Ive had social anxiety my whole life. Im 27. Relationships are not easy for us. I was with my boyfriend for a year and just couldnt meet his grandma. He told me if she didnt approve of me that was that. So obviously you understand I just couldnt meet her. We broke up because of that. We did end up working it out, but because I decided to fake it. Just a warning relationships are work to us kind of people.
I can't even look boys directly in their eyes because of my SAD. If someone looks at me or shows a little bit of interest I get scared and panic and literally run away. I hate it because I really want to be able to interact with people without panicking the entire time.
I just dont know how to be in a relationship. My mum was a single mum and i kinda feel like i just didnt get the training lol. I've been speaking to a guy online for a few weeks and he seems lovely, we started texting today but the though of meeting up with him just sends me into a panic. I hope i have the confidence to do this some day as i really want a family someday and i just hope i dont miss out on it cos of this stupid neurosis i seem to have :( x
heh, ive had this problem all my life... im 19 and only have one friend. i had two but she was my gf and we broke up two days ago because she cheated on me twice. she was my first gf and probably my last because i knew i was right in not opening up to anyone. you are very pretty btw.
Ive been single for 3 and a half years because of social anxiety, fear of heartbreak and not trusting that men interested in me are genuine...It sucks
@MrsPadalecki I know exactly how you feel. Pls. just tell him how you are feeling. Sometimes just letting people know your situation makes it a lot easier because you know they know whats going on, instead of them not knowing and just thinking your crazy lol.
I know the thought of telling someone(let alone a guy) is terrifying but it will make things a lot easier.
If he doesn't understand or even TRY to understand then he isn't worth your time in the first place.
I don't know how it's possible to have social anxiety and be in a relationship. It's hard for me to talk to girls at all. I've never been in a relationship.
@mavs2147 - Maybe try talking to them online first. Tell them your situation and you will eventually find a girl whos caring. i know the thought of telling people sounds stupid but it actually helps ALOT. Yes some people wont understand nor TRY to understand. But who cares about those people anyways. =]
I'm 17, i have the social anxiaty disorder. I've had one girlfriend. she was the first girl I ever kissed, it was right on my bed actually :'(. I kinda discovered her by accident, at a school dance. She was haveing trouble with another guy, and i asked, "wtf is wrong with you" and we fell in love right after that. We broke up mabby 4 months ago. (It was a short relationship) But yeah, I still love her. Always will most likely. Social anxiaty sucks.
@FavyMetal agreed. I want to know how ninja does her eyeliner. It's gorrrrgggeooous. But half of it is probably her bone structure. <--- I have social anxiety too. It's overwhelming, but it's good to see other people with the same issue making videos to share with us all. <3
@lolaspecial Thank you! im not too sure how i did my eyeliner in this video. do it different everyday lol. But yes i love seeing people make videos to share and seeing how we arent alone! On that note, im uploading a video right now =]
oh my gosh i have the same kat von d poster thats behind her! But anyway, back to the point...I was in ONE relationship which was a failure because I wasn't comfortable around the guy at all...sometimes it seems i'll never be able to warm up to anyone else other than the ones i already have...sigh...
@katluv44 Yeah same here, I been with one girl. (I'm 17) To me, she seemed like the world. I made a few stupid mistake for which, I kinda blame my anxiaty for. I met her friends and kinda wanted to make my self look like the "big guy" and yeah. We lasted for 3 months. In the end, I was a "cat nukeing, pill popping phyco" Yeah, it's that fucked up.
I have a weird case of social anxiety. I'm 19 years old guy and I'm above average looking, however I just can't seem to be around other people. I am similar to you though, I do have a girlfriend and I love her very much. Besides her I don't have any friends anymore ( I pushed them away gradually) and I feel that I can't even get along with my family members. I'm afraid I'll somehow ruin my relationship with my GF because I hate going out to places with loads of people and I just want my life bak
@AwarenessCosmic I feel ya man. I'm 18 and I have social anxiety as well. My girlfriend is basically my only friend, because like you social anxiety sort of ruined my friendships. It's been really really hard. there are so many problems, i mean we dont hang out with other people, and because im anxious and depressed we dont do much and now shes depressed and i feel like its my fault and im always worried that i'm ruining her life and that one day shes just gonna finally realize it and leave me.
