Our Reality: My Name is Monica and I Had an Abortion, Part 1

[ubicaritas75]

I am sorry that you had been with your boyfriend for 7 years and you had a "short" conversation about your pregnancy. So many abortions result because the woman gets no support from the father of her baby. Sex is too easy in our society.

[vanessalynn82]

the stength.

[yourlexigirl]

Been raped. It's still a baby.

[antonbomb12345]

your stupidy is hiliarous u dont learn the fact that your killing .. wow whores at there finest .. fucking get shot your not wanted

[BanuHaqim]

Wow, another fat whore named Monica. Who'da thunk it?

[luvlylp1985]

All these people saying that its just a bunch cells and tissue, in reality, arent we all just a bunch of cells and tissue?? if thats the case does that make it ok to kill your child out of the womb? if you can go to prison for murdering a day old baby why cant you go to prison for murdering a baby in the womb??

[sueezee]

luv:if you can go to prison for murdering a day old baby why cant you go to prison for murdering a baby in the womb?? Because abortion is legal

Anyone have a Tylonol?

[toscata]

How dare you. I have really reached my limit with you, you know as well as I do that I do not "love" nor want people to have birth defects, any lives to be lost, and frankly it is disgusting to compare anyone to Josef Mengele. You should be ashamed.

Abortions are going to happen whether they are legal or not, in a previous post you implied there was a time before abortion, this is not true there has never been a recorded time where women haven't tried to induce miscarriage.

[toscata]

This is pointless, we are not listening to each other.

I can understand your point of view, I really can, and I admire your passion for what you believe (apart from the personal insults, being called a liar etc...).

I have said before, I don't WANT anyone to have an abortion, but I understand that in some case its the lesser of a million evils, and the choice needs to be there.

I am torn, I don't want to argue like this, but I cant stop until I at least know you have listened to me.

[YourHumanRights]

You didn't read the medical journals where it described how induced abortion causes preterm birth and birth defects far more than a natural nmiscarriage. you can't keep women in the dark forever. Preterm birth has gone way up since Roe/Wade thanks to people like you. All you can do is shrug your shoulders and say other things cause birth defects too. Well, yes, female steroids do also.

You LOVE birth defects. You LOVE killing. You love destroying women and their children alike.. Liar.

[YourHumanRights]

Go to the after abortion blogspot and check out two women who have had abortions and their life's ambition now to right the wrong they did and promote post abortion forgiveness and non violent solutions fro pregnant mothers.

It's also a great place to see Planned parenthood cruel, profit driven lies and misinformation exposed for what they really are.

[YourHumanRights]

I love killing my children for my own convenience.

I want to give my future children birth defects.

I love breast cancer.

I love making money crushing skulls and stopping hearts.

I love preterm birth later in life.

I love cerebral palsy in children.

I love lying and keeping women in the dark.

I love Planned Parenthood.

[toscata]

I love how many children are unwanted and abused.

I want to turn a blind eye to just how much suffering is already in the world.

I love how dangerous pregnancy is (especially compared to abortions :D).

I love gathering money bombing clinics and distroying lives.

I love how once they are born, they are not my problem.

I love rape pregnancys.

I love lying and keeping women in the dark.

I love Pro-Life

[YourHumanRights]

LOL

Destroying lives is what the killing lobby (including you) does. Breast cancer, birth defects, preterm birth, and that's not even including all the innocent lives lost to having their head ripped off and their hearts stopped. Your victims end up in the sewers, but you can't hide from medical and scientific reality any more than this very selfish and cruel woman can.

Dr. Mengele would be very proud of both of you.

[toscata]

Simply saying scary things doesn't make them true, there is no REAL evidence to support the claim that abortion increases the likelihood or causes breast cancer, birth defects or preterm births.

Haha, you cant hide how many children are suffering, unloved, in orphanages, are you going to look after every child you "save"?

Frankly in my opinion there is nothing more selfish than adding to this already overpopulated world.

[YourHumanRights]

Google "abortion preterm birth" and see the truth for yourself. There is no debate anymore. WHO gave you the right to give children cerebral palsy? (I guess the same source that you think gave you the right to tear them to shreds and stop their heart.)

