life journey you seem to be really in touch with your own identity. I don't believe what u believe in but that doesn't make it right or wrong. Thanks!
iCanHearUSign 1 year ago
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well yes, i suppose you DO have to make choices because if you are poly with 100 people at the same time, there may be a lack of time and /or space , somewhere :-) So when you already have two girlfriends and four boyfriends , you may want to say to that great new person "ok, i like how you sing / paint / dance / talk and you are beautiful, but i guess we are just going to be friends because we are already seven at my place."
Bulleadzcc 1 year ago
well yes, i suppose you DO have to make choices because if you are poly with 100 people at the same time, there may be a lack of time and /or space , somewhere :-) So when you already have two girlfriends and four boyfriends , you may want to say to that great new person "ok, i like how you sing / paint / dance / talk and you are beautiful, but i guess we are just going to be friends because we are already seven at my place."
Bulleadzcc 1 year ago
@Bulleadzcc Well, I can't say I've ever been in love with that many people at once, but in the case that I ever were (and they all happened to be in love with me), I wouldn't necessarily be living with all of them. Also, some relationships will last longer than others, and some I may only see every once in a while.
omgoneleven 1 year ago
@omgoneleven I guessed this :) i 've just been exagerating the situation just to see what you might answer ^^ (mean provocative me ! ) Thank you for the video !
Bulleadzcc 1 year ago
@Bulleadzcc Haha! Jerk. : P
Nah, I'm just kidding... it's cool.
And no problem! It was something that I felt had to be said. : ]
omgoneleven 1 year ago
I read this title as, "My confession: I Want to Live Like Every Guy Ever."
mwtillotson 1 year ago
@mwtillotson LMAO!
I guess you could make that claim. However, for me, this is more about choosing to live openly and honestly, with both myself and my partner(s). Not every guy wants to do that... or thinks that they can.
I must say, though... I do met a number of males who feel very deeply monogamous.
omgoneleven 1 year ago
i love your honesty and u stateing your own opinion
(:
MusicLovin123 1 year ago
Not only are you a very attractive person, but you have some amazing things to say- they make so much sense, monogamy just adds another layer of suffering to humans. Love should let us be free!
MeepMarmoset 1 year ago
@MeepMarmoset Aww, thanks. And yes. <3
omgoneleven 1 year ago
I fully understand your ideas.
xo
reach2mypocket 1 year ago
love silly
foreveryouforeverme 1 year ago
im trans ftm and my mom made a comment about "if you want to be a boy so badly, why do u still wear makeup? i just wanted to tell her to fuck off. i love my guyliner. so i don't think i could be polyamorous because i don't condone cheating, i do get jealous [which is kind of immature i suppose] but i am so very much a protector and when my attention is on 1 person i don't have room for anyone else! then again, i get bored and wish i could date multiple personalities at a time. that'd be fun!!!
BonesDGAF021 1 year ago
@omgoneleven Thank u for ur wonderful comments. it is so awakening to read all ur honest thoughts. I totally agree. It seems we all have to pass by jealous, insecurity in order to learn about ourself. Some will stay there chose to blame others. But some will really have the courage to look in to it, and chose LOVE instead. I believe LOVE is contagious, thank u 4 spreading real one ! <3
ichigoaji 1 year ago
@ichigoaji Aww, thanks to you for spreading it, too!
<3
omgoneleven 1 year ago
Props on this video. Thumbs up.
Popeslave 1 year ago
if you were not shown that how do u know what love is
foreveryouforeverme 1 year ago
@foreveryouforeverme How do I know what love is, if I were not shown... what?
omgoneleven 1 year ago
I've been focusing a lot on my polyamorous beliefs and practices a lot lately, too. I'm not so big into speaking about it on youtube, but I encourage you to check out my blog post on it. (This is actually the third post of three on the topic- if you want to see the others, let me know) I'd love to open more dialogues with others about polyamory. Nicely done, btw. :)
xthread.xanga (dot) com/707310795/poly-interview/
xxthread 1 year ago
totally get what your saying, man. nice vid man
transbadboy 1 year ago
ermmm....excuse to shag around i think.
lucy666lu 1 year ago
@lucy666lu That kind of moral judgment was exactly what made me fear to be myself. But first of all, polyamory doesn't have to include sex. Also, when it does, so what if shagging around with others is alright, as long as all parties are safe and open in lines of communication? I believe it is a logical way of thinking of and accepting human desire and behavior, and liberating to know that my love and my partners' ongoing love is uncontrolled and continually freely chosen. No one is caged.
omgoneleven 1 year ago
I know in my heart that I am not strong enough to love more than one person at once. To me, the concept of being in a deep, intimate "she knows everything about me, all my darkest secrets" kind of relationship, and then going to someone else...is like trying to rip my heart in two and entrust one half to that other person.