@uninsomnia89 how about you tell him your have anxiety, sometimes just saying it to someone makes you have less anxiety because you know they know you have it and incase you "act weird" they'll know why.
Me and my boyfriend both suffer from extreme anxiety. So its really nice to have someone who understands what you are going through. It is also a pain in the ass, because neither of us ever want to go anywhere or drive anywhere because one of us is always having a panic attack.
yeah relationships and sa can really suck sometimes, especially if that person your n the relationship with doesn't understand! but i just thought i'd say i think ur really cute!
Hey I'm the same age as you... :] um about relationships I never lasted long because of my social anxiety..I'm wondering how did you get your bf to accept it?
@misssmiley07- He accepted it on his own. Most people who you explain to and tell them how and why your acting the way you are will understand and be understanding about it. Thats why i cant stress enough how important it is to tell "the guy/girl youve been talking to or the friend who really wants to hang out" how your feeling and that you have anxiety.
I also feel im not worthy for love, because I work at a Grocery Store at night at 25 hours a week, High School Education (despite having a 128 I.Q.), No Car, Still Living at home (despite spending very little money (Im very wealthy for my age)). Im 6'4", average weight, Hate drugs & alcohol, Have long blonde hair & have the looks like a young Gregg Allman. I hear Women fall in love with personallity & charm. I can be funny at times, & other times im very quiet & quick tempered.
oh well THIS kind of woman isnt a good choice anyways lol,, dont try to find your love in them you'll get disappointed! I can see that you're are a good guy with good values, you aint no monster for sure!!! I think that a lot of girls would love to have a guy like YOU because there are lots of guys on this world that probably look good but let you fall, cheat on you and stuff like that. No girl wants a guy like that..
And if anyone ever bothers or hates on you its only because they got huge problems their own they cant deal with (why would a happy person take the time to hate on somebody?) Hoping that maybe helped you a little :)
You are human and Im convinced that you actually are a very good and lovable person on the inside. Being shy or not doesnt value you at all!! To me there are no loseres on the planet. This sounds silly, but a thing that really helped me is staying away from hard music like metal and stuff... It really helps to be more positive!!!
I'm a guy with zero confidence, so I'm terrible with girls in romantic situations... I'm terrified of being rejected, or worse, to get across like a jerk, so I basically don't even try to approach girls, which isn't the best way to get into a relationship quite obviously
hello my name is Luis Antonio, I'm Mexican and social phobia, look eh not really gone to diagnose but with all the things you read eh eh seen that the symptoms are exactly the mine when my teacher asks me something in my body class serves me my hands are trembling voice cracks I do not want anyone to see me this is a very ugly but the trouble is they do not eh told my parents and I took it eh treated almost 1 year with this problem I hope we are in touch kisses
i like your eye make up. You have a good bf who understands your social anxiety. I guess instead of hiding it I shoud just tell ppl and maybe that'll explain a lot to why I get wierd sometimes.
YES most definitly dont, the more people know about you the more they wont be shocked if you act a little weird in certain situations. Dont let SA destroy your life. Just be open. i know thats hard lol but if i can do it SO CAN YOU!
i kno, I've never had a bf and I'm 21. It's getting kinda embarrassing. I've had 4 crushes and I should have made them 4 relationships, but I could never attempt to go for it. sigh.
Well if you every do start talking to boys the most important thing to do is tell him you have SA. So if you act a little weird in certain situations he will understand.
I always feel like people will say something mean about that. Like they'll think I'm a freak or call me a liar or just think I'm making an excuse for being lame.
Ive been suffering from Social Anxiety since I was 12. I hung out with the same 5 friends throughout high school but never once had a girlfriend. Im now 23 & am still a virgin. Guys are offen the ones who presue the girls because their a little bit shyer but since Im a guy, It's extra hard to find love. My Social Anxiety is commingled with anger.
i understand, well i am totallly behind you in every way right now, so your not alone in your deccision i think it's great what your trying to do. Very brave and strong ^^
awhhhz i miss childhood too, but i guess we all have to live in the now no matter how hard it can be. well hun you shouldn't let your anxiety get in the way, i mean i know it's harder than just saying it but you should atleast TRY to strive towards ur dreams, and awhhz you should tell your parents they'd probably support you in the long run and maybe even help you out alittle so u can succeed!! =] you never know until u try
awhhhz thats understandable, i know it's so hard and i hate it being this hard, i wish life was simple, and i didn't have these anxiety problems. But getting through school would be such a GREAT accomplishment!!! you and your parents would be so pleased!! and it would be an amazing feeling just knowing you did it and u survived!!!
