WEIGHT LOSS: Comments from other people about your weight / weight loss

[onestopseo]

I decided to try the Dr Max Powers Burn after reading a large amount of positive reviews on the websites.

I'm a little over 5 feet tall (pretty short) and I'm also top heavy (big boobs). I just really want to shed 10lbs or more. I'm in the area of 137 and would love to see myself around the low 120s. At my heaviest I've been 152 and at my smallest I've been 131 all within the past 2 years.

[lucidparody]

my family is always making eachother very aware when we not only lose weight but if we gain weight.. i gained some weight and my mom/bro/dad will like come and pinch my body!! and then theyll do the same if ive lost weight. so when other people say that to me, non family, i'm just like "yes, this is true" because I dont like to perpetuate the mentality that losing weight = always good/beautiful/compliment, and gaining weight =ugly/negative thing, im just like "yup :) "

[mjscarousal]

You look great girl.. I LOVE the Afro... I remember when I had mine and I was mad when my mom put a texturizer in it lol ima grow it back out though... nice vid ;)

[2PhatLayDz]

So far I've lost 25 pounds and I've gotten a great response from my family especially the family that lives out of town and haven't seen me on a daily basis. I think that it is harder for co-workers to mention the difference because they don't no how to approach it. I also find that it depends largely on the personality of the person, some people just come right out and say what's on their minds. I enjoy knowing that people can see the difference but in the i don't depend on the validation. (=

[danie142009]

i know, i went from 212 to 181 so thats 30 lbs, and people at the gym have been complimenting me like crazy. and i was shocked because i gained those 30 lbs in like 4 months and i was like, has anyone been noticing how big im getting? lol i guess they did.

[kittybookitty]

@danie142009 Congrats on your success. That must feel amazing.

I can't wait to get to 181-180 lbs. Keep up the good work.

[oclandestin]

If you don't feel you need validation from other people, then why have you posted your weight loss on youtube? If you feel you need to lose weight, it should be for your own self-esteem, not to gain approval or compliments from others. People don't generally compliment slim people on their size, so why compliment someone who is slimming? Commenting on someone's weight is very personal. If someone had an eating disorder and that's how they were losing weight, a compliment might encourage it more.

[kittybookitty]

@oclandestin - i posted my weight loss on youtube for support, not for validation.

try to learn when two things are mutually exclusive. do you even know what that means??? your logic and analogies are so imperfect that responding to them directly would be a joke for me.

take your stupidity elsewhere.

[munozsonia1502]

I know exactly what you mean. I am dealing with the same issues with family members and co-workers. I didn't know how to take it ... sensativity issue, jealousy or shock? Just a handful of people have given me compliments and the people that I least expected compliments from are the ones who gave it. I think it might have to do with not being able to deal with CHANGE? It's perplexing ... wish I had a direct answer for you. But this WON'T change our goals, right!!

[DollyMat]

Like you say i dont need validation but its nice when somebody compliments you, i tend to get them mostly from women, men are shy with it or will say something about my hair or dressm, one even said men like big women... What ive also had is some friends will ask how i do it what pills Alli? As soon as i mention lifestyle change of diet and exercise they dont want to know or think im lying

[kittybookitty]

@DollyMat - Hey Girl! Thanks for subbing and checking out my vids. Yes, people don't want to hear about the hard work. They see you and all of a sudden you're thinner and they want that too, but they don't want the "inconvenience" that comes with slimming down. They want an easy answer, some do.

Keep up the good work, though!

[DeniseNike]

I say it is what it is. Being fat is not MORE attractive, healthy, feminine than being healthy. Healthy=attractive. No one is naturally attracted to an unhealthy person, think about it. Psychologically, we dont want a reminder that we were once unhealthy. I think we get a little sensitive what we are fixing our "Problem".

[tanni81]

I was clocking out of work and one of my manager turn to me and ask me if i was losing weight, and once she said that two other girls stood up and said "yea girl i have notice it too, what are you doing to lose weight?" lol i said yes i am trying to lose some weight and laughed. but now one of my co-worker is coming to me for advice and what she should do. i find this journey to be funny because i never thought i would be the girl that people and friends would ask me about weight loss advice.

[SimplyJuelz]

When I get compliments about my weightloss it makes me blush lol, makes me know im actually doing something right! but I mean if nobody says anything o well at least i know for myself..i can tell when im loosing weight just by looking in the mirror and tryn something one size smaller and finding out that it fits!