So you're gunna go kill some orphans for their own good, huh? Overpopulation? That happened AFTER abortion, not before.. Better to kill yourself so we have one less selfish killer in the world.

[toscata]

Miscarrage (abortion is an induced miscarrage, either chemically or with surgary) increases the chances of premature birth, guess what natural miscarrages happen all the time, quick you better go mourn every single fertalised egg that didnt attach, or form correctly.

As many as 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage, and the VAST majority of women who miscarry go on to have a successful pregnancy next time.

Go ask the worlds greatest abortionist, God, why this is.

[toscata]

I would never dream of harming a person who could feel pain, with thoughts, dreams and feelings. You dont seem to hold the same oppinon since you blantently ignore the fact that women hold all these things and the fetus inside her does not.

To clear up my oppinions, I personally belive that abortions shouldnt be allowed after 16 weeks of pregnancy, because of the development of the fetus.

[toscata]

No one wants to have an abortion, but no woman should be forced to have a baby.

Untill we live in a world where there is no rape, no terrible birth defects, contraception is 100% effective and every child is wanted.

Women need to have the choice.

[KessVideo]

Suzee... have YOU spoken to all women? Because most women REGRET their abortions. They feel isolated, suicidal, depressed, and many other things. These "I had an abortion" t-shirt wearers are in the minority. A fraction of the real deal. Those without a conscience. And if you are going to have sex and use condoms, don't use planned parenthood's brand. Consumer Reports them as very unreliable. (Heh, I wonder why... something tells me it'snot a mistake)

[joshuaktruitt]

One thing I have learned from the abortion stories women have shared with me is that everyone has their own unique, personal experience. Most of the women you have spoken with may regret their abortions, but there is such a wide range of reactions. What is important is to respect and validate all those experiences.

[sueezee]

jugg:Keep your pants on? Same with the woman.Why can you say that to the man and not the woman? YOU said for the women to keep her legs closed ....and I said for the man to keep his pants on!!!!! That is addressing BOTH of them!!  I hate people who can't comprehand what they read.

BYE!

[xalisae]

I hate people who make fun of someone else for supposedly poor reading comprehension and then go on to spell the word "comprehend" incorrectly. You're a vicious and disgusting idiot.

[sueezee]

xa:spell "comprehend" incorrectly

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Learn the difference between one wrong letter & one who cant comprehemd.(lol)

[sueezee]

jugg:abortion is not responsible. Yes, it most definately CAN be.

jugg:its taking the easy way out Have you chose to speak for ALL women? You have NO idea how easy or hard it will be for women to abe a parent. Its why you/the government can't make that decision for them.

jugg:keep your legs closed

jugg:what about the FATHERS of all these aborted children keep your pants on

[sueezee]

jugg: i will handel it like and adult and FACE my responsibility. You think you look like a hero because you have a child you don't want? You don't!! And, Abortion IS being responsible.

jugg:so let me get this straight, you was to lazy to take BC She said she was on BC!! Dont you listen?

[luvlylp1985]

Abortion is irresponsible!!! if you choose to have sex, knowing that you can get pregnant, then you should deal with the consequence. if you dont want the child, there are people who want a baby, and cant have one. I had an unplanned pregnancy at 17, and my son is now 5, and the light of my life. i almost had an abortion. i am so glad that i chose life for my child!!! AS A FORMER FETUS I AM PRO LIFE!!!

[DoctahHo]

Some people don't choose to have sex, what if they're raped?

[isaidthisok]

dont throw the rape card

thats what they all do...

[DoctahHo]

why shouldn't a woman be allowed to choose abortion following a rape?

[isaidthisok]

I never mentioned anything along those lines. Everytime someone mentions abortions are wrong,I see the rape card often used to excuse abortions.Abortions ARE wrong. FULL STOP. You can't make them humane, acceptable, good and this will never happen. All this pro choice bull shit is immoral. Ok if your raped, abortion is the only way out. But then you have women using the term 'rape' in a very wide sense to include 'i was drunk and didnt know what i was doing'. This woman in the video is heartless

[DoctahHo]

not all abortions are from rape, you can't group them all in the same category. alot of women admit that they made a mistake, wether they were drunk or uneducated about birth control, they won't often claim they were raped to save face. you believe in pro-life, and you can share your opinions with whoever it regards, but it is ultimately up to the woman to choose her stance on abortion.