Yeah i know how you feel, i used to have an amazing friend when i was younger who used to tell kids to shut up and she would protect me but we sort of grew apart the more i distance myself from people..yeah i hate not making friends because of my anxiety, it's like you know you want to..you just....cant? thats good!! get through school ^^ :) okay i'll add u back
That sucks!! i had to quit school, i can't go back to that place, everyone just looked at me and whispered about me, and i would go to the washrooms until the end of the day just to stay out of peoples way. I know how you feel about the not clicking with your friends, it's ruff i hate it. awhhh i hate when people ask that question, and treat you like you don't acctually have feelings and stuff, and i agree.
Yes, i've been trying to get over it for a while but nothing is helping, i'm too afraid to go anywhere with my boyfriend, i can't even go to a theropist, i cry and have panic attacks just being in my backyard..i hate it :(
I have a boyfriend, and we haven't been dating for very long, but i have major trust issues, and i get really scared and nervous, and sometimes i dont know what to do so i freak out D:, but he's very supportive of me and he understands me and he loves me alot, his name is Zane and god he is just my everything literally ^^ we met through a friend also, his friend and i where kind of flirting with each other, and then he added zane to the convo and we started talking..and yeah ^^ it was love :D <3
I've had a boyfriend for almost 4 months And i invite him to places and he comes But i always have to have my best friend with Idk why but i just do And me and him never talk when he gets there I'm really shy And he gets mad when i don't talk I just idk it doesn't feel right without my best friend there But idk how to get over the shyness This doesn't really relate to your video But i kinda just thought id put it out there
I'm 18 and have never had a bf. I've had guys that have been interested in me and I liked them too before but I'd push them away because I'm too scared. I realize that if my SAD continues...I may never have a bf or husband. I'll be alone my whole life. But I'm keeping my head up...hopefully it happens.
I have been with my husband for almost 5 yrs. and so far it's good, he has been by my side since day 1. I feel bad that I can't go places with him like restaurants,his families, and etc...and I pray everyday that I wake up and be normal but reality Im not, I just have to try to make the best of everything. I dont have kids because im afraid I wont be able to take them to school meetings and what not. Being in a realtionship with anxiety is possible but very hard to find a good hearted man
I just actually put the peices together that I have SAD, plz don't mad fun and anyway my boyfriend I guess he realized that I would have trubble talking to people so he would sorta push me to talk and stuff and hes really supportive and we have been together for 7 months. so yeah um hes a great guy and I love him and he understands and helps me and stuff. im not really sure this answered what u wanted im so sorry if it didn't
Hi, my experience with relationships is I never had one... but when I do like someone; I am extremely shy... I just don't think I can handle relationships because I can't have the courage to start up a conversation without thinking I will say something stupid; so it's not like I can handle it:(
I think it's easier for girls because there are guys willing to accept girls who suffer from social anxiety, but it's hard to find girls who would accept guys who have social anxiety.
@Metsada007 I've read that men with SAD are less likely to get married than girls with it. I assume because its the social norm for a guy to approach the girl. I was lucky enough to be in one long term relationship (who unluckily was a promiscuous cunt) but, that was my freshman to sophomore year in high school. Now unfortunately I'm am 20 and haven't had a relationship in 3 years. :/
@Arivol I'm afraid that's true. I'm 34 now and can't even form normal friendly relationships with people, I always avoid people because the anxiety and depression are absolutely unbearable. I've already given up on finding a soulmate. If I was meant to rot alone then there is little I can do, I suppose.
@Metsada007 eh, I know it's nearly impossible to feel positive sometimes, but I've had a little success with medications though I've only tried 3 of the SSRIs so far. Celexa for the first month or so of taking it made me feel great I was talking way more than I used to and I felt like great. After awhile this went away, but I'm sure there are better medicines than this. Nardil is suppose to be the gold standard for social anxiety treatment I'm working on getting it prescribed.