But in turn, I could never attempt to keep someone all to myself. If they fall in love with someone else, so be it. I will let them go. Their happiness is all I care about.
AhMunnaEechu 1 year ago
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AhMunnaEechu 1 year ago
The things is, if you're a male and polyamorous, generally it's acceptable. If you're female, you're a slut :)
redfoxonstilts 1 year ago
@redfoxonstilts Mmm... yes, generally. However, that really depends on so many factors of where you live, what culture or subcultures you're a part of, and the expectations the various societies set for you. In general, I find people saying negative things about polyamory, no matter what a person's gender may be. It definitely does not get the popular vote, as most moralists cannot comprehend its ideals.
omgoneleven 1 year ago
I agree I was in a monogomous relationship before the one Im in now as well & I was constantly feeling guilt & jealousey, now I am so much happier thanx for comming out & talking about it.
Belinda x x
502belinda 1 year ago
@502belinda Exactly!
I found myself being SOOO unlike "myself." - and terribly guilty and jealous, just like you said. When I approach things from a poly point of view, I feel so much more confident in myself, as well as trusting and appreciative of my partner. : ]
omgoneleven 1 year ago
This world is full of expectation to the others which lead us to disapointment and finally hate each others... depending too much of our happiness to the others... No one belong to anyone.
ichigoaji 1 year ago
@ichigoaji I completely agree. It's a struggle to rid ourselves of the desire to "own," but I think it's a major step in the right direction to just appreciate what we can share in and be a part of, for however long it may last.
omgoneleven 1 year ago
You're right that people sometimes do find others that they might find... interesting.. but if you "explore" that new person.. and they end up being so much more amazing then the one you're currently with (even in a polyamorous relationship).. won't you be more connected to that person..? (then won't the other person you were with get jealous!?)
You can't deny that it happens.. as humans we get tired of the old and want something new...
NoncoolName 1 year ago
@NoncoolName That is always a possibility. However, I would much rather know and keep lines of communication open than have cheating happen, or making a person choose between myself and another person if we are both loved. Also, I want to be proud of my partner(s), and would like others to know how amazing they are. Part of that for me would be allowing them to know by loving that person as well. I also believe jealousy comes from fear of being "less than" another. That is a personal issue.
omgoneleven 1 year ago
@NoncoolName Aside from that, I want my loved ones to be happy and loved. If they can have more love and happiness in their lives, which I believe is multiplied by having numerous contributors, why not promote that? Why not allow my partner to promote that in my life as well? Like monogamy, this is ideal. There is no perfection. However, for the reasons I've mentioned, that is why I believe in this ideal. : ]
omgoneleven 1 year ago
Wow... I totally agree with you.
I am believing that love does not depending on thank to who your loved one will be happy, but simply wish others happiness. It does not make me happy if my partner stay with me another day just because I am "his girl friend", or his wife. If someone stay with me another day, it has to be conscience decision that because he is happy with me among all the freedom choice he could have. I believe only in freedom we can really feel true love.
ichigoaji 1 year ago
Agreed 100%, I am very much polyamorous but there is that socialised crap I have in my head, which sometimes gets in the way.
JunkpileJ 1 year ago
:) congrats hun on coming to terms with this. Polyamorous relationships are vilified in society but there is a great deal of acceptance that is starting to take root :) Keep on keeping on shug :)
NimraukoGalendel 1 year ago
can i be one of the different people that you love? ^^.... however i live the same thing, in different cases i was in love with different people at the same time...but for me it's more strong have a monogamy relation ^^
boylikeagirl 1 year ago
ever cute! kiss ;)
boylikeagirl 1 year ago