[sophia7840]

With me, the people around me were so use to seeing chunky, that when I started losing the weight, they would say, I look like I'm on crack. Isn't that crazy? It's like they want me to stay big.

[Naedyn]

Most of my friends are slim/skinny, and there are a bunch of them who are very superficially conscious. I get such comments all the time from them, even if they don't say the negative ones, I know they're thinking it. I appreciate when they say I've lost some weight, but I always keep in mind that they see me as a fat person and not to expect them to load me with compliments. However I do not feel like my weight at all! :P I feel smaller.

[Growsine]

I when people say i girl you loosing that weight... I feel encouraged to continue with my hard work to keep loosing my weight... But all that matters is that you notice...

[livinmybestlife]

I have found that people want say anything to you but they will talk about it amonst themselves. a lot of times you encourage them to start loosing weight but they want say anything to you. By the way you really look great! Can you help a sista out!..lol..luv ya! just found your page today.

[m00nbugg]

I've lost a similar amount of weight in the past year. I've had quite a few comments from women, only a couple from men. I love hearing them even though it makes me feel a bit selfconscious. They motivate me to keep it up. It's been harder going since my weight loss has slowed since December. Great videos... glad to have found your channel :)

[lalalandisoccupado]

That happened to me last month. The person said " wow you're face looks so much smaller, are you losing weight?" I pretty much said "yeeeeeeeea, I am" really awkwardly. lol I don't like attention very much.

[chicagolowe]

Hi, In my case people are scared to say something about the weight loss do to they don't know if you wanted to lose it or your sick, they just don't want to offend us. others notice and smile at you, or like u said compliment hair or makeup,some r just whispering she needed to lose the fat anyway" or she looks so much better or healthier now.or she must be happy or she must have a boyfriend.all those remarks we never hear but we are being watched to see if we complete or fail.I'm 225lbs goal160

[Sunkissedsugar]

I do not know a single person who does not have self or body issue. Sometimes people do not say anything because sometimes it is fear. They are not scared of you but intimidated of your success, so they notice and keep it to themselves or they might tell you between the lines, like your make up looks nice or your clothes look great, where can I get it? People who see you daily cannot really tell. Keep up the good work. You and I are at the same weight so let's encourage each other.

[toriandjen1]

it makes me feel good about myself and want to keep working out

[ZeeFlawz]

Well when I was getting them, It made me feel good and it made me want to keep going..but i do agree with alot of other comments, it WILL take longer for people you are around alot to notice your change.

[thickdreamz87]

i understand what you mean. i recently had a friend tell me i look like iv lost weight. it actually made me feel good. it helped me get motivated to keep going strong and do what it takes to reach my goal. congrats on your weight loss. looking good.

[MovingForward50]

Naturally, we like affirmation esp. about progress in personal goals and esp. about physique. However, I'm presently ambivalent about the topic. My experience has been odd: 1) the days that I'm trying to lose weight - no compliments or barely. 2) When I'm not even trying - I get compliments. I remember occasions where I gained weight, and ppl affirm me. LOL Guess I hide it well. Seriously, I am averse to receiving compliments from colleagues in front of others... I'd rather it just be to me.

[BuenaventuraAvenue]

As far as non-family goes, only two people have said anything and it was because I said something first. At that point I had lost 45 pounds. I was puzzled that no one had said anything but after hearing from them, I conclude that ppl do notice, they just don't want to offend.

[annette61113]

lets be honest...it feels good when you here feedback on your progress. It make sit seem more worth it that your hardwork is working and that others can see the progress.

[MzCfromShoMe]

Yes!!! I do the same thing. I use people who comment to determine how I'm doing. Not as validation but sometimes I can't see what others see. The scale is not a good way to judge. I still have about 50 more to go. I love the compliments they are great motivation but I don't let them consume me because that can be harmful to my progress.

[hardin54]

I agree with bacardidarck that some men do NOT want to make the woman mad when it comes to the subject of weight. So I think most would say "you look nice", however most women have no problem saying "have u lost weight ". regardless of what people say or don't say - your weight .loss is your private joy and satisfaction first and foremost !!! IF someone happens to notice, that gives u an EXTRA pat on the back - not needed but always welcomed !!!!

[candiball]

I think that people are scared to say something because they don't want to say the wrong thing. I think that a lot of people are really sensitive about their self image and this is a very touchy area. When you are trying to lose though it is nice for others to actually notice, I think we all need to learn how to be encouraging without being scared and how to accept compliments without worrying about some kind of hidden meaning. We all need to be comfortable and confidant with our own bodies.