I really don't understand how people with social anxiety manage to get into relationships. I'm almost 33 and have never had a girlfriend. It doesn't even cross my mind to ask some girl out. It's that bad.
well my i was over at my best friends house and her boyfriend came over and he brought his best friend[my boyfriend]
He some how got my number and started calling me all the time asking me out. i kept saying no because i knew i would never see him because of SA and i told him. but he didn't care. so i guess you just have to find someone who can understand you and be patient. i know that hard. i'm still shocked i found someone.
I think it's a little easier for girls to get boyfriends than the other way around, because the guy usually has to make the first move and be assertive, which is a big extra hurdle for any guy with SA.
(I'm not saying that girls have it easy- SA is a terrible affliction for anyone full stop.)
in my earlier years ive dated, sounds a little funny because im not that old.. but we'll all get over this or atleast allow ourselves to grow into who we really are if we keep this positive message rolling.
Man I know EXACTLY how you feel man ive gots a couple chicks intrested in me but my SA is just to bad for me to be in a relationship so I try to ignore them and I know it makes me seem selfish and mean but I just got my shyness to overcome before I even think bout relationships.. but owell im tryin to stay positive =)
I actually did two videos last week about dating and social anxiety, although one was about me back in high school and only one is about my current life. I don't know if you've watched them or not, but if not, then they should answer you're question in regards to me.
Ive had social anxiety my whole life. Im 27. Relationships are not easy for us. I was with my boyfriend for a year and just couldnt meet his grandma. He told me if she didnt approve of me that was that. So obviously you understand I just couldnt meet her. We broke up because of that. We did end up working it out, but because I decided to fake it. Just a warning relationships are work to us kind of people.
shannon2243 6 months ago
LOL you have a boyfriend?! *CLICKS ON ANOTHER VIDEO*
Tirius9393 8 months ago
you say y'all alot, my friend has the same poster as you its a good one
dave24ie 8 months ago
My girlfriend took my confidence with her :p
insanebuzzie 8 months ago
@shygirl4eva1 i'm in the same situation :(
danceisfun43 9 months ago
I can't even look boys directly in their eyes because of my SAD. If someone looks at me or shows a little bit of interest I get scared and panic and literally run away. I hate it because I really want to be able to interact with people without panicking the entire time.
Cool07Star 9 months ago
I just dont know how to be in a relationship. My mum was a single mum and i kinda feel like i just didnt get the training lol. I've been speaking to a guy online for a few weeks and he seems lovely, we started texting today but the though of meeting up with him just sends me into a panic. I hope i have the confidence to do this some day as i really want a family someday and i just hope i dont miss out on it cos of this stupid neurosis i seem to have :( x
lyndzro 9 months ago
heh, ive had this problem all my life... im 19 and only have one friend. i had two but she was my gf and we broke up two days ago because she cheated on me twice. she was my first gf and probably my last because i knew i was right in not opening up to anyone. you are very pretty btw.
RattleheadAnthony 10 months ago
Ive been single for 3 and a half years because of social anxiety, fear of heartbreak and not trusting that men interested in me are genuine...It sucks
gezkah 10 months ago
i find u incrdibly attractive
killerkid123100 1 year ago
@killerkid123100 Why thank you =]
ninajade13 11 months ago
@MrsPadalecki =} your welcome. Let me know how it works out.
Just remember I'm always here if you need to talk.
ninajade13 1 year ago
@MrsPadalecki I know exactly how you feel. Pls. just tell him how you are feeling. Sometimes just letting people know your situation makes it a lot easier because you know they know whats going on, instead of them not knowing and just thinking your crazy lol.
I know the thought of telling someone(let alone a guy) is terrifying but it will make things a lot easier.
If he doesn't understand or even TRY to understand then he isn't worth your time in the first place.
ninajade13 1 year ago
the background noise is giving me the feeling im going to travel back in time or something like that.
besides that, good video.