[isaidthisok]

yeh well its murder either way...no denying that.

[DoctahHo]

no, actually, it's murder to you. not to everyone else.

[isaidthisok]

doctor WHORE, your obviously scum thats why your saying that. go crawal back into the hole you come from...i wont reply to your messages because I had your pro choice bollocks, go try it on someone else

[DoctahHo]

no one is going to take you seriously when you say things like that. accept an opinion. i don't see pro-life people as gun wielding doctor killers, you should't see all pro-choice people as heartless muderers. grow up and stop covering your ears whenever you hear something you dont like.

[DulceDeanna]

Well said! :)

[sueezee]

luv:Abortion is irresponsible Bull shit! Having a baby you dont want and wont or cant care for is irresponsible. Learn to love the kids more than you hate abortion!

luv:deal with the consequence Oh yes! Thats like saying, "you got pregnant you dumb bitch, now have the kid as punishment"! How wonderful is THAT? luv: I had an unplanned pregnancy Its not about what YOU did!

[sueezee]

jugg:READY if your not ready to have a baby keep your LEGS CLOSED Oh, you mean stop the world from having sex? Ya, sure, that will work! Holy crap!

[sueezee]

WHo in the hell thinks they have an "infection" when they are pregnant??? Another LYING prolife vid. Whats the matter people, did pro choice take all the truths to make abortion legal and all you have left to work w/ are lies? Thi is one reason you can never make abortion illegal. You rare a bunch of nitwits.

[sunkawi23]

I feel for her, she still appears to be confused over it. You are judging her too harshly. No doubt about its authenticity. When I was first pregnant I thought I was sick too.

Those who unfortunately fall for the abortion lies will see eventually that they were deceived. When does life start? When a drunk driver kills a pregnant woman he is tried for two lives lost, not one. Most of the women who get abortions are acting out of fear. We have all acted foolishly out of fear.

[sueezee]

sunk: When I was first pregnant I thought I was sick too. Feeling "sick" is one thing....thinking you have an "infection" is another.

sunk:Most of the women who get abortions are acting out of fear Yes, the fear of having a child they don't want.

sunk: kills a pregnant woman he is tried for two lives lost The U V V A has NOTHING to do with fetal life. Its about the womans right to choose, that was taken away from her.

[luvlylp1985]

who are you to judge what she thought was wrong with her??? with my first child i thought i had the flu!!! it wasnt until my mother told me that i was probaly pregnant that i went to the dr. and found out i was pregnant and with my last pregnancy i thought it was a uti causing my frequent urination and i had already given birth to two children, pregnancy isnt always someones first thought when they are having symptoms. Abortion is murder, God said, "Thou Shall Not Kill" for a reason.

[sueezee]

luv:Abortion is murder You're not only ignorant and selfish, you're a LIAR. Abortion is not murder. Take some pride in yourself & the things you say.

[sueezee]

luv:Abortion is murder, God said, "Thou Shall Not Kill" for a reason. he didnt say dont kill embryos. You;re a liar in the name of God. Polish up your pitchfork & get ready!

[krissy4nik]

She actually did and the condom broke (from what I recall). You really need to rethink the whole forced sterilization thing. You do know the government sterilized jews in nazi germany right ? If youre pro-life you know that those people will never be able to recreate life if theyre sterile right? Many ppl who's have abortions go on to become parents WHEN THEYRE READY.

[Hudsucker94]

you mean someone actually fucked her? Yeesh!!!

[KatyKane]

I'm sad for Monica. I wish the father of the baby had stepped up and taken responsibility. If he had, maybe she would not have face such a dark decision alone. I pray or Monica and for her baby who is now known only to the Lord.

[orvgg]

I want to get pregnant just so that I can have an abortion!

[ExhaleisProVoice]

It is normal for people to hold a wide range of values about abortion. And, when we pass judgment on Monica's experience, it neglects one value that we share: respect for others. While that value may be interpreted differently by each of us, we can still practice kindness and compassion towards Monica and her bravery for sharing her story -knowing that she might face judgment from people she would never meet but could provide comfort to other women who feel alone in their experiences..