[kittybookitty]

I agree.

[ANuMe1109]

I welcome positive comments about losing weight and try my best to give them out as much as possible. I even emailed a lady once to make sure I wasn't saying it out loud to cause embarrassment. It makes you feel good.

[FindingTee]

Oh they talking!! Maybe not to you, but trust they are. Haters included. They prob got u smoking crack by the summer.LOL

[kittybookitty]

too funny!!! lol as i get into the 100s i'm definitely gonna be on the look out for haters...

[MCoolieM12]

Oh yeah I know what you mean. I just watch your video. People are noticing that im losing weight but others also think I don't need to lose weight cause I don't look like I need to. But in reality I do! 266 is a lot but because of height it don't actually show. So I know what you mean. But really I been losing inches lol. Not fat theres a difference you know?

[kittybookitty]

Yes, I hate when people tell me that I need to stop losing weight. not that many have told me that, but if I tell them my goal weight or how much more i want to lose, their jaws drop and they say, "No, that's too much, Vicki!" That's annoying. I know some of them mean well but some might not.

[Tishy205]

I love when people say that I look like I've lost weight because its proof that progress is happening. I remember a few times where I mentioned to some of my best friends that I was trying to lose weight and they all said that they could see the change and that made me feel really good... but yet they didnt approach me with the topic... duno why

[kittybookitty]

Yeah, it's good to feel like you're making progress. It's like a mini payoff for your hard work. It's confirmation that what you're doing is working...

[mzkwan]

I think that depends on the personality of the person losing weight. If a person is kinda "shy" acting and don't seem to want any attention they will get just that no attention even when they start to lose weight. As for me people are GOING TO KNOW. Another thing we do is we still dress fat even when we lose and no one can see the change in our bodies. I am wearing better fitting clothing. What a difference!I am loving the changes in my body. I gave away my fat clothes not going back!!

[kittybookitty]

Yes, I TOTALLY still dress fat some days... lol. It's so funny that even if our bodies change slowly, our minds are slower to adapt. Even as I get smaller, I hesitate to wear tight clothing because mentally i'm self conscious of my rolls and what not... Another part is that my pants keep getting looser before I know it, and i can't afford to keep buying new ones! lol. so i just wear the ones i have. I think i'll buy new form fitting stuff every 25 lbs or so.... :)

[pomomary]

Hmm, I would actually have to say that I kinda take weight comments in a bad way. Mostly because all I get are,"you need to lose weight", or if I am seen eating healthier foods than its, "what are you trying to get skinny?" and to me the comment always sounds sacrastic. So it seems I cannot win, so I would rather people not say anything. I am trying to learn that its what I think that counts, but thats hard sometimes.

[kittybookitty]

Yeah, everyone's definitely different. I hate that people say mean things like that. they should just keep their mouths shut if they can't be positive. those comments would piss me off.

[kirikoangel]

It angers me because I don't like it when they lie to me and I feel self conscious. They always say it looks like you've lost weight when in fact I've put on weight.

[kittybookitty]

even if you put on a couple of lbs, there still may be a big difference in what you used to look like.

[brezeeez99]

So far all my comment have been good, I've only had one comment from a friend who I hang out with occasionally, but she said "WOW BRE, YOU LOOK SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH BETTER" and I was just thinking to myself that I new I didn't look great but I didn't think I looked that bad, i wasn't mad at her cause she says what ever is on her mind all the time. For the most part I accept all comments as a compliment, because people are noticing and I know I feel good! Keep up the Great work!

[kittybookitty]

Yeah, i pretty much accept all comments. I haven't gotten rude or shocking comments yet, but i'm sure i will. i'll probably get those from haters when i'm looking my best.

[kittybookitty]

That's what i've been thinking lately. That ppl notice but they don't want to say anything or offend me. Or they think it will be embarrassing. Come to think of it, the only people who have said anything to me are the people I mention my weight loss to FIRST. I guess that's proof right there.

[120togo]

I know a lot of people feel weird about telling people they have lost weight. It's like they don't want to call them fat or something.

[bigdiana2012]

I have lost a lot of weight before and you get a lot of comments. But when I gained it back no one said nothing.

[kittybookitty]

They better not had! As far as losing weight, I think a lot of ppl want to be nice when they notice your weight loss. Especially women. Some of them can be envious and not say anything though. lol

[BethinNCblogger]

Since I'm not out in the workforce now, I mostly hear comments from people at church.