Sarnarath 1 year ago
@Sarnarath- Thank you =] haha yeah sorry about that! my mac book was on crack.
ninajade13 1 year ago
@Sarnarath LMAO I feel that, too! "Donnie Darko" moment. Creepy.
booboohips 9 months ago
I don't know how it's possible to have social anxiety and be in a relationship. It's hard for me to talk to girls at all. I've never been in a relationship.
mavs2147 1 year ago
@mavs2147 - Maybe try talking to them online first. Tell them your situation and you will eventually find a girl whos caring. i know the thought of telling people sounds stupid but it actually helps ALOT. Yes some people wont understand nor TRY to understand. But who cares about those people anyways. =]
ninajade13 1 year ago
I'm 17, i have the social anxiaty disorder. I've had one girlfriend. she was the first girl I ever kissed, it was right on my bed actually :'(. I kinda discovered her by accident, at a school dance. She was haveing trouble with another guy, and i asked, "wtf is wrong with you" and we fell in love right after that. We broke up mabby 4 months ago. (It was a short relationship) But yeah, I still love her. Always will most likely. Social anxiaty sucks.
MRszwajkowski 1 year ago
@MRszwajkowski - message me pls, i would like to talk to you.
ninajade13 1 year ago
OMG! you are so so beautiful, i like your style, your voice, the way you talk.... bye!!! :)
FavyMetal 1 year ago 6
@FavyMetal- (blushes) thank you =]
ninajade13 1 year ago
@FavyMetal agreed. I want to know how ninja does her eyeliner. It's gorrrrgggeooous. But half of it is probably her bone structure. <--- I have social anxiety too. It's overwhelming, but it's good to see other people with the same issue making videos to share with us all. <3
lolaspecial 1 year ago
@lolaspecial Thank you! im not too sure how i did my eyeliner in this video. do it different everyday lol. But yes i love seeing people make videos to share and seeing how we arent alone! On that note, im uploading a video right now =]
ninajade13 11 months ago
my social anxiety means i cant have boyfriends because my anxiety makes me ill and unhappy :( so i'm happy single for awhile (:
twilightlily1 1 year ago
oh my gosh i have the same kat von d poster thats behind her! But anyway, back to the point...I was in ONE relationship which was a failure because I wasn't comfortable around the guy at all...sometimes it seems i'll never be able to warm up to anyone else other than the ones i already have...sigh...
katluv44 1 year ago
@katluv44 Yeah same here, I been with one girl. (I'm 17) To me, she seemed like the world. I made a few stupid mistake for which, I kinda blame my anxiaty for. I met her friends and kinda wanted to make my self look like the "big guy" and yeah. We lasted for 3 months. In the end, I was a "cat nukeing, pill popping phyco" Yeah, it's that fucked up.
MRszwajkowski 1 year ago
Meh,nobody wants me anyway.
jtlorussell3 1 year ago
@jtlorussell3 - Why do you think that?
ninajade13 1 year ago
i fuckede mine up with the best girl ever you have to go to group meetings to get social anxiety kicked my ass
c0ntender1 1 year ago
I have a weird case of social anxiety. I'm 19 years old guy and I'm above average looking, however I just can't seem to be around other people. I am similar to you though, I do have a girlfriend and I love her very much. Besides her I don't have any friends anymore ( I pushed them away gradually) and I feel that I can't even get along with my family members. I'm afraid I'll somehow ruin my relationship with my GF because I hate going out to places with loads of people and I just want my life bak
AwarenessCosmic 1 year ago
@AwarenessCosmic I feel ya man. I'm 18 and I have social anxiety as well. My girlfriend is basically my only friend, because like you social anxiety sort of ruined my friendships. It's been really really hard. there are so many problems, i mean we dont hang out with other people, and because im anxious and depressed we dont do much and now shes depressed and i feel like its my fault and im always worried that i'm ruining her life and that one day shes just gonna finally realize it and leave me.
crayyawn 1 year ago
I keep rejecting the guy that I like because it gives me a lot of anxiety just to think of how it would be to go out with him
uninsomnia89 1 year ago 2
@uninsomnia89 how about you tell him your have anxiety, sometimes just saying it to someone makes you have less anxiety because you know they know you have it and incase you "act weird" they'll know why.
ninajade13 1 year ago
Me and my boyfriend both suffer from extreme anxiety. So its really nice to have someone who understands what you are going through. It is also a pain in the ass, because neither of us ever want to go anywhere or drive anywhere because one of us is always having a panic attack.
partyongarth 1 year ago
yeah relationships and sa can really suck sometimes, especially if that person your n the relationship with doesn't understand! but i just thought i'd say i think ur really cute!
jonathansherwood2323 1 year ago
i was dating this girl for about 3 weeks, i didnt make the effort to see her and do stuff with her cause of my anxiety..this sucks.