[dso1971]

"While that value may be interpreted differently by each of us, we can still practice kindness and compassion towards Monica and her bravery for sharing her story"

Well said and what a beautiful sentiment.

[XxxxExclusivexxxX]

how do you sleep at night knowing that you killed a little baby that did nothing wrong.

[KTxtonguextied]

krissy4nik made the excellent point that it honestly wasn't a baby. It was a cluster of cells. Yes, those cells were active, but they weren't yet a living breathing child. You act as if she crept into someone's house in the middle of the night a shot an infant to death, which is very shameful of you.

[watchbritshrink]

No other options????? hmmmm,,

[fleischpudding]

you had an abortion monica? good for you!

[climberchick13]

trommelbiel you are such a douche bag she does not need to be prayed for you know why because it wont do shit. she was being safe and using protection and she got fucked over. get over your fucking self and go die a fucking virgin. commit this crime its SEX its NATURAL. you think your doing the right thing by telling other people how to live their lives. well. your not. ughh get over yourself. good job monica =].

[Hoolagon9]

Typical liberal potty mouth...nice. Why don't you try getting over yourself? These women use abortion as "birth control" and they know they're doing the wrong thing but are too selfish to think about the human life God created UPON CONCEPTION, NOT UPON BIRTH!!! Hey, trommelbiel...I'll pray for Monica, too! By the way..."climbercheck13", I'm a woman, love sex and yes, it is natural. What is NOT natural is killing an innocent life so you can go on with yours.

[BigOldScout]

Well said Hoolagon9.

[krissy4nik]

I strongly disagree with your statement that life begins at conception especially considering many fertile eggs dont attach to the uterine walls and often fertile eggs are lost in the mentral cycle. If they were little people some women would be having a funeral every 28 days.

[thatsjustsilly84]

In reality, the average woman has many MANY miscarriages in her life and doesn't even realize several of them. That doesn't mean it wasn't a life. As far as I'm concerned, God made that child at the moment the egg was fertilized. This woman is using this as a means of birth control. "oops got another baby, time for another murder." She even said she wanted to do it before she got attached to the baby. not the "fetus" or "fertilized egg." She wanted to rip the bandaid off quickly right?

[KTxtonguextied]

you know, "typical liberal potty mouth' makes you just as bad as "us potty mouthed liberals".

[trommelbiel]

courageous Video to acknowledge before God and man that you have killed your own flesh in order to complete education. Unfortunately God would never accept such an excuse. Being a sinner like yourself I still think I need to warn you not to ever commit this crime again. If you love sex then you need to love the child. If you hate the child then stop sleeping with men. There is always a better option for those who believe in God. I will pray for you today.

[krissy4nik]

Please stop pretending to be God's mouthpiece you aren't if God has a problem with her God will handle it. God doesnt need a secretary to relay messages. Abortion isnt something she went into lightly or something she did because she hates her child both pregnancy and abortion are tough situations so do not make her out to be some monster who hates her child. Reguardless of your opinion of what choices she mad you have no right to make her out to be a "baby hater"

[KTxtonguextied]

Luke6:37 :Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven:

Matthew 6:14 "For if you forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.

Matthew 7:1 "Do not judge so that you will not be judged.

Luke 23:16 "Therefore I will punish Him and release Him."

[obdiane]

She acknowledges that she killed her baby, It was a baby in there, (even when the nurse did not) yet she still aborted/killed her baby. Selfish!

How can people be happy that women are killing their babies(rather they are in the womb or out) it is wrong.

[rockieroadmate666]

hey why don't you keep your opinions to yourself

[obdiane]

I advise you to do the same..Feliz Dia De Accion De Gracias!!!!!!

[rockieroadmate666]

errr your the one trying to tell women what to do with their bodies

[obdiane]

Apparently, she and women like her need some help (emotionally). You seem to need quite a bit of help yourself (mentally). Learn from your parents' mistakes - use birth control!! Keep it moving, half-wit.