Sometimes it feels strange when I hear it a lot because then I think "Wow, I must have really looked bad!" But overall, it does feel nice when others notice.

I have received more comments since I've gotten under 200. Even though I had lost around 60 and got comments -- it wasn't until I broke the 200 mark that I got even more comments. And I'm only at 192.

[kittybookitty]

Wow! Congrats on all your hard work so far! Yeah I think there's a point when you are closer to your goal weight than you are to your starting weight that ppl notice.

Imagine what it's going to be like when you get close to goal... :)

[hoodgyno]

KBK, at work I never comment about a co-workers hair, body etc. We have a no tolerance policy about sexual harassment (even in the mildest form). So that might be why co-workers just don't say anything. Or, they might be afraid that you might be sick.

[kittybookitty]

Yeah that's possible too. I hope they don't think i'm sick though. I don't even expect people to say anything to me, because i know some people don't know WHAT to say, and don't want to cross the line. I'm cool with that. I guess I'm just wondering exactly what weight will I be when the comments come flooding. People who lose weight say they there was a specific point when it seemed like literally everyone noticed/commented.

[mrodgers82]

I was at work last week and one of my coworkers, who is an older lady, came to give me a hug. After she hugged me, she said, "You don't feel as puffy.. are you losing weight?!" I was like wow! She is cool with me so I didnt take offense at all. I said thank you! :) During this weight loss process, I have gotten a few compliments but mostly from female co workers. The only thing that I dont like is when people know you are trying to lose and they watch and critique everything you eat or wont eat.

[kittybookitty]

OMG! I freaking HATE that as well. My brother used to go, "Umm-hmm vicki. I thought you were on a diet?" every time i ate a small piece of something sweet or greasy. I kept having to tell him I'm not on a diet! I just don't eat like this all the time. He stopped, FINALLY! That's why I don't tell people at work or even acquaintances that i'm actively trying to lose weight. those comments would irk the hell out of me.

[drksista81]

Girl you look great and it is definitely noticeable, I think people don't say anything because they don't want to offend you, especially strangers or co-workers. Friend and family members on the other hand should acknowledge it.

[kittybookitty]

yeah that's so true. i forgot to mention that in the video. my grandmother is almost in shock every time she sees me, because she lives out of town, i'm always a few lbs lighter than the last time she saw me...lol. But the people I play tennis with for example, they haven't said anything about my weight change, but i know they notice the fact that I play better than them now when they used to run me all over the court in my heavier days! LOL.

[jennihemp]

im pretty early in my weightloss, but a few of my family members have noticed and gave me compliments. and I use that as motivation to keep on going and making the right food choices alongside with exercising. Ive lost about 15 thus far and to know that someone sees a difference, that puts an extra pep in my step. cuz really right now, i cant really see the difference yet. so yeah.

[kittybookitty]

Congrats on your weight loss girl! keep up the good work.

yes, that's what it is for me. to know that someone notices the changes made by all your hard work. i guess people just have to be careful with their words...

[diggs1976]

First of all, you are so pretty, and second, I have made a video about this very topic........I feel like its not anyones business, and the speculating makes me nervous, part of me appreciates the attention but mostly I get very uncomfortable with people watching me. I like to think I was always beautiful, because its from the inside, and I don't need to be validated through weight loss. I am not a better person being thinner. People mean well, but sometimes, it hurts.

[kittybookitty]

Thank you so much for that nice compliment! Bless you!

Yeah, it definitely depends on who you're dealing with whether they take comments as a compliment or not. I know what you mean. I kind of fear that a person will THINK they're giving me a compliment and they'll really end up talking themselves into a hole and it will become awkward... :) Also, once i have lost, say, over 100 lbs, i'm going to be on the look out for those dreaded backhanded compliments. those hurt.

i'm gonna go see ur vid

[bacardidarck]

From a guy's perspective, a woman's weight is such a touchy subject that I usually just leave the issue alone. If I notice weight loss on a female, I will say something like " oh wow you look nice!" rather than "have you lost weight?"

[kittybookitty]

So even if the person lost lik 100 lbs you don't say anything about her weight even if it's obvious to EVERYBODY? I totally hear you on that though. I kind of got that vibe from my male colleague. I got the feeling he didn't want to be taken the wrong way, etc.

[bacardidarck]

yea well something extreme like 100lbs , yea I wouldn't be afraid to mention it.

[ettisen]

It pushes me forward. I look at it as a reward for all my hard work.