Hixlol 1 year ago
Social anxiety really sucks! Im a handsome nice guy its just hard to get a girl to like some one as boring or wierd as me lol!
chuysterjml 1 year ago
Hey I'm the same age as you... :] um about relationships I never lasted long because of my social anxiety..I'm wondering how did you get your bf to accept it?
misssmiley07 2 years ago
@misssmiley07- He accepted it on his own. Most people who you explain to and tell them how and why your acting the way you are will understand and be understanding about it. Thats why i cant stress enough how important it is to tell "the guy/girl youve been talking to or the friend who really wants to hang out" how your feeling and that you have anxiety.
ninajade13 1 year ago
im 18, i turn 19 march 13th =]
ninajade13 2 years ago
@ninajade13
I also feel im not worthy for love, because I work at a Grocery Store at night at 25 hours a week, High School Education (despite having a 128 I.Q.), No Car, Still Living at home (despite spending very little money (Im very wealthy for my age)). Im 6'4", average weight, Hate drugs & alcohol, Have long blonde hair & have the looks like a young Gregg Allman. I hear Women fall in love with personallity & charm. I can be funny at times, & other times im very quiet & quick tempered.
HBKanedge818 1 year ago
Loads of girls would love to have a caring boyfriend like you, I'm So sure, I can say that cause I am a girl!
nebenanx 2 years ago
oh well THIS kind of woman isnt a good choice anyways lol,, dont try to find your love in them you'll get disappointed! I can see that you're are a good guy with good values, you aint no monster for sure!!! I think that a lot of girls would love to have a guy like YOU because there are lots of guys on this world that probably look good but let you fall, cheat on you and stuff like that. No girl wants a guy like that..
nebenanx 2 years ago
And if anyone ever bothers or hates on you its only because they got huge problems their own they cant deal with (why would a happy person take the time to hate on somebody?) Hoping that maybe helped you a little :)
nebenanx 2 years ago
You are human and Im convinced that you actually are a very good and lovable person on the inside. Being shy or not doesnt value you at all!! To me there are no loseres on the planet. This sounds silly, but a thing that really helped me is staying away from hard music like metal and stuff... It really helps to be more positive!!!
nebenanx 2 years ago
I'm a guy with zero confidence, so I'm terrible with girls in romantic situations... I'm terrified of being rejected, or worse, to get across like a jerk, so I basically don't even try to approach girls, which isn't the best way to get into a relationship quite obviously
mollutje 2 years ago
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hello my name is Luis Antonio, I'm Mexican and social phobia, look eh not really gone to diagnose but with all the things you read eh eh seen that the symptoms are exactly the mine when my teacher asks me something in my body class serves me my hands are trembling voice cracks I do not want anyone to see me this is a very ugly but the trouble is they do not eh told my parents and I took it eh treated almost 1 year with this problem I hope we are in touch kisses
djdrumming 2 years ago
i like your eye make up. You have a good bf who understands your social anxiety. I guess instead of hiding it I shoud just tell ppl and maybe that'll explain a lot to why I get wierd sometimes.
bigbitchification 2 years ago
lol thanks =]
YES most definitly dont, the more people know about you the more they wont be shocked if you act a little weird in certain situations. Dont let SA destroy your life. Just be open. i know thats hard lol but if i can do it SO CAN YOU!
ninajade13 2 years ago
Relationships sucks for me.
I've never been in one.
I don't talk to guys, like at all.
Nieccie 2 years ago 21
i kno, I've never had a bf and I'm 21. It's getting kinda embarrassing. I've had 4 crushes and I should have made them 4 relationships, but I could never attempt to go for it. sigh.
bigbitchification 2 years ago
damn,im really sorry =/
i have social anxiety and its ruining my teenage life.
16 years old and still trying to get love =''[
well i hope a guy will fall for you,people with disorders like these are very interesting to me,they just wanna make u get to know more that person
posc323 2 years ago
Well if you every do start talking to boys the most important thing to do is tell him you have SA. So if you act a little weird in certain situations he will understand.
ninajade13 2 years ago
I always feel like people will say something mean about that. Like they'll think I'm a freak or call me a liar or just think I'm making an excuse for being lame.