[rockieroadmate666]

actually i would use birth control don't assume that because women stand for abortions they are sluts

i'm still a virgin and i plan to keep it that way until i meet somebody that i love

i was just saying that if i ever got pregnant i would have an abortion unless i wanted a child

and my parents didn't make a mistake

my mum and dad only believe on having sex for children but they also say that a women can do what they want with their own body and they stand for abortion

[obdiane]

Lol!! I never said anything about sluts. Good- you are a virgin, you should keep that way. Maybe, if more girls/women thought the way you do (waiting), there would not be a need for murdering unborn babies. If, you are not ready for the responsibility of a baby, or know how to protect yourself from disease or/and unwanted pregnancy you should not have sex. I agree with your mum and dad, (not the abortion part).

[Seacampfl]

If more women decided to stay virgins, then how are you going to get laid?

[krissy4nik]

I absolutely agree i personally would not make the choice to have an abortion (unless is was a result of rape) but i do not believe in robbing people of that choice. Im a christian so i believe Jesus is the savior but it wouldnt be stupid to madate that for everyone just because that belief works for me.

[BigOldScout]

I don't agree with you. As a Christian I believe it is my duty to protect those who are about to die because mommy and daddy made a mistake. I do want to point out I want the schools and politicians to stop wasting time on abstinence or BC. (BC didnt work for her.)They should spend more time teaching, when you have sex, LIFE is created. LIFE has to be protected, regardless of a persons belief.

[krissy4nik]

This is where the argument gets sticky because i am against late term abortions in all cases but if a woman is two weeks pregnant i dont see that as a little human being thats a cluster of cells. So i don't really see that as a person about to die.Alot of the pro-choice signs and such would have you believe its like someone putting a gun to the head of a six month old baby but in reality its something very different. Do you believe life begins at conception?

[BigOldScout]

YES! It is also attached to the uterine wall within 48 hours. Your argument about a fertile egg being lost in the menstrual cycle has nothing to do with it. The fact is, it is around two or three weeks later a family learns of the pregnancy and decide not to let the baby have his or her life. That is not being responsible for your actions. This goes for the father as well as the mother.

[BigOldScout]

I'll add that I am just as responsible for the lives of my children as my wife. If my children grow up to be bad kids, people will say, "What kind of parents did you have?" I tell my son, "If you get a girl pregnant, it is just as much YOUR respnsibility." It is time we start making people accountable for their actions.

[krissy4nik]

That can go both waysis it responsible for the mother and father to bring a child into the world that they cannot support ?I have seen an aborted fetus and not to be graffis but it looks like a smaller version of a raw egg it is not a baby.

[BigOldScout]

Gee, I guess my Mother should have murdered me because she was in college and couldn't support me. Wait, she didn't. She chose adoption. There are other options. IT IS A BABY no matter what it looks like.

[ugeenbenhemmer]

Abortion is what it is . It is the taking of a life. My heart goes out to Monica also because she has gone through something that will be with her for the rest of her life and somebody forgot to tell her that. Abortion is a booming baby trashing business that if done away with except for extreme circumstances would put a lot of people out of a job. ABORT> Planned Parenthood

[ExhaleisProVoice]

There is no question about your feelings and beliefs about abortion. I hear the strength of your convictions and appreciate the compassion you feel for Monica. The best counseling is not about coercion or getting others to act the way you would, instead it is a process designed to help people find their own best answers, even when those answers might be different than your own.

[tonna15]

I have to wonder if you ever thought about adoption. I mean, there are a lot of couples out there that would couldn't have kids that would have loved and cherished yours. Did you just not want to get fat? Do you ever regret it? I mean, like do you ever wonder what your child would have looked like? What their personality would have been? If they could have done something great? I'm not trying to be smart or anything, I'm just curius. Did you think of it as your child or just a thing?

[ExhaleisProVoice]

Abortion brings up so many questions for so many people, including women like Monica, the women who have had them. To find out more about what women like Monica think about and consider is by letting them tell their own story in their own words, instead of making judgments. Its true that we may disagree, but whats most important is that every woman who has had a personal experience with abortion has the chance to share her feelings and experiences freely without fear or judgment.

[KTxtonguextied]

she already said that if she waited too long she would have become too attached to give the baby up.

[kcsorci]

Bravo Monica! I love you for feeling so free to share you story with abortion. We should all be so brave.