Nieccie 2 years ago
@ninajade13 is it ok to tell them about that?cause im thinkin it mght scared them off...u know,sum guys can be judgemental..
kymgarcia09 1 year ago
@kymgarcia09 yes always tell them, if they run away let them, theirs someone else who will understand and support you!
ninajade13 1 year ago
@ninajade13
Ive been suffering from Social Anxiety since I was 12. I hung out with the same 5 friends throughout high school but never once had a girlfriend. Im now 23 & am still a virgin. Guys are offen the ones who presue the girls because their a little bit shyer but since Im a guy, It's extra hard to find love. My Social Anxiety is commingled with anger.
HBKanedge818 1 year ago
np hun =]
slugpony123 2 years ago
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i understand, well i am totallly behind you in every way right now, so your not alone in your deccision i think it's great what your trying to do. Very brave and strong ^^
slugpony123 2 years ago
Awhhhz xP ^^ sweet.
exactly!!! don't sell yourself short exspecially if you have social anxiety because accomplishments like that are HUGE!!! =]
slugpony123 2 years ago
awhhhz i miss childhood too, but i guess we all have to live in the now no matter how hard it can be. well hun you shouldn't let your anxiety get in the way, i mean i know it's harder than just saying it but you should atleast TRY to strive towards ur dreams, and awhhz you should tell your parents they'd probably support you in the long run and maybe even help you out alittle so u can succeed!! =] you never know until u try
slugpony123 2 years ago
awhhhz thats understandable, i know it's so hard and i hate it being this hard, i wish life was simple, and i didn't have these anxiety problems. But getting through school would be such a GREAT accomplishment!!! you and your parents would be so pleased!! and it would be an amazing feeling just knowing you did it and u survived!!!
and np :)
slugpony123 2 years ago
Yeah i know how you feel, i used to have an amazing friend when i was younger who used to tell kids to shut up and she would protect me but we sort of grew apart the more i distance myself from people..yeah i hate not making friends because of my anxiety, it's like you know you want to..you just....cant? thats good!! get through school ^^ :) okay i'll add u back
slugpony123 2 years ago
That sucks!! i had to quit school, i can't go back to that place, everyone just looked at me and whispered about me, and i would go to the washrooms until the end of the day just to stay out of peoples way. I know how you feel about the not clicking with your friends, it's ruff i hate it. awhhh i hate when people ask that question, and treat you like you don't acctually have feelings and stuff, and i agree.
and awhhhz of course we can be friends =] xXx
slugpony123 2 years ago
Yes, i've been trying to get over it for a while but nothing is helping, i'm too afraid to go anywhere with my boyfriend, i can't even go to a theropist, i cry and have panic attacks just being in my backyard..i hate it :(
slugpony123 2 years ago
I have a boyfriend, and we haven't been dating for very long, but i have major trust issues, and i get really scared and nervous, and sometimes i dont know what to do so i freak out D:, but he's very supportive of me and he understands me and he loves me alot, his name is Zane and god he is just my everything literally ^^ we met through a friend also, his friend and i where kind of flirting with each other, and then he added zane to the convo and we started talking..and yeah ^^ it was love :D <3
slugpony123 2 years ago
Boo61194 2 years ago
I'm 18 and have never had a bf. I've had guys that have been interested in me and I liked them too before but I'd push them away because I'm too scared. I realize that if my SAD continues...I may never have a bf or husband. I'll be alone my whole life. But I'm keeping my head up...hopefully it happens.
MissPinkFever 2 years ago 2
ur story is completely 100% like mine
i am in that situation right now
i am so afraid of being lonely for ever
that is whay i am getting help and hopefully i can live a much happyer life
kisses4u17 2 years ago
I have been with my husband for almost 5 yrs. and so far it's good, he has been by my side since day 1. I feel bad that I can't go places with him like restaurants,his families, and etc...and I pray everyday that I wake up and be normal but reality Im not, I just have to try to make the best of everything. I dont have kids because im afraid I wont be able to take them to school meetings and what not. Being in a realtionship with anxiety is possible but very hard to find a good hearted man
08blanca 2 years ago
I just actually put the peices together that I have SAD, plz don't mad fun and anyway my boyfriend I guess he realized that I would have trubble talking to people so he would sorta push me to talk and stuff and hes really supportive and we have been together for 7 months. so yeah um hes a great guy and I love him and he understands and helps me and stuff. im not really sure this answered what u wanted im so sorry if it didn't
Twihardfan1 2 years ago
Well, that's why I have given up. I can only be myself, so...
Metsada007 2 years ago
Hi, my experience with relationships is I never had one... but when I do like someone; I am extremely shy... I just don't think I can handle relationships because I can't have the courage to start up a conversation without thinking I will say something stupid; so it's not like I can handle it:(
numberr9 2 years ago
I think it's easier for girls because there are guys willing to accept girls who suffer from social anxiety, but it's hard to find girls who would accept guys who have social anxiety.
Metsada007 2 years ago 36
True... the case is cuz guys are usually the more talkative ones and loud? I don't know... but some girls do like shy guys... it depends... but agree
numberr9 2 years ago
@Metsada007 I'm not sure that that is true, not in my case anyway......
christvswarhol 1 year ago
@Metsada007 I've read that men with SAD are less likely to get married than girls with it. I assume because its the social norm for a guy to approach the girl. I was lucky enough to be in one long term relationship (who unluckily was a promiscuous cunt) but, that was my freshman to sophomore year in high school. Now unfortunately I'm am 20 and haven't had a relationship in 3 years. :/
Arivol 1 year ago
@Arivol I'm afraid that's true. I'm 34 now and can't even form normal friendly relationships with people, I always avoid people because the anxiety and depression are absolutely unbearable. I've already given up on finding a soulmate. If I was meant to rot alone then there is little I can do, I suppose.
Metsada007 1 year ago
@Metsada007 eh, I know it's nearly impossible to feel positive sometimes, but I've had a little success with medications though I've only tried 3 of the SSRIs so far. Celexa for the first month or so of taking it made me feel great I was talking way more than I used to and I felt like great. After awhile this went away, but I'm sure there are better medicines than this. Nardil is suppose to be the gold standard for social anxiety treatment I'm working on getting it prescribed.
Arivol 1 year ago
@Metsada007 I know I would. I'd feel more comfortable around a guy who has got similar problems...
Samara124 1 year ago
I really don't understand how people with social anxiety manage to get into relationships. I'm almost 33 and have never had a girlfriend. It doesn't even cross my mind to ask some girl out. It's that bad.
Metsada007 2 years ago 4
well my i was over at my best friends house and her boyfriend came over and he brought his best friend[my boyfriend]
He some how got my number and started calling me all the time asking me out. i kept saying no because i knew i would never see him because of SA and i told him. but he didn't care. so i guess you just have to find someone who can understand you and be patient. i know that hard. i'm still shocked i found someone.
ninajade13 2 years ago
I think it's a little easier for girls to get boyfriends than the other way around, because the guy usually has to make the first move and be assertive, which is a big extra hurdle for any guy with SA.
(I'm not saying that girls have it easy- SA is a terrible affliction for anyone full stop.)
kinoi8 2 years ago 3
in my earlier years ive dated, sounds a little funny because im not that old.. but we'll all get over this or atleast allow ourselves to grow into who we really are if we keep this positive message rolling.
DGRlubz 2 years ago
Man I know EXACTLY how you feel man ive gots a couple chicks intrested in me but my SA is just to bad for me to be in a relationship so I try to ignore them and I know it makes me seem selfish and mean but I just got my shyness to overcome before I even think bout relationships.. but owell im tryin to stay positive =)
TwiSteDxMeTaLx91 3 years ago 4
I've never been in a relationship.
It's mostly because I'm too scared to commit..and of course my SAD.
kelthanius 3 years ago 4
i use my cam on my mac to record my videos.
It sometimes record the whole thing and then sometimes it wont.
But yeah im talking like i will record a 6 minute video and it will only say a minute or so many seconds. its retarded!
ninajade13 3 years ago
This comment has received too many negative votes show
You are selfish as well.
amanic15 3 years ago
Im selfish?
ninajade13 3 years ago
you know why?
amanic15 3 years ago
ha ok!
ninajade13 3 years ago
I actually did two videos last week about dating and social anxiety, although one was about me back in high school and only one is about my current life. I don't know if you've watched them or not, but if not, then they should answer you're question in regards to me.
NeroMaddox 3 years ago
Yeah i seen half of one of them, and then my computer died.
I'll go check them out.
ninajade13 3 